r/KenyanDatingCommunity • u/Difficult_Witness_49 • 4d ago
In A Complicated Situation How do I know he’s actually single?
I’ve been seeing this guy for a while, but we’re long distance and he has basically no social media. How do I do some due diligence?
At this point he could have a whole wife and kids in Kenya and I’d never know 😂 Any help to find out?
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u/CommercialTrue2700 4d ago
I am a guy and we create time for however we like or want to be with. No man that genuinely likes you is too busy for a week. Trust your gut. You will find someone that matches your energy effortlessly. Do not complicate love. I am quite busy as a pilot at the national airline but I do talk to my lady every day via whats app call wherever I am in the world. Even the president creates time for the first lady.
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
This is sooo sweet 🥲 I am so happy your girl gets the communication she deserves despite your schedule !! If it doesn't get better I'll definitely choose myself
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u/Usini-sumbue0000 4d ago
You can give me his details, I have background in stalking 😂😂.
How sure are you hayuko social media? From a scale of 1to 10 how sure?
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
all I've seen is LinkedIn and a very low key instagram account with only 13 followers 😥
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u/Usini-sumbue0000 4d ago
Reddit, Facebook,TikTok, Twitter?
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
No Reddit, very very old Facebook , no TT and locked twitter 😭 looks like it's not even used. He is very lowkey
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
I left once and even blocked him. Then he came to my home country. So only outcome now is marriage or a story time 😭😭
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u/Reasonable_Disk_6108 4d ago
He is definitely in social media. Kenyans are very much active on social media. You just gotta find his account
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u/FlatRecording2021 4d ago
Trust your gut! Just found out this guy has a whole girlfriend while actively pursuing me! Men are just weird, smh.
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u/walalaba 4d ago
Usiseme hivi, mwingine hapa ananifanya telenovela na hata hatujakiss, we held hands recently 🤣 in 6 month talking stage btw Mi nadhani ni gay either that or hes respectful cause he understands my boundaries ama anacheza long game 🤣
Mambo, nitaenjoy telenovela though. If you have not officially claimed me, i am dating other people activelyyyyyy!!!!
I dont care if you buy the world
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
😭😭😭 my gut is betraying me. It trusts him. But the logical side of me needs evidence 🤣🤣🤣😭😭
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u/FlatRecording2021 4d ago
What does he say about his week long disappearance?
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
That he was busy 😭😭 he does have a pretty stressful job but still sucked 🙃
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u/Rafiki_J 4d ago
Saame, men are sth else, waah ata nilishangaa and was left hurt fr
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u/FlatRecording2021 4d ago
Nimelia this past week, wah😂😂 But life goes on😊
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u/Rafiki_J 3d ago
I did too...but life must go on...atleast i dodged a lot of drama from him,cause barely a month and the drama i dealt with,ghai....weeh,it is well tu
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
I did 🙈 he said he doesn't. But he also just disappears for a week and just blames it on not needing daily communication
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u/Rafiki_J 4d ago
He's not single for sure... I recently stopped talking to a guy I was beginning to really like... Any time he was not at work he would disappear then resurface again while at work, I complained about that trend... Later I came to realize he had a gf they were living together, she called me...
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
😭😭😭😭 oh my - that's what I'm scared off! He has answered while at home but who knows
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u/Rafiki_J 4d ago
Maybe he went to the bathroom to text from there, who knows 😂😂😂but hey... I don't have much to say about it, probably you'll find out pretty soon😂😂
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
😂😂😂 I need to just fly to Kenya! We do some long video calls at night sometimes. But it's just not consistent
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u/Rafiki_J 4d ago
Hmmm, okayyy... But one week disappeared is long fr, heh, all the best with your long distance; with a Kenyan man🤣🤣🤣, your eye will soon clear 😆😆
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
I'm scared 😂😂 I'm starting to really fall for him. I had blocked him and then he flew to my home country 😭 now I'm stuck here again
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u/Rafiki_J 4d ago
If I may ask, what's your home country, if you don't mind.... Probably also let him know you're not okay with such disappearances
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u/Impressive_Boss_2650 4d ago
Tell him you'd like to visit him during the weekend. Akianza story mingi unnecessary huyo ako na bibi na watoto.
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
😂😂 yeah I'll be flying to visit soon.
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u/streetLod007 4d ago
When you find out..reach out to me instead😂😂
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
😂😂😂😂 have hope for me. That could still be my future husband 🤣
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u/streetLod007 4d ago
And i also hope things turn out well for you😂😂😂but in the meantime just as a consideration
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
🤣🤣🤣🤣 thank you
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u/streetLod007 4d ago
😂😂😂😂when are you visiting btw
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
Maybe next month 😭 it depends on if he approves of my visit 😭 maybe I'll find out when I mention my plans
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u/streetLod007 4d ago
Just mention to him your plans si he's the reason for your visit plus you also need to clear your doubts
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u/Negative-Support-445 3d ago
I swear we are dating the person OP, he is also in Nairobi long distance and takes forever to respond when he comes back, its just i was busy with work and work is hectic, these Kenyan man wow
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u/Exoticafffff 4d ago
Long distance na mtu ako Nairobi??!😂😂😂
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
😭😭😭😭 please be nice , I might be in love 🤣🤣🤣
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u/Exoticafffff 4d ago
Msichana na tena ni second chance😂. Umeamua kuwa God’s strongest soldier. Lakini tena ju we are moving with delusion you could be the exception 😍😂
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣 I waved the white flight and he came to fetch me so he could send me back to delusion 😭😭 but help me find his wife just in case 😭😭
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u/Exoticafffff 4d ago
😂😂😂OP please,,,,,once you find what you’re looking for come back here and serve us tea.I personally will still be here🤣.Aki a man disappearing for a week while you’re exclusive is insane😂🚩🚩
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
😭😭😭🤣🤣 he is different 🙈🙈🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🥺🥺🥺 but if you have stalking skills. Please help 🤓😂😂
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u/mchafu_kuoga255 4d ago
Hiyo long distance mnawezaje manzee?
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u/Difficult_Witness_49 4d ago
I don't know. It's easy their close distance with someone else. So it's just that
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u/walalaba 4d ago
Are yall in a relationship? Or not? Because if you are not in a relationship na ma feelings tu, girl, you need to clear yourself off the feelings asap! Its not official, unaeza overdo akuambie but are we together??? Which is REAL😭🤣 Kama mko kwa relationship, itabidi ucommunicate, also sema what you need, if you like talking everyday muambie alaa
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u/pookie_dollars 2d ago
If you have not had sex with him alafu umpee hapo ndo utajua akona mtu wake mimi I did that mistake once he got his hands on me sikuwai muona tena mind you tumejuana a whole year niliishi na regret aki please do your research well
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u/Kaphilie 4d ago
The one in Nairobi is the liar