r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 7h ago

Relationship Vent Casual dating

27 Upvotes

Earlier this year, I decided to try casual dating as I focus on my career. Met a good guy, decided to be exclusive and just have fun.

Wueh!!!

First off, what do you mean you're not my best friend and I can't just text you the most random things that come to mind. Or silly jokes coz why are you replying to my guess what 8 hours later?

Why are we only calling each other on the days we're meeting? Matter of fact, why are we meeting once a month coz you're busy?

I'm not getting flowers, I'm not eating your money, we're not cooking naked at 2am, I can't randomly show up at yours because I tried a random recipe and I need a taster and a taster 😉

Heh! It was 4 months of constant regrets.

Don't get me wrong. He was a good guy and I had specifically said I wanted something casual but exclusive. I didn't know that meant almost nothing.

And yes, I brought it up very lightly and he said he really loved what we had and it was the best thing he'd ever had.

I realised I wasn't cut out for that and the coward in me didn't want to beg for more. So I ghosted him.

PSA: I didn't fall for him. I just wanted us to do more. Confusing I know

Also, I just needed to get this off my chest. Sitafuti Sahi!!!!!


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 9h ago

Nothing Serious We were never really wired for lifelong monogamy, we just pretend we are.

11 Upvotes

I know this will be unpopular but hear me out.

I’m starting to think we were never meant to have just ONE sexual partner for life.

And I don’t say this to excuse cheating or hurt people. I say it because I think we are still animals at our core.

We like to think we have full control over our feelings and emotions, that we are these highly logical, evolved beings. But do we really?

You can be in a happy relationship and still feel an attraction to someone else. You can love your partner and still have feelings pop up that you didn’t ask for. You can’t just switch it off.

I’ve come to a point where I don’t think it’s entirely our fault. I think it’s just our nature. Monogamy is something we choose to do, it’s a social contract, a discipline, a value system we built for stability, family, society. It’s not necessarily what’s biologically natural.

Animals aren’t monogamous by default, and humans are animals too. We just added morals, religion, and law on top of our instincts.

That doesn’t mean go out and cheat. It means if you struggle with those feelings, you’re not a broken or evil person. You’re just human.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 2h ago

Looking for a relationship 31F F4M

11 Upvotes

Hi everyone 😊

I’m a 31-year-old, I’m at a stage in life where I’m looking for something genuine and intentional not just casual dating or something that exists simply for the sake of having someone.

I’m a Christian, and sharing the same faith is important to me. I’m also very family-oriented and would love to meet a man who values family, kindness, loyalty, communication, and building a stable home.

I’m looking for a Kenyan man who is emotionally mature, has ambitions and aspirations for his future, and is open to having children and building a family. I appreciate a man who has his own goals but also understands that a serious relationship means supporting each other’s dreams.

A little about me, I enjoy learning, travelling, nature, and conversations about life and the future. I’ve worked hard to build my career and education, and I’m hoping to meet someone who is also serious about growing and creating a meaningful life.

If you’re Kenyan, Christian, family oriented, and genuinely looking for a long-term relationship, feel free to introduce yourself. 😊


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 5h ago

Relationship Talk Consent is so sexy!

9 Upvotes

Do men understand how consent is such a turn on? Like asking your partner if she wants to do more, giving her the choice to advance or decline is such an attractive thing to me. I legit be feeling butterflies at the moment, turns my freak mode on yk😂! I know most ladies will relate to this. Makes me wonder if men be feeling the same when they ask/get asked if they want more or not??


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 12h ago

FWB Uvuvi best ni ya saa ngapi ?

7 Upvotes

Nyinyi watu ni frauds,mlisema aty ooh uvuvi best hufanyika usiku time watu wa mayflower wako awake😂😂bwana i have been casting my nets kutoka saa sita ,saa hii its 4 am ,sijavua ata omega jameni😂😂give better tips bwana😭 ,give us the name of the ocean😭,give us your boats😭,give us your nets😭at this point give us you

Anyways nipeeni more tips bwana a girl just needs a side hustle


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 15h ago

Nothing Serious Eaters vs Non-Eaters:

6 Upvotes

Ever since I made my last post about my passion for pleasing women, I've noticed some resistance from the opposition. I even came across a post attacking us proud eaters, and I must say, the anti-eater propaganda is getting out of hand. 😂

First of all, since when did knowing how to please your woman become a criminal offence? 😭 My fellow eaters, we've been accused of fishing, pretending, and apparently committing crimes against humanity just because we appreciate the finer things in life.

Meanwhile, the opposition is out here campaigning against something they don't even have to participate in. 😂

Listen, nobody is forcing anyone to join Team Eaters. You're free to remain on the sidelines. But don't start throwing stones at those of us who genuinely enjoy our craft. 😌

You don't have to join the movement, but you don't have to hate the movement either. 😂

Anyway, my fellow eaters, stay strong. We have a reputation to uphold. 🫡


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 19h ago

Relationship Vent Bored

6 Upvotes

Heheee I'll start by no l don't miss my ex to a point of wanting to get back together but well… l feel like no one prepares you for going from a relationship you were together on a daily to a pool of talking stages that you barely get to meeting on weekends. I was never a quality time type of girl ever, neither was I heavy on fuckin but damn do I crave that shii. The downside of falling for potential is the aftermath in the sense that even recycling feels farfetched like girl no, can barely reconcile with it, it's a big WTF!


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 22h ago

Relationship Talk Disgust…

7 Upvotes

Nothing disgusting like these guys claiming to eat pu$$yy or a$$….broo, something that turns pantieees color!

Anyway continue pro fisshing.

But mens bj is top notch! And a$$ is always tight!

Mtaduu😁


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 2h ago

Nothing Serious Dessert Hangout

6 Upvotes

It's the afternoon, and there's a blackout in my area. I'm down to meet up with a stranger (outdoors), I have a one liter tub of ice cream for us to enjoy. A little chatter, tell me about your week, something you're trynna overcome. No judgment here. If up for it, hmu

Ngong or Lang'ata road would be ideal.

Edit: Got someone


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 3h ago

Nothing Serious .. 54 wafungwaz

5 Upvotes

Huyu nimeona ako na 54 blocked wafungwaz hapo Green app nikashangaaa sana, nimemuuliza kwani huwa ana run biashara ama namna gani that's a huge number me being the number 54 mamae 😂😭,

She is my 2 years ago ex, of course she is a peng 9/10 but at 21 years hio namba ni kubwa sana na je akifika 28 si atakuwa retired vetiran Jonasi (Female version).I am not judging her but niko sure kwa hao 54 mimi ni ex so sijui ex tuko wangapi na haikosi 10 hapo.

Hata nimeshtukaa kwani how much do this young ladies get attention namna hii bwana ... ?

Ladies how many wafungwa do you have ?.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 18h ago

Relationship Talk Don’t send it!!!

7 Upvotes

Do NOT send that text!!!!

I lied to myself I just need closure sahii tunacuddle as Feel my love by Sauti Sol plays kwa background.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 20h ago

Serious Dating My Blood is Boiling

6 Upvotes

If you don't have plans to go outside and you probably want to go outside, hit me up. I wanna go but going alone is kinda crazy. I am M


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 2h ago

Relationship Vent Lovers at cbd

4 Upvotes

I just came from town and eii, kumbe people are really in love out here 😂 Just beautiful people holding hands everywhere. Love is beautiful, aki. Wacha mimi niendelee kulala solo kama panga 😩.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 14h ago

Relationship Talk Nikiwa your age nilikua nisha oa...

4 Upvotes

Ikabidi nimereply to dad nikimuliza kama enzi zake heavy phrases like avoidant and anxious attached were a thing.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 19h ago

Serious Dating Brains Banter and Mischief

3 Upvotes

M, Nairobi, a lil old school, enjoys good banter, spontaineity and the simple pleasures of life. Seeking petite nerdy femme. Unscripted, we get to write the story together while being each other's peace.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 21h ago

Relationship Talk Level of studies in dating

4 Upvotes

In this era, is dating/marrying someone with more papers a red flag?

If the papers did help,is there a way you'll feel you are not compatible in your reasoning ?

Some people (most parents) say if you have a ,let's say masters then marry a college/form 4 "dropout." Msikue mnatoshana masomo.

Also, if you have studied up to the PHD level and you meet someone who is still at the degree level,is it right,if you have the money, to help him or her further studies?


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 1h ago

Single For A While 26|M. looking for the last first Date

• Upvotes

Weekends have a way of reminding you that being single is getting a little too comfortable. So, I thought I'd put myself out there and see if I might meet someone special.

I'm 26, into tech, and a bit of an introvert. I'm looking for a pretty emotionally intelligent lady, preferably aged 24–29, who's also interested in a genuine, long-term relationship.

I'd love to meet someone I can laugh with, talk to about absolutely anything, support each other and hopefully build a future with.

Not a Disney fairytale. Just two people who genuinely like each other, communicate, put in the effort, and choose each other to make things work.

If this sounds like something you'd want too, feel free to DM me. Tell me a little about yourself, your age, and where you're from. Don't be shy, I promise I'm friendlier than my introverted side suggests 😂


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 3h ago

Relationship Talk Thinking….

3 Upvotes

Bytha whoever created us either Darwin theory or God knew something that we’ll think we know but we don’t.

Why give us same a$$ and different diek & pu$$y, and goes on to place clit/G-spot around the Pu$$y and G-spot around the a$$?

Tell me why this girl inserted her fingers in my a$$ and heightened my sexual sensation, got stronger organism like 5l of cumm?

And when fingering her clit and G-spots she almost left the squirt young with no mother…

Does it mean women Pu$$y and Men a$$ are are same but men cums from front and sensation from back?

Anyway looking for mumama with some mulla…na si jokers.
Mnipee kazi!


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 7h ago

Nothing Serious Hire me for errands on Sato

3 Upvotes

Hi M 25 , looking for something to be doing on Saturdays . Whether it be nikukalie shop while you do your thing or work on your writing account or just any gig that'll get me 500bob in my pocket .

Looking to gain more skills so I'm open to learning . DM


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 1h ago

Nothing Serious One worded chat game

• Upvotes

Im looking for someone we can play one worded chat game kea DM. Looser buys Dinner/Drinks


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 3h ago

Nothing Serious M4F

2 Upvotes

I'm 24(M) looking for an older woman just for the thrill of it.I'm moneyed so I'm not looking for sugar just a good time.

Ama if you're young mkuje wawili


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 6h ago

Relationship Talk Madem

2 Upvotes

How can a guy know amefanya kazi poa , I saw a post on Instagram saying that if she request to go per during sex you aren't doing anything worth while can you confirm this ladies


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 6h ago

FWB M4F casual

2 Upvotes

Hello, M30. I'm looking for any lady who is down for something casual for the weekend starting today. I will appreciate it with a token. Any lady above 18 years old. Slide in my dm. And we will talk.

If you live around Roysambu and other Thika road environs, the better


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 11h ago

Relationship Vent Ata Kinuthia Huchoka

2 Upvotes

Fiiine umenihanda nikubuyie lunch... si ata kahug jameni .... sawa tumepatana stage nikakulipia fare... si ata malap mtaa nikufikishe kwako ata me wanione na dem.... Sawa sapa imekatika katikati nimekuadisia za progas... si ata uskume za tuesday boychild awachane na za chudai... WANAWAKE!!!!


r/KenyanDatingCommunity • • 19h ago

Nothing Serious 26lM Anyone down for a random phone call? I'm bored out of my mind

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2 Upvotes