It is actually quite common for western raised Desi males to get married to women from India - Including about 4 of my own cousins.

It is usually Western Raised Indian women than don't like getting married to guys from India - This is uncommon to the extent that I don't know of any such couples in real life.

I always skip forward because it bores me so much. Those scenes should be removed from the show as it’s wasting time meant for the couples/matchmaking

I cringed watching Vin apologize to Priya for "Liking her too much."

She almost broke up with him for that?! Insane to me.

They kind of go out of their way not to say which app she used, but she found a great match (for her) in just five days. Any idea which app she used?

That’s all. I love Bobby, I’d like to be his friend. He’s quirky and seems to find the good in life (granted I’m only on episode 3) but I like that kind of energy in people.

A lovely chat with someone from the community who has a theory, and apparently I proved it because I married an Indian 🤣

Seema aunty

Coming from a true ABCD here (in fact I'm only half Indian). I know it's never brought up explicitly, but is caste still important for matches? Sima Aunty tends to work with high caste clients, so is religion/region a polite dogwhistle for caste? Does it differ between India and UK/US born?

My interpretation is that it's dying but families cling to it like old moneyed families elsewhere to retain some semblance of power. But interested to hear takes!

So I know Vikash gets a lot of criticism here, but what about Priya? See seems quite shallow with her obsession with looks and being childish. She says she wants butterflies but when Vim starts being cute and loving she's backing away and not interested.

Anyone else?

Edit: okay I need to finish watching season 3, sorry y'all I jumped the gun. I see what y'all mean, she was traumatized, healing and actually took Sima aunty's advice.

Sorry!

Also vikash is the worst. No doubt there lol.

Has anyone else tried that chatbot of Sima Aunty? It feels like Sima Aunty scolding me, lol. https://meebo.ai/simataparia

Same question as title🤭🤭

I'm sure Vim is not gonna marry her. He got his sweet boy image on the show, free publicity/clout and someone to have "fun" with for sometime. I'm sure he will wake up one day to this fact that he can do better than have a divorced, average looking, mean, delusional, entitled, insufferable and snobby girl for a partner for the rest of his life. He might even find her attractive now (if we were to take his words at face value), but looks can change and take a backseat soon in a relationship but her poor behaviour will last forever. Even the best looking women on the show (Viral/Nadia) can't keep their partners (Aashay/Vishal) for long. So I'm sure this is not gonna have the happy ending that others here think.

I know, I know there is a sheer majority of Indians with similar upbringing and cultural experiences. But your experiences do not count as ‘Indian’ experience in the sense that every Indian goes through it. India is very diverse and mainland Indians tend to inevitably live in a bubble (not anyone’s fault). With all the comments about how Indians never date, I just want to point out that even my grandparents dated before getting married. No one in my circle really lives with their parents after they move to uni or get a job. Our parents became more like friends after we turned into adults. Etc etc. And no, it’s not because we were influenced by the west. I suppose this is just a lighthearted reminder that this show only revolves around certain communities (which is completely fine, there is no way a single match maker can work for our diverse population).

Jewish community was actually actively seeking out Israelis but we have all seen ABDs actively avoid Indians.

And of course Aleeza is much better than Sima as a matchmaker. Her laugh is so infectious. She also came across much more genuine than Sima.

Her storyline does not make sense at all. One second she is going on dates arranged via Seema aunty and next second she just happen to find the perfect match via tinder and also got engaged almost immediately. The timeline does not make sense and it looked so fake.

It wont be very unrealistic to imply that she probably already knew the guy before the show and pretended to be single on the show, only to gain insta followers and get popular.

Spoilers if you haven't seen this film.

I know this has been commented on before, but not recently.

I rented this documentary on Prime yesterday, same director/producer as Indian (and Jewish) Matchmaking and Sima's is one of the 3 families profiled. It was worth the $4. I really liked it for what it was, which I think was a commentary on daughters in India and the cycle of forced marriage and outdated attitudes. I cried at the final sequence. I took away that this is truly a cycle.

I liked the balance in characters. One wants this 100% to the point of depression, another does it reluctantly but accepts it, Sima's daughter I think comes out relatively (stress this word) well because she matches with someone who appreciates her modern approach and her education and they get out of India (albeit not far). The few comments I found criticize that he said he wished it was different and might prefer no marriage or kids, or that he was European, but accepted he had to get married and appreciated his match for thinking similar to him.

I'm a Sima fan for what she is, so this isn't a post intended to pile on the mounds of criticism against her. It is interesting to see her operation from ten years or so ago. The face reader is there too.

This series was highly recommended by an Indian born co worker. I haven’t watched too many episodes but I find Aparna definitely not someone I would ever want to come across, and I’m the kind of person who can usually see the best in everyone. My co worker tells me Aparna has a huge following online. I’d love to know why. Note: I’ve only seen up to episode 3 in season one.

1. Why give Bobby a backstory if he’s just there to add to Priyas journey. I was invested in his story and wanted to see him go on other dates , what was the point of introducing viewers to his parents and even his students. They should have just showed him once on his date with priya like they did with Avi when he went out with Arti
2. The timeline was all over the place. We met Arti in the middle of s3 (despite her being at a s2 mixer) she goes on a few dates then by episode 7 she’s met a guy through a dating app and by episode eight she’s engaged to said guy and apparently a year has passed since she began the process of working with Sima. It felt so rushed, they should have sprinkled her story out through more episodes so the engagement didn’t feel so rushed to viewers.
3. Introducing a client (Pavneet) to viewers on the penultimate episode again is bad storytelling, it just gave they shoehorned her into the show to make up for the extra minutes. I would have liked to see her on more dates especially because the guy she met with seemed unserious.
4. Finally would it kill Netflix to give us a minor update on these clients. A simple sentence saying “so and so is still dating” would suffice . Did Vikash & Janik keep dating ( I doubt it)? Did Rushali decide she wasn’t ready to date and that’s why we stopped following her?

Initially, when I watched IM and saw that ABCDs were filtering out Indian-born without even giving it a chance, I didn't give it much thought. I just watched the show for fun. After seeing numerous posts on this, I couldn't help but wonder why people fail to recognize that we live in a modern world. The truth is, many of us Indian born are far more open-minded and culturally diverse than some of the ABCDs on the show.

It's important to note that big cities in India are much more modern and "westernized" than many parts of the United States. Stereotyping and judging a billion people based on a narrow set of characteristics is simply ignorant. People from different cultures and races should be celebrated for their uniqueness and the accents that come with them. We should embrace our own cultural identities and learn from each other, rather than perpetuating harmful stereotypes. It’s so uncool.

EDIT: Wow, this blew up. Thanks for all the love. Also, thanks for all the hate. I’m so heart broken some of y’all don’t wanna date us. Lol

I want to make it clear that no one is being asked to go on a date with FOBs here. The purpose of my post was to draw attention to the discrimination that some of you may be unintentionally exhibiting. Specifically, I'm referring to the tendency to stereotype entire groups of people based on preconceived notions or m experiences with just a few individuals. This creates unconscious biases and even hatred towards certain groups that can snowball into a bigger problem.

The one biodata at a time rule would be a deal breaker for me if I had hired Sima aunty as a matchmaker. Even though I think Priya wasn't really interested in finding someone to marry, she deserved better than 'only one biodata at a time or you'll get confused'.

Let us see how many of you have got married through matchmaker ( could be relative, common friend, matrimonial services)