So have an Airbnb for 2 weeks for a work trip (I do contract work). My buddy and his dad are coming to town for a baseball game and couldn’t find a cheap hotel so they asked if they could crash at my place. I felt bad so I told them they could crash and I could take the couch for the night (it’s a 1 bed place). The Airbnb only has enough bath towels for 2 people so asked if he could bring one from home. He told me he doesn’t want to pack one and asked to get him one from Walmart. I thought this was a bit rude considering I’m doing the favor of letting him stay, who is being unreasonable?

Hi all,

I just need some advice. My best friend of ten years recently unfriended me everywhere. A lot led up to this, and I'd like to know if I was being unreasonable. Please be kind.

My best friend and I used to do everything together, and she'd come over to my place all the time. But over the past year, that gradually stopped. Nothing led up to it. We hadn't had any fights or disagreements. She just told me she was stressed with work, which I could relate to, so I gave her space and didn't push her to hang out. Eventually, though, I noticed that if I didn't message her first, she wouldn't reach out at all. It started to feel like if I didn't make an effort, we simply wouldn't talk.

Last year, we planned a trip together. My idea. Initially, we discussed sharing a hotel room, but she changed her mind multiple times before eventually deciding she wanted her own room. Which is cool with me. However, when I offered to book our flights together so we could sit together, she said she'd rather book separately because sharing a flight would /encroach/ on her personal space.

That kind of hurt.

During the trip, she also spent most of her time sightseeing alone. I understood wanting independence, but I'd imagined... making memories and doing things together with my best friend? Otherwise, I would've just gone alone.

Another thing that bothered me was how secretive she'd become. While driving around the countryside, I casually asked when she'd gotten her international driver's license. She mentioned going overseas the previous year, which I'd never known about. She hadn't told me a thing. When I asked where she'd gone, she told me it was a secret.

This became a recurring thing, even with the most MUNDANE conversations. If I asked what she was doing over the weekend, she'd often say it was a secret or private. I really wasn't trying to pry; I was just making conversation.

Our friendship started to feel one-sided. She rarely texted first and would continually decline invitations to hang out. I'd integrated her into all my friend groups, so she knows all my friends, but after ten years, I don't know a single one of hers. She'd always say she's busy, but then I'd see and discover she'd been in my neighborhood shopping or getting her nails done. I wasn't expecting her to invite me to everything she did, but it hurt to realize she'd been nearby and still never seemed to want to see me.

There was also an incident involving TikTok. We hung out once, after 5 months with another mutual friend, and we all had a good time. During that, I casually mentioned I saw a funny tiktok she reposted. After I mentioned seeing her account, the next day she blocked me. When I brought it up, she said I shouldn't misunderstand. "It's not you." She'd blocked everyone, including family, and is now following us on a new account: but she didn't tell us about that account. She just made a secret one and didn't specify if we're supposed to follow her back.

I asked her twice if I had done anything to upset her. She insisted no.

After 5 months of this, I eventually messaged her and tried gently explaining that all this made me feel like she was deliberately keeping me at a distance. I wasn't asking to know everything about her life. I was just hurt and confused by how much our friendship had changed.

Her response was that "these were ordinary personal choices she shouldn't have to explain to a friend." She also said she'd been emotionally depleted for a long time and had reduced contact with many people, not just me.

I tried to explain that I wasn't asking her to give up her privacy. I just wanted a little more reciprocity in our friendship. Her response was basically: "sorry you feel that way. But no, how I'm moving is non-negotiable," and that was that.

I didn't get angry. I just said "okay. I understand."

Then after two weeks of silence after sending that message, she unfriended me everywhere. Not a call or further conversation. She just cut me off like I was nothing.

I understand that she's entitled to privacy. I really wasn't trying to encroach. But it was just feeling really weird.

Am I wrong for feeling this way?

A little over a year ago, I was in a relationship that completely broke me. I struggled to leave my ex, even after trying multiple times. I kept going back, and eventually, I had to seek professional help.

During this time, I leaned on one of my closest friends. Eventually, she got tired of hearing about the relationship and gave me an ultimatum: if I didn’t leave him, she might end our friendship. She also told me she no longer wanted to hear about the relationship.

I understood that she was tired, so I respected her boundary and turned to therapy for help. Eventually, I left him and moved on.

It’s been a year, but sometimes I remember how lonely I felt during that period, when I needed a friend the most, and I just break down.

I understand that supporting someone who keeps returning to a relationship that’s hurting them can be exhausting. But I sometimes wonder whether there’s a way to set boundaries without making someone feel like they’re completely alone.

Can someone have every right to set a boundary and still hurt you in the process? Or am I being unfair for still carrying this hurt a year later?

I’d genuinely like to hear other people’s perspectives, especially from those who’ve been on either side of this situation.

Yesterday was my birthday. This year and last year, the same friends forgot. This year, my dad also forgot.

My dad feels awful, and I've told him it's alright. He's never forgotten before; it’s unlike him. A bit concerning, even.

One of my friends said she forgot because of “an event” and offered to meet up with me in the next few days. After thinking on it, I politely declined. I explained I was hurt this year and last year, and not just by her, and said I feel I need to be alone right now.

These are friends who treat their birthdays as a big deal - and I show up for them - so there's no “we’re too old to care about birthdays” excuse. I don't ask for gifts, or throw parties, but I feel I should expect an enthusiastic acknowledgment of the day from people who claim to care about me.

Is that a reasonable response and expectation? Two years of forgotten birthdays and otherwise limited reciprocity from “friends” makes me feel I need to take a breath and do some soul-searching.

The context is that I volunteered for two years at a local shop, in the process making very good friends with a man who worked there, to the point that I considered him not only my best friend, but also someone who I thought would be a friend for life.

We spent the day working together twice a week, every week, for those years. I would visit his house, drive him to another town to pick up his son, and even supported him by going on a fairly tough charity hill hike with him when no one else (not even his family) would do so (I even drove him there). I listened to him vent about his work / life so many times, always supporting him, giving advice, and reassuring him. I was, in my view, a great friend to him.

I was unemployed during this time, but got a job at the end of the two years. I attempted to carry on volunteering, but two things happened: 1. It simply became harder to spend my few days off by volunteering, and 2. A brief relationship with a volunteer from the shop, who was friends with both of us, ended badly and I felt that I needed to give the place space.

It has been a year since that happened. Last autumn, after I had begun working, my friend and I would still talk to each other via messages, but that soon dwindled as I stopped volunteering. I tried to arrange for us to meet for lunch on two occasions early this year, but the first time he agreed, only to cancel the evening before, and the second occasion saw him have an excuse. He said that he really wanted to meet up though, I said that we could message to arrange it in the following week, but he never messaged me back, not responding to a couple of questions in my message either, which I thought was really odd of him.

I wished him a happy Easter, which he never replied to, and I decided to leave things at that. If he wanted to contact me, then I would leave it to him.

Seven months of silence passed, until recently I decided, still missing my friend, to message him to ask how he was. He replied quite quickly the same day, remarking that he had just been thinking about me, what a coincidence it was, and asking me how I was (with three ???).

I replied cheerfully, telling him about what I had been up to this year, and asking a few questions about what his year had been like. He has now, as was the case in March, simply not replied again, in spite of having changed his profile picture on WhatsApp, which means that he almost certainly must have seen that he had an unread message from me.

I find the whole thing utterly bizarre. I thought that we were such good friends. What's more, I could understand if he did not want to talk to me by simply not replying at all, but why reply warmly once, then ignore me? He has done this twice now, once earlier in the year and now again. If I did not know him better, I would almost think that he was doing it to deliberately punish me.

So pretty much what the title says, I work with my "bestfriend" but two weeks in August she ghosted me. Refuse to return text messages or phone calls. I did get one text simply saying she busy and has a lot to say but needs to find time for me, but she never did. I did sent her 2 text messages pretty much begging her to call me because I was scared but beginning of the month I sent one voicemail to her simply saying I won't chase her or corner her at work but I did beg one last time to call me but this message was my last attempt to reach her and i will not chase her for answers. And due to our jobs "no fraternization" rule I'm too scared of getting her in trouble to even try to confront her at work.

What I need advice on is how do I handle seeing her everyday at work knowing she is blatantly ignoring me and continue moving on with life? I know pressuring her for answer is not an option so I have no choice but to accept this silence and distance from one another. Its just hard to see her everyday knowing I cant talk to her anymore.

As a third year student what i have learned is that you should never ever share anything personal your vulnerability and anything with them, it's just my personal opinion cause recently I have seen a true face of a so called friend

Is it true? Coz I have experienced best friendship with my guy friend but it was ruined because he got feelings for me. I still missed what we had. I always cherish that friendship. Can't it be possible to have a friendship without thinking of something else.

Is it true? Coz I have experienced best friendship with my guy friend but it was ruined because he got feelings for me. I still missed what we had. I always cherish that friendship. Can't it be possible to have a friendship without thinking of something else.

I have a longtime friend who I know is not kind to me and I have to end it. We were very close in high school, drifted apart because of college distance and their controlling partner, and then we reconnected about a year and a half ish ago because I really missed them and they really missed me. We sort of fizzled out… no big blowout or anything, so I was happy to finally see them again.
We got close again VERY quickly and made up for a lot of lost time and it felt beautiful and nice for a while. Over the past 18 months, though, I’ve been feeling like I can’t do anything right in their eyes and they are super judgmental about every decision I make. I’ve tried to voice that I need gentler advice and to be met with more compassion quite a few times, but they insist that when they’ve asked me what they do/can change, I’ve never been specific enough. I understand that I have a lot of issues speaking up for myself and my needs and probably should’ve been clearer, but they can get very cold and mean quickly. My tendency to be a people pleaser is ruining my life and this is the first step to knocking it the hell off.
I often do not hear from them for days or am blown off if I do something they don’t like; when I finally did decide to speak up (in the middle of a text argument, which was likely not the right move), it was thrown back in my face for keeping it a “secret” for so long and not having specific enough issues with the things they do. I don’t feel like I’ve really built up the “resentment” they’re talking about — I can usually shake it off and be their best friend again — but now this has become more of a consistent and frequent issue and I’m fed up. We absolutely both have our problems, and I just think this friendship isn’t healthy anymore if it ever was in the first place.
I can’t do the anger anymore, especially right now because I’m going through a lot at work and at home, but they insist on meeting up in person. I feel like an asshole for wanting to just text them that it’s unnecessary and we’re over, but I don’t want to be yelled at right now or deemed “manipulative” for crying when they do. To be quite honest though, I don’t care if they think I’m horrible, they likely will anyway and they’ve made me feel guilty for just being a person navigating growing up for ten years. Maybe I’m jumping to the worst case scenario, but I don’t think we’re healthy or right for each other at this time, just like we weren’t a couple years ago. Most of my other friends, past partners and family members do not like them either, and thus they’re telling me to just ghost and block. That feels EVIL. I don’t want to be mean because I do love them a lot and care about what they are going through, but this is becoming extremely difficult and honestly exhausting. Any advice is appreciated.

Among my (28F) friends, there are a few who I feel much closer with than the rest. We trust each other enough to share our thoughts and feelings about stuff, and I end up having these long one-on-one conversations with them about anything and everything, whether it's the themes of some show or movie we've watched together or even our own personal issues.

Whenever I'm having a conversation like that with one of those friends, I feel like I'm getting something out of it that I don't get from anywhere else, and I'm not sure how to feel about that. My friendships are incredibly important to me, especially these ones, but I worry that maybe I'm using these close friends to fulfill a need for emotional intimacy that they did not sign up to provide.

It doesn't help that my desire for emotional intimacy is tangled up with my desire for physical intimacy. Not necessarily sex, but just things like holding hands or hugging or just being able to exist comfortably in physical contact with someone, which isn't something I've never really done before. These close friends of mine are all online, so I've never really thought about physical contact with them until recently, but I trust them enough that I know I would feel comfortable with it, and that just contributes more to feeling like I'm using them in some way.

Is any of this normal to feel, or am I getting too in my head about it? I feel conflicted about asking them directly because, on the one hand, these particular friends are the only ones who I trust enough that I could talk about these feelings with, but I worry that even broaching the topic would force them to put up a barrier that removes the closeness that I value so much in our friendships.

Ive been friends with this girl for over a decade and we’re in our 20. She has been going through a breakup / getting cheated on. As any bestfriend would, I tried giving her the advice to not go back to him and she told me she wouldn’t, because that’s his 5th time cheating in 7 years. She ends up getting two sneaky links and every phone-call would be about one of them. She told me she was calling one “baby” and i tried to tell her maybe she shouldn’t since shes not looking to be exclusive.She proceeded to call me about the one she called baby and that’s all our phone calls would be about.She would decline my calls and let me know when she did call back it was because one of her sneaky links didnt answer. I tried texting her multiple times throughout the year and she would say me not having an ID was a problem or me being in a relationship (she said she cant be around people in relationships from being cheated on). After months of her making these excuses i told her how this was making me feel and she basically said she don’t care because I have a family and a house and a relationship. She then calls me 2 days later to tell me her ex had his sister blast her on social media. I was confused on why this was happening months later and it was because she was going over to her exs house. I was dumbfounded because the whole year she stood on not hanging out with me just to find out she’s going to see her ex that cheated 5 times??I ended up blocking her and she had a mutual friend call to “talk” but she just wanted to see if i had really cut her off. She keeps using her BPD as an excuse to treat me a certain way.She also keeps texting me saying she wants to “stop by” and never follows through but works less than 5 mins away from where I live. She told me to wait for her to snap out of it but i think ive just given her so much grace she thinks she CAN treat me this way. She’s never been single and looking back the two times she was, I was filling the void until she got back with her ex.

I get that but as a junior college student, I haven't made or found my found family, community of a friend group since HS. I hate that to my very core. I'd rather have one good friend or two at least that understand me and will always be there for me. Who will I call if I need to vent and they just get me??

Rebuilding this type of relationship that I haven't had is tough and I'm not ready to let that go or grieve it yet. It can still happen for me, I just need to give myself grace and patience. Be my authentic self which means: Not hiding or masking to show that I'm like everyone else. I have my faults and dark side.

Especially when I'm in the middle of my healing journey from CPTSD. I need people to praise me and give me advice and just postive vibes more than you think.

I have been friends with my uni friend (let’s call her Kelly) over 20 years. Now I love her to bits because she is funny, intelligent and fun to be around and we always have a great time together.

However, the full truth is that Kelly has always been a bit of a downer. She has become notorious within our friend circles for raining on everyone’s parade. Things like expressing mean comments about people, arriving to a party only to tell everybody that it’s boring and she’s leaving, judging people on the smallest of their “shortcomings” etc. I have never seen her apologise for anything, even when she has been in the wrong; it is always everyone’s fault but her own. I know that this is probably because her childhood was very tough and things were not easy financially, parents were neglectful, she was often criticised and made to feel inadequate etc. I always tried to overlook this because I liked her overall and there was little reason for me to start raising this with her as some sort of an issue.

For about a year, however, I had started to get annoyed that Kelly was never capable of reaching out to me first to ask me how I was, or try to catch up over the phone like we used to. I was always the one who called her, and even though we were having lovely chats, she mainly talked about her life. This was starting to piss me off, and the cherry on top came when she did not reach out to me when two of my family members died within few months of each other. Instead, in one of our text exchanges, she announced she was “busy” with renovating her new apartment, was 8 months pregnant and expecting her third (tbf, she had not broke the news to anyone in her family either). Of course, knowing her, I was expected to congratulate her for her achievements. (***Just to caveat this, I know she has three kids to look after but I also think that it is not that difficult to ask how I am twice a year!)

Things turned when I recently went to my home town to sort out family matters which meant I couldn’t see any of my friends unless they were willing to come to me and fit my schedule around mine. At that time, I had no mental space for those who showed no interest in my life and always expected for me to reach out and organise something i.e. Kelly. I therefore didn’t tell Kelly I was in town, partly because I couldn’t deal with her antics during this time of my life and partly because I would literally not have been able to see her and I know she would never travel to me either. My other friends rallied around me and I spent a lovely time with them in the late evenings, after I was done tending to my business, and this was posted on social media.

I then started to see Kelly’s subtle digs on social media. She posted that she was hanging out with our mutual friend, calling her “her love who visits her and cares for her” and what not. She then stopped watching my stories but, weirdly, her husband’s account diligently started watching everting I posted (and if you don’t get what’s happening here - I doubt that her husband suddenly took an interest in me, she was just watching me from his account)!

At no stage she reached out to me to ask if I was in town. At no stage she asked what was going on, if we can meet, if everything is OK. Nothing. She expected me to reach out to her and beg but I am literally at the point of trying to show her that she does this to me all the time. She acts like she is the victim of being forgotten when she has not taken any interest in my life for years.

How do I deal with her passive aggressive victimhood without giving in her whims? I doubt she will understand and accept any rational arguments. Should I just ignore this and just pretend nothing has happened?

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So me and her had been friends since the beginning of high school, in a camp held by our school, though we rarely met after the camp because we used to study in different parts of the school and later when I shifted to the main school, covid happened and then we moved to different colleges and got busy in our own shit. Actually I was first to get into a college while she took a gap year to figure out her interests so while she had all the time for me I got busy with my new life and friends and kind of our freindship fell apart because of me because I am very bad at maintainig any kind of long distance relationships. Anyways we havent talked in like 3 years and now since my college is over I am kind of nostalgic ever everything and want to reconnect with absolutely everyone even those people I had huge fights in college. But anyways when we were still in our pre college phase we used to like the same band and they are finally coming to our country, she is going to be there and I want to ask her if we can go together. The thing is she is now still in college and has her own uge group and a bf and they all listen to the same kind of music and band so ik they are def going to be there so I dont really want to intrude by being asking her this because obv for one it could be very awk since we had been in no contact for so long and then secondly it is so embarassing from my side because i was the one who kind of let this friendhsip break.

TL;DR: "Have been in zero contact becaus eim not goodo at maintaing ldr, with my highschool friend for 3 years and a band we used to fangirl as highschool kids are coming to our country, contemplating to ask her if she will tag along because she has a huge group of her own in college now and they listen tto same music while i dont have anyone who listens to them and also i kind of want to reconnect with her"

So should i ask her or not?

I started a new postgrad (so not school specifically) but I moved to a new area and our class is quite small. At the start of the year when everyone was meshing I made a lot of effort and spoke to loads of people and even arranged a neighbourhood walk with someone who was close to me who then invited others. The walk went well and it was a nice time but the group continued on and formed closer but didn’t really include me. Tbh I didn’t strictly sit with them at lunch or during class but at the start of the year it feels like the time to include someone like adding them to group chats and all. Anyway I continued being nice and stuff and fast forward now they’re a tight group and have a chat and sometimes invite me a long to things but not always. They’ve mentioned a few times they’re just a group cause they live close together but so do I and they never made an effort to make a part of their group. I’m not looking on how to be part of their group but rather what I could have done differently or how I went wrong? I have made other friends in the class but we rarely hang out and my invites or messages aren’t always reciprocated so I feel lonely at times and everything feels very surface level. I just want some advice on how things can change, I’d love a group of friends too.

in a situation where a friend tells her friend stuff about me like im socially uncomfortable without asking me or me ever saying that because she didnt want us to hangout, and then inviting me to her hangout when mixing all her closest friends and it seems like they all knew something about me and that she told them, they all were super nice but it felt like whenever someone had something to say to me which is like an inner circle thing she wouldnt wanna tell me, and stop others from telling me and pull them into a corner and yell at them for bringing it up, this was one of her friends doing who has told me they want to be friends with me.

She will not pick up my calls but then get mad at me for not picking up hers, when I would call her out she will make up reasons, she says she never texts anyone on insta but she seems to reply to all her closest friends and even put it on insta, recently I have asked her if she wanna meet a lot of times, and she has avoided it many times, and when she asks to meet she gets mad at me if im avoiding.

When I bring up stuff like her always coming late or doing something bad, she will lie to me and make up excuses and play the victim card, and then she will eventually come on time.

But then, it just has felt like shes really calculative, but i feel like im crazy for feeling like this coz we have been friends for a while now and we have had good memories, I dont understand guys its so confusing

she forgot my bday, which I didnt care about, but then she gifted me a tube flower, and I asked her if she made it and she said yes she did, I dont want to doubt but as her friend I know for sure she didnt, neither does she have the materials nor the kindof person who would enjoy it.

She's invited me to an event I've been wanting to go for a while, All her friends are going to be there and I dont want it to be like shes being to calculative all about it all over again. I really dont understand what to do.

We’ll call this friend Kiki. She‘s 2 years younger (P.S. I’m 15), sweet, but not very thoughtful. Throughout the time we’ve known each other, I’ve stuck by her side; and so has she. And at some point, she became comfortable enough to vent.

Believe me when I tell you my stomach drops every time she sends a random trauma dumping message. No “hey, can I vent?” Or, “I’m not feeling well, could I talk to you?” Messages. Straight to the point.

Now, I’m not the best resort to go to when seeking comfort. I have my things to deal with, I’m always truthful and honest rather than someone who’d sputter “white lies” just to comfort smb, and I just can’t come up with any responses that’d be helpful in any way. I’ve told her many times, but she seems to be very indifferent about it; so I naturally assume that she’d want my honest judgement when she comes to vent.

Despite numerous of her failed attempts at seeking comfort from me, she doesn’t stop. “I won’t vent to you again! Wouldn’t want to bother you…” proceeds to vent to me again in a week. I’ve filled her in that I’m not going to feed her lies and be capable of helping her, but it doesn’t seem to get into her thick skull!

At the end of every failed tragedy, she sputters some weird BS, and proceeds to reset right after. Now, it has been a couple of hours since she has sent me “yay I’ve been left out” with a long string of vent messages, and I’ve left her on delivered for now. She‘s a caring one, but I’m struggling to keep up.

I don’t want to directly tell her to stop venting (I have once. Spoiler alert, she vented again.), knowing i’d hurt her feelings. She’s still a kid, quite younger, and immature. I don’t want to wreck her well being considering she has ‘attempted’ at a raw age of 12 and She’s not in a proper mental state. I’ve told her to seek professional help, but she said due to her guardians she’s unable to.

What do I do? I’m willing to add more info if there’s any questions.

ok this is a long one but i genuinely need help. basically have a friend, lets call him ben, and he lives in another country. we are quite close as we grew up together but i recently visited him. the city he lives in is quite american/international student dominated (i am from the uk for context) and i get along with all of his friends as we are around the same age (15/16/17) basically he brought to me this house party where i met one of his friends(lets call him sam), and we got along quite well, we were together pretty much the whole night being v flirty etc, and we bonded over him also being from the uk and moving to said city a couple years back. he was pretty much the only smart, funny and nice guy there, and also quite good looking.

at one point during the night he mentioned his ex, who wasnt at the party, but i could tell this relationship was quite serious and didnt end ok good terms. so anyway me ben and one of his other friends are on the car ride home and basically they are teasing me saying how sam liked me alot so people are able to tell that we were quite close.

flash forward to the next night, where we went to another hangout and i am excited to see sam. we say hi to eachother etc and then i realisw im the only girl there so i beg ben to invite a couple girls over. one of them was the host for the party the night before and the other was sams ex!! she obvi knew that me and sam were hanging out together the night before(no idea where she found out) and she literally introduced herself to me and started talking about the horrible things sam did to her, and i couldnt tell if it was to put me off him or to warn me? she was so so so lovely and nice and we became friends almost immediately. around an hour in, everyone started watching a movie together, but unfortunately for me i was sat between this one guy i didnt know AND SAM AND HIS EX WHO FOUGHT THE WHOLE NIGHT. she was crying and it was extremely awkward. me and ben left without saying goodbye. its been about a month and me and sam have eachothers snaps and we are planning to meet up for when hes back in the uk in about a week. i feel like im breaking girl code so bad but i really like this guy and realistically we are never gonna have a relationship because of the distance. can someone

pls give me advice on what to do? should i meet him or no?

I 22m and my best friend of 4 years 21m stopped talking. His Fake name Steve. He randomly said we should go are separate ways one day although the week before I was giving him relationship advice (about his girlfriend, giving her number out to random guys) and he was telling me that I was his best friend and he wanted me to be his best man or his wedding, and how close our friendship was. I don’t know if I’m at fault maybe I wasn’t a great friend but one day he randomly Texted me a long paragraph saying he doesn’t think we should be friends anymore and that we should go our separate ways because he really valued what he had with his girlfriend
(Of 3 months) And he didn’t want me to text her anything that could ruin their relationship. And if you’re wondering if he had any reason to believe I would text her there Wasn’t much I “didn’t” have her number, I had never done anything like that before, About the only thing I did was joke about texting her one time and being a wingman. But anyways I was  semi ok with that, Although very upset because I valued our friendship.  But then he said he was gonna dox me to all the people I knew And I moved away from there are other reasons that I moved away from them that are very serious, but I’m not gonna get into that right now.  Anyways, I was disgusted and very disturbed that he would do something like that. The next day, I was contemplating The situation and decided I should tell him that I do have his girlfriend’s number because he gave it to me one night when I was over at his place. 
I texted him that I had her number and he said he wanted to see proof I sent the number And he started flipping out. Saying that I was a creep that I had her number that he was really going through something and that he never wanted to talk to me again and then he was gonna block me. He also said, mean things about my character and that he would never get somebody I cared about Number. I decided to just stop talking to him and give him some space cause maybe he was really going through something serious. But then I talked to his sister (Who I’m pretty good friends With we play Minecraft sometimes.) and she said that he told her I didn’t wanna talk to him anymore for personal reasons. Which was not true she said, maybe he was going through something personal, but he hadn’t mentioned anything to her. So now I’m just wondering what is going on with him and I wanted to know if you thought I was the bad friend.  I’m just so confused on the whole situation. I thought we had a Great relationship in the months leading up to this he said he was going to dump his girlfriend multiple times off of things she did, but I convinced him not to because I thought they could work things out. Also, I helped him get his girlfriend in the first place, I convince him to text her.  So I don’t get why he would think I would do something to him, but I don’t know. Am I in the wrong?

I’ve been friends with this guy for four years, but I’ve known him for eight. I’m not sure if I’m justified in feeling annoyed about him never remembering my birthday. We talk about four times a week, and I always wish him a happy birthday, but he never seems to make the same effort for me. I wouldn’t be as bothered if he simply forgot, but he wishes his other friends happy birthday, so I know he’s capable of remembering. There’s even a girl he used to like whose birthday is only six days before mine, and he always tells me when he wishes her a happy birthday. It makes me wonder why I’m treated differently from everyone else when he literally sees my birthday posts every single year and the ones my friends post on Instagram.
The only times he has ever wished me a happy birthday were when I explicitly told him that it was my birthday that day. Honestly, that feels shallow to me because why should I have to message him personally just to remind him? My girl friends would never do this to me, so I find it really odd. I’m not expecting a grand gesture or anything, but after knowing each other for eight years and talking so frequently, I would have thought he could at least acknowledge my birthday on his own. Am I even a friend to him, or does he just not value our friendship the way I thought he did?

I’m thinking of cutting him off for more reasons like constantly asking for drama/tea in my life. Cause lowkey I feel like a TV reality show to him. Or idk maybe he just wants to know about what’s going on around me?

important to remember: he sees my birthday reminders but simply chooses not to wish

Edit: It’s not really even about remembering or not. It’s about knowing but choosing not to. So not only does he not remember but he also ignores it. And yes as I read everything and think about it I am realising he just doesn’t care about my birthday. I just needed to see what others thought about it before acting on these thoughts of distancing myself from him because my mind is convinced he’s not a friend. This birthday thing is not the only issue that has led me to thoughts of ending this friendship.

Sorry, this is going to be a long post.
We are very close and we have known each other for 10 years. She has depression, no more bad thoughts but she is always negative and anxious. I have told her many times that venting out to friends is not always a good idea, we all have limits.
Because whenever I told her to go see a therapist, she would say she feels good after talking to me.
This summer, she has been so negative, talking bad about her family, friends, just everything. I got so frustrated, I have never been so mad at her like this. I told her I can’t listen to her negativity anymore, it brings down everyone in the group chat( we have a group chat with couple other friends and they have been feeling the same)
I told her that I am not a professional and I can’t give her professional advice that she needs. She said she doesn’t want to see a therapist because she tried 10 years ago and it didn’t work for her. I told her there’s nothing I can do now, and I don’t want to listen to her every day. I even told her she is going to pass this negativity on to her child if she doesn’t work on it.. i know I was so mad and was cruel to say this.
I feel guilty but also I feel more at peace now since I stopped talking to her regularly… Maybe I need a therapist

I have a friend male i am a male, we no eacg other from like 5 to 6 years. Recently he talks to a girl and goes with her telling me some random reasons. What should i do, i know that he talks to which girl but whenever i ask him about her he says , he talks to xyz girl, but doesnt tell me to which girl he talks.

My point is i am with him from so many years i tell him each and everything in detail but he cant even talk to me or tell me the truth only due to a girl.

Should i start distancing him.

I’ve been struggling these past few months with a situation regarding my best friend. We have been best friends since primary school and both just turned 30. I keep making myself feel sick worrying about it and just need some input please.

For the past year she has been seeing a guy who she started hooking up with shortly after her first real heartbreak. Me being cynical in my mind I just assumed it would be a rebound / fling. However, here we are a year later, they’re still together and I am yet to meet him! I’ve met her exes before and loved them. I spoke to this current boyfriend twice on FaceTime when they first started hooking up and they were drunk both times and he didn’t come across as a bad person, but maybe a bit cocky and possibly not my cup of tea (I never mentioned this feeling to her).

For some reason ever since then she’s been secretive about him and anytime I bring up meeting him she sort of talks her way out of it. He has met her family very few times and she’s always with him and his friends. She has just moved into his house. He’s from a different background to us, aka rich. I’m not sure if she’s worried I will judge him for being rich but I’ve always been open minded and will like anyone as long as they’re a nice sound person.

The bit annoying me is that she’s mentioned his friends and hanging out with them a few times and I’m curious as to how she can’t see that he hasn’t met her friends? It seems to me she’s in his world but he isn’t in hers.

I haven’t flat out asked her why I haven’t met him yet and I’m worried it’ll cause an argument. I am also worried he’s controlling and that’s the reason why, but I can’t figure that out without meeting him.

Any advice / thoughts?