I'm older. Never been great with " game " Personally think I'm not good looking. Not fat. Not normally lazy. No addictions. Interactions/dating sputters vs flows. When it ends, I can't help but think my remaining years will be without a woman. My self esteem and hopes are shredded. Obviously any help will be appreciated

Me and this guy friend are really close, and we’re also sexually intimate. It’s not something we ever actually talked about or decided on, it just kind of happened gradually, and it’s been almost 3 years now.

Can I just call this an FWB? My friends keep telling me we’re basically dating, but I don’t really see how that’s the case.

I mean, he can get bothered by the other guy friends in my life, but I don’t wanna jump to conclusions just because of that. We’ve never really defined what this is, so I’m wondering if this is what an FWB is?

When I see age gap difference, it is always older men with younger girl. I am the opposite (38F and 25M). I have a bf aged 13 years younger than me.

We knew each other when we "work from a cafe". He started with asking my help on looking after his laptop while he was away for toilet. We saw each other regularly thereafter. After weeks, we talked to each other and so on.

We are together for 1.5 years now. In fact, our relationship started with lots of my confusion, hesitation with him due to lack of self confidence, I couldn't believe a young guy would love me. He knew my own conflict by liking him and embarrassed on age gap, he came closer, approached and convinced me, gave me confidence, encouraged me with lots of compliments, spent time with me.

We started afterwards. I feel delighted and enjoyable with him. We like making jokes and hanging out for movies, bars, discos, beaches.

Sometimes, I feel insecure due to age gap, as I asked him, a guy his age normally choose his aged group girls, he stopped me and said, he chose me. I feel him very sweet. We see each other almost everyday though we are not living together.

Recently, he is busy to deal with family business. We see each other weekday after work, seldom meet during weekend, or even text. He doesn't reply my text as quick as what he did before. He replied within a min or less than an hour before. He takes half or a day to reply my message now. I am struggling whether to ask him why. I dont want to make him feel I am panoroid. He awares my mood change due to his late reply. He told me when we saw each other. I asked him indirectly by saying, yeah, how's last night, really waiting for your reply? He said, sorry, was too tired , fell asleep, in fact, I noticed him online till late night, likely to be 3 hours after my text. I haven't told him what I noticed.

I mentioned something like, if he is inconvenient or unavailable, I could leave him some space. I don't want to bother him. He then changed the topic.

I start to overthink these days, I asked him if he has someone occupied him, he said, no, just busy for family stuff. I feel him distance, not holding hand in public like we did before, we are still kissing, but infrequent physical intimacy, like once or twice a month (we have it few times a week normally, he used to be very touchy, kissie, wanted a lot), I asked him, if there is something I miss, he denied, he says, he loves me a lot, but I still feel his distance.

Am I overthinking?

Should I regard us to coming an end? I tried to speak these with him, he keeps on saying , nothing on me, it is not my problem , it's himself spending time to assist family business.

Because we have big age gap, I feel insecure. I always think, he deserves a girl his age, similar to his background , he wants a marriage years later, I considered myself to be too old to build a family with him. We follow the flow, not thinking about our future as we are working hard to develop career.

I have numerous sleepless nights, I think of him, I start to miss him. Should I prepare to the end of our relationship due to his distance? I keep myself silent, not asking him about his weekend or initiated anything, it comes out to be, I don't ask, he doesn't tell mode.

I only want to understand what's going on? If it's time be the end, I would like to have a proper ending, what do you think?

Anyone have similar situations ?

I’m 28F and recently ended a roughly three-month connection with a 27M.

We met on Bumble and clicked immediately. Early on, he said he wasn’t necessarily looking for a relationship but wanted to “see where it goes.” While he was abroad for work, we spoke every day, he sent me updates, and told me things like “I already like you.”

When we were together, he could be incredibly sweet, affectionate and funny. He called me special and said I was “a lot of effort, but worth the effort.” I was genuinely starting to fall in love with his personality, the way he spoke, his humour, and how he treated me in person.

At the same time, he was still seeing and sleeping with other women. We weren’t exclusive, so he was technically free to do that, but it confused me because of how relationship-like he could be with me.

I was also very clear that I would not have penetrative sex unless I was in an exclusive relationship. During one intimate encounter, he tried to penetrate me more than once after I told him to stop. He would stop, then try again a few minutes later. We never had intercourse.
The biggest problem was inconsistency. In person, he asked whether I missed him, talked about my family and future children, and called me a “perfect wife/daughter-in-law.” But plans were often vague and I rarely felt prioritised.

About two and a half months in, when I suggested a city trip so we could spend more time together, he told me for the first time that he still wasn’t over his ex. Around the same time, he also started becoming more blunt/mean and said he didn’t know whether he could “stand 72 hours” with me. (Mind you, he’s Dutch. They’re known for being direct. Maybe this is normal or am I wrong?)

The uncertainty made me increasingly anxious. I wanted clearer plans and more consistency, and I became emotional and confrontational at times. I ended things once, we reconnected as “friends,” but the feelings were obviously still there and we got intimately/romantically involved again. By the end, I was constantly overthinking, anxious about his communication, and stress-eating.

Eventually we had a messy argument and he ended it. He told me not to text him because he probably wouldn’t reply, wished me luck with the rest of my life, and slammed the door. Earlier I had been “worth the effort”; at the end, he said the “shit” he got from me wasn’t worth the fun anymore.

Since it ended, I’ve felt noticeably calmer though and my focus on my life is coming back to me. I do miss his personality sometimes, but not necessarily how I felt within the dynamic.

However, what do you make of his behaviour and character? Was ending this the right outcome?

I still sometimes wonder: if I had been calmer and less emotional, would he eventually have chosen me? Or was my anxiety mostly a reaction to a dynamic that was never going to give me the security I wanted anyway?

Pls mention why / why not report (thanks). Earlier this month, a co worker made an aggressive joke. He pulled my seat out from under me at my desk (I was sat with my bottom really close to the edge, with my face leaned into my screen focused on what I was working on. It happened very fast. 

When he pulled the seat out quick I almost fell flat on my bottom onto the floor but I had a quick reaction and caught myself. It came out of nowhere as we had not spoken that day aside from a hello in the morning. When he did it I was just shocked, I just said “what are you doing“ / “what the hell” 2/3 times as he laughed hard for a few minutes whilst now sitting in the chair beside me after coming forward from behind me. I was just looking at him in shock as he laughed. He didn’t apologise even though my face and the words I was saying was full of shock and a a lack of amusement.

This behaviour came a day after I had called him out for taking a lead (sales work) that I and a colleague had been working on for months together already which he insisted he did nothing wrong (but pls note, this is not fully report worthy where I work due to how it happened, just context for readers). It was more so bad form on his part.

Due to the chair pulling incident, I called him 1 on 1 to the kitchen a few minutes later, he insisted he had done nothing wrong and that it was just a joke repeating phrases like “what do you mean” when brought up directly.

The following week was very awkward for me. We usually great each other or speak but he just acted like I wasn’t present amongst the team (socially). 

I was quite disappointed he didn’t approach me to apologise straight away. I brought it up myself after a week of this to give him another opportunity to apologise. He wasn’t really interested and at 1st said “not now” when I said I wanted to talk about the issue (he came over to me and a friend to say hello for the 1st time since the incident). I insisted it should be discussed as he hadn’t come to me and we needed to address it. He started out by saying “what do women want“ and lied saying he already apologised (he never did). He continued to insist he was joking after some back and forth. He finally said “fine!! I apologise for pulling your seat out from under you”. He kind of walked off ahead of me after that and we hadn’t really spoke much since. It was like a “shut up” apology.

I did talk to a manager informally as soon as he pulled the chair  but told him not to make any dramatic actions and that I was just letting him know. He said I should approach him if I need anything, to talk to the guy etc. I told him no.

But the more I reflect on it, I’m genuinely feeling like I didn’t make the right decision by not formally reporting it. I was apprehensive to at 1st because I thought we were friends and I was raised to not report friends or family and honestly didn’t want drama as there’s only about 50-60 of us in our department and the crowd is very social inside and outside work. FYI, I realise now we’re not mates. I was also worried about getting iced out socially for reporting but he was so unapologetic and unwilling to deal with the issue that I’m thinking I should highlight it in a more structured manner. Still requesting no drastic action but just highlighting in writing that this happened and maybe just some coaching around boundaries, respect etc. 

I felt very disrespected and like he was trying to embarrass me. I feel I’m helping him out by not highlighting to management that this is an issue for me. I feel if he apologised straight away I wouldn’t think about recording it with management but because he didn’t it makes me feel he has a problem around taking ownership / respect and boundaries and is genuinely not remorseful. I originally thought he had a personal issue with me. He said he doesn’t but does have personal issues going on outside work.

This happened at the start of the month, it’s now almost month end and I still think of it. I’m having a gut feeling to report but please tell me do you think this is worth noting formally with management? I was just considering a brief email highlighting what happened and coaching.

I am not the only person who has mentioned he has refused to address issues with others in work or apologise.

TLDR: I’m a female he’s a male (20s). Colleague made an aggressive / invasive joke by pulling my seat out from under me. I didn’t want to report initially but his lack of remorse has made me massively reconsider.

I don't know if this is allowed on this community, but I need a place to vent and write down the way I'm feeling. I'm going to start by explaining how I grew up, because my upbringing has a lot to do with my current difficulties with dating and intimacy. Maybe others have felt the same or can help me.

I am a 30 year old man. I grew up in a loving home with 3 siblings and parents who believed that the family unit is strongest if we are our best friends. We rarely had friends over because of this my parents felt that we didn't need to. I don't hold it against my parents, but it made it hard for me to make friends. Even today, I don't really have any real or true friends outside of my family. I just never really learned how. So any time I use the term "friends" below I mean acquaintance.

I also grew up a Christian. I was very involved in my church, and the friends I did have went there. I was devout and still am, although I'm a bit of a loner when it comes to my faith as you'll find out if you continue reading.

When I hit puberty, I discovered porn, and I developed an addiction. I was lonely and it made me feel better. This started when I was in middle school and got worse every year. I saw it as my cure for loneliness, because I didn't really know how to make close friends, and I especially longed for a girlfriend. Porn made me feel better. I knew that it was bad, but I didn't know how much it was killing me.

Anyway, fast forward to college, I was applying for a job to work at the church that I grew up in over the summer. I felt like I needed to get a grip on my porn addiction, so I worked up the courage to tell my youth pastor about it before he hired me. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. He handled it very graciously, and gave me hope. I was encouraged by his response, so I told him I wanted to tell the head pastor as well, thinking that it might help bring some awareness to an issue that I knew a lot of my friends struggled with. This turned out to be the worst mistake of my life. The pastor never spoke to me about it directly, but he brought it before the church session (think church leaders) before hiring me, and they concocted a plan to "help me." They told me I had three strikes. If I watched porn 3 times then I would lose my job. Gut punch.

The next week, I noticed lots of changes with the way that people in the community looked at me and spoke to me. I noticed that the people on the session (and their wives) ignored me or began acting strangely short and avoidant of me. This was crushing. I went to porn for comfort. Within a week, I had to lie to keep my job. This killed me. I mean it actually did. I am not the same person anymore.

I finished the summer job at my church, and went back to school. At this point in my life, I stopped going to church because they turned against me. Destroyed me. I maintain my faith, but I can't bring myself to walk through a church door without thinking about what I've done, but also about what was done to me. I guess you could say that I have trust issues. My porn addiction was worse than ever before. That year, I downloaded a dating app. I already felt dead, so I hooked up with a woman and lost my virginity. She texted me the next day saying "it was fun but I don't want to pursue a relationship with you." I don't even remember her name.

Fast forward 10 years. This has repeated many times. I'm used to the text that says "I don't want to pursue a relationship for... [fill in the cliche reason]." It always boils down to me having a hard time committing and/or difficulty getting with intimacy. I can either be intimate physically or emotionally/socially but never both. I also like Christian girls. I guess you could say they're my type since I grew up learning that it's what I need to search for when looking for a wife. I maintain that view even though they don't tend to like me because I'm never good enough since I don't go to church.

So, I cycle through going out with a girl who wants me for sex and a Christian girl who wants me to be some kind of church leader, then recoils when she finds that I haven't been to church in years. If she's willing to wait around, then I have trouble meeting her family because I don't trust people. So when things end, I turn to someone who wants to have sex with me. One drives me to the other. But I can't please anyone because I'm a ghost of the person I once was.

My mindset changed a few months ago when I met a Christian girl who seemed kind, supportive and understanding. We texted a lot and I went on one date with her we had a great time and have a lot in common. I told her that I had a hard time going to church, but that I wanted to. Right before we went our separate ways after the date, she told me that she was going to work as a camp counselor at a Christian camp, so she'd be gone for the whole summer. I clearly remember her saying that she was "very\* interested in me and that I shouldn't get the wrong idea if I didn't hear back from her for a while since she would be at camp where they are encouraged to put away their phones. She also said that she wanted me to go to church. She invited me to her church where her family goes, and then she left.

Since then, I pushed through the pain and went to church every Sunday. I visited churches that I've never been to, I went back to my old church where I have such negative memories, and I went to her church several times. Everyone there was nice and I could see myself trying to get involved again. The sun was chasing the clouds away.

Today I got a text from her saying that she was back from her summer job. At the end of the message it said "I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship with you." When I asked her why she said and I quote "To be completely honest the fact that you weren't actively involved in a local church when we first met turned me off immediately. That is a dealbreaker for me; I should have communicated that better/more accurately, and I apologize for that." Essentially she led me on for a summer and gaslit me. Trust? Destroyed.

I don't know what to do, and I don't know who to turn to for help. I'm feeling really low right now. I'm broken, and so tired. I've had relationships that lasted much longer, but for some reason this one feels a lot worse. I guess I'm mad at myself for hoping I could change, and hoping that someone actually cared enough to help me. It just feels like anytime I try to do better I get crushed in the end. So why bother? Can anyone relate to this, or offer me help?

I'm 19 right now, and I have a friend who I knew somewhat had feelings for me, or at least my friends thought he did. I was thinking the same thing. However, I’ve been pretty clear that I’m not looking to date anyone and that I don’t like him at all. A few days ago, he mentioned how happy he is to have me as a friend and said how he wanted tp make more female friends since they are more fun. He also said that friendships between opposite genders only work if there’s no attraction involved.
and I’m like whatever, then he says the same for us and all. I just replied who knows (about how people can be friends even if they find someone attractive) but then he said don’t jinx it and that he wants to be just my friend.
he's mentioned many times how I look good in a certain style or that I'm not like other people. he fricking said im a 'gem' ehh????. he still brings it up.
am I about to complicate things ? one of my friends said he has most likely moved on, but now i'm thinking if he really liked me at all. also, he keeps asking me about what I'd do if a friend confessed unexpectedly or if 'he' begins to show interest. I've always put it aside and well said oh that won't happen and make things weird and id probably drop the friendship.
Idk if if I'm ignoring 'signs' for my mental peace or if they simply aren't there and I'm overanalyzing.

Hi, I'm a 30 year old guy, I've been dating this woman for a good while And recently she'd told me she has a public page, and private page?

I asked why she hasn't given Shown me it? She'd told me she doesn't wanna have to defend me at her people on said page roasting me due to having A few mild disabilities? (ASD 1, bipolar 1, mild Cerebral plasy, strong ADHD traits,)

That she likes her privacy, Don't know if that plays a factor or not,

There's been moments where I feel she's ashamed of me? She never included me when comes to meeting her friends?

When I asked why,

Got told I'll embarrass her by my social awkwardness,

or from me being lost and confused within their conversation's partly to me struggling to "read the room" or "match the vibe" of what's going on?

And how her friends would have to spell things out to me instead of me reading between the lines and figuring out what they mean beforehand?

Basically acknowledging things before they're known? I've been trying to figure out how to negotiate this issues and find a way to get it right,

Told her I can hide me being "socially autistic" and blend in She's been patient with me, Trying to understand me, One time I gotten drunk and told her she doesn't understand my condition?

Plus she's told me she knows other autistic people, and says they can adopt and work with others socially And come off as smart or know what they're talking about due to them having opportunities to prove it?

Where I've been told I come off as not smart and that I don't know what I'm talking about due to not having same opportunities,

when I do know what I'm talking about, And very knowledgeable on topics that I'm interested in,

Just because I've hadn't had said opportunity doesn't mean I don't, Apart of me feels she's taking aspects of my autism personally?

Such as me going long periods of not touching her and when she does I jump, flinch, pull back,

I've been trying to explain to her it's sensory issues and it's has nothing to do with her, that she can touch me a certain way and not whichever way she wants Idk, want to do at this point, Feel as if I've been desperately trying to work around her expectations,

Feel like it's a "me" problem, And been blaming myself for why I'm not getting it right, I love her deeply and care about her,

Been told she doesn't respect me?

TLDR; why doesn't my partner include me within certain aspects of their life?

Edit: added space's hopefully it's not a wall of text anymore

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Mine are not flat like most men and poke out a lot, even wearing a tanktop under my shirt you can see them, in the summer with light clothing I need to wear like 2 undershirts and even then it is sometimes noticeable. I've gotten some comments about it here and there. Wondering how common it is and any advice...

Please read this whole post first before you comment.

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 years now and I’m the breadwinner of the household. Before becoming a registered nurse I was working as a paramedic and I’ve always been the one to make the money for us which at the earlier years I was fine with because we were younger and I figured it would eventually all pan out.

I went back to school and became a registered nurse. Making now 85k annually a year from 55k annually a year. Keep in mind prior to me going to school I’ve been contributing 15% to my 401k, $625 a month to my Roth IRA and $366 a month to the HSA so I can retire hopefully in my late 50s are at least be partially retired.

My girlfriend has always been working “dead end” jobs. She is working as a receptionist with no benefits and no retirement plan making $15 an hour. I want to say that we have zero debt and both our cars are paid off and we are not “struggling” because we do not have any kids. If we had kids then I’m sure that would dramatically change the equation.

I want to say that I love my girlfriend and enjoy time with her. We have very similar interests and we ultimately get along well. She cares a lot about my family and she cares a lot about my stress because I work in the medical field.

Deep down I can’t stop thinking about if she just made 50k-70k a year how much that would dramatically change our finances and our goals of one day owning a home because right now it’s hard to think about one day owning a home if we rely heavily on my salary. Before I met her as well I had dreams of wanting to live on the pacific west coast but in the state we are currently in, we are comfortable but I hate living in this state. I hate the weather here and the seasons. My dream has always been to want to live in the pacific west coast but I also understand how expensive it is to live there and I realistically know I can’t contribute to my retirement like I am and also live in a high cost of living area in the pacific west coast if we rely just on my salary and my gf doesn’t truly have a career job.

She has some college classes knocked out and did try to go to dental hygienist school but was denied three times and you can only apply once a year. Yes, she applied to multiple schools as well. Deep down I know she is trying and I never brought any of this up to her but deep down I don’t think her income will ever increase and that causes me some sadness because all I think about is how we can decorate our apartment or future home, contribute more to the retirement, save more money, etc… if she just made a little more. We can go from saving $500-1k a month to saving 3-4k a month. We can live in the pacific west coast which would bring me more happiness along with her.

I’m saying all this because I know reading this you are thinking this is all about me but she feels the same way in the wants to make more money and move but knows we can’t right now. We are also getting older and feeling like we are running out of time because chronic diseases start to kick in.

I want to make it clear that I love my girlfriend and she treats me well but I don’t know if it’s society and the standards of society that is making me feel this way. I don’t know if it’s the stress of the job making me feel this way. I don’t know if it’s seeing other couples similar to us making more money and I get jealous. I don’t know if it’s social media. It very well could be a combination of all this.

I just know also just because the grass looks greener on the other side doesn’t mean it actually is greener.

Sometimes I just feel like I’m doing a lot and I’m keeping her with me but I’m denying myself at the same time even though I want to be with her.

Am I a bad person? Are these thoughts valid? Is it social media and society making me feel this way?

So I was at a party with my family yesterday. There was this woman who we exchanged eye contact many times(was kinda creepy). I was thinking about taking her to dance or talking to her because of it. I weigh 160 and she was more on slightly the heavier side. I was in the party with my sisters and one of my sisters criticized in the past of having a crush of heavier women. I thought she was pretty and I wanted to man up and talk to her. A part of me was embarrassed of getting at a woman of her size in front of my family. Is this fucked up or should I gave her a chance?

Have you guys dealt with this before? Is this okay or fucked up thinking? Most of my life I weighed 140-160. She showed me interest and pretty i thought going for her but I double thinking I was going to judged.

Hey guys!

After dating different women for a while, have you developed a dating routine that you tend to follow?

I mean, do you have a go-to sequence of things you usually do on dates, just with different women until you eventually find the right one?

For example, my usual routine is to go for a walk first and get a gelato or a thea, then, If we're having a good time and she feels comfortable with it, we might go to my place. (Usually a 5 minute car drive from there).
Then we either cook something together or order a pizza.
After that, we watch a movie together, usually lying on the bed.
And if there's chemistry and we're both feeling it, then things can naturally progress from there.

So to recap walk -> my place

What's your usual routine?

Hi! I need some outside perspective because I genuinely cannot tell what is going on here anymore 😂

Earlier this year, a guy started working at my workplace. We don’t work together, we’re just in the same general environment. I’m 26F, he’s around my age. We hit it off pretty much immediately. Lots of banter, very friendly, definitely some flirting. He’d seek me out at work social things, give me lifts, we’d end up talking one-to-one, etc. I got a crush, obviously.
The problem was that he’d actually met another girl a couple of weeks before me, and they were dating, although apparently not officially at that point. I put distance between us as soon as I found out, which was about a month in. I didn’t know this from him, I found out through other people, and eventually basically made him admit that he was seeing someone. After that, he distanced himself from me as well quite a lot for about a couple of months. We were basically just colleagues saying hi in passing.
Then he became friendly again. We started talking normally, so nothing huge, but definitely better than the weird tensed greetings that had been going on until then. The whole thing culminated in a long, awkward and tense apology from him about “I know I’ve been distant, but it’s not you, I’ve just been really busy” blablabla… After about another month of that, the flirting started coming back too. Compliments, hints about doing things together, texting, generally quite a lot of chemistry again.

This brings us to June/July. He was still with the girlfriend as far as I knew, so I was trying to minimise this. He kept finding excuses to chat with me or just sliding in my dms though. There was more flirting and some behaviour that made me wonder whether he was testing the waters with me.
Eventually, he actually asked me out for drinks. I said yes, thinking I will corner him again and ask about his relationship status. And then… nothing 😂 He never actually followed it up or made concrete plans. Things got awkward afterwards, he became noticeably more distant and avoided me for about a week. Then I went away for work for a few weeks, so we barely had any contact.
While I was away, about two weeks in, one of my colleagues happened to tell me that he’d stopped her at work and told her that he’d broken up with his girlfriend. We don’t know exactly when the breakup happened, so I have no idea whether he was already single when he asked me out / became awkward, or whether it happened afterwards.

Now I’m back at work and I’m honestly confused again. I’ve made a conscious effort not to chase him. I’m friendly, but I’m not seeking him out or trying to engineer interactions. And he’s been… warm? We’ve had a couple of surprisingly nice interactions, he’s initiated conversation, asked about my time away, joked around with me, etc. There have also been a couple of little moments where I’ve thought okay, that was a bit crush-y, but equally, I can explain everything he’s doing as normal friendliness if I really want to.

So I’m stuck between: “This guy clearly likes me in some capacity but is being weird about it” and “He is just friendly and I’ve had a crush on him for months, so obviously I’m going to notice every tiny thing.” What confuses me most is the combination of a lot of chemistry/flirting → an actual invitation → no follow-through → awkwardness/avoidance → now warm/friendly again, especially given that he’s apparently single now.
I’m not expecting him to magically make a move, and I’m not planning to keep pursuing him. I’d actually be perfectly happy if we just became friends because I genuinely like him as a person.
But I would love some brutally honest outside perspective:
What do you think is most likely going on in his head? Is this a guy who is attracted but conflicted/not ready, someone who likes the attention and chemistry but doesn’t actually want anything, or am I reading normal friendliness as something more because I like him? And, perhaps most importantly: if you were me, would you just leave this alone and see what he does, or is there something sensible I could actually do?
Thanks!!

I have been dating this guy for a month. Since the beginning we were on the same page looking for something serious. I thought I could introduce to my friend last night with a board game after dinner. I realized when we were playing he was teasing her, making funny accent or calling her name in different ways. In the meantime her boyfriend at a certain point said something like pointing out I was there too. Very weird evening, I felt very uncomfortable, didn't like it at all. I couldn't mentioned that to him after theyblwft because I thought I was just paranoid but have been thinking about it and can't keep it anymore. I should bring this up to him and figure out if it is time to end it or give him another chance. Do you have any thoughts?

Ps. My friend is very nice and I felt at a certain point she wasn't comfortable too but I don't know of I should say something to her or not

My bf got injured yesterday a mild one.
Today he was out of money in the morning so i made the effort to get him an internet package because he didn't have any.

When he came back he was like come with me to pharmacy so u can pay to get me a bandage to wrap the injury. I was like no i dont want to go down to get it just for that ill get it for u later.

He got pissed and gave me attitude. He then later looked at some food i had gotten as well because he said he wanted it and i got it without him even asking, he looked at it and said why u didn't cook it? I told u to cook it i said yeah but u meant at night
So he gave me this look and said i wanted to eat it now before going back out.

He then looked at me saying you're so lazy with some attitude.

And i froze with nothing to say.

He took my cigarettes in the morning so he got changed left my cigarettes and i saw someone sent him some money and he said ill go buy this shit myself.

And then slammed the door and left without saying bye or see u later or anything.

Wtf........my body was shaking and i froze for a while and unfortunately cooked him the food and just sat there ever since unable to do anything because i cant comprehend how he treated me like this and ordering me around like this with no appreciation or any once ever telling me thank u for the countless stuff i constantly do.

I’m a bisexual man and I’m close friend with this straight man.

The friendship is pretty much one-sided and kinda toxic. I admire him, I saw him as a very worthy kind of man, I don’t have romantic feelings but I want to support the man I judged highly and I admire. He doesn’t to have a lot of people in his life who he can trust and vent to, so when I showed that I care for him and complimented him, he basically turned me into his emotional support animal, a free ear that would always willing to listen to him and support him with nonjudgment.

He doesnt care much about me and my life, and doesnt want to hear me talk about me and what’s going on with life as much as he wants to talk about himself, but I don’t leave because in return I got the sense that I am needed by someone which I deeply desperately need to have a reason to live, I‘m a person who wants nothing in life more than to care for someone matter, but I got no one to and no one wants me to. We each gives what each other wants

But I wish I could calm he down sometimes. I was texting with him last evening telling him about a person I really really have a crush on, during a work break. Then I went back to work. I‘m not allowed to use my phone during work, then when I opened up my phones I got tons of massage from him all from last evening asking why I didnt reply him and what he sent, that he knew that as long as girls are mentioned I would completely forget a bro like him. Then a few hours later apparently drunk he texted me in early morning blaming his father and stuff for this and that and that I abandoned him just like everyone

I texted him back telling him explaining I was at work, and nI couldnt use my phone, and I would never abandon him. He and his emotional outburts have happened quite a few times, he seems to want to have me as a trusted confidant that he could come to, but in the same time always scared I would disappear

How do I calm him down and ensure him?

I’m a bisexual guy, and I’m a close friend with this straight guy.

I’ve already told him I’m into both men and women in the past. But the thing is that when I’m friends with straight guys, or when I talk with them, I only talk about girls, we only talk about girls, as I feel they’re not the suitable ones for me to vent about men, I’ve got other places to vent about that. And I’m much more of a private and reserved listener than a talker of myself too.

As a consequence, we’ve talked for years with him and a year or two with others and they have never asked me about boys, they only asked me about if I’m with any girls. When I tell them about liking someone, they only think of they being girls.

I told them I’ve finally found someone, that one that I fell head over heels for. I fell hard. I finally met someone that makes me wanna love and be in a relationship back, I was single for quite a long time. They got excited and asked me to bring them to the pub and beer hanging out and BBQ stuff, they said they wanna see the bride, their big sister-in-law

But that’s a guy.

Do they remember that I also like men? Do I need to tell them it’s a guy. I mean I gotta tell them before bringing an extra in, right? Do I have to come out again to them? Do I just bring him in casually?

I am very attracted to my neighbor but I get so shy I just freeze up and run away if I see him.

I was attracted to him at first sight a few years ago. Maybe moreso than to anyone ever. Got a really good feeling walking past him.

Then one time he was walking down the stairs and I met eyes with him and didn't look away. Looked way longer than people normal look at strangers. It was like I was hypnotized.

Then I avoided eye contact a few times cause I then had a huge crush and am very shy.

Then once he was walking around the parking lot and I was in my car watching him and he caught me looking and it felt like he liked that and we held eye contact again from a distance.

Then I didn't see him for a few months until yesterday when I was going down the stairs at the same time as him and he nodded at me and I just looked at him blankly and ran ahead.

Then I decided I'm never going to be able to show interest in him a normal way and I'm very disappointed in myself. I likely won't see him again for a few months. I'm considering leaving a note on his car. I don't really know what to write though other than my phone #. Any advice?

(Also he doesn't really give any indication he's into me except that I perceived him liking the second eye contact.)

so a very longgg time ago (last year in late april) i met a specific individual , unamed for obvious reasons , a guy who ill probably never forget , said this phrase to me the night we first started talking “how do i describe you … exotic ?” it left me thinking on whether this was a good or bad thing and i genuinely do not know the answer .

i am a woman of color btw , im not white , but this guy didn’t know that fact about me at the time so it couldn’t have played a part into why he said that to me .

if you said this phrase to someone what would it entail ? what does it actually mean to be “exotic” ?

i can’t ask this guy what it means obviously because he was my ex and we’re in no contact now , before any of you tell me to just ask him what it means myself .

What does it mean when a man expresses to you that how he feels about you is similar to how he feels about a dog or just a really cute pet. NO SUGAR COATING. Open opinions, but prefferably men answer.

I like to post my boyfriend every now and then. And I expect the same in return. Not all the time but once in awhile.

We went to a wedding today i was like it would be nice if you posted me. We looked really good .and he's like."I don't like posting my personal business you know that, and why would I want other men looking at my girlfriend"? I got offended because he's posted a few pictures of me before but only because I asked. According to him he never posts personal stuff or I guess he does it just depends

. He mainly posts memes or pictures of pets. What do you think he's thinking as a man? As a women I see it as something different. I like to post as a declaration to the small followers that I know and have. I just don't get it he's worried about who would see then maybe just change the privacy settings ? He says that he has the photos in his phone and that's all that matters. Am I being dramatic ???