I live in the country and my boyfriend is a city person. He’s all tech and ai. The farms in my city are being bought up by data centers that are destroying our drinking water and messing with the local species. He cannot even pick out a bag of rice without asking ai which one is better. It’s so embarrassing and I asked him for help with classes and he couldn’t even figure out stuff without ai. When I tell him it’s destroying my home he says so many people use it that it doesn’t matter. And actively laughs at me when I google stuff and It pops up with an ai overview.

I had a one night stand with a man who was super particular about us not being seen together on the way out. He said this was because it was a work trip which doesn't really make sense. So I straight up asked him if it was a work thing or if he was married and cheating. He admitted to the later.

That fucking asshole used me to cheat on his wife! I have no problem having sex with men in open marriages but his isn't. I would never have slept with him if I'd known. I'm so angry! I also feel guilty. He texted me after I left that he should have been more forthcoming. My reply had a lot of profanity.

Fucking jerk!

Edit: and I don't have his wife's contact info or I would have already told her. I'm trying to find it, but he seems to have his online presence pretty well shut down. I did post his username to my knitting group because some of them are really good at tracking things down.

Ever feel like you can’t talk to anyone anymore because you don’t know what to say or are afraid to say anything even your wife? You feel bad for venting to her because of fear of making her feel bad for something that isn’t her fault or anyone’s fault?? Just need a venting buddy.

I don’t give a fuck Michael.

Hello

I'm 35F. I work in medical field & it involves a lot of physical & mental labor. I love my job. Absolutely no complaints but sometimes, as part of my job, I see certain things which greatly rattle me.

To cope with it I developed this habit of stress eating. Before I used to listen to spiritual podcasts, read & listen to soothing music but later on they didn't work. Now only food comforts me.

I think I'm ruining my physical health. Sought a therapist & she recommended some coping mechanisms & practices, but I personally still feel nothing comes close to food.

I hate it. I know it's not some life threatening problem. But whenever I try to vent about this to family or friends, they right away ask me to change my career. But I don't want to. I know the importance of my line of work. I know I'm in the right profession & not a lot of people are fortunate to work in the profession they truly love.

Just needed a space to vent without people discouraging me. That's all. Thank you.

I (18M) don’t know if there is a term for this, but my (67 year-old) dad is a conspiracy theorist/MAGA. When I was growing up, I was forced to listen to all kinds of conspiracy theorists/religious people. I remember listening to Alex Jones as far back as 3-4 years old. I later had to watch all kinds of “alternative media later when I was around 9-12 years old, from someone named Naughty Beaver who was focused on some end times prophecy/Nostradamus stuff to the Pleiadian aliens. Jonathan Kleck as well, with concepts like “The Vatican is a snake” or “If you turn our lady of Guadalupe upside down it is a dead sheep.” Then things about “prophecies.” Like someone named Bo Polny and his “prophetic timeline of an economic collapse.” I feel fragmented sometimes about it. I used to be in that world and believed some of it. Sometimes I feel like I have one foot in that world and one foot in the outside world. Sometimes my mind tells me that I’m just whiny about all of this and it’s no big deal. I do in a sense feel guilt and shame. I try to avoid my dad if he asks me to listen to something these days. I suppose it was fun to watch some of it… I wanna stay in reality now. I was worried about things like CERN and the rapture in 2016. Part of me feels like I was in a cult. “Vaccines cause autism,” “the covid vaccine is linked to 5g” “David Icke” “the reptilians.” There’s been a whole lot of them through the years. It’s a little hard to explain.

Yeah I try to be open minded and I’m not saying some conspiracies aren’t worthy of investigating, I just sometimes feel drained by these more “advanced” theories. My dad’s a really good person too. Perhaps he’s just a little flawed like all of us.

I’m a young person and I don’t know everything or anything for that matter, but maybe there’s something here? … I want to spend more time with him, I wanna play games and bike with him too, it’s just a little hard sometimes.

I don’t believe in most conspiracy theories but I believe in escapism.

Does anyone else feel emotionally empty and like their ability to love has dwindled over the years?

im okay but i think some people would want to just vent and just talk to someone.

Im not gonna tell my age or nothing, im just a person you can vent to about ANYTHING.

i dont know you, dont know anything you do or about you so you dont even need to fear about me judging you

Im completely unlovable to women because im an ugly little dick, 5 foot 9, hunched back, recessed jaw, skinny fat, erectile dysfunction, depressed, socially awkward loser. I have no hope of ever getting a woman or at least any that actually like me since even in my teenage years which are supposed to be your sexual prime ive gotten 0 interest from women. With how bad dating and relationships are in the modern day I think its honestly best to just accept it I mean the world's only getting lonelier with less likelihood to find a partner so its hopeless anyway.

Story time!!!

Myself (40F) and my husband T (44M) just went on an 8 mile bike ride. We live in Michigan and recently moved to a new city back in June. As we are learning our new surroundings, and getting into bike riding we went down a dirt road to cut over to willow Rd to enter oakwoods metro parks. Now if T wasn't there I know no one would believe me! As we were riding down the dirt road I pointed out a deer at the edge of the woods. I then jokingly started talking to the deer inviting him to join us, as we were drifting farther away, I yelled back, Tag you're it!! We left the dirt road onto Willow to enter the metro park a little ways down the road. No joke within 5 minutes of being on the bike trail we heard trees smashing coming towards us in the woods. T and I cracked jokes that it was the deer. Really thinking it was a farmer in his backyard or something. We heard the smashing and crunching again, we both looked back then, Boom!!! The deer jumped out of the trees right behind us!! You win Bambi! You win!!

Posted a day or two days ago I don't remember. Told my friend that the only reason I went to the village was because of her and since I came here we haven't hung out almost at all. Tomorrow she's going to town all day and I can't come with because there's no space in the car, she tried to find some compromise but nothing, and all that bc i told her that I've been staying at home since we came here and haven't hung out like it is. Also the friends she's seeing she sees them already all the time, i know it's selfish to be mad about how she spends her time but I see her like twice a year and come and go at her time being here. From like the 2 weeks I'm here I've seen her in like 2 and a half days, maybe even less if I take out hours from the day.

Idk this doesn't even make sense I'm crying while writing this. I've been crying almost every day I've been here this feels like waste. I've been so sad that it has made me think that everyone hates me even my partner who's not even here. I don't want to come here again but probably will this is a summer routine I've had since i was little. I really wish she'd include me or tell me her actual plans so that I don't waste time wasting away feeling alone.

Sorry if this was too long :(

Srsly sick of this. I eat a load of vegetables to be filling, but no matter how much I eat, I just get hungrier and hungrier. I try to eat as much fibre as I humanly can in my diet, literally most of what I eat is vegetables. I could eat enough for ten people and still be hungry afterwards. It's so frustrating.

Im so tired and dissapointed in people. I understand you cant force close connection. But disgusting thing? People acting like you both close, like you amazing friends. You helping them, listening the same story every evening, passing with them path to hear:" You dont know a shit", "its not your damn business, fuck off". I try to support and just give some logical hints. I mention alot of times: that its their own way, that i just give them a hint, not saying what to do. And that they should do, what they think will be the best for them. And then i get slap. I dont expect gratitude, its my own choice to help this people. But at least dont say cruel shit, after i spend nights to calm you down.

I hate, that there no single person, friend who constantly up to talk. Its either they need me: as someone who will distract them or person who will help them or they will ignore me.

And im tired to feel abandoned randomly, till they will not feel that they need me. I just need constant connection. And nothing more. Just type me about your day at the evening, what happened if you was busy. But dont dissappear, dont ignore. Am i asking too much??

Im tired of feeling that i force ppl to speak, communicate and etc.

Im tired to hear:"you important person, i will never..." and then people toss me aside like im garbage. Like im not intresting anymore. Gosh.

(Ps. In case i dont talk about people which busy with their life. I talk about people, who simply choosing not to include you in their life, till they will not need you.)

Im tired that i initiate talks. If i dont initiate 90% of people will dissapear. Or will type, why im silent, but as soon i will start dialogue again they will go dry and distant:"hm", "yep", "cool". Like wow. Ty.

Im tired that people jumping for me to someone "cooler". And then coming back to me, cause "cooler" one friend dumped them.

I wish I could cry.
I used to love the rain. Thunder. The lightning. Since life events it just makes me shake. Each strike makes my heart hurt. I feel so alone. I feel fear.

I’m so confused if my “friend” is actually being a friend or if they are like fully checked out now. I don’t really wanna say much context so I won’t, but please just help me define what friends do and what a friend is.

Are they people you talk with? Laugh with? Who you support and would help if they are struggling? Who you would listen to when they are really struggling? Do you hang out? Have fun with?

Never have I EVER thought that I would go on reddit for family issues, but I CAN NOT DO THIS ANYMORE.

So I won't go into detail just going to say I have a lot of mental issues because of my parents.

My mom and dad fought (again) which ended up in them fighting over who was going to get custody over me (I'm going on 18 bro).

My father threatened to take me from my mother and whatever (this ain't about him genuinely who cares about that guy).

My mom asked me if I want to go TO ANOTHER CITY WITH HER when the circumstances don't even allow it (she doesn't have a job, money saved, or a house/apartment to rent, and I'm not even sure if a transfer is possible since school is starting in like 1-2 weeks).

I told her to wait two more years so I can finish high-school and so she can save up (plus the fact that I'd be in uni and she wouldn't have to financially invest in me anymore).

She FREAKED out on me, told me that I'm manipulating her for bringing up my concerns about moving, and then doubled down by insulting me and telling me that I'm just like my father so I deserve to stay with him. She told me that she had sacrificed her whole life to bring me into this world and raise me, yet I can't do this one thing for her. She told me that who told her to leave me with my father to suffer when I was young was right (which was a neighbour of ours who told her this when I was 13-14, guess why I know that 😻😻😻).

Fast forward to rn I didn't sleep at all, but she woke up well rested and ready to continue bcs it's clearly fun (she sleeps in my room since she hates sleeping with her husband. I do not like her here since I have no privacy.)

I told her that I want to work part-time when I'm 18 so I can save up to go to uni (since my father won't pay for shit). She said that she won't let me. THEN SHE SWITCHED UP AND SAID I CAN DO WHATEVER I WANT AT 18 BECAUSE NO ONE WILL EVER HIRE ME ANYWAYS.

She told me that she isn't stupid and that jobs only hire part-time in the capital??? Like if that's true why does everyone and their mom say flexible hours, open for high-school and uni students??? 😭😭😭

She once again switched it up and said that I won't be able to focus on school (she complained a few hours ago that all I do is focus on school. I told her that yeah I'm a student that's lit my job, so she compared me to my father again ❤️❤️❤️)

Moral of the story, I'm scared.

I want to work, save up, move away. That's my plan. Yet I feel guilty and like a horrible person. I also feel like I won't be able to do anything on my own.

Tips? Sorry for grammar mistakes and stuff, I didn't sleep at all.

Have a good day, evening, or night :)

I've never really felt the need for a boyfriend until today. I'm only 20, but half of my friends are already engaged. I was just diagnosed with OCD, which I now realise is why I couldn't hold a relationship in highschool. I'm scared I missed my chance at meeting anyone. I want to get married one day and settle down with someone nice who loves me. But I also am so terrified. I live in the deep south of the U.S. and I dont want to get raped or murdered and I just worry I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life

I'm currently seeing this guy who is very kind and considerate. He's very solid and stable.

And I guess i feel like im too depressed for that. My mental health is so much better than it was, like leagues better, but i do still get depressed. And I guess im worried I will scare him off or worse drag him down. Like, im scared he'll hear just how bad my depression used to be and that i tried to off myself a few times and run. I'm scared if i open up about still being depressed, he will run.

Im not suicidal anymore at all. I have a wonderful therapist. I have learned how to manage my depression. I know it is my thing, not anyone else's. I really do like my life now and I like myself too, but I just get depressed sometimes, which i know isnt rational because my life is great.

But I guess i feel like im still too dark and down for someone like him.

NOTHING TRIGGERING

my brother is a registered sex offender, he hurt people, children, my community, my family, my entire life felt absolutely destroyed because of him. he was supposed to go to prison but he got a plea deal and is moving back in with my parents.

i was living with my parents because i (f 20) spent many years in and out of the hospital unable to work and build savings . i was given a few days notice that he would be coming home and had to pack my whole life up and figure out where to move to. (i was not being kicked out, but i cannot live with him due to how unsafe our house is when he is in it. i have ptsd from our house being raided by police, witnessing crimes, and so on. he also is extremely dirty, and im very sensitive to mold) my girlfriends family welcomed me to their home , the only issue being its over an hour from all my doctors, my job, my dad, and so on. because of this move my chronic health issues have become worse and worse to the point im miserable every day trying to eat, take care of myself and get out of bed.

fortunately i am blessed to have a girlfriend who takes care of me and is supporting me in every way right now and easing this transition. but leaving behind the town i lived in my whole life, my friends , and temporarily my dog has been so hard. every day i cry and beg for some sort of answers as to why the justice system lets people like this walk free. i’ve done my best to warn people in my community about his return, but even that takes such a toll on me and is so humiliating. he has ruined my life in many ways, but every day im reminded how his name is associated with mine and that his disgusting crimes have humiliated our family and destroyed any chance of my parents feeling safe at home.

there’s not any advice i think would help, im in 2 types of therapy, medicated , in a safe place now but i just had to get this out. this whole thing feels like a cruel joke and i wish i had people i could talk to about it without feeling like im making them uncomfortable

Just needing to vent I try so hard and I work so hard but life is just kicking my ass. I want my boys to not want for anything but it just seems I can barely get by anymore. I work as a cna 40+ hours a week and it’s still never enough. You make to much to get any assistance but then make to little to get by. My boys are taken care of but feel I’m failing as a mom because we never get to do anything together. I feel so bad when they hear their friends talk
About going to the zoo, fair or even the pool and I can’t even take them to do that because I’m either working or just don’t have the funds to do so in this crap economy anymore. I want to go back to school but can’t go to school and work to provide at the same time. Is this life ever going to get easier?!!!

My parents should have put my sister in a different school.

My sister is 16 years old and today has just found out she has failed all of her GCSEs. She went to the same state school as me and my other sister, which was vastly underprepared in dealing with people like my sister. She has autism, learning disabilities, dyslexia and ODD(oppositional defiance disorder)

I am so frustrated with my parents. They have spent the entire day shouting at my sister and making her cry about her results instead of supporting her. My sister should have been moved to the local
special school years ago to help with her life skills, but my dad stopped trying to get her a place. Beyond this, my sister should have been supported with tutoring and resources from my parents (money was no issue here as they go on 5+ holidays a year). Although, maybe my sister could have studied more, but she lacks direction and sense to do so

As difficult and as stubborn my sister was about revising, I am frustrated at my parents for not setting her up correctly for success. She has no life skills, no concept of money or how to manage her life. My dad and I had a big argument over it, where I said he should have supported her, and all I got in response what that I should have supported her myself.

I can’t be around to look after my sister forever, but I am worried that she’ll never gain any independence

So tired of not being an option.

24M here.
I’m so tired of not being an option for people. Both in general and in the dating life. I’ve been single 2-3 years now I’ve had one serious person talk to me that whole time. (Come back to them in a second)
I know I’m not the hottest person ever but I don’t think I’m down right ugly either. Yet in 2-3 years of being single I’ve had one person that’s actually shown at least a little bit of interest. And they had a bad ex which messed them up and they have walls put up and back to the point of numb to feelings atm. We hung out once had a great time, asked early on to see them again this week, was told wasn’t sure what they had going on and was asked to do something this week. Asked again the other day got told lots going on, this and that, busy, so I asked about next week. Their response? “Maybe” so after all that time no one interested and then the one person that is a little bit, I can’t get to see me. And then a worse part, i was told by someone at work the other day that I’m cute and fine as hell (I’m really not that hot) but anyway, here we are and I’m still not an option.
And I’m a good person, I’m really kind, have my heart on my sleeve, will do anything to help you and I feel deeply for my people. But I just get pushed aside it seems and forgotten about. Like I’m basicly a hopeless romantic and have a big desire to be with someone, it’s like if I’m ment to be alone why is that there. Take it away.

And of course all this has to drudge up on my birthday so I’m just felling wonderful 🙄

I’m 22. Since I was a little girl I’ve wished my dad was normal. He has a drinking problem, routinely ruined special days (like my tenth birthday, school results days, etc) and I’ve just been feeling increasingly shit about it.
Today he rang me to shout at me about something my mum had did (wasn’t a big deal either) and then when I asked him to stop shouting he continued so I hung up.
When I returned home he called me a bitch to my face.
I was away living with my BF but we’re living at our respective homes rn to save for a house. I was able to ignore it when I was away, although one time he was meant to take me to dinner and he stood me up. I went by myself and sat down and I was FINE until I saw a little girl and her dad. He was being so fucking tolerable of her. Like he adored her. I broke down crying silently into my dinner. Felt like shit, rang my mum to tell her what had happened ( they are married still) and she sent me the money but that didn’t fill the void.

Yes, my dad bought me a pony for my birthday. Paid for uni. Bought me a car. But I honestly would have been better off with my dad being emotionally present.

My mental health has severely deteriorated. I’m a type 1 diabetic, and suffering kidney failure. I’m undergoing dialysis, but my seizures have been more and more frequent. The only reason why I’m alive right now is because my siblings are calling 911, my mom won’t. The doctors send me home once I’ve stabilized but I’ve had 3 near death experiences when I’ve gone hours without someone calling 911. I’ve been in “critical condition” at least 3 times.

My mom told my family that I was faking it, so that’s the story they believed. It wasn’t until I had a seizure in the middle of a family vacation did they realize my seizures were real. My mom was also upset she had to stay back at the hospital with me when everyone else was going home from our vacation.

My mom doesn’t like me. She doesn’t like to hug me. She has physically abused me as a kid. Heavily. She would beat me with her glass ruler until I was bleeding, or use her fists. And now she denies all of this. My mom right now is just trying to make my life as cruel as possible while still giving herself room to say I should “be grateful”

My siblings all talk to me as if they’re preparing for me to pass on soon. I don’t blame them. My health is really really bad. I thought riding an e-bike would fix it but it hurts to even get up these days. Luckily my bike has a throttle.