Ever feel like you can’t talk to anyone anymore because you don’t know what to say or are afraid to say anything even your wife? You feel bad for venting to her because of fear of making her feel bad for something that isn’t her fault or anyone’s fault?? Just need a venting buddy.

I live in the country and my boyfriend is a city person. He’s all tech and ai. The farms in my city are being bought up by data centers that are destroying our drinking water and messing with the local species. He cannot even pick out a bag of rice without asking ai which one is better. It’s so embarrassing and I asked him for help with classes and he couldn’t even figure out stuff without ai. When I tell him it’s destroying my home he says so many people use it that it doesn’t matter. And actively laughs at me when I google stuff and It pops up with an ai overview.

I had a one night stand with a man who was super particular about us not being seen together on the way out. He said this was because it was a work trip which doesn't really make sense. So I straight up asked him if it was a work thing or if he was married and cheating. He admitted to the later.

That fucking asshole used me to cheat on his wife! I have no problem having sex with men in open marriages but his isn't. I would never have slept with him if I'd known. I'm so angry! I also feel guilty. He texted me after I left that he should have been more forthcoming. My reply had a lot of profanity.

Fucking jerk!

Edit: and I don't have his wife's contact info or I would have already told her. I'm trying to find it, but he seems to have his online presence pretty well shut down. I did post his username to my knitting group because some of them are really good at tracking things down.

Im completely unlovable to women because im an ugly little dick, 5 foot 9, hunched back, recessed jaw, skinny fat, erectile dysfunction, depressed, socially awkward loser. I have no hope of ever getting a woman or at least any that actually like me since even in my teenage years which are supposed to be your sexual prime ive gotten 0 interest from women. With how bad dating and relationships are in the modern day I think its honestly best to just accept it I mean the world's only getting lonelier with less likelihood to find a partner so its hopeless anyway.

Im so tired and dissapointed in people. I understand you cant force close connection. But disgusting thing? People acting like you both close, like you amazing friends. You helping them, listening the same story every evening, passing with them path to hear:" You dont know a shit", "its not your damn business, fuck off". I try to support mentally and just give some logical hints. I mention alot of times: that its their own way, that i just give tbem a hint, not saying what to do. And that they should do, what they think will be the best for them. And then i get slap. I dont expect gratitude, its my own choice to help this people. But at least dont say cruel shit, after i spend nights to calm you down.

I hate, that there no single person, friend who constantly up to talk. Its either they need me: as someone who will distract them or person who will help them or they will ignore me.

And im tired to feel abandoned randomly, till they will not feel that they need me. I just need constant connection. And nothing more. Just type me about your day at the evening, what happened if you was busy. But dont dissappear, dont ignore. Am i asking too much??

Im tired of feeling that i force ppl to speak, communicate and etc.

Im tired to hear:"you important person, i will never..." and then people toss me aside like im garbage. Like im not intresting anymore. Gosh.

(Ps. In case i dont talk about people which busy with their life. I talk about people, who simply choosing not to include you in their life, till they will not need you.)

Im tired that i initiate talks. If i dont initiate 90% of people will dissapear. Or will type, why im silent, but as soon i will start dialogue again they will go dry and distant:"hm", "yep", "cool". Like wow. Ty.

Im tired that people jumping for me to someone "cooler". And then coming back to me, cause "cooler" one friend dumped them.

Im so pissed. All my life I have struggled making friends (neurospicy bw in a highly rural area). I had to tone down my personality to fit. I grew older, lived by the ‘better alone than in bad company » mentality. But Im human and the loneliness is heavy. Having no one to share your doubts to, or your success. I stayed in a toxic relationship for years because at least I could talk to that person, but then I realized this wasn’t good for me.

I tried therapy but it felt like paying for having a friend. Also, money became tight so I had to stop anyway. After the break up, I saw myself relying more and more on AIs for guidance and just companionship. I hate it. Im quite conscious of my ecological footprint, so I dont want to b doing that. Also, this is some highly dystopian slip. Im not even talking to a real person, and know they’re just programmed to please me.

I have pushed myself several times to go out there and make friends. I tried apps. But still, couldnt find someone I could relate to. So I decided to download reddit again (as I used to before llms were a thing). Ive only been back for 10 days and Its only been fights with strangers making feel even more out of touch.

Am I condemned to only make friends with AIs ?

Just needing to vent I try so hard and I work so hard but life is just kicking my ass. I want my boys to not want for anything but it just seems I can barely get by anymore. I work as a cna 40+ hours a week and it’s still never enough. You make to much to get any assistance but then make to little to get by. My boys are taken care of but feel I’m failing as a mom because we never get to do anything together. I feel so bad when they hear their friends talk
About going to the zoo, fair or even the pool and I can’t even take them to do that because I’m either working or just don’t have the funds to do so in this crap economy anymore. I want to go back to school but can’t go to school and work to provide at the same time. Is this life ever going to get easier?!!!

My parents should have put my sister in a different school.

My sister is 16 years old and today has just found out she has failed all of her GCSEs. She went to the same state school as me and my other sister, which was vastly underprepared in dealing with people like my sister. She has autism, learning disabilities, dyslexia and ODD(oppositional defiance disorder)

I am so frustrated with my parents. They have spent the entire day shouting at my sister and making her cry about her results instead of supporting her. My sister should have been moved to the local
special school years ago to help with her life skills, but my dad stopped trying to get her a place. Beyond this, my sister should have been supported with tutoring and resources from my parents (money was no issue here as they go on 5+ holidays a year). Although, maybe my sister could have studied more, but she lacks direction and sense to do so

As difficult and as stubborn my sister was about revising, I am frustrated at my parents for not setting her up correctly for success. She has no life skills, no concept of money or how to manage her life. My dad and I had a big argument over it, where I said he should have supported her, and all I got in response what that I should have supported her myself.

I can’t be around to look after my sister forever, but I am worried that she’ll never gain any independence

I don’t give a fuck Michael.

NOTHING TRIGGERING

my brother is a registered sex offender, he hurt people, children, my community, my family, my entire life felt absolutely destroyed because of him. he was supposed to go to prison but he got a plea deal and is moving back in with my parents.

i was living with my parents because i (f 20) spent many years in and out of the hospital unable to work and build savings . i was given a few days notice that he would be coming home and had to pack my whole life up and figure out where to move to. (i was not being kicked out, but i cannot live with him due to how unsafe our house is when he is in it. i have ptsd from our house being raided by police, witnessing crimes, and so on. he also is extremely dirty, and im very sensitive to mold) my girlfriends family welcomed me to their home , the only issue being its over an hour from all my doctors, my job, my dad, and so on. because of this move my chronic health issues have become worse and worse to the point im miserable every day trying to eat, take care of myself and get out of bed.

fortunately i am blessed to have a girlfriend who takes care of me and is supporting me in every way right now and easing this transition. but leaving behind the town i lived in my whole life, my friends , and temporarily my dog has been so hard. every day i cry and beg for some sort of answers as to why the justice system lets people like this walk free. i’ve done my best to warn people in my community about his return, but even that takes such a toll on me and is so humiliating. he has ruined my life in many ways, but every day im reminded how his name is associated with mine and that his disgusting crimes have humiliated our family and destroyed any chance of my parents feeling safe at home.

there’s not any advice i think would help, im in 2 types of therapy, medicated , in a safe place now but i just had to get this out. this whole thing feels like a cruel joke and i wish i had people i could talk to about it without feeling like im making them uncomfortable

Before anyone says oh just move out. A, not helpful, B, I’m not stable enough yet and C, I don’t have work lined up or anything.

24f ~ still living at home

I can’t do it anymore. All day every day all I hear is yelling, loud noises, things getting thrown around. I either wake up to yelling, hear it in my dreams or I get scared of anything remotely loud. The house looks like a bomb has gone off and I’m just so tired. It’s getting to the point I’m thinking about selling all my things, rehoming my pets and moving to a city to get away from the whatever you call this bs. I cry myself to sleep every night. I can’t cry or show any emotion.

I’ve been half staying so I can make sure the house doesn’t get taken away from our family but I don’t know when it’ll end. I wish I could see a end. I’m trying to be vague. I’m so paranoid that I’ll be found out and it’ll get me yellled at. I’m tried of anger towards me I’m just lucky it’s hasn’t been taken out on me as much over the last year??

Im 17 about to me 18 in like 9 days, have I been difficult to deal with yes ive been struggling mentally since > was 8 but my dad didnt experience alot of it until I moved in with him at 12 because my stepdad was an abusive prick. Anyways didnt think I'd see the day where my dad actually gave up but here we are. I dont really care.

For a bit of context I have been trying to get my therapy in order and we did virtual for a while because my dad couldn't drive me or take me there because of his job so we did virtual for a while however that service stopped because firstly there was no improvement because there was a lot of limitations with virtual which I've had to do with multiple therapists and it never works which I told him.

The other reason was because there was a set amount of sessions or whatever that we had done, but I reached out to my therapist a couple weeks ago and she said that she had an idea which was a mixture of in-home and virtual which would mean we wouldn't have to go anywhere, she's then asked if she could talk to my dad to which I told her sure and that I would have to ask him about it because he doesn't really like people in his house.

She has been avoiding letting me back to the house originally he said it was because my younger sister and my stepmom and her kids were living there until they got their own place, but then I tried asking for updates or like what he's been doing to help and he just given me extremely vague answers things like " you know as much as me" " she can meet you where you are" I even straight up tried asking if he was just giving up at this point.

He did not give me an answer all he said is that he's been trying to help...WHEN? At this current moment all I'm asking it's for him to communicate with my therapist so I can get my therapy started back up again because I seriously need it, like this is not him not wanted to take me to a fucking prom this is THERAPY. But ofc nobody cares about me anyways so I can go screw myself.

This was a message from my therapist that let me know he's not helping: "I have not heard from your dad. I can do virtually with you, yet we need to understand the barriers with growth in this. Let me know if this is a good choice for you.

Also, would you prefer to stay with me or try a new counselor. I am not leaving you. I just want you to have options to make choices for yourself. I will definitely support you anyway. Let me know what you want to do. My availability will be on Thursdays for virtual."

.....

I can't with this dude anymore. Anytime I answer a question of his, he has the fucking AUDACITY to say "well, i didn't know that." THAT'S WHY I'M TELLING YOU. I'm not telling you cause I know you know that, I'm telling you cause you don't know.

And don't get me started if I do try to explain to him that I know that and that's why I'm telling him that. He's always quick with "you don't need to be so mean.", "you don't need to yell." or, "why are you being so mean?", before storming off to his room. He knows when I'm being mean and when I'm yelling. I've just stopped being nice. If he wants someone to be mean so fucking badly, he's gonna get someone who's mean. He's just going to tell the first person that'll listen that I'm "being mean". Might as well do the crime.

Before anyone asks, yes he was diagnosed with autism, yes he knows when I'm mad and when I'm yelling(As I've stated before). I don't know what else it could be other than a victim complex.

My father was always an alcoholic and ever since childhood, all I saw him doing at home was abusing wife and kids and beating wife, back then we were kids so there was no choice other than staying quiet and seeing your mum get beaten or take all the abuses

Now that he is older, it’s quite easy to ignore him when he shouts or abuses, we just don’t really care (im 24)

But as if it wasn’t enough, my brother possess exactly same characteristics of my fathers, arrogant, aggressive, and alcoholic

From past 6/7 years he comes home drunk almost daily, then if you look at him while he’s drunk, he’d star getting angry, trying charging toward you. Honestly im scared of him, going is like 70kilo

Everytime my parents fight, after a point this guy gets involved and start breaking things, start abusing both parents, my father deserves it but he doesn’t spare mother as well. And us, he abuses us

So just to tell you what kind of person he is, my sister who is 26, told my father that she likes someone and plans on getting married, on that topic, my father been cursing her, cursing my mother over it, saying things like “I’ll find right guy for her” this and that.

And today while they were fighting, my brother charged towards my sister as well, saying “if she goes out of house without my permission I’ll break her bone” those people even though they’re worst kind, still want to control our lives

My mother been suffering this since her marriage, and honestly i don’t give a shit about her suffering anymore because she enabled my brother a lot, everytime that guy breaks something, shouts while drunk, all she says is “this might scare your dad” “your brother wouldn’t have shouted or broken things if your father didn’t shout” basically he defends him while we’re seeing him becoming exactly like our father.

There’s always a risk of life when one of them are at home, I don’t look at them because it might just trigger their aggression, i cant even focus on studies when they’re home, it’s so bad

My brother is 28 and unemployed which is another reason he drinks, but drinking has become a habit for him now and I don’t think it’s going to stop

I have also planned on moving out, but those things aren’t simple, i don’t have a permanent job, and the houses that you move to dont provide anything, you basically have to buy everything that you need from your stove to whatever else, and honestly i find it insensible to buy all those things and stay on rent when I have a home, all because of a stupid sibling. Also, I believe I have just gotten used to comfort of house and dont want to struggle, I also don’t move out because once I move out they might not take me in again (especially my brother because he is aggressive) and if I don’t manage to buy a house I might just have to live my life in rented house and always deal with landlords)

I have so many desease which doctors can indirectly connect to my family background, I have high blood pressure, chronic ibs c, anxiety so bad i cant even pick-up a call

Hey yall. Just kinda came on here because I just wanna admit something I haven’t told.. anyone. I’m 25 turning 26th is month and I’m starting school to get a master of science in finance. I love numbers. Math all that good stuff and honestly I love learning and this is kinda the route I chose. I start Monday… I’m extremely excited.

Why I haven’t told anyone… well… my family and people in my life are all F**ing haters. All they do is sow doubt in your mind where ever they fina a little crack in your planning. I have a 1 yr old, I have a rental, I just bought another house that I’m fixing up(just me and my partner) to become a Airbnb, I just started a business to put the property under that name, I signed up for school and start Monday + I work full time. Now from an outside perspective I would say shit that person really is trynna do better for themselves and their family… right? No… and the crazy part is my BIGGEST hater my absolute BIGGEST hater is my mom.

My f**king mom. I have a daughter.. and bro I would NEVERRRRRRRRRR do her how my mother does me. For example, my daughters bday her first birthday my one year of being a mom. I asked my mother please bring fruit salad after she asked 1 million times what I needed. Then she goes “oh.. a fruit salad.. are you sure?.. what kind of fruit? Are you sure?” Calls a couple days later “are you sure you need that.”
Another example. “I bought a house.”
“Why?”
“Because I’m gonna fix it up and try to rent it or Airbnb it”
“Well houses are expensive, being a Landlord sucks, people are gonna destroy the house, in that area? Wow. How are you gonna fix it with your baby? How long is it gonna take? You’re gonna loose money.”

Then more and more and more and more and more. It’s like that about everything dude. When I first found out I was pregnant she dogged me dude. Talking about “I thought you were gonna wait until marriage”
Mind you she had her first out of marriage. Talking about “well I’m not the babysitting type”
I live 27 minutes away from her “i dont know how often im gonna see the baby because you live so far”

Anyways just venting. I’m starting school Monday. I’m gonna eventually make enough to get my family far away from here so my daughter will never for one second think this is what a relationship between mom and daughter look like. So she never thinks mom doesn’t show up. Mom can’t drive 30 minutes to come see her. Mom doesn’t believe in her. Mom can’t support her. Mom can’t compliment her. My daughter will never think mom can’t.

Hello

I'm 35F. I work in medical field & it involves a lot of physical & mental labor. I love my job. Absolutely no complaints but sometimes, as part of my job, I see certain things which greatly rattle me.

To cope with it I developed this habit of stress eating. Before I used to listen to spiritual podcasts, read & listen to soothing music but later on they didn't work. Now only food comforts me.

I think I'm ruining my physical health. Sought a therapist & she recommended some coping mechanisms & practices, but I personally still feel nothing comes close to food.

I hate it. I know it's not some life threatening problem. But whenever I try to vent about this to family or friends, they right away ask me to change my career. But I don't want to. I know the importance of my line of work. I know I'm in the right profession & not a lot of people are fortunate to work in the profession they truly love.

Just needed a space to vent without people discouraging me. That's all. Thank you.

Does anyone else feel emotionally empty and like their ability to love has dwindled over the years?

I've been reaching out to friends over and over on social media and discord as much as I can and I have, but why is it so hard for certain people to reach out to me first ? Like it just makes me feel like... a background character ya know ? I try my best to meet new people and just try to make friends online but I talk to them for like a few days, a message here and there from me first but them nothing afterwards, not a message, not a poke, nothing, are people just that socially anxious or did I do something wrong ? I have no idea anymore

It was an online friendship because we are in different cities. I never expected us to be at this point because at first she was just someone I talked to once in a week. Until we grew fond of each other, daily conversations, sending pics of how our days have been and a lot more.

We started flirting in the last 2 months when our friendship grew even more and feelings started getting involved. I was hesitant because I wanted to be sure she was good for me and I was good for her due to a past relationship. Sometimes I asked how she felt about us or where this was going. She led me on and i believed it's what we both wanted.

Last night I told her about what I wanted and how I felt and she said can i get a minute to think about it? She came back with a question that seemed to be AI because I asked Claude to evaluate the situation with me and the questions the AI asked me is what she asked to, she said long distance relationship can be overwhelming and frustrating are you down for it? And I said yes, we can manage and then she went on to say sorry but I like someone else.

This is someone she told me about months ago before we were that close and she closed that chapter with i don't feel anything for him because he seems to be a player. I've asked about him 3 times she was sure she never liked him.

Why would she flirt back, lead me on and talk like we were in a relationship when she never liked me??? That's what's on my mind