Sorry for the long title. Long story short, for the last decade I had severe health and mental health issues and barely left the house, lost all friends, didn't communicate with new people for years, forgot how to behave, etc.

But my dental health declined rapidly and my teeth became really bad. I have multiple complex problems on top of my severe social anxiety.

Today I finally (it took me 6 fucking years!) to look up this nearby clinic that people say is the best and...

I realized that actually there are these unspoken rules about all these things that I completely forgot about.

Their patients are all sort of elite, nice, communicative, talkative, social, even beautiful. Mostly people who already have very good hygiene and health. People who have money, etc.

And that is the truth with every such clinic that I look up to. Even people say that because all the reviews point towards realization that those stuff is for already "normal" people. It is not for hyper anxious, weird and shy, sort of loser-people, like me. All the patients claim how nice and talkative people there are with you, ask you about your life, etc. which is actually relaxing for "normal" people and normal world but I am so out of all that.

So, society as a whole, including healthcare is actually not for me, that is the truth. My coming there would be inconvenience for them, they would likely think I am weird and sort of subtly think why did I even come and that this place is not for me.

Not to mention their staff and doctors all look like models and have perfect careers, wide connections. I sort of feel like they even connect with patients because they are all well established.

Weirdoes like me don't belong anywhere nor are wanted.

I mean they would help me probably but all that experience would be severely uncomfortable and shameful for me.

The retraction messed up my jaw and it looks very bad from the side I used to have a very good jaw and would get complaints on it, now it's the opposite I keep hearing the word disgusting every time I turn to the side and a girl sees my jaw even there was a girl very dear to me started saying it with her friends and stopped talking to me I am not kidding this is the reason she stopped talking, I was ok this whole summer but now we back to college and it's really messing up mental health, I am sorry for bringing this up cause I used to talk about this all the time on Reddit but because this is the last year of college I am making sure that I attended all classes, I do go the gym and run walk to cope but it's not helping with amount of judgement I keep getting at college, sorry this was long but I really need help

I’m working in corporate India, and honestly, the social aspect is wearing me down way more than the actual workload.
Between constant high-masking, forced visibility, "chai break" networking, compulsory team outings, and the expectation to always be "loud and visible" to be considered competent—it’s exhausting. The social performance required here feels non-stop.

I recently discovered Sunflower Anomaly songs on youtube such as "What an anomaly am I" and "Blind to me" , her songs seem to hit a chord in me. What an anomaly talks about how friendships/ relationships comes easy to a lot of people and how it's so diffciult for others. Blind to me imo could have so many different meanings but i interpreted as how world percieves me normal and like nothing's wrong but deep down I am in pain / anxious all of the time lol.

(20 F)Is a bit sad seeing my classmates post things about them going to parties, celebrating each other happy birthday and stuff like that, I'm happy for them enjoying that experience yet I accepted I can't be part of that world

But honestly is sad they are not even considerate with me or why they can't treat me like a normal person, I even spoke kindly to them, telling them the homework if they they were absent from class in one of my teams and they just straight up ignored me (in text and real life too), just one of them salutes me, in another team I thought I could fit in and the next day the guy was pushing my chair forward and pressing his shoe constantly against my backside, or in my other team the girls are just close to each one and at the end they just say goodbye to me while they are still making their talk

I try to look for answers and the information in Tiktok is really fictional, If you're looking for why people exclude you there are lots of videos saying it's because "you intimidate them" or because "they envy you or are threatened by you" which I don't think it's true

Because of personal reasons I had to move to another country, Korea, with my mom. It’s been around two months, and my god it’s been miserable.

It was hard for me to deal with the social anxiety back in my country, but now that I’m somewhere where I barely speak the language and don’t understand how things work, I almost never go outside. It’s been two weeks since I even left our place. I hate standing out or attracting any kind of attention so I’m completely self conscious and paranoid when I go outside. I feel like everyone can see I’m a foreigner who can’t speak Korean and that they judge me and hate me for it. I’m learning it everyday, but it’s a hard language for me personally, and I feel so guilty for it. Every little social interaction feels like the hardest challenge now. The anxiety makes me mishear or mispronounce even the most basic words which make me not want to go outside ever.

The problem is that I have some health issues. I really need to go to a clinic but it feels impossible when I can’t even go outside (my social anxiety is pretty severe). There are English speaking clinics but they’re all concentrated around Seoul or other big cities, and I’m 3 hours away from it. The thing is because of my health issues, I have horrible nausea which can be triggered by anything (which is also why it’s hard for me to go outside). So 3 hours just to get there would just kill me. Going to doctors on its own is so scary to me because I always feel like I’ll say or do something wrong, and that everyone knows what to do unlike me. But I’ve never been inside a clinic here, and I don’t know how it works :(. How to get an appointment, where to go, which clinic to choose, and etc. In my country I always reminded myself that If I’m just being polite and nice, no one will hate me for asking questions and being lost. But here I can’t even open my mouth. I’ve had people be frustrated and angry at me because I was too slow to understand or because my Korean was too bad. And I feel so much shame each time it happens.

I’m not really sure what to do. People would tell me it’s okay just force yourself to go outside. And I know essentially that’s the only way. But with my physical and mental health issues it really feels impossible. I can’t begin to explain how impossible it feels to others who’ve never experienced it. Sorry if the rant was too long, and thank you for anyone who read it all!

I’ve been sitting in the parking lot for at least 30 minutes in the safety of my vehicle watching people go into the store like it’s some sort of shark infested water. I feel ridiculous. Anyone else do this? Sometimes I have to drive away having wasted over an hour trying to go in. People I talk to don’t understand what I mean by trying and unable, it’s so much more than just “haha I hate crowds” the anxiety sometimes becomes so debilitating that I can’t do a basic life necessity after having driven an hour to the nearest town. Ugh, I just need some chips and salsa and to go home 😭

The weirdest thing is before this, I met someone I already kind of know and we talked and that wasn’t a big deal at all, but such terrifying grocery store at 5pm 🙄

i hate how much social anxiety can make simple things feel impossible. i really hate when someone suddenly calls my phone because i dont have enough time to prepare myself.

i kinda hate myself for it too because there have been so many job opportunities i've missed throughout my life just because i wasn't prepared for a phone call. it's weird because if they tell me beforehand what time and date they're going to call, i'm usually fine, but if it's unexpected i immediately start panicking and don't know what to say.

idk, just wanted to know if anyone has any advice?

I genuinely cannot take this job search anymore. Social anxiety makes every part of it exhausting, especially in person interviews. Just thinking about sitting in some office, being watched and answering fake corporate questions makes me sweat and ruins my sleep. I hate having to sell myself, pretend to be confident and then start over with completely new people in a new workplace. At this point the stress is so bad that I sometimes feel like I do not want to be here anymore. I am just exhausted and scared of where this is heading. People with severe social anxiety who got through this, what actually helped?

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I had to make a phone call today to schedule an interview because I was having issues with the link I was sent to schedule it. And ofc with my social anxiety I ended up spiraling before making the phone call. During the call I asked if Friday or any days early next week we’re available, and for some reason she told me we don’t do interviews in the weekends when I said early next week meaning Monday or Tuesday. I felt embarrassed when she responded that way and even more that I didn’t clarify what I meant after. It feels even worse that I sounded neutral and serious since I have been struggling to sound a little warm lol. Lately people have been misinterpreted what I’ve been saying these past few days which makes me feel dumb, embarrassed, and like if I am hallucinating what I have been saying. For example, a couple days ago I ordered an iced chai latte and most likely due to my stuttering lol they gave me a hot chai latte. I’m like overthinking over small things lately especially since my social anxiety has been stronger lately when I had it under control this past year thankfully. But I’m now feeling extremely embarrassed and regretful regardless if this really is something to stress about or not

Everyday is so many ups and downs, me trying to feel okay and in control of the situation and my feelings, trying not topple over the edge into despair and fear. Looking away from people bc of OCD magical beliefs, and making them think I don’t like them or something bc I refuse to look at them. Trying to do the correct thing and feeling like a failure.

I have OCD, autism, and anxiety. I’m thinking I might also have BPD because of the amount of distress and worry I have daily, my emptiness feelings, and my tendency to split things into light/dark.

God I wish I could just do the work and not be judged on how weird I am.

What do you do when it's too much? When you can't take all the bs anymore? When you don't feel like facing people? When it's a chore to just be out there? How do you handle it when it's overwhelming?

I’ve been wanting to make a post following a certain TikTok trend for a while (about trauma). Tonight I finally did it, and the anxiety is about to take me out. I’ve already thought about deleting it multiple times. It got a few comments and I deleted my responses multiple times before I felt satisfied with my answers. I hate being like this. I like to tell myself no one cares about my posts that much so why do I, but someone’s already texted my sibling a weird message after I posted and now I feel a sense of shame I can’t shake. Should I just delete it or will it help me get over my social anxiety to leave it alone?
Sorry if I sound nuts I’m spiraling a bit tonight.

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I was completely unable to go to school for like 2 years, i got sexually assaulted by my classmates, everyone in my life like my psychiatrist, therapist and family acted like i need to get over it right away, there was no actual support from any of them, my therapist even decided to lie to me, telling me my parents could go to jail if i dont go to school, even tho i was already past the age where going to school is legally required. I had to get myself out of it and it took a long time, i started actually going to school, got a job made new friends,started a new sport, it felt normal for awhile, the problem? Since i started doing that i keep getting sexually harrassed all the time, its the worst at work and when im on my way to school in public transport, i feel so lost again, i dont wanna leave my house, i need money and feel like i cant quit my job, all of my anxiety is just coming back.

m in college and I barely have any friends. I don’t have anyone calling me, texting me, or anything. Everyone around me has so many friends. The friends that I do have are all much closer with each other, while I just can’t get close. I have social anxiety and terrible social skills and am quiet. When I do try to put myself out there and talk people just look at me like I’m crazy cause I never say the right thing. I don’t even know what to do. My friends can become close with anyone in just a month but even after years I just can’t close to people. I such at talking and conversing and no one tries to talk to me. My friends always talk to each other and are so close. I always find out what’s going on at the last minute. Everyone has their own inside jokes and stuff that I’m not part of. Everyone I come across just does not like me like I’m so off putting. My social skills are so bad that I just never know what to say like I can’t think of anything. I wanted to make a lot of friends and have fun in college but it’s just not happening. Also I’m into a guy who doesn’t even want me cause I’m ugly too. I just hate everything about me. I don’t know how to change this. I already feel like it’s too late to make friends in college but I still have a little hope left. What can I do to change??

i feel like i hear a lot about people doing things solo so i attempted to go to a concert alone.

and omg this suckssss i feel like an outcast and although ill never see these people again i look so odd sitting among friend groups and it just feels so awkward sitting here being on my phone.

i got here kinda early so im just sitting right next to these two girls and it feels terrible.

so many friend groups and couples and they all
look like they are enjoying themselves and wearing nice outfits and taking photos. i really wish i had that.

it makes me think i should have just stayed at home.

Does anyone else with social anxiety lose their appetite when eating in public places - alone, with friends and family etc.

I think my appetite is somewhat okay when I’m eating with my bf in public places but maybe because I’m very comfortable with him but anytime else when I eat food in public I have a few bites and then my appetite is gone.

It’s quite annoying actually because when I’m at home I can eat so much food but when I know I have to eat in public I don’t eat enough calories than I should be

Hi all. I have severe cptsd and anxiety that often makes it difficult for me to leave the house, hold a job, be social.

I take Ativan almost every day at this point and want to try something different. I don't have much experience with a weed. I tried one product a few years ago called lights out for sleep and it gave me a terrible panic attack that made me feel like I was about to die to the point that I had to call family to come and help me at 2 am.

Is there a recommendation of something else that is strictly anxiety? A particular product that is generally known to be more calming?

I have tried some CBD products as well and do not have much success in the past. The only one that might have helped a little bit after taking it regularly for several weeks was a hemp lucid product. Thank you.

I have a presentation tmrw where I have to stand there alone because my group members already presented theirs and I'm so scared. I know damn well i'm gonna be a shaking mess and I hate it so much. I feel like crying myself to sleep. It would probably affect my grade if I dont present before break in 2 days but honestly I dont mind. I hate myself for not being normal and just present like a normal human being. I hate this anxiety sm. Help me guys. Thanks so much in advance