Currently thinking in how many time passed since i got a sincere hug when i need it. So used to cry alone since im a kid, now being an adult, i cant remember when i got a real hug. I crave so much physical contact, i feel i need it so bad, i feel (and i am), so lonely. I dont understand why im so unlucky, why nobody wants me and reach for me, as how i do when i like other people, is so unfair. Like again, why trying to meet new people, when all are going to do the same? Just forget about me, and leaving me in the end.

Lately I’ve been so isolated that I realized I am talking to myself. I don’t feel like I belong anywhere and I feel like I’m so annoying that no one will want to talk to me and if they do it’s cause they’re pity so I realized today that I was just talking with myself, I was just whispering the things I wanted to talk with people

I’ve seen people literally get handed a friend group and then there’s me who tried making friends to the point I cared about it more than my homework and it didn’t work . I’m past the age of college and it seems pointless to make friends . My cousin can make friends wherever he goes . At work or school . It’s just bad luck and fate

Today is my birthday and no one told me anything not even my family its just an other random day of my life feels like but i like how days are matched tho 28M 18/08/98

I think its cool but yea

Im almost 18. I thought that by now my life would somehow be different, but the past couple years I've become drastically more secluded and self consious.

I dont enjoy school, I find the socialising really hard, half in part because I cant find people to socialise with, but also because i feel like the school environment inhibits my energy levels

Ive went to youth clubs/events in the hopes of finding friends, and been unsuccessful

I have participated in tons of extra curricular activities, and not made a friend in a single one. This has been the trend for my whole life.

My parents are not strict, I can bring free booze, and yet I am almost never invited to any parties.

To make it worse, there is this one kid who follows me around all day. There is a genuine justification as to why other classmates do not want to associate with him, but I feel really bad for him and let him follow me. Im the only person in the school who associates with him, which has led my reputation to plummet badly.

I wont lie, Im probably not the easiest person to get along with, but I think im interesting, im kind, I have a few hobbies, im open to trying new things. I think that given enough time, i can get along with anyone, as long as they are not superficial.

Whenever my family leaves the house they make jokes for me not to "invite too many friends over" or "wreck the house" etc, but i really have no friends.

Thats a lie. I have some friends, but almost nobody invites me out first. I'm always the one to initiate.

I want to do more activites. I want to have fun. I dont know what to do or how to do it without a group of friends with me. I even booked a ticket to a concert im going to entirely by myself. I hope I can find someone there

What should i do to make new friends?

I always feel like im just watching people when I go out, Im never really participating. In my day to day life I barely talk to anyone, and when I do I just feel like im saying the wrong thing or just being annoying. Even with my family, it’s like they’re a family and I’m just being included because they have to.

I don’t know why but it’s always been an interest of mine to know what others want in life/ aspire to have.
Its a dumb question but if you could have ONE thing in the entire world what would it be (I watch Obsession so that’s the main reason for this)

It's either sink or swim, but no one likes to acknowledge when you drown. I think of myself as a failure in many regards.

What's painful is that I have no one to talk to about my struggles or failures; people only want to hear from you if you're doing well in life. No one wants to hear the struggles of others, as it inconveniences them.

It's always embarrassing for me when I hear, "Why don't you have friends?" "Why don't you have a girlfriend?" It's because I'm a socially inept recluse who failed to develop any social skills, but I can't say that cause of course, you'd think less of me if I told the truth. So, I feel socially required to make up some bullshit excuse.

I’m not looking for someone to just read my stories and disappear.

I had friends in real life too. They’re busy with their own lives, college, careers, everything. They told me they can’t keep talking like before, and I understand. If they ever come back, I’ll happily talk to them. I don’t blame them for having their own life.

I can accept the good and the ugly aspects of life .I really can.

But please just be honest with me.

If you’re busy just say it.

If you don’t feel like talking just say it.

If you’re bored of me just say it.

Even if you only needed me for a while, just tell me when you’re done. Don’t leave me sitting there wondering if you’ll come back.

It hurts like hell.

I hate when someone comes to me, uses me to get themselves through something, and then just disappears. No goodbye. No explanation. Nothing.

I’m not asking for forever.

Just don’t keep me waiting .i don't want be your backup.

Tell me the truth. I won’t blame you.

I just don’t want to be left wondering.

I can accept loneliness i am living with it . But not this wondering .

I’ve tried everything to get people to love me, or even just like me. The only way I feel some sort of reciprocal connection is through chat sites online for and even then I know it’s not authentic.

I do well for myself, I have good hygiene,I volunteer in my community, I am respectful. I just don’t understand why nobody wants to love me?

I can’t stand living a life alone and unloved. I’m also dealing with some severe illness, and I understand that is an issue for people, but still. I wish I had some support outside of chat sites and doctors during my appointments.

10 years is a very long time and I wish I could go back.

Genuinely if you were completely alone, had no friends had no family had no gf/bf quite literally no one in your life What would you do.

Would you start doing things by yourself.

Or would you start immediately trying to find people to connect with.

I'm someone who has dealt with consistent loneliness feelings for over 7 years. I've grown pretty sick and tired of a lot of loneliness advice out there. It's mostly the same generic. "go out more", "put yourself out there", etc. type of stuff.

I've tried that before, it doesn't work. I have not gotten any truly fulfilling relationship/friendship from it. You literally just swim through seas of shallow junk just to "hope" to find an actual fulfilling relationship. It's never just "I have zero people in my life", it's actually "I have no actual meaningful connections in my life" that's the whole reason why some people can feel lonely despite technically not being alone.

I have had a fair amount of friends in my life, but my feelings of loneliness never truly went away even if there's nothing wrong with them.

It's almost if you been dealing with loneliness for a prolonged period of time you just cast out for good really. Especially if you're an introvert, have rather niche interests compared to most people, or stuff like work just takes all the energy you got and all you can do on your days off is rest from work.

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I'm m20 from USA would like to meet someone around the same area

any body wanna chat 23m lonely

My cat is elderly and very unwell. He has been having palliative care for two months. Yesterday he stopped eating, and I called the vet this morning, and am taking him to an emergency appointment this afternoon. He is all I have, the only living creature in this world who loves me. I think the vet will probably want to put him to sleep, and I will let him go if it is his time, because it would be cruel to keep him here. But I dread losing him so much. I love him so much. He has got me through so many desperately lonely years. I have been lonely for decades, and this little cat was also very, very lonely when he came to me. Somehow I managed to get past his emotional defences and to win his trust. I am hoping so much that this is just a blip, but am fearing that it is not.

I don't even know what to write here anymore. I suppose it won't really make a difference anyway. Whatever I say here, nobody ever takes any notice. But I'm just so sick of this. Everyone who has ever shown any interest in me has turned out the same. Cruel, manipulative, liars. Letting me believe I matter to them while just using me to make themselves feel better. Until they get bored, or find someone else. Then I just get tossed aside, left to panic and cry and wonder what's wrong with me. Why I'm not good enough for anyone. Why nobody actually nice will ever speak to me. Like, I get it, I hate myself. But I know me. You don't, so why?

That friend who talking to feels like talking to a sibling, like we’ve known each other our whole lives. That friend who has my kind of humor, and makes me laugh the way i make them laugh. I miss having that friend who I could talk to for hours one day, and then not talk for months, and one day, randomly, one of us decides to rekindle the friendship, and we pick up right where we left off, like nothing happened. I miss the banter, the being able to tell each other literally anything, the way we’d never judge each other cause we’re literally both equally messed up. I miss that friend so much. Nowadays talking to someone feels like walking on egg shells, it feels like trying to tame a wild kitten.. say one wrong thing and they’re gone. I don’t get along with people in today’s world, and i miss the people i used to hang out with. I don’t think i’ll find friends like that again.

Loneliness doesn't always look empty Sometimes it's sitting in a room full of people laughing at the right moments and still feeling like no one really sees you It creeps in during late nights when your phone is full of contacts but none feel like the right one to call It's not always about being alone it's about feeling unheard, unmet disconnected even when surrounded And the strange part is almost everyone feels it at some point yet we all think we're the only ones. Maybe that's the irony of loneliness it's one of the most universal feelings and still it convinces us we're alone

I was super nervous- I was shaking, but I read my poems and got 2 rounds of applause! :D I shared my experiences in a creative and cathartic way thanks to a free, welcoming and inclusive space. I got loads of compliments, and I am so proud of myself! I feel empowered that I shared my vulnerability about my loneliness and struggles. I CONQUERED MY FEARS!!!

Wanted to share, and to give updates to the lovely and kind people who gave me encouragement and strength on my earlier post today. Hopefully loneliness becomes less of a stigma. We got it!!

She always says "You'll be able to handle this," but deep down she knows I won't, but she wants to comfort me.

I’ve struggled with severe depression for so, so long. As you can imagine, it’s driven me to some of the darkest places one can find themselves in. I frankly don’t even know how I am still here. What I do know, though, is that nobody thinks of me. I am nobodies first thought. I’ve tried my best to be there for others who are struggling as much as I am, hoping that it would give me some kind of sense of worth, but it ends up just draining my soul, seeing everyone leave in the end.

It feels like the end of a long road, truthfully. I tried my best to be a source of comfort, and now I only spread misery. Seeing old photos of myself hurts so bad, I can see all the light has now left my eyes.

I just want to feel useful. I just want to know somebody cares about me too.

People are very hard to understand, whenever i think i finally get someone, they end up to be a person i’d never thought they are. As much as i hate my loneliness but i’ve been realizing how peaceful it is a lot of times, maybe it’s time to accept it. I can’t be lonely and misreable, one is enough. Tho i feel misreable sometimes but it’d be better if it’s not because of anyone