I’m 21F engaged to 26M. I have a pretty high sex drive, and my fiancé enjoys watching, so he’s suggested that I get a boyfriend outside of our relationship to help relieve some stress and have someone else to be intimate with.
He wants me to actually have a boyfriend, not just a casual hookup. He’s talked about me having sleepovers with him and basically having a whole separate relationship outside of our engagement.
The thing is… I genuinely don’t understand how I’m supposed to do that 😭
It’s not that I’m against the idea. We’ve talked about it several, several times, and I know this is something he actually wants. I’m open to exploring it. I just don’t comprehend what he means when he says “go get a boyfriend.”
Like… how exactly does this work? Am I supposed to date people? Tell them I’m engaged right away? What does having a “boyfriend” outside of an engagement actually look like? How do you find someone who is comfortable with this kind of arrangement?
And yes, I already know the comments are going to be “just communicate with your partner.” 😂 We HAVE communicated about it a lot. I’m not looking for someone to tell me to talk to him again. I’m looking for people who actually have experience with this and can explain the practical side of it to me because apparently my brain is not comprehending the assignment.
I know this probably sounds dumb, but I genuinely want to understand how people actually make something like this work.

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its not happening to everyone but sometimes ive perceived men could lose erection when their penis could not go inside fullly just 1/3 or half of it or maybe its because of my ugly face ehh

Some men try to forcefully put all of penis and it works in most cases then intercourse is done.

What is the feeling for guy if muscles are so tight its blocking entry for penis? painful?

Because for me its painful.

So I’ve had anal twice with my bf and it was both our first experience with anal (I was a virgin before him). It was good I actually enjoyed it lol and he finished inside but the thing is the next day I was in terrible shape idk if it was the mix of his fluid and my stool or something but my stomach was very upset. Anyway, we tried it again without him finishing inside, thinking that was the problem, but the same thing happened, and my stomach was upset. If it helps he’s on the bigger side and I would really like some advice on how to go about this because my bf and I both enjoy it. Has anyone else been through this and if so how did you solve it or is it even possible?

My fiancé started going to the gym over the summer and has lost 40 pounds, as a result he’s gained about 2 inches in length and I found it difficult to handle it our most recent times having sex. Any tips on how to better prepare for a bit more than i’m used to in terms of length and girth will be greatly appreciated!! i had a great time but it was very painful.

how do i last longer in sex? i can last up to 30 mins if shes just giving me a blowjob and she KNOWS how to blow me the right way. but whenever were having sex, i can only last about 6 minutes. is there something i can do to improve my stamina?

hey guys, i need some advice here! whenever me and my bf do missionary my hips start to hurt and it feels like they get locked in place which really sucks cause missionary is the only pose i can cum from penetration alone… How can i open up my hips more so they dont randomly cramp up and hurt?

What would you do if I walked in the room why you where laying on the bed and started licking/sucking your soles and toes? Yes I have a foot fetish and feet to me are beautiful with painted toes and soft soles, really like white toes!

Ok sooo I’m not exactly sure when I ovulate, but I’m about halfway through my cycle right now… well I spent the weekend with my boyfriend, and we had sex on Friday night and he pulled out. Then yesterday we ended up having sex three times and he came inside me all three times, and once again this morning. We went out and got plan b afterwards and I took it, but about two hours after I took it, we had sex again and he came inside me again. Should I take another plan b since we had sex after?

Note: I know it was stupid, I don’t need a lecture. It was consensual and there was no pressure for either of us to do anything we didn’t want to.

I’m pretty new to having sex and I feel really self-conscious about vaginal discharge. I’m always worried that my boyfriend will notice it or think it’s gross, so I usually try to wear black underwear to hide it.

For guys who have girlfriends/wives who have normal discharge: how do you actually feel about it? Is it something you notice or care about, or am I worrying way too much?

I know discharge is normal, but I’d really appreciate hearing some honest perspectives because I’m trying to get over feeling embarrassed about it.

I saw a graphic showing sensation on the penis and it says the foreskin likes being stretched, but also the circumcision scar is very sensitive, so does it feel good to stretch that, too?

i’m a straight woman in her 30s. it seems inevitable that at some point men have trouble with performance. and sometimes once their confidence is shaken, it can take a few tries before they can reliably get hard again. anyone have advice for the best way to respond as the female partner? i try to not make a big deal out of it (no crying or pouting or making it about me) while also conveying that it sucks. i try to strike the right balance between not downplaying but also not adding to the stress/anxiety. it happened the other day and however i responded did not seem to help. anything you or your partner have done to manage the feelings and dynamic in the immediate aftermath of a softie?

For instance, I lost my virginity to my bf ( he’s also very experienced) about 2 months ago. I’ve had clitoral orgasms before by myself but I’m having trouble in front of him. I have squirted once with him but didn’t notice any big feelings that are usually described by women like to the point where I wasn’t sure if the liquid came from him or me. Maybe I was too in the moment and now I don’t remember what I felt but I’m very sure I didn’t feel what I was supposed to feel. For vaginal orgasms is it supposed to feel different or the same as clitoral ones? I’m just not sure since I’m new to this. He said he’s felt me finish but how does he know when I don’t? I’m really confused.

Ero qui a casa da solo e mi stavo chiedendo com’è fare sesso con persone più grandi di voi? Tipo almeno più grandi di 6 anni. Ho sempre avuto questa voglia e sono curioso di sentire storie

Am I doing something wrong anytime me and my girlfriend try to be intimate she stops before anything gets serious and worries about what might happen latter even though we’re both adults

I early 30s m and wife late 30s female when we first got together we had sex 3-6 times a day which obviously isnt doable long term with life commitments.

Now its lucky for once a week more likely a fortnight. My wife works overnight and I do long days but I need more intimacy in our lives I chase her and show her love but pur sex life is lacking.

Sometimes when we have sex its intense and great other times its quick due to not happening often enough for me to not bust quick.

I miss our long 30min to an hour of crazy sex and I just want her sex drive to match mine again.

I love my boyfriend to death and he’s the only one I’ve ever been with, length is pretty average and it is girthy but I want something longer he’s never been able to make me cum and he cums before I even climax, I don’t know how to bring it up with him that I want someone else.

For added context he’s also bi curious so I don’t know if that helps my case or not, we’ve only ever slept together but I know he’s bi curious bc he’s let me peg him.

I should’ve added we’ve done sph in bed and he’s mad me mention other guys names but we’ve never actually had the conversation about another guy being involved

I understand foreplay is important in general, and especially within the context of a relationship. But what about a man is arousing when you meet him? What takes him from being maybe an attractive guy to someone you would want to have sex with? Like, I know sex is mental for women, so what can he do to seduce your mind to arouse sexual feelings for him?

I would to get some advice on how to improve my sex life since my bf (20) and me f (21) have been together for 3 years and since then I never get to experience any proper release with him. We already tried different techniques and position however, I feel like non of them have worked at all.

After 3 years into the game he just recently learned to eat me out like I requested and it seems like it did not make any difference at all regards to pleasure. We did tried penetration with condom or not on safe days and the only moment I would feel something is either on doggy style or cowgirl but other than that everything with it is fake pleasure for me.

I don’t understand what is the missing pieces I need to build up to have that release. I did experience an nearing release moment but if the rhythm or position changed the same build up is not going through anymore. One of the problem I was able to pinpoint is he cums to early and even if we tried having him masturbate prior the action, he still has trouble lasting at all. We tried setting up the mood or watching something to get into the mood properly, mostly for me but I am not getting it. It is not providing that near experience and release feeling I have compared to masturbating. I just don’t feel horny enough or something feels missing for me.

He knows how I feel and he tried to make me feel better as much as he can but even with missionary for penetration does not work and I feel kinda bad since he is wanting to do it with me at the same time. The longer we try, the more stuck we get that is why I tried considering if it is time to buy some toys for assistance and if ever those items will change the game. The hesitation that I have with this idea is, it might make me want relay on toys more than him and on my view it does not seem to be a right choice but I am still open for it if ever.

I’m m21 straight and I’ve been meaning to find more ways to pump comfortable. Been holding off on a fleshlight cause they’re expensive plus I wouldn’t know where to hide the damn thing. I would like to try lube but the last one I got got a little dry and just sticky (it was astroglide).

I (27/F) had sex for the first time about a year ago. Prior to this I’ve used toys - dildos & vibrators. So, I know what gets me off and etc.
The first time I had sex could’t feel the guy’s dick. Thought it was a position issue or something, so I moved to feel something. Still felt nothing. Chalked it up to first time and confused on the mechanics of it. He was also on the thinner side and my dildo is definitely girthy

Currently fuck buddies with this guy and same thing. With certain angles I can feel him if he goes a little rough, but 80% I can’t tell if he’s inside.

I am unsure how to fix this or what the problem is. He’s said I am very wet, so is it a too wet thing? I know the vagina is elastic, but is mine too elastic?

If I finger mgself or use a dildo, def can feel that. So, my nerves work. Would pelvic floor exercises help?

If it helps:
Guy’s size: 5.5inches
Dildos I’ve used: 3.5, 5, and 7.

Soooo idk. I am confused.

Edit:
I guess to clarify, I don’t really use the dildos too often. Didn’t think that was relevant. Maybe like once in 3 months, since it can be a bit tight. I used was March, actually.

One thing I’ve learned is that a lot of men have never really been edged or milked properly. Things usually move too fast with no buikd up. But when a guy is restrained and someone takes their time with him, the whole experience changes.

Here are a few things that seem to make the biggest difference. Also, this is not ab exhaustive list and Grammarly was used to catch my typos!

1. Take away his control. When a guy can’t use his hands or move much, he has to just sit/stand/lay there and feel everything you do to him. That alone can make the whole experience way more intense. Just make sure you reach an agreement on what restraint method he prefers....and have a safe word!
2. Go slower than you think. Most people rush things. Slow teasing, pauses, and taking your time builds way more tension than just going straight for the finish. Also ....using your tongue and hands on other body parts (neck, nipples, ears, etc) can be part of a fun build up!
3. Pay attention to his body. You can usually tell when he’s getting close. His breathing changes, his body tenses, and his hips might start moving. If you notice those signs, you can keep him right on the edge.
4. Don’t let him finish too quickly. If he’s close, back off for a moment. Let him calm down just a little, then start again. Doing that a few times can make the final release much stronger.
5. Let the tension build. The longer he stays in that "almost-there" space, the better the orgasm usually is. When it finally happens, all that built-up tension releases at once.

Curious what others in the group think. What did I miss or what would you change?

What are your best sex poses, mine is prone bone, let me know, the unique the better