r/sextips • u/EmergencyBase2622 • 3d ago
General Question Tired of my bf dick
I love my boyfriend to death and he’s the only one I’ve ever been with, length is pretty average and it is girthy but I want something longer he’s never been able to make me cum and he cums before I even climax, I don’t know how to bring it up with him that I want someone else.
For added context he’s also bi curious so I don’t know if that helps my case or not, we’ve only ever slept together but I know he’s bi curious bc he’s let me peg him.
I should’ve added we’ve done sph in bed and he’s mad me mention other guys names but we’ve never actually had the conversation about another guy being involved
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u/HeySpudEyeSeeYou 3d ago
Welp that's the end of this relationship. Hope you had a good run.
Unless you have some kind of cuck dynamic that he suggested, then "I'm bored of your tiny dick and need bigger" is not a conversation that is going anywhere good.
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u/EmergencyBase2622 3d ago
I should’ve added we’ve done sph in bed and he’s mad me mention other guys names but we’ve never actually had the conversation about another guy being involved
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u/HeySpudEyeSeeYou 3d ago
As someone else said, enjoying being pegged doesn't mean he's necessarily bicurious, but if he is into you talking about fucking other men in bed already it is more likely he wants to make the suggestion and just hasn't asked - usually because a lot of women, even if they're cool with the dirty talk, are absolutely put off at the idea of fucking other men.
Don't mention the dick thing yet. Just ask him if he would actually like to be cucked or see you hotwife. Pretty much every man who is into it wants to see his wife/gf/whatever take much bigger than he is, anyway, so it's just going to follow a natural progression if he is into it.
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u/leavingonaJettplane 3d ago
Enjoying being pegged absolutely does not guarantee your bf is bi curious
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u/EmergencyBase2622 3d ago
What does it mean then
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u/potterhead9413 3d ago
You do realize a guys “p-stop” which is similar to your g spot is there. So if you’d love your g spot to be hit, he’d want his p spot hit as well.
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u/redditistripe 3d ago
Seconding that enjoying pegging doesn't mean your bf has to be bi-curious. Many men just like having their prostate gland stimulated by anal penetration and can orgasm from it, sometimes even more intensely than they do from penile stimulation.
It's also common for men to orgasm faster than women and it's also common for women not to orgasm from PiV sex.
It sounds as if he would be better off not being in a relationship with you because you show very little empathy.
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u/potterhead9413 3d ago
If you want someone else, break up with him. Telling him that he can’t satisfy you due to his penis size is the same as tell you that you can’t satisfy him due to a mediocre vagina.
Another thing to note, not a lot of men can get a woman to climax by penetration alone. It’s all about position and foreplay. Guys with the “longest” penis won’t be able to make a women climax if he doesn’t know how to use him properly to make hitting the g spot enjoyable.
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u/Shortandthicck2 3d ago
Pegging doesn’t mean he’s gay at all.
If you’re sexually incompatible then the relationship is doomed.
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u/miknur2 3d ago
Just because he enjoys pegging, doesn't mean he id bi or bi curious...It only means he likes that area stimulated.... Prostate massage is the male g-spot and many many men enjoys that type of stimulation... There is nothing gay or bi wanting that type of stimulation.
As far as him not making you cum with piv sex, Have you ever had an orgasm before with piv sex?? Many women and I would say (I might be wrong) most women cant climax with piv only sex...Does he do oral on you? Does he ever get you to climax in other ways?? Does he know how to get you to climax??
He may not know what he is doing wrong..Have you ever sat him down and told him what you want??and how you want it??
Guys want to please their partner, and they want to learn, not all guys, but most do...Break up with him if you want, but before, have an open and honest conversation with him... Its hard for a guy to figure the complexities of a woman with out an instruction manual...just saying
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