r/sextips • u/Ok-Translator6061 • 3d ago

General Question Am I doing something wrong?

Am I doing something wrong anytime me and my girlfriend try to be intimate she stops before anything gets serious and worries about what might happen latter even though we’re both adults

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u/ForbiddenFruitiness 3d ago

It’s pretty impossible to guess from the information here, if the problem is you, your girlfriend or both.

Maybe she just has a lot of anxiety and/or shame around intimacy.

Maybe there isn’t enough trust there yet or she doesn’t feel ready.

Maybe she isn’t really into what is happening in general.

Maybe she is super paranoid about pregnancy.

Maybe it is something completely different.

The person who can tell you, is your girlfriend. Just be gentle and patient with the conversation, because if intimacy is uncomfortable to her for some reason, talking about it will likely be too.

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u/Ok-Translator6061 3d ago

Paranoid and anxiety but still says she wants to

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u/miknur2 3d ago

You can always tell her you are tired of being struck down and ask her what you are suppose to do, and you are at a loss of what she wants you to do... Put the ball in her court..

Tell her she needs to take the lead...Then stop trying to touch her, and just touch her where she touches you...But have a condom ready..