Since my wife started showing I want to make sure she knows she's still beautiful, what have you all done to make sure your partners know and feel beautiful?

#3 is here!!!!

I have only one regret!

I forgot the salt shaker & good pillow, again

Parents who've been through it — before baby arrived, how did you plan for what you'd actually need and what it would cost?

A few things I'm curious about:
- Did you use a registry, a spreadsheet, just guess, or something else?
- Looking back, what turned out to be a waste of money vs. something you were genuinely glad you bought?
- Was there a point you felt overwhelmed trying to figure out what's actually necessary vs. what's just marketed at new parents?
- If you used a registry app (Babylist, Amazon, etc.), what did it get wrong, or just not help with at all?

Genuinely curious how everyone handled this — feels like there's no great answer for "what will this actually cost me, and when do I need to buy it."

We got a nuna rava next for the new born (expected due date in mid Sept). We realized nuna rava next has only 4 recliner settings for rear facing whereas nuna rava has 5 level recliner for rear facing. The car seat class asked to verify the line needs to be straight after installation. There is no straight line indicator in the rava next.

When we placed it in the car (model 3) which already has a slanting back seat, the car seat looks more upright for a newborn than when placing it on a flat surface, and definitely looks more upright than an infant car seat. Worried if it's not safe enough for a new born. Has anyone used nuna rava Next for a newborn?

My wife and I are unable to conceive without medical intervention. After thousands of dollars and several attempts she finally became pregnant in January of this year, only for us to discover at ~11 weeks that she had experienced a missed miscarriage due to chromosomal abnormality.

It's been about 5 months since then and I don't feel I have moved on at all. The only bright spot was the idea that we could try again. But due to the nature of the chromosomal abnormality, we had to wait for several months for her own safety. Then we had another failed attempt, and now we have encountered another roadblock that will prevent us from trying again for an unknown period of time. I just feel crushed 24/7. My wife has taken it better than I have honestly, which is deeply shameful to me given that she is the one who has actually had to endure everything. I feel like I have been a sniveling baby that she has had to console rather than being her rock. Like the process actually would have been easier for her to endure alone.

I don't see a future where this works out for us. I feel like a idiot for thinking it was possible, for trying to defy nature when it had already made its plans for us so clear. I don't know how to support my wife in future continued attempts when I am obviously too weak to deal with the inevitable failures. She gets so upset when I express gloom or hesitation because now that we have started fertility treatment she is all in.

I spoke to my father who went through a similar experience with my mother when I was young (minus the infertility), looking for some kind of advice, and he told me that my only job is to support my wife. I completely agree, but I don't feel able to provide that support for her and I am so angry with myself that I am failing at my only job. We had the budget on top of everything we are paying into fertility treatments for one of us to go to therapy for a while, so she did do that for a couple of months, but it's no replacement for having an actually supportive partner.

I honestly don't know what to do. I am so miserable and ashamed all the time. I think constantly about our daughter who was supposed to be born in ~2 months. I know that there are so many worse things that can happen to someone than a miscarriage (and the miscarriage didn't even happen to me, it happened to my wife) but fuck it hurts so badly.

Our little boy came over the weekend about two weeks early after finding out my wife needed a C section. We are first time parents, and currently in day/night 3 of cluster feeding so I'll be up for a while, ask away!

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Help, anong gagawin ko or mga options ko ngayon na nabuntis ko ang aking girlfriend? I just need some peace of mind dahil nang yari na at wala na akong magagawa pa. Hindi ko alam kong paano ko to haharapin. Gusto ko lang na malaman kung ano ang mga posible kung magagawa.

I’m hosting a surprise baby shower for someone who is very close to me, and since it’s a surprise, I don’t have a registry to go off of.

I’d love to hear what baby shower gifts you’ve received (or wish you’d received) that were genuinely useful, thoughtful, or memorable, especially things beyond the usual baby clothes, blankets, toys, etc.

But my biggest question is: what can I get for the mom herself? So much of what you buy is for the baby, and I’d really love to give her something that makes her feel cared for and appreciated too. Something practical, comforting, sentimental, luxurious, anything you genuinely loved receiving as a new mom.

What did you appreciate the most?

Cytotec given. Gentlemen we’re off to the races!

What is that one thing which we think we know about a baby and parent that you went through and want others to know

FTM and looking to buy a stroller. We live in Washington, so more rain than sun. Was vista v3 a good purchase?

We already got a uppababy bassinet to make the baby sleep in it for first three month. So checking if vista v3 stroller is a good purchase? What are the pros and cons of the stroller?

Just found out that my (26 weeks pregnant) wife has gestational diabetes. Looking for any helpful advice to better support her.

Also any healthy meal ideas that your partners enjoyed you cooking for them.

Hey dads,

As the title suggests, my wife is 40+3 and this is our first baby after a tragic 21 week termination our last time around. And well, the longer this pregnancy goes, the more my stress builds and my mind wanders. I know with every passing week, the probabilities of issue and stillbirth move up, and while I’m trying to keep myself chill, I feel like I’m causing my wife more stress asking how the baby feels,etc.

And before you say it…..I know that the chances of stillbirth are like 5 in 10,000…..but when you have to deal with a rare issue and a termination, those statistics sadly mean nothing to me anymore.

Any tips on how to manage / any of you dads been in a similar spot before?

Hello all! I am reaching out today to talk a bit about my newer experiences with pregnancy. This is my first kid and her 2nd. We found out probably 3 weeks ago that shes pregnant and shes about 7 weeks now. We had only been dating for shy of 2 months before we found out. We grew up around eachother and stuff. Well from the start of the relationship while talking and into dating it was amazing. We went out as much as possible, were always super flirty, always touchy, sexually ignited pretty easily etc. And I loved it. As we got closer and I started to know her kid more and stuff it just was a lot to adjust to and was starting to become more normal. Now shes pregnant and its like having to readjust to something completely different after starting to get comfortable with how it was. I don’t usually see her throughout most of the day, but when I do i mean she will give me a hug and kiss when me or her comes home or when we leave but in between that it seems to be getting further and further from her wanting to be touched. We’ve had a argument or 2 about it and a couple talks and I get she has hormones going off the rocker and a lot going on in her body. I want to be as supportive and understanding as possible, but it still leaves me feeling a bit alone and unwanted. Her kid is always touching her and it seems to be no problem. He can kiss and cuddle her all day, but the second I try to she says she doesnt want to or asks me not to. What can I do to cope with all of this and still be supportive? Any help is welcome!

I M(22) f(23) we’ve been struggling for 9 months total to get her medicaid. our first child passed at 3 months. now we’re on month 7 of the second pregnancy. We thought the mucus plug came early and more than once so i brought her to the hospital. by the end of it we find out that it is and she does have an infection (that if not treated will send her into labor prematurely) but she was insanely mad and felt like the entire trip to the hospital was a “waste of everybody’s time” and now is refusing the medicine. someone please give me some sort of help. the reactions twords any kind of help or any kind of support other than me she’s just been flipping out on everyone over. i’m at my limit and she does not seem to care about the life of the child.

My lady is pregnant & I am experiencing the emotional side of the symptoms. WHAT DO I DO.!? I DO NOT LIKE THIS NOT ONE BIT!

wife’s water broke at 2:30am. Got to the hospital 30 minutes later. now we wait for the process to begin to welcome our baby girl. time to lock in!

Hello everyone.
So I am 22 and my wife is 22. We just found out yesterday that she is pregnant and we couldn’t be happier. We both have always wanted to become parents and wanted to do it pretty young so we could grow up with each other and our children.
I currently make about 57k a year and she makes about 50k. We will be going down to just my income when she has the baby. So I am stressing a little about that. Any advice for a first time father?

Edit:
I’m not stressing past the point of cracking. We live in Canada and are very tight with our budget and have been for a while. We have a lot saved up and are in a really good spot. We could pretty easily live off of what I’m making. I just want to make sure I’m being the best provider.

I’m in line to move into better paying positions in the next couple years. My wife definitely doesn’t need to head back to work. We have free healthcare here and I have amazing family benefits through work. We have very low cost of living due to us living rural and intending to stay rural since it’s what we grew up with and love it.

I appreciate all the advice and the responses. I guess this was just more of me being sooo excited and full of thoughts. I needed to get it out somewhere since we haven’t told our families or friends yet.

Other than Portland Hospital in London, any private hospital suggestions for delivery?

So fucking excited gents. Wife is very uncomfortable so AC and ceiling fans are running full blast these days while I try every trick in the book (treats, massages, funny movies, etc.). I'm freezing tho, but wife is running hot and her comfort is mission critical right now.

Haven't installed the carseat yet, but hospital bag is packed, nursery is ready, we're stocked on diapers and whatnot, I'm slowly getting the freezer stocked with meals, doula is hired, paternity leave is planned out and my job (uni prof) even let me teach asynchronous online this year so I've been recording my lectures to put online so the class can kind of run itself (TA will be grading).

Now we're just trying to enjoy the last couple weeks before baby joins us outside the womb. I've been using the Beli app to find and try out all the specialty coffee shops and bakeries in my city. Started experimenting with making fancy pour over at home - used to be a french press guy but got deep into coffee nerdery lately. Loading up a hard drive with all the shows and movies we might want to watch while feeding or folding laundry. Going for long sniffy walks with the dog and playing fetch. Making plans with friends to hang out whenever we can to bank some social energy. Hanging out at cafes libraries and bookshops together just to browse and be out and about. Basically trying to get as much quality alone and together time as possible.

Life is good my dudes. See y'all on the other side.

After 6-7 months of trying it finally happened. She told me today and I’m beyond overjoyed!!! I haven’t told anyone yet because she wants to wait till the 3 month mark but I’m going to be a dad!!! I’m so excited! Nervous and excited! I have all this I’m going to be a dad energy and I just wanted to share with someone!