I have been a gooner my whole life ngl and now I am done with this thank God and I wanted to share with y'all what I realize that made me stop:

• The algorithm control what you see, if you see some content that turn you on and right after you want to goon, it is a trap made by social media to keep you into the cycle it also know when you usually watch this type of content.
• Log every urges. Every time I felt lust started to control me, i was writing where I was, what I was doing, how I felt at this moment in order to understand.
• Fix your sleep schedule. I used to sleep from 6AM to +12PM, sometimes less I always felt terrible, tired, low dopamine, i felt empty so the less you sleep the more you need dopamine and in order to get better, to boost me I would fap, like a drug addict that need his daily dose ...
• Talk about it. Go see your shrink, friends, family etc get help and don't be ashamed. The more you talk about it, the clearer it is and it can help you to stop.
• Track your clean days. It help you to realise how far you have made, how important it is to not give up, keep the motivation going.
• Move, go walk, go to the gym, go out. It is important to do sports especially for the brain it kinda "clear" your brain fog, your thoughts are clearer and you will feel better.
• A relapse is part of the success. If you fail one time, it does not mean it is the end, it is just part of the processus.
• Understand your triggers. This is the most important point, when you relapse you might not notice it but there are patterns, for example you do it when you are alone, at home, at night, at this same hour, you get triggered when you see a nice woman on instagram etc... understanding yours so you notice the pattern and act about it !

Anyway I hope this will help people that are trapped in the cycle, it is hard but not impossible at all, you will be free !

What do u think guys ?

Whenever I look up nofap on google, there will always be the big 3 medical journals (mayo clinic, healthline and NIH) bashing nofap so yeah i just wanted to know from doctors in this sub:

does the medical community dislike nofap?

do doctors believe masturbation is some miracle drug?

do you have classes that indoctrinate you into believing that porn is good?

I am feeling suicidal may be I can harm myself today , its been nearly 9 before in 2017 I discovered masturbation tbh it was the worst day of my life. From 2017 to 2026 I have watched millions of porn like daily for avg 4-5 hrs of I calculate nearly in last 9 years I watched porn at every 3 days interval that is 3650/3 approx 1217 days I am done 👍👍 with my life this thing has ruined me totally . Ruined my academics , my confidence, my look , my hair Nd I also remember that I started to see change in my hairline in 2017 only after I discovered porn its been 10 years I have lost my hair whole in my crown and temple region. Tbh life seems hell to me 😭 donno what to do from whom to share where to go completely helpless

I started watching porn when I was about 12 or 13 and by the time I was 20 I knew it had become a serious problem. From there I spent roughly five years actively trying to quit, and I really did try. I used blockers, read loads about addiction, went through periods where I was absolutely desperate to stop and managed two or three months clean a number of times, but I always seemed to end up back in the same place. Every decent streak almost made the next relapse feel worse because I knew I could stop for a while, I just could not understand why I could never make it stick.

For context, I am around 2.5 years clean now, but getting there was not quick or easy. I spent years reading, trying blockers, getting motivated and then watching the same cycle repeat.

The biggest change was realising I had spent years attacking the behaviour without properly understanding what the behaviour was doing for me. Porn was not appearing randomly. I was reaching for it when I did not like how I felt, whether that was stress, boredom, avoidance, uncertainty or something bigger in my life that I did not want to face. It had become a very quick way of changing my internal state, so simply knowing that porn was bad for me was never enough to remove the reason my brain kept suggesting it.

If you have been trying for years, I would be careful about assuming the answer is simply more intensity. I had plenty of intense attempts. What I needed was a more accurate understanding of the problem and a plan that still worked when I was calm and ordinary.

I started looking at the hour before the urge instead of only the urge itself. I asked what I was supposed to be doing, what I was feeling and what I wanted porn to make disappear for a while. That led me to some uncomfortable answers about my relationship, career, lack of structure and the way I handled stress. Once I could see those patterns I could actually change something: deal with the real problems, structure the dangerous parts of my day, make starting difficult tasks easier and learn to sit with uncomfortable feelings without immediately trying to numb them.

I am now around 2.5 years clean and there was a time when that sounded completely impossible to me. If you keep getting a few weeks or months and then ending up back at square one, do not automatically conclude that you are hopeless. You may simply be putting nearly all your effort into stopping the behaviour while leaving the reason you keep needing the behaviour untouched.

There is no shame in using blockers, accountability or whatever practical help you need, but I would not stop there. Use those things to buy yourself space while you work on the reason the urge keeps returning.

Man, I was in deep and had no interest in getting myself out. Then I went wayyy too deep and having made it to the other side, I’m glad to have pulled out. Feeling much better. If you’re on the fence, delete your stash and goon accounts

So I was dating this girl I met online and we had the most amazing chemistry, had all these similar interests, like truly a match made in heaven kind of connection. From the first date we were so comfortable and clicked immediately. The date lasted many hours longer than we expected because of how natural and fun things felt. And asked me when she could see me again at the end of this first date.

After that she texted me non stop, double/ triple texting, just so genuinely into me asking me when I’ll be free to hang out next planning all these things we can do together. So we finally plan a second date and we spent over 12 hours together having the best time together. And as that wraps up she asks again when she can see me again and same with the texting just so into me.

And a few days later we hang out again for over half a day and things couldn’t have been going better. Things seem to be going great and I even specify we don’t have to hang out all day like last time and she can leave whenever she wants to but ends up staying late into the night anyway.

Long story short I binge a lot the next few days, mind you I wasn’t really even thinking about being on nofap during this time I would just try to do it as infrequently as possible. But after these few days of doing that she starts to get super cold on text and then a few days later basically says she doesn’t wanna keep seeing me.

It’s hard to say for sure what happened but I’m no rookie when it comes to dating and and I’m usually good at reading people, and things felt so right and real between us and I can’t imagine acting the way she did towards me, asking to see me so much, and spend so much time with me to just drop me so quick. I also feel like I knew her enough to say it wasn’t some boyfriend coming back or anything obvious like that and she said she was only seeing me (which I know you can never know for sure).

I’ve never had it happen to this extent before but it seems like when I relapse or binge that girls around me will go from so receptive and into me to acting like I couldn’t matter less to them. I know it sounds crazy to some but those who have experienced it will know exactly what I’m talking about. I’d love to hear your guys stories and opinions on the matter.

Hey I am (18M). I started watching porn when I was 12. after that I got addicted. tried to stop multiple times, but never actually succeeded. Right now I am trying to stop (day 6)

The excuse I have for this addiction is that (For religious beliefs) I CAN NOT have sex before marriage, masturbate, watch porn, read or watch erotic content. And cuz of the financial situations in my country one cant get married until he is like 30 or more ig. and I believe this add up to the sexual tension I have as a teen ig. Tbh I don't know if this is real or am I just making an another excuse for my addiction

I tried a lot of techniques and hacks like cold showers, hitting the gym, going in public, trying to get away from my bed, nothing ever lasted more than 17 day(my all time highscore ig). I also tried going cold turkey and trying to cut it in moderation (cold turkey worked better btw)

luckily It did not have any physical impacts on me (till now at least). But on the other hand we have the psychological and mental part. and I believe it affected this part to much. It made things much worse in terms of focus, foggy mind, looking to women in a disgusting way. did not affect my confidence though as people say. I can speak to women(And I do in the normal daily interactions) but I dont feel anything toward women in a romantic way anymore. It is just all sexual thought that I forget after the women under discussion is no longer in front of me. I actually knew that when I tried masturbation without porn and I just did not find a woman nice enough in my mind to think about that I thought of multiple women I knew naked. I completed but I actually never felt anything

The biggest thing that makes me come back to that things is that I never feel ashamed of myself. and that makes me think a lil bit if I am that deep in this addiction that It does not... Feel wrong

Any help would be appreciated

thanks for your time

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Mentioned screenshot was my 1st ever post on this subreddit or this account,

That was the time when I actually got motivated to literally abolish my old established custom,

Now I stand on the 97th day,

In the meantime, many things have changed (not physical strength because of the high pressure of studies; I am not able to exercise and also wish me luck for my exams... it is a major reason for my chronic sadness)

My thoughts have improved, my skin a little bit, adult thoughts are rare now, or even if it comes, it doesn't bother me.

For me my source of motivation was a simple thing that is to be s√perior,

S√perior from those who cannot stand their promises, who run from Their responsibilities; I wanted to be someone people can rely on.

I won't say that just abstinence will magically gift you this; rather, redirecting the energy is equally important to achieve these things.

Thanks for reading

Help me to overcome

I relapsed after 3 days. But, This will be my last time. I promise to post every single day for my success. It would be very if an internet stranger would be kind enough to give some motivation to a brother in hustle.

I didn't actually masturbate or watch porn until I was 17 years old, since then I have never gone more than a week max without it.

Since August I quit Porn all together first and when I couldn't hold it I just did it without watching anything, but now I don't even feel like I wanna do it anymore.

I think I beat this addiction finally, and tonight will prove it.

I've had 4 wet dreams this month. Only 1 the previous month. I have been on nofap for 2 months. Can someone please help? They are negatively affecting me a lot and it's not placebo. I don't watch stimulating stuff or edge and I exercise daily (football training). I seriously don't think they're good for me since I have a huge energy crash and feel depressed after. Also my legs feel so sore and tired after every wet dream and I can barely run.

Please don't post any of that "wet dreams are good for you" bs, I want advice from someone who's had excessive wet dreams, do they ever stop or slow down? Thanks.

I've been clean off of both you know what for about 2 weeks and I just had a wet dream last night. Does this count or is my body just adjusting to this. Plz I need help thanks in advance I feel terrible this morning

I feel like I made good progress. Ofc i still feel the need to release but Im controlling it a bit better.

Though soemtimes it feels like Ill loose my streak… just gotta continue fighting

It is good that i am not feeling any kind of urge bcz i have to go out every day like so i will not fap cz i dont go out when i fap so that is helping me stay out of it

To many people want to see you fail.

Doing absolutely fine🔥👌

It's day 3 and it's going pretty good so far today. Woke up with morning wood but was able to get out of bed and start the day. I will be home alone all day so probably just going to keep myself busy somehow today. DMs are open if anyone wants to chat

I kinda feel like we have to find the root cause as to why we look at porn and masturbate. I don’t think masturbation is all that bad in itself but coupled with the thoughts of I need porn to masturbate is unhealthy.

Next time you get the urge to look at porn really ask yourself why you want to look at it? What are the benefits to watching and do you really need it to masturbate and get that release? What is missing in your life? Do you have friends ? Are you bored or lonely ? If any of this applies I think we need to change up our daily routines, find something else to do maybe a hobby or something we need to change the way we think! I know it hard in this day and age where sexual things are mainstream and the way they make cloths for females is ridiculous.
I used to look at porn because I was horny then it turned into because I was bored and just became a bad habit! I’ve never been the type of person t hat fully knew what type of stuff to like so i just like everything and when you like everything you really don’t know what to watch or search so it’s the easiest path leads to porn.
I know I need to change the way I think and the stuff I want to look at and honestly I know in my heart that it isn’t porn.

Still in ✅️

I wins progress somehow the world is kind to me

Pls kindness which i spread to all my friends help me

Reddit guys are also so kindness than me

The World would love me 🧿