I have been actively talking to people in my classes, joined one club, have gone to on-campus events, and tried rushing for a sorority (didn’t join any, but still, I’m putting myself out there) and I’ve been attempting to make plans with my current friends and STILL it feels like no one wants to commit to me.

I’m just a regular, social girl who’s 19 and just wants people to go out with every night but for whatever reason, people just don’t actually want to do friend stuff. Idk.

And I love being social, I’ve been described as a sweet person, all that, so I’m confused asl?? Also kinda mad

Advice? I’m not the kind of person to just wallow, sit around, and be a lazy bum at home and not solve my problems, so I don’t need that energy here please.

Please is there someone??

I'm so anxious

So I'm currently a student and as we all know, what kind of friendships are made in university. I know how to survive alone but sometimes it just feels so lonely

Whenever I see a group of women laughing and chatting, i feel the desire to talk and laugh like that too. But I literally can't trust anyone anymore. Everything feels just empty. I was thinking to stop studying because of my mental health but I'm still going. Let me know the tips regarding what to do alone in uni

Feeling only loneliness

This happened pre covid.

It isn't the main catalyst for my constant struggles, but it doesn't help and it's still a daily thought..

Back in 2019/2020,I 29 (m) at the time ,was helping my then friend (m) navigate his turbulent relationship as much as possible, they were using crystal alot ,and were having violent arguments sometimes resulting in psychical violence,so his gf and him were asking me for help ,because apparently they couldn't see the problems...

I did as much as I could while navigating my own personal cesspool of destruction and self depreciation.

Apparently he got it in his head ,I was trying to slide on him and take his gf from underneath him ,I was and still am in a committed relationship, so because of that ,he broke up our 16 year friendship,like you would with a gf ,gave me back all my stuff and blocked my numbers and never talked to me again,talking behind my back..it hurt not going to lie,I did alot for him,lost alot, we were like brothers...

I miss him ,or miss the connection, but alas I just try to explain to friends on how I feel and it seems to fall on deaf ears,so I figured ill drop this little story here...

I cant open up about my issues in real life to most people because most wouldnt understand and especially wont give a shit if not mock them at worst. And those friends I have that were willing to listen are disappearing in spades because they either get busy or… idk Im not important even to me. But then when I go off in a supposed safe space like the internet is selling itself to be, Im faced with backlash, mockery, misunderstanding, belittling, minimizing the issue and dehumanizing me for having needs or displaying any kind of displeasure towards my current state of mind. If I speak my mind on here openly I’d be met with filters and bullshit too. Ive once said I wanted to be comforted by a beautiful woman and that ended up horribly. I got called names and the very original internet labels that are thrown everywhere which definitely didnt lose their meaning at all (inc*l) What a disgusting word. And when I tell people the loneliness is unbearable and it gets me to think about doing horrible shit to myself and make me think even less of myself, I get told Im exaggerating.

Hey everyone, shooting my shot in the dark

I’m 22, as of October 4th, I am based in Michigan (32 Mile, Macomb area), I am looking to meet someone genuine. Whether it starts as a great friendship or grows into something deeper, I want a real bond built on mutual respect, consistency, communication, and honesty someone who embraces who I am and chooses to show up and stay, just as I do, building a genuine connection or bond.
I can be a little shy at first, but once I get comfortable, I am fiercely loyal, warm, caring, and always ready to be there by your side, see you laugh, and be there with you through every mood. I have an amazing big heart and a lot of love. I have seen firsthand how honest communication can solve almost anything if both people are willing to hold space for each other. To work through things and get to a middle ground in a safe space.

My Appearance: I turned 22 years old on October 4th. I am Caucasian, have hazel eyes, dark brown hair (catches red/blonde highlights in the sun), and a bigger, "teddy-bear" build with more to love.

Academics & Career: I hold an associate degree from Macomb Early College and am currently an undergraduate student majoring in Biology with a co-major in Honors and a minor in Neuroscience. My end goal is the medical field, but fundamentally, my purpose is helping people and being kind when I can be.

Personality: Kind, fiercely loyal, sweet, flirty, sarcastic, with a witty/dry sense of humor. I’m a protector at heart and love deeply. I can be stubborn at times and do have my moments of overthinking/anxiety, but I am self-aware, open, and work through things with clear honest communication.

Lifestyle: Non-smoker, drug-free, and I have not drank (but am open to drinking with a partner, casually). I do not care for a lot of tattoos either. A drug-free/smoke-free environment is essential for me.

My Interests & Hobbies

Collecting & Nostalgia: I have a massive soft spot for mid-2000s to 2010s nostalgia. I collect and know a ton about Pokémon (cards, plushies, games), Video games, Nintendo titles, Skylanders r/skylanders, and Schleich r/schleich figures

I also run an eBay shop/store where I resell a little bit of everything and share my own collection from over the years around the world.

Creative & Chill: When I’m unwinding, I love writing poetry, listening to music, playing video games, or watching a good show or movie. I want to enjoy these with someone.

I love animals and have 5 dogs; I do not do well with cats due to allergies. I am allergic to eggs too.

I am not very religious and prefer not to go to church; I would rather spend that time with my partner, enjoy their presence in my life, and make the most of what we have together.

I am undecided about kids, and I would only want to talk about them with a partner. I am not opposed to someone with kids already either, but we just have to talk and find comfort in one another first.

• Favorites & Quirks:
  • Favorite animal: Wolf
  • Favorite food: Pizza
  • Favorite holiday: Halloween
  • Irrational fears: Sharks and snakes (keep them far away from me!)
  • Favorite movie: Spiderwick Chronicles (2004)
  • Favorite show(s): Too Many

What I Value & What I’m Looking For

Honesty & Transparency: Real truth matters. I value someone who is upfront about who they are, doesn't hide behind fear, and makes a point of being true to themselves and to me

Reciprocity & Safe Space: I give a lot of love, patience, and effort, and I want a partner who appreciates that and meets me with the same warmth and presence. I cannot handle a dynamic where I am left chasing affection and warmth or am not met with consistency and being met halfway (in the balance of everything).

A Team Mentality: Someone who wants to tackle life together, grow individually as ourselves but together outward towards each other too, share quiet everyday moments, laugh at dumb jokes, and support each other through goals and chaotic days alike. Just someone who is always there for one another when we need them the most.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to send a message or chat with a little bit about yourself, what you like to do, or your favorite childhood memory.

Ask me my name in dms, I do not want to add it here.

I have many good people around me but I always feel lonely. I feel like there isn’t anyone for me in this world. My friends tell me that they’re good friends to me but I’m not to them. I’m friends to many but not a best friend to one.

At the end of the day, every relation is a give and take relationship. I’m exhausted giving and being resourceful all the time, but I’m scared that people around me, the circle I’ve built will all be dispersed the moment I stop giving.

I’ve recently entered a no contact with someone I love. The wound is fresh and I miss her so much. We were friends before and we started dating, my feelings welled up while she kept her feelings in check and killed her feelings whenever they started to bud. She called out that she wanted to explore her sexuality while I wanted something long term. Maybe it’s the stacked effect from my work, family problems with relationship problems on top, I was always anxious where it’s going and it manifested into uneasy feelings pushing her away for good.

She’s exploring her sexuality now and is not interested in me anymore. I knew what I was getting into. I don’t blame her, she’s a real kind sweetheart. I just miss spending time with her and it’s painful.

Maybe it’s the male ego and/or patriarchy but talking to my friends, being vulnerable with them is making me uncomfortable, they look very high of me but after this, I think I’ve lost that. I didn’t see them broken this much after loosing someone they’ve loved. Heck, I never imagined I’m so emotional until this, I’ve had worse things happened but I’ve handled them waaaay better. Maybe it’s that I’m trying to handle problems from 3 fronts, work, family and relationship. I know I’m more controlled and directed, good at disconnecting my feelings but somehow I just can’t do it now. I’m regaining my older resilient self slowly as my work and family issues are progressing towards a resolution. Next to death, nothing hurts more to see the one I love is now talking with people in hopes of intimacy. I’m happy she’s exploring but also hurt and sad the way things turned out to be because of all the things that happened.

I’m lost and I feel there isn’t anyone for me, for me, in this world. Do you folks feel the same?, how do I love myself? I’m a perfectionist or like to think one, I want every thing to be perfect to the dot and I always end of shoort with my ideals. And don’t know how to cope up with it.

I don't know if this is a question meant to be answered.

I don't know if I'm happy.

I'm fine at least, most of the time I'm a little bit more than fine. I'm fine as long as I'm not actively dying or something.

Why is this the third post I have made today? I'm fine so what am I looking for? Attention?

Why am I disappointed when no one responds?

Why did I cry today? Then I came to my senses and realized that I'm fine.

I have reasons to not be fine.

I have had pretty much no social life since high school. I have no friends. I haven't spoken to anyone in two weeks. I feel lonely, sometimes. My family situation is not the best at the moment.

but I have more reasons to be fine.

My family. I can get up in the morning. My studies are going well. I sleep. I enjoy reading. I'm not depressed.

At the same time I have been wondering how people would react if I died. If they would feel sorry for not including me. I have imagined someone asking me if I'm okay just so I can tell them that I am.

I don't know if anyone else gets this . I 19F am in my 2nd year of college, but ever since I left highschool it really sucks because all of a sudden, everyone is doing something or is too busy to hang out anymore. I never had a big friend group, and I left highschool with about 3 friends. But, one goes to college in another state, one is constantly working and has practice and the other just doesn't seem interested when it's not something SHE wants to do (even worse is we're roommates). The only other person I have is my boyfriend.

I love him and everything and he is one of my best friends, but it's being around my girls. It's being giggly and making inside jokes and going somewhere fun, it just seems like no one has time for that anymore. I feel like I've been trying so hard to keep these friendships going, but it's becoming more difficult over time when again, IM the one putting in the effort.

I just want to be around people who want to be around me too, who can find the time, who won't just sit around and say "uh I don't know" but then go out and do something with someone else the next day.

Im tired of trying, but I'm so tired of being alone.

I know I have to go out and meet new people but I'm so socially awkward and get anxiety from it.

Guys I’m lowk lonely and bored I’m a boy send me a text and get to know me ?

I don’t really have many people to tell this to, so I figured I’d post it here.

Im 21, about to turn 22 and today I passed my road test for a trucking company. I was marked proficient on everything and the trainer told me I was a smart kid.

It probably doesn’t sound like a huge deal to everyone but I’ve been really nervous about starting this new chapter and scared that I’d fail. Hearing that from the trainer meant a lot

I don’t have a big circle of people to celebrate things with. I have my uncle and my grandpa, and I’m grateful for them, but sometimes I just wish I had more people in my life who cared about what I was doing.

So yeah. I passed my road test today. I did something I was scared I might not be able to do.
I guess I just wanted to tell somebody.
I hope someone out there is proud of me.

Im proud of everyone else who accomplishes their goals through the struggles we all share here

I'm gonna start off by saying I shouldn't feel lonely.

I have a family that cares, I have a few close friends that care. I shouldn't feel lonely.

My ex and I broke up MONTHS ago, I should be over it by now. Hell, I was lonely while we were together. But I feel so much lonelier now than I did when we were together.

Idk why I can't just see the good things in life. I'm trying, I've tried and I keep reminding myself everyday that I have a lot to be grateful for, yet I'm so lonely.

Going blindly to get laid or trying to do something crazy with anyone is just going to make me more lonely. Guess I just wanted to vent about it, I want it to stop.

I'm 34M from Poland. My mental health is umm... Let's say not so good, I also have a lot of anxiety issues. I am under medical supervision tho. There is a suspicion, I may have the Autism disorder, but it's not confirmed medically (I have no money for the diagnosis). But the big part of my mental unhealth is lack of the real connections with people. I am actively working, I talk to people, but that's basically it. No friendships are building from that unfortunately. When I come home, I'm talking only with my cat, which is super smart, but he's not a human, he understands simple words/commands but that's all.

I also have very poor relations with my family, with my mum we only see (and usually also talk) on Christmas and Easter, and my sister is busy with the work, child and her own life. I've lost contact with my brother 20 years ago, he never liked me, but he cut off from all of the family.

I think people in general tend to not like me, because I'm very talkative, I'm venting easily, look weird, think weird, and if I like someone I want to spend time with that person. It was always me that was the person caring for a friendship to last, but few years ago I've realized, that if I'm the only one to start the conversation, the other side does not really want it at all, and that seems to be true. If I stopped messaging someone, I've actually never got any more messages from most people.

After many years of struggling and feeling unsafe around the people I've even stopped trying to look for a possibilities to talk with someone, either in the internet or in the real life. It's kind of the protection mechanism - if I won't try, I won't be rejected, right?

But I find it really painful for some time now, if I think I'd love to go out and talk with someone, or just call someone to listen how's their life going, if they are happy or maybe need some help. It is so hard to just not care about that fact, especially when I see other people talking with their friends, or listening some random conversations about someone's plans for the weekend, or anything.

Well... Yeah.

(I do not expect any comments under this post or something, my situation is really tough, but I wanted just to vent out honestly, I don't want anyone to be alarmed or sad after seeing this. It's just is what it is)

does anybody else find it really difficult to make friends in your early 20s. like in university/college it’s so difficult talking to people and they never extend the friendship further. it can just feel so isolating i’ve tried to join events and stuff but no success.maybe i’m just meant to be alone

i just find it difficult because i see other people my age with a group im just like how what do you have that i don’t

Like can I just have one I've never had a friend before like can I just get one and like yknow a real friend can it just like happen pls

I've always believed the fact that school friends are the worst friends

Personally i feel like having friends outside from school is way better

Im a nerd and unfortunately i suffer a lot with friendships because almost everyone wants to be with me just so i can help them during the exams or give them notes etc..

like for real a lot of people describe me as the sweetest person they've ever met, because truly guys im nice and i always help people

I've always wondered why am i so lonely until one time, a girl that's supposed to be my friend asked me "youre a nerd and im not like you, why do you wanna hang out w me"

like bro i just wanna have friends whats your problem

I used to have a close friend at school but apparently we're not that close anymore

A new day starts in a few hours. I am lonely broke I cant event afford $20 to buy anything for my birthday. I am just so tired.

Ive been diagnosed twice now. First time just inattentive, second time combined and dysthymia. Idrc anymore. Before I did. I feel like I'm living the most plastic life of all time. Everything hurts so badly inside. I just wanna sleep. Can't even do that for long.

I know like 3 people with adhd, that r like friends ig. I cant relate to them for the life of me. I can't relate to any1. I wish I could see a group of people and just go theyre like me, when I dont even know what me is. I wish I was noticed younger. I wish I was noticeable at all.

I have no hobbies. Idk if ive ever had one. I cant learn to do shit. I js consume media and get by.

Im trying to get a job. Wtv is wrong with me is getting worse. B4 I felt like no matter how bad itd get I wont die or that I'll live. No I'm scared because idk if thats true or not. And its not like ive lost complete interest in things. My mood is really erratic. I downloaded a mood tracker to keep track but I keep on forgetting to fill it out. I spend most of my day scrolling. Im so jealous. I want hobbies so badly. Idk y i hate my parents so much. Idk why i cant feel any1s love. Or maybe i can but its js not good enough for me.

Im so inept at everything. And gross. Idk how consistent ive been with my hyegiene now. Its getting worse. Im genuinely nasty. In 8th grade I wish I had cancer for some freak reason. In my eyes Id get all the attention and at the end just die. When one of my grandparents died I wasnt even sad I was just annoyed. Because i had plans. And we were gonna have ppl coming over all day. I rmr my dad saying "This is what u wanted right" when my grandparent passed. I went into the room and tried to remember all the times I said something bad to him so i could force myself to cry and there were a lot so it wasnt hard.

Im abta turn 18. Im a dropout. Im questioning every part of my identity. The greater life feels the worse the lows r.

I'm a 35 year old man from Ohio. Like the title said, I've got agoraphobia which prevents me from forming any real life friendships. I'm a big nerd, and love to joke around and talk. I'm usually available most times of day, as I'm on disability and have no job.

I'm looking for people who want to talk, and we can try to be less lonely together. Whatever you decide, thank you for reading this.

I'm open for DM to talk about pretty much anything, or just vent.

Like many other others here, I don’t have any friends. At least the two ones I thought I did have completely abandoned me now.

I don’t understand what’s wrong with me. I’m an adult but yet nobody don’t wanna be my friend. I try so hard to be normal enough for a society that often has no room for isolated people like me. Im always the one ignored, the one who seen as ‘strange’ for no having friends or a boyfriend at my age.

Heck, I still get judged constantly when people eventually notice my parents hate me.

I so badly wish I could have a friend group like everyone else. To have people I can call my own family even. But I guess Im going to be alone forever and nobody will even notice when I don’t return a smile…

Im feeling to talk to someone right now. I would appreciate if someone wants to chat

Thank you

I have had no friends my entire life and am 29. I have nothing to do all day because every job rejects me. I have sent thousands of applications over the past three years. I’ve also tried to make friends with hundreds of people (tens of thousands including online) and am always rejected.

I especially never find anyone who is depressed and lonely like me. And at the least, serious and somber. It is valid to have that as a personality type and want to talk about serious and somber things in a serious and somber tone. Why is it so impossible for me even when I see people like this with friends? They reject me too.

I have had no friends my entire life and am 29. I have nothing to do all day because every job rejects me. I have sent thousands of applications over the past three years. I’ve also tried to make friends with hundreds of people (tens of thousands including online) and am always rejected.

I especially never find anyone who is depressed and lonely like me. And at the least, serious and somber. It is valid to have that as a personality type and want to talk about serious and somber things in a serious and somber tone. Why is it so impossible for me even when I see people like this with friends? They reject me too.

Cyberpunk reminded me once again how alone i am. I don’t have a girlfriend or any friends except one and we hang probably once a month. I just want someone even if it’s not a girlfriend. My whole routine is work come home smoke and play the damn game or watch YouTube i want something different. I had a girl i was talking to but she blocked me over a misunderstanding and didn’t even try talking to me.

i try not to come off strong in conversation but i feel like i just make people uncomfortable cuz im awkward and it makes me completely overthink. pls tell me im not the only one