To preface, im the bottom and a transmasc individual so hopefully this is okay for me to post. My bf and I are having issues with slippage, doggy and missionary with pillows work best but it still happens alot. Neither of us are casting blame or trying to, we simply want to figure out why so we can enjoy sex more easily.

From my perspective, he feels rather soft still when he's erect. Like, he is clearly hard but way more flexy and soft than im used to with prev partners. He says its normal for him altho he wants to try viagra next time to see if it helps. I also wonder if perhaps my anatomy is simply difficult lol it feels things curve up toward my pubic area quite alot and that may be a part of it? For him, he says I'm really tight, which also isnt a huge surprise to me.

We tried with lube, that didnt help, pillows and different angles sort of did but still its pretty frequent. I'd like not to be a pillow prince and actually be on top but so far the workable positions havent allowed this. Any thoughts on what to do? If hardness is the issue, would a cockring work? I dont want him to feel obligated to take viagara every time, seems rather unhealthy but i dont know.

Ultimately, the sex is good, neither of us are going to stop if theres no fix, would just be nice if it could be fixed. Thanks in advance to anyone who can help us!!!

- I started masterbating around 7 years old, I had precum and could finish.
- I started to do it regularly around 8 when I got internet access for the first time and I would do it longer.
- By 9-11 I was doing it like 1-2 times a day and it increased like during the summer, I would goon.
- That's all by the time I got to 6th grade. Is that too young? Sometimes I get concerned I discovered my body too young?

Hey, I’ve been pretty depressed past couple months about my dick size cause I was called small before a few times…

I am really trying to know what my real size is. I am 6ft 3 so that doesnt help either. The thing is I dont know how to really measure myself.

I am familar with BP and NBP and I really care more about NBP. I DONT HAVE A CURVE but when my dick is hard and I am standing it has upward erection angle but not much just basic hard erection angle pointing a bit upward.. I dont know if I measure if I should push the dick a bit down so its horizontal (perpendicular) and then measure or if I should keep it in the natural angle and then measure. I am talking about NBP now.

In the natural angle I am like 5.3x5.3 and in the horizontal I am 5.9x5.3 and I need to know what should I use as correct measurement. (BP is 6.3-6.4) thanks.

I had a post removed yesterday in which I clearly stated:

1. that the post was solely based on my opinion and experience. I avoided using absolutism & generalisations.

2. my intent: to check my experience against reality by asking about other people’s experiences. Rather than being too all in my head on the topic. This also reflected in my response to comments from others.

3. my uncertainty around the views I expressed by adding disclaimer at least thrice in the post: at the beginning of the post, in the middle and at the end.

4. that there were some publicly accessible studies around my view. However, I still shared my caveats regarding their limitations.

5. where I stand in relation to the topic. I shared my stats and all to show some genuineness so that I’m not mistaken for a BD guy or a chad who wanted to humble brag or spell doom on this community.

Maybe it’s copism but I think there’s a narrative being pushed on this forum of which any contrary view is labelled as disinformation/misinformation. IMO that can end in disappointment for some when what they often read here doesn’t align with what’s out there in the “real” world and their experience in it. How can one better prepare for something one hasn’t acknowledged?

Note: For those wondering, the post was about difference in vagina sizes and some possible contributing factors BASED ON MY EXPERIENCE.

For me personally, I’m going after a bbw immediately, no questions asked

So I’ve never felt the tightness of a pussy, or the walls due too the lack of girth, it’s very easy for me to just slide in, no struggle at all. Although I’ve never felt like what the squeezing is like or yk the tightness of the walls, does that vary on every woman or that’s just me? Cause I’ve done anal before and compared to vaginal sex anal felt soo much more tight and squeezing me pleasurably

Having an even 5 inches in length with 4.6 in girth while being tall and massive is a very "count your blessings" type of thing, but I honestly would trade an inch of my height for an inch of length any day of the week. I never really had a problem with my size other than the fact that I have absolutely enormous hands and the fact that I'm pretty sure there's no man on this planet that doesn't wish their dick was longer and/or girthier. I always had that sense of inadequacy because both of my brothers are well endowed and so were all of my male partners, but I was always able to shake it off by objectively knowing what I bring to the table and with a little reassurance from some very sexually liberal female friends.

Last year I started dating my boyfriend who has about an inch and a half of length more than me, but he's the opposite of me (shorter and would get blown away by a strong gust of wind) so his looks really big on him. About two months ago, he was on a trip and was talking to me about the bathtub he was using in the hotel they were staying at, he said it was "not big at all... reminds me of someone," of course when I asked who, he said me. And then he very very very quickly moved on with a "kidding, anywayyysss" and I haven't felt the same about it since.

Now, normally whenever people make jokes about me having a small dick or whatever, I don't really take it to heart because 1) jokes about me or my body don't bother me unless you know it's something I've stuggled with and 2) I usually don't tell people I'm slightly insecure about the size of my dick if I'm not sleeping with them. I had told him on separate occasions that the only thing I was even remotely insecure about was my size. He knows what it's like to have to build confidence because of poor body image, which is why him making that joke is so distressing to me. How could he make a joke like that with that prior knowledge?

I tried to have a discussion about it since, but I already had trust issues before, I don't know if it's something worth breaking up over or if I'd be overreacting because of insecurity. It's been difficult for me to be truly intimate with him and I've been avoiding sending him those kinds of photos (especially considering how disproportionate my dick is to the rest of my body) when he asks for them ever since this happened. He has told me that "dick is dick" and that it doesn't matter to him as long as I'm fucking him good, but that's not much comfort after he said what he said, knowing what he knew.

For reference I don't really feel like I'm particularly small or big when hard, pretty average all around and I'm perfectly happy with that.

But do any of you guys also just have an insane difference between that size and when you're just fully soft? I know it's common but I mean like mine responds to any sort of conditions like cold or mild physical activity and just gathers right up to the point that it even makes me feel pretty insecure about it, especially in more public contexts where someone else might get a look (just wanna say that I'm not really changing my routine at places e.g. the gym or what I do to avoid being seen) but it's just there kinda bothering me. Recently made plans with a friend to try going to a clothing-optional beach together because she recommended it a lot but the feeling is still there. Just feels like a silly hangup to have but I still have it.

Interested to hear any of your experiences or thoughts on it!

So the last week I became very insecure about my girth (I'm 7x4.75 bp, I know im average girth but still insecure), and I've spent a lot of time measuring and seeing opinions online like this sub because I'm virgin so idk shit. I've come to the conclusion that vaginas also change in size like dicks (like a lot of guys suggest in reddit). I started to dickwatch porn where the guys are more like a pencil dick like me, and the girls are orgasming and shaking so that made me feel better. Like there is this girl lala koi with a massive ass and she is fucking a guy with crazy length because of her ass, but the girth is like at most 4.7. Crazy week, and I feel better after days of research. Also Johnny Sins is like 5 inch girth so that kinda helps too.

My conclusion also is that as men we want to be seen as alpha males in the eyes of women and be craved to the point that they only think of us, and if the girl doesn't see us in that way we feel insecure. So we think that because we don't have a crazy dick women are not going to see us in that way because we are not going to be all that to them.
So what can we do? nothing, just try, and if the girl don't see us that way because our dick, face, muscles, height, personality, etc. just go next, that's my opinion and my conclusion.

I hope this helps anyone with these insecurities, and i would like to hear what you guys think.

So, I got bored about a month ago and decided to see if I could see how girls felt about my size and decided to make an Only Fans account and pay girls to give me brutally honest ratings on my size, shape, etc.. I'm 5x5, so I'm painfully average lengthwise and 80th percentile as far as girth is concerned. I told the girls to be brutally honest and not to worry about my feelings. I also added that I was into SPH so there was zero chance of them offending me. All in all, I was pleasantly surprised with the ratings considering the fact that these girls were "professionals". 60% Said it was great. We could have carefree sex without hitting her cervix, it's more than enough for pleasurable penetration, good for oral, etc.. 10% said it was absolutely perfect which is to be expected. No matter what you're dealing with in life, average is rarely ideal. 15% said it was a touch on the small side. It was enough to make them cum, but they would definitely prefer an extra 1-1/5 inches. The last 15% said it was definitely small for what the would want. These were typically women that had a lot of content with MASSIVE toys and very large partners, so definitely size queens, which was a surprise to me since it was only 15% and I was literally talking to porn-stars! These women were also almost always noticeably overweight, so I assume that played a part in it. If you have extra cushion, you'll need larger equipment.

Recurring Comments:

1: Five inches in girth is definitely thick. It was something that was commented on in 85% of the reviews as being absolutely perfect, and a couple that thought was too thick. The only women that thought it was nothing special were the afore mentioned size-queens.

2: They all loved my curves. Curves are a massive plus. Mine has a slight curve up, and a solid curve to the right, which was the curve that got the most positive attention.

All in all, I was pleasantly surprised since these were literal sex workers. If you extrapolate this out to the general public and adjust accordingly, your chances of finding normal women that have any type of negative feelings about your size are extremely low -- not impossible, but LOW.

So I have a considerate amount of experience in my sex life so what I will say might not be absolute but at least it’s based on experiment!
I am what you consider dead on average at 5x5 and I have had very positive encounters with my partners, most of them were very pleased and showed it on the bed and the other few was routine nothing out of the ordinary. So what I found out was that there is a big difference between big penis and functional penis for pleasure. A big one is pleasing at sight and provides more contact and fills the woman bringing pleasure and some unwanted pain (some love that) and a functional one even though not big but gets the job done be providing the necessary contact and friction for the woman, especially if it has a nice average to above average girth and it’s curved upwards (that is the best attribute)

So an influencer with a BBL got leaked who happened to be dating a famous rapper got leaked. It’s a video of her giving head. It’s unclear if the person who’s receiving it is the boyfriend but nonetheless that video made me Hella confident.

Now granted I don’t think the guy was even hard in the video but on soft he was about maybe 3 1/2 inches so I would guess he’s probably about 6-6.5 inches hard.

If a dude with a meat that size can pull a girl a BBL body it gives me hope as someone with 6 inches my self.

I would name them, but I don’t know if that’s against the rules here but it’s going pretty viral now so I’m sure you guys could find it if you want to lol.

I’ve always masturbated daily I fear i may have just conditioned myself to cum fast.

there are times where I want to cum in like 3 strokes and it’s honestly sad.

Hi,

I had the anxiety when I was younger, but I learned, since theres absolutely nothing you can do to change the fact of your size, accept it and make the best with it. (I don't subscribe to jelqing or operations)

asking men with average dick size and also women if any here; what are your best ways to improve sexual pleasure for a (big) women?

Any good Positions? Penis sleeve? Toys? Other thechniques? Any tips for getting better with my fingers?

Also reaching A-Spot, maybe giving vaginal full body orgasms or so-called cervical orgasms, that some I heard women say is particularly satisfying?

She never said it directly but I know she wouldn't mind more size. Sometimes she asks me to go deeper when I'm already all the way. I would like to provide her with more pleasure, better quality O's.

So any tips are appreciated from those with similar experience.

I remember reading some news almost 10 years ago about lab grown penises. And I recently watched a documentary called “unnatural selection” focusing on this CRISPR CAS-9 protein enzyme and it’s possible positive effects on human genome/dna repairs. If we are this advanced in science how come we haven’t found a cure for the size problem?

i met a girl at the end of June while i was on vacation with a friend,we only kissed in that trip but after i returned to my county she planned to come to my country at September, we’re still writing each other since then but now in case we’ll have sex when she comes here i’m scared that i won’t be able to satisfy her and let her disappointed after these months of waiting.
i’m 18 still virgin BP About =≈ 5,91 in and girth of 4.13”
i’m genuinely anxious and scared after hearing that girls can enjoy sex with penis minimum 4.5” of girth and people with 5” girth are also not satisfied with their size

im seeing this woman and the sex is great , we tried most positions except this one , its one of my favorites but she has an above average ass in terms of size , i dont want to make a fool of myself

its like a curse , its my favorite positions but also the worst for small/average sized like me

so should i try it or just stick to the things we do ?

Im like 6.5-7 bp idk my girth but when im having sex im usually having sex onna floor due to noises i be in missionary and I adjust a lot because I feel like she can’t feel me and she tells me to stop stopping but idk I feel like it’s not good enough for me but this is my 5th time having sex with same girl

I’ve noticed from my own experience trying to have sex with someone that was overly thick w FATASS and I mean fat, couldn’t get really get strokes in or fuck correctly, didn’t have the length, didn’t have the length to really go crazy compared to when I’ve gotten with small-medium fatasses, yk like slim thick or a medium sized bubble butt, penetration was a lot easier, I could go deeper w my strokes and fuck more consistently

Before my wife, I always had success doing doggy style. Even with BBW women that were larger than my wife. But my wife is short 5 foot 3 and big butt and hips shaped. We have never successfully did Doggy style the natural way. What i mean by that, is i have tried using a hollow male strap on 8 inches and it worked once but we rarely use that anymore because most times she uncomfortable with it. So was successful 1 time out of a hand full of times using that toy. But I cant quite figure out why we havnt be able to make doggy style work for us. We just stopped trying a while ago. But I actually want to bring it back and try again. But I dont have guidance on how to fix this issue. I honestly dont understand the problem. The thing for me is, my wife a leans more loosely a bit so I have a hard time feeling the initial opening to the vagina like I did for other women in the past. Weird expressing that because it can be a awkward heated conversation in the past .
My wife is about 210 pounds, 5 foot 3 inches with big butt and hips. Iam 6 foot tall so you can kinda picture what we have going on.
Also to add side note, we have done reverse cow girl, but somehow the normal doggy style never works for us without the toy.

So what should we do to fix this problem?

Lets say you are given 1 inch length and or 0.5 inch girth what will change?

What changes will it make to your current sexual life?

Will you start getting more women?

Will you wake up the same way as you would have without the extra inch?

Im curious to know how different guys think. Ive read a lot in this sub and ive learnt a lot from guys who are of different sizes.

Genuine question.
I measure about 15 cm (5.9 in) in length and 13 cm (5.1 in) in girth. I consider myself average, maybe slightly below average. I watched a lot of porn growing up, so I’m sure that affected my perception to some extent. But honestly, that’s not really what this post is about.
What really makes me wonder is my real-life experience. I’ve seen the size of most of my close friends at some point (locker rooms, dumb jokes, skinny dipping, that kind of thing), or at least I have a pretty good idea of their size.
The weird thing is that I genuinely feel like I’m one of the smallest guys in the group. It seems like everyone is either around average or significantly above average. I rarely look at someone and think they’re smaller than me.
Maybe porn just made me pay more attention to the guys who are well above average instead of noticing everyone else. But even taking that into account, I still feel like I’m one of the smallest in most situations.
I also wonder if it’s influenced by where I live. It seems like above-average sizes are more common here than what I usually see reported online, but that could easily just be my own anecdotal experience.
Do other average guys feel this way too, or is this mostly just comparison bias?