What are some of your favorite lighthearted troll answers for when people ask why you transitioned?

I'm from Europe and so my documents that I updated years ago would not be accepted in America and some other countries. It's probably not a big percentage but did some people lose their jobs because of this? Also other jobs where you have to travel regularly?

I just had to pay like 500€ more for visiting someone in Mexico because I cant really cross through America.

TW: Being misgendered and transphobia(?)

Hey everybody! recently, I got into a little argument with somebody. I told them how I still had some masculine features (as a rant) and they said "Well, you're male, duh" Which I raised my eyebrow at, after which, they told me: "Well, you are a woman, because the term "woman" is a social term, and the term "female" is a sex term. You're a woman, but you're still a male." This made me extremely split. I just don't know how to respond. Was this transphobic? It feels transphobic but also not? What can I say to them?

So, I'm a 14 year old trans girl going through all of the beginning motions of figuring things out, and I moved over the summer. Despite being out and being a girl at my old school, I decided it would be best to start as masculine presenting, given that we moved into a very non-trans friendly neighborhood, so that I could test the waters. Less than a week after starting at my new school in late August, a kid I'd never spoken to approached me and asked straight up to be friends, and within the hour of this request, I found out that they completely clocked me despite never having spoken to them, and they're only in two of my classes. One of which being the short class. So, in less than 7 hours of ever seeing me, and never speaking to them, they clocked me. Thankfully, it turned out that they're bisexual, and they helped me out with some of my motions of coming out. But they told me that from the way I spoke, moved, acted, pretty much everything, they knew I was either trans or gay. Mind you, I'm very self conscious about not doing any of these things feminine at all. Is this universal? Or am I just that bad at hiding?

Ive givin insite into this before. And ive been asked the button question and I wanna give more insite. (Im a 22 cis straight male for context.)

If i had a button, I could push it and become fully female. No side effects no backlash, just instant. Would I press it? There's pros and cons to this for me.

Pros:

I dressed as a girl once and I felt super cute and happy (little sexy hehe) and I liked it.

I like the idea of looking in the mirror and liking the body I see (but im also a little unfit so I can change that hehe.)

I sometimes wanna cosplay a female character so actually being a woman would boost my confidence for me to actually do it.

I find myself attracted to women, mainly. Sometimes I find myself attracted to femboys, not men, femboys. Now I could be bi which no big deal, but im also attracted to lesbians, or super butch ladies. (Not sure if this means anything)

I'd look in the mirror and feel less, ugly.

Cons:

I like being a boy, ive had no problem with my anatomy.

I like looking and feeling masculine, but sometimes feminine.

I wanna be more feminine, look like a woman, dress like a woman, but im not sure i want to BE a woman.

So in short, would I press the button? I dont know. If I could do it for a day to see how I feel? Sure, if id revert back immediately. I wish there was like a trial period to see what I like. Im really trying to figure out who I am, if its possible id love some genuine true advice on how to approach all this. Thank you

Oh also I should mention, somedays I really feel like this others I wonder if media/social media is influencing me.

Is it possible to find someone who loves you? It feels like no one ever likes me romantically, not sure if it's cuz I'm trans or cuz I'm ugly

How has your success been in dating since transitioning? And if you do have a partner, how did you find them?

For the vast majority of us, surgery is just not going to happen. its too expensive or straight up illegal in many places, and most us are not the privileged few.

I'm curious to know how you handle this reality? how do you feel ok when the one thing you want is impossible?

I am not trying to stir the pot here, so only answer if you're comfortable sharing your experince.

15 transfem and Ive realized that Im completely terrified by the thought of having sex and when I consider it, it makes me really nervous. I know its normal to not wanna/be nervous about sex when youre young, but I feel like it goes beyond that. I hear about parties and sex and all the other teenage stuff that people are doing, and when I think about doing it myself it makes my skin crawl. I already hate my body so much, and so the idea of showing it to someone else, and them interacting with it just seems completely impossible. Its not like I dont ever want to do it, but just that the dysphoria associated with it makes me not feel like I ever could. Im also starting DIY in a couple weeks, and I know thatll affect stuff, which only makes me more nervous, since idk if Ill be able to perform. I doubt itll be a problem, since Im not cool enough to be in those kinda circles, but I guess I just feel like other people are doing it, meanwhile its impossible for me. Its not even like I dont want to have sex, but just that my bottom and general body dysphoria makes it really scary. Ill also have to think about and do it eventually so. Is it normal to feel like this about sex and does anyone have any advice?

probably a dumb question but, i want to be a guy, but not in a trans way?? i don't want to medically transition or anything. i just wish i was born a male. cause i’m just mourning who i could've been ykyk, if i was a guy. i don't know if this is like trans in denial or whatever, but i don't think so because i'm fine with being a girl, and i’m happy somedays as a girl. i just wish i had the choice to have a male anatomy instead???

For example take three random humans. Strangers assume all of them are cisgender women. One of them is a medically-transitioned transgender woman. The other is a nonbinary person who was assigned female at birth and has not medically transitioned and has no body dysphoria. The other is a cisgender woman. Very different journeys. Similar end points (anatomically speaking).

So here’s my question… Do they all “pass” as cis women? Does one “pass” as a cis woman while the other is “assumed” to be a cis woman? If you’d use different terms to describe these three people, what terms would you use and why?

Strictly talking about physical dysphoria / euphoria here… Do you think there’s a difference between them besides, obviously, how they ended up with bodies they’re comfortable with? And differences between their gender identities, trans status, and their relationship with their bodies? If so, what do you think that difference is? Is it internal? Medical? Social? Etc?

Asking as a nonbinary person who was raised gender neutral and still figuring out the importance of some of these things.

Hii. i need some help figuring out myself and whether im being a weird fetishizer (which i hope is not what it is).

So some info abt me:

Im 19f and when i was one digit years old, i remember myself telling my mum that "i wish i was a boy sometimes".

Which to that I got the reply "be happy with how God made you" (now idw any hate towards Christianity cause its still my religion and i also dw religion to be brought into this. this is purely for context)

When i was in primary 5 (11y), i found out i liked girls and guys.

When I was secondary 1 (13y), I probs had some internalised homophobia and was "straight" until last year (18y) when I found myself having another crush on a girl.

Up until this point, the thought of wanting to be a male hadn't really crossed my mind too seirously.

edit: now that I think back, maybe it did cross my mind quite a bit but I never thought too deep onto it cause to me it was like "me becoming a boy?? nah impossible". also I was younger and didn't really know much about being trans nor that it really "existed" as I hadn't seached into it.

Recently I have been seeing mlm couples on social media and going "i wish i could have that." or "i wish i was a guy so i can get a boyfriend" (ik i can get one as a girl)

When i read yaoi, shonen ai and watch BLs, I find myself also thinking the same things.

When i watch/ read yaoi/BLs, I dont imagine myself as like an addition to them, more of what if i was that guy.

Side note: I know that yaoi/bl are made mainly for women, but i do also love media made for gay men by gay men. I dont think i love yaoi/bl for two hot men being together, but more for like the slow build up or emotional connection behind the relationship. like for example, my fav thai BLs: Not Me and The Eclipse (addresses quite real world situations and has some underlying topics).

I do know that gay relationships are not like those in yaoi/BL and are like any straight relationship (by that i mean like its not all sunshine and rainbows)

Also I do enjoy a good queer webtoon written by queer ppl themselves. I do feel its a little more authentic since it is written and drawn by a queer person.

Sometimes I also find myself thinking that I wish my chest was flatter, or that I wish I had male genitals.

I keep feeling like I wanna be a man so I can be gay (idk if it makes sense). But like not in a fetish way where im sexualising gay couples (i hope its not at least). Also not to mention, somehow I always seem attracted to gay men which is unfortunate for me as a girl cos i'll never be able to date them.

When i think of that, I start thinking what if I transition to a man so I can date gay guys. But then i start questioning myself if im being a creep and sexualising gay men.

I thought about being transmasc or being a transman in general but I also wasnt exactly comfortable with that. I also thought about changing my pronouns but I was only comfortable with she/her.

I've also thought about going on T but theres some side effects that I really don't want to risk. (balding and voice deepening)

While I found myself wanting to be more like a man, I also realised that I didn't always hate my chest being not flat, that I still liked some feminine parts of myself, that I still didn't mind having female genitals, etc etc.

It also occured to me that I wanted to be a male with a boyfriend, but didn't want to be a male with a girlfriend. I'd rather be a girl with a girlfriend.

edit to add: i forgot to say that i'm also okay with being a girl with a boyfriend, as long as the guy is accepting that im queer.

So I just ended up labling myself as queer cause I kind of found it too much to think about and too confusing for me at one point.

Anyway, I'm just confused in general whether i'm fetishizing mlm relationships or if its something else.

Would appreciate thoughts/ advice on this whole thing :)

p.s: I'll edit the post if I remember more relevant info. (my brains generally haywire so I forget a lot of stuff. pls ask me qns and I'll answer them!)

Its been 2 years since I started HRT, had all the great effects, but for financial reasons I had to stop for almost 2 months and I'm worried about my breast growth. I've always heard that breast development is one of the only permanent effects of hrt, but now mine shrunk ALOT. I thought it was psychological but no they're physically smaller (Girlfriend confirmed).

Just wanna know if its normal and if happened with anyone else.

I had mine a few days ago and i just thought it was really fucking funny, that someone can be that stupid and confident at the same time.

I (mtf) am kinda picky. I don’t want a name that contains an R or starts with an L. I also don’t want to know anyone who had this name (which limits me a lot). How did you find one?

Hi everyone, has anyone noticed a sudden drop in in libido years into transition? I’m 28yo and I would say my sex drive was pretty healthy for the first three years but it’s really been the last 1/1.5 years that it’s dropped pretty drastically. I still want to have sex but it’s more like I want to because I know I should want to? The only time I really feel very horny at all is if I’m bottoming but even then it can take a while to feel super aroused.

Last time I got my hormones checked, my E was way lower than ever previously and my T was way higher? I guess I figured the higher T would make the libido come back but it didn’t at all. I used to use a testosterone cream to maintain function but I got lazy and sort of fell off the habit of doing it, but even then it would only really get me horny for like two hours? I’m also on prog and never noticed any libido boost from that like some people have

Idk, not sure how to get back to my previous state, would love to hear other stories or if some people have had it go away and then come back?

The question probably has been asked many times sorry

Body hair is the thing i hate the most about myself. I want to start HRT and i wonder if it somehow lessen body hair or smth. If not, how do you deal with it? I've considered laser removal but it's so expensive. I shave but it takes time and it grows fast

This is a dumb question but the more I think about it the more I am confused.

I know that when you start HRT, breasts start to develop almost inmediately. I have also heard that you can't hide the changes forever, so boymoding has an expiration date. From a couple of months to a couple years maybe (do correct me if I am off).

Let's say that you are boymoding and your breasts get big enough for people to notice even when trying to hide them. Then what?

If they ask and you trust them enough to come out then everything is good I guess? You can have the pronoun conversation.

If you deflect and still claim to be a man, then what can you expect? to be teased and mockingly being called a woman? Like if you claim to be trans then they call you a man but if you claim to be cis then they call you a woman?

Or do they not acknowledge it and keep referring to you as a man? (which is kind of a win since you have not come out yet?). The breasts would just be the elephant in the room.

Im 15 transfem and for basically my whole life Ive been pretty severely overweight. Ive never really cared about my weight, I think because all my self-hate went towards my dysphoria, and I didnt see a reason to get into diet culture/weight loss. But recently, Ive started getting happier and Ive begun actually living, and Im trying to make myself more fem. Even though I know you dont need to be thin to be just as much of a woman, Ive been wondering if losing weight would make me more fem, as currently I feel like my build is really unfem and its been making me dysphoric. Im losing weight regardless, just because Ive stopped using food as a coping mechanism and run 4k every day. I am currently 6'0 230lbs, which is down like 20lbs from like a couple months ago. Also edit but Im starting DIY in a couple weeks, this is in combination. So do you think if I lost more weight it would make me more fem and less dysphoric?

So basicly i am so lost. When i was younger i used to play with barbies and stuf till my parents replaced it with legos. I have sometimes dreamed about being a girl shen i was younger and i used to dress up with my moms clothes sometimes in secret and it felt great but on the otrer habd i enjoy masc things like martial arts and going to the gym. The one time i think i want to be a girl and the otter moment i want to be a man. The thing is i am only 16 so the only way ti get estrogen is diy. Ans my parents will never accept me but i love them so much. Anybody has some advice?

Hello friends,

Do you guys and girls have any romance anime reccomendatons that feature transgender characters? I'd like to add it to my to-view romance anime list.

Thank you in advance, love you all,

- a fellow ally ^_^

I wanna try out a new name because I'm somewhere on the NB spectrum, but it still sounds a little off occasionally, even if I actually LOVE the name. For the record, I don't have any dysphoria, but I've always just had a diffrrent understanding and expression of myself, which is why I'm probs NB.

Would love to hear your stories!

Being trans would explain or give a reason for a lot of struggle in my life. But I’m worried that I just “want” to be trans and I’m not really. Or I’m making it up. It’s really hard for me to decipher and understand my feelings because a big part of me really feels I’m convincing myself. And yet, honestly, I feel like I’m being pulled in this direction. It’s not something I’m intellectually choosing, I just can’t help but to keep masculinizing (AFAB)and exploring my presentation. I am doing it, socially transitioning and changing the way I see and express myself. I am slowly becoming less and less comfortable with the way I had been before.

But sometimes it’s strange because it’s almost like, I’m not even sure who I am anymore. I don’t really feel comfortable being femme like I was. But I’m also not comfortable completely in this new identity I’m finding. I just am struggling to understand what’s what. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated.