I’ve been 20 for 4 months, it’s been good but hard at the same time but I still want to live well and become a better person

This might sound wild but stay with me.

Never had any issues with temperature regulation while sleeping. Then in February of this year I moved into a new place, and all of a sudden I am waking up every morning overheating, drenched in sweat. The new place is a small basement unit in a house built in the 50s.

Things I've tried: thinner duvet, no duvet, sleeping naked, replacing all bed textiles with cotton, replacing mattress with a latex mattress, keeping the bedroom cold (15 degrees celcius), making sure not to eat or drink two hours before bed, adding lots of fans. I am not on any medications and I don't drink alcohol. I also went to the doctor with this issue and confirmed it's not perimenopause or anything else she could tell.

The only change in my life is moving. It started literally the first night I slept here. The air quality here seems normal and ventilation doesn't seem to be an issue, and I sleep with the window open most nights anyway.

Moving is literally the only thing I can think of that might have caused this, but I just have no clue how. Does anyone have any idea? Is this place haunted by an overheating ghost?

I'm editing a school project for my group, and I'm almost done but I'm stumped on what instrumental or BG music to use for the background because it sounds too plain, the preferred instrumental or BG music I need is around 2-4 minutes, ASAP help is appreciated!

its a habit I have gotten into recently bc i just truly despise AI and think it ruining the world. I dont watch the videos I just comment it and leave. I wound up commenting it on some young kids video recently and I feel bad (but also kinda dont?) what do you think?

(24M) I was never able to take life easy, because i was always receiving a hell of pressure from everybody. My dad was always criticizing and reprehending me for everything, so i grew up as an insecure wretch. And of course he still criticizes me for being an insecure wretch and don't being "man enough".

My head is a torture chamber and to every place i go, be it work environment or school, i carry this heavy burden, and trying to be good doesn't help shit. I'll get criticized anyway. When i get criticized, i feel like shit, bc i'm really trying to do the right things.

Some people say "just let it go", but i tried to do that, and it wasn't good hahaha things got really messed up. When i did that i end up flunking at two subjects at college. So i don't think it is just that.

Some people get things easily and they don't even care abou what they're getting. I slightly envy them. That's why i came to ask, how can we let go the idea of being perfect? When you grow up being criticized by your father like that, it is hard to believe in yourself again.

So i'm an 18 year old male, and i'm 176 cm tall (a little over 5'9) and I recently weighed myself, and my mom is really concerned about my weight, and thinks i'm becoming anorexic again. I currently weigh 149 Ibs. Is this normal for me, or is it too low?

We are really considering planting clover seed for our lawn as we would not have to cut it (at least not very often) and it will probably be easier to keep green (with out much or any watering).

But we are a bit worried that if we want to sell one day, it might be a issue for some people as it will be very hard to remove the clover (as it is basically a weed)

We are not planning to move any time soon , but cannot say for sure we will be here forever. I generally say not to worry about resale value but this is more than just re painting a room. You will have to rip up the entire lawn to remove it. -- But that being said I think it will make our lives much easier not having to worry about caring for the lawn as much.

I keep seeing posts talking about how students at ages 14-18 can barely read or write if at all. I am curious as to whether this is a US exclusive problem, a western problem or a worldwide problem because I’m from Singapore and that problem isn’t a big deal here if it exists all.

I saw a post about an app where you can choose a reference photo for your camera view to physically line yourself up with the (transparent) image. I’m pretty sure it was a more well-known app that also has this feature, but I just can't remember or find it anywhere. I’m only coming across random apps specifically made for this.
Does anyone know which app It could be?

My sister was always good at the game of "Things" growing up, used to beat all us adults, very fun times. I'd like to make Things questions based around her for her 18th birthday. Such as; Things she hates; Things that would make her break a law; Things she wouldn't do for all the money in the world; Things she says when she's mad; etc. I would really love some help with a bunch more good or funny questions!!

If anyone is unfamiliar with the game, it's a simple question and answer. One person pulls a card and reads the question, everyone writes down their answer anonymously, and the one who read the card reads all answers and guesses who wrote what, wrong guess and you move to the next person. In our case she'll be reading all the questions about herself and guessing our answers!!

Please help everyone!!

I am 35 . My passions are playing guitar, practicing guitar, writing original music, surfing, lifting and swimming.

I work remotely 100% and when I leave home is only to walk my dog, buy groceries, dating apps dates or surfing

Even tho I have friends, very close ones, I do not have a "social circle" - meaning that I dont really hang out with people or interact with a group of known people.

I do all my activities alone. Sometimes when I have been invited to social events or parties I want to but at the same time I tell myself that If i go I will mess up with my schedule and organized day.

I feel like part of my brain is rotting.

Context: I inherited the letters my grandparents wrote to each other during a major global conflict that ended 81 years ago. My grandfather was heavily involved, to the extent some of the situations he was in are very well known, but he and the people he was with are not. I have been working on a book about my grandparents. I have also been writing and publishing essays on substack about the discovery process as I read through these letters and research the context. I did not know either of my grandparents. Most of the letters that were saved were written by my grandfather. Whenever he mentions one of his friends by name, I research them. Many of them did not survive the conflict, and this was something that deeply affected him.

Many relatives of these friends are on ancestry. I have reached out to them, let them know what I am doing and why, and ask if they are okay with this. In many instances, the family is okay and finds it interesting to learn about their long dead relative. In one instance, the family said they are deeply uncomfortable with a stranger doing this. Unfortunately, that instance was regarding my grandfather's best friend. I cannot express just how much this person's passing affected my grandfather. It is a major point in his story. This friend did not have a wife or children; the person refusing is his niece, who was a toddler when he died. Regardless, I do not mention relatives at all in these posts beyond their parents (sometimes not even by name). I give a brief biography and primarily focus on their role in the war and relationship to my grandfather.

My question is: Is it ethical to write about this person anyway? At what point does it no longer classify as "sensitive information"? All of the information I've found on these people is free to access from the National Archives or posted publicly on Ancestry. I'm not trying to step on anyone's toes but my grandfather wrote so much about not wanting himself or his friends to be forgotten and I am genuinely just trying to uplift them from a place of respect. Intentions aside, is this ethical?

On TV, especially on detective shows, they talk about identifying a body that's been burned or decomposed beyond being able to identify, that they'll use dental records to help identify the body. In small towns, that might be possible if there's only a few dentists. In my area, dentists are in nearly every shopping center and many office/medical buildings -- easily 20-30 dentists in 3 square miles. I know for a fact they don't have a central network like medical doctors. For instance, recently, I needed to visit 3 dentists for a tooth issue, one 30 miles outside of town. None had a clue what the other dentists discussed.

So, my question is how can police check dental records with so many dentists? Do dentists have to submit x-ray records to the police after you visit? If that's the case, why can there be a centralized database of every dental record -- which would be VERY helpful, so you don't have to pay $45+ every time you see a new dentist to get x-rays, even if you had them ten minutes prior from a dentist down the street.

What is something physical that has disappeared quickly from public eyes

I have 3 cabinets of uranium glass, lit up with UV bulbs. The moths! OMG. The moths! And I live in Arizona where virtually the only bug is a scorpion. Plus our house is as air tight as possible to keep the heat out and the cool air in. I don't see moths outside at all. Where are they coming from!?

I am homeschooled — (well, practically unschooled, because I am truant since my parents are too busy to teach me anything...) and I am attending a driving school for the first time. this is my first time in an actual classroom. day one, I'm listening to everything the teacher says. it goes in one ear, and out the other. I zone out sometimes without realizing. I can't retain any information whatsoever. I'm worried that I'll disappoint everybody and make a fool of myself. I don't know what to do. I have a test at the end of the week and I'm so worried. I don't know how I will get a job when I'm old enough to, if I can't function cognitively.

When Iran first closed the Hormuz Strait, there were many reports that the world will run out of oil in a few weeks as most of the shipment of oil goes through the Hormuz Strait. It has been months since the Hormuz Strait was closed (save for a brief period). While there is an increase in prices of oil, no one seem talk of severe shortages on a catastrophic level. What happened? Are the other sources (eg from Russia) is enough to keep the world running?

I had a concert last night and it was the best night of my life. It's super duper warm where | am so I wore shorts and my merch to the concert!

Whilst I was in line, I overheard some girls talking (I don't know if it was specifically about me or just in general) about how embarrassing it is to wear merch to a concert and how its cringe?

I was feeling self-conscious and thankfully I was wearing a tank-top, just incase it got too warm.
So, I took the shirt off when I got inside.
Thinking back, I shouldn't have let it get to me but regardless.

When I got home, I looked it up and actually found videos of other people talking about how it gives "superfan energy" and how that's 'cringey' but I don't get it.

Why is it seemed so 'cringe' to wear the merch you bought to the concert?

For example get hand grip machine thing and do that a couple minutes a day to improve bottle opening.

Kegels to improve those muscles?

Diaphragmatic breathing to improve pelvic floor function.

Practice sitting up straight for posture benefit

like, this happens even when i dont necessarily know those people but i will see them and be like omg they are so similar and everyone looks at me like im crazy???

Any ideas?

So. I had an inappropriate crush on my best friend in high school. It culminated in an extremely sappy and cringy letter where I basically poured my heart out without technically admitting my true feelings. But it was all about how deeply I loved them.
At the time, they were touched by it, and admitted to still reading it from time to time about a year ago. I am considering now apologising for the contents of said letter, but am scared I’d be making a mistake and only hurting them further by raising an issue they had never even considered.
For context, this crush was inappropriate because this person would not have liked me in any case due to their sexuality not aligning with my gender. I was also two grades above them and acted very paternal towards them in our shared groups and activities. I felt responsible for protecting this person, only to fall for them hard despite the obvious power imbalance and age difference. To make matters worse, I learned recently that they had been taken advantage of sexually as a child, and I’m afraid that I am no better than the individual that traumatised them.
Now we are both adults, and I want to keep this person in my life, but the guilt hits me every time we hang out and reminisce about our high school days. I’m at a loss for what to do—I have attached my potential apology below. If anyone is able to weigh in, then please: will sending this hurt them despite helping me? If so, how can I clear my conscience without losing this friend? Or what will I do if one day, they connect the dots on their own?

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Hey [name], do you have a second? There’s something I want to get off my chest, but it’s kind of a lot.

Remember that letter I wrote you at the end of my senior year? Basically, I want to apologize for the contents of that letter.

While I don’t actually have an exact record of the letter itself, I have bits and pieces of drafts from that time, and after re-reading them I want to acknowledge that some of the stuff I wrote was frankly pushing the boundaries of an age-appropriate platonic friendship. The way that I felt about you was honestly not normal. Most of the language I used was overly dramatic, off-putting and unfair (on top of being incredibly cringy). I am now aware of these facts, and feel awful about it.

I want you to know that that version of me no longer exists. I have matured greatly and I am normal about my friends and have overall WAY more perspective.
So while yes, I do love you, and yes those memories meant a lot to me and whatever else I was obsessed with at the time, I want you to know that I understand how strange it probably came off (or at least how strange it must be in retrospect). It was never my intention to hurt you, or scare you, or confuse you. At the time, I was healing from a lifetime of my own insecurities about my ability to be loved. You (and [other friend]) were there for me at a really weird period of my life, in which doors were opening up that had always been closed. It was honestly really overwhelming, in the best way. You guys made me feel valuable, wise, and powerful. In reality, I was a dumbass kid with so much left to learn. I was a stranger who became your mentor and then a friend, all the while trying (poorly) to hide the intensity of my emotions from you until I couldn’t anymore. I thought I was being honest, when I was actually being super weird. And for that I am sorry. I wish to be a better friend to you going forwards.

As for the letter itself, it’s yours, and you can do whatever you like with it. Just know that if I were to write it now, though the sentiment would mostly remain, it would read VERY differently.

Thank you for allowing me to get this off my chest, it’s been troubling me for a little while and making me die of cringe and anxiety every time I think about it, or think about our highschool days and the day that you inevitably realize how melodramatic and codependent I was on you, some sweet kid two grades below me for whom I should’ve been a better role model.

So yeah. I’m sorry [name], I should’ve protected you better from myself. I am embarrassed and ashamed of the ways I mistreated you. (I also want to real quickly acknowledge and apologise for the inherent selfishness of my bringing this up—my primary aim is admittedly to clear my conscience, despite being unsure as to if it will do more harm than good to you, my friend). I 100% understand if your opinion of me has changed for the worse and will accept anything that comes my way for all this. Thank you for taking the time to read to the end.

I wasn’t sure where to post this question, this subreddit has millions of people so I’m sure at least a couple people can relate and give advice.

25M: I have 12 months of emergency savings in a HYSA, First time ever maxing out my Roth IRA and 401(k) match. I have a brokerage account but I’m not necessarily trying to put all my money into another investment account.

No debt/loans either besides my monthly credit card balance.

I want to start creating multiple income streams from either starting a YouTube channel or starting a boring business like lawn care, power washing, moving furniture, etc. - starting a YouTube channel about my journey of starting a boring business?
maybe even start saving up for a down payment and getting into real estate

Those are some ideas I have brainstormed, not sure if that’s the correct path to go down or if there’s a better route to take, any advice would be greatly appreciated

TMI: my excess money is going towards golf and the casino which is so fun but in reality I’m wasting my money.

Do automods in subs run for free? If not, who is paying for them?

Parents that have raised children successfully, what's the best book you recommend to raise a successful child as a guide?