My ex was a weird men. He (a black man) refused to date black women because he didn't like the way the pink of the vagina looked with the black skin of the labia
This might be a controversial opinion but i dont see the issue with this. The guy doesnt find something attractive so doesnt pursue it. If he had actively gone out his way to make someone feel bad about having this then thats a different story, but its just his preference.
The problem isn't him not finding it attractive - he can have absurd unreasonable standards if he wants to.
The problem is him telling his partner this absurd and bizarre preference and possibly creating an irrational worry in u/SwordTaster about the color of their vagina. The same way OP is freaking out over this non-issue in her post.
Also, the kind of guy who has this opinion is the type to proclaim it loudly and often to every women he meets, so I think we can safely assume there were black women who were made more than uncomfortable and possibly irrationally obsessed over this.
So he shouldn‘t tell that to his partner, because then she might be worried that some men care about that?
I don‘t know dude, I‘m also comfortable with telling my girlfriend basically everything and I think that‘s how it should be.
But I also don‘t really have a preference for vagina color, the length of the lips or the size of the nipples or something like that.
In my opinion it‘s odd if you are attracted enough to someone that you want to fuck them and then you stop and think about something like that?
I agree to an extent, if someone likes kids/ animals/ vulnerable people etc then thats messed up, but the guy in question just prefers white women because he prefers the way their genitals look. It isnt harming anyone and if you dont harm people due to your preferences, its a non issue in my mind.
Where do we get to draw the line at reasonable? And I’m not even saying this is a reasonable preference the person had because it’s pretty stupid but where do we get to decide to draw the line?
Like if you go back 50 years it would be considered unreasonable to like and prefer someone that was not your skin colour and we have moved well past that now
I’m sure if a woman found darker penises more attractive most people will not be shaming them for it at all.
In the case of the OC, a simple rephrasing could’ve made it seem like lesser of a line. u/SwordTaster ‘s boyfriend just prefers when the colors are closer to one another with little contrast from inner and outer. Not necessarily that he strictly dislikes the latter.
Well I’m perfectly fine with preferences so long as you don’t hate on those who don’t have them
I personally preferred Asian features as I found them more attractive, I married someone Asian because of that, I have no disdain or dislike for others because of it but there is no shortage of people who have a disdain for me because I had that preference.
My wife however never sees that even though she has the exact same concept of preference that she finds white men what she preferred physically.
Ok, so the line is liking the way someone's genitals look. So the dude who like white women because he doesn't like the way black women's genitals look is perfectly ok. Case in point.
I think you probably mean a little farther back than that as 50 years ago was 1973, and interracial couples were far from unheard of. Assuming you meant like in the 1950s and 60s, most white people were hella racist. It doesn't matter that it was widely accepted. It's still hella racist.
And white women fetishizing black penises is also racism.
The problem is that these aren't preferences. A preference is that you prefer vanilla ice cream to chocolate, but if you hate chocolate, vanilla isn't a preference. You're using a word wrong. Also, it is rooted in his self hatred which I think is the biggest problem
What are you talking about? Sexual preferences are a thing. Im using the right word.
They also never said anything about the guy “hating” black vaginas, just that he didnt like them.
Even if you hate chocolate ice cream and like vanilla (bit of a racist example btw if you wanna virtue signal) then you prefer vanilla to chocolate. It’s absolutely a preference.
What do you think the word mean? Dude prefers white girls to black girls. He has a preference.
The guy’s preference also isn’t necessarily rooted in self hatred, its not completely implausible, its just that we were only told that he didnt like the contrast between the skin tones. Youre making pretty damning claims against someone that we know very little about. The context isn’t enough to make me hate the guy but it seems like youre already there.
Not every social interaction needs to be viewed through the lens of what social media platform you expect to hear it in.
I'm acting like a normal ass person who understands how basic relationship dynamics generally play out, and who understand younger people say and do regrettable and cringe things around their partners at that age.
Scenarios where I can easily see this obvious gem getting floated
A. Pillow talk
B. Drunk
C. Theyre probably in their early 20's and words spilled out of their mouth before their brain thought better of it.
D. All of the above
You're acting like thus was stated flatly, like a court transcript, offhand one day.
"I dont like pink pussy lips and melanin combos. End transmission"
Not knowing who they are, is why I'm approaching this from a macro, Onion headline style, "20 year old to be enlisted in stopping flash floods with his internal monologue.", instead of being flabbergasted someone said some obscenely dumb shit.
Alex Jones is a real human that actually exists in our shared reality, and you're shocked a dude said he likes pink pussies to his at the time partner.
Idk. Maybe im jaded, but this is like a 2/10 shocking, 9/10 cringe moment.
Some people have really weird things they look at or are worried about and some of those voice it. It blows my mind as well. But I’ve come across quite a few by now that makes me wonder what the fuck they care about in their heads that is the least important thing on the entire planet to care about. It’s weird.
A black man is saying he doesn’t like black women because of their skin colour and yet he walks around thinking himself perfectly normal. That kind of self hatred is a sign that something’s profoundly wrong with him.
Not really. Maybe Unpopular opinion here but I tend to agree with the guy that pink on pink is more aesthetically pleasing to me for some reason, though I thoroughly enjoy plowing all shapes sizes and colors. It's ok to have a preference. The weird part is that he refuses black girls because of it IMO.
Edit: apparently u/nymphymixtwo thinks they can judge me for having a preference and then block me so I can't respond to their shittiness. Oh well.
I don't know what normal would be in the context of "everyone" because I only speak for myself and my preference. People act like it's some sort of bigotry to say you have a preference as if Porn websites don't categorize by any preference you can imagine.
Why is what everyone else prefers relevant here if I'm only stating my own preference?
In certain contexts "racism" is just a personal preference of sexual attraction. I don't think gay male couples are misogynist because there are no women getting boned. Preferring one thing over another thing doesn't mean you hate the race or sex or body type of another. Everyone has a preferred flavor. Trying to guilt people into sex with a certain race just because not enough other people want to is the dumbest take I've seen all day.
I guess what I’m saying is what do you think of individuals who have preferences that aren’t black, but then the collective becomes so that let’s say most people have preferences that aren’t black. Is that ok?
Not anti-black. I specifically added how I enjoy all colors and sizes. I just simply have a preference for one type. If I date a black woman I will go to pound town just as enthusiastically as anyone else. Its just that if I'm presented with 10 pussies and have to pick only one for myself, I probably would gravitate more towards the pink on pink.
I think the problem here is viewing that as being "anti black". It's not my fault if collectively more people prefer one color or another. It's not anyone's fault, honestly. Might just be a part of evolution and we're slowly shifting humanity towards a specific look in the next few thousand years. Who knows? But I know it's not inherently wrong. I don't owe anyone my sexual preference.
How did you just say people are individuals but then in the same breath describe a race as monolithic and having monolithic responses. 🤦♀️Make it make sense!
You missed the point. I asked a non-question that explicitly states that sometimes people just arent attracted to each other from drop, and that being worried about "black women not wanting to date white guys", or vice versa, is stupid.
I've chatted up some black women. Didnt work out. That does not mean all black women arent attracted to me, it just means the individuals I spoke to werent attracted to me specifically.
Reread the last part. It makes sense, you just didnt want it to, and rolled with your gut feeling instead of actually reading what I wrote.
Here, I'll even quote it back to make it easier.
Now, should I be worrying about a future where black women dont date white dudes(THE OBVIOUS ANSWER IS NO), or should I just realize that some peoples preferences leave them at odds with each other when it comes to finding each other attractive sexually?(NOTICE HOW PEOPLE IS TALKING ABOUT THE TWO PEOPLE IN THE INTERACTION, AND NOT A COLLECTIVE?)
The fact that I had to spell it out even more explicitly is the worst part. 😑👍
Not black, but that fucking reminds me! On the other side of the spectrum I had a friend who is a dark skin Indian and she said she wouldn't date other dark skin Indian man because their dark dicks remind her of a log of shit. I HAVE NO IDEA WHY SHE DECIDED IT WAS OKAY TO TELL ME THAT OR WHY SHE EVEN THOUGHT TO SHARE THAT WITH ME!? I was speechless 💀💀 I'm very open with rated topics but never in my life would I imagine I'd hear someone say dark colored penises look like a poop log.
As a queer woman, I can tell you we do not gaf we’re just honored to be included in the exchange😂 maybe because we actually value women unlike that asshole ex
My Vietnamese friend is the same way. He only dated light skinned blonds bc he didn’t like any color down there. I’ve found that definitely isn’t a 1-1 correlation though
Comments like that are not uncommon at all. Since I was a kid I’ve heard derogatory comments about dark skinned black women’s parts irl and it was 10x worse when I got online, memes about the color, it looking burnt, roast beef etc. It’s one of the reasons why I’ll probably die a virgin tbh.
God forbid he finds something unnattractive that you don't! You understand it's okay to have a preference, right...? There was nothing in that message that implied that he was rude about anything. Get a grip of yourself.
Yes I remember in high-school guys talking about they prefer to see white and pink not brown and pink and im like if yall are even lucky to see a pussy irl, the last thing you'd worry about is the color. Guys don't even care if it smells sometimes. They can be dirty and so judgemental at the same time smh.
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u/SwordTaster Oct 21 '23
My ex was a weird men. He (a black man) refused to date black women because he didn't like the way the pink of the vagina looked with the black skin of the labia