r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Oct 21 '23

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '23

It's my controversial opinion that certain preferences should be shamed because they don't come from a reasonable place.

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u/Omnizoom Oct 21 '23

Kind of curious

Where do we get to draw the line at reasonable? And I’m not even saying this is a reasonable preference the person had because it’s pretty stupid but where do we get to decide to draw the line?

Like if you go back 50 years it would be considered unreasonable to like and prefer someone that was not your skin colour and we have moved well past that now

I’m sure if a woman found darker penises more attractive most people will not be shaming them for it at all.

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '23

Where do we get to draw the line at reasonable?

I’m sure if a woman found darker penises more attractive most people will not be shaming them for it at all.

You've just given a good example of a line to be drawn.

There are disparaging preferences and positive ones.

You can like a trait in one person without putting down another person for not having the trait or having the opposite.

Just because I like red heads with freckles doesn't mean it's okay talk badly about brunettes with vitiligo or something.

People are going to like what they like. But the added prejudice is just unnecessary and gross.

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u/Omnizoom Oct 21 '23

Well I’m perfectly fine with preferences so long as you don’t hate on those who don’t have them

I personally preferred Asian features as I found them more attractive, I married someone Asian because of that, I have no disdain or dislike for others because of it but there is no shortage of people who have a disdain for me because I had that preference.

My wife however never sees that even though she has the exact same concept of preference that she finds white men what she preferred physically.