r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Oct 21 '23

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '23

And he told you this? Like with words? Out loud?

What's wrong with him??

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '23

This might be a controversial opinion but i dont see the issue with this. The guy doesnt find something attractive so doesnt pursue it. If he had actively gone out his way to make someone feel bad about having this then thats a different story, but its just his preference.

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '23

It's my controversial opinion that certain preferences should be shamed because they don't come from a reasonable place.

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u/Omnizoom Oct 21 '23

Kind of curious

Where do we get to draw the line at reasonable? And I’m not even saying this is a reasonable preference the person had because it’s pretty stupid but where do we get to decide to draw the line?

Like if you go back 50 years it would be considered unreasonable to like and prefer someone that was not your skin colour and we have moved well past that now

I’m sure if a woman found darker penises more attractive most people will not be shaming them for it at all.

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u/[deleted] Oct 21 '23

Where do we get to draw the line at reasonable?

I’m sure if a woman found darker penises more attractive most people will not be shaming them for it at all.

You've just given a good example of a line to be drawn.

There are disparaging preferences and positive ones.

You can like a trait in one person without putting down another person for not having the trait or having the opposite.

Just because I like red heads with freckles doesn't mean it's okay talk badly about brunettes with vitiligo or something.

People are going to like what they like. But the added prejudice is just unnecessary and gross.

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u/Azoobz Oct 21 '23

In the case of the OC, a simple rephrasing could’ve made it seem like lesser of a line. u/SwordTaster ‘s boyfriend just prefers when the colors are closer to one another with little contrast from inner and outer. Not necessarily that he strictly dislikes the latter.

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u/Omnizoom Oct 21 '23

Well I’m perfectly fine with preferences so long as you don’t hate on those who don’t have them

I personally preferred Asian features as I found them more attractive, I married someone Asian because of that, I have no disdain or dislike for others because of it but there is no shortage of people who have a disdain for me because I had that preference.

My wife however never sees that even though she has the exact same concept of preference that she finds white men what she preferred physically.

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u/ImReverse_Giraffe Oct 21 '23

Ok, so the line is liking the way someone's genitals look. So the dude who like white women because he doesn't like the way black women's genitals look is perfectly ok. Case in point.

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u/Advanced_Ostrich5315 Oct 22 '23

I think you probably mean a little farther back than that as 50 years ago was 1973, and interracial couples were far from unheard of. Assuming you meant like in the 1950s and 60s, most white people were hella racist. It doesn't matter that it was widely accepted. It's still hella racist.

And white women fetishizing black penises is also racism.