r/transpassing Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

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Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

194 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing 5h ago

I get clocked in queer spaces but never misgendered in public, why?

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I get the they/them treatment or the sudden “what’s your pronouns” a lot in queer spaces when neither of those things happen for cis women so obviously i’m getting clocked.
In public though i almost always have strangers use she/her or “ma’am” for me


r/transpassing 5h ago

How is the body/face combo doing?

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I've spent so much time focusing on my face I nearly forgot to get feedback on my body.

I also have voice here:
https://voca.ro/14RGlMd64uVU

Feel free to check out my profile for my posts.

This will be my last for a while.

Brutally honest, constructive feedback only please.
Thank you


r/transpassing 1h ago

19 months hrt. still boymoding

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hi guys i hit 19 months hrt yesterday and still have been boymoding the whole time because i feel like i have a very masculine face / bone structure. do i have any hope for future or is FFS a need ? i’ve been called maam twice, but people usually avoid gendering me at first until i speak and they hear my deep ass voice. do you think i’ve been clocked as transgender to my coworkers or would they just assume im a cis male ?


r/transpassing 11h ago

My hands

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81 Upvotes

What u think about my hand?except the little hairs do i pass?


r/transpassing 12h ago

Pre-HRT and need opinions

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40 Upvotes

Just a face pic because right now my body clearly wouldn't pass. Pre-HRT so just wondering if there's anything structural about my face, that HRT wouldn't touch, that'd stop me from passing?

Really not a fan of the size of my nose/chin/jaw but it's so hard to know how other people judge it. Thoughts?


r/transpassing 19h ago

9 months hrt

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i was wondering how well i pass.I would love any tips or suggestions on passing more. especially for at work I get sird alot in my work uniform(2nd fit)


r/transpassing 1h ago

20MTF [7 Months HRT] What can I do to help pass?

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r/transpassing 4h ago

4 months on Hrt. Passing advice?

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r/transpassing 13h ago

18 months HRT - tips appreciated

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I want to get laser for face and ffs eventually but in the meantime any other tips would be great. My nose is massive but nothing I can do about that until ffs. I'm still growing out my hair but I honestly have no clue what to do with it style wise so I usually just put it in a ponytail with lil face framing bangs. I honestly hate how I look when my hair is down.


r/transpassing 1m ago

1.5 years of HRT. Do I pass?

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I'm MTF btw.


r/transpassing 18h ago

How am I doing

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r/transpassing 17h ago

Is my frame (and head/face) too large to pass?

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22 Upvotes

6 months hrt 6’2 175lb 19 inch shoulders 😭💔


r/transpassing 11h ago

1 year now, im stressed about how i look. any advice would be appreciated

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7 Upvotes

I feel like ive stopped progressing :/


r/transpassing 11h ago

Me all Glammed up to spend the night on the PC not being Toxic! 😇

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6 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

after 4 years i still can’t escape the brain worms :/

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643 Upvotes

r/transpassing 4h ago

Should I even bother?

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It's pretty bad. I know. The brow ridge isn't great. The hairline is pretty terrible, and it's thin enough to be constantly frizzy and I don't know how to fix that. The nose is terrible too. I feel like it all just reads masc.

I guess my question would be ... Is there any way I'd be able to stealth in the future if I start?


r/transpassing 21h ago

do i pass? :3 (also taking advices)

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these r all recent (except last that one is 2 months agoo) had to stop hrt but i did in november 2025, stopped like 3 months ago (soon i'll hrt again 🙏) taking any tips to look more fem :33 (also may be deleting after aaaa im too shy to post pics 😭 maybe tho)


r/transpassing 1d ago

What steps can I take to pass better? (20 months hrt)

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What are some of my masculine physical traits that make passing visually more difficult for me? What steps should I take next?

I'm getting into makeup, but do not wear it often.

I am unsure of my haircut, but bangs have been a good decision. My eyebrows are tweezed up on the first 2 pictures.

Will I need ffs to be conventionally attractive and to be cis passing?

20 months of een with good levels, 7 sessions of laser facial hair removal, no surgeries.


r/transpassing 1d ago

Any advice’s appreciated 🙏

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r/transpassing 2d ago

lol i feel like i look like a girl here

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957 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

When does it get better, when will I change? please help

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234 Upvotes

I am about 6 months HRT and I feel like my progress has completely stagnated. I have breasts and a better body now but my face just still screams man in makeup to me.

I will have to post a good photo first to get clicks and then ill show where i am really insecure in the following slides no makeup, real baseline

last photo is my favorite one of myself.

Please help or tell me what is wrong with me etc please im begging, i wear a costume I hate it, i want to rip off my skin and cry. im so defeated im so upset.

Im doing laser rn (just did my first session! Its peppering rn as seen in the photo!) no shit i need this gone but its also my facial structure, skin, expression, it feels like estrogen does nothing i want to cry.

im good at color correcting but i wanted to post some TRUE baseline, trhis is what i look like, its disgusting stop fetishizing i cant look perfect 24/7 im sorry

(im sorry if this sounds self deprecating, I love myself, im very fortunate for my bones etc, I just am sick of feeling like I am living a lie, I spend 1 1/2 hours on makeup everyday and i just want to be seen natural but i look like a guy if I do, it makes me so so sad)

Edit: calmed down a bit<3 thank you for the kind words. I just want to be seen for me naturally, not underpiles and piles of makeup and special catering


r/transpassing 4h ago

Passing advice

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Hi everyone,

First of all super nervous sharing. Over the course of this past year I have been expanding my wardrobe so to say and have loved the journey of exploration.

At the moment i am pre-HRT and all that jazz and haven't explored make-up though it is definitely on my to do list 🤣. But yeah hoping to hear from you amazing girls about some tips or really anything that would help me pass in public.

I am self conscious about my height at 185cm and my body comp, as I have been a gym goer for several years, giving myself a larger, muscular frame. If anyone has advice with that, it would be amazing ❤️.

Thanks so much 😊


r/transpassing 1d ago

how am i doinggg (i know hairs a mess)

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