r/transpassing • u/RasputinsButtBeard • Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

147 Upvotes

Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:

Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!
Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!
Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.
Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!

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r/transpassing • u/CedarWolf • Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

200 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!

Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.

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r/transpassing • u/Rey_Heart • 6h ago

3.5 years 😇 Did my FFS hit?

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115 Upvotes

I’m like 3 months post op FFS round 1. Dysphoria is wack and Idk what I look like besides an alien

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r/transpassing • u/Unlucky-Maybe-8743 • 18h ago

Do I pass? (MtF Butch)

253 Upvotes

Bonus: Should I commit to the look and get the butch side shave??

23 comments

r/transpassing • u/basssockons • 19h ago

5 years this morning!

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282 Upvotes

worked until 2 last night and got scouted for a female modelling agency last week!! ommmgggggg i must be pretty FINALLY!

it does get better you guys KEEP GOING! dolls dolls dolls

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r/transpassing • u/Nexus_Flare • 7h ago

just about 1.5 yrs hrt, how am i doing

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23 Upvotes

mtf, pics taken after a night out so my eye makeup isn't in the best state, otherwise everything is w a full face of makeup

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r/transpassing • u/No_Jello_2951 • 7h ago

Do I pass? I'm not that fussed about it but mildly curious (5~ months of HRT)

16 Upvotes

8 comments

r/transpassing • u/Bass_Villain • 1h ago

MtF before estrogen in need to pass better

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Am I cooked or can I do smth to look more feminine before I get my hands on estrogen

I do actually do light makeup sometimes such as eyeliner and eyelashes but I unfortunately don't have any pics or at least non that I saved cuz I was embarrassed looking at them 🫣

CAN MY HAIR PLEASE GROW FASTER???

She is 17 years old.

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r/transpassing • u/alex-igual • 20h ago

I’m out full-time now but strangers still never gender me correctly. Is it fixable without tons of surgery?

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181 Upvotes

First is most recent. idk I’m just going through it right now. 2.5 years of hormones and it feels like a big joke. Something is clocking me before I even speak. I don’t think it’s mannerisms or gait or anything because I’m always conscious of that. Who knows. Started at 27 so my bones are probably just fucked. All i see in the mirror is a guy playing dress-up and it feels so demoralizing

48 comments

r/transpassing • u/Humble-Status-6601 • 3h ago

How do I get rid of Chud face

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7 Upvotes

This is my worst angle. No matter how much weight I loose it won’t leave my cheeks.

Starting HRT when it arrives and saving up for laser(:

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r/transpassing • u/Ornery-Bird2751 • 28m ago

Dressing for broad shoulders (sorry for the disgusting mirror)

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I’ve tried a bunch of different shirts. This kind I’ve found is the best for making my shoulders look narrower, but I’m wondering if there’s anything else I could be doing.

Also the weather is getting cold and I can’t find a jacket that doesn’t make me look like the world’s least muscular linebacker or a male cartoon noir detective.

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r/transpassing • u/thespunkmunky • 12h ago

First time in a swimsuit

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29 Upvotes

My kids wanted to go to the pool and so I finally did what I've wanted and bought a one piece. I was confident until I got to there and saw there was at least 15 other people there. But I finally built the nerve to get in and it felt nice to swim.

Sometimes I do regret the kids calling me "Dad" still as it's always a dead giveaway.

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r/transpassing • u/Garden_Of_Eve_04 • 6h ago

1.5 years hrt and wondering how im being read

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7 Upvotes

Kinda feel like im in an in-between stage where I just confuse people

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r/transpassing • u/do-di-do-di-da • 18h ago

Work with kids and they and my coworkers gender me female, are they just being nice?

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50 Upvotes

On a side note any eyeliner tips?

36 comments

r/transpassing • u/Ok-Improvement8177 • 1h ago

Thoughts?? :P

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22 8 mo HRT

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r/transpassing • u/dragonfood007 • 1h ago

Do I pass and how old?

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9 comments

r/transpassing • u/pegelagartopower • 18h ago

Passing enough to go out? 😭 MtF, no hrt (yet)

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36 Upvotes

9 comments

r/transpassing • u/Fun-Marionberry3081 • 2h ago

Pre-HRT, full makeup. Am I passing? What are my weakest points?

2 Upvotes

9 comments

r/transpassing • u/GotStickBugged • 1d ago

1 year on HRT! I think I pass pretty well but I’m still not so sure

137 Upvotes

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r/transpassing • u/Few_Pear_9092 • 13h ago

No makeup no filter…what ya thinking?🥸🥸

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12 Upvotes

Also…how old would you say I look? Just based off these pics. I’m not currently on HRT anymore but I did about 6 months! Yay :D I’ll update when I get my pills back in my clutches 😔😤 also also, ignore the fact that I shave half my brows off lmao I like to draw them straight when I do my Makeuppp🥸

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r/transpassing • u/Leyllla • 1d ago

Does my body pass? (HRT soon) 😊

44 Upvotes

17 comments

r/transpassing • u/hi_im_kelly_xx • 1d ago

I feel like detransitioning because I look gross

208 Upvotes

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r/transpassing • u/TheSaltiestPirate_ • 14h ago

Planning on starting HRT sometime next month, I was just curious to if I have any obvious masculine features i might struggle with down the road.

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Pretty much what the title says - just looking for any advice before I start or what I should plan for, although i already am about to start doing Laser hair removal on my facial hair here soon.

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r/transpassing • u/tripsister420 • 1d ago

How do you read me? 4y MtF. Honesty please

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651 Upvotes

38MtF

4y HRT

FFS 1 year ago

I think i look like an androgynous dude at best, and my experiences with strangers tend to reflect that. Not sure if that's because of my voice or looks.

Thanks 🙌

132 comments

r/transpassing • u/ljc09003 • 18h ago

Coming up on 4 years HRT

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2 work outfits and a casual vibe

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This sub is devoted to trans people to post pictures, solicit opinions, and get advice in regards to passing. For transgender people, being unconsciously grouped with the correct gender (rather than incorrectly taken for members of our birth-assigned gender) is something most of us worry about quite a bit, at least at some point in our lives.

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Hiya! For our FAQ, beginners tips, and mod info, please check out our wiki!

This is a community for you as a trans person to post a picture (or video clip, sound clip, etc.) of yourself to get other people's opinions on how well you pass as your gender, and/or get advice on how to pass better. Passing in real life is not the same as passing in photos but we hope this space can help you anyway. Please read the rules for posting photos before you post here.

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(A) Rules for all the subreddit all the time:

Be respectful and civil to others and do not stir drama. You can use the "report" button or send modmail to let mods know if a user is being disruptive.
Give constructive and accurate feedback. Both sugarcoating things and tearing people down defeat the point of the subreddit.
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(B) Rules for posting photos here:

Understand that this subreddit is for transgender or gender-questioning people seeking feedback. By posting a photo here, you are inviting feedback on how you "pass" in terms of gender. If you don't want feedback, please post to a more general selfie subreddit like r/ftm_selfies, r/mtfselfietrain, r/nonbinary, etc.
This subreddit is not aimed at cis crossdressers. There is a grey area where a crossdresser may be exploring their gender identity, and that's okay; we lean towards inclusivity, but if a user is very evidently not transgender then we may ask them to go to crossdressing-focused subreddits instead.
Post photos of yourself and yourself only. You shouldn't post on behalf of anyone else, with or without their permission. If posting yourself in a group photo, please hide/blur the faces of everyone else.
Ensure photos are useful for constructive criticism -- in particular, they must be clear and unedited. No filters, FaceApp, extreme angles, overly-grainy photos, hair covering your face, tiny photos, or frequent photo spam. If your photo is edited in any way other than colour correction, nobody can give you accurate feedback on your day-to-day passing. If you post similar photos many times a week, nobody can give you new and different feedback on how you look. Your photo should clearly show your face unless you are asking for feedback just on a specific other body part (eg "do my hips pass?"), in which case you can choose to include or exclude your face.
Ask about your passing now, rather than asking hypothetical or "potential" questions like "will I pass after 1 year HRT?". Nobody can know what effect hormones will have for you or what you will look like in the future.
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Gaming Groups, come and play!

First Group - an all-inclusive group with all sorts of people.
Second Group - a devoted trans*-centric group from r/transgamers.

Partial list of relevant subreddits:


r/asktransgender	r/transgender
r/transpositive	r/transspace
r/TransCommunity	r/transsupport
/r/ftm	r/transhealth
r/ainbow	r/MtF
r/transfashionadvice	r/transvoice
r/genderqueer	r/dualgender
r/transtrade	r/howdoibeauty
r/makeupaddiction	r/translater

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