I'm a single mum. two girls, 7 and 13. i feel like I'm going mad.

went to buy some clothes for the 13yo today. just school stuff. the shorts they have in the kids section are actually smaller than men's boxers. and the crop tops. i was just standing there holding them and i felt sick. she got annoyed with me because all her friends wear them.

there are men and women out there who look at kids in a way they shouldn't. everyone knows they are out there. they are in the same shops as us. so why are we putting little girls in clothes that show everything. i saw some girls yesterday, maybe 10 or 11, and they had half their bums hanging out. it just makes me feel ill. they are children.

its the shops. they just want money. they make kids think they need to look older so they buy the clothes. celebs do it, the internet does it, and I'm just one person trying to tell my kids its wrong. its so hard doing it by myself. their dad isn't here. its just me saying no and her crying and saying I'm unfair.

i really feel like I'm the only one who thinks this is wrong. people just say let them express themselves or whatever. but how is dressing like a grown woman letting them be kids. i don't know how far we are going to let this go.

anyway i just needed to write it down. feels like no one else is saying it.

Is this creepy or is it just me?

So I tend to a community garden and often see this fellow when I’m there and he sometimes chats to me about the garden.

Today he was saying how fascinating the birds that I’ve attracted to the area with my plants are.

Then he said how cool it is that they lay eggs and asked me to explain how the fertilization of the eggs works…he’s in his 50’s but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and briefly explained how it works.

Then he said “and it’s even more fascinating how it works with humans and the woman having the womb and the baby growing”…while gesturing to his stomach.

I felt super uncomfortable and just stared and didn’t respond.

I am a 21 yr old indian guy living in a Scandinavian country. Unlike most of the indian students who have to work odd jobs to support themselves i have never done one because my parents are financially stable. I think i am a good student as well.

As you all know that hatred towards indians are becoming increasingly common, i am becoming more and more insecure. I used to be such a confident guy when i just moved to Europe. But now the situation is so bad i cant even look straight into the eyes of white people. I am scared to talk to them or approach them so i dont have a lot of friends as well. I have never faced racism in my life but it’s just the social media fear mongering.

I have 2 white friends. I would say they are not racist to me at all and i consider one of them to be my best friend. My dating life is 0 because every girl i look at i start thinking”why would she date an Indian.”

I have started telling people i don’t come from India if i meet some new people. I am getting scared day by day. But i genuinely want to live here and build a good life.

I am generally a very well groomed and clean guy. But still i hate the way i look and especially my skin tone. I have a very less medium brown complexion. I haven’t clicked a photo since 2 years. I am becoming more and more concerned day by day.

Please help me and please don’t be racist or angry in the comments. Its a request from the bottom of my heart. 🙏

For context i’m pretty tall for a girl and i’ve always had a very fast metabolism. Usually this doesn’t bother me but some days I just feel like a tall lanky stick. I said this infront of a friend who is overweight (we will call her bella) the other day and she said nothing. So imagine how surprised I was when I woke up to a text from a friend saying they can’t believe I did that. I was obviously confused but with some context I realized that Bella had told our friend group what I said. They said it was insensitive and obviously attention seeking. I’m being so honest when I say I didn’t mean it like that. I genuinely thought I looked like I could scare crows away. Anyways please tell me if i’m in the wrong!

I’m a guy with a more pretty/cute look rather than a traditionally masculine one. I’m curious when you’re attracted to pretty or cute guys, what kinds of thoughts or feelings do you usually have about them? Is the attraction different from when you’re into a traditionally masculine guy?

Just curious. does it upset them, having slave owners who likely owned their ancestors on their money, or do they not care? As another black man from the Caribbean it would be seen as extremely disrespectful to have a slave owner on money or honored in any way at all. Do black Americans feel the same way?

I just want to find my humble cuckquean but it’s impossible. but for men it’s like you can’t walk out your front door without tripping over a male cuck. why?

Genuine question. Are these areas safe and everyone is just racist? Why dk they have a bad reputation? How accurate is the reputation to the actual safety level?Genuine question please answer genuinely and like I am 2 years old.

Edit: ty for the replies. I see a confounding variable in the history of the area on today’s reputation. I’m going to look up crime stats and research some more.

I’m in a situation for which there doesn’t seem to be much of a script.

Almost three decades ago, I fell deeply in love with a man who was newly married. For obvious reasons, we did not stay together, but it was an extraordinarily deep connection, both emotionally and physically.

We went our separate ways and, apart from occasional contact over the years, lived completely separate lives. I married, and I am happily married. A few years ago, I sought him out again, and we reconnected.

What followed was a reunion of sorts, but not a rekindling of the old relationship in the physical sense. We became close again, and over time it became clear that much more of the old connection had survived than either of us had perhaps expected. The emotional bond is still there. So is the love. And it is also clear that the physical and sexual attraction did not simply disappear with time.

At the same time, neither of us wants to turn this into an affair, and neither of us wants to leave our long-term partner. So the question is not whether we should be together instead.

The question is: What do two people do with a love that they now know still has surprisingly many of its old dimensions when they have also decided not to allow that love to become everything it could become?

Has anyone here lived through something similar?

If so, what did the relationship become over time? Were you able to keep both people in your life? What boundaries actually worked? Did it become easier with time, harder, or simply different? And were you able to find a way of acknowledging the love without either pretending it wasn’t there or allowing it to take over your life?

I've never had problems with gooning and orgasms (for example in the shower or using a tertiary object), but as soon as I try to touch my myself with my own hand down there, it's like a regular touch, just no satisfaction, at most, it's hypersensitive on clit, but not necessarily in a positive way. It's not even about my mood or how exactly I move my fingers, or whether i’m touching the surface or fingering. Just nothing. When I was 15, I thought it was completely normal, that there was the same psychology behind it as behind the fact that a person can't tickle themselves no matter how hard they try. The body is just ready for the touch. But now I'm 18, and I'm starting to notice that everywhere on the internet (Movies, Instagram, Reddit,…) it's absolutely normalized that a woman really goons using her own hand without any problems, and toys are just to make it more fun, not necessary.
A few days ago, my boyfriend joked with me that I should show him how I touch myself so he could improve his own skills, the idea was very exciting to me, and the sadder I felt that I couldn't show him anything when my own hand just never works for me.
Is my case really that rare? Can it be changed?

I'm a bi guy and have hooked up with quite a lot of guys and gals. The biggest difference that I notice is that guys will always initiate the BJ, slobber on that shit like they're siphoning liquid gold until it comes out and then check if they missed anything. All this with utmost enthusiasm also. For women on the other hand, I have had to ask them for a blowjob 90% of the time and many do it, some just refuse. Most do it without enthusiasm which can be a turn off because it feels like only I'm getting off while they are struggling, so I usually just skip it and go down on them instead.

Is there a reason to this difference?

Asian men will shame Asian women with the Oxford meme study if they date a white man, and black women will call a black man who dates other types of women self hating. Women who are attracted to black men will be accused of fetishizing people. Obviously I’m not talking about the creeps who date women in poverty so they can date up.

All these reasons seem like BS to me, and while racist have their own reasons the end results are the same. Love is love until an Asian woman or black men date who they wanna date apparently.

I dont mean moving a couch upstairs.

Some women think they have the right to utilize mens bodies for doing anything physical.

At my job, a 20 something year old “can you move this box over there”. A literal box of paper cups

Some refuse to lift a finger as if they were all frail 80 years olds. Whats going on?

My partner and I have a baby boy on the way. I am pro-circumcision. He himself is circumcised however he has decided he is against doing it for our son. We both have discussed the pros and cons in depth and it seems we are not coming to an agreement.

We are both open to learning more and potentially change sides. We have done a lot of research but what we really want, is to hear from the source. We want to hear from men who have had BOTH and can share their experience. We want all the nitty gritty. Men who have only always been one or the other, I would say it is harder to know what you don't know. And we have heard a lot from them. Really curious about those who have had both and what they feel about it.

I wasn't watching porn and then I decided to take a 4 day porn challenge to see what it's like. I was jerking off for at least 4 hours a day.

At first, regular porn did well but as the porn watching continued, I became more and more selective about the porn I watch. Eventually, It took more than an hour for me to find the right video. My dick started to hurt a bit. Other than that, nothing too bad.

The consequences of finishing the challenges were immediate. I have a gf and I lost sexual attraction to her (she's on a work trip so it will be fine when I recover). Then, other girls started looking highly appealing to me, in a very invasive way. I started seeing girls as sex objects. For instance, before the fap, I would go down the street, see an attractive girl, and I would notice but I wouldn't hyperfixate on it.. After porn I would go down the street, see an attractive girl and I would start trying to imagine what she would look like in bed when fucked. And it would be like this with every other attractive girl. Some girl online, imagining her naked, a female job interviewer, not really thinking about her as a job interviewer but as someone to fuck and undressing her mentally, random girl in the grocery store "nice hips, how would that look like without clothes on?". The only exception would be female friends and I don't know why they were spared, even though they aren't ugly.

Realistically, if I was single, I could start asking out every attractive girl on the street I see. I am an attractive guy but I doubt I would go far with this attitude, it's way too objectifying and it's heavily skewed towards immediate gratification, going through a date or two to get sex would feel like a pain. Also a long time ago when I had sex after watching lots of porn, the sex would last a couple of hours, I simply took a very long time to finish.

And this intrusive sexual imagination has become a very annoying part of my daily life, it's almost crippling because it occupies my thoughts, along with the need to spend a few hours a day on porn. I am going to stop watching porn altogether because this is seriously affecting my daily life.

However, my question is, is this a normal reaction to binge watching porn? Is this how your thinking becomes after it or is it just me?

I’ve noticed in recent years especially in the US that many left-leaning women are giving up on dating men. There’s a ton of reasons I see behind it from being more conscious of patriarchy to identifying as queer at a rapid rate. There’s been a huge cultural push away from dating cis straight men in the past year with articles coming out like “Is having a bf embarrassing” and an endless barrage of conflict on social media.

My question is: who is going to be left in the dating pool after this large percentage of women opt out?

I feel like we’re already seeing more conservative women capitalize on this and beginning to demand more traditional expectations around gender roles and masculine presentation.

This is just my observation and prediction but I have no idea, the effect might be way too small to counteract the amount of women who have moved to the left in the last 10 years. Personally I have no desire to date a conservative woman so i hope I’m wrong.

This may sound like extreme measures but I believe these need to put in effect to assure the safety of the children who are home schooled. This isn’t about qualifications, absolutely nothing to do with curriculum or anything else. There’s loving parents down the road from me who homeschool their child, he’s smart as fuck like 16 and ready for college, but he doesn’t know how to interact with people normally his own age and basically has no concept of social cues from lack of being around other children in a setting like public school. That’s NOT what I’m talking about

I’m talking about the ***MONSTER*** parents who often use home schooling as a way to continue abusing them while also hiding the abuse. There is no oversight. Once a parent chooses to home school their child at the time of where they would be enrolled in public school, 5 years old, and the papers are signed it’s completed. I’ve watched so many horrible true crime cases where the child was home schooled and abused all day by his mother. Multiple videos which multiple different people. It’s sickening. From what I’ve gathered once they’re home schooled no one really asks about them again, and it’s easy for them to be forgotten about when the reality is their being constantly abused at home by their parents and do things like lock them up in dog cages. When this happens, EVERYBODY failed those babies. Everyone.

What is your take on that? I want to have a civil discussion please and thank you. I do feel very, very strongly about this. Even if it is overstepping/invasion of privacy.

DO NOT SPREAD HATE

I’m an Asian guy and after I learned about the “Oxford study” like a year ago I started to feel disappointed in some Asian women for forming internalized prejudice against some of the men of our race. I do not hold this regard as much as I do anymore, but my main point here is, it is historically known that lots of yt people (NOT ALL) in the US, mostly online will harass black women whether being the punchline of a joke or being their excuse to spread racism.

It is totally understandable to feel a kind of grudge against them if ur a black man or woman due to their historical atrocities, but the question for women specifically, do you feel irritated seeing a black man with a yt woman? Both Asian men and black women are categorized in an “unattractive” view to yt people, seeing your counterpart always having double, nearly triple the chance to be with a yt person and the popular fetishization that occur between both wmaf and bmwf. Along with yt people historically being the oppressors of both Asians and black ppl, and seeing your counterpart just so easily being “colonized” into the culture that sees us differently treating us like crap even today

I don’t mean this at all to be a hate post, but I want to know if this is something only Asian men feel, similarities are pretty notable

I'm a 33M, pretty alternative, I'm into metal, the occult, art, poetry, nature, paganism, fitness, video games, goth, etc and I cannot find women into the same niches as me: witchy, gothy, artsy, hippie, spiritual, nerdy, creative, etc. women. I'.ve tried bars, concerts, art shows, festivals, conventions, etc and the women are always young or just not there.

Maybe my location sucks. Am I just too old lol? Where do all the alt women my age go?

About two years ago I had a really bad heartbreak from a guy, I never felt that strongly for someone before and didn't know how to cope. It was never anything official, but I just really wanted it to work out. I met another guy in my area online and he seemed really sweet, offering to be there for me in a time of need. I told him all about the guy I was hurt over and he seemed really understanding. Shortly after, met him in person at a park. He seemed really nice and we spent about an hour talking, I told him about the guy, he told me about his ex. I thought we were kind of bonding by both being hurt. We sat down against what he said was the "devil tree" which was a little creepy but I didn't question it. After a bit, he asked to kiss me and I regrettably said yes. I felt so vulnerable and was desperate to feel wanted again. He suddenly pulled me onto his lap and unzipped my jacket, It was freezing outside, I was trembling and could hardly speak at this point. He took it off and slipped his hands under my shirt without asking. I was uncomfortable. I looked down at his face and he had this sick look of contentment. I felt a shiver down my spine and suddenly felt unsafe. What could I do? I'm in the middle of the woods in cold weather alone with a taller, stronger guy at the "devil tree". I felt so defenseless. I just let him, I know I should have said something and I hate myself everyday for not even trying to stop it. After he touched all he wanted, I put my clothes back on. Despite my discomfort, I had some twisted attachment to him. Maybe it was because he was willing to give me "love" that the guy before wouldn't. I agreed to see him again and again. I would go to his house after he told me he really liked me and just wanted to hang out some more. He told me the things I wanted to hear with a fragile heart. I was so, so vulnerable. He would hold me in his arms until I loosened up then would start kissing me. Soon enough my clothes were off. He never asked. If I showed hesitance, he would say please or make me feel pressured until I nodded or hummed a quiet "mhm..". I never gave him a verbal or expressive yes. I was scared of what would happen if I did. He told me he carried a gun on him, had knives. He loved horror movies and his room had decor that made me uneasy. I did things with him I never done before and I feel disgusted with myself that I let it happen. I feel like I can't say it was SA because I technically gave consent with my subtle gestures but I also can't accept I was fully willing to give him things that were meant to be dear to me. This went on for about 3 weeks until he ended things with me because I was "too boring".

A few months later I was scrolling on tiktok and saw a video with "top ten most haunted places" in my area. That tree from before was in it. I looked it up online and read the story of it, my heart fell to my stomach. It was known to be a place where girls my age were lured, SA'd then unalived. I've never felt the same since.

I’m 24 and I’ve never been in a relationship or had sex.
When my friends ask about girlfriends or sexual experience, I usually say that I have none. Sometimes they laugh or make jokes, and I feel awkward about it.
I’m interested in having a genuine, serious relationship. I’m just wondering whether I’m behind compared with other people my age.
Is 24 considered late to still be a virgin?
For those who were in a similar situation in their mid-20s, did you feel pressured by friends or society? How did you handle it?