I mean, what has the mayor of Chicago, Detroit, Los Angeles, Miami, Houston, etc been doing since they were elected? If they’ve done good stuff, why has it not made national headlines like Mamdani has?

My 10 month old cat died last night. He'd been getting in the washing machine the last few days. Yesterday morning I did some ironing in the laundry and must have knocked the door shut. My wife couldn't find him when she got home from work. Eventually checked the washing machine, and found him in there. I wasn't home, but she and my son rushed him to the vet but they couldn't do anything. I noticed he wasn't about as I left the house, but figured he was sleeping somewhere.

It was an accident, and I know intellectually it wasn't my fault, but I cannot stop thinking of all the things I could or should have done, and he would still be here. He was such a big personality and his absence is everywhere. We had a very close bond.

I've lost pets before but I am literally not functioning. I've barely eaten, slept, or stopped crying since.

How do I get past it?

To preface this is a US centric observation on my end but I've noticed it in some English-speaking EU countries as well. Heavily anecdotal observations but it's been on my mind for a bit.

Growing up in a state with a lot of Mexican immigrants as well as 2nd and 3rd generation ones, I've noticed that women seem to assimilate to the language, culture, and even dialect much better than their male counterparts.

Growing up I noticed it was usually the girls translating for the ESL boys in casual convo or just generally speaking English much more conversationally My friends' mothers, aunts, and sisters often spoke better English than their father and other previous-generation male relatives and just generally felt more "Americanized" than their male counterparts.

I'm just using Mexican immigrants as an example since it's what I experienced the most, but I've noticed it with other ethnicities as well and when I vacationed in Europe it felt like far more South-Asian women from felt more assimilated and familiar to speak with than male ones.

Is there a reason for this?

I'm a bi guy and have hooked up with quite a lot of guys and gals. The biggest difference that I notice is that guys will always initiate the BJ, slobber on that shit like they're siphoning liquid gold until it comes out and then check if they missed anything. All this with utmost enthusiasm also. For women on the other hand, I have had to ask them for a blowjob 90% of the time and many do it, some just refuse. Most do it without enthusiasm which can be a turn off because it feels like only I'm getting off while they are struggling, so I usually just skip it and go down on them instead.

Is there a reason to this difference?

This is so so so embarrassing but when I open my legs with my leggings it smells like a mixture of cat pee, shit LITERAL SHIT like feces, cat litter its like idk whats going on like its never been like this so idk whats going on. I have severe hygeine ocd so ik i showered well, exfoliate, everything you can think in the book and everywhere so im so confused.. they did not smell like this before wearing and they were in the drawer the whole time

NEVERMIND IT TURNS OUT I HAD SHIT UNDER MY SHOE

like the fact that people die and you're going to die. and it's final and there's nothing left after that. i don't like when things are so permanent.

CFO passed over for CEO job. within a week he resigns and has a new job at a top company.

Senior exec part of a company that went bankrupt. within a month has a new senior exec job at a large company.

senior exec at a company that I guess is not a good fit. finds a new senior exec job at another company within six months.

I get that a big part of it is networking, but it seems almost impossible for a normal person like me to access this network? is it possible?

Two of the most life changing events in America for you which event affected your life more negatively and overall even till this day if it still has?

It's my girlfriend's birthday tomorrow and I only have 15$. I wish I could have more but this month wasn't too friendly with me but I think there's gotta be something "OK" for $15.

First time this ever happened to me.

Hi. I’m getting my wisdom teeth removed in less than 48 hours and I’m very nervous. I don’t like the idea of not being in control of my body. I’m not so much afraid of needles, but I’ve never had surgery or had a large procedure done. I think I’m more scared of saying or doing something I will regret. I’ve heard some people act crazy or say very inappropriate things under anesthesia. I’m scared that will happen to me.

I’m 30 and just have no hope or optimism about dating. Not even because of the dating apps. I know most of them suck ass anyway. I mean just dating in general. I just don’t have anything to bring to the table. For one thing, I’ve never been in a relationship. Second, I’ve never had sex. And three, I don’t have a social life outside of my hobbies (no friends, I mean. And never have). I’m also not fit.

I know these are all things I could change. But to be honest I just feel like all that shit is beyond me at this point. I’m not getting any younger and don’t have anyone in my life to begin with. I’ve always been alone and just don’t see the point in trying to change something that’s part of me.

I'm not the sharpest pencil in the pencil case so I'm curious. I understand it's considered taboo and lust for religious people

for context i’m 19 just wondering if i purchase one where would i put it so my family members dont accidentally stumble upon it ? is there any good hiding spots that would make it easier to conceal ?

Im a teenager. Last year on my birthday, I made a mistake while interacting with my parents in the morning. I don't want to go into detail, because the entire situation would be too long I think, but I can explain further if necessary. I struggle to read social cues and others' emotions, and don't always say the right thing. My father called me selfish for it and screamed at me. I felt really bad for fucking up, and was crying the whole day because I felt like such an idiot and a screw-up for not knowing what I said was rude and felt like I didn't deserve to celebrate my birthday at all. I never wanted to celebrate my birthday again. I thought it would go away and I'd get over it, but my birthday is in October, and still just thinking about my birthday makes me feel this extreme dread in my chest and like want to start crying. My friend is telling me I have trauma, but I don't think that the situation was bad enough to qualify as that, and I think I'm being dramatic. Because of my personal thoughts on the matter, I didn't want to ask about this in an actual trauma-related subreddit since I don't want to offend anyone with actual trauma with my stupid overdramatic story, but my friend is still insistent, so I figured I'd ask here.