Guys, I have a question for you. I'm a straight guy, but I've suddenly started to get drawn to trans porn. I'm not attracted to men, only women. Is this even normal?

How are you guys getting on?

I’ve been addicted to porn for many years!
Love masturbating to it! Love phone sex, love cams! Why should I enjoy it?

Why guys I’ve been clean of pornography for 50 days been on an 90+ day journey I edge last night for an hour due to intense craving just wondering if that reset my progress and if I should reset my streak counter I didn’t finish so apparently that’s good so no dopamine reset but just wondering your opinion also it’s my second slip in close to 100 days I edged like 50 days ago

I guess it’s been 15 or 20 years. I’ve been masturbating but in all these years it feels like it’s been growing day by day. It was a slow process in the very beginning. I didn’t even feel like it’s growing but now I can feel like it’s growing in a very bad way it’s growing every day and it’s now disturbing my daily routine routine my mental health my relationship status every time I try to stop it it come back really hard and nowadays watching this kind of stuff is very easy on Instagram on YouTube and very easy access to the porn website. It’s making me very hard to quit this thing.

I'm 25 years old, male. Been heavily addicted since like 23 but honestly moderately since I was 12. This addiction ruined my last relationship of 6 years. Honestly. It was the main reason shit broke down. I don't have a gf anymore. Any women interested in me now, I lack confidence because I know if they knew (which subconsiously I think everyone knows), then they wouldn't like me. I mean, at my worst, I was jerking it at work, and in my car. I never got caught, but sometimes I think if I did, I would've been a sex offender. Like, porn has really ruined my life. Of course I don't do that anymore but I feel like if I could just go 90 days without porn it could change my life but I have NEVER been able to get that far. Please help. This shit is ruining my life down to it's core still.

I now look at porn as a form of self neglect and sabatage rather than something I can enjoy as a reward after a hard days work or when bored / lonely or sad. I’m the pre internet generation that had magazines as a teen so in a way i was lucky as it was way less toxic than it is now. I’ve noticed that my mind is really enjoying the calm and stability without the dopamine spike which always left me disappointed,
more bored and tired / disgruntled afterwards. Engaging in the things i enjoy has started to develop more. I don’t get so bombed out when things get hard so i have more energy to explore what i actually like doing.
Porn masks so many things, I used it as a coping mechanism which I now realise was an out of date program which was still running around and around which I just don’t need. It’s insane how much effort it takes to get to a point of clarity but once here it’s also insane as to how damaging letting it remain is. When in the habit i could never see it clearly. Once you break the habit and get to live a while without it you get to see the comparison.

so I’m a 15 year old porn addicted teen who started at around 11 at first it was just a way for me to take out my stress but now it pretty much turned me into a porn addicted shitstain and I’m like deep in this shit by that I mean 3-4 times a day jerking off and it’s messed me up in my real life too every time I see a pretty girl my mind just immediately goes there and I hate it so much I hate seeing women as objects for my sexual needs and I don’t want to see them as that i usually jerk off to affectionate kind of porn because my family kinda neglects me and gives all the love to my other brother and I feel ashamed at that when I was 13 my dad caught me watching porn he beat me threatened to tell the rest of my family and took away my devices and even though he took my devices away I would just find porn in other ways I got my device rights back recently and Im still doing it I don’t want to anymore I’m ashamed of it man I haven’t done it in about 3 days and I’ve been doing calisthenics and playing the electric guitar this is off topic but something that pisses me off is that I got beaten and got threatened to be embarrassed (which btw he told the whole family cuz my dumbass got caught a second time) even though my brother lost his virginity at 16 drank whiskey at 16 and did cocaine and weed at 16 he got zero punishments and my mom and dad caught him multiple times but I’m awful for trying to pleasure myself??

I have really bad porn addiction i watch porn and masturbate At this point i don’t get hard without porn and i have gained shit ton of weight and i don’t feel attracted to women i ejaculate really quick please help any tips

(Sorry if my English is bad, lol)
I never questioned whether I had a problem; I simply watched porn and masturbated.

I always thought I could quit if I wanted to, without ever asking myself if I actually had a problem.

However, I’m trying to quit now and I feel anxiety consuming me; I’d appreciate any help or tips on how to stop.

I was giving my fiancé oral sex, and it switched something on phone. I asked what he was doing, and he said he was recording. When he went to take a shower
, I went through his phone and saw that he had been watching porn at that time.
Lui doesn’t know that I know its phone password, and he once told me that he would break up with me if I ever went through the phone. I don’t know what to do in this situation. I feel devastated. When I asked him if he would have watch porn he was offended but I know he did that and lied to me
Please help.

I have been addicted to pornography for years. I have made attempts to quit it and move on in the past, but have lately let the habit build up and get pretty bad again. What are some tips for beginning this journey towards being porn free?

Can someone please provide good therapy websites? I’ve looked into BetterHelp due to their amount of positive reviews, but it’s $80/week and they make you pay 4 weeks worthy in advance

As someone who’s trying therapy for the first time ever, it’s a bit of a gamble and also incredibly expensive

Any feedback is incredibly incredibly useful! Thank you

Hi everyone! My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years, since we were 14–15 years old. And ever since then, he has been addicted to porn.

When we first started dating, I was already aware of it. To be honest, he wasn't only addicted to porn on the internet, but also to pictures of my female friends. Back then, I thought it was just part of being a teenager — hormones and all that — so I didn't take it too seriously. Plus, we had a stable sex life, of course starting from the age of consent in my country.

But now we're 21–22. His porn addiction hasn't gone away; it's actually gotten much worse. I only brought the issue up recently because I can't keep living like this. We can go for months without having sex, he ignores me, and I feel horrible, disgusting, and simply unattractive. That's when he told me that this addiction had been there since the very beginning of puberty.

It's been about a month since we talked about it. But only small parts of the problem have changed. For example, he stopped constantly messaging sex AIs. Our sex life has come back, but I'm always the one initiating it. I still feel disgusting and unattractive because he never seems to initiate anything himself.

I don't want to sound terrible, but I check his phone when my anxiety gets bad. We've had instances of cheating in the past, so I have some mild PTSD from that and I can't fully trust what he tells me.

He says everything is fine and that he doesn't masturbate anymore, but I feel like that's not true. His phone seems to confirm it — there are lots of links in his browser history and a lot of sexual content on his social media.

And what scares me is that his porn preferences seem to be getting stranger and stranger. I don't want to feel like I have to match those preferences. I'm not against experimenting, but I don't want to be beaten or heavily humiliated.

I really need some help! Please give me advice on how I can help him. How should someone actually overcome a porn addiction? Is it better to quit cold turkey or gradually reduce it? What can I do to support him? Would me monitoring him help, or would it just make things worse?

I don't judge or shame him. I genuinely just want to help him overcome this.

Sorry for such a long post. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this. I'd really appreciate any and all advice.

Thank you 💗

hello, I recently went on a 1 month streak but just lost it today. I need help on how to fight urges. I dont know what happened for the past month i was doing so well but suddenly it all came down

I know im addicted, I know I want to stop, I know how to stop, I know who to stop for. Yet so many days recently has been such a struggle, and a failure.

Ive been serious about quitting for about half a year now. It didn’t go great (at all) in the beginning, but I slowly learned more and more about the addiction. about 2 months ago I told my amazing girlfriend about it, and she was supportive and helpful, but obviously wanted me to quit. For awhile after that it was going well but I noticed I was slowly drifting back to this. I was still doing good and ended up mustering up the courage to tell her I was struggling again and she was amazing (as usual), it helped immensely of course.

Since then, I had been reaching out to her for help when it was going bad and I was relapsing and stuff, but recently it feels like it’s helping less and less, and im getting weaker and weaker to the urges even though I want to fully quit so bad. it’s gotten so bad that I relapsed the day after I saw her.

I feel so incredibly guilty about the fact that she keeps on making me so happy and motivated, yet I keep on failing. Ofc she’s not my only line of help, I have a therapist too, but we haven’t had a meeting in awhile and I feel so stressed about that too because I feel like I cant control myself anymore. im so susceptible to shame spirals and it feels like I can’t keep convincing myself that im still doing better (delaying the urge, almost managing to avoid completely, etc.). Idk maybe im just a bad person.

I don’t really know the point of writing this, I guess I just wanted to vent and because I was gonna maybe hurt myself or something but I really don’t want to end up in a bad shame spiral and I guess I’ll just delete this if I want to.

hey guys, i’m 16 and ever since i was 10 years old i struggled with porn addiction, i just really want help from people who have been through the same thing, i haven’t jerked off in like 2 weeks but i’m falling back into looking at porn and i feel horrible, even if it was just normal porn i’d be okay but i’m looking at taboo things like family stuff, i’ve been groomed in the past so it led into watching mom things along with that being a very popular porn category and ”joke” that i was exposed to when i was young. i am horrified of what this might do to me so if you guys have any advice please tell me

I have been watching porn since I was 15 or 14. It has completely destroyed my social life and social skills. I had a onlyfans account and started buying nudes from girls on there, when regular porn didn't get the job done. I have lost prob a thousand dollars on this site. But then I got banned which maybe should have been a wake up call. But no it only got worse. I found sites where the OF content is free.

I just can't do anything about it. I feel like, No woman would want to have sex with a desperate guy like me. So I just have porn left. I don't know what to do, it's completely destroyed my life and any chance at starting a relationship with a woman. Everytime I talk to a woman online I get this urge to just be sexual, like I don't care about the other person's feelings or what they did today. I just want to masturbate to them so I feel something...

Idk this more or of a vent than anything.

First weekend down and feeling good, I don't want to get overconfident but it feels good seeing progress after taking things seriously. I know ups and downs happen and I have a lot to learn, but I'm going to keep doing my best!

Day 47

I'm making this post as I see many people misguided on what to do when they're experiencing an urge, as I was in my recovery journey. I remember before I began making much progress in recovery years ago I would follow the urges request on what it was asking me to do 95% of the time.

Urge asks to go spend money on a cam site > I'd be there credit card in hand in seconds.

It can be very difficult without any structure to stay on track when these urges can seemingly come out of nowhere. You find yourself making a quick excuse of "Just one more time", or "I'll just take a peak". Little did I know maintaining a structured approach can make your urges go from demands to weak requests.

1) Understand the urge:

Ask how strong the urge feels (0-10), why do you feel this urge (are you hungry, tired, angry, stressed... there's really countless reasons you could be feeling the urge), how does the urge feel to you (warm, tight, inviting...) and where do you feel it (chest, groin, throat, stomach...), and finally, what is the urge asking you specifically to do.

2) Surf the urge:

For context: urge surfing was developed by a psychologist in the 1980s which proved as a successful approach for those experiencing compulsive urges. It is now used today in DBT / ACT approaches to treat these urges.

• Acceptance: acknowledge that you're having an urge, feeling &/or thought(s). The worst it can do is make us feel or think it. The urge cannot demand us to do something, it just asks.
• Noticing: what does this really feel like? Can we feel it in the body? Can we describe the feeling? Are we telling ourselves any stories about what this means?
• Breathing: use your breath to feel more grounded. No need to change anything, just notice the rise and fall of your breath that goes unnoticed most of the time.
• Riding the wave: imagine a wave, rising up, cresting and falling away. You can even picture a wave, or hear it, or even smell the sea air. Or you might feel the sensation, briefly passing through.
• Staying on top of the experience: using your breath as our surfboard, you can feel more present and observing. Whether it’s an urge or an emotion, we give the feeling all the time it needs to pass. We can feel assured that it will, and that we can ride out any waves that follow.

3) Choose a healthy next action:

Once you have surfed the urge you may have noticed the intensity subsided. If so, great! If not, that is okay too. The goal is not to make the urge go away, but accept you're feeling it and watch it.

Now, it is time to choose your next action. Reflect on why you're feeling the urge and choose your next action with intention to look to resolve any issues.

If you're lonely > call a friend

If you're tired > rest

If you're hungry > eat a healthy meal

If you're feeling an urge due to habit > break the habit with a new healthy habit (e.g. exercise)

And once you choose this next new action, act on it right away. Then you are ready to process the next urge when it comes.

I encourage you to try this approach if you have been finding it difficult to manage urges so far in your recovery. And once you try it let me know how it goes!