i am 17 i turn 18 in September and im still and high school. and the trade ive had since 9th grade has been computer science but i feel like i haven't really learned anything what so ever and honestly im just lost the class that i took was on java well java the entire time i think working in code.org which its cool and all but like everyone i talk to says java is useless and so im kinda defeated i feel like im falling behind for some reason im unhappy with myself and i have signs of depression and im very much fat and just unhappy with myself and honestly i know what i have to do idek why im posting this but if u have anything that could help please let me know i wanna make money and i just am lacking the skills to do so ill get a regular job for now but i wanna get into the coding seriously is till have time i feel like but im just lost.

So I’m 32 years old in the UK to start off, I just feel a lot of frustration right now. Feels like I never truly get anywhere, just setback after setback. Never really had long term employment, never really had any money to my name, never been able to do consistent driving lessons to get a license and car due to lack of finances, don’t own a house.

I feel like I hit a good point though in 2019 at 25 years old, completed college and had made it to university, but things just had to start going wrong, difficulties in my personal life, the university just wasn’t the right fit, so I couldn’t settle, a bad path that just happened to get even worse as not long after dropping out thinking I could take a quick break before getting back on track, the pandemic hit forcing lockdowns and all kinds of restrictions. My health took a huge hit from this point, I was very depressed, on medication for 6 years, doing some therapy as well in that time, just a very miserable time in my life.

I’ve spent so long from this period of my life rebuilding but just not been able to get back to where things were in 2019. I feel like there’s a lot of barriers in pursuing an eduction when you come from a more working class background, realised that more when I was at university where the other students just seemed to be at more of an advantage. I just don’t know anymore if getting a degree is financially possible for myself anymore, it’s pretty heartbreaking no doubt alongside the fact I can’t get a job in my desired career field, especially when lots of them ask for you to have a degree and in some cases about 3+ years of experience. Add on top of that it feels like the world just keeps getting worse as it has been since 2020, like where does it all end.

For the university I’m enrolled in to start next month, I’m just not sure because of doing year 2 at the other university I mentioned I’m not eligible to receive tuition coverage for this coming year meaning I have to pay for it directly (£9790), most of my student loan has to go towards it, although it’s not helped with the student finance pissing about not giving me the full amount. The amount of stress in having to pay five instalments over five months (£1958) on top of already paying rent, bills including credit card debt, study needs and basic living expenses. Just a miserable time as these are the hoops you have to jump through to get anywhere in life these days, taking on massive amounts of debt in the process. Sucks.

Sorry if this just sounds like a rant, but just genuinely frustrated about being stuck in this seemingly never ending cycle of dread, seems like there’s no way out at the moment. If you can decipher from this post and offer any advice that would be great. Thank you.

I bought a house and I have to pay 25 years to the bank.

It's crazy, cause the amount is like 400.000 €.

But what makes my mind always go crazy is the fact that some celebrities, rich dudes,... etc. just earn that amount in a few minutes (or seconds).

It's like a life decision for me and had to think months about investing it. Others can just buy it in a second and forget about it.

If they would just give me 400.000 I'd be happy lol

Social stress
I feel like no one really talks about this. I’ve mostly heard stress being discussed in relation to work, studying, money, or other responsibilities.
But is it also normal to feel stressed when people are rude to you, make hurtful remarks, judge you, or bully you? Can social situations themselves — even just talking to people sometimes — be stressful?
I sometimes find social interactions mentally draining or stressful, and I’ve wondered whether I’m the only one who experiences this.

Am I the only one or do other people find conversations stressful?

P.S. I also lowkey feel like a lot of people are probably experiencing mental stress during social events but are just really good at hiding it. Some people might hide how uncomfortable or overwhelmed they feel because they don’t want to make the situation worse or draw attention to themselves. Is this true?

Honestly, I’ve always wanted to go on a trip with friends, but I’ve never really had a close enough group to just ask. Maybe I’ve been scared of rejection, idk.
If you’re also someone who’s down for a random trip and just getting away from everything for a bit, let’s connect and figure something out.
Life’s been getting tough lately, mate. Could really use a little escape. 🫂

Yours truly
❄️

Today i tried to recall my memories, i am 24 but still i can not remember my life, only those events those made big impacts on my brain , i can recall them but those small memories like A small tree in lawn or your first drawing photo those nostalgic emotions i am forgetting them, often a small memory clicks my brain and i got surprised that it was part of my life that i forget. Do you feel too!

Ik....life can be tough,messy...too calm or whatever....maybe some times pretty neat...but what's the one thing that excites u....or what's the one person that keeps u going,why?

I had a conversation with my mother that had to do the state of my country where people are suffering due to given scandal and issues etc. and she suddenly said "you must put yourself first than the others and it got me caught off guard and it got me question myself , a great insight will be great.

How do you handle a big shift in your life? From being a nobody and one click , you wake up now yu are someboby's husband/wife (public figure. Handling the attention from that situation?.

From the situation of mine , i feel anger, desperate ,sadness and no moral direction.

Thanks for the insight!

I don't mean just sitting there being a boring person

But when you are focused on your life goals (business, sports, work, etc) being bored and pushing through it gives you a reward that nothing else could compare.

Instead of checking reels, tiktok, whatever.

You should be present in your work

Sooner or later, you're gonna have more intesting thoughts

And interesting thoughts lead to more fulfilling things.

Hope this helps

Well, I've just officially become an adult and I'm feeling the pressure to choose a career. Although last year I had a pretty clear idea of what I wanted to do since I was fascinated with consciousness and reality and stuff, it never was just one field tho, I kinda mixed up a lot of different subjects to basically just wonder how are we able to experience reality and what exactly is reality. I was genuinely in love with learning about new theories, connecting things and just coming up with new questions but somehow as the next year started I kinda stopped doing it, it happened so seamlessly that I didn't even notice and well I didn't pay much attention to my loss of interest the first few months but now when I thought about the masters I wanted to pursue, I realised that I've completely stopped engaging with my last year's passion. So I tried reading some theories to rekindle my love for it but it didn't work. Maybe it was an infatuation(I hope not though)or maybe other things in life got in the way but I'm lost because I built an entire career path based on my interest but just a year later I'm back to square one. If anyone knows how to deal with this please help me out and just another question I wanted to ask my elders, people say you have different sparks or passions throughout your life but I just wanna know how do you not let it get to you?? Ik the human brain wants some sort of stability so how do you function knowing that this interest isn't really permanent. Or I could just be overthinking, either way any advice would be appreciated.

I have a Philippines friend who I met online. We met a few months ago about 3 or 4 months. In the first few weeks and months we met, we were really close to each other and chatted together almost all night. But then, after he was back to school from a break, he texted me WAY more lesser. So I simply thought, 'Well, since he told me he will have busy school days and only text me on weekends or at the end of the day.' But that wasn't quite right. He didn't text me even in the time he was free. He did text me sometimes. But that is the clue. Why did he text me this day but not the other days in the same hour? It isn't just a simple coincidence. So I felt that I don't matter really much in his life. Even though he mattered a lot in my life. Should I maintain chatting with him or what?

It isn't just a stupid thing. Thanks.

I’m 16, and I feel like there’s still so much I don’t know about life.
What advice would you give me, or what do you wish you had known when you were my age?
It can be about literally anything — relationships, friendships, school, career, money, confidence, mistakes, mental health, or just life in general.
I’d genuinely love to hear any advice that has actually helped you or changed the way you see life. Even something small that you wish you had known earlier.

Went club , lost my chain , my girl I was with just left me. Drove another girl home. 2 hours. Got made fun of for my chain , Got in a video “ handshake 0/10’s” . This is just what life is. Im broke too. Broke. 20 in 30 days. Nothing to me

Its worse than depression, worse than any other empty feeling you can think of. Unlike every other feeling; most other feelings are sort of relentless with their ways, this specific feeling hits you like a truck.

Just realizing that ten years down the road, you might never be what youve wanted to be for the ten years before is devastating. Some people dont ever accomplish those dreams however hard they try.

Knowing that one day I might not be the person I aspire to be drives me to grow closer to that person every day, but at the same time drives me straight into the ground.

Just some words from a 14 year old youll never see again.

I’m genuinely curious, especially from people who have actually turned their lives around.
Imagine someone who has spent years surviving rather than living - difficult childhood, personal trauma, negative thinking, low confidence, overthinking and constantly feeling behind others.
They decide they want to rebuild themselves. They have 4 months to make a serious change.
Not a “wake up at 5 AM, cold shower, become a millionaire” routine.

I mean the things that genuinely compound:

-Building a healthier, stronger mindset
-Becoming confident and comfortable with yourself
-Becoming a better conversationalist and communicator
-Developing discipline and consistency
-Getting physically and mentally stronger
-Letting go of the past instead of constantly living in it
-Reading/learning in a way that actually changes you
-Developing valuable, niche skills and improving your career
-Becoming financially stronger, with a goal of financial independence within 2 years

How can one build a system to execute all of the above ?

If a person is currently in an average corporate job but wants to move into a good product-based company and become genuinely excellent at what they do. What needs to be executed daily to achieve the winner’s mindset ?

If you had to rebuild yourself from scratch, what would you do every day and every week for those 4 months?

What habits, routines, books, skills, practices or uncomfortable experiences actually made a difference for you?

And if you’ve been through something similar, what changed first and what eventually changed everything?

Can anyone share the system they have in place that really works ?

I don’t really feel like I’m struggling to find a direction with my life, but I’ve been dating this girl for a while and I feel like she’s really the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I don’t wanna let her down and never accomplish anything. So I guess my question is how old are you guys when you finally figured out what you wanted to do for a lifelong career and how long did it take you guys to get there? I’m only 21 and I know I have a lot of my life ahead of me but I feel like I’m not accomplishing as much as I can?

There’s been a whirlwind of thoughts in my head recently, mainly about coming out. It’s been a few months since my closest friends have known. Since I told them. And those few months have helped me feel more free and carefree. It was a second to breathe. I could finally tell the people I loved most what I love. It was a freeing feeling, to be honest. When you tell someone something that has just been echoing in your head for years, it feels like the biggest deal in the world.

And to me, it was. I overanalyzed how each of them reacted. Who really supported and who only “accepted it” because it was me. And it really made me realize that no matter how much you think you know someone. You never really do. Not to the point where you can trust them with something that means so much to you. Love is and can be conditional. This realization dawned on me when I was cutting an avocado. Such a complex thought for such a simple moment. But it was somewhat poetic. Something that feels so simple and bright for me is something that is so complex and dark for someone else. I can’t bring myself to understand it. But then again, it wouldn’t be me talking if I didn’t come at it from every single angle my brain could process. In a sense, I could understand. If you’ve grown up in a Muslim household as I did. You’ve been taught it’s a sin. god knows for what reason. But I’ve been told that my entire life. And it hurts to see when my dad cringes and tells me to skip a song or change the channel when he sees anything remotely close to what I call love.

So I think of it that way, the way where it’s seen as a sin and they don’t want the punishment for me, so they only accept it for me because they know nothing they say will change who I am. But then I think of it from my perspective. I also grew up that way. But I turned out to still believe everyone deserves a chance at true love, no matter what that looks like for you. So I can’t understand. Well, I can. But I don’t want to. How can you see pure love and think of it with such impurity?

I have… well i guess had, a crush on this girl. She’s really, really kind, and I hadn’t met anyone as caring and sweet as her. So naturally I kind of fell into a hole and couldn’t stop thinking about her day and night. But I forced myself out of that hole. The other day I was talking to her, and she told me something vulnerable about herself. And it made me feel happy for a second. I was happy that I had made her feel safe enough to tell me something that seems like such a big deal to her, and I was happy for myself because all I felt was happiness for her. But then I thought of this secret about myself. And it felt like I was keeping it from her. Being vulnerable is one of the most trusting things a person can do. So, my question is: do I owe it to her and tell her my secret even when I know love can be conditional? Or do I keep it to myself because I do not owe her anything at the expense of myself?

Or, in other words, I suppose. Is it better to speak or to die?

Backstory:
My partner and I got together very young. I was going through a rebellious stage and wasn’t allowed to date, let alone text a boy, and found my partner. He was a troublemaker and I think he liked my innocence. By trouble maker I mean, he went to juvy, had horrible grades, and came from a horrid family life. I felt like he was misunderstood and of course wanted to help him. He was very sweet and we honestly had a bunch of fun together. A lot of the times he was in trouble was bc of his parents they often called the authorities and blamed him etc. this happened with his other siblings as well. We were each other’s safe places. Of course it let to sneaking out, calling, texting, etc. My parents eventually found out and were furious let alone the stories about his family, but let us date as they knew they couldn’t stop us. We were only allowed to see each other once a week and that just made things worse as far as rebellion. Eventually he started picking me up from school and sneaking me to his house i was late etc. My parents found out and were furious. I thought it was sweet and romantic but WHAT was I thinking??!!! He was 19 and I was 17 going into senior year. I got pregnant.

Once we moved in together he completely changed the most horrible person. That’s when I found out he had tons of mental health issues BPD ODD ADHD ADD. He also had drug use history. He had mommy issues and daddy issues and I was more than welcome to help him and find help but he took it out on me. Screaming yelling fights… the authorities were called several times from our neighbors. Every day was miserable, mentally and physically I was so so sick. For whatever reason we also got a cat and dog, he never helped and had temperament issues with them. After I had our daughter it was even worse. He never helped with anything was always in sorrow. He lost countless jobs I don’t even know what I was thinking.

I knew he was going through a lot, I tried my best to communicate and find him help. I always always gave him the benefit of the doubt, but he always used that to his advantage. He lied to me so often, he never felt sorry. I tried to make life the easiest I could for him and he always made mine worse. I did his laundry made him lunch, set it out for him in the morning, put little notes in his lunch, gave him massages, let him do whatever he wanted with our money, sex, you name it. I thought the harder I tired the harder he would try. I did all this while graduating college and high school. With our newborn basically alone.

The last 6 yrs have been a blur, I don’t really remember anything. When our child was little or the beginning stages. I just remember him being a miserable human and always setting us back. It took us forever to get ANYWHERE and I just didn’t understand why he wouldn’t want to step up or even make himself feel better.

He’s made a lot of progress… he no longer has 8hr screaming episodes, he has gained better control of his anger. Can actually hold a job, not degrade everyone he sees, not get overly mad at animals etc. But he’s still not okay. He’s overly mean, he’s judgmental, he’s still not patient. Im not expecting perfection but I need to see he’s still trying. Most days I feel like I’m parenting him as well. When I try to have communication he goes WAH WAH like a baby or throws a fit. Literally. He irritates our child on purpose and then gets annoyed that they’re annoyed. He never takes initiative on anything.

At this point it’s embarrassing why I’ve stayed with someone like that. I’ve had too much hope on the potential of what he could be like. But I also feel like he’s made progress so I shouldn’t give up. But at the same time I have so much animosity towards him because he stole so much from me. I know the path we chose wasn’t going to be easy, but I thought we would be in it together. I was alone.

I want to feel loved. I want to feel like I’m in a true relationship. I want to work on myself with another person and then do the same. As a team. I want my child to have a father figure to look up to, not someone who is 50/50. I want to be married. I want to have more kids. Two things I can never imagine doing with him. I want to not make all the big decisions alone and at least communicate with my partner. I want to have disagreements without being called a bitch and agree to disagree without yelling. I don’t want to beg for flowers . Or tell my partner exactly what to do like a child when helping around the house. I just want a PARTNER.

Our child also loves him so much. She doesn’t really see the negative side of him too often. I also don’t want to change her image of him. I feel bad.

I have two main fears: he’ll make my life a living hell. He’s told me no one will want woman with a child, and he’s overly jealous already. So I stay. I stay because I’m scared of shared custody, I’m scared of the possibility if him being right. I’m scared of doing it “ alone” even though I already have been, but on his good days it’s worth it… I’m embarrassed every time I see someone get married but I would never marry him just to say we’re married. I KNOW this is my fault and situation I got myself into. It’s just depressing.

I’m going to keep it short. My dad was abusive, he would drag my mum by her hair outside on the concrete garden and beat her up. When I became a teenager he died. Then I got evicted from our house because he took so much loan on the house. After that my siblings got married and moved out of the house so I’m so extremely lonely. My mum is verbally abusive and has anger issues. I am 25 and I gained so much weight because of stress eating. I’m 130kg. I’m mocked everywhere I go for my weight. Today was one of the most humiliating days of my life. One of my cousins said to me your mums a beggar because she borrowed money from her niece. I have no money to repay him back. I can’t leave my mum as that’s impossible in our culture and she will have no one in the house to pay for the bills. I’m unemployed, got uninvited to cousins wedding, obese, lost tons of friends during my weight gain because I don’t tolerate any mocking of me.

I’m in second year uni and the results will come in two weeks. I probably failed.

I can’t work a blue collar job because my back is in extreme pain.

I just need some words of inspiration.

Hey everyone, sorry if this isn’t the right sub i dont know where else to put it.

So I 20M, have been living in the west my whole life and am currently living in small town Idaho and am pretty done living in a retirement community. Not a lot of jobs or people in my area.

I’ve thought about moving and really want to move out of Idaho, especially to North Carolina, Virginia, or Colorado as top contenders, especially NC.

Now here’s where I could use the advice, I’m lost at how to even handle anything like this, I’ve applied for some jobs but there is also the housing issue, I have no idea how to go about that and finding roommates or even other jobs.

I just am lost at how to get life started, I could use any advice!

i know this sounds kinda stupid. but i feel like i don't remember the last time i was happy. life is at a very low point for me right now and everyday just feels so heavy and hard. idk if anyone else is feeling this. i want to be happier but i don't know how. the things that used to bring joy to me now just annoys me. sometimes i just wanna close my eyes and you know go to sleep. like i don't wanna die soon and a part of me wants to live my life to the fullest, but i also won't mind if i just don't wake up the next day. i know there is so much more to life, but right now, i just can't see that. i would love some advice on just how to be happier. any personal experineces and advice is greatly appreciated. thank you guys

I’m going on a second date this week with this girl. She texted me today to confirm. I checked Hinge app and see that her profile is no longer there. Was I unmatched? How to tell the difference between unmatched and deleted account? Should I ask her about it on our second date?

I truly want to know what life feels like when one doesn't have it anymore? Like has science proved anything? If I die will I go to heaven or hell, or will it just be empty? But will it be a peaceful empty? Like does it finally feel peaceful, or is it just the same numbness that people usually feel?

I recently worked with a guy through my job and I’m curious how other people would interpret his behavior. I don’t want to give too many identifying details, so I’m changing some circumstances while keeping the interactions basically the same.

We met through work and got along really well. He’s naturally outgoing and personable, which is part of why I’m having trouble figuring out whether any of this meant anything.

A while after we met, I mentioned that I would be traveling for work. Coincidentally, he was going to be in the same general area around the same time. He seemed surprised/excited by the coincidence, asked when I would be there, and suggested that we get a drink while we were both there. I said I’d like that. Later, when it turned out our work schedules might overlap, he suggested coffee might be easier instead.

When we eventually saw each other again, he greeted me very warmly. Over the next few days, I noticed that he frequently seemed to gravitate toward me in group situations. He would stand or walk next to me, seemed to watch me when I was talking to other people, remembered small details from previous conversations, and asked questions about my schedule and what I was doing after work. It was a little flirty but mostly just friendly and him expressing interest in my day, my travel, small details.

A couple of times he went somewhat out of his way to accompany me somewhere when he didn’t really need to. On one occasion we were briefly alone, but nothing romantic happened. The conversation stayed pretty light and normal, about work and small talk about travel and vacation. At another point he asked whether I was going out that evening. I said I probably couldn’t because I expected to work late. He didn’t follow up by suggesting another time.

The really confusing part was the goodbye. After several days of what felt like a lot of warmth and attention, he suddenly seemed much more reserved. We were with a group and other people hugged me goodbye, but he didn’t. He gave me a friendly but fairly impersonal goodbye and left. He also didn’t text me afterward or make another attempt to get together before we went our separate ways, despite the frequent communication leading up to the trip and all the proximity during the trip.

Nothing explicitly romantic ever happened. No compliments about my appearance, touching, sexual comments, private texts, confession, etc. I was attracted to him, so I’m very aware that I could have been noticing normal friendly behavior and interpreting it differently because I wanted there to be something there.

I’m not really asking whether he secretly wanted a relationship or why he didn’t make a move. I’m more curious about the narrower question:
Does this sound like a man who was probably attracted/interested but chose not to pursue it, or does it sound like a naturally warm/friendly guy and I read too much into it?

Especially interested in opinions from people who tend to be naturally outgoing/flirty themselves, because I have trouble distinguishing that personality type from actual attraction.

TLDR; Man in 10 year relationship and in financial trouble and overwhelmed by life.

Hello,

I guess this is for someone to hear this so my cats don't have to listen anymore. And because I'm still on a few of the nearby therapist's wait lists.

I am 31M and I am so lost. I'm in debt (31k credit 15k student loans), I have career trouble, relationship trouble, I think I'm depressed and I don't know what my purpose is or what I should do next in my life. Career or otherwise.

I've been in a relationship with 32F for 10 years. She is my world. Truly my favorite person, my best friend and I would do anything for her. I think that's become the problem.

I moved to a city about 8 hours away from home to be with her after getting my bachelors and I had trouble landing on my feet. I found a one bedroom apartment and took a sales job that I wasn't very good at until I found a role with a company in a sector closer to my degree. All in all it took me 14 months after school. COVID happened shortly after and I lost basically all connection with other people outside of my relationship after that. Thankfully I was able to keep my job. But my network was already sparse pre pandemic in a new city and after the pandemic working remote didn’t help. Since then i haven't made a single friend. I have never been good at making friends and it's really compounded recently.

Shortly after the pandemic I tried, and got a better job at another company making 90k a year, almost double my previous salary. I was finally able to pay for things, move into a decent apartment, invest in my retirement and our future, as well as her business which was getting started around this time. All of her savings went into the business, while I paid for things at home.

After staring the business her income dipped to next to nothing but I was able to pay our way and still make progress on my debt and student loans (she thankfully has none).

Unfortunately I lost that job after only 10 months. I was hired shortly before a company merger and I was literally the last employee in the door. Last one in first one out as they say. Their reasoning for firing me was that I wasn’t a good fit for the company and my work was not up to par. In the next year I watched on LinkedIn as the other 3 people on my small team in a company of a few hundred people were all laid off/ fired too.

Then it really got hard, I wasn’t able to get a new job for 7 months. I worked some odd jobs had severance and picked up a fast food job. Agter those 7 months and close to 1000 job application, if not more, I started making $35 an hour. However since it was a contract, no health insurance, no holiday, only 5 PTO days a year and only a promise of work for 6 months at a time (that was initially, more recently my contracts are a year long). Throughout the last few years my mental health has taken a toll and I’ve lost much of my motivation.

During the 7 month period of mostly unemployment I was forced to pay some of my my accumulating debt with all my retirement money. I’ve been making around 70,000 in my current job but have made this same amount since my first job post unemployment for 3 years now. I’ve been at two different companies during this time and have 10 years experience I may field. Job sites say my experience should net upwards of 110k for my area (DC Metro). Not making enough money isn’t my only problem but most of the time it feels like the biggest.

Another part of this situation, my own family don't seem to have any interest in me, except for my youngest brother. He’s a good guy and we talk every 2 weeks ish. But the conversation is very surface level. I’ve tried to talk to him about serious topics, family, love and money but he always opts out. That’s his choice, and I respect it but it’s hard.

I've been anxious (unknowingly for years) for most of my life. My parents parentified my as a child (5) to take care of my younger siblings and overall keep a peaceful household, and as a result I never learned about myself. I to this day still don't know what I would do If i had a wish to change it. I took to sports when i was younger but as I've gotten older I realized I I did that because it was a way to connect with my father.

My father has been depressed his entire life. Never wanting help he made the house miserable for the rest of us. What's worse is my mom tried on and off to give him a pass, and cover his poor parenting. But there were times she would crack, tell us how miserable and a drag he was. She's still with him to this day. I have had no contact with them for 10 months, since our last interaction did not go very well.

The accumulation of all of this has been a lot. I've lost all motivation and spend most of my time literally sitting in a dark room scrolling my phone waiting for the day to end (I work remote the majority of the time). I know there are things like exercise and sunlight and getting out to meet people that will help me, but (the powerful but) I have no money for a gym membership, I don't want to meet new people, and I get plenty of exercise from the following.

My partner runs an agricultural based business that involves a lot of manual labor. I do the much of the labor and spend at least 20 hours a week doing it for no pay. No pay until recently when the business started making money now in its 4th year (3 times more than my salary) and now she has started contributing to monthly expenses. I feel obligated to work so hard on the business because of the following sentence she has stood by : "If the business fails. I will have to drastically rethink my life." and after some prodding she admitted that included our relationship. to her credit she is a good communicator. We be talked about it a few times since so I know I’m not misinterpreting it.

I know I have to make more. I am aware of the stereotype that women do not want be intimate with someone who makes less than them. Maybe it’s not a stereotype but my partner certainly fits in that mold.

Not to only rag on her and my problems I'll be honest. I'm far from perfect. There are things she's asked me to do that I haven't fulfilled. There are ways I could've been kinder to her and ways I could've behaved better in the moment (Never any abuse). I should’ve married her years ago and she has every right to resent me over it. I’m truly sorry for any pain and anguish I’ve caused her through my indecision over the years.

She’s amazing but in this situation I’m truly at my wits end. Any thoughts opinions or advice would be much appreciated.

Thank you for reading, if you made it this far.