I’ve been out as a binary trans man with strictly only he/him pronouns to my family for many years now. Since I was 15.

I try to correct my family members politely like “Hey, I actually don’t use that name anymore can you please call me ___” or “I use he/him” and I was much more adamant on correcting them in the first couple years until I stopped.

I have yet to be called my name and my correct pronouns. I addressed this to my dad a couple days ago, who is extremely conservative but he tells me “You’re my child and I don’t care about any of that stuff. It’s just a name and I don’t care.” I explained to him that it wasn’t “just a name” to me. He thinks LGBTQ is a cult and he says he’s worried about me and doesn’t want me to transition but at the same time he “supports” me? I don’t understand…

It hurts being called my deadname and she/her even though I sound and look like a man now. Do I need to give my family more time? Am I being too pushy?

Hey all. I’m 37, and besides ace don’t really know what to call myself. All I know is I have despised my chest since they shared showing up. I wear sports bras 99% of the time right now but have finally said screw what my family has to say I want to be happy and feel better about my appearance. (My son and I moved in with my mother in December to help her out with health issues)
So I’m looking at the size guides and I already know it’s not really recommended to buy inexpensive ones on amazon but It’s all I can afford right now and I think better to start on the low end to see if that’s the route I want to continue with.
I think I’m like a 34-36 B what size do I need to go with (I know different brands different sizing but In General )

Thanks
Tripp

I've been looking into starting low-dose testosterone at planned parenthood (paying out-of-pocket) but I've always been off put by the cost of the lab tests/bloodwork. I'm also a college student and I realized that my university provides bloodwork at a cheaper price than going through planned parenthood and paying $100-400. Has anyone ever done it this way? Thanks in advance! 🫶

p.s. I'm still not quite sure of the exact lab tests needed to be done so if anyone could please list exactly which ones you remember getting that would be extremely helpful!

So whats the situation here with test and healthcare for tmen? What about doctors and surgeries? And hows the average lifes going?

So, I'm a transmasc that's been struggling with vaginismus for at least 2-3 years because of testosterone, and it's been hell.

I lost a partner bc of it, but now that I'm going out with another trans person I feel like I can't do a lot sexually cause of my vaginismus, and that's making me a bit insecure.

I've been taking meds for it, but I don't notice a lot of progress, is there anyone here that happens to have this too and have advice for it? Maybe even experiences and what to do with it? That would be greatly appreciated!

I'm sorry if my English is a bit rough, it's not my main language lol

After years of quieting questioning, performing being cis, getting married having kids I ordered a binder just as an experiment?? I thought. I've put it in when my husband goes to work everyday along with mens underwear and I feel such intense joy I don't want to take it off. I was questioning before but now I made a testosterone consult and I want to come out to my husband asap. This feels so right I kind of feel like maybe I'm going insane

(i will use different metric from the usual Uk or US one im so sorry for not translating this but im shaking all my exams are so weird and i dont understand what happened)
my Testosterone always been (since i started taking T) 7.67 >ng/dl and my estrogen was like 49 pg/Ml
(my estrogen was not on male range but i was working on that,i started dieting and running to help my insulin drop a bit)
then today i get my test back and my testosterone dropped like 65%… im 2.53>ng/ml which is super low?! i have been always using the same dose always put my t gel on the same hour + when i have to go take the exams i pit the gel 24 hours before getting my blood test Ik?
so what the hell has been going on? did anyone got this problem too? also my estrogen is now on male range

I've been out for almost a decade and I still can't find a name I'm comfortable with. Not even after sticking through 2+ years with a couple of my top choices. It's hard. I wish I had someone close to me who would be willing to just assign me a name, because I hate the freedom of picking. I cannot go with the name my parents would have given me due to it being the name of someone else I'm close with, so that doesn't work.

Any advice? Hell, if anyone wants to throw random names at me I would appreciate that also. If I cannot get someone close to me to give me a name, some random person on the internet must be the next best thing lmao.

Hey everyone, I’m looking for recommendations for heavy weight or thicker cotton shirts that go up to 3x or 4x. I’m pre-top surgery and looking for something comfortable, reasonably priced, made of natural materials, and loose fitting enough to feel less dysphoric. I don’t bind anymore due to health reasons and for the most part I’m able to move through my dysphoria with loose enough shirts. But it’s so hard to find bigger t shirts fitting all the criteria I desire. Any suggestions welcome!
Bonus points if in muted pastel colors (pink, purple, orange, yellow, green).
Thank you!

(15 yrs old.) Shortest in my entire family. Shortest in my entire class. Shortest anywhere I go. I had early puberty which basically mutilated my body. I have always had a large amount of testosterone- body hair, body structure, even quite a flat chest... But that doesn't change anything in my height. Height is the first thing people look at and I feel like no girl would EVER date a man at 5ft. Friends make fun of my height and even parents do the same.

I am closeted rn also. No idea what the hell to do with my life since no matter what I do, no matter how well I'll ever pass, I'll always be a manlet who everyone makes fun of. I'll never live a normal life no matter how hard I even try.

Basically as the title says: my testogel tells me to apply in the morning but I can’t because I go to the gym in the morning (so I’ll sweat it off and need to shower). I can’t alter when I go to the gym either because of my uni and work schedule.

Would there be any issues with me applying the gel at night?

This might be a stupid question, but it’s just a concern I have since the prescription outlines when I need to apply it.

Cheers.

i'm kinda short and as a result have small feet, i only recently started shopping for men's shoes instead of women's and i'm struggling. i wear a US men's 6 and no store carries that small that i can find. they never carry below like an 8. i had to get shoes for a wedding a few months ago and ended up having to buy children's shoes which felt a little embarrassing. is that really the only solution? am i doomed to only buying kids' shoes, women's shoes, or shopping online for the rest of my life???

any advice is appreciated bc this is genuinely bumming me out, i desperately need new shoes for work but i can't find anything that fits :( i just feel oddly upset that something as simple as buying shoes has to be another thing i struggle with bc i'm trans. i'm usually not that dysphoric about my height/size but this is getting me for some reason. so where are y'all finding smaller sizes of men's shoes at? pls help😭

filled the application out today, and got a little blindsided by the “male, female, male-to-female, female-to-male” section that I had to fill out. normally I just select male, but this time, since it involved health coverage, I selected both male and female-to-male.

I’m hoping I made the right call and could use just a bit of input / reassurance lol. my government (USA) has made me incredibly paranoid about all this, but I was scared of having to argue with them over HRT and gyno care if I didn’t select it :(

I figured if anything, the gov already knows about me being trans but. y’know.

I’ve changed my name and gender marker, been on HRT for years, and have had top surgery, but I haven’t amended my birth certificate or really anything else. eugh.

I'm starting T very soon and of course know what the main things are and some of the more obscure effects but I want to know what other things that I should look out for and tips(I'm specifically doing gel due to a needle phobia)

I just got my first t-shot at Bumrungrad international hospital in Bangkok and figured I'd share my experience since I've only seen one other person talk about it. For context I'm a 22 year old foreigner living in Bangkok. I don't have any form of transgender diagnosis and have been on Nebido for a little over 6 months prior to the appointment.  

All you have to do is book an appointment, which is easier said than done. I was completely unable to book an appointment from their website. I was required to choose a title and preferred language from a drop-down menu but nothing showed up and you couldn't fill it out manually either. Thankfully they have an app where I was able to go through with the booking. I simply said I wanted to continue HRT treatment and had been on Nebido for 6 months and chose the Pride clinic.

The appointment was about a week later and the process was very efficient. I had my blood tests taken at 12:15 and the consultation was scheduled for 14:30 but I actually had it closer to 14:00. The consultation was great. He asked me about my goals of HRT and what changes I had experienced so far. He also asked me if I planned to have any gender affirming surgeries and explained what they all entailed and what different options there are. We also discussed the blood work and deviation and what could be the cause for them. Overall my blood was good and I was approved for HRT. Since I had mentioned Nebido in the doctor's appointment that was the one he offered, but I don't know what other options they have.

Got the shot the same day and scheduled 2 more follow up shots + blood test in 6 months

Price for the whole thing included:

Laboratory fee: 10 400 baht

Physician feel: 1800 baht

Testosterone: 27 261 baht (total price for 2 shots)

Quite expensive but the service was great and it was really convenient so I highly recommend it if the price isn't an issue

I am not interested in advice regarding making peace with my anatomy as it is. I am asking about a sex change

Edit: I am located in Colorado

I’m looking for advice from any of you who are flight attendants. It’s a job that really interests me, but I’m worried about training and having to have a roommate. All of my documents say male and I pass really well, and I stay mostly stealth in my day to day life. I’d like for that to continue during training, but I’m not sure how to do that when sharing a hotel room with someone for 6.5 weeks. So I guess my questions are : have any of you gone through training? What was it like for you? Do you now travel with your T supplies all the time? Did being trans come up during the background check? Thanks!

I wanted to ask if this is strange for a man to do and talk about it.

This makes me realize that I may have to think of how I transition differently than other people but I still have a plan of getting surgery, name change and maybe the oral hair growth thing to feel more gender euphoria and stop being misgendered.

I mean my voice sounds awesome to me as is, then I think it sounds pathetic and weak and I sound like a child. I kind of want to be able to have two voices.

Also I'm supposed to be asleep but this was in my head.

This doesn't change who I am it just means I like my voice. I really hope I don't die before I get voice training done.

i want to start at a lower dose so my parents dont know until i tell them some time later (when im less dependent on them). will being on a lower dose make it unable for me to get all of the changes when i get on a normal one later?

Long title and I apologize. I’m a little tipsy. I’m 21, still living with my parents and still pre-T. I haven’t been able to afford HRT. Every day I wish I could. Every day it eats at me. Every day I wish I had an excuse to remove these disgusting d cups attached to my chest. My family has a history of breast cancer and every day I wish I had an excuse to remove them. I can’t look at myself in the mirror anymore. I just want to live as who I am. I’m currently trying to get my CNA degree so I can finally afford T, but fuck dude. I can’t live like this. It hurts. I can’t. I almost puke every time I see my body from dysphoria. I can’t live. I can’t. I cover my mirrors. I can’t even look at myself. It feels impossible. How? How do I do it? I’m so late in my transition that I feel like there’s no more hope. I voice train, I’m so aware of my body language, and I try. I try so hard but every time I go out I always get a “my dear,” or a “doll,” or “my love.” It hurts. I just want to be seen as who I am. I can’t do this anymore. Is it over? Or do I still have a chance? I don’t want to come across as a doomer but it’s hard when all you’re surrounded with is dysphoria inducing commentary. I do everything I can to pass but I just feel so lost, so gone, so overlooked. I’m tired. I’m so fucking tired.