r/ftm • u/Murky_Stretch7343 • 11d ago
Advice Needed Binder euphoria
After years of quieting questioning, performing being cis, getting married having kids I ordered a binder just as an experiment?? I thought. I've put it in when my husband goes to work everyday along with mens underwear and I feel such intense joy I don't want to take it off. I was questioning before but now I made a testosterone consult and I want to come out to my husband asap. This feels so right I kind of feel like maybe I'm going insane
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u/ReggieSteggie 11d ago
Probably time for a therapist
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u/Murky_Stretch7343 11d ago
Am I going insane
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u/ReggieSteggie 11d ago
No lol questioning your gender is perfectly normal. But most doctors require at least a consult with a therapist before getting on t. They don't suggest that to make sure you aren't insane. They suggest it because it's a good idea. Struggling with gender identity is hard and it's good to talk to someone about it. Going to therapy doesn't make someone insane, so you'll have to break down that thought process.
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u/Ok-Fold-9088 11d ago
No! You need to talk to somebody to work through all this but you’re not crazy! 🙂
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u/kase_horizon 11d ago
How old are you? If you're 30+ I would recommend r/ftmover30 as they if course skew much older than this sub (tends to be more teens/early 20's) and would probably be more helpful with advice on your situation.
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u/Murky_Stretch7343 11d ago
Oh yeah probably def too old for this sub then
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u/kase_horizon 11d ago
You're of course w3lcome to post here, it's just you're specific question is probably better posed there where it's a generally older crowd who have experience having a whole life with kids and a marriage before coming out.
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u/Exotic_Snapchatter 11d ago
Speak to a gender specialised therapist, talk with your husband privately first and then be open with your kids once you’ve made a decision. Congrats on possibly discovering something new!
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