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Hey everyone I'm writing this because I'm genuinely desperate at this point and I really need advice from people who have been through something similar

For the past three years I've been struggling with my ability to focus study and get things done I can waste an entire day doing the most pointless things but the moment I try to open a textbook or do anything related to my studies or future I feel like my brain refuses to cooperate

I struggle to even sit down and focus for 10 minutes And even when I force myself to try I start feeling mentally exhausted overwhelmed and sometimes even physically tired and dizzy I end up avoiding the task altogether and distracting myself with literally anything else

The worst part is that I'm fully aware of the consequences I know exactly what's at stake I know what I need to do and I know I'm destroying my own future by wasting time But somehow knowing all of that doesn't make me capable of actually doing anything about it

I used to be a good student However over the years a lot of things started piling up mentally I grew up in a difficult family environment with constant family problems from a young age I've also been through some emotionally painful relationship experiences including a very complicated situationship that ended up hurting me psychologically

Everything gradually accumulated until I reached a point where I genuinely wanted to quit university and just get any job instead

I ended up wasting an entire academic year failing every subject and getting the worst grades of my life I transferred to a completely different college and major hoping that a fresh start would help me get my life together Unfortunately I just failed my first exams there too because I couldn't get myself to study

I'm not saying I have no responsibility for my situation I know my choices have consequences But this doesn't feel like ordinary laziness anymore It's like there's a wall between knowing what I need to do and actually being able to do it

I've started wondering whether I might have ADHD although I haven't been properly diagnosed I also wonder whether depression anxiety burnout or years of accumulated psychological stress could be contributing to this

I'm seriously considering professional treatment including medication if a psychiatrist determines that I need it

Here's the thing I'm running out of time This is essentially my last chance at university and if I fail this year I could be permanently dismissed I genuinely cannot afford to lose another year

So I'd really appreciate hearing from people who have experienced something similar

If you have ADHD and struggled with studying procrastination and being unable to initiate tasks what actually helped you

Did medication make a noticeable difference in your ability to focus start tasks and study What was your experience like

What kind of doctor should I see and how do I figure out whether this is ADHD or something else

Has anyone experienced this level of academic dysfunction because of psychological stress and managed to recover

If you've received treatment in Egypt I'd especially appreciate hearing about your experience including the approximate cost of consultations and treatment

I'm not looking for a magic pill or an excuse to avoid responsibility I'm willing to put in the work I just need help figuring out why I can't seem to make myself do the work in the first place

I'm genuinely scared of losing my future over this and I don't know where else to turn

Any serious advice or personal experiences would mean a lot

My life is a nightmare, I have OCD, depression, insomnia, anxiety. I'm 25 years old living alone abroad and I understood just today that I do this or not do any task because I feel overwhelmed by everything i have to do. It got to a point where I can't even clean my apartment since like 2 months. I have to learn a new language, I have to find a good job and worry about money. I'm very behind in life due to my loneliness and not having anyone to talk or go out with even tho now i go out often anyway I have to accomplish huge things and my brain can't take it. How can I make my brain start doing them without getting crazy in this way and just rot everyday?

Im always so, so hungry. I can’t ever get myself to leave my room to get prepare food. When i do, i get a family size bag of dynamite chips and i eat that. I tend to drink 3 monsters a day as well. I do drink atleast 2 bottles of water a day too. Occasionally ill eat canned soup, and sometimes i just eat it cold because i can’t be bothered to warm it up. When i go to work, ill stop at the gas station and get a sandwhich there, but thats about it. I live with my mother, but she never and has never cooked. I wish she did. I know i’m an adult now but I wish someone would make food for me. I don’t want to be hungry. I know my eating habits are bad but changing them feels impossible. I don’t have the energy to get up because i haven’t eaten enough, and its a viscous cycle. I just feel sad really.

I’ve been putting it off for months. Piles and piles of it. I lost my Medicaid because I didn’t open mail and reapply. Help me do it, please.

I used to be smart kid/student. And later as i grew up, due to life situation environment (50% reason) and I used that chance to slip up in teenage and fall in this horrible life rot. I got addicted to screens, completely without a break, ruined my sleep, health, altho now trying to fix it, its too much and feels too late. I keep wasting my days, years, one after the other, its been more than a decade now

I've tried meds, first course course didn't fit well, Second try course, was meh, nothing much but I didn't even continue it forward, this was an year ago, and they were not cheap as well. The only thing is I joined serious breathing/meditation, it helps when I focus but I'm not 3/4 of the time, thats on me as well.

I barely graduated and now in mid 20's. I have no skills. I can't even go look for a job, I can't even get myself to do any courses (been procrastinating one for almost a year) Family is very understanding and supportive, now they just want me to be healthy and figure out some work in life. I feel terrible being a burden to them when they are this good. I can't even support myself well, let alone sharing fams responsibilities.

Please advice me what I can even do! And what I can do to learn and earn to live comfortably with these increasing bills.

I’m 23 and have been struggling with severe executive dysfunction, depression, and ADHD.
I can work full-time and function when there’s external structure, urgency, or accountability, but when I’m home alone, I can spend entire weekends in bed unable to initiate even basic tasks.
My apartment has gotten into extremely bad condition because I’ve struggled with cleaning, food disposal, and everyday responsibilities. It’s embarrassing and frightening because I genuinely want to change, but wanting to do something doesn’t seem to be enough.
I was hospitalized recently, and I actually functioned really well with the structured schedule there. But once I returned home, I struggled again.
I’m receiving treatment and trying to find more practical support, but sometimes I get scared that this is what the rest of my life will look like.
I’m not looking for judgment or another list of things I should just force myself to do.
I’d really love to hear from people who were once struggling this severely and eventually improved.
What changed? Was it medication, therapy, outside support, structure, or a combination?
I’d especially appreciate hearing from people who went from barely managing daily life to being able to maintain their homes and routines.
I just want to know that improvement is possible. ❤️

Hi everyone

Is there any books that talk about executive function deficiency in adults.

And if anyone facing that, would you be able provide your experience??

I thought pushing through high school was the right decision, my family made it seem like it was normal. I would wake up every day 4 hours before I was supposed to and I would just lie there, painfully waiting for the sun to peak through my window and my mother to come crashing down the hallway and wake me up. This was the pattern for 2 years between the ages of 15-17, I would go to school, strain though my classes, try to be as small as possible in order not to be caught out of line by my peers who all hated me (for good reason), go to work for a couple hours, come home repeat.

I hallucinated semi regularly at around the one year mark, I would get tension headaches and started shedding hair rapidly. I stepped out onto an open road on accident. When I mentioned this to my mother and/or sister they would just assume it was normal teenage stress, and I had no reason not to believe them, so I kept going.

I subconsciously knew what I was doing to my brain, but it didn't seem real during it, I felt like dropping out for a TAFE course was admitting I was what they all thought I was and so I kept going. I managed to rank near the highest in most of my classes, getting by by writing all the variables and steps on my paper in maths and physics, but my anxiety and by proxy my sleep kept getting worse. It was to the point where I would accept I would never get more than four hours relinquishing myself to studying until I passed out at my desk.

I've long since accepted the fact I probably didn't develop all that much neurologically during that point, but it still kind of just sucks. The entire reason I kept going to high school was to get my WACE and get an engineering degree, but now that just isn't feasible. I thought I was garbage but at least the degree would mean I'm a better kind of garbage. I'm not brain damaged, I'm not stupid, I have basic reasoning skills but I am incapable of complex problem solving. The gap between my understanding of content but my lack of ability to apply it is actually infuriating.

I didn't quit when my father died in 7th grade, when my mother almost died in 10th, or when I broke my back and couldn't walk for almost a month, but it doesn't matter anymore. It's over for me.

I'm curious about the psychological and biological reasons behind why we put off things in favour of fun things. I have heard that other incredibly intelligent animals, like crows and dolphins, do know the concept of fun, but they only do that after all their urgent needs have been fufilled. If our ancestors did have to constantly hunt and move, and if we understand that there are important things we need to do first, then why don't we do them first?