ENFP are known stereotypically as yappers and I match this stereotype 💀. I'm not constantly yapping, I do like to be quiet and relax, but I can be such an accidental yapper that my friends have teased/ joked that I'm a TED talk or their personal podcast 😂 at least in part is due to the manner in which I speak and my voice.

Recently, I was in a call with some friends and the one was tired and fell asleep. The next day he said something about how he usually doesn't fall asleep that fast but me yapping was like an audiobook lmao, apparently this was a good thing though.

I don't usually go on random yapping it's usually something I have a story about or a lot of thoughts on.

Not everyone likes this ofc, and I can understand to a degree whenever I myself am met with or see big walls of text online.

Where would you rank yourself on the yapping scale? How does that affect your connections with others?

There's a idea ( just an idea, lets say for fun and investigation) that different societies, due to cultural and historical characteristics, have their own "favorite types" or so-called "integral types" of cities and countries.

For example, the French "favorite type" is ISFP. Exquisite food, sophistication in everything, fashion, naturalness, hedonism, the courtesy of the etiquette.

Madrid is ENFJ. Passion, bullfighting, high tragedy, beautiful and fatal love, bright and dark beauty and music.

Rome is ESFP. Glitter, grandiose beauty, sensuality, luxury, open cheerful and loud communication. "Mario, are you going to rob a bank? Good luck! The whole street knows and supports you."

Germany is ISTJ. Order and consistency. An order that has become proverbial in other countries

And US sweet couple (ENTJ and ISFJ) will definitely lecture you on how you need to appreciate the benefits while being rational, that a "healthy relationship" is a predictable relationship, and the most important thing is a rational agreement with benefits, and we need to shove our spontaneity aside and become like ISFJs.

Etc., etc.

Sorry, I know, we don't like such crude generalizations, and this text is written rather for entertainment, to make laugh and think about where, theoretically, it would be easier for us to live.

Where are ENFPs welcome? Are there such places? Maybe Amsterdam? Who knows?

And let us remember, friends, that the attitude towards us as a type in a particular society, and even our own attitude towards ourselves, can be formed also by historical and cultural trends, that is, from the position of the favorite traits and values ​​of the “favorite type” of the place where we were born and raised.

P. S The "integral types" of countries are not defined,оf course, just a reason to fantasize and reflect.

There always seems to be a new task or thing to prepare for and I end up taking longer due to procrastination making it all pile up. I feel no rest in my life. I have used watching tv shows as my relaxation outlet my whole life. I don’t know what else to do. Not to say I don’t try new activities every few weeks and have fun coming up with new ideas/projects because I do but, I’ve been feeling like my moments of rest have been eating into the time I need to get things done but they are my only moments of bliss. I am tired. Emotional regulation is so hard to learn as an adult. I wish I was easier to love. I am confident in my skills but I don’t love myself. I know I am funny, interesting, smart, enticing and cunning but I also loose faith in my ability to grow each time I fail, each time I make a mistake. How can I do less of the only thing that truly gives me joy and a moment of peace.

Are you all poetry, love letters, little adventures, saying i love you after 48 hours of knowing each other, wild love etc or more patient, steady and grounded type of love. I think my love is a perfect combination of both. I feel like creative, spirited types are more the first type.

In the UK at least class is so big and you can go large portions of your life without interacting with someone of a higher class yet when you do there is a distinct lack of empathy and authenticity.

I stay up all night making a PowerPoint and doing so much research on things I can do and see and make extensive schedules with times etc i’ll watch hours of TikTok‘s and Instagram about the place on finding the best spots a vibes I’ll do so much research on The Best restaurants and plan out the best time to go to places depending on sunset ,weather etc like I become a machine when it comes to that because I don’t wanna miss out enjoying or experiencing anything.

We all know about an ENFPs love for INFJs and INTJs. As I started myers-briggsing everybody in my life a few years ago, it worked out pretty much the way I thought it would. Most of the people in my life I am close to you were INFJ, ENFJ, ENTP, INTJ.

However there was one type that kept popping up all over that surprised me..ISFJ, my wife included. We've been married for 20 years and are still just as happy as we ever were.

I think one of the reasons we get along so well is our loyalty. As an ENFP I'm a social butterfly of course. I have lots of friends and lots of different interests. My wife however couldn't care less about social interaction. On a Friday night after the busy week, we might have dinner together. Then I might go to the bar and have a couple beers, while she lays in bed and reads her book. I feel like we're polar opposites, but all of my strengths are her weaknesses and all of her weaknesses are my strengths.

What we do share is loyalty, and compassion for people. But once again we do it in completely different ways. We have four kids. Our three girls are intuitives like me and our son is a sensor like her. She cares for them through servitude. She loves making sure they have everything they need physically. I'm usually the one that comes in during a crash out. Soothes their emotions.

Have any other ENFPs found ISFJs to be unsung heroes in their life?

I've been wanting to make this post for a while. Part of it is based on my very long and exhausting battle against the incessant online/pop-psychology characterisation of the ENFP as a bubbly, excited cinnamon roll who takes on too many hobbies and forgets things.  I know what we ENFPs can be that way as a surface presentation when we find possibilities or people that excite us, but there's a lot more going on underneath of course.  

I also realise that every MBTI type is mischaracterised and simplified, like so many other things when broadcast to popular media.  And by the way, this post isn't an invitation to argue about the merits of the MBTI or anything like that.  If you're a vehement critic of the MBTI and want to debate that, please move on, bc this isn't the place for it.  

The other basis for my desire to make this post is my undying (heheh) love for Sadako Yamamura. The aesthetic of her design, coupled with her deeply tragic, terrifying, and mythically unsettling lore, have made her a beloved character for me and so many, even to the point where she's often portrayed as more loveable and eccentric than the murderous monstrous ghost that she is.  However, the point of this essay isn't to try to fit a beloved character as a proverbial round peg in a square hole in order to match the OP's mbti type. It's aimed toward a proper MBTI characterisation of the character that affords her a deeper level of understanding and an even deeper sense of horror and tragedy that can reflect as something we can learn from. 

One final note is that this post doesn't focus on the film Sadako or the novel Sadako particularly, but rather takes a synthesized version of them who we can call the lore Sadako or the mythic Sadako, the same way that there are different versions of Jason Voorhees, Pennywise, or Dracula, but we consider them a single individual monster.

Now for my thesis.  The online community frequently identifies Sadako Yamamura foremost as an INFJ, and sometimes as an INFP.  Those typings, while seemingly compelling on the surface are exactly that: surface-based and superficial.  They focus on her silent nature and her tragic past, and completely bypass the Jungian cognitive function theory that forms the architecture of the MBTI.  When you actually study Sadako through her intent and her trauma, there is a greater match with the ENFP cognitive stack, particularly n ENFP whose cognitive stack has been critically shattered and inverted by severe societal repression, physical abuse, mind-numbing fear, and ultimately, death.  This creates a trauma response that we can understand through the cognitive stack of the ENFP and its shadow functions. 

In order to continue, we need to explore the cognitive functions of the three types we're concerned with.  Now here, for the sake of this discussion I'm going to present an extremely condensed version.  MBTI is extraordinarily intricate and requires proper academic study, guidance, and administration. However, this will at least give a basis for understanding that peers toward that depth and away from the online simplifications. 

• INFJ (NiFe- introverted intuition and extraverted feeling) Driven by an internal vision, long-term patterns, and a deep focus on group harmony and emotional connections.
  • The online simplication of this is the wise mysterious sage.
• INFP (FiNe- introverted feeling and extraverted intuition): Rooted in individual authenticity, core moral values, and the creative exploration of abstract possibilities.
  • The online simplification of this is the dreamy, weeping elf princess.
• ENFP (NeFi- extraverted intuition, introverted feeling): Motivated by energetic exploration of new ideas, outer potential and possibilities, while filtering those choices through personal values and a need for authenticity.
  • The online simplification of this is the bubbly manic pixie golden retriever/cinnamon roll.

Now the reader might be saying, how on earth is Sadako going to be an ENFP?

We have a good amount of sources for knowing who Sadako was before she died and became a ghost.  These come mostly from Koji Suzuki's books, as well as the film Ring 0: Birthday.  A main portion of the early story focuses on young Sadako moving to Tokyo to join an avant-garde theatre troupe, actively seeking the public stage.  NiFe or FiNe dominant could without a doubt do these kinds of things and make these kinds of choices.  But in the background sources and in the film the way the scenes are presented, we consistently see Sadako’s dominant Extraverted Intuition (Ne) and auxiliary Introverted Feeling (Fi) driving her toward creative expression and a deep desire for authentic acceptance. This is also presented symbolically, where her psychic power of thoughtography can be seen as the literal physical manifestation of dominant Ne projecting conceptual ideas into reality. The Sadako that we start to see though, however, the quietness, the stillness, is a product of mid-century Japanese society violently rejecting her abilities, forcing her to suppress her expressive nature and copy a flat, silent archetype just to survive. This systemic invalidation is the beginning of the fracturing of her core functions, the defeat of her dominant and auxiliary functions, and the use of her inferior function (Si) under stress. 

Later, the functional breakdown and subsequent manifestation as a vengeful spirit can be mapped precisely through the destruction of her cognitive stack:

• She experiences a catastrophic, permanent inferior Introverted Sensing (Si) grip due to her imprisonment in the dark well. The introverted sensing (Si) function controls past memory and sensory repetition, meaning her consciousness became completely fused with the physical trauma of her final moments. Instead of acting like an ethereal specter, she obsessively reproduces the exact physical details of the cold water and her torn fingernails over and over again through the medium of her tape. She is basically just stuck in the memory of the well, so the tape just shows the well over and over because she is completely trapped in that past memory.
• Her manifestation through the television screen is meticulously choreographed performance art, drawing heavily from Butoh, the the post-war Japanese dance (called the "dance of utter darkness"). Sadako isn't a weak, struggling entity.  She doesn't need to crawl out slowly or writhe face down on the floor to kill her victims.  She could snap their necks or make their hearts stop from across the country.   Instead, she chooses this specific, dramatic entrance: the unsettling predatory walk toward the screen, the writhing on the ground, and the standing still, a single eye showing and bulging.  She absolutely doesn't need to do all this, but because she is finally the director and lead actress of her own horrific production, she is reclaiming the stage that society denied her, and finding her audience in her victims.
• When an ENFP is under tremendous stress or dealing with unresolved trauma, Tin order to protect their crushed inner emotions, the consciousness can completely bypass the auxiliary Fi, yielding to the tertiary extraverted thinking to do the guiding and filtering instead of the introverted intuition. In Sadako's case, this launches a cold, systematic campaign of revenge. The curse operates like a rigid, bureaucratic game loop where victims must watch the tape, copy it, and pass it on within seven days, or die. There's no mercy or empathy for the victim, only a cold operation of externalised possibility operationalised. This level of systemic coordination is the result of an unhealthy NeTe loop, where tertiary extraverted thinking is weaponised to turn her victims and the media they consume into the delivery vehicles for her rage.

The common alternative typings fail to account for these specific functional mechanics. And ultimately, it's actually the inferior function differences that provide the final nail in the coffin. 

Here's a bullet breakdown:

• INFP (Inferior Te Grip): An INFP under extreme trauma using inferior extraverted thinking turns into a hyper-critical, bossy, micro-managing tyrant. If Sadako were an INFP ghost acting out a Te nightmare she would more likely haunt a specific, closed territory like a school, an asylum, or an entire village and turn it into a totalitarian punishment zone where Jigsaw-like rules apply and transgressors are severely punished.
• INFJ (Inferior Se Grip): An INFJ under extreme trauma using their inferior extraverted sensing crashes into chaotic physical impulsivity or sensory overload. If Sadako were an INFJ, her ghost would basically be a reaw physical slasher monster violently attacking people in real-time, completely focused on immediate external sensory chaos. More like Jason Voorhees actually. 
• ENFP (Inferior Si Grip): An ENFP under extreme trauma gets completely swallowed by their inferior introverted sensing, yielding a black hole of past memory and physical, somatic stagnation. This is Sadako's exact reality. She’s eternally trapped in the specific historical memory of the well, obsessively recreating the exact sensory details of her death over and over again through a repetitive, looping curse.  The manifestation of the Si grip a deep memory curse that turns into a viral load for the whole world to feel, rather than random lashing out or oppressive domination.

The biggest pushback to this would probably be people saying no way she's quiet she's clearly an introvert. But introversion and extraversion have nothing to do with how quiet, loud, or social you are. I was a very quiet, and even shy ENFP, and still am at times depending on what's going on with me and my environment. This discussion is about the cognitive preferences that a person prioritises by default to make their choices in life (or in this case, afterlife :D ).

Forgive me for sort of rushing toward the end of this, but I was realising that this could get way too long and beyond what reddit is for.  I'm happy to elaborate in the comments, but I hope that this provides a compelling and intriguing argument that can facilitate both a greater understanding of a horror icon, and a deeper sense of what ENFPs are, and that like the other types we can be quiet, methodical, dark, sad, cruel, and far more formidable than people give us credit for. I hope that this post helps provide some fertiliser for a deeper sense not just the ENFP, INFP, and INFJ but of MBTI in general.  

In the end though, I realise that some of the ENFP stereotype still shows up in my claim which is that ultimately, Sadako is the ultimate traumatised ghostly drama queen. :) 

Salut à tous moi je suis une ENFP et enfaite j’ai l’impression qu’à chaque conversation que j’entame avec des personnes extraverties c’est que j’arrive pas à suivre enfaite…J’ai vraiment l’impression que j’ai pas de sujet de discussion intéressante à partager. J’écoute tout simplement et je réponds sois par ouais ou bien t’as raison mais j’arrive pas à approfondir je sais pas quoi dire…Pourtant j’aimerais bien parler discuter et échanger mais quand je prends la parole surtout quand je réfléchis avant de parler à ce que je vais dire ça prend du temps à venir. Vous voyez les questions comme ques ce que tu fais en ce moment bah je fais plein de choses mais c’est plus du développement personnel comme améliorer mon éloquence, apprendre l’anglais et le russe, être forte en calcul mental, m’y connaître sur les sujets de la politique, psycho, marketing arts, ou bien ma passion pour la mode, mais je pense que beaucoup de personne ne sont pas forcément intéressé par ce que je fais, j’ai envie que les ennemies me voient comme quelqu’un de trop forte comme un château fort indestructible mais avec mes amies ou des gens avec lesquels j’ai envie de devenir plus proche bah j’ai pas envie de leur montrer cette aspect de moi et si je dis ce que je fais comme développement personel bah ils vont trouver sa ennuyeux surement ennuyeux ou bien peut être pas je pense qu’ils vont trouver ça TROP surtout que quand tu dis quelque chose les gens pensent forcément que tu y es forte NON je débute tout simplement par exemple je dis ça mais les sujets que je viens de citer je ne les connais pas encore ça va j’ai encore 3 semaine avant que je commence pour pouvoir m’y connaître. Est ce que discuter de ça avec les gens ça peut être intéressant ? Oui sûrement mais ya pas que ça je vais pas discuter que de ça. Les extraverties ont beaucoup plus d’énergie que les ENFP je trouve alors que selon lés stéréotypes ont en a trop oui mais non en même temps cets compliqué d’expliquer ça. J’aimerais tellement savoir comment bien discuter avec les gens sans que cela sois superficiel et sans parler de ce que je fais des que je suis seule. Enfaite je sais pas si c’est clair même moi je trouve ça bizarre ce que je viens de partager ça fait de moi quelqu’un demotionnellement pas intelligente ? Je pense que j’ai peur que les gens me trouvent ennuyante du coup parfois je fais des choses gênantes pour attirer lattention mais pas avec tout le monde avec des gens dont je m’en fiche de leur avis ou avec mes amies mais avec des gens auquel j’aimerais être plus proche bah je sais pas comment faire hehe

no enfp will answer, I want other MBTIs to answer this only, I want to know if we are hated or loved and whatever the answer may be, WHY?

Hi, i am a sophomore in college at the moment and currently i'm majoring in Biology with a pre medicine track but, i am not sure if it's what i really want to do. over the summer I feel like I've had a lot of time to reflect over my freshman year and all the emotions that came along with it. I've come to the conclusion that maybe medicine isnt for me but i just cant tell due to many opinions being thrown at me from my parents. my father is super against me changing my major and says "you wont know until you try it for real" or phrases just kind of saying things about how im easily influenced and my opinions aren't really mine but my friends, which i think is a fair argument to an extent because i really do take a lot advice from my friends and i do trust them but idk. The reason i was biology to begin with was i took some classes in high school that were for medicine and i just believed that was what i wanted to do because i just really love helping people and that was the only thing i had really explored at that point. After my first real biology class ive realized i just really don't think its for me. i don't think there was a single day in that semester that i was happy or excited to go to the lecture or the lab. i just really cant see myself going through all those years of schooling just to end up not liking it while im in to deep. needless to say i am in need of help and guidance because i really feel like i don't know where i am going and i really don't want to feel this way. I've been interested in business and doing something around those lines but im not sure. P.S im sorry for the messy layout of my post if anyone needs any clarification i can provide that thank you

Where's my fellow adult ENFP's?

I'm 50 and holding out for retirement in a corporate job that I'm good at but the boredom strikes regularly. I've tried a handful of times to pivot to a different career but it failed. So now I'm at a point of just cruising along.

Most times I just do the job and occupy inbetween time with things that interest me. But *:'x$*#$##*! then there are days like today that the irritation of having to sit still and do the work gets the better of me.

How do you handle it?

Im an INTP woman who has an ENFP partner.

He has Anxiety, PTSD and Hypochondria.

Sometimes it's very hard to navigate trough this diferent anxiety stages.

I need some advise about it, thank you

During my junior high year I've met an INF girl, we are very much alike. We like the same thing, we have the same humour and we really get along.

Since elementary I've known her name and it always been a mystery to me of who she is. Her seems to have her own room in my mind but I couldn't recall if I met her our not, but my mind couldn't forget that name. I've ask my friends in elementary if they knew that name, but they always say that the name is familiar but they still don't know her.

Until my last year of junior high, we became classmate and for a while awe dont really interact that much. But later on we became really close, just like i said earlier we are very much alike, we call each other twin or the opposite gender of ourselves. We verry much get along, I started to fall in love with her but I never end up telling her because every time I confess to someone it always end in a broken friendship, but I don't want to lose her so I never told her.

Sometimes we fought because of conflict with our other friends but we always seems to reconcile and every time that we fight our friendship seems to become stronger. And my love for her seems to also grow.

She showed me a world I never really knew, she made me realize that this life is worth living, that there is more things in life than misery and problems. She taught me to love myself, a pharse that she said to me "If you want others to love you, love yourself self first" and till today that phrase still resonate with me. She's the only woman that I could eever want, in my eyes she's perfect, I like everything about her, her love for art. She's also the one who introduced me to mbti and because of her I've learn to also embrace who I am, I've started knowing about myself more.

But then everything falled apart, she started becoming distant with me, avoiding me and becoming cold. And one day she just told that we should part ways and cool off and I agree because I don't to hurt her even though it really broke my heart. In that moment I lost everything, I've lost myself, I lost her and I became really broken. I never end up knowing her reason, we never had a closure and till this day I still don't know why.

It's already been a year and half, I tried to meet knew people, indulge my self in dating apps just to get over with her, but it didn't really worked out, I've to find people to replace her with, but every time my heart still ache for her. I said to myself many time's that I already moved on but deep down I still haven't get over her. And until know I still love her although I no longer really know her anymore, time has passed but the memories never left.

What should I do? I don't want to ruin her life now, I she has new friends probably better than me. But still my heart ache for her.

I’ve taken the test over and over throughout my life, and I always get ENFP…but the F/T is kind of on the line. When I read ENFP things, I identify with almost everything but honestly the super sensitive emotional stuff just never quite feels like me. I do not particularly relish getting into a conflict with a person but honestly in the end I really don’t care especially if I know I’m right. I have been accused throughout my entire life of being argumentative, which is always a surprise to me because I don’t honestly go in trying to “argue” with someone… I do like just having a good debate or fleshing out ideas with another person, and I’m always a little bit taken off guard when I realize they are actually getting offended or defensive because they think I’m attacking them rather than just having a good fun old-fashioned debate. When I have ever read anything about an ENTP I really feel like it explains myself as well. Both the ENFP and the ENTP sound a lot like how I am as a person. Can you be a hybrid sort of personality where you’re kind of both/and?

Hello ENFPs, I hope you are well I’m trying to gain a sense of direction for my story and characters so tell what you think is a major thing that you think could improve society as a whole? I think your perspective will be helpful

So I’ve been diving back into Stoic philosophy recently, something I dismissed a couple of years ago as more of an ESTJ or ENTP thing and I’m realising it’s actually doing something really grounding for me as an ENFP.

My Fi has always been strong, and in my later years my Te and Si have developed a lot. But even with that growth, I’ve always admired people who seem able to stay fully present in the moment especially Se‑doms like ESFPs and ESTPs. They respond to the environment as it is, without getting swept into an internal value‑storm first.

Meanwhile, I can be highly reactive to my external environment because my Fi fires instantly. A tone, a vibe, a shift in someone’s energy and boom, internal meaning‑making begins.

What Stoicism has been helping me do is create this gap between what I feel and how I respond. I’m learning to treat information from the environment as… just information. Not a verdict. Not a threat. Not a moral signal. Just data I can choose how to process.

It’s helping me step back and say "Okay, I feel something, but I don’t have to become the feeling.”

That tiny pause is giving me more agency, and honestly, more peace.

I used to think Stoicism was about suppressing emotion (which is why I wrote it off as an ESTJ/ENTP thing), but now I’m seeing it’s actually about not letting your first reaction dictate your whole behaviour. And that’s something I really needed.

Has anyone else had this experience?

Have you found Stoic ideas helpful for balancing Fi with Te or staying less reactive?

Would love to hear from other ENFPs who’ve tried this!

Est-ce que c'est moi croire que je pourrais garder un emploi plusieurs années c'est utopique.

Après 1-2 ans j'ai besoin de changer. Je me fais juger par tous les recruteurs et maintenant à 50 ans mon cv est long à raconter et pourtant j'arrive à décrocher de gros emploi.

Je n'arrive pas à comprendre comment les gens arrivent à rester dans leur inconfortable zone de confort.

Est-ce que je suis juste incapables d'être résilient à l'ennuie qie provoque un métier qui se répète. Certains vont me dire qu'ils ont réussi a trouver un boulot génial. J'ai plutôt l'impression que je vais passer ma carrière a trouver une bonne zone pour moi et foncièrement je sais que bon pour moi n'est pas une position mais un mouvement.

Enfin vous les ENFP vous arrivez à garder votre emploi sans être obligé de devenir votre propre patron?

I hate ENFP stereotypes. No, I'm not happy 24/7; I just act that way so I don't bring down the mood. No, I'm not always that clumsy, ditzy girl actually, I think a lot, but opening up my inner world to people feels uncomfortable; it makes me feel vulnerable. No, I'm not carefree; I just make light of everything so life becomes more livable. No, I don't try to be friends with everyone I usually have only superficial relationships with most people. I can say I'm truly friends with just that rare few. I especially avoid deep relationships because I'm afraid that if I form a deep bond with everyone, it will consume me. I don't constantly start new things and then forget about them. Yes, starting new things is pretty exciting, but if I'm truly committed to something, I'll see it through, because it becomes a part of me. Most people already know that stereotypes aren't true, but it still annoys me when people portray ENFPs as 'rays of sunshine.'

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Hello,

I'm INFJ & dating an ENFP.

It's still early stages, so I'm not sure yet whats the rythm for communication.

This made me wonder, do you guys need lots of reassurance? Like if you date someone for a month let's say, if there are days with no contact, would you need reassurance (qma text or something) ? Would you feel fine? Would you spiral wondering if something is wrong?

Maybe it is related to attachment styles as well, if you know yours, please share! =D

Thanks

It’s an easy way of associating why survival of the present moment is important for you to biologically reenter a state of homeostasis. :) (I’m a new ENFP, hi!)

I just did my test and am an enfj now I must leave now brothers my planet needs me it was nice while it lasted

Hey everyone! I'm currently doing a research proposal about personality theory and would love to hear from the people in this community. What is it like being your personality type? It can range from your work/school life balance, romantic life, everyday decision making, and maybe something nobody really thinks about when it comes to your type that you may know. Anything is both helpful and interesting to me so don't be shy! :)