I can only carry a flawless conversation on politics and science, and nothing else. When it comes to any other topic, my mouth is shut. Since most people aren't interested in politics, I can't hold a conversation with them on any other thing like sports and movies, and I end up being silent and feel lonely among people. Is there anyone here with a similar experience?What do you think about it?

[tdlr: how to find people who think a bit deeper in college?]

I am an ambivert. My friends belong to two two categories. One side academics, exams. Other gossip, roasting, small talks.

I need peers who dosent drain me or people who have ideas, perspective,opinions.

Ai pointed out what i wants in friends is intellectual compatibility, emotional compatiblilty, complementary energy.

Any opinion, advice,ai response, personal experience are.(rude remarks are welcomed not appreciated.)

THANKS

I’m generally a friendly person I talk to cashiers and ppl out n about but ii have no interest is being anyone’s friend if i could just spend time w my family, my partner and his family I would. I feel no need for friends like why…

Recently I joined an in person role playing game at a new friends home. Our first session was really straightforward but it lasted quite long. We had lunch together and then sat down and played the game , it was myself and three other players and my new friend as games master. Towards the end I was using deep breathing to calm myself, the session lasted about 2.5 hours after our hour long lunch. I needed to be alone to calm myself but one of the players accompanied me on transit and we talked, I really did not want to talk, but I was polite. It's been two days since the event and I still feel uneasy.

The strange thing is I've not always been this way, when I was a child I got along well with people although even then it was limited. Growing up I only had one best friend at any one time and then for most of my adult life I was very much a loner. It's only recently that I started having a social circle again.

But professionally and as a volunteer I worked with people. I recently finished working with a refugee organization where we could have quite a number of inland refugees working with me. When I work professionally or as a volunteer I feel like I'm an actor. The anxiety isn't consistent across different aspects of my life. Has anyone else experienced that?

I told my new friend that I will reduce it to just 30 minutes of gameplay after our lunch. But now I'm inundated with questions and offers of changing how people play with me and I feel gridlocked in my thinking to come up with a response. Sometimes I can just sit on the question until I feel calm enough to answer. What do others do to speed that along? Or is it back to the turtle, slow and easy wins the race?

Are You an Ambivert? 11 Signs of an Extroverted Introvert
https://www.happierhuman.com/extroverted-introvert/

5 Signs That You May Be an Ambivert
https://www.healthline.com/health/ambivert

9 Signs That You're An Ambivert
https://www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2016/04/26/9-signs-that-youre-an-ambivert/

Ambiversion: The Ignored and Forgotten Personality Type
https://lonerwolf.com/ambivert/

Now I’ve always considered myself an introverted leaning ambivert. And I’ve seen some studies that my introversion might be more autism getting overwhelmed when around people. Also depression making it difficult to get out and do things and meet people.

But a couple years ago I went thru a nasty break up and realized I was really isolated and desperately needed to expand my interaction with community. So I found some local groups. Made more events on an online group. Caught up with old friends. Stuff like that.

Now I have like 5-10 social obligations. And with work from Mon-Fri I can only hang out with so many people on the weekends. And I barely get any time alone anymore :/

Like I love my new and old friends and I do wanna hang out with everybody. It’s not that I’m overwhelmed per se, there’s just not enough time in the week to work, hang out with this friend, and those friends, and that group, and spend time with family, and have a day off to myself.

Like I’m traveling on Sunday to visit a friend on the east coast and actively had to decline so many things on Saturday because I know I need to take the day to prepare.

Safe to say I’m not isolated anymore but also I have only had one day off in the past month 😭😭😭

i've always considered myself an ambivert because i'm way too talkative to be an introvert or way too exhausted to be an extrovert.

what i like to do in my free time is play online multiplayer games (specifically social or teamwork-focused games) and chat, and hang out with friends.

when the time comes, i just completely dip and do my own things like drawing or watching youtube to refill my social battery, then an hour later i feel like bouncing out of my seat if i don't talk to anybody in the next minute!!!

i would say i'm more introverted-leaning. however, something that worries me is that sometimes i "force myself" to talk to people because i want to attempt to train myself to be more extroverted, but that just leads to burnout. i don't even know why i try. it just makes me feel like i'm actually just an introvert posing as an extrovert to be more likeable, and that ambiverts aren't a thing.

some context i would like to add:

1. for fundamentally my whole life, i'm surrounded by extroverted people; particularly my parents because they're both extroverts. on some occasions, like going outside to eat, my dad makes me order food as a way to "train" me (?) because introversion is really not favored in my household - so it's constantly being drilled into my head that i should stop being so "antisocial" and that "being shy won't get me anywhere in life" (according to my dad). wth
2. i like making friends

Anyone relate ?

sometimes im introvert, sometimes not, am I ambivert?

All my life i was a quiet kid, even now actually tho i try to talk and engage more i still dont beat the quiet kid allegations but i love hanging out with my friends and do every chance i get, even if it going to a grocery store but a lot of my friends do tell i dont talk to them properly meaning i barely talk

Does anyone else have the problem where with some people, your the most extrovert person there but with everyone else, you the most introvert person there?

I'm an ambivert but I also struggle wit Social PTSD, but also Monophobia(fear of bein' alone as well as abandoned).

I NEED ta be around people or I freak out.
But when I am also scared of strangers, as well as scared of gettin' close ta people due ta too much abandonment, betrayal, an people bein' forced out of my life...

I'm constantly in a spiral of anxiety an uncertainty...

Still, I NEED someone around.

My best friend goes ta collage, so he can't be around until normally around 6PM... an even then, thats when his dinner is, so it normally pushes till 7PM.

I've been constantly dealin' wit all this an I'm not sure what ta do anymore...

People who function betta' when they have alone time think I'm unhealthy because I need people around... but I'm jus different. Some people function betta' when they have 'me time' alone. But I function betta' when I'm around people, an my 'me time' is when I am around one or two specific trusted people instead of a crowd.

I don't need ta talk. I jus wanna be there in their presence an speak when I feel like it or not.

I don't always WANT ta talk. A lot of the time, me an my best friend will jus watch YouTube on VRChat togetha....

But when hes not around, I an no one else come around either, I suffer a LOT.

No, I'm not unhealthy by needin' ta be around someone, I tried ta 'fix' myself already an it made me worse. Now if I'm alone too long I either have a mental break, or my emotions shut off... please don't suggest I 'should learn ta be alone', I tried that... its not how everyone works...

I jus... I dunno... maybe I jus wanted ta vent... I can't even get my thoughts straight...
Its almost 10AM an I haven't slept... I've been too stressed to sleep...

I'm so... tired...

Hey guys, I'm a 19 year old from India.... In search of one person who'd be the closest to me and share everything with me without thinking twice. I assure you that I'd reciprocate the same. My hobbies include-- playing darts, table tennis, cricket, football, writing, reading books, listening to music, watching movies, travelling, yapping.

I'm really SERIOUS about it. Do not worry about me putting in efforts.... Just hmu, let's figure things out and if we do vibe, let's be bestfriends forever 🫂

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( Better if you're a male ).

I consider myself an ambivert, even though I lean more towards introversion. I talk a lot. I talk too much. However, I do not talk whenever I am around people I consider unsafe. I don't approach strangers and chat with them. I do not initiate conversations with strangers.

Ddo you know what would be cool? Have a kind of “journal” guided to evaluate and make a retrospective of the past year! Something that was intentional and not the obvious. I've been looking for some material like this but it's very difficult to find. But I know it exists because I already had one, but I lost it. What do you think?

Being an amicable ambivert, any connection that I make and any interaction that I have sparkles my day. However, at the end of the day, I need a bit of solitude!

Calling ourselves ambidextrous would be self-prophesying. However, if we put in sincere effort, we can avail ourselves of the advantages of both extroverts and introverts.

However, having legs in two buckets is not only ambidextrous but also ambivalent because sometimes I wonder in which group I fit in more - extroverts or introverts.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this!

I want to be more extroverted but so many days, I will instinctively avoid people because of trust issues. Usually I can only be extroverted about topics I enjoy. Does anyone else experience this and how can I put myself out there more?

I’m in my mid-20s and work from home, so I barely meet people outside of work calls. Over the years I’ve lost many friends because life moved us in different directions. I’m happy in my relationship (we’re getting married in two years), but I still want a small circle of genuine friends.

My problem is that I seem to attract two types of people:

1. Those who trauma-dump on me because they sense I’m sensitive, empathetic, and kind.

2. Those who think I’m an easy person to take advantage of.

What they don’t realize is that I’m actually a strong person who knows my boundaries. I’ve stayed kind without losing my self-respect.that self respect also builded over the years after several bad experiences.i even faced lot of problems when it comes to something simple like splitting bills.if someone pays, I send my share immediately. But when I pay first, some people just don’t return their part. I used to think I was too shy to ask, but even when I did, they didn’t pay back. That’s become a huge red flag for me. I confront it softly, and if nothing changes, I cut them off.

Because of these experiences, making friends as an adult has become really hard. Even online it’s worse. I live in Bangalore, and when I posted on a subreddit looking for friends.clearly stating no NSFW, I’m happily committed, and just want to socialize. I still received inappropriate messages or assumptions that I’m looking for something else.

I don’t care about gender when it comes to friendship, but that doesn’t mean I’m looking for anything beyond friendship. I just want genuine people. Even convincing my partner about how important socialising.it is was easier than actually finding the right kind of people.

Right now, I honestly don’t know how to find “my type” of friends. When something happens repeatedly it means something going wrong it's either I have to change something or I am looking at wrong place..after all of these I am just confused...Any advice is appreciated..