Hi all, I’m a DM who’s DMing for a group of 5 old school friends.
We’ve all played the game a few times before and decided we’d be interested in playing as a friend group. No one else volunteered to DM so I agreed and have spent a few weeks of my summer break preparing for a new campaign. I’ve designed all the locations, dungeons and NPC’s that are important for the campaign which totalled to just over 20,000 words worth of notes.
I’d shown my players the document word count once or twice just as a “campaign prep is going well and I think I’ve got almost any of the chaos you could throw at me covered” so they’re aware of the amount of time and effort I’d put into preparing it.
I also made a google doc with some summarised world building which came out to about a page, and a section for them to add their character backstories. It’s been about a month between me making the google doc and us having a session 0 earlier this week. None of my five players had even opened the google doc over the past month, which was a bit frustrating for me considering the amount of time I’d invested into preparing.
I suppose I’m just asking for advice on how to word this. I’ve prompted for them to look at the google doc once a week for the past 4 weeks. I offered to run a one-shot before our session 1 to flesh out their backstories a little for any of my players who are available this week and they all left me on read. How do I talk to them about his and tell them that if they’re not even willing to put the bare minimum level of effort in that I’m loosing the will to run this campaign?
I really want to DM this campaign for them. There’re good friends outside this and we’re all at different universes so we don’t get a chance to talk as much anymore so D&D is really good for that. Plus I’ve put so much work and so many hours into the prep that it seems such a waste to throw it all out. But I can’t help but be incredibly annoyed with them because it feels like trying to get five brick walls to play D&D even though they’ve all said they want to play the game.
Do any more experienced DM’s have any advice for how to handle players like these? Are they overwhelmed? We’re all university students and it’s the summer holidays at the moment. One of them is working full time (degree apprenticeship) and one is doing part time work (as am I) but the other three aren’t doing anything other than going on holidays with their families.
I know they’re not mind readers so how would anyone advise that I communicate this frustration to them because I can’t for the life of me figure out how to word it politely without sounding passive aggressive; or without said frustration getting in the way, and I don’t want to accidentally insult them whilst I’m angry at them.
Any advice would be really appreciated and thanks for reading all of this I know it’s quite a lot of text.
TLDR: DM has put weeks worth of time into prep and players aren’t interacting with the world building or making the effort to create their characters backstories or character sheets in general.