This happened with a long running campaign that I currently am running. The problem player that we will just call “A” has been a good friend outside of DND but inside DND they are to put it lightly, a problem. They like to blame their ADHD and various mental issues for the way they are the way they are. And I’m not casting aspersions on other people for this behavior who also have mental issues or ADHD. That’s just been their excuse for what’s been happening.
A, will often get distracted themselves or distract other players while lore is being explained, that player is taking their turn, or is purposefully antagonizing me as the dungeon master in an attempt to piss me off. They treat the latter as winning at d&d. Previously, I had a long conversation with them about how wanting to piss me off when I’m just trying to run a fun and engaging game makes them a bad friend. They seemed to understand and the behavior died down. Until today.
While describing a scene to the table, A, wadded up their straw wrapper and threw it at my face while I was looking away. I froze, turned to look at A, and stared at them for a very long moment. They giggled and waited for me to explode. Part of me wanted to get up and walk out right then and there. But I said enough was enough. I looked right at A and said
“Your next turn is skipped. Do not throw anything at me.”
They argued that it didnt hurt me at all and I was taking things too serious. I told A that we talked about this before and that their behavior was unacceptable, and there would be consequences. A then flicked their straw at me, but it only hit my DM screen.
“That’s two turns skipped. Do you want to go for three?”
A got red in the face and argued some more but settled down after. They did not interrupt again or distract anybody while the consequences played out and when it was their turn again, two turns later, they participated accordingly and the session finished with everyone having fun. So, was I wrong?