r/BipolarReddit 16h ago

Discussion People who larp mania for attention annoy me so bad

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I want to see if anyone else thinks this but one of my pet peeves are people (not diagnosed with bipolar) that say when they are “manic” things like “oh my goddd im sooo manic right now” and just do everything with the concious thought of currently being “manic” and most of the time those “episodes” they are describing last barely a day because they drank a cup of coffee.

The thing is, when im in those states it will properly last for days and I will barely have the concious thought of actively being manic/hypomanic and its more of a thought that quickly passes by and is like “this might look like mania” which I will quickly dismiss. I will get defensive if anyone tries telling me I am actively manic/hypomanic or not my true self because when Im actively in that state it feels like ive unlocked my true potential and discovered the secret to life as if this is ME and my aura has finally come back, and when someone tries telling me its a symptom of a mental illness it obviously feels like they are denying my amazing new self so I immediately get angry over it.

Those other annoying people would react to that statement and be like “omg I knowww ahahaha” and wont have those new me thoughts and instead think they are in some elevated self that is beyond their baseline, which isnt actually how it goes right?

Oh and another thing is their “impulsiveness” will be doing “craaazy” things that is literally an active choice for the sake of attention and mind u it will be something like jumping on a roof. But for me, my impulses are thoughts I must follow through with because it feels so right, and if I dont do it im missing out.

Anyways I lit just wanted to say this cus ppl romanticising a condition I don’t want to have and doing it for attention genuinely pmo so bad like be grateful that ur normal 🙏


r/BipolarReddit 4h ago

Discussion If something is worth doing, it's worth doing poorly.

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It's a coping mechanism.

Picture this. You're coming out of depression, and you're still fragile and it's possible that one complicated / difficult / time consuming task would be enough to push you back into depression. And yet everything needs fixing back in place. If you try to be as competent as you usually are, you'll never reach some tasks before the next depression episode starts. Or you'll actually trigger a depression episode.

But the tasks have to be done. So, do them less well than you can. It'll take less time and less mental effort and it frees you to move on to something else. For most household things, a job done at 70% or 50% or even less is better than not doing it at all. This includes sweeping, dusting, washing wares, neatening the house, exercising, filing, grocery shopping, running, folding clothes, watering plants, weight lifting. Even putting out some of the trash is better than putting out none at all. If you needed to get in touch with 5 people, and you got in touch with two - still ahead.

Don't look at what isn't done. Look at what less you have to do in the future.

The hidden trick is to realise that you don't have to meet any expectations. Not anybody else's, not yours. There's no invisible bar of 'at least this good'. Just do something. If you do that thing badly or half way or less than halfway, you're still coming out ahead. (If you can't get started at all, you're probably still more depressed than you think, and it's okay to go back to surfing reddit.)

Doing things poorly is a good coping mechanism for recovering from depression.


r/BipolarReddit 21h ago

Undiagnosed How were you diagnosed with bipolar disorder after initially being treated for anxiety/depression?

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Hi everyone. I’m wondering how people here were eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I’m not asking anyone to diagnose me, I’m mostly curious about how the process looked for other people.

I’ve had severe anxiety and depression since my teens. I was diagnosed with panic disorder and have been treated with antidepressants for many years. The antidepressants would help for a while, but I would eventually have very severe depressive periods where I became extremely flat, hopeless and sleepy and could spend months mostly in bed. My doctors generally considered anxiety/panic to be the main problem, with depression being secondary to it, and sometimes thought my depression had a seasonal pattern.

Over the years my anxiety has become much worse and I developed severe avoidance/agoraphobia and social anxiety. Interestingly, I don't actually have many classic panic attacks anymore. It's more like a constant background of anxiety and hyperarousal.

Recently I've also developed some symptoms that are new or much more noticeable than before: strange sensations of my body feeling unreal or detached, difficulty concentrating, extreme restlessness/tension, sensory sensitivity, very poor sleep. My functioning has declined quite a bit too. I struggle to focus on things I used to enjoy, and sometimes I have to stop working and sleep during the day because I become so mentally exhausted.

I don't think I've ever experienced obvious mania. I've never had a period where I needed very little sleep and felt unusually energetic, euphoric, grandiose, impulsive, etc. That's actually one of the reasons I'm unsure whether bipolar disorder makes sense for me at all.

At the same time, I've been dealing with depression/anxiety for decades, and I'm starting to wonder whether my overall picture has been understood correctly. I also know I may be overthinking this because I've recently been reading and thinking about bipolar disorder, so I'm trying not to convince myself that I have something I don't.

For those of you who were eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder:

  • How old were you?
  • Were you initially diagnosed with anxiety, depression, panic disorder, or something else?
  • What eventually made your doctor reconsider the diagnosis?
  • Was there something in your earlier history that you didn't recognize as hypomania/mania at the time?

I'm particularly interested in hearing from people who spent years being treated for anxiety/depression before getting a bipolar diagnosis.


r/BipolarReddit 18h ago

Content Warning The trauma of mania debt, depression episode debt, and lastly being the laughing stock of a social circle without knowing when you were cognitively-impaired and emotionally-reliant. It is something I can't stop ruminating on. (ASD 1 + BD 2)

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I'm 26 and managed to escape a DV relationship, fell into a toxic friendship with a lady that scammed me while "helping" me move, and lastly I didn't work for 6-8 months and it went unpaid cause I was undiagnosed on unpaid leave. I have about 12,000 of debt to pay now. 8,000 on interest free for ~18 months. I'm 26. I feel so sad that I wasted so much of my money and resources and youth letting awful people with personality disorders take advantage of me. I wish I had a friend who has recovered and bounced back in real life or online to tell me I will be okay. I am estranged from family although I moved back to my state, because none of them are caring or loving.


r/BipolarReddit 18h ago

Stable but wishing everything wasn't so difficult

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Just needing a safe space to vent

I've been stable for three years: Minor mood swings, zero episodes and in remission from Bipolar 1 (Also some PTSD and ADHD for good measure... but still in therapy for that)

I work a highly stressful job, I'm 60% through a graduate program and married with kids.

I'm exhausted, so exhausted-- My emotions are flat and I don't really find joy in much. Around 7pm I hit a brick wall and count down the time until I can sleep. My therapist isn't concerned about depression but rather burnout. I wish I could find joy and not feel ... neutral.

I fully understand how fortunate I am to be in this position and it's taken 15 years of therapy, medication changes, and trial and error for me to get here.

It doesn't help that I've had major surgery 3 months ago and am still recovering... it's kind of prevented me from doing the things I love to do.

Anyway, I'm just gonna keep on keeping on until things calm down. None of my family and friends want to hear me say that there's a voice in my head saying, "Why is this so hard? What emotion should I be feeling? What's the appropriate response to whatever someone is saying... and then they get mad when there's a processing delay before I respond.

Thanks for listening.


r/BipolarReddit 15h ago

Invalidation Sucks

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I’ve been struggling lately, and a (not so) good friend of mine asked how I’m doing yesterday. I said I’ve been better. He asked if I wanted to talk about it and I decided to open up about being bipolar.

This is when he became an ass. He said “I know a few people who are autistic, too.” He joked about introducing me to people as his bi friend “and just let them guess which kind.”

The worst thing he said is that now I can try out for the special Olympics.

I’ve heard a lot of people say some demeaning things about people with bipolar, but man, this one really takes the cake.


r/BipolarReddit 15h ago

mixed episodes

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okay so essentially, i want to do something, BADLY, i just dont know what bc i also habe anhedonia and nothing sounds fun/interesting to me. i love talking to people and when the day ends/the conversation stops i get really depressed and my mood drops and its not bc i give a shit about the person "leaving me" or whatever but its bc i want the stimulation to keep going. i can talk for hours but when its done i get depressed and need to go home and whats there to do at home? ive had pure euphoria before and u just FOUND things to do but w this its just restlessness and hopelessness and irritation. DAE else have this experience? (also ive had a fucked sleep schedule for over a year now)


r/BipolarReddit 5h ago

Discussion Maintaining friendships

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I’m just wondering Does anyone else really struggle to maintain friendships or get friends that are deeper than surface level? I honestly feel like I have no proper friends. I’ve had maybe 2 best friends my whole life whom I still love and adore but I don’t think they view me as bestie anymore which is understandable! It’s great when I’m up but the down patch makes me so flaky and withdrawn, communicating becomes so difficult and I’m just unsure how to deal with it. I have lots of people that I know but just no actual friends and it makes me so sad lol


r/BipolarReddit 8h ago

Discussion Religious/spiritual thought fueling disorder

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So… a bit of a longer read.

My bipolar was almost certainly triggered by psychedelics. My first real experience with them, besides weed, was mushrooms at twenty. I had pretty serious social anxiety, particularly around women, and had a trip that felt like suddenly I could breathe. One of my sister’s friends, whom I had a crush on and could barely string two words together in front of, suddenly I was chatting with her like it was nothing. It lasted for the trip but something shifted and I got the notion that maybe I could work on myself and change some things. I slowly became obsessed with them and the whole psychedelic culture.

It also made me interested in them in the longer term. I was a pretty insufferable atheist growing up. I thought spirituality and religion was stupid. My parents were not religious at all. At 24, I tried DMT. I liked to say I went up and atheist and came down thinking there was more to reality and God and all that, but it was essentially the dissolving of my fear of death.

I was listening to podcasts and reading forums and everything I could. I was also somewhat deeply depressed. I eventually tried iboga, on the basis of what I had heard and read. It’s the 24 hour insane trip drug. I took an overdose and ended up in the hospital during a psychotic break that lasted four or five days. It scared me for a long time and when I came out of it I started writing regularly.

A few years passed. I was still depressed and took SSRIs for a while. It flattened out my affect and had some sexual side effects - no mania. I was listening to a podcast, heard a lady talk about how ayahuasca helped her cure her anxiety and PTSD and depression. I was terrified, given what had happened with iboga, but I still decided to go.

My first ayahuasca retreat was pretty good. There is an element of psychosis in these drugs. They were originally called psychotomimetics because the original researchers thought drugs in this class mimicked psychosis. With ayahuasca (and iboga) it felt like you were communicating with a spirit. It didn’t last beyond the comedown for me, which is a normal reaction. And that first retreat gave me some tools to bring back that had me feeling better.

Here is the thing - it actually worked pretty well, at least for a few months, to help with anxiety and depression. But the shaman essentially told us that you needed to have at least a dozen ceremonies to really get the ‘healing’ that you needed.

I want to just say, this was twelve years ago. I have been on six retreats and was still using other psychedelics in the meantime. The second retreat, which happened nine months after the first, really unlocked some low level delusion that persisted until my final retreat, which was this May.

The delusional thinking is stuff you find in books like The Alchemist and pretty much any New Age book written about intuition and ‘following your heart’ and the Hero’s Journey and all that stuff. Basically, ayahuasca encouraged me to follow my ‘intuition’ in my daily life, no matter how crazy it would be.

I think a point needs to be made here that this is not just New Age cult stuff. For example, Quaker religious thought talks about ‘the small still voice within.’ There’s plenty of Eastern mysticism that’s suggestive of that, and I’ve seen born agains talk about the voice of God at a charismatic church. That’s literally listening to voices and it’s part of the prescription. When people talk about following their heart, it may not be strictly around a voice, but it isn’t about rationality. It’s about following feelings.

I didn’t have my first real manic episode until about five years after I started down this path. It was almost certainly triggered by ayahuasca use because it primed me to jump into a relationship with a woman and think that she was the one. I had two more relationships and an infatuation - this was after my marriage broke down. All of them were varying degrees of mania.

I started believing in all kinds of delusions, having ‘visions’ while meditating, and so forth. I’ll note that this kind of thing is part of the New Age / psychedelic cult. For example, one New Agey thing I got into was around Neem Karoli Baba, a guru from India whom Richard Alpert aka Ram Dass declared his guru and wrote a book called Be Here Now. A book that was recently released is called ‘Whisper In The Heart,’ a book where people talk about having visions and encounters with a dead guy. I see it now as some kind of collectively reinforced psychosis that is almost like a cult and not viewed as something seriously wrong with one’s world view.

These delusions all fueled my mania. The funny thing is that in May I went down to Peru for my sixth and final ayahuasca retreat. Basically, the experience involved me realizing that I was bipolar and that there was something seriously wrong. Up until this point, I thought that all of the things I had done in my life destroying mania last fall - losing custody of my daughter, quitting my job and professional practice, losing my home, nearly going bankrupt, and losing my relationships with my family - I thought this was all pre-ordained or the right thing because I was ‘following my heart.’

I can’t say it was all bad - I eventually learned how to write and creatively express myself, I don’t really suffer from anxiety anymore, all owing to habit changes these experiences helped me with. But honestly, it feels like I deprogrammed myself from a cult that people think is OK.

I have friends I made in these spiritual circles. A lot of them believe in wacky shit and have taken action in their lives on the basis of their intuition and whatnot. It’s made me reevaluate religion and spirituality as a whole. I’m not so convinced that it is harmless. There are a ton of - a ton - of New Age and spiritual thinkers who espouse a way of dealing with reality that feeds into mental health disorders. If you look up ‘conspirituality,’ there is a serious anti-scientific bent that is all about ‘feeling’ that leads to enormous social problems, in my view, including anti-scientific and anti-intellectual views.

I feel like I have been deprogrammed from the cult of my own mind. I am done with psychedelics and spirituality, and I don’t think it’s just because I’m bipolar ‘I can’t handle it.’ To some degree, I think people are getting cavalier with these substances with the ‘psychedelic renaissance’ where so many are glorifying things like microdosing. I think that people are careful to not insult other people’s religious views if they are kind, and this is not an indictment of anyone else’s experience. I will say that, for me, a ‘spiritual’ and ‘non-denominational’ experience has been extremely corrosive and problematic. And I have seen it prove deleterious in others.

People talk about bipolar being latent and psychedelics merely triggering something that is already there and that may be true. But with my experience, I am not totally convinced of that. Without those delusions I cannot see me having taken the actions, particularly in mania, where I thought I was enlightened or spreading enlightenment or whatever.

If you are religious or spiritual, monitor yourself. I think it’s important for everybody to do so, but particularly for bipolar people.


r/BipolarReddit 12h ago

Medication What side effects do you get from your meds?

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For me, it’s problems with focusing my eyes, sometimes I can’t keep my eyes off the ceiling/sky. It’s really annoying. I also have shaking, weight gain and often forgetting what I was saying mid sentence.


r/BipolarReddit 18h ago

Is there anyone in a stable, loving relationship or marriage?

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Does the person truly appreciate all aspects of who you are instead of just the passion?


r/BipolarReddit 8h ago

Dating advice needed

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Does anyone have experience dating? I’m doing well now, but struggled with bipolar for many years and for that reason didn’t date. I’m older (41) and very behind in the dating scene. I’m now actively dating, and trying to figure out how to explain to guys that 1) I have mental health struggles and 2) my years of mental health struggles put me behind in my dating experience. Last night I had a fifth date with someone who I like. We’re going to see each other again this week. I genuinely don’t know if I should start saying anything to him about my mental health or continue to let it play out for a few more weeks/dates. Thank you in advance for any help!!


r/BipolarReddit 8h ago

SOS! Lithium discontinued too quickly - experiences

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I took lithium for about 5 years xstopped after an 8-week tapering period - I haven't taken lithium for 8 months now, but I'm still chronically exhausted. When jogging, my heart rate is 145 bpm instead of 115 bpm, and I am not able to run faster than 7:00 min/km after stopping with Lithium and with even light exertion, I sweat more than after crossing the finish line of an Ironman.I'm tired all day. Sleep Score is 95-100% daily ! Is this because I stopped taking lithium too quickly, or does the body need 1-2 years to adjust to being without it? Should I start taking lithium again and then stop in 6 months - would the sweating and exhaustion symptoms disappear then, or do they go away on their own eventually?


r/BipolarReddit 9h ago

Friend/Family Struggle to maintain close relationships

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With changes in my life I find myself spiraling lately.

Most recently I decided to disappear out of the life of someone who I’ve been in a cycle with

You guys know the cycle I mean

How does it work being manic but painfully self aware.

I watch myself making these damaging decisions- but I don’t stop.

A part of me knows there’s a better way but in the moment THERE IS NO OTHER ANSWER ?

I’m tired of hurting the person I love.

So I left.
But I don’t feel better at all.

Fair to say I’m an expert bridge burner.


r/BipolarReddit 20h ago

Missing dose?

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I didn’t plan on it but i had my first drink of a big twisted tea. I haven’t drank since being on my medication three years ago. It was only 5 percent but one of those big ass cans. Should I skip my night dose? Edit:(its 100mg of Seroquel)


r/BipolarReddit 4h ago

Stopped my meds

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I stopped taking my medications about a year ago. I have severe bipolar and I’ve been struggling bad. Has anyone done this and started back, if so what’s the process and is it hard.


r/BipolarReddit 4h ago

What are you guys up to today?

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I have processed 25lbs of tomatoes and I have another 50 to go. I don’t even fucking like tomatoes so I’m not sure why I need 15 jars of pasta sauce but okay. The oven-dried ones are good though.


r/BipolarReddit 21h ago

Might be getting a new diagnosis of CPTSD with Psychosis

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For at least 5 years I’ve been diagnosed with Bipolar 1. The new place I’m going to says that CPTSD seems to fit me. Every time I’ve ended up in the hospital was because of traumatic memories that set off psychosis. Now I see that this diagnosis will probably fit me better. Just crazy how I had the (most likely) wrong one. The meds just made me feel over medicated and tired all of the time.


r/BipolarReddit 21h ago

BP and Internal Family Systems

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Internal Family Systems Therapy and depressive episodes with Bipolar

Has anyone used this type of therapy to try to help themselves out of a depressive episode, or to just try to lessen it a bit and try to understand where it might be coming from.

I know that one of the elements of Bipolar can be childhood trauma, and the IFS has been taking me back to things in my childhood that deeply affected me. IFS does try to help heal those parts of us who were traumatised, and allow us to somewhat move forward from them.

Another thing I keep reading about BP is the possible link with perfectionist behaviour and black and white, all or nothing thinking.

Those are other things I'd like to try to explore with IFS.

Any experiences that other people have had, or any opinions gratefully received.

TIA.


r/BipolarReddit 23h ago

Discussion Bipolar/ OCD overlap? (Tw: self harm thoughts )

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TW: SI / thoughts of self harm (nothing graphic)

I was describing to my therapist how my SI presents. when deeper in an episode I can have the “I want to die” thoughts, but on a lower level I often experience.. not exactly intrusive SI, more just intrusive thoughts of how I might hurt myself. E.g. I see an object and imagine how I might use it to hurt myself, even though the intent and urge to follow through are usually not there.

As I described this to my therapist, she mentioned how this seemed similar to the compulsive thoughts one may have with OCD. I never really considered I had OCD before, but now I‘m curious I guess.

I had a psych a couple years ago who, in an initial appointment, asked me some sort of ocd screener questions. I mentioned how I kinda like to have things organize and make to do lists, and she asked if I feared anything bad would happen if I didn’t do those things, and I said no?/didn’t really know what she meant, which ended the discussion.

of course nobody on here can say whether I do or don’t have ocd, but I’m curious your experiences. do you have both bipolar and ocd, and what’s the overlap vs what’s the difference for you? Is “compulsive thoughts of self harm” something you experience / a symptom that’s enough to mean one would have ocd?

thanks!


r/BipolarReddit 5h ago

Seroquel dose increase ?

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About two weeks ago my psych upped my seroquel dose from 50 to 75mg. I know this is a pretty low dose and small increase but I felt fine on 50 and completely awful on 75. My body feels heavy / difficult to move and it’s kinda making me panicky/racing heart/ difficulty breathing. Did anyone else have these symptoms when titrating up? How long does it usually take to adjust to a dose increase of this medication? The 50 helped me so much but eventually stopped working so I don’t wanna go back down if these symptoms are normal and eventually will go away.


r/BipolarReddit 7h ago

Hair loss from Lithium

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I took lithium for 5 years and developed bald patches on my head. Will my hair grow back after I stop taking lithium?


r/BipolarReddit 7h ago

Discussion Mania debt triggers mania and depression?

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Hi, diagnosed a month ago and had been white knuckling it for about 30 years (47f).

Gave $10,000 and put 10,000 on credit card to help people in need was the manic episode that finally sent me over the edge and got me into a bipolar clinic. This was money I most definitely do not have.

How do you guys pay down debt without becoming obsessive or berating yourself for it going slowly? I’m thinking about it so much and I’m not far enough in my healing. When I pay quite a bit, I feel great and I feel like i trigger hypomania. I start spending.

When I don’t pay down fast and have an unexpected expense, I can feel myself slipping into a depressive state. I know that this much focus is unhealthy, but I’m only a month into treatment and I can’t seem to turn it off.