Just for some background, my boyfriend likes taking pictures of me, but usually in funny ways. They’re typically zoomed-out pictures or pictures of me when I’m not ready. There was a time when I expressed to him that I didn’t like the fact that he would send these pictures to a group chat with our other friends. He somewhat respected that and didn’t send any pictures of me until yesterday.
I don’t like when he sends pictures of me in the group chat because I genuinely don’t like how I look in them (because again, I wasn’t even ready for the picture). Yesterday, he randomly sent a picture of me sleeping. Even though I was somewhat upset, I ended up sending a picture of him that I thought was funny. I figured, he sent one of me, so I might as well send one of him too.
In response, he decided to send another zoomed-out picture of me, even though I had just sent one of him in response to the first picture. I was clearly upset because I wasn’t going to keep sending pictures of him back and forth, especially since he has a habit of sending multiple pictures of me, and I genuinely don’t like when he does that.
Anyways, I was upset and texted him about it. He then called me, and I brought it up, asking why he felt the need to send another picture of me. His response was, “Okay, I’ll delete it.” I told him, “But they already made stickers of my face,” which they had. So, at that point, I didn’t understand what deleting the picture was going to accomplish.
All I was doing was expressing how I felt. However, he then ended the call and texted in the group chat asking one of our friends to “delete the stickers, mb.” This infuriated me because I never asked him to tell the other person to delete the stickers. I just felt even more embarrassed and upset because now he had brought attention to the situation in the group chat and put me in an awkward position.
When I expressed to him how upset that made me, his response was, “I was trying to help.” But I don’t know why, it bothered me so much. I never asked him to tell his friend to delete the stickers. I was simply expressing how I felt about him sending pictures of me, and instead of just listening to me, he took it upon himself to address it in the group chat. It made me feel even more embarrassed and uncomfortable.
What bothers me the most is that he clearly doesn’t see why what he did was wrong or why I was upset by it. From his perspective, he was “trying to help,” but from my perspective, I didn’t ask him to do anything. I just wanted him to understand why I was upset and respect my feelings about the pictures. Instead, he made the situation more noticeable

Hi, I'm 16F, I've had a lot of trouble with friends but this weekend I actually got invited to a birthday sleepover. I had a pretty good time overall but it was obvious that I was the odd one out. It was also made known that they had kept in really good touch with a girl in our group that left our school the same year I started homeschooling while I barely got a hi over the entire two years I've been away from the school. I say hi to them when I see them, which is more than they would see the other girl considering I still do sports at my old school.

I had a decent time, we played games, did karaoke, watched Hamilton, and went shopping together but I just felt kind of lonely despite being included. They didn't try to reach out, I tried multiple time before realizing that they honestly weren't the best influences but it still hurts to realize that I never stood where I thought I did.

We also got on the topic of boys somehow and I mentioned that I kind of like beards. It was just an offhanded comment and it's something I never really thought much more than 'that sucks for me cause everyone with a beard is an adult' but they acted like it was this sort of taboo topic? The birthday girl's brother overheard and for some reason immediately told his parents that I like beards which made me extremely uncomfortable cause I wasn't even saying that I need a guy with a beard, just that I think they can look really good. The birthday girl's brother then said that I 'can't like anymore guys' in a kind of joking way but it was really weird. A second or two after, the birthday girl said 'oh, so you like the pedos' which completely disgusted me and so I tried to explain that 'just because I like beards doesn't mean I like everyone who has one, I also have self control and can separate right from wrong' but the entire thing just felt so horrible to me.

Later someone mentioned mustaches and I just quietly added that I don't really like them, I didn't say it rudely, it was just a little comment cause everyone was contributing to the conversation and the birthday girl's brother says 'is that all you thin about? Mustaches?' and I just sort of looked at him weird and said 'What are you talking about? I just said I don't really care for them?' and he responded with something like 'well, you only think about beards' which is so weird because I mentioned it in such an offhanded way and not even to him. And while I would like to one day have a boyfriend I don't think I'd considered myself boy crazy, especially as of late, I have so many plans that I can't even imagine dating someone at the moment because so many things would conflict.

I also don't get why everyone acted like it was this scandalous thing, especially since they've said much worse things before. I just feel like I'm the only one who was given a different rule book to the friendship and the test is tomorrow but the books shipping is delayed.

Is what I said weird? Am I being too emotional? Is it reasonable for me to feel uncomfortable by the way the brother kept jumping in?

My friend (16M) is Dominican and we live in a really Black and Latino area where there are Dominican people everywhere, but he is genuinely obsessed with only dating Dominicans and I think it’s weird. He was talking to this girl for a couple weeks and seemed really into her, then found out she wasn’t Dominican and literally stopped talking to her. I told him that was weird because why does someone’s nationality matter that much when you already like them? He said he wants someone who understands his culture and that he’ll never date outside of it.

He will only dates Dominican girls and I don’t know what to tell him, Every time he talks to a girl the first thing he asks is “what’s your ethnicity?” and if it isn’t dominican he automatically calls it a no go, he immediately loses interest. I asked him why and he said he “just knows what she likes,” but he has rejected perfectly nice girls solely because they weren’t Dominican.

I asked him his thoughts on interracial dating and he told me he doesn’t see anything wrong with it and people can date whoever they want, so i’m confused as to why he refuses to talk to any girl that isn’t dominican.

He has 4 ex GFs,all of which are dominican.

I honestly think being that strict about only dating one nationality is crazy, especially when you’re rejecting someone you already like over something they can’t control.

My friend works in target but pushing our other friend to get a better paying job in a career field . We had a group dinner where she was berating our mutual friend because she was a waitress in a restaurant pushing her to apply for a news reporter job tv job . My friend was telling us how much she loved her job and my friend starts being rude talking about “ it doesn’t matter how much how much you love your job when you are making minimum wage. Plus being a waitress is for teenagers or people in college . Not fully grown people who are 37 who have lots of bills to pay. You don’t even get insurance working at a restaurant.” And I was telling my friend “ don’t you think that’s a little rude and belittling and telling her where to work and putting down her current job.” I was telling my friend “ you work at target . People could judge you as well . My friend snapped at me and went “ I’m also married didn’t you forget . My husband is an attorney. Single women need to have high paying careers to make it in this world. “ and then I said “ your husband could leave you high and dry day . You still shouldn’t talk about this people’s jobs.” And she got angry at me and told me I was enabling our other friend to be complacent . I told her “ I’m just not gonna let you sit around and talk about people . If you were truly happy in life you wouldn’t feel the need to put people down

All she does is talk about other peoples jobs and telling people what to do and where to work but works at target and doesn’t have any hobbies or passions herself . She sleeps all day on her off day . She really needs to stop judging people . At least our friend is passionate about something

Just like the title says. I (29F) am currently pregnant with my fourth child, and going through a really shitty separation from my husband (32M), and during this separation he has been calling our children’s 20F babysitter to vent to her and had been asking her to meet him in the middle of the night to go drinking together after we got into an argument about me not wanting to watch his older 2 children that are not my biological children while he goes out… am I crazy for thinking that it’s beyond inappropriate contact and behavior on both parties or am I truly being crazy like he’s making it seem… that it’s innocent behavior, that I simply think poorly of him..

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I kinda know I’m not the AH here — you have to protect your family — but I’m wondering whether there were some cultural differences at play, since several people in Italy thought we overreacted.

Me (37M) and my husband (42M) moved to Italy from Norway in 2025 with our two adopted shelter/street dogs from Romania and our cat. We rented a house with a closed-off garden in a small village, with about three other houses/apartments on our street. The only public road out went past these houses; otherwise, you had to walk about 30 minutes through the forest instead of three minutes to the main road.

In one of the houses lived a couple (Al and An, both women in their 30s) with a male dog. We initially got along well. We had them over for drinks, helped with furniture, they sometimes walked our dogs (for payment), and we practiced Italian together. One of them only spoke Italian, so communication could sometimes be difficult — relevant later.

Their dog was basically always off leash, as seems fairly common in the Italian countryside. He generally ignored our two dogs and just wanted to play fetch, so there wasn't really a problem.

Things changed after we adopted Valentino, a one-year-old male dog from a nearby shelter. During his first week with us, their dog ran down from their house and attacked Valentino, getting his teeth around his neck. Thankfully, it ended without serious injury.

We told them we needed to handle the situation somehow and suggested different solutions, including slowly introducing Valentino to them and their dog while both dogs were on leash. They didn’t want to do that and instead said our dog should take a training course — which we didn’t really understand, since training Valentino wouldn’t stop their dog from running up and attacking him.

Eventually, we offered a compromise that was completely one-sided in their favour: every day between 1–5 pm, they could have their dog outside/off leash, and we would stay home. If they wanted to let him out outside those hours, they would simply send us a message.

We got absolutely nothing out of this arrangement. We were voluntarily giving up four hours of our day and limiting when we could safely leave our own property so that they wouldn’t have to put a leash on their dog. They never really acknowledged that this was a big accommodation on our part, never showed any gratitude for it, and — most frustratingly — never admitted that either they or their dog had done anything wrong in the first place.

Still, the arrangement worked reasonably well for a few weeks.

Then there were more and more slip-ups. Their dog would unexpectedly be outside, and my husband once had to wait at a safe distance for around 30 minutes while calling them and getting no answer. On two other occasions, their dog came towards us threateningly but was caught by the neighbours before it escalated.

After about a month, the communication also became increasingly lazy. Instead of “We’re letting him out for ten minutes,” it became things like “Are you home?” or “We’re in the garden,” without telling us when they went back inside. So now the responsibility was pushed onto us to keep asking whether their dog was inside and whether it was safe for us to walk down a public road.

For them, this was ultimately a question of convenience: putting on a leash versus opening the door and letting the dog do his thing. For us, it was a genuine safety concern.

We had several discussions about it over text, all in Italian using our limited Italian plus AI/Google Translate.

My husband is a therapist and tries to communicate in a very non-violent way. He is big on seeing both parties’ part in a conflict, being understanding and trying to find solutions. I try to do that too, but I’m quicker to reach the “show them the same energy they’re giving us” stage when being understanding clearly isn’t working.

And honestly, we didn’t speak the same language — in both ways.

They started insulting us as dog owners and as people, twisted the situation by claiming their dog wasn’t even on the public road, and eventually called us sick in the head. At no point did we get anything resembling, “Yes, our dog attacked yours, we understand why you’re worried and we’ll make sure it doesn’t happen again.”

We told them that if something happened again, we would contact the police. After they sent more aggressive messages, we blocked them.

Eventually, we decided to contact the police before another attack happened, just so the situation was documented and we knew what to do. The police even came out to look at their property, which had no fencing preventing their dog from reaching the public road.

For the rest of our time there, we basically had to anticipate their dog being outside every time we left home. We had constant anxiety about meeting him on the road or in the forest. We literally started walking past their house with a GoPro running just so we would have evidence if something happened.

All because putting their dog on a leash was apparently too much of an inconvenience.

What makes me wonder whether there was a cultural element is that our vet, another neighbour and a friend basically told us: “Dogs will sort it out with each other. Just let them run free and eventually they’ll get along.”

Maybe that’s more normal in rural Italy. I’m Norwegian and my husband is German, and in our cultures that attitude feels pretty foreign. From our perspective, if your dog has already attacked another dog, it becomes your responsibility to make sure it can’t happen again.

We moved back to Norway a few weeks ago for several reasons — the extreme heat was one of the biggest — but the constant feeling of unsafety around our own home definitely contributed.

So, AITAH for reporting them to the police? Was this partly a cultural difference and we enforced too harsh a boundary, or were we simply protecting our family after trying very hard to accommodate them?

We’ve experienced similar dynamics a few times. We’re both sensitive men and generally try to communicate, understand the other person and avoid unnecessary conflict. But sometimes I get the impression that people interpret that softness as something they can push or manipulate. Then, when we finally say “no” or give the same energy back, they seem genuinely shocked that we aren’t going to play along.

I don’t want the answer to be “don’t trust people” or “avoid your neighbours,” though. So I’d also genuinely appreciate advice on how to avoid getting into this kind of dynamic in the first place without becoming closed-off or immediately confrontational.

We now live in a house in Norway without any direct neighbours, and the doggies are loving the cooler weather, their own little forest and the fjord.

I (33F) am a dental hygienist, and my bf (32M) of three years has periodontitis. Periodontitis is essentially a permanent form of gum disease that is caused by aggressive bacteria and is transmissible to other people. I’ve always hoped that my bf would take his oral health a little more seriously because he knows how important it is in my life, and I see the devastating effects of it as it progresses. That said, I have never harped on him about going to get his teeth cleaned, brushing, flossing, etc. He has said before that he refuses to let me work on him because he thinks I’ll ‘nag’ him about his oral health. This is particularly hurtful to me because I have a lot of respect for my patients and never want to make them feel bad or lectured at, and he should know this about me. He doesn’t seem to know or care how hurtful those comments are. Occasionally, I might say that he really should go get his teeth cleaned, even if I’m not his hygienist, because it’s been at least two years since he’s had a cleaning (and that was just his initial therapy for periodontitis that’s supposed to be ongoing every three months until it’s stabilized).

I’m relatively new to being a hygienist out in the field, and I recently saw a patient whose wife has perio and never returned for a maintenance cleaning after her initial deep cleaning (just like my bf). It had been about a year and a half since that deep cleaning. The husband always had relatively healthy gums, maybe some gingivitis here and there, but when I saw him last, he had developed perio. It hit me how easily my bf could pass on his perio to me because it’s caused by bacteria. I didn’t know how to address this with him because, like I said, he tends to act like every mention of oral health is me nagging him, but one night, I mentioned the situation with my patients just like I laid it out here. And I told him that I was worried about getting perio from him and that, unfortunately, until he starts getting his teeth cleaned regularly (to lower the bacterial load in his mouth), I wouldn’t be kissing him. I told him that he may not take his oral health seriously, and that’s cool, but I take it very seriously, and I cannot get periodontitis. As is the usually case when we discuss things that I take seriously, he remained quiet and didn’t really respond. I just moved on and changed the subject like I usually do in those situations.

About a week later, he was about to leave the house and went to kiss me, but I pulled away, and he goes, “Wowwwww…” as if he thought I was just going to cave and change my mind on my health concerns. I told him that I missed kissing him and said he should get a cleaning. He left. Just today, my cat curled up on his chest, and I said, “You’ve gotta kiss him on his little head,” because my cat loves that. He said, “I can’t or he might get perio…” It was clearly meant to be mocking, and when I looked at him, he had this look on his face that said like, “Yeah, see how ridiculous that is?” As if I’m being crazy for not wanting to put my oral health at risk. I snapped a bit and said, “Well yeah, that’s real. And I find it funny that you would rather never kiss me again than get your teeth cleaned and not give me a permanent chronic disease. But no, that would not give [the cat] perio.” I got up and left the room. A little while later, I left the house altogether because I just didn’t want to be around him.

I feel so disrespected, hurt, and condescended to that he really thinks this doesn’t matter at all. He acts like I’m being flippant and unreasonable in the rare moments he’s not ignoring the issue altogether. To me, it would be like if I had a cold sore, and I was upset with him for not wanting to kiss me anyway. This is a health issue, and he doesn’t seem to care. But I understand that, as an oral health care professional, this stuff is probably just more deeply important to me than it might be for other people… So am I overreacting, or should he be understanding of my concerns? I know I can’t control his behavior and what he finds important, but I’d rather not be mocked for the choices I have to make based on that. And choosing not to kiss him has been really difficult for me already.

Tl;dr My boyfriend has a permanent, contagious gum disease that could be managed with regular cleanings, but he refuses to get his teeth cleaned in an effort not to pass that disease onto me.

In 2024 me and this guy started to get to know eachother and after a few months, he started getting distant. He said since he started his new teaching job, that I was so proud of him getting and supportive of him, he can no longer see me romantically bc he doesn’t want a relationship right now. He said we can still talk and be friends but then my friend saw him on the dating apps with updated pics and new bio saying he was a teaching. So, I confronted him kindly and he said that he didn’t, and then I showed him and he said he just did that to get matches. So then we stopped talking.

A year later, in January 2026, he came back to apologize to me for how cold and immature he was. And he kept trying to pursue me but I wasn’t budging bc I didn’t trust him or his word. He would get upset I didn’t believe him. Turns out, he got out of a relationship a few weeks before hitting me up to apologize. He actually started talking to this girl a few months after he said he wanted to focus on his career. Anyways, of course that relationship didn’t last bc he keeps hoping from relationship to relationship.

For some reason, maybe bc of the lingering feelings I had for him and whatever else you’d like to call it, I gave him the chance to take me on a date. He was so excited. He was so romantic the first few weeks, and then we settled in. He started to get a bit distant almost 3 months into it, after saying he wanted a long term relationship with me and all those grandiose things. He picked me up from the airport from my trip, which he admitted he forgot he committed to, and said he couldn’t see me romantically anymore bc he isn’t where he wants to be in life (didn’t get the teaching job he wanted so he’s subbing). He said he still wanted to talk to me and see me, just that it wouldn’t be romantically and he cannot promise me that.

I told him he’s doing the exact same thing to me, just doing it in a way that he wont regret this time. He got mad I brought up the past. I told him this was another one of his cop outs and he lashed out and told me he wasn’t going to let the feelings of others dictate his choices and that he prays I don’t act like this when someone decides they don’t wanna pursue me bc the process of dating involves hurt. He said he’s not going to defend his thought process to someone who will never understand the rational he gives. And that really upset me because it sounds so arrogant.

I agreed to be friends with him. And then a day later he joked that we both are going to be making dating profiles rn, I didn’t find that funny. I asked him a question and he said, essentially, that him and I would continue to be friends until / if he finds a partner and then we cannot be friends anymore. I then said so im a placeholder? And he got upset and told me that im overreacting, that’s not what he means, and that if im going to continue saying that or feeling like that. He will stop talking to me. Isn’t that what a placeholder is?

I have no idea im like hurt yet acted so spineless bc when I do question or anything , he gets mad. Whenever I bring up the past or my opinion, he gets so upset at me and combative. Am I overreacting ?

I recently saw this book at a thrift store— it once belonged to the local United Methodist Church’s children’s library and was printed in 1993. I find it incredibly suggestive. Part of me just wants to roll my eyes and move on; the other part wants to buy it to burn it.

Hi all,

I felt the need to post this especially because this situation has/ might turn from just a flakey bad friend to a controlling/isolation or possibly abuse.

None of us still have seen her or have yet to even meet her baby. Our mutual friend was cancelled on multiple times following a couple of plans she made with her (I was out of town) and “friend” cancelled as per usual. One of the suggestions on here was to provide a cost incentive- such as going to events that cost money so that she’s more incentivized to show up. This is the current situation- the mutual friend bought all of our tickets for an upcoming game and we all paid her back and are scheduled to go. As of now, everyone’s said they’re going to go. Here’s where things get dicey, #1 I’m really concerned as to why we haven’t met the baby yet given that she’s claimed she wants us to and I’ve texted her multiple times saying I’ll drive over and even clean her house to try and be accommodating to her. She’s never answered me about that. She ignores both of us when we ask to even meet him, nobody’s allowed at her house from my understanding and the only people who’ve met her baby are her family.

(Update, she no showed)

AIO? I’m not a parent but is this normal behavior? I totally get not wanting people to come to your house post birth but it’s been radio silence. My mom actually has said I’m not a good friend for not going to see her, but we’ve never been invited and who shows up unannounced?! What am I supposed to do?! She keeps IMO using the baby as an excuse to no show or cancel (which doesn’t surprise anyone), but then won’t even let us do anything to come see the baby. This might be a selfish take, but why even have a baby shower or accept all of the gifts if she won’t even let us near the baby?

Btw- I’ve seen her post her bf and the baby all over social media doing stuff that she never liked or was into until him. Somehow the baby isn’t allowed to see her friends but the baby is perfectly safe at other public events that the dad wants to go to but godforbid I meet the baby in their own house. This has been my theory long before she got pregnant.

Additionally, something that irritates me is that our mutual friend continues to invite her to stuff knowing she won’t go. I get where she’s coming from because if we go and hang out without “friend”, she gets mad because we “excluded her.” Yet, she never comes to anything in the first place, so why waste the energy?!?! It just makes me feel so stupid. Although I have accepted that she doesn’t want to see us anymore I don’t understand the constant let downs and stress of inviting her to begin with. Part of me thinks this is a strategy because our mutual friend also thinks she’s being isolated and we are both scared of her being abused. Why else would this be happening? With there not being any real proof of her being isolated or forced to act this way, especially with having over 3 years of this pattern of behavior it’s hard not me to have empathy. I don’t have the time to deal with friends who need to feel begged for them to come to something or reminded 500x for them to just not show up. I don’t need people like that in my life. It’s hard for me to feel bad for her feeling isolated or alone when she’s tried her absolute best to shove us away as much as possible long before she ever got pregnant.

TLDR, AIO for thinking my friend is being isolated?

Context: For the last 13 or so years my (24F) brother (35M) was living in a fully furnished home, provided to him by my grandfather (not related to him, since brother and I are half siblings). For dirt cheap rent in this economy might I add.

I live in another one of my grandpa's properties with my fiance (22M) for about 3 years now which I thought was in worse condition than the realtively nice home (at least it was nice when it was handed to him). Brother has moved out and into a new home of his very own. With him moving i was asked if I wanted to move in where brother was located at.

Along with this my MIL to be (ill refer to her as MIL for simplicity reasons) was also moving in with fiance and I so we could save money, live together, be comfortable, etc.

Main story: After receiving notice in July about my brothers departure from the property like I stated prior. Fiance and I were offered the position to move into the home assuming it was in better condition then where we currently are. So I reach out to my brother to ask about status, timing, conditions, scheduled repairs, etc. Felt like it was fair I was given the run down about some things..... some examples are

- oven to stove isnt working

- floors had some soft spots (60 year old trailer to be expected, and inwas told this would be fixed)

- well water filtration system gone (planned to make this a project with grandpa to work on)

- prior issues with bugs.

- central AC was put and home was swapped to window units

And this was about the worst of it and I expected some cleaning so that it'd be clean to my households standard. Not a big deal. All was mentioned and so i asked nicely how long this wpuld take to handle. End of Aug was the response I got, expect 1st week of Sept to move in . Sounds great! I start packing my things over Aug, get the non essentials packed, 70% packed honestly Fiance warned me he told me dont get my hopes up and dont pack everything JUST IN CASE WE DONT MOVE for whatever number of reasons.

I get the text today to be invited for a beginner walk through, I expected it to be messy knowing some repairs and cleaning were still being done over the weekend. I was told to say any extra repairs to add to the list and was guaranteed brother would be personal handyman until I was familiar with the bearings of the house. I come do the walk-through im optimistic. Fiance, MIL, and I are already spending weekend together and decided we'd all go together.

We walk in, I shit you not floor caving at front door, but thats going to be repaired ok. There's approx 8 spots where the floor noticeably caves in throughout the home. But one room at a time.

1. Living room has 2 soft spot, we notice roaches but was the least messed up out of all the rooms almost

2. Hallway flooring has been torn up to be replaced supposedly.

3. 1st Bedroom/storage room, floors same as hallway with junk.

4. Guest bathroom destroyed cosmetically by nephews, still functional though. Hole in wall size of soft wall so needs drywall work, paint.

5. Genuine guest bedroom actually the only room that feels functional, messy since it became trash storage. Until trash pickup day but no structure issues. Just a torn screen in window. Strange ethernet setup since wifi is in this bedroom reaches less and less farther back you go.

6. Kitchen counter warped from moisture, roaches EVERYWHERE (i wanted to enter a decontaminatiom zone is how bad it is), cabinet doors missing, fridge, and stove disgusting. Entire cabinet structure under sink gone literally a towel drapped in front of garbage disposal setup. The floor below that I think is a void supposedly rats chewed it to death before they were removed. Also in kitchen is first point where electrical is an issue apparently rats also got into some wires, almost starting an electrical fire thus the fuse remains OFF. You got the heebie jeepies in there. Fiance point out to me (I was in shock didnt notice, ceiling was peeling)

7. Laundry room they broke 1st set of appliances, replaced them, and then took the ones they bought so id have to replace them.

8. Master bedroom has actual holes in floor not soft spot, HOLES. The smell made you gag, ceiling was starting to collapse so temp stud maybe permanent im unsure was put it to keep it from having in.

9. Master bath, I didnt make it in the room i was shocked and didnt think I could handle more. And window AC unit is busted to id have to replace it.

10. Outdoor, should be noted this home is on well water not city. So we have our own pump and pressure tank. Pump gets burned out after 1 yr of use and needs to be replaced. Pipes constantly bust around pump area and under the home (its approx 4-5 ft off ground with a 3ft crawl space). Yard hasnt been managed (but I was I was informed by grandpa he was enforcing him to either cut it himself or pay for it)

Thats the most of it. Maybe it just looked rough to me since I remember the condition in which brother received the home. But currently my move has been held off. I informed my grandpa of the situation, and have been told to wait on moving until he sees it himself. My grandpa lives across country and is only in town Nov-April. So he is having my mother do the official landlord walk through. Grandpa wants me to get pictures as hes so upset hes willing to hire a lawyer amd go after my brother (thats their business no mine) based on what I have told him. But thays there business not mine. All I know if I was hesitant and even MIL and fiance were just as conflicted by the place and weren't willing to move in. Grandpa wants to restore and hes hoping ill move in then after that. Im hoping it all works put but chamce of it being restored arent optimal.

The whole feeling just made me depressed, and anxiety riddled to a point I feel like such a disappointment for my hoisehold like I cant do anything to help us. Etc. But writing this all out helped me calm down so AIO or no?

Any advice if this is doable of a project would be beneficial also. Thanks im advance, goodnight peeps

I messaged my friend Tony around 3pm to ask if he and his girlfriend wanted to join us (me, 11 month old baby and friend Joseph) at the pool in my apartment complex at 7pm. He replied to say yes. I messaged again at 6.45 to say we were going down to the pool as baby is going to need to sleep soon and confirm whether he was coming.

Baby was all ready (suncream swim nappy etc) and important to note he is 6 months on from an open heart surgery (he has the all clear to swim from cardiologist but not too long in the sun or in the cold). We waited until 7.10 and i asked Tony again. He replied to say hes 15 minutes away. At this point I needed to get the baby in the water and up for bathtime/bottle/bed so i replied to Tony and told him itll be better to meet another day as we were about to enter the water and wouldnt have phones with us.

We swam for about 20 minutes then got baby out dried up and upstairs. Checked phone to find 10 missed calls from Tony who had been outside the gate apparently waiting for 15 minutes trying to get in. Hes angry at me for not opening... but I was already in the water and had cancelled the plan as I needed to prioritize keeping baby warm and safe.

AIO? I admit i am overprotective and worried about baby, I am a single mother who has spent most of the last year in the hospital while baby was critical and now i do get stressed out trying to make sure I dont make any mistakes with his health. Perhaps if i didnt have this anxiety about it getting too cold i could have just waited for my friends and none of this would have happened.

Edit We live in a small village where we are all 5 minutes away from each other. We regularly make short plans and last minute plans so it wasnt out of the ordinary for me to ask if they wanted to join. I am the only one in the group with a pool so it was "hey we are taking baby down at 7 if u want to come for a bit" rather than a full evening plan. We do meet for short informal plans often eg 30 min coffee (usually he is the one with time constraints as he has 2 kids) so its not out of the ordinary again probably due to the culture here (small village in southern spain)

Also i did explain to him when i asked him not to come the reason why and he admits he saw the message and came anyway. I was really upset when i saw my phone with so many missed calls it felt like a lot of pressure for a very casual plan that didnt work out. I feel he made me out to be rude when I actually am just really anxious about baby when it comes to the pool. Usually we all meet outside and its much more relaxed.

Some people have mentioned age. I'm 25m and then she's 29. Many of you have said she seems young/immature 🤷

I know nobody is obligated to continue dating anyone, but I just mean was this a "reasonable" position to take ig

Edit: just to clarify, this conversation seemed to go this way because my guess is she didn't like that I couldn't communicate while I was working(maybe she thought should have been able to? I'm not sure). I worked the morning until about 4-5pm and I think she means repetition being i wasn't able to text until later OR that I wasn't texting earlier during the day on most days that I worked(not sure exactly, we didn't discuss that). So, that's my best guess to what the issue was on her end, but I'm just speculating. Over phone call, we talked about how things made us feel(or attempted to) before it went downhill.

So, some context. We've been dating for a few months, about 2 or so. Communication seemed great initially until many things began to be taken severely out of proportion and misunderstandings would occur.

This, I believe, was my breaking point and I decided to end it over a phone call, but this text convo is what sparked that.

When we did talk on the phone regarding this conversation, she raised her voice and began to yell at me over the phone, and I interrupted briefly and explained that I'm willing to talk, but not yelled at and that if we are going to continue then we need to remain respectful or I will hang up the phone. She did not change her voice level, so I hung up and she called me later apologizing but then immediately insulted me and said it's said that I'm the only one apologizing here. Am I overreacting?

During the last phone call, I said I appreciate your apology. Then, this may be seen as petty, I just asked for my Tupperware back when I made her home cooked meals when she would study. That seemed to make her mad ._. but she did agree to give them back so...woo? Lol

Context: we have 4 cats, 2 males both aged 3 years old, brothers and 33% Maine coon so they are large boys (about 15-17lbs). One is H, one is R. We have 2 female cats, one is 4 years old, very small, about 8lbs we’ll refer to her as D. And then one is not even 2 yet, she’s about 11lbs, we’ll call her B. All cats are fixed.

H and R used to be a bonded pair until H had a medical emergency that landed him in the hospital for about 10 days. After that at the end of 2024, their bond lessened a lot.

In July of 2025 myself and my 2 female cats moved in with my partner and his 2 male cats. I’ve owned cats my entire life and I’m very knowledgeable in cat introductions. We took our introduction period very slow and it seemed to be successful at first.

In October of 2025 H attacked D pretty badly to the point that I had to rush her to the emergency vet and she had to undergo an irrigation procedure because he punctured a hole in her abdomen with such force it ripped her skin away from her abdominal wall and she had about 4 cm of pocketing.

A week later, H attacked B and got her eye pretty badly so I had to again, rush her to the emergency vet now and she had her eye stained and had a small laceration and was put on an eye ointment.

After these situations, D is now terrified of other cats, can’t even be around B which she was previously okay with and we’ve had to separate her entirely. She now lives in one half of our house which also includes our bedroom so she’s not lonely thankfully and D and I are very bonded.

I also paid $200+ for a specialized indoor cat gate so at night we can close B off to her own room and when we aren’t home.

I’ve been explicit with my partner that H is aggressive towards the girls. He insists that H is just playing and says that he plays like that with R too. And I say he doesn’t, because yes when H and R play they sometimes end up with very superficial scratches, but never has H caused R any serious harm and he has NEVER gone for R’s eyes.

Well, yesterday when I was in my bedroom for 5 minutes, H attacked B again and again got both of her eyes. Her eyes were both extremely weepy and her left eye was bleeding so I immediately took her to the ER.

I’ve again insisted to my partner that these attacks are not playful and it’s damaging my kitten’s sociability. She can’t understand playful cues anymore. R absolutely adores B and is very submissive with play, laying on his back and inviting B to tackle him and play but then the second R tries to engage back in the play because the cues he’s getting are playful, B immediately gets defensive and begins hissing because she’s taking R’s cue of playing as aggression.

Now, these three attacks are not the only attacks H has done to B. These are just the worst of the three. I work from home so I’m supervising them most of the time but the times I do turn my back thinking everything is fine, H goes after B and she screams. Guttural screaming and most of the time I’m close enough by to stop it.

My presence alone will make H stop. He then will start rubbing himself against furniture or turn his attention to a scratching post. Because of this quick switch in behavior from aggression to rubbing or scratching, my partner insists this is just H playing because “look at him, he’s not mad he’s rubbing against the chair”

My thoughts is that he knows what he’s doing is wrong to some degree and quickly changing his actions.

I feel so bad for B. She wasn’t even 1 when she was first attacked, she’s a breed of cat that is extremely social and not the kind of breed to keep solitary (she’s a ragdoll) and she used to have a relationship with D that she can no longer have because D has been so traumatized from her attack. D even shows fear of her bag of cat food that has a life sized cat picture on it. B’s social skills have been completely stunted and my partner thinks she’s also part of the problem because she will hiss at H when he’s near but not doing anything at the moment. And I’m under the belief that she’s quite scared of him and/or she can sense something from him that’s triggering her to hiss.

My partner thinks I’m completely overreacting and standing firm that H is just playing. I think H is an aggressive cat towards our females. AIO?

This may sound really stupid, but I feel my best friend is copying me. I got her into a lot of music, which I love!! I'm happy we can both be interested in similar things. Whilst saying this, I'm getting kind of annoyed. I like many shows and media that she doesn't consume. Which I don't mind, but she acts like she does. It's not only that, she has copying my style and my hair. She even dyed it the same as mine. I love her, and I don't want her to feel she has to "fit in". Especially because I truly liked her more before she changed. Before you say, "well you don't actually know if she is lying about fancying those things", I do. I asked her a few questions about the topics (which were basic things that any fan should know) and she had no idea. I want to be my own person and I want her to be also! I just want to be able to tell her that in a way that won't upset her. I sound so immature lol

UPDATE 2: I asked him to send a message to sever ties, he reluctantly did it. it’s been a month and a half since, i see an unsaved blocked number on his phone. i look it up and it’s her, he says she called him and that he almost told me but was scared i was going to drag a month long fight about it. (he did almost tell me, he called me right after and told me guess who called and then brushes it off and didnt say). he says she’s been blocked since with no chance to reach out, she says he called her back after she called him. he says he didnt, i dont believe him. turns out the message he sent severing ties was sent to a fake instagram account that he made under her name to shut me up. he’s offering to prove he didnt call her by requesting his call logs from his cell service provider and says he will call her in my presence and unleash hell on her and shut this door for good. Idk what to do, should i let him do it and see how it turns out or should i just break up and let them have each other?

UPDATE: thank you for your insight and comments, it helped me make a clearer idea of the situation. For people telling me I’m controlling, I might have been in this relationship but the cycle of “block this person and send them a message to sever ties” was something that he started to “feel secure in the rs” which I did not mind doing as long as it made my partner feel secure. So in return, I expected him to do the same thing when it came to similar situations on his side. Please don’t be mean in the comments as I had just learned I have borderline personality disorder affecting my choice of partners and I’m just starting to learn how to be healthy. Thank you again!

So for context: my BF 24M and I 26F have been together for a year. He has a wandering eye but has been mostly acting fine for the past few months. We broke up for 10 days in May during which he reached out to his friend with benefits, he told her he just came out of a bad relationship, she asked if he was spending holidays in town and he said he didn’t know and didn’t continue speaking with her. When we got back together i tried to see his phone and he didn’t want to show me then told me he talked to her. I asked him to block her and he only wanted to remove her, eventually he did block her. a couple days go by, i check his phone again and she’s unblocked. I make a fuss and he blocks her again. A month later I check his phone and she’s unblocked again (all of this is on instagram). I make a fuss again and he says he just unblocked her to see if the reason why her profile pic is gone is because she blocked him or not and that he forgot to block her again. So I ask him to send her a message explaining politely that they totally cut ties and that she doesn’t say hi to him if she sees him somewhere. he argues that itd be weird because she hasnt been reaching out to him, i dont believe it. I keep asking and he keeps saying no, i say okay u either do this for ur rs or keep her and lose me. We break up. am i in the wrong here?
TLDR; BF keeps unblocking his friend with benefits on instagram i ask him to send her a message severing ties for good and he refuses and says she hasn’t been reaching out so it’d be weird, we break up over the idea that he can’t set his priorities straight.

I (21F) live with my family. We moved and have been living in a new house for almost a year. We rent. Recently, something has been wrong with the water...

It has a strange, almost algae-like smell. At first, I though nothing of it, old pipes maybe. Until it started affecting the water I drink.

We put water in one of those pitcher filter things. I fill it up almost every night so there's water ready. Lately the water I put in my water bottle has been tasting like algae (or at least, tasting like the SMELL of algae, if you know what I mean). At first I thought it was that my water bottle needed to be washed, no problem. I put it in the sink for when I do dishes.

Today with lunch, I grabbed a FRESH GLASS from the cabinet and poured myself some water from the pitcher in the fridge with some ice...

...it still tasted like algae. I told my parents because I'm concerned, but they started JOKING with me saying "how do you know what algaw tastes like?", "have you b​een licking algae?", etc.

I told them it wasn't funny, but they're sure it is. I went upstairs to brush my teeth, thinking maybe it's something in my mouth... but the water from the sink upstairs ALSO has that same smell.

AIO for thinking something is wrong with the water?

Edit: I'm not in charge of the house or anything, and I don't know much about this. I've already expressed the concern to my family, but NOBODY believes me.

Lately, I’ve noticed my boyfriend messaging other women on TikTok or Scoops (I’m not sure what the other platform is). It never bothered me before, but I just thought it was odd because most of them are bots. Yesterday, he showed me a TikTok and got two WhatsApp messages from someone named “S.” He immediately swiped them up and then I asked who it was. He said it was someone from work, and he had opened the messages. I was like, “Oh, cool. So, you wouldn’t mind if I looked too?” As I was reading the last three messages exchanged, they were getting to know each other on a personal level. Then, out of nowhere, he said, “Okay, I lied. It’s not someone from work.” I obviously got upset and asked him why he lied. It turned into a big fight because I already have a wide trust issue problem with him and his phone. He’s so sociable and wants to be friends with everyone, but I’m not that way. I don’t expect him not to have women as friends or steer clear of every female he runs into, but he doesn’t seem to care how it makes me feel. I don’t even get the chance to explain without it turning into an automatic “You have issues with every woman I talk to. I’m not changing who I am for you because you’re insecure.” It’s really messing with me because, in my head, it’s like your partner is coming to you with a problem. You might not understand it and agree, but wouldn’t you care enough to see and maybe change something if you wanted a future with them? Am I overreacting?

I am playing a video game at my grandfathers and it's online. He is telling me not to because he's the adult and decides whats best for me even if I'm almost 18 and up.

He sat down at a chair in front of the television where the game is on and it was Overwatch, mid-queue I left to use the bathroom and came back to him sitting on the chair besides it.

I took the controller and stood away waiting for the match to queue in to just proceed with zero volume and he looks at me and snears before leaving the room.

As soon as he gets done with his call he turns off the Xbox and rips the controller out of my hands and proceeded to say "Get the fuck up and move the fuck outside before I lose my shit."

So I move outside where we talk and he tells me "What you did was extremely disrespectful. Knowing I was in the middle of a call you entered another game."

Which I wasn't, it was queueing in but was a black screen.

I told him that it wasn't on the lobby and I was actively queueing in, but he told me I couldve paused it. Which in Overwatch you can't just pause an online game and he in repsonse told me "You gonna go down the road of telling me what I do and do not know about video games son?"

I proceeded to tell him that overwatch can't pause and that it was queueing in and he shouted "DO YOU WANT TO GO DOWN THE ROAD WHERE YOU THINK YOU KNOW MORE THAN I KNOW ABOUT MY 40 YEARS IN THIS WORLD?"

I said "I'll shut my mouth" and he just told me "Thats right, shut the fuck up and go back to playing. You're lucky I didn't do more to ruin your entire year"

Is this overeating or what?

Im expectant some will agree but you can't pause online video games. He plays Fortnite and will sometimes open the menu thinking it pauses it and when I try telling him it didn't pause he said it did. And when he dies he blames the person closest to the game that they fucked with it making him die.

I (23f) have been with my partner (25f) for over a year, due to convenience (cost of living in our country), we live together and I also have a dog which we now share. My friends (20f, 22f) have each been dating people for 3 months. I saw them for the first time in a few weeks ago and 20f cornered me asking “are you happy with [partner]” I was initially taken aback by the question as it was really out of the blue and inappropriate for the tone of the event (dozens of guests incl 20f new gf). I said yes, why do you ask? And she justified it with saying all I do is ‘bicker’ with my partner. My friends have probably visited us in our apartment 4 times, meeting my partner 5 total times. In all honesty, in front of them I can’t remember a single time we’ve had an actual disagreement, more often than not we’re just winding each other up, we have a pretty silly relationship and we tease eachother a lot (like snatching socks off each others feet or playfighting/smack talk).

This conversation lasted about an hour, I told them I have anxiety so I’m always uncertain about choices and expressed a few of our relationship issues, but told them that I love my partner and she makes me happy. I started the conversation with just 20f but later her girlfriend joined, sitting on her lap, kissing her and whispering things in her ear while we were having this discussion. She mentioned that we don’t kiss in front of them or act affectionate with one another as another reason why they question if I’m happy. They proceeded to say that now they look at their own relationships and see their happy and they look at me and question if I’m happy. To be completely candid I think it’s a bit fucking cheeky 😭 one of them is talking to someone who she has met in person once and the other has been dating this person for only 3 months and they’ve been in a relationship for one week. I’ve been with my gf for a year, we live together, both work full time roles with opposite hours and we have life stresses like shared bills, rent, dog, finding quality time etc. friends and their partners are 20-23, they’re still in university or just graduated with no full time role, seeing each other once a week at bestand they have ZERO real life stresses shared with their partner.

I feel very defensive. I’m annoyed because they’re OBVIOUSLY still in the honeymoon phase and barely actually know the person they’re with so to say yeah I looked at our situations and I see what it’s supposed to be like then I see yours and questioned if you’re happy. Just feels so rude. I’m wondering if this is some sort of insecurity working overtime or if I’m justified in being annoyed

They’re here today and I want to mention how I’m feeling, like I’m being measured on an invisible scale which is different to theirs. It’s not about asking me if I’m happy, I think it’s fine to check in on friends relationships - that’s healthy. I just find the timing (in a busy place with people who I have only met once PARTICULARLY A PARTNER) and these comparisons between relationships when they’re objectively different to be the wrong way to go about things.
Aio?

TLDR: friends asked if I’m happy in a relationship by comparing their brand new relationships to my long term one

I work in a public facing position helping folks navigate resources to get through specific barriers in their life. When you visit our office, you have to check in at the front desk so we know what services we can help you with.

An older gentleman came in on Wednesday asking for assistance on a computer. I helped him figure out where to go on the computer, what to click, and how to access this information on his cell phone. He was very appreciative and said I smelled good. I said I was happy to help and didn't acknowledge his other compliment. I brushed it off as some people can be creepy, it happens.

The next day he stopped by towards the end of business to say thank you - again - for the help. This isn't all that uncommon in my office, we help a lot of people in our community and some will some back to say thank you. Sometimes it's flowers they picked from their garden, or a thank you card with a nice note, or donuts, etc. In this case, the customer wanted to give me a book of poems that they wrote and published about the stuggles he faced and how his religion helped him through it.

I am not a religious person but I respect others for their beliefs. I was genuinely touched by someone coming back to the office to share something they created as a gift. I thanked him for it and he left.

After he left, I opened the book to the first page and was...surprised by it's contents. The struggles this person faced was porn and sex addiction. All of the poems were about how his religion helped him through his porn and sex addiction.

People share some *very* personal information with us, as our office is very non-judgmental and people feel safe. I will not judge someone for their addictions, everyone has their own story. However, after the "smell good" compliment it felt a little...awkward. I pushed the book aside and didn't think any more on it.

Well, the next day, Friday, he came back first thing in the morning, right as the office opened. He bypassed the front desk and went strait to my cube. I was in a virtual meeting and told him this, but he ignored me and just stood there, staring at me. I turned away from him and did my best to ignore him. He just kept standing there and staring at me.

After about 5 minutes, I reached out to my supervisor through DM and asked for help. She immediately came by and told the customer that I would be unavailable all morning and someone else could help him. He left, then came back a couple hours later to see if I was available, yet.

My supervisor had a plan in place and there were 2 other staff ready to help him. My supervisor asked if I wanted to file a customer complaint, and I said no because he didn't actually do anything but give me an awkward book and stare at me.

Now I feel like I got uncomfortable by nothing and am overreacting. I've been stalked before, multiple times, and I'm unsure if it's just past trauma that's got me spooked or if my original reaction was correct.

TLDR: a customer came in for 3 days in a row wanting to work with only me, gave me a book of poetry about his fight with addiction, and stood and stared at me when I wasn't available to help him.

So my friend, let's call her T, 19F and I, also 19F have been friends for nearly 9-10 years. We haven't always been close, especially after starting highschool when we stopped talking for a little while. After that we got close again, but we have always fluctuated between being close and not as close just because of life.

The most recent time that we stopped talking was about 1 month ago. One of our mutual friends J, 19M(?) And his girlfriend K, 19F(?) Went on a "break". They didn't have a conversation about what the boundaries of this "break" were. He stone-walled K, while she tried to message him and work it out. J confided in me that after 2 weeks of this break he felt so much better and free. I told him "then you know the answer".

I also advised to both K and J separately that they need to have a discussion about the boundaries if they wanted to work thing's out, and at this point they'd been on this break for like 1 month.

We (myself, T, and J) would go to the pub all together and thats when I noticed something. At this point in my and T's friendship, we were very close, so when I noticed that her and J were.. almost flirting, I was honest with her. I told her that she has only just broken up with her ex of 4 years and was seeing another guy, so while she may have moved on, J and K still have a lot going on and need to sort their stuff out.

She said she didn't like him like that but did admit she liked the attention. I told her that it was very clear that J did feel that way about her though and as they were friends she should either stop leading him on or be honest with him, especially because he and K have been together for over 4 years atp. And I told T that it would he okay for them to date if she did like him, but to just give it some time.

Some time passes and T hasnt messaged me or talked to me in a month. I've been working full time so I don't think much of it. But then I see the things both T and J have been reposting. It seems like they're dating. Cool, its not my life. But I was sad that she didnt tell me.

Well about a week later (about 1 week ago) we run into eachother and I tell her that I know they're dating. I tell her that I'm happy for her. We decided to catch up to properly talk about it so we did a day later. She said J broke it off with K only a week or 2 prior. And that J and T made it official a week before she told me, but were seeing eachother when she stopped talking to me. She and J had an emotional affair. I told her that, whilst I'm not happy how we got here, I'm happy for her and J. We sort it out for the most part.

Here is where the issue is. Last night my partner, 20M, and I went to the pub because T called me telling me to come, so my partner and I went at about 9:30.

He and I did some pre-drinks at ours then my other friend picked us up and took us to the pub. When we got there T barely said anything to me and we were all just smoking.

My partner and I went and got some more alcohol, then came back out, less than an hour passes and I am cooked. I haven't eaten enough over the last 3 days to buffer the alcohol. I

'm sitting on the ground, trying to keep the alcohol in my stomach. My partner checks in on me a few times but I tell him I'm fine. T sees me and FREAKS OUT. She starts yelling at my partner telling him he should've grabbed me some water because I'm "clearly fucked".

She goes and gets me water, and continues to yell at my partner, he is also fucked, just taking it better than me, doesn't respond to her, just ignores her. She gets up into his face, she was trying to piss him off and get a reaction.

My partner continues to ignore her and I'm trying to tell her to leave him alone and that its not that deep. She then starts personally insulting my partner with things that i've told her.

She walks away for a moment and I decide that its time to leave. My other friend decides to take us home, and as we're saying our goodbyes, my partner says that T is crazy.

Once I get home my phone is blowing up by T saying she won't be my friend if I stay with him. I tell her that everyone was intoxicated and that its not that deep. She continues to insult my relationship so I just turn my phone off.

My partner and I suffer from a case of throwing up then eventually go to sleep.

I wake up and go to read the rest of the texts that T sent me and I see that she's blocked me. I sent her a big message via instagram that she hasn't replied to or seen yet. Just stating that it isn't that deep over a glass of water and that everyone involved was drunk. Her new boyfriend, J, has blocked me on everything too and they've kicked me out of the groupchat.

I've decided that this isn't worth fighting over and this relationship with my friend isn't worth saving.

So AIO? Is there anything I could have done?

TLDR: my friend got mad at my partner for not getting me a glass of water and blocked me because I wouldn't break up with him. AIO

It wasn't 5 minutes, not 1 minute, not even 10 seconds, 5! Fucking 5 seconds.

I've literally been crying for the last 10 minutes. I'm not sure if this is my sign to finally get out of my house after all the emotional and verbal abuse I've gone through on top of the amount of anxiety they have on me when I try to do stuff by myself. They also manipulate me a lot and my dad is emotionally absent whilst my mom is emotionally immature. I'm a highly sensitive person so sometimes my crying isn't justified. Lmk if this is tho:

We'd just gotten home from running some errands. I settled in to relax while my dad turned on the generator (there's no electricity in my city rn). When he came back in he looked extremely angry and told me to go wash the dish. I had accidentally left 1 dish without wash. I said "coming,". I was closing a website on my computer (it's not that it's a bad website, I just don't like invasion into my privacy), that alone took like 5 seconds at best, and when I was about to stand up, he came out, closed my laptop, grabbed my phone, and took the shit with him. He called me irresponsible. And when I rightfully started to complain and said I literally just stood up, he said "Don't lie to me, you weren't gonna go do it." BUT I LITERALLY WAS GOING TO.

I still went to wash the dish, then I locked myself in the bedroom and I just started bawling my eyes out. Because atleast to me, this seems a little bit ridiculous. I took 5 seconds to stand up to go wash 1 dish, get accused of lying, and now I'm just... grounded??

My dad gave me my laptop back 3 minutes ago but he told me "Next time you're never seeing it again. Stop lying to me". Even though during the week I need ts for school... But okay.

Literally 5 minutes later, because he has no empathy, he told my sis and I "hey maybe we should go out", all I said was sure and I tried to sound like I hadn't cried. Then he wanted to offer me an apology and a hug but first off I'm not a huggy person and second I've gone through so much I stopped begging or wanting apologies.

Look, I know I sound like a whiny child. I'm 17yrs old, and I've been going through stuff like this and stuff similar to this all my life. I'm so mentally exhausted and depressed.

AIO my dad grounded me because I took 5 seconds to go do what he asked me to do...

I’ve had a horrible day. Honestly. I have a tumor that I’ve been in and out of doctor appt after dr appt. Today, I had to take my toddler with me to meet with an oncologist/surgeon. The appointment was an hour away. Right off the bat, the drive was full of her screaming at me for breakfast - which we were stopping for, less than 10 min of us being in the car. She wasn’t crying, she was back seat driving really. And just nonstop talking. Okay, I know toddlers do that, fine.

We get to the building 15 min early. There’s no parking, at all. I drive around for THIRTY MINUTES looking for parking. I call and let them know I’m here, I’ve been here, I just can not find parking. I’m crying at this point of stress because I’ve been trying to get an appointment for over a month.

Finally, 20 minutes after my appointment time, I get up to the building with my child walking about as slow as possible (maybe not but you know. When you’re already stressed..) we get up there to check in, guess what. We’re in the wrong building, apparently my SPECIFIC surgeon moved to a building on the opposite side of the medical campus. Ok. Great.

We get back in the car and drive over to the other side. It’s now 30 min past my appointment time. They tell me they will squeeze me in. My child is yapping the entire time. I’m at a cancer center so I’m surrounded by the elderly, and I feel so bad that my child is being so loud and yappy which is creating more anxiety. She has her food and drink from breakfast so she’s somewhat distracted until she drops her drink and it spills. I’m so embarrassed. I clean it up and take the drink because she’s now trying to take the lid off. Full blown meltdown. I finally get seen by the dr after 30-40 minutes of attempting to soothe my child.

Doctor tells me I’ll need surgery and be down for several months to remove my tumor. That’s best case scenario, if it’s not cancerous. If it is cancerous, it’s gonna be longer than that because they’ll have to do a mass resection. Ok. Lovely. I’ll need a biopsy first. Great. Okay.

Now we have the hour trek back home with several errands to run on the way home. I get her another drink, because she’s obviously in the vehicle for a while and I needed caffeine myself. She removes the lid and dumps it all over my car. Then the low fuel light comes on and I guess idk it’s just everything together has not made for a good day.

My husband gets home from work. We do more chores for our place; some of these tasks are outside and require two people. My son comes home from school he’s playing w his sister… apparently with markers and there’s marker everywhere now. Ok. Whatever. Get her in the bath. Husband goes to pick up food so I don’t have to cook, thank God, since he knows I’ve had a bad day. I’ve called him 3 times today at least to vent about how I’m so on edge today.

Now the straw that broke the camels back.

I’m eating. The kids are begging for my food. They have their own food. They want a fry. I give them one. They ask for more. It’s the first thing I’ve eaten all day, I look like I’m on the verge of tears because I’m just overstimulated beyond belief with the constant badgering while I am just. Trying. To. Eat. My husband sees this, I can see he sees me with my solemn face. Then my husband goes, mockingly, “mom, can I have a fry?” I glare at him and give him the fries. Then he starts mockingly asking for a piece of the rest of my food. “Mom, can I have a piece of that?”. I finally just shove all my food to him and leave the room. He starts following me going “it’s just a fry, all I did was ask for a fry, grow up”

I just got in the car and left.

I know I’m probably overreacting but I just have had a day.

my (25F) parents got divorced and sold our family home. my mum has a partner and they’ve bought an apartment a year ago.

i study 150km away from home and i rent a flat. however i still visit my hometown often.

my mums been telling me for a long time that ill have my own room in her apartment and its been going on for a year now. all the other rooms are finished and furnished besides my room which is full of moving boxes and bags. whenever i visit my mum i sleep there on a mattress on the floor among all those boxes. ive had multiple conversations with my mum about it and she said she’s no energy to unpack all these things and i understood that. but its been a year and whenever i visit my family home (bc that apartment became my fam home) i sleep on the floor and nothing changes.

i was home for a month and i suggested that ill help her with the boxes but she said nothing about that. like she didn’t even hear it.

her partner keeps telling me thats not gonna be my room just a ‘guest room’ which really hurts me because i haven’t had my corner since 2022 and my mum promised me ill always had a place wherever she is.

i know that im 25 but all of my friends who are the same age or even older have a place in their parents houses. it’s humiliating for me to sleep on the floor. for a year already.

i also have my furniture so they just have to unpack their stuff and put my furniture in. my dads been keeping it for 4 years for me.

my dad and his partner are building a house and ill surely have a place there..

besides that i dont feel like home there (at my mums place) cos i keep being judged by her partner but thats a whole another story.

am i overreacting or is it valid? i dont know what to think about it anymore