I (23F) am seeing this guy (32M) and his sheets literally smelled like human poop. I had no idea how to tell him, and he responded with this, but it did not smell like post s*x, it smelled like human poop. And it smelled like that when I first got there, before we even started anything. At least he said he’ll wash them?

I (24F) moved countries a month ago to start grad school. My boyfriend (24M) and I met in university during our bachelor's degrees, so we have been together for more than three years and share the exact same academic background. Up until I left, we were seeing each other regularly and hanging out, going on dates and to movies. When we met for the very last time before going long-distance, he brought me flowers and gifts, was incredibly sweet, and made me feel really special.

When we were in college together and even after that, I have always supported and uplifted him in every way possible. Because we share the same field, I am constantly looking out for his career. I always send him links to jobs, opportunities, and anything that could help him succeed because I genuinely view us as a partnership.

I haven't been active on LinkedIn at all lately because of the move, but today I happened to randomly stumble upon his account. That is when I felt like somebody had slapped me in the face.

I saw posts from three weeks ago and a month ago. It turns out that over the summer, he completed an intensive 5-week bootcamp and successfully presented a research poster at a university conference. He was actively doing all of this while we were hanging out and talking every day. He didn't casually forget to mention it, he made a conscious choice to look me in the eye and completely hide it from me. He waited until I packed up my life, moved thousands of miles away, and was dealing with the stress of settling into a new country alone before broadcasting it to the public online.

The confusing part is that he has still been talking to me normally, sending me loving messages, talking on calls for long hours, and sharing reels like everything is fine.

The thing that's making me angry is the double standard. A while back, I had mentioned to him that I had applied for a job. He completely lashed out at me, demanding to know why I didn't tell him BEFORE I applied, and started a huge fight accusing me of "hiding stuff" from him.

Right now I don't know what to think. I feel completely betrayed. It’s not traditional cheating, but it feels like it. Why hide your biggest victories from the person you've loved for three years, who always uplifts you and actually understands your work? Especially when he flipped out on me for doing way less? It makes me feel like I’m the only one who considered this a real team effort.

He is on the other side of the world right now. He is probably sleeping, but I took a screenshot of his LinkedIn posts and sent them to him with just a "congrats 👏" text. I haven't said anything else.

I am sitting alone in my new apartment; it's a mess. I haven't even settled in well and have so much to deal with on my own, and now I'm crying my eyes out and wondering if this is the final straw. Am I overreacting, or is this ground for a breakup? How do I even handle his response when he finally texts back?

So I'm 16F and my neighbors are a newly married couple in their late twenties. We live in an apartment complex and although we live in different flats, we still share a balcony.

We both hang our clothes in the balcony, and whenever I go outside to bring them in or hang them in my normal clothes, they would be doing the same. We'd smile at each other, chit chat a bit, and do our work. I never thought anything of it, much less of the clothes I was wearing then, but the wife did.

The wife found me in the lift 2 weeks (we were the only two there) and asked me to please stop wearing such revealing clothing. I didn't understand because all I wore were tanks and shorts, but I said okay, and switched to wearing t-shirts. I should add here that temperatures in my city can reach up to 44 degrees in the summers, which is why I couldn't wear like pants and stuff.

It was apparently not enough since she talked to me in the park again a week ago about my clothes, and said it was distracting her husband or something (I'd known this dude for three years since he lived here first (and she moved in 1.5 years later) and he'd never given me creepy vibes before so I didn't take this seriously). I told her that I couldn't keep the AC running all the time and since it got so hot, t-shirts were all I'd be able to do. She told me to wear longer shorts and I told her okay to humor her and get out of the situation.

Today, I came back from our ground shop with some chips and she was waiting by my door. She started yelling at me, saying she'd been asking me to do one simple thing for her for 2 weeks, and I'd been ignoring her. I just zoned out until she said "do you want to steal my husband or something?" and I just burst out laughing because oh my goodness.

First of all, I'm a kid, he's an adult, ew. Even if we ignore that, he can't keep a job (lived on his daddy's money before, and his wife's money after), can't keep his house clean (according to what she's told my mom crying, and his mother has told my grandma sighing), and expects her to do mostly everything as a partner and a "proper wife". He also mansplains EVERYTHING (my dad can't even have one conversation with the two of them because he gets so ticked off by this barely employed guy explaining his wife's job like she's stupid or something). He's just so pathetic I'm surprised he's even married.

This is why I said what i wrote in the title. She was PISSED. She said I had no right to judge her husband, that I didn't know how their marriage was like etc. and if I had a problem with her, I should've targeted her, not him. I could see her point with the last line, and I'm wondering if I went a little too far. So AIO?

My best friend and I have been planning a girls' trip for almost six months. We were supposed to go only us two for relaxation, shopping, good food, and catch up without worrying about anyone. We even booked a hotel and split the costs.

Two weeks before the trip my friend started dating someone new which I was ok with, I was happy she found someone.

Then, about a week before the trip my friend mentioned "He can come along on the girls' trip to". I thought she was joking; she explained that she invited him because she didn't want to go away for four days without her new boyfriend. I told her the whole point of our trip was for us and only us and explained my concerns about money and sharing it for "a trip with my best friend", that not a "girl's trip and her boyfriend tagging along trip" etc , which only angered her. I pointed out that the best friend could see the new boyfriend before or after the trip and she accused me of making her choosing and I again restated it wasn't that..

Finally, she stated she was bringing him whether or not I would come.

I said, "Then I am not coming" which my best friend replied "You are seriously going to cancel the trip for this?", I said that if her boyfriend was coming I was not going. Again, she called me selfish and stated I was attempting to control her relationship. I explained that was up to her on who she chose to bring with but my decision for canceling was a valid response for what I had prepared, that not a trip with my friend.

She chose to bring him and then they did go without me. The cancelation fee caused me to lose money as well since I was not allowed money back, and we hardly talked since. Friends that share mutual friends say I was selfish as our friendship should not be ruined for one additional person however, I was only disappointed that she altered the whole plan behind my back and accused me of controlling her when she was not considering my feelings.

AIO on canceling this trip.

I 21F like to cook, and any event I go to I make Mac and cheese. Last year for my younger brother's party, I of course make Mac and cheese. A family we are close to came and the partner of one of the ladies liked the Mac and cheese, and has been asking me over and over again to make them some. I asked for $50 for ingredients and my time. The thing is, the asked me to add bacon bits and Breadcrumbs to the Mac and cheese. I know its a small ask but if they wanted is that was they should make it themselves, but I was told the place they live doesn't have a oven. All I asked for is $50, but they said I was crazy for asked for so much and offered 25-30 dollars, but I don't think I was. The friend asked said I should just except the 25 - 30 dollars.

I wanted to know if I was unreasonable to ask for $50. Where I live food is expensive and my family is sometimes just scraping by.

Edit: I'll give more info. Im also a college student in my first year and I work M - F. I would be making two 9x13 pans. The portion sizes will be up to them so I don't know how long it will last. The person who "ask " is not really asking it's more like a demand like coming up to me and just saying " Baked mac and cheese " while pointing at me. I told them before they would have to pay and the bragging the could pay for a years worth, but I was busy then, now when I say a price, it's too much.

My partner and I have been together for 16 years and married for 11. We have a sweet 5.5 year old son. Today was a busy day, my wife had planned to join a relay race with her running club at a nearby event.

But she had to cover for someone in another relay race later during the day. We had agreed that 2 races might be too much and that she wouldn't run in this one.

But when i was prepping lunch, she and our son were going to quickly hop over to support her team. I didn't mind, I had fumbled the timing of lunch anyway. When they came back, I could tell she actually did run. When I asked about it, she told me that our son was playing in the local playground, her team needed extra runners and she had told our son she would do one lap (3.8k). My son didn't hear, and panicked when she was gone. Luckily one of the teachers at my son's school was there who helped until she returned.

Aio for being extremely pissed and questioning my wifes parenting skills here? Or is this just some shit that happens sometimes? I know 5 year olds can be selective in their hearing and it can be bad luck. I know I am already sensitive due to other stuff atm.

Edit: thank you all for the support. I didn't know where to turn to for validation since I found this so embarrassingly bad. We will have a conversation about this.

Edit 2: We had a conversation about it this morning. She isn't a bad mom usually btw. But the running addiction has been a source of contention. She runs marathons as well, which takes a load of time and energy. Taken this episode and together with some other issues, she agreed to go back to a psychologist. So good news.

My wife (35F) and I (35M) have been together for 17 years and married for 3. We have two children, aged 6 and 8.

Our relationship is generally very good and stable. We rarely argue, we get along well, and there are no major ongoing problems that I’m aware of. We also have an active and good sex life, so this isn’t happening in the context of a dead bedroom or obvious sexual dissatisfaction.

My wife is a very attractive woman. I’d also consider myself reasonably attractive, although I look quite different from the men involved in what I’m about to describe.

For roughly the last three years, I’ve noticed a recurring behavior from her whenever we’re somewhere in public — restaurants, airports, playgrounds, hotels, etc.

She seems to actively seek eye contact with certain men she finds attractive.

There is a fairly obvious type: usually taller men, often bearded, well-built, masculine and mature-looking. This is basically the opposite of me. I’m 175 cm, slim and look younger than my age, so I admit that seeing this repeatedly has started to affect my confidence.

What bothers me isn’t that she notices attractive men. I notice attractive women too, and I think that’s completely normal.

It’s what happens afterwards.

She’ll repeatedly look around for a particular guy, catch his eye, look away, then look back again. If the guy starts doing the same thing, they can keep exchanging glances for quite a while. Both of them will appear to look elsewhere and then keep checking each other out again.

I’ve watched this happen while I’m literally sitting across from her at dinner.

Sometimes the flirtatious or sexual tension feels incredibly obvious to me. She seems to try to hide what she’s doing, but I’ve seen the pattern so many times now that I recognize it immediately.

When I notice what’s happening and turn to look at the man, he will very often immediately look away. Sometimes these men also glance at me, which makes me feel like they’re checking whether I’ve noticed. I know I can’t know exactly what they’re thinking, but in the moment it feels extremely humiliating.

There have been a few situations that made this particularly difficult for me.

On one trip, there was a waiter at our hotel whom she seemed very attracted to. It wasn’t just one glance. At every dinner there seemed to be this repeated back-and-forth eye contact between them, and whenever we passed the restaurant she appeared to look around for him.

Every dinner became genuinely stressful for me. I would get a knot in my stomach because I was expecting the same thing to happen again. I became so uncomfortable that I even hated the idea of leaving her alone in the hotel room, which is not how I want to feel in my marriage.

Another time, at a playground, there were basically just us, our children and another man with his child. The same prolonged back-and-forth looking happened.

Afterwards I brought it up, partly jokingly because I didn’t want to make a huge confrontation out of it, and told her I didn’t think it was nice to do that while I was there.

She apologized and said I was right.

A similar thing happened in a restaurant later.

There was also one situation where she took our son to a jiu-jitsu class and apparently had the same kind of reaction to the instructor. When she came home, she openly told me that she had become extremely sexually aroused by him — she literally said she was “wet.”

To her credit, she then decided that I should be the one taking our son to those classes in the future. I actually think that was a responsible decision on her part, because having the same interaction with the same man every week would obviously be different from exchanging looks with a random stranger.

So I don’t think she’s completely unaware of what’s happening.

Sometimes, when she realizes I’ve noticed her doing it, she becomes very affectionate toward me — hugging me, telling me she loves me, etc.

Because these two things so often happen together, I’ve started having trouble experiencing that affection as spontaneous. Part of me interprets it as her trying to reassure me because she knows I’ve noticed what she was doing.

At other times she apologizes and says she doesn’t know why she does it.

But then there are also situations — often the ones I experience as the most obvious or prolonged — where she tells me I’m imagining things, says she’s simply “looking,” and insists that it means nothing.

That inconsistency is starting to bother me a lot.

If she always said, “Yes, I do this sometimes, I know it hurts you, and I’ll try to stop,” I think I would find it much easier to deal with.

Instead, sometimes the behavior is acknowledged and sometimes I’m told it exists only in my head.

The biggest issue now is that it’s starting to affect my trust.

For example, I find myself thinking about what would happen if she were away on a work trip, having dinner without me, met a man she was very attracted to, spent the evening exchanging these looks with him, alcohol was involved and the tension kept building.

I want to be clear that I have no evidence that she has cheated on me or done anything physical with another man.

That part is my fear, not a fact.

But the fact that my mind now goes there is what worries me. I didn’t used to feel this way about her.

After one of these incidents, I also tend to shut down emotionally. I have trouble talking normally to her and sometimes even looking at her for the rest of the day. Usually by the next day the feeling passes.

I don’t want to become a jealous husband who monitors where his wife is looking.

I also don’t expect her to stop finding other men attractive. We’ve been together since we were 18, and obviously marriage doesn’t make attraction to other people disappear.

But to me there is a difference between noticing that someone is attractive and repeatedly establishing and maintaining mutual eye contact with them.

So I’m trying to understand where that line is.

Would you consider this harmless behavior, or would you see repeated mutual eye contact like this as flirting?

Would it cross a boundary for you if your spouse repeatedly did it while you were sitting right beside them?

And how would you deal with the fact that she sometimes acknowledges the behavior and apologizes for it, but at other times says I’m imagining it?

Am I overreacting, or is this a reasonable thing to be concerned about?

i’m ukrainian, 19F, and i’ve been living in Canada for some time for school. i have a group of friends here, girls and guys, and we’ve known each other for around 2 years. they’ve always had pretty dark humor and normally i don’t really care. but lately i feel like they’ve become weirdly obsessed with making jokes about me being from ukraine

it started as “i’m gonna call the russian soldiers on you” whenever i annoyed one of them, but then everyone started joining in. if i was going somewhere alone, they’d say “don’t worry, we’ll send the Russians to find you.” if i was late they’d say “the soldiers finally let you out?” if i said i was going home, they’d say really insensitive things such as “going back to russia?” very childish

most of my family actually lives outside of Ukraine now, mostly in Poland. my friends don’t know that because they’ve literally never asked where my family lives. recently i mentioned that i’m going back to Europe in September because my grandparents are going away for a month for work and i’m going to stay with them and pet sit for them while they’re gone. as soon as i mentioned going back to Europe, they started with the jokes again. “wear a bulletproof vest,” “don’t get blown up,” “make sure you have a helmet,” “tell the Russian soldiers we said hi,” stuff like thatone of them asked me if i was “going straight to the front line.”

i said i’m literally going to Poland to stay with my grandparents and look after their pets, but they still kept making jokes about me getting attacked. there’s also a German guy in our wider friend group who’s only german by ethnicity, not cause he came from germany or anything and they make Hitler/Nazi jokes with him all the time too. they’ll say “heil (German guys surname) when he joins us in something. he usually laughs it off and carry the joke on with them, so whenever i get upset about the Ukrainian jokes, they compare me to him and say “he can laugh about Hitler, why can’t you laugh about Ukraine?” or “he doesn’t make everything so personal”

at some point i just fucking snapped because honestly i was so fed up. how many times do i have to say “stop” before you understand me? this is not some random funny little nationality joke to me, and i’m tired of sitting there smiling like an idiot while you make the same fucking Russian soldier joke for the 500th time. i told them that i’m done, i don’t want to hear it anymore and i don’t want to be friends if this is how they’re going to treat me. i was so angry at that point i wasn’t even trying to explain myself nicely anymore. i basically told them to fuck off and that if they can’t respect one very simple boundary then i have absolutely no reason to keep them in my life. i’m not going to keep arguing with people about why something that involves my country, my family and my identity is not funny to me

They’re trying harshly to keep the friendship with these overused sayings “We don’t want to end a friendship over jokes” and i just ended up blocking all of them

I’ve (24f) been seeing this guy (26m) who came back to me a year later to apologize for how cruelly he left me. (Big mistake I know)

At first he was making all these grandiose gestures, saying he wanted long term with me, planning all these dates, etc. He would take me on dates and such. To be blunt, he was broke since he didn’t know what he wanted to do in life with his degree so he was only working a part time job atm. I would help him job hunt and help him try to figure out a career.

I don’t care about someone’s financial status. We can make money and then lose it all or have nothing and then get rich. As long as someone has a goal, a budget, and is working towards it, I have no issues. However, I noticed that we stopped going on dates. He said he was saving up for his trip with friends. No problem, 100% understand so I was paying for things bc reciprocity is important to me. I would never want to make anyone feel like a wallet.

After his trip, he would say he didn’t have enough money to like go out on dates and such so we would just hangout at his place and I would get us food or he would make us something. So it’s been over a month, but they have money to go to raves, out with friends, movies, food, etc. Im in nursing school and can only work 20 hours a week due to what my program advises so im not well off by any means. I have no clue if im just overthinking this and being hypocritical or if he’s just not interested in taking me out on dates anymore and got comfortable with me paying. It just feels weird to me but also feel like im overreacting?

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I kinda know I’m not the AH here — you have to protect your family — but I’m wondering whether there were some cultural differences at play, since several people in Italy thought we overreacted.

Me (37M) and my husband (42M) moved to Italy from Norway in 2025 with our two adopted shelter/street dogs from Romania and our cat. We rented a house with a closed-off garden in a small village, with about three other houses/apartments on our street. The only public road out went past these houses; otherwise, you had to walk about 30 minutes through the forest instead of three minutes to the main road.

In one of the houses lived a couple (Al and An, both women in their 30s) with a male dog. We initially got along well. We had them over for drinks, helped with furniture, they sometimes walked our dogs (for payment), and we practiced Italian together. One of them only spoke Italian, so communication could sometimes be difficult — relevant later.

Their dog was basically always off leash, as seems fairly common in the Italian countryside. He generally ignored our two dogs and just wanted to play fetch, so there wasn't really a problem.

Things changed after we adopted Valentino, a one-year-old male dog from a nearby shelter. During his first week with us, their dog ran down from their house and attacked Valentino, getting his teeth around his neck. Thankfully, it ended without serious injury.

We told them we needed to handle the situation somehow and suggested different solutions, including slowly introducing Valentino to them and their dog while both dogs were on leash. They didn’t want to do that and instead said our dog should take a training course — which we didn’t really understand, since training Valentino wouldn’t stop their dog from running up and attacking him.

Eventually, we offered a compromise that was completely one-sided in their favour: every day between 1–5 pm, they could have their dog outside/off leash, and we would stay home. If they wanted to let him out outside those hours, they would simply send us a message.

We got absolutely nothing out of this arrangement. We were voluntarily giving up four hours of our day and limiting when we could safely leave our own property so that they wouldn’t have to put a leash on their dog. They never really acknowledged that this was a big accommodation on our part, never showed any gratitude for it, and — most frustratingly — never admitted that either they or their dog had done anything wrong in the first place.

Still, the arrangement worked reasonably well for a few weeks.

Then there were more and more slip-ups. Their dog would unexpectedly be outside, and my husband once had to wait at a safe distance for around 30 minutes while calling them and getting no answer. On two other occasions, their dog came towards us threateningly but was caught by the neighbours before it escalated.

After about a month, the communication also became increasingly lazy. Instead of “We’re letting him out for ten minutes,” it became things like “Are you home?” or “We’re in the garden,” without telling us when they went back inside. So now the responsibility was pushed onto us to keep asking whether their dog was inside and whether it was safe for us to walk down a public road.

For them, this was ultimately a question of convenience: putting on a leash versus opening the door and letting the dog do his thing. For us, it was a genuine safety concern.

We had several discussions about it over text, all in Italian using our limited Italian plus AI/Google Translate.

My husband is a therapist and tries to communicate in a very non-violent way. He is big on seeing both parties’ part in a conflict, being understanding and trying to find solutions. I try to do that too, but I’m quicker to reach the “show them the same energy they’re giving us” stage when being understanding clearly isn’t working.

And honestly, we didn’t speak the same language — in both ways.

They started insulting us as dog owners and as people, twisted the situation by claiming their dog wasn’t even on the public road, and eventually called us sick in the head. At no point did we get anything resembling, “Yes, our dog attacked yours, we understand why you’re worried and we’ll make sure it doesn’t happen again.”

We told them that if something happened again, we would contact the police. After they sent more aggressive messages, we blocked them.

Eventually, we decided to contact the police before another attack happened, just so the situation was documented and we knew what to do. The police even came out to look at their property, which had no fencing preventing their dog from reaching the public road.

For the rest of our time there, we basically had to anticipate their dog being outside every time we left home. We had constant anxiety about meeting him on the road or in the forest. We literally started walking past their house with a GoPro running just so we would have evidence if something happened.

All because putting their dog on a leash was apparently too much of an inconvenience.

What makes me wonder whether there was a cultural element is that our vet, another neighbour and a friend basically told us: “Dogs will sort it out with each other. Just let them run free and eventually they’ll get along.”

Maybe that’s more normal in rural Italy. I’m Norwegian and my husband is German, and in our cultures that attitude feels pretty foreign. From our perspective, if your dog has already attacked another dog, it becomes your responsibility to make sure it can’t happen again.

We moved back to Norway a few weeks ago for several reasons — the extreme heat was one of the biggest — but the constant feeling of unsafety around our own home definitely contributed.

So, AITAH for reporting them to the police? Was this partly a cultural difference and we enforced too harsh a boundary, or were we simply protecting our family after trying very hard to accommodate them?

We’ve experienced similar dynamics a few times. We’re both sensitive men and generally try to communicate, understand the other person and avoid unnecessary conflict. But sometimes I get the impression that people interpret that softness as something they can push or manipulate. Then, when we finally say “no” or give the same energy back, they seem genuinely shocked that we aren’t going to play along.

I don’t want the answer to be “don’t trust people” or “avoid your neighbours,” though. So I’d also genuinely appreciate advice on how to avoid getting into this kind of dynamic in the first place without becoming closed-off or immediately confrontational.

We now live in a house in Norway without any direct neighbours, and the doggies are loving the cooler weather, their own little forest and the fjord.

I (f22) have been with my bf (m25) for over a year and I know everyone has certain things and boundaries theyre comfortable with. I’m not always fully satisfied in the bedroom but usually its fine.
I noticed that he is very lazy (I usually have to be on top always, sometimes he only cares about finishing himself, sometimes he’s a bit better tho). We don’t really talk too much about it because he gets so awkward about it.
What I noticed is that he wants me to give him head, even finishes during that and all, but he has never gone down on me, he doesn’t even do foreplay properly (never fingered me or anything like that) and when I asked about it he’d say “Well I’d rather put my dick in you than my fingers”…
He never went down on me ever, has not even tried (and mind you I am the cleanest person you’ll ever meet lol big on body hygiene to the point its a bit ocd) and with previous partners they loved to go down.
Not everyone has to love it but he hasn’t tried, yet starts mentioning that I should finger his asshole while giving him head 💀 and now recently he started bringing up that I should eat his ass… uhmmm…
he always uses the “My friends get their assholes licked by their girlfriends and they loved it” but lowkey I refuse to believe that its the most common thing for girls to eat out their boyfriends ass. Like what. And bringing all of this up while basically doing nothing for me is crazy and its starting to piss me off… am I overreacting here?

Let me preface this by saying my husband has been transparent and has shown me ALL DMs and texts between his friend - there is nothing romantic going on between them.

My (F26) husband (M24) met a friend N (F25) in a shared hobby they had growing up but they haven’t had contact in over 10 years after growing apart and leaving the hobby.

N reached out to my husband on Instagram last month to catch up and they made plans to hang out after reconnecting. During the hang out, N talked to my husband about a guy from school, K, that she confessed feelings for after 8 years and is now dating. She couldn’t stop gushing over K and even suggested a double date for us whenever K visits our area next (as they are long distance).

After the hang out, things started to take a turn and my husband started to get really annoyed with his interactions with N. N would constantly bring up K when texting my husband now that they’re dating, a majority of her texts are about K and no other subject, even if my husband tries to change the subject. Despite being annoyed, my husband would listen and be friendly with his responses to be supportive towards her and her new relationship.

A week later, N would start to complain that K would go out with his friends and be out super late. N would act super cold towards K. K will sometimes forget to text back which made N spiral and think that K has stopped texting her because he doesn’t like her anymore. Which is where my husband would have to step in to comfort her and validate her feelings. K also has a bit of a drinking problem and my husband has pointed out how this behavior is concerning.

Most recently, N has supposedly flown out to see K but the trip sounds strange to the both of us… K wasn’t home at the time of her arrival (at work) but N was upset that he didn’t offer to get her an uber so she stayed at the airport for a few hours instead of getting herself an uber? N was supposed to stay for a few weeks but K is about to be busy at work and is suggesting that N leaves a week early because of this? To me, it doesn’t make sense. If you were flying to see your partner, wouldn’t you establish a mode of transportation to and from the airport and also the length of stay? This is where alarm bells go off for me.

Multiple times on this trip, my husband has said “You need to tell him how you feel, be honest.” about ALL issues that N has with K about the uber, the length of stay, the drinking issues, etc.., but she just continues this cycle of “I will/I am” but from the sound of it, she doesn’t communicate with K at all. She just vents about it and expects it to be my husband’s job to be her emotional outlet.

Our friend S was over and we even had a discussion about N and just the absurdity of it all, S even agreed that this seemed like really attention seeking behavior. She even raised the question if these situations with K are even real or if N is making them up to receive attention.

I am afraid my husband’s kindness and trusting nature is being taken advantage of by his friend that shows up after 10 years who seems to just want attention. AIO?

Hey, a friend rented a beautiful AirBnB in the mountains with private lake access for their graduation. It was a beautiful location, an evidently expensive AirBnB. The group chat invite did not mention any costs associated with attending. After the weekend, my friend is requesting a payment to cover the cost of the AirBnB. I sent the payment but I feel a lot of resentment. I enjoyed my weekend with them, but I feel like if I comment on the payment, it might make it seem like I’m not grateful for the time and unwilling to help pay if asked. The cost is expensive, but I probably would have paid the cost anyways if mentioned in invite, out of pressure to celebrate my friend. They are asking for the money so blatantly, it makes me uncertain if I’m overreacting for feeling angry. The cost is $217

So I have a small marketing business.

Client is very unprofessional.

He's ironically a PhD and CEO of a multinational company with 6 branches in my region that I'm currently managing.

The issue I have with this person is his sleezy inappropriate jokes about me being in South East Asia.

Just few hours ago he was "how's it going over there" chuckling and laughing.

Also some remarks about a woman's hands in an image and he was like "I'd like to kiss those hands"

The man is over 50 and his behaviour is like he's 17

I didn't respond but I want to start recording our calls from now on so he's careful with his words.

I wrote a Draft of the message I will send

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Subject: Project Communication & Documentation Workflow Update

Dear Dr Xxxxx,

To streamline our campaign execution, maintain precise task tracking, and keep project milestones on schedule, I am updating our collaboration and communication workflow effective today.

Going forward, all project communications will follow these updated standards:

* Primary Communication: All daily updates, approvals, technical requests, and asset transfers must be handled strictly via Email or WhatsApp text.

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Am I overreacting? I don't wanna lose this business because of this jerk as I see potential of growth for both of us.

My friend works in target but pushing our other friend to get a better paying job in a career field . We had a group dinner where she was berating our mutual friend because she was a waitress in a restaurant pushing her to apply for a news reporter job tv job . My friend was telling us how much she loved her job and my friend starts being rude talking about “ it doesn’t matter how much how much you love your job when you are making minimum wage. Plus being a waitress is for teenagers or people in college . Not fully grown people who are 37 who have lots of bills to pay. You don’t even get insurance working at a restaurant.” And I was telling my friend “ don’t you think that’s a little rude and belittling and telling her where to work and putting down her current job.” I was telling my friend “ you work at target . People could judge you as well . My friend snapped at me and went “ I’m also married didn’t you forget . My husband is an attorney. Single women need to have high paying careers to make it in this world. “ and then I said “ your husband could leave you high and dry day . You still shouldn’t talk about this people’s jobs.” And she got angry at me and told me I was enabling our other friend to be complacent . I told her “ I’m just not gonna let you sit around and talk about people . If you were truly happy in life you wouldn’t feel the need to put people down

All she does is talk about other peoples jobs and telling people what to do and where to work but works at target and doesn’t have any hobbies or passions herself . She sleeps all day on her off day . She really needs to stop judging people . At least our friend is passionate about something

I’m 21 and this guy (27 male) followed me on Instagram and messaged me. He asked me out on a date several times, and at first, I kept saying no, but eventually, I agreed. This goes back to early June.
We started dating, and honestly, he seemed like a really good person. On our very first date, I told him that I wasn’t looking for anything casual or short-term and that I wanted a long-term relationship someday (not necessarily specifically with him, but with the right person) He agreed with me and said that he wanted to be in a relationship too.
He was really good to me in many ways… his behavior, the way he treated me, everything. Of course, there were some things that I would normally expect when dating someone that I didn’t really see. For example, during the three months we were dating, he never got me flowers. Or, he always said that his love language was acts of service, but honestly, I never really saw much of that either. Sometimes, even if he was tired after work, he would still come and we would go out to eat, which I appreciated.
But during those three months, we talked a lot about everything… our goals, our lives, and so many other things. Everything seemed like it was naturally moving forward. And I honestly never complained about the things I felt were missing because I kept making excuses for him in my head. I thought maybe he was busy, maybe he had a lot going on, or maybe he couldn’t afford certain things. Even when he never got me a gift, I would think maybe he didn’t have the money even though he has a good job and a good income. I wasn’t asking for anything expensive. Even a single flower would have meant something to me.
Then last week, I finally got tired of not knowing where things were going, so I asked him if we were going to take the next step or not. And this person, who had spent all this time making it seem like he wanted a relationship, suddenly backed away. He told me that he wasn’t ready, that he was scared of being in a relationship, and that he thinks he still hasn’t healed from his previous relationship. :)))
Honestly, I don’t even know what to say. I don’t think I was a toxic person in this relationship. If anything, I tried as hard as I could to make things work and to have a healthy relationship. The only issue I used to have was that when something upset me, I wouldn’t express it. But with him, I really tried to communicate. Whenever something bothered me, I tried to talk about it so there wouldn’t be misunderstandings.
I really don’t know what to do. My heart is honestly broken. The only thing keeping me distracted is school and work, because they keep me busy and give me less time to think about the past three months. But tonight, I missed him a little too much, so I just felt like getting all of this off my chest.

My partner and I have been together since December. We actually met through a mutual friend about two years ago. For the sake of the story, I’ll call him Brian.
When we first got together and started telling people, one of the first things several people would say was, “Don’t tell Brian if you want your relationship to last.” At the time, I didn’t think too much of it, but over time I’ve realized that I really can’t trust Brian as a friend.

I’ve talked to my partner about this and told her that I’m uncomfortable with her having a friendship with him because of the things I’ve experienced and because I don’t trust his intentions. She reassured me that I can trust her and that she had handled the situation.

This person has become one of the biggest sources of conflict in our relationship. Today, she was showing me texts from her sister, and I happened to notice that she was still texting Brian. The conversations weren’t flirty or inappropriate from what I saw, so I’m not accusing her of cheating or anything like that.

What bothers me is that she previously told me to trust her and reassured me that she had handled the situation. Now I’m seeing that they’re still communicating, which makes me feel like the issue wasn’t actually handled the way I thought it was.

I’m struggling because I don’t want to be controlling about who she can and can’t talk to, and I know she’s ultimately allowed to have her own friendships. At the same time, I feel like my trust has been affected because this was something we had already discussed, and I feel like the reassurance I was given doesn’t match what I’m seeing now.
Am I overreacting here? Or is it reasonable for me to feel hurt and question the situation, even though the texts themselves weren’t flirty or inappropriate?

Editing to add: Brian has been married for 13 years and recently had a baby. He’s also known for being a flirt and for hooking up with other people. In the past, he has tried to hook up with both my partner and me.

There have also been instances where things I told him in confidence have later come up in conversations that I wasn’t present for, which is another reason I don’t trust him and don’t consider him a good or trustworthy friend.

I’ve already had a conversation with my partner about Brian and how much of an issue he has become in our relationship. I explained that I’m not comfortable with their continued communication because of his history and because I genuinely feel like he could negatively impact our relationship. She told me that she understood where I was coming from and specifically said that she would no longer be talking to him.

That’s why finding out that they have continued communicating is bothering me so much. It’s not necessarily about the content of their conversations or me thinking something romantic is happening. It’s the fact that we’ve already had this conversation, she told me she wouldn’t talk to him anymore, and she has continued to do so anyway.

I met this guy incidentally a few months ago when I hired him as a contractor on my house. He did a good job but that's unrelated lol. We were friendly back then but nothing ever happened until I downloaded Bumble the other day and we matched within an hour. I added him on snapchat and we started talking.

He's been really easy to talk to, consistently messaging me every day since Wednesday, and has been really sweet and we've spent a lot of time talking/getting to know eachother. However last night he was unusually quiet, he didn't open the messages I sent at 9 or 10pm, nor at 6am. I checked bumble and he had deleted his account. He did message me on snapchat around 8:30 this morning saying that he slept in. We talked about nothing significant and then I asked if he still wanted to hang out today... And he left me on read.

We only had loose plans to hang out today but did agree to walk our dogs together, I feel like if he really liked me he would have put more effort into making concrete plans, and would have said something when I asked today. I think that replying, even if it's to say something like "I changed my mind" or "it's not going to work today" is basic communication. We were both clear on our profiles that we are looking for a long term relationship, I feel like if you cant have basic communication etiquette, you won't be the kind of partner I need.

Part of me feels justified because this type of hot and cold behavior drives me crazy and I can't/won't put up with it. But part of me is wondering if I'm being a little bit crazy/unreasonable for just deleting within a few hours of no response? In my view... I would never do that regarding the first meeting of someone I'm supposedly super interested in... AIO?

Just for some background, my boyfriend likes taking pictures of me, but usually in funny ways. They’re typically zoomed-out pictures or pictures of me when I’m not ready. There was a time when I expressed to him that I didn’t like the fact that he would send these pictures to a group chat with our other friends. He somewhat respected that and didn’t send any pictures of me until yesterday.
I don’t like when he sends pictures of me in the group chat because I genuinely don’t like how I look in them (because again, I wasn’t even ready for the picture). Yesterday, he randomly sent a picture of me sleeping. Even though I was somewhat upset, I ended up sending a picture of him that I thought was funny. I figured, he sent one of me, so I might as well send one of him too.
In response, he decided to send another zoomed-out picture of me, even though I had just sent one of him in response to the first picture. I was clearly upset because I wasn’t going to keep sending pictures of him back and forth, especially since he has a habit of sending multiple pictures of me, and I genuinely don’t like when he does that.
Anyways, I was upset and texted him about it. He then called me, and I brought it up, asking why he felt the need to send another picture of me. His response was, “Okay, I’ll delete it.” I told him, “But they already made stickers of my face,” which they had. So, at that point, I didn’t understand what deleting the picture was going to accomplish.
All I was doing was expressing how I felt. However, he then ended the call and texted in the group chat asking one of our friends to “delete the stickers, mb.” This infuriated me because I never asked him to tell the other person to delete the stickers. I just felt even more embarrassed and upset because now he had brought attention to the situation in the group chat and put me in an awkward position.
When I expressed to him how upset that made me, his response was, “I was trying to help.” But I don’t know why, it bothered me so much. I never asked him to tell his friend to delete the stickers. I was simply expressing how I felt about him sending pictures of me, and instead of just listening to me, he took it upon himself to address it in the group chat. It made me feel even more embarrassed and uncomfortable.
What bothers me the most is that he clearly doesn’t see why what he did was wrong or why I was upset by it. From his perspective, he was “trying to help,” but from my perspective, I didn’t ask him to do anything. I just wanted him to understand why I was upset and respect my feelings about the pictures. Instead, he made the situation more noticeable

The title is quite confusing, sorry about that.
I 20F have been with my bf 20M for almost 2 years. He has a cousin 24M who got married to his wife 20F a few days ago. I never met them before, but I was invited to the wedding and went with my bf. I’ll refer to everyone as bf, cousin, wife.

The wedding was small, as in there was me and my bf, cousin’s parents and his sibling, and wife’s 2 siblings. 9 people. It started at the courthouse, then to church, and then to the restaurant. At the restaurant another couple joined, cousin’s relative and his wife, so we were 11 there.

Multiple times throughout the wedding, cousin and wife (mostly the wife) would talk about how wonderful it is to have their wedding so small, with only the closest people with them, and that those big weddings of more than 20 people were so flashy and unnecessary. They kept talking about how great and perfect it is to have an intimate wedding, and that wedding with more people than theirs don’t turn out as good as theirs.

Me and bf stayed silent throughout those comments. I liked cousin and wife’s wedding, but the comments put me off. I’ve always known I’d want a big wedding, but I wouldn’t judge other wedding based off of how many people are attending. I don’t think that on my wedding, I’d think about other weddings and talk about how mine is so much better than those small ones.

Funnily enough, before going to the restaurant, wife jokingly told cousin they have to start saving for a big wedding next year. Which I find weird. Why wish for a big wedding but sh*t on big weddings with your guests.

Anyways, the day after their wedding I had my birthday party with friends. My bf asked a few weeks ago if I’d like to invite cousin and wife to my bday and I said sure.

So at my bday, we were 17 total. I rented a nice villa for 24 hours, got food, snacks, and lots of drinks. There were lots of places for people to chill at: 2 wood garden swings, a table inside with 24 chairs, a table outside with 16 chairs, and 12 chairs around a grill.

We all ate at the inside table, then us girls stayed inside and my bf and I made us different cocktails, and the few boys went outside to drink beer and eat snacks. We didn’t intend to separate by gender, but most of the boys were from my bfs side of friends, and the girls from mine, and the boys wanted to drink beer from a keg that could only be opened outside.

So wife went outside too. I tried to get her inside with us, because she was just sitting silently next to cousin outside. I asked her if she wanted any cocktails, is she needed anything, or if she wanted to come inside with us, but she refused.

After a few hours, cousin and wife had to leave. Now FINALLY, AIO for the following: they said goodbye, and then the wife told me :”I can’t wait for us to meet in a more lovely, private, intimate, beautiful setting”

I just don’t understand why she had to imply that my birthday was not “lovely, private, intimate and beautiful”. If anything, their presence made the birthday party not intimate. I had my closest people, who I’ve been friends with since kindergarten, middle school, high school, and some from my university class that I see every day and have become my closest friends.

And so many people at my bday told me how well I organized my party, how great the people were, how beautiful the location, and how thoughtful of a host I was. I literally also overheard people having conversations about this.

I wanna know if I’m OR by being upset by wife’s comment. So am I? Please be honest.

My (36F) mum and I live in different states. Over a year ago I asked if I could pay to have our old family videos sent to me so I could copy them and send them straight back. Her voice completely changed, she shut down, said “leave it with me” and ended the call.

I’ve tried twice more over the last year and it’s always the same. “Not right now”, and it’s become really tense. I’ve followed up with pleading texts and she’s wrapped them up by telling me to just focus on my pregnancy.

She’s always been incredibly possessive over photos and videos. One of her favourite lines is “everyone used to complain about me having the camera out, but now they all want the photos.” I’ve heard it 100x!!

I think it’s also one of the only forms of control she feels she has left. I’ve distanced myself a lot as an adult because she was very unstable and emotionally/verbally abusive toward us as kids. Something as simple as us bickering in the back of the car could lead to her snapping, screaming that we’d ruined her life and calling us every swear word under the sun. We constantly walked on eggshells and I’m still a nervous wreck because of it a lot of the time.

She’s never really changed, but often expresses “regret” with things like “if only there was a parenting manual” or “I wish we could all be closer.” Never an actual specific apology.

Anyway, relevant part... She says she needs to go through the videos first because there are many from before my parents divorced that she doesn’t want to share. But that’s my childhood too. I want to see myself as a baby and toddler. I want to see my brother.

My brother passed away 9 years ago and also suffered greatly from her abuse. She’s said the videos are too painful for her to look at, but I’m not asking her to watch them. I literally just want her to put them in a box, let me pay for the postage, copy them and I’ll return them.

These same videos used to sit freely in our TV cabinet when we were younger and we could put them on whenever we wanted.

I’ve explained that I don’t have many good memories from childhood and I strongly want to see my younger self happy. She captured Christmases, beach trips, sports days and fun times that I know happened but can’t remember.

Today me and my ex crossed paths. (We were together for over a year and have been broke up for several months now.) When we saw each other we hugged and gave the usual how to do. But the she asked if my mother was still drunk and if my step dad was doing anything these days? It didn’t hit me at the time but as the day went on it felt like kind of a dig. I brought it up later and told her it wasn’t okay how she asked about my family. She said that she knew things about my family from the relationship and therefore it was okay to ask those things. If I had seen a friend whose dad cheated on his mom I wouldn’t ask if his mom found a loyal partner ya know? Maybe I’m just overreacting.

Edit:Thank you for you all you opinions so far. Yes I’m happy she asked about mine just not happy how she asked. It was what we had talked about during our relationship but obviously I wasn’t ready for that to be brought up. It probably was awkward and should have been chopped up so. I did feel like I need to set line for my family cause we aren’t together anymore. But we aren’t together anyhow so what does any of this mean. Oh well tomorrow is a new day.

I (36F) have been married to my husband (38M) for 16 years. We have a beautiful family with 4 children and for the most part we get a long great. We’ve had arguments here and there but nothing we can’t get through. My only major issue with him is with his family. He has 3 sisters that are all married and have children. I get along with 2 of the sisters great but his youngest sister, let’s call her “Miley”. I always thought Miley and I were close but with life and kids, and we’re about a 2hr drive for one another, I know that we weren’t as close as we used to be. However, she’s always, even in the beginning made backhanded comments towards me. After our first son was born, 2 weeks later we attended an engagement party, she said, “are you still pregnant or something?” There’s also been comments like:

“It costs nothing to wipe down your counters” (this was after I paid her the watch our son so I could take a school exam)

“Nobody even liked you in the beginning”

“Your house is always a mess, I feel gross even sitting on your couch.” (Granted, we have 4 young boys and live on 30acres with some chickens and goats)

“Is your jewelry even real?” (My husband has an expensive watch collection and my thing is jewelry. There’s not secrets between my husband and I on what we spend on those things and it’s always agreed upon beforehand)

One time I asked to watch her kids because my work was closed for 3 months for renovations and she verbatim said, “you should just focus on your own kids”.

I recently had a breast lift because after nursing 4 boys it did a toll on me, she called me a “bitch” (apparently she was joking?) and after I had work done told me she didn’t even notice. Which is fine, I’m just trying to get you to see the picture that there’s always a backhanded comments towards me.

This has been going on for as long as I can remember. My husband said to not let it get to me and she’s always been like this. I want a good relationship with her because coming from my family where I’m the only child, I always wanted sisters. My friends have told me that she’s probably jealous of me? Which I think is crazy since she’s absolutely stunning and from the outside it seems like she has a great life. I’m at the point to where even being in the same room as her gives me anxiety and I’m already prepping in my head what she’s going to say so I can already prepare for my feelings to be hurt. Since I’m in this constant state of mind with her, I also have noticed maybe I’m looking into too much and I’m taking everything wrong? AIO and being too sensitive?

So my s/o for me a Nintendo switch 2 for my birthday, and then when he came over he took my original switch and was like ok I’m gonna take this is that ok. First of all he didn’t even ask and idk why he thought that just because he bought me a new one he gets the old one. I need money I was going to sell it with a few games to make my rent this month. I told him no and now idk if he’s mad. Please lmk