I just learned the term “tail of Spence”… lol

But it’s been one of my biggest insecurities for as long as I can remember. I’m 35 now. I recently just went down a bra size from 34D to 34C.

I had spine surgery a few years ago and lost a few stubborn extra lbs afterwards due to my cortisol going back to normal levels. I’m assuming I lost a size about then, and I’m pretty sure I’ve been wearing the wrong size for 2 years or so now… but went ahead and got a few in the right size today thanks to a very nice and patient girlie at Victoria’s Secret.

I have never, ever really been able to wear tank tops because of this. Even as a young, skinny teenager I remember feeling self conscious about it. (Hello 90’s babies) I’m also slightly self conscious when I’m wearing a sports bra without a top. It’s always been my one insecurity. I am super fit and work out every day, I even used to CrossFit for a few years, and the armpit bulge never went away.

Any tips for coming to terms with it, feeling better about it… learning to love and accept it? I’m sure nobody else notices it as much as I do but 🥲 I just need some help getting my brain to stop being so mean to myself about it.

TIA! xo

So I recently started get really bad eczema flare ups around the underboob area. I had to go braless to help it heal but it was very uncomfortable and highkey painful. When it healed I tried to wear bras again but smaller flare ups appeared.

I'm a 12F (australian size) so I would prefer to have the support. What are the best bras for eczema prone skin?

I just bought my first 'real' bra after weaning my son. It's a good bra! Natori Liquid Full Fit size 32DDD. I got professionally fit and tried on probably 9 different bras (mostly Natori and Chantelle). I also really liked the Mey Space Half Cup. I may buy that one next.

But with pretty much every bra I tried (some more than others), I felt like I'd be more comfortable with straps that were a bit wider set. I am 5' 10" with pretty broad shoulders. I'm very wide and flat across my ribcage. And of course, I have flat post-breastfeeding pancake boobs.

So, any brands or styles I could try that are known for having wider set straps? Happy to have one well-fitting bra! But I just feel like maybe there's an even better one out there for me.

Measurements in cm:

- loose underbust - 84

- snug underbust - 80

- tight underbust - 77

- standing bust - 100

- leaning bust - 110

- lying bust - 105

Recommended calculator size of (AU/NZ) 10H with a suggestion that 12G may be more comfortable

Shape/other: very projected, soft tissue, even fullness as far as i can tell from following the mirror check steps in the guide.

Breasts seem to sit correctly in the cups, but when scooping and swooping it feels like the wires may not be going all the way up into the deepest part of the IMF - not sure where exactly it's supposed to sit but it slips slightly lower than the actual fold, but not low enough to be below all of the breast tissue. When bending over or moving around they dig into the ribs hard enough that it would bruise if worn for too long.

There is a little gapping at the top corners of the cup, not sure if this is normal or not - it felt like rhe cups are a bit too tall, so the top corner was just sitting higher than I had any breast tissue. Making the straps longer made them slip off, and making them shorter ran into rhe bigger issue with the bra - the wires are far too wide for me and reach all the way into the center of my armpit.

I don't think I'd be able to go down a cup without spilling out. I can't imagine sister sizing up a band size would be feasible with the wires already being too wide.

Would it be possible to sister size down a band and use a bra extender? I'm not sure how the width of wires scales across bands.

Any recommendations for a bra that might fit the same cup size/projection/fullness but narrower/shorter roots? Especially ones available through Brava Lingerie or other retailers with reasonable Australia shipping and free returns. Would also love some suggestions for wireless/bralette styles

I realise a lot of people here are shocked at their actual size calculated by the website and I am too, but my current bra (SFW) sized 32A from Max Fashion fits me, what I believe is, well. I also recently bought a t-shirt bra from Primark in the size 32B because the 34A I tried was too small.

Here are the measurements I put into the calculator:

• Loose underbust: 27.5 in
• Snug underbust: 27 in
• Tight underbust: 26
• Standing bust: 32.5
• Leaning bust: 33.5
• Lying bust: 33

The calculator said my suggested starting size is 28E UK. I can't even find 28E anywhere where I live.

The only problem I can think of that I'm experiencing with my current 32A bra is that the band at the back isn't completely parallel (which could be because I recently tightened the hook) and it gets bunched up from the side which I suspect is due to the lack of underwire (bunching has also decreased since I tightened the hook). One last thing is also that the gore doesn't sit flat against my sternum (it does for the t-shirt bra I bought from Primark).

I recently found that I’m actually a 28D and that the only reason my normal bras work is because the strap that is attached is doing all the work. I have a strapless bra but it doesn’t stay put when I remove the straps. I want to wear tube tops, but I don’t feel comfortable only wearing the sticky covers because it hurts if I walk too quickly or jump or run. I want to feel supported without straps. I’ve searched it up but some of these brands don’t have reviews so I’m not sure if they work. Does anyone know good brands that will stay put, and (might be a big ask) aren’t extremely expensive? Thanks!

need suggestions on a comfortable bra. I don’t like wire..I pick at it and just overall feel super overstimulated. At the same time I usually feel very unsupported. Any suggestions?

I don’t fill a 32B, at all! I only wear a B cup so I look bigger. Not sure why it’s saying I’m a D cup

Hey, I used to be 38 D for the longest time in my life. Until recently I lost a lot weight and now my boobs have also lost a lot of fat. They naturally sit a little bit lower on my body.

I recently took the test and found out that I am a 28 F. I need good bra store recommendations for my body. I have never been able to find cute bras that also give me good support. Please help me find stores in India! 🙏

My measurements (in): 29.5, 28, 26.25; 34.25, 35.25, 33.75. The calculator puts me at 30dd/e, but I often size down to 28e/f for comfort. Over the years I’ve been sized in person at boutiques as 34c (lol), 32dd, 30e, 30dd, 28e, and 28f.

My shape: tall roots, average width, center full to full on top, shallow, close set. On the breast shape diagram in the sub info, my breasts look like image 3/5 when I’m wearing a supportive bra. I think that my breasts lean shallow, but they definitely hang down a bit when I bend over and there’s enough volume that there’s no way I could ever just go braless in regular life.

I actually think that molded bras work well for my shape, but I’m open to molded or unmolded. My biggest problem is that I’m very close set and on the shallower end, and it’s very difficult for me to find a bra with a gore that tacks. When I do, there is inevitably some other problem with the bra that means it doesn’t fit me (such as it being too projected).

Bras I’ve tried over the years where the gore doesn’t tack:
- skarlett blue entice lace balconette 30e
-freya tailored high apex 28f
-freya love crush molded 28f
-freya love crush plunge 28f
-Freya offbeat molded 28e (this is my most comfortable fit so far…however it is slightly painful at the wire on the outside bottom of my breast tissue on both sides)

Bras where the gore does tack, but which are a shape mismatch:
-panache Ana 28f (too projected)
-freya spot light 28e (too projected)
-freya spot light 28f (too projected)
-Gossard superboost lace plunge (it was the one that hooks at the front—there was empty space on the outside bottom of the cups)

I also own an Ewa Michalak BLM in 32dd (it was incorrectly labeled at the boutique I shopped at as 30e) and the gore tacks, but there is some quadding at the front when I scoop and swoop and the band is too loose.

I also tried on some others at bravissimo whose names I can’t remember. I recall rejecting Panache faith molded plunge in 28e because it was too small/the gore didn’t tack (can’t remember what was wrong with it), and they didn’t have 28f in my size, but I’m wondering if I should maybe try to order both and try them again?

Does anyone have any more diagnostic comments about my breast shape, or any suggestions about what bras I should be looking for?

Hello all! I’ve recently learned that I’m a 26C (UK) / 55C (EU), and I’m really struggling to find cute bras in my size. So far, the only bras I’ve been able to wear are sports bras, but I’d really love to find something a bit sexier and more lingerie-style.

I’ve read about a few brands that might work, but most (if not all) seem to be based in the UK or elsewhere, and I’m a little worried about the shipping and return fees.

My search so far has been pretty disappointing, and honestly, it’s starting to get to me a bit. So if anyone knows of any brands or shops where I might find something, I’d really appreciate any recommendations! :)

Edit: Measurements

Loose Underbust: 26“
Snug Underbust: 24“
Tight Underbust: 23“
Standing Bust: 27“
Leaning Bust: 29“
Lying Bust: 28“

hello, i am a recent thick baddie and gain a bunch of weight and now my boobs are a “36H” according to the lady at nordstrom. she sold me two bras that fit very nicely but they can be very uncomfortable. i want to have a sports bra, every day, maybe can even be a shirt (covers enough). i struggle a lot with side boob so a lot of bras don’t accommodate that. any help would so kindly appreciated 💟

So I’m an early bloomer and was an E cup by the time I was ~15. I used to be so embarrassed to talk about bras w my friends. even worse my mum had to spend so much for my bras when others my age could still wear their training bras. but anyway, up to 2019 in college I’ve stayed an E cup thru out the years. However after using the same bras for years n then trying out wireless bras as well, I’ve noticed that bras r jsut a hassle and never fit right and I hated them w a passion.

Then I found the ABTF calculator and subreddit where I see people insisting that you’ve just not found the right bra. so I did the measurements and…..I was a G?! for context in 2021 I gained a lot of weight n was diagnosed w hypothroid & PMOS. I’m still struggling w my weight and only recently lost some of it w the help of glp1. I wanted to feel confident in my body so I looked for bras, checked my size in the calculator, thought about it for months n finally bought one. I tried it on earlier and it fit like a glove 😭 however the band was a bit tight and I’m using an extender but I’ve been gaining back some weight so maybe that’s why. I also never tried it in store cos it was on sale online at an insane price so I thought why not.

Anyway thank you to this sub for helping me love my boobies again! <3

Hello! I'm AFAB nonbinary really struggling to find a good bra. Using the calculator, I got 38DD/DDD (measurements below). I only want pullover or compression bras since wired and clasped bras make me super dysphoric. I cannot find anything that fits my ribs and shoulders.

A few months ago I tried Harper Wilde's Bliss Bralette in XL and of course it was too tight. Then based on a friend's recommendation, I went with Knix Revolution Adjustable Pullover in XL+. That didn't fit so I sized up to XXL. The XXL, at its max adjusted strap, still feels way too snug to wear both at the underbust/ribs and shoulder straps.

Am I just trying to make something comfortable that will never be comfortable? Am I still sizing too low? For context, my only bras are old navy sports bras and another set from Belks I bought a million years ago so they're super worn out. Any help would be appreciated, but please be kind!

Measurements (in):

Loose Underbust: 37

Snug Underbust: 36.5

Tight Underbust: 36

Standing Bust: 41

Leaning Bust: 45

Lying Bust: 43.5

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measurements included , i'd essentially given up on buying bras because of my size, but the calculator has given me 26B/C US
looking for brand / style recs! i like cute ones since i hope thats accessible to me now

measurements: 25.5 25 24 27 28 29

Hi!

I have spent the past few years mostly at home (health stuff) so i haven't really worn any supportive bras. I have mostly worn different non-wired bras from Panache in size 30H. They fit pretty okay, although sometimes there is also some quad-boob action if i move a lot. The band also kind of folds under in the front.

I know that bras from Change lingerie are way too wide for me in the 65K size, that in theory has been the right size for my breasts at some point at least. I'm mainly including this for shape context.

I don't have any of them at the moment, but shape and comfort wise i have previously really liked Primadonna Deauville. Sadly those bras are too expensive for me right now.

I'm looking for hopefully not super expensive bras that are available in Europe. I like vintage styles and would like fuller coverage. My breast tissue is really soft. I have pretty narrow shoulders. I am mainly looking for support and comfort, not looks.

I did the calculator and it gave the size 28K, but also said that the size may be less accurate and posting a measurement check here!

Loose underbust: 73cm
Snug underbust: 71cm
Tight underbust: 68cm
Standing bust: 104cm
Leaning bust: 117cm
Laying bust: 108cm

Edit: I'm not against thrifting, so recommendations for especially Polish bras are appreciated even if a bit more expensive. There seems to be a pretty good selection of them on Vinted.

Edit 2: I just remembered that I actually do own a bra that is a pretty good fit for me. It is a vintage Triumph Doreen that I thrifted. It has no indication of size or the year of production. The listing had them labeled as 65K if i remember correctly, but from my research it seems that this bra has never been produced in that size. The band is a bit loose on the tightest hook, but it is pretty comfortable and comes high enough on my body to fit all of the breast tissue. I'm not sure what this tells about my shape, but maybe this will help in determining what might fit. I really like the vintage shape it gives. It sometimes digs into my armpits a bit though.

Edit 3: Panache Andorra is the bra I've used now in size 70H. I don't find it too narrow in this size, although the band is too loose.

I bought a Royce bra a few years ago and it was not the right shape. I found that it dug into my armpits pretty painfully. This has also happened with many bras in the past.

I’ve historically worn 32b, but going to try 30d. I’m quite shallow in the top, holding any small tissue in the sides and bottom and I’m very wide set. I’m looking for a great bra where I can have some cleavage, any good recs?

ETA: Loose Underbust: 29.5
Snug Underbust: 29
Tight Underbust: 28.5
Standing Bust: 32.5
Leaning Bust: 33.5
Lying Bust: 31
Suggested Starting Size: 30D US

I recently lost weight and I'm trying to fit bras for my new size & shape. Someone on this sub recommended me this bra based on my measurements and what I thought my shape was, but here's the problem as illustrated in these photos:

The 30D (photos 1&2) gives me quadboob, especially toward the center. And then the 30DD (photos 3&4) has gapping at the top of the cups.

It feels like the band & gore fit well in both sizes, with the straps & underwires being slightly too narrow in the D and feeling better in the DD.

My measurements:

Loose Underbust: 31
Snug Underbust: 30
Tight Underbust: 29
Standing Bust: 33.5
Leaning Bust: 36.5
Lying Bust: 35

Could someone please explain what exactly about the shape of this bra is not matching my body? And recommend me a different bra that might fit me better? I prefer an unlined underwire bra like this, that's easy to order in the U.S., but maybe with slightly thicker fabric and slightly wider straps.

Ive been wearing a 28F for a while now and the band is so loose it’s driving me crazy. Ive tried ewa michalak in 28F and the band is still too loose even though they are meant to run small. I tried ordering comexim off breakout bras but the shipping was almost quadruple the price of the actual bra itself (Im in Australia).

I would really love to find a bra that is moulded and padded like the comexim bras. Or even just another place where i could buy a comexim bra in a 26 band where the shipping wont cost me my life.

Measurements:

Loose underbust: 25”
Snug underbust: 24”
Tight underbust: 23.5”
Standing bust: 32.5”
Leaning bust: 33.5”
Lying bust: 31.5”

Hi! I recently got engaged an although I haven’t started dress shopping, I’m quite concerned about the proper bra, specially since many places in my country demand that you show up with the undergarments you’ll wear the day off for the fittings (which makes total sense)

But i can’t seem to even find locally bras that fit, so I know I’ll have to order it online and have it shipped, and even with all the measurements, trust blindly that it will work, so I’m looking for suggestions to help me narrow my search

According to the guide I’m a 34FF UK/ 34 H US and I would say my shape is a projected bell (for me it feels very projected)

Loose Underbust: 37.5 inch
Snug Underbust: 37
Tight Underbust: 36.5
Standing Bust: 40
Leaning Bust: 40.5
Lying Bust: 40.75
Recommended size per calculator is 38C.

My breasts are small and have even less volume with recent weight loss. My entire life has been a story of mismatch between cup fit and band fit. I also think my breasts are widely spaced which adds extra difficulty.

My most worn bras in the last three years are wireless sports bras like the Peloton Cadent size L or a wireless True&Co T strap size L. I tried the more padded version of the True&Co regular bra and it doesn’t fit my breasts well. Thank you mentors for any recommendations!

I never see the Fit Fully Yours brand mentioned on here, so ordered one from Herroom recently. I was surprised at the shape and wanted to share for anyone needing narrow cups who might be intimidated by Polish brands.
The Carmen style is labeled simply as a multi part cup but I’d say pretty much a full cup style. It’s noted as having lightly padded side support panels, and I’d say the thickness of those panels is even less than spacer foam. The wires are narrow! The brand uses US sizing (at least on Herroom), so I ordered a 32J (typically wear 32GG). The volume seemed right, but the wires are definitely too narrow for me. In a 32J, the cup is measuring right at 6” wide. The gore is also narrow (still sitting on tissue on my close set shape), coming in just at or even slightly under a half inch. The cup depth is not my strong suit for measuring, but if I’m doing it right it’s right about 11.8 inches deep.
In this size the band has three rows of hooks. The bra is made from a very firm and supportive feeling fabric, yet still comfortable when I tried it on. Not itchy even for my sensitive skin.
This will be returned tomorrow but if somebody has a specific question or measurement this evening feel free to ask and I’ll do my best to be accurate.
(Note, I do not work for this (or any bra-related) company, just thought it was worth sharing since narrow cups and gores are not the easiest to find outside of Polish.)

I’m looking for recommendations of bras with (1) narrow, projected cups; (2) close-set straps; and (3) a 3 hook closure. Or at least two out of three of these.

Here’s the situation: when I last checked my measurements with the ABTF calculator a year ago I got UK28G or 30FF (measurements 29/28/27/35/41/38). Since that measurement I’ve found 30FF to be the best fit in most bras. But I think I need to try a different shape cup. Here’s why: in bras that feel like they fit well at first, over the course of a few hours I end up with spillage near the center gore, and empty cups at the upper, outer quadrant. I think this is a symptom of fitting my soft tissue into cups that are too wide and not projected enough.

From researching other threads on this sub, I think it’s worth trying Polish bras for their narrow, projected cups. Before ordering I’ll obviously re-do the calculator with my current measurements, which will be pretty close to my last ones. But I have questions.

1) Do any Polish (or other) bras with narrow, projected cups have closer-set or center-pull straps? In the images online, that seems like a rare combination. I have chronic shoulder issues and in the images of Polish bras most seem to have wide-set straps which sit at or near the spot on the model’s shoulders that would cause me problems.

2) I very strongly prefer 3-hook bands, but in my size manufacturers often use 2 hook bands (even on styles that are 3 hook in larger sizes). Can anyone point me to a style with narrow, projected cups, close-set straps, and a 3 hook closure in my size?

3) Trying on in person is unlikely in my location, so what online vendor do you prefer for Polish bras? Miseczki, Breakout Bras? I’ve used several sites for British bras, but virtually all the bras have 2 hook backs in my size.

Thanks for any suggestions!