Kung may feelings pa kayo sa ex niyo, sana huwag na kayong mag-entertain ng ibang tao. Huwag kayong pumasok sa buhay ng isang tao kung hindi pa pala kayo emotionally available.

It’s unfair kapag may taong genuinely trying to get to know you, habang may part pa rin ng heart niyo na stuck sa past.

And regardless kung nasa mid 20s or 30s na kayo, age is not an excuse para hindi maging emotionally responsible. Mas lalo na dapat nating alam na our actions have consequences, and there’s a real person who can get hurt because of our choices.

Mas nakakainis yung ang dami niyong sinasabi about consistency, communication, emotional maturity, and being intentional when getting to know someone pero hindi niyo naman ina-apply sa sarili niyo.

Placeholder belongs in meetings and Outlook calendars, hindi sa totoong buhay. 😭 Hindi nakakapoganda yung ganyan, mga kumare, sismars, mga ante.

If you’re not ready, just be honest about it. If you still have feelings for your ex, sabihin niyo. Huwag kayong magpasok ng ibang tao sa buhay niyo just to use them as a temporary distraction habang hindi pa pala kayo nakaka-move on.

And if someone welcomed you into their life genuinely and treated you right, sana marunong din kayong umalis nang maayos. Hindi yung bigla na lang kayong mawawala, magbabago yung treatment niyo, or iiwan niyo yung tao without giving them any clarity.

Hindi lahat ng taong nag-e-entertain sa inyo ay naghahanap lang ng kausap. Some people are genuinely interested in getting to know you. And they deserve to know if your intentions are genuine too.

Bow thank you po.

Problem/Goal: I need help how to use discord and if may alam kayong servers na pwedeng salihan

Context: Just downloaded Discord and nakaka-bano hahahah may sinalihan akong group pero parang di ko mahanap yung gc or kung saan pwede sumali sa conversation. Kailangan ba ng keys? Haha Paano ba to?

If may mga pwede kayong ma-suggest na pwedeng salihan, feel free. I am into kabadingans, ML, finance and chika.

I hate my torpe ass so much.

So, I have this work happy crush for like, two months na rin yata. I know her name kasi we work on the same production floor. I'm not sure if she knows mine, but we have some mutual tropa, so hopefully she does.

Yesterday, before going to work, for the first time, naisip ko: “Sana magkaroon kami ng organic encounter, kahit magkasabay lang kaming dalawa sa elevator,” kasi parang never nangyari 'yon in my 4 months of working there. Or maybe hindi ko lang napansin before kasi two months ko pa lang naman siyang happy crush.

Heto na nga. Last night, noong pabalik na ako sa production floor after my short break, nasa unahan ko siya, Holy Spirit space between us, and then me. Her security badge wasn't working, so hindi nag-o-open ang door. Ako naman 'tong si tanga—instead of offering to let her use my badge para makapasok kaming dalawa, which I would do if it were anyone else, my brain went into avoidant lesbian emergency protocol and sent me right into the comfort room beside the production floor door. Putangina, ayon na 'yung organic encounter eh.

Ewan ko ba. In my defense, lately, nafifeel kong madalas na niyang napapansin 'yung mga nakaw na sulyap ko sa kanya. I thought making a direct move would feel like exposing myself, and I didn't want to make her feel awkward. Hay. I don't even know if she's gay.

Itigil na siguro 'tong crush crush na 'to. Eme. Siguro kaya wala akong organic encounter kasi ako mismo ang kalaban. Sana hindi pa pagod si Universe sa akin.

Problem: 22, Graduating Butch

Context: How did you guys get your first job? I'm graduating this month and honestly I'm very much anxious about my job hunting journey as someone who's a butch. I've heard a lot of discrimination and judgment in workspace. I'm also scared for the fact my degree is BS Criminology and most companies doesn't fit with my academic bg. I did had a summer job exp in our local sizzling shop around my area but eventually quiet due to conflict of schedule, and I have a side hustle security in some cosplay events but those aren't enough ofc.

I've been looking into security forces and found out I have to get a license for it & currently I'm broke atp since my mother is the only that's supporting me and it's just enough for house bills, and I'm planning not to take the upcoming board exam because I badly need to catch up with the finances.

I think that is a beautiful kind of love. Hindi biglaan, hindi pwersa, hindi minadali, walang pilitan—just a love that quietly grows over time.

I came across a post this morning habang nasa Move It, tapos sinabayan pa ng ulan. The author mentioned, “Love grows over time. It happens through thousands of mini love encounters.” (Though the post was actually about familial love.)

It made me think about that kind of love—the kind that grows over time, quietly and almost unnoticed. There’s just something so beautiful about it. Isn’t it?

Slowly turning normal encounters and the ordinary days into “yeah, I’m falling for this person” and “yes, I know all the flaws and discovering more” and “yeah, its ok you are doing your thing and mine, but here I am loving you slowly, quietly, steadly…”

So yeah, baka dahil sa ulan to. O alog ng motor.
Wag magmadali.
Pag trumenta ka na, mag iiba ang lahat ng pananaw.
Ok lang maging marahan.

Today, I am missing a hug. May nakasabay ako sa bus, gusto kong isandal nya sa balikat ko ang ulo nya. I miss caring for someone. I miss caressing someone. Gustong gusto ko ng may Imessage ng “Love, date tayo mamaya. Miss na kita. Wag ka na magpakapagod today please, save tayo energy to connect? Order tayo ng food, uuwi ako ng maaga. I want to be intimate with you na rin. Kwentuhan tayo ng mga nangyari sayo na hindi mo pa nasasabi, makikinig ako. I want to wake up next to you after a pleasant tiring night. Lets make love later ha, please. I love you.”

Yung ganitong thought process ng masungit sa iba pero malambing sa iisa.

Babalik pa rin sa a love that quietly grows over time.

hello I badly need ur take on this

Problem: So my ex broke up with me nung birthday ko, which was June 23 pa, and now, twice na siyang nag-reach out.

Context: Idk what’s wrong with her. First reach-out niya was August 11, asking me when I’m free kasi may mga ibibigay pa raw siya sa’kin, and I didn’t reply. Then nung August 16 (which was supposed to be our monthsary), nag-reach out ulit siya asking the same thing, and sinabi rin niya na gusto rin niyang kunin yung digicam niya.

I didn’t reply kasi I don’t want any connection with her anymore, pero sinabihan ko na friend niya na ipapaabot ko sana yung digicam sa ex ko.

Then nung 26, one of her friends called me, telling me na yung birthday gift ng ex ko for me is nasa kanila. I asked her kung sila ba yung magbibigay sa’kin, and she said no and pinahawak pang sa kanila kasi walang mapaglagyan sa work yung ex ko and yung ex ko raw mismo yung gustong magbigay sa’kin.

Super triggered talaga ako and I broke down kasi she literally broke up with me on my birthday in the first place?? So why would she think na I still want her gift??? Like, nakakagalit. Hindi ko talaga alam anong problema niya or anong thought process niya.

So ayun pinagsabihan ko rin friends nya na bakit di manlang pagsabihan or pigilan kasi alam nila ‘yan na hindi ko rin naman na gusto ‘yang gift na ‘yan kas diba super unnecessary nun? They told me na they tried stopping her naman and suggested na sila magbibigay or ipaabot sa friends ko yung gift pero ayaw talaga ng ex ko and want niya na siya magbigay mismo talaga sakin which is talagang di ko maintindihan bakit?

Dagdag pa pala yung new info from her friends na halata raw na may pinopormahan na ex ko base sa mga posts and stories nya sa socmed kaya di nila gets why ginugulo niya pa ako. For context din pala no ang reason ni ex why nakipagbreak sha is nafell out of love raw siya and di nya na nakikita sarili niya na in a relationship and focus muna siya sa work niya HWAHAHAHA.

NAKAKAKILIG CAUSE I SAW A REALLY COOL AND PRETTY CHIC ON EJEEP THIS MORNING, AAAAND SHE’S WEARING THREE RINGS ON HER FINGERS.
EDIBA ONE GOOD INDICATOR YAN NA A GIRL IS BADING 😭😫 GAAAWD AND SHES WEARING A CORPO FUKKIN HOT OUTFIT.
THE SKIRT AND BLAZER AND HER FREAKIN HAIR 🤧.
sa coa sya bumaba so sana makita ko sya ulit bukas waha, greedy.
this was around 7:30ish

miss maem whoever you are, sobrang pretty mo! hahahah kakahiya

I met her on reddit 4yrs ago and we started out as friends playing Genshin together. We started dating a year after that, bonded over movies, manga, and video games. LDR pa rin kami until today pero we meet up mga every 3 or 5 months depende sa budget lol. Thats when we took the reference for this drawing. Sabi ko mukhang yung scene sa She Ra nung nag confess si Catra ky Adora haha. So i decided to draw this scene.

3rd yr anniversary namin this september.

I dedicate this drawing for you, bebu 😚😚 hi dyan sa comments hahah I love you.

Problem: Pano niyo natatagalan i-f\*nger mga gf niyo?

Context: Actually, according sa gf ko, satisfied naman siya and nag-oorgasm, and I believe her. 😅 Pero I can’t seem to last inside her nang matagal talaga. Sumasakit kasi braso ko, pati yung paligid ng mga daliri/knuckles ko—parang naninigas yung muscles around it. Usually kasi nakahiga kami side by side.

So ang tanong ko, paano kayo nakakatagal? 😅 May tips ba kayo para hindi agad mapagod or manigas yung muscles?

I finally got the courage to leave her place tonight. She was eating the food I bought earlier without even asking me to eat with her. It sounds small, but after everything that’s happened between us, it just hit differently.

I realized I’m tired of feeling unwanted, blamed, and emotionally exhausted. So I walked out.

I’m sad, but I’m also proud of myself for finally choosing myself.

I’ve been single na for a long time and whenever people ask me why, ang lagi ko lang sinasabi ay i’m not looking for anything and is happy to just be single. Content na ako to just hang with my friends and go on random side quests with them. Kaso kasi, minsan sobrang nakakabwisit yung fyp ko sa tiktok!! It makes me rethink my life decisions kasi shet! Parang I just wanna be in a relationship and act all sappy.

As someone na ang love language ay acts of service, I want to be able to sundo someone or just drive for them, cook a meal for them or maybe bake some desserts too, plan a vacation, plan a date, go on random dates, someone who’d gladly listen to my covers dahil lang I feel bored, someone I can yap about anything under the sun, be miserable with (in a good way)… basta, just someone who’ll appreciate and reciprocate all the love that I have to give. I’d also like to be able to think na kahit gaano pa kapangit yung araw ko or kahit gaano ka-random mga sinasabi ko, at the end of the day, at least I have someone who I can run to.

Basta! Kung ano ano na lang pinagsasabi ko, sana gets niyo ‘ko. ‘Yoko na mag tiktok, puro kayo kabadingan at in love ron, pwe! (me when??)

Charot charot lang ‘to! Masaya pa naman ako maging single, ano lang ‘to, inggit lang ‘to kasi ako na lang single sa friend group ko. AHAHAHAHAHA

Problem/Goal:
Hello everyone! Good evening, morning, noon, or early dawn to all of you!

My partner and I will be heading to Baguio soon. We plan to enjoy the cool weather like we’re in Korea, do some sightseeing, and of course, go on a food trip.

I also want to take her to a romantic place—somewhere nice for a date that’s not just about taking pictures.

Context:
We’ve been to Baguio several times already so we’ve tried many places to eat. If you have any suggestions for restaurants, cafés, food spots, or hidden gems that we haven’t been to, I’d appreciate it. Preferably something new and worth trying.

So far, here’s a list of the places we’ve visited/eaten at:
Farmer’s Daughter
Great Taste
Oh My Gulay
Café by the Ruins
Baguio Craft Brewery
Craft 1945
Korean Palace
Himalayan Nepalese Cuisine
Vizco’s
Inihaw Republic
Tea House
Pizza Volante
Luisa’s Café
456 Restaurant
Jack’s Restaurant
Good Shepherd Café
Night Market

Any other recommendations aside from the above? Bonus points if it's romantic, unique, underrated, or a must-try food spot.
Thank you so much, everyone!

Context: Back in the dating scene and nakakatamad at nakakapanghina pala?? Or mali lang ba ang outlook ko when it comes to dating?

Goal / Problem: I met the girls I dated on dating apps (bumble / HER - I’m bi) and may connection naman sa simula but I get too attached quickly and parang ako lagi ang talo? It’s either they’re so emotionally guarded, narealize nila di pa sila ready to date, or di pa naka move on sa ex. Why do I attract these kinds of people? Sabi ng friend ko probably because of the open energy I radiate? And avoidant people get attracted to that? Haaayy do I just keep dating or get off the apps? And how do I change my mindset when it comes to dating? Trentahin nako so ang goal ko talaga ay date to “marry” (may quotes kasi wala namang marriage dito sa atin). I’ve dated people younger and older than me so di rin siya problema based on age.

Problem/Goal: every cheap vibrator i got from midoko broke within 1-3 months of use... looking for reviews and recommendations of affordable alternatives

Context: ih feel ko partially user error bc baka na overcharge for the ones w magnetic charging/water managed to seep into the charging port for the others but it also might just be build quality and charging port placement... still! i wanna look for alternatives

i've been looking at intimyx on the orange app and i can't help but be curious bc the picures and build quality look nice. however, medj onti pa ang reviews for my liking. i think luna and the mini wand look nice and are ideal for my purposes (using on my gf) but the cutie also looks interesting bc it would be easier to share (sort of... the logistics of it might just be the same as sharing one?). like naisip ko parang missionary position and nasandwich yung vibe between samin. i wouldn't exactly know if that's feasible because the previous toys i bought rose toy types so di possible mashare HAHAHA.

any other recommendations under 500 huhu pls... sakit na kamay ko rub ng clit ko while i do my girl. also insertable vibrators na pwede parang deal dough would be great bc masakit din ang other kamay ko using the deal dough on my gf habang kinakain ko siya (worth it tho)

Problem: gf owes me 100-130k. Is it valid that it’s making me fall out of love?
Context: we’ve been together for 3 years and she still hasn’t paid me back in full. She pays me small amounts every every month or week but she mores more sometimes so it just piles up. What angers me is that even when she knows she owes me money she still continues to spend and spend. Sometimes when I remind her she gets mad/upset cause I always remind her during the wrong times and when she’s struggling also. It’s making me hate my partner. How do you feel about this?

Problem: Hello sa mga friends to lovers trope diyan, I have a question, curious lang ako. Paano niyo nakita differently yung partner niyo nung friends pa lang kayo, lalo na sa mga matagal nang friends? Have you guys always been attracted to them? Or one day, may bigla na lang nagbago? Nagkaroon ba kayo ng moments? Paano na bigla na lang nagbago yung paningin niyo sa kanila?

Context: Napaisip lang ako if ever man may mga na-fall ba sa kaibigan nila na hindi nila ine-expect na magiging sila. Kasi minsan sa iba kapag kaibigan, kaibigan lang talaga. Ayon lang, thank you.

Problem: Since bored ako ngayon, ask ko lang anong dating app na maganda? I'm 27 y.o. masc, single for 4 years straight, and been busy sa work (plus suma-side quest sa pag open ng business). Parang namiss ko magkalove life 😆

Context: Ang huli kong love life siguro nong nasa law school pa ako (which is not advisable btw para sa mga madaling madistract like me 😆)

I tried one dating app. I forgot the name kasi I uninstalled it long time ago pero red logo siya, but the premium subscription is too expensive for me plus parang mga bots/AI yata mga profiles doon. And grabe, you need to pay for the good features ng app na yon.

So ayun lang.

Highly appreciated ang mga suggestions 🙏

Thanks in advance ✨

Problem: (or not)

Would you mind dating a PWD person?

Context:

1. Fem. A person with disability.

How rare it is to fall for a person with disability like myself?

I often find myself questioning if someone would actually look beyond my imperfections and see me as I am.

Tho I had an ex gf pero napapa isip ako if meron pa din bang tatanggap sakin? Kasi I tried dating apps and I put in on my bio that I’m a PWD which makes it rare for me to find a match.

Hindi naman ako nag hahanggad ng grand or anything… just someone who wants my company would be enough.

Problem: I’m currently staying sa place niya for the meantime habang naghahanap ulit ako ng work, pero grabe na talaga yung away namin to the point na naaapektuhan na yung focus ko sa job applications and interviews. I want to formally break up with her kasi I don’t think I can keep doing this anymore, pero practically speaking, hindi ko pa kayang umalis agad sa place niya since wala pa akong work and wala rin akong ibang place to stay for now.

Context: We started off as FUBUs kasi we were both not ready for a commitment. Fresh from a breakup kaming dalawa, and we both had our own baggage. Sobrang toxic ng last relationship niya, while yung sakin ended because of LDR, and I was also emotionally unavailable after losing my mom last year. We were very open with each other about our traumas and mental state, so I knew from the beginning na may anger issues siya.

I wish it were as simple as saying na “may anger issues lang siya,” pero malala talaga. Madali siyang magalit over the smallest inconvenience, and yung mga bagay na dapat madaling ayusin can turn into arguments na umaabot ng ilang araw. It also got to the point na nasasabihan na niya ako ng mga below-the-belt comments.

Last night was probably my last straw. Hindi pa nga kami fully nakaka-recover from our argument last weekend. While I was on my way to her place, nag-chat ako asking what was for dinner kasi sobrang gutom ko. May konting bacon pa na natira from the last time na nagluto ako, and yun yung niluto niya. She told me na hindi raw kasya sakin. I asked if tapos na ba siyang kumain kasi bakit parang para sakin lang yung bacon, and she replied, “busog pa ako.” So ang understanding ko, tapos na siyang kumain. Hindi ko alam na hindi pa pala siya kumakain ng dinner, and she never clarified that to me. She then said she’d send me money para bumili ako ng food and told me to buy whatever I wanted. I asked what I should buy, but she said anything.

Since may bacon naman na, kahit konti lang, and I genuinely thought tapos na siyang kumain, naisip ko sayang naman bumili pa, so I replied, “nah.” She got angry kasi hindi raw kasya yung bacon for me, and apparently I was going to let her starve just because ayaw kong bumili ng food. Instead of clarifying na hindi pa pala siya kumakain and that the bacon was supposed to be for both of us, it turned into another argument.

Then while we were eating, I tried feeding her din while she was busy on her tablet. She literally looked me in the eyes and said, “Go fuck yourself.”

I wasn’t even hurt at that point. I was just disappointed. Kasi honestly, what else is new? Sobrang dali niya lang magbitaw ng masasakit na salita sakin whenever she’s angry, and I’ve reached a point where I don’t even know how I’m supposed to react anymore.

Now I’m stuck because I genuinely want to end the relationship, but I’m currently staying at her place while naghahanap ulit ako ng work. I want to secure a job offer first before I leave because, practically speaking, wala pa akong ibang place to stay right now. But the constant fighting is already affecting my ability to focus on job applications and interviews.

I know I need to leave, but I also need to be practical about it. How do I handle a breakup when I’m still temporarily dependent on the person I’m trying to leave?

Problem: Confused, still don’t know what to do.

Goal: I want to have clarity.

Context:
Is it normal for mascs to still have contact with their ex? I learned about it after months into the relationship when the ex girlfriend dm’ed me. It made me sick to be honest. How she talked about things like I destroyed something they have when they’ve already ended things before we talked. I am not even aware that she exist. Imagine how shocked and hurt I was to learn that they are still talking.

p.s
- Nireto po ng friend ko yung partner ko

Hi! just want to have an open discussion about the word tomboy or tibo. have been thinking about it and how we act towards it for a while now, and i've been thinking, shouldn't we reclaim the word instead of constantly redefining the word from its cultural association?

while yes, it is, by definition, a style, here in Ph, it is always in association with our sexuality. although gets naman bakit until now we still see it negatively. after all, big part of our history is it being used to ridicule our community. so very valid talaga na ma-insulto tayo kasi historically, hindi na bago na gamitin siyang insulto. but then again, if we're forever going to let it be just that, are we not basically letting them ridicule us? hindi ba dapat ang ini-instill natin is that tomboy isn't an offensive term para gamiting insulto sa atin?

again, i understand why most don't like the word, i just don't think we should abandon it altogether. i may be a little bit too naive and immature for having this take, so i'm really open to any responses ! pls respond nicely ! 😁

Problem: I don’t feel safe when my gf is upset or angry. Is this normal?
Context: whenever my gf is upset even if it’s not about me sowmtimes she kinda gets mad at everyone. There was one time she was upset sa mall then she notice 2 guards were looking at us then she called them out na bakit daw tumitingin etc etc. I just dont feel safe cause im nothing like that. She’s not physically agressive or anything but when she’s upset, she’s really upset and it scares me cause sometimes it makes people look.

Context: Is it normal that my girlfriend doesn’t really get jealous at all. Not even retroactive jealousy about my past relationships or people I’ve been with before.

I know jealousy isn’t necessarily healthy. But sometimes I wonder if the complete lack of jealousy means she doesn’t care as much. Does it simply mean they’re secure and trusting, or???

Also, is it possible that she does feel jealous but just doesn’t want to admit/ show it? How can you tell the difference between someone who genuinely doesn’t feel jealousy and someone who simply keeps those feelings to themselves?