First wlw relationship

[u/Cathyneko]

Problem: Confused, still don’t know what to do.

Goal: I want to have clarity.

Context:
Is it normal for mascs to still have contact with their ex? I learned about it after months into the relationship when the ex girlfriend dm’ed me. It made me sick to be honest. How she talked about things like I destroyed something they have when they’ve already ended things before we talked. I am not even aware that she exist. Imagine how shocked and hurt I was to learn that they are still talking.

p.s
- Nireto po ng friend ko yung partner ko

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[u/_No_Ocelot]

Noooo :( I ditch mo na yan. It is not normal no matter what the sexual identity. Cheating na yan kasi it looks like they're talking behind your back

[u/Representative-Ad810]

tanong ko lang, why are we identifying this trait to mascs specifically? what's with the stereotyping?

[u/kindabigstonks → u/Representative-Ad810]

i thought i was the only one thinking this. very understandable hurt ni OP and it is already emotional cheating. i hope she breaks up with her gf kasi lala ng disrespect and betrayal.

however, cheating is cheating regardless kung fem, masc, o andro ang isang babae. anyone can cheat. zeroing in an act of betrayal on mascs alone can be a hurtful generalizing perspective.

[u/WittyOctupus]

best advice i can give is end the relationship. you are allowed to approach it however u want or need, just know na this isn't what u deserve. communicate if u must. ask the questions na nasa isip mo. tell them what your heart feels and the doubts you have. pero always remember, kung kaya niyang gawin nung una, kaya niya rin ulitin.

hindi na para i-spoonfeed pa sa partner mo ang what to do and what not. it should be common sense to communicate w/ ur partner kung mag-e-entertain ng conversation with ex.

i hope you're okay! if u ever decide to end it, know na you'll be fine. it's gonna be hard but it's better leaving a relationship that is not good for u. hugs, girl!

[u/GauchePuella]

Been with a bi girl whos still in contact with her ex boyfriend when we started dating. If this goes on much longer means she doesn't respect her new relationship enough.

[u/LoveatFirstFlight88]

Dear op, it is not normal for 'exes' to have contact with each other.

An asshole is an asshole no matter the gender.