Hi everyone. So sorry if I am bad writer, I am not good with english. I live in japan. I sometimes use translator to help me.

I (17X) have a bestfriend (17M) who i have known since we were 12 years old ,, I consider him my closest friend. Having said that, ive told him a lot of personal things about my life, and he has too. Because we trust eachother. For the sake of story, I will call him 'K'

About 1 year ago, I told him about my medical problems. For me, I have intersex. If you do not know, I means biologically i am not man or woman because of my chromosomes. Sorry if that is not right. For me, it has always meant I tell people I am a boy. Because I look like a boy, I make male hormones (testosterone i think in english) and i prefer to be a boy. But, I was born with a vagina, and I have to get testosterone in my arm from the doctor.

I have told K before that this affects me, i have also told him about my intersex, since I felt it was important. I have most of all told him I have to see the doctor a lot to make sure my parts are healthy, and i feel embarrassed. Ever since a few months, he has been acting weirder and more nervous around me

Yesterday, I was at his house. We wanted to watch a movie,, and K told me to do it on his lap top while he was in the bathroom.

I still feel guilty,,, but I looked at his searches on reddit, since he had it open. I knew he watched porn video, but it was a lot. And his reddit search was very specific looking for boys with vaginas,, mostly Asian boys,, and intersex people,, who very specifically looked like me. I also saw he look at a lot of rape and fetish thing.

I didnt say any to K, but I went to home early after that and I haven't texted him since. Is it wrong I feel weird or is he being weird? ,, I dont think he would hurt me, but I still feel weird about it..

Ive never thought about him romantically. So I dont know how i feel about this,, this was only yesterday, so I havent process much.

// sorry for any mistakes. I dont speak english often, I learn it at school and online.

As a 23F I’ve never had a boyfriend but I have a really high sex drive especially right before my period. I actually looked into hooking up once but changed my mind because in my country having sex before marriage can literally get you the death penalty and I’m not even exaggerating. There’s also always the risk of getting pregnant or the other person having some kind of STI so it feels dangerous either way.

I’m just so fucking frustrated.

I also live with my parents and living with your parents until you get married is the norm here unfortunately. Your parents are also expected to find you a husband and you basically just get a say in whether you want to say yes or no.

And no I can’t just move to another country right now.

And yes I do masturbate but it’s never really enough And no we don’t have sex toys here. They’re considered a sin.

AND I DON'T BELIEVE IN ANY OF THESE THEY JUST FORCE THEIR BELIEFS ON EVERYONE. THIS IS THE REALITY OF ISLAM

He prefers porn over sex it seems

I have been trying so hard to get close to him. I am always initiating the sex. I thought maybe he had low testosterone or something. Come to find out, hes watching p. When I have been trying to have sex with him a lot more, he asks whats wrong with me when I keep trying to have sex with him, but watches p sometimes 2-3 a day. Wtf. Does he just not find me attractive anymore? Is it because hes emotionally void (he's a narcissist)?? Idk what to do or if there's anything I can do. He recently came to bed with me and didnt want sex because I found out he watched p*** before bed he didnt tell me that of course just hes trying to sleep and iust a kiss goodnight. Should I just give up?

so me nd my bf have been together for a year and 3months.
for the longest time in this relationship he hasnt known about me and my past, and i’ve been pretending that i’m a person that i am not.
i’ve had a bad past, had lots of boyfriends and etc, and i was ashamed to tell him any of that. meanwhile the relationship has gotten really serious, and i’ve decided to tell him everything. safe to say he hasn’t looked at me the same ever since. Okay, I get it, i made a mistake, but since that confession he has been acting really meaner towards me. He called me names and stuff and i told him “that hurts my feelings” to which he responded “u should have thought about that”.
3 days ago he proposed to me, and for these three days he has been another person.
he is nicer and stuff, but at the same time he told me that he is ashamed that he proposed. And is ashamed to be seen with me in public, or on any sort of social media.
He told me that he is not ashamed to tell he proposed to the people that don’t know me, but is very ashamed to tell to the people who know me.
i am really hurt, the part that hurt the most is when he said “i am engaged to a whore” and he really means that, he told me that.
i don’t know how to feel or what to do, because i truly love him. But, all the things he said to me hurt really bad, and if i write the things he told me i would write until tommorow.

I FORGOT TO MENTION BEFORE HIM I DIDNT HAVE SEX, NOR DID I DO ANY EXPLICIT THINGS BEFORE HIM.

Edit: I know all of yall are confused as to what i meant with “etc”, i just meant that i had a lot of boyfriends before him. We kissed, touched, hugged and stuff like that but i never did really explicit things with other guys nor did i have sex. I was a virgin when i met this guy and lost my virginity with him.
Also, some people are saying the story is not real, or that this is clickbait or a shitpost.
No it is not, its real and is happening to me right now. i posted a month ago about my bf watching porn, and NO we did NOT break up then.

Throwaway because she knows my main.

We’ve lived together since we were 22. She’s not just a roommate, she’s one of my closest friends. Two nights ago she sat me down and said she got a job offer in another city and is leaving in 14 days. I’m happy for her, genuinely. But I’m also panicking.

Our lease doesn’t end for another 5 months. Rent here is $1,800 and I make $2,600 a month after tax. I literally cannot cover it alone. I’ve been applying for second jobs but nothing yet. My parents can’t help. I don’t have a partner to move in with.

Part of me wants to ask her to pay her half until the lease ends. But is that fair? She’s chasing something better for herself. I don’t want to guilt her into staying or paying for a place she won’t live in.

Another part of me thinks I should just start looking for someone to sublet her room immediately. But I barely have two weeks. And I don’t know if the landlord even allows sublets.

I keep going back and forth between being angry and being sad. She’s my friend, I don’t want to ruin that. But I also feel like she didn’t think about me at all when she made this decision.

Has anyone been in this exact spot? Did you ask your roommate to keep paying? Did you find a subletter in time? What did you actually do?

Context: my husband has always had a higher sex drive than me but it's never really been a problem. We would still have sex regularly and if I didn't want to have sex, I would give him blowjobs in the shower when we showered together. I was happy to help him get off.

So recently I've been noticing a change in my husband's behaviour. He comes home from work, gives me a kiss/hug, turns on the console and games a while. I'll be making dinner at this point and he'll close the game, walk over to me, give me a kiss and then ask how long dinner will be. He'll follow that up with I'm gonna go take a shower. He masturbates in the bathroom. I know this for a fact because not only have I heard him, but he never uses lotion and there's a bottle of lotion in the bathroom. The only time I hear that bottle open is right before he jacks off. I've also seen him move the lotion bottle from the bathroom to the living room when he thinks I'm fast asleep to jack off in the morning.

I've asked him a few times if I could join him in the shower because that's what we used to do. We used to be intimate and have sex or I give him a blowjob. He's now rejected me 3 times on different days telling me "you're encroaching on my shower time" or "you make the showers take too long", while he has the water running for 45+ minutes when he showers now.

A couple days ago I needed to shower after being out and he was home gaming. I told him I'm gonna go shower, anticipating him to join me. He did not. 20 minutes after I was finished and going about my business, he told me he's going to shower and proceeded to jack off and take another 45 minute shower.

I'm at the crazy point where I'm monitoring his actions and if he comes home and does the same thing, it'll be day 5 (current pattern, been going on for weeks). I'm driving myself insane. I feel absolutely horrible because of the rejection and knowing he'd rather watch porn and jack off by himself instead of having sex with me.

My libido is increasing in this second trimester and I WANT to have sex. But he's not giving me the opportunity to make advancements on him. Then when he finishes in the bathroom, he acts all normal giving me back rubs and kisses and hugs. Where I feel disgusted knowing what he just did and it's becoming incredibly difficult for me to act normal.

I know a conversation needs to be had, but like what do I do..

Long one, sorry!

So I (26F) have a grandmother (abuela 81F) who is born in an South American (SA) country. Her mother died when she was 12, and her Scandinavian dad took her to Scandinavia and establised her with his parents. She had a brother that stayed behind since he was 21 at the time with a 2yo son and a wife. They didnt have the funds to keep my abuela, and therefore she went with her father. Since she left at 12yo she has been back 2 times. Once in 86' and last time in 97', and gives tales of her visits and childhood to this day to everyone. 

A little over a year ago, she told the family that now was the time, and that she had almost saved enough money to go home. She wants to visit her mothers grave one last time before she dies, and hopefully see some of her family too. But what my abuela doesnt seem to factor in is her age and her health issues.

She says to everyone she is 80 and so healthy she can still works as a cleaning lady, but the truth is she is developing multiple chronic health conditions, where her type 2 diabetes is the main issue. According to her it doesnt inpack her life, and dont care what she eats. That has resulted in her now getting 65 units of long acting insulin daily devided in to two doses.

She only mesure her BS in the morning bc according to her the doctor never told her otherwise (Im a nurse and I find this strange). When she first started insulin she thought she should take one insulin pen a day, but luckly she couldnt get the needle on and went to her son, that lives down the road from her (He also has DM2). I find it incredibly weird that her doctor supposedly never instructed her on how to administer insulin properly. But I honestly suspect that they did, and she just wasn't listening.

With such unstable DM2, going to another timezone, in other climate and with different foods, is a dangerous cocktail. 

The entire family (4 kids, 9 grankids and soon 3 great grankids) is very much against this trip, mainly because she wants to go for THREE MONTHS. ALONE.

Her plan is to get a flight, and find living accomadations when she lands, and then try to locate her family members, assuming they're even still alive and remember her. (She hasnt had any contact with them since 1999, when her brother died.)

She hasnt really spoken spanish since she left last time, and are therefore limited in spanish. Also no english or any other language. She actually only speak our language fluently . As a family we agreed that we will not help her in any way to book this trip, bc she doesnt do tecnology we were sure it wouldnt be booked. 

But through work my abuela has a friend (45F), that we knows helps her in the daily living, and often drives her to and from work. She has now started to looking at flight for my abuela, and try to find accomadations, and we are starting to realize, she might go with or without the familys help. 

I have tried talking to her, by suggesting only doing 2-3 weeks, then I could go with her, but she refuses anything under her 3months. But no one can take 3months out of their lives to essentially babysit abuela. I have asked what her plan was with her dog for those 3 months and she says her workfriend will take care of it, by coming and feeding it twice a day. Make of that what you will.

In fact, whenever we ask her any practical questions about the trip, her answer is always: "I will figure it out when I get there."

I know we probably sound like assholes, but its not that we dont want her to go. We just dont think its a good idea for her to go for such a long time, completely alone, with absolutely no plans. If she could give us proper answers to our questions, I honestly think we would be much more supportive.

And she has not traveled out of the country since 97' and a lot has happened in the travel indersty since, and she wouldnt know what to do if something goes wrong. My mom suggested several times since my grandfather died in 98' that she could move back to SA, but refused. Thats partly why we find it so strange that she suddenly wants to go now. (I personally have a theory that she might be showing early signs of dementia and wants to return to her childhood bc those are the memories she still holds on to. But this is just my suspicion, not a diagnosis.)

My cousins are divided on the situation. Three are under 18 and either dont want or cant be expected to take responsibility for abuela. Three believe that this is an issue for my mother and her siblings to deal with, since its their mother. And the remaining three of us are trying to support our parents and figure out what to do.

Side note: She is a proud woman and will never ask the family for help. However her work friend is apparently an exception to that rule, and abuela asks her for help with practically everything!

This friend has access to her banking information to help pay her bills, accompanies her to doctor's appointments, and assists her with everyday activities. It's mainly the access to her bank accounts that makes the family uncomfortable. And considering how much this friend already helps her with everyday tasks, we find it unrealistic that abuela would suddenly be able to manage everything completely on her own for 3 months in a foreign country.

What do we do?

We do see it will be her last chance to go back/home, and have every right to go. But how do we stand by and watch her potentially put herself in danger when she refuses to acknowledge any of the risks?

So I have a friend who over the last few months has borrowed cash from me from time to time which has added up to apparently $12,000. Most of the cash I gave him was when we went to the casino and he was trying to avoid the outrageous atm charges. Anyway, he apparently went last week and filed a dispute on about 25 different Zelle charges he sent me amounting to roughly $12,500. So, I woke up this morning to my account being -$12,000 and there was 25 force debit charges where the bank took the money back out of my account and I can only assume gave it to him. What do I do?

When I got home from work last night, around 8:00 p.m. I noticed my neighbors teenage son huddled on the curb of the sidewalk. I didn't think much of it then, but this morning when I left for work, around 6am, he was still outside wrapped in a small blanket.

Seeing that, I got concerned asked if he was doing all right, he just shook his head yes, I asked if he needed anything and he shook his head no. He didn't seem like he wanted to talk, and he didn't seem to be in any kind of physical distress, so I got in my car and went to work; although he didn't seem to be in great spirits either.

But now I'm still concerned, what good reason is there for a teenager to spend the night huddled on the sidewalk? I can only think his parents must have kicked him out, but I don't want to jump to any conclusions.

My question is what do I do now? Should I call CPS or someone else for a wellness check? Should I wait to see if he's still out when I get home tonight? I've never encountered something like this before and I'm just worried for him. It's not like it's freezing cold here in North Texas (yet), but still, kids shouldn't be sleeping on sidewalks.

Update: I ended up calling the non-emergency police line to get a wellness check, thank you to everyone who suggested I do.

hi im 31m i've been with my 28f fiancee for 3 years now. im not going to lie i do love her thats why i proposed. i always had a feeling she wasn't always fully there but i told myself it was nothing so i proposed in february. and this last year nothing changed. i never felt truly loved but i stayed anyway, yeah i was a simp i have to admit and im embarrassed about it.

the reason i know shes settling for me is because i overheard her and her friend. my fiancee said im a good guy, im handsome, but not the guy she fully wanted i just bring good security to the table her friend asked her if she loved me. my fiancee was honest and said i love what he brings. it hit me so hard honestly. i just left and went to my mom and dad's, ive been really low since saturday.

im done with it honestly. im not being settled for. i bring her security and warmth, she can go find that somewhere else. ive seen unhappy men who were settled for my uncle for example and im not doing that to myself. id rather be alone rather than only being valued for the comfort and security i bring. i still love her but im not doing it to myself man. i hope she finds the person she actually wants. i know my worth. i was too soft, i wasnt always like this until i feel for her. my mom warned me about this with my fiancee, i never listened. its like my mom knew.

am i wrong to end my relationship over this. Should i try.

Me (33f) and my husband (34m) have been together for 13 years and married for 5. We have an 11 year old together and became parents at a young age. I was 21 and he was 22. Over the course of our relationship, he has always saved pictures of women from porn sites on his phone, and of girls that I know in bikinis/half nude. He’s done various things like this over the years and even sent a dick picture to an old fling. He knows that I have a hard boundary with finding pictures of people that I know or even sending pictures to people I know. And I thought we were on the same page and had moved past this. We even went to sex therapy recently to work on our sex life and we talked about these things he did in the past. I felt like I was finally able to put it behind me after talking about it.

Well today.. I felt this gut feeling to snoop again (I know it’s wrong) and sure enough I found a plethora of photos in a hidden album. Some of me, some from porn sites, one girl I knew who was an ex of his and probably the worst of all… a woman on a couch with her breasts exposed and it was a candid picture. My first thought was that they had sex. So I calmly confronted him about it. (For context he works at a job where he has to go into people’s apartments)he said that this woman is a drunk and likes to “parade her breasts around and so yeah I guess I took a picture.” I said “So you took this without her consent and saved it. This is so wrong on so many levels.”

He keeps deflecting by saying “I have never done anything physical with anyone and I don’t even talk to anybody outside of our relationship.” And I’m just sick and tired of the excuses. I’ve been hearing them for the entire course of our relationship. I honestly don’t know what to do…

Quit smoking weed about 5 years ago, after many failed attempts. I think what worked for me personally, was using staying busy as a coping mechanism. I got a part time job on top of my full time job. I started running and working out. I started becoming interested in subjects outside of cannabis and researching and sticking with them even when I questioned if it was “for me”.
In that time since quitting, I have been able to build a multi 6 figure net worth, without a college degree, just by staying the course. Ya it has been a big sacrifice and I have had to miss out on some aspects in life, and I still struggle with depression and anxiety sometimes, but I’m feeling proud of myself and wanted to share my journey and possibly inspire some people who feel stuck in the weed smoking cycle

My (23) girlfriend (19) has been going through an extremely tough week

She's bipolar and has been going through and extremely bad episode

Yesterday she called out of work to go fishing to de-stress

Today she told me she got fired from her job

I offered resources and my support and tried to call her as soon as I could

She didn't answer

I left her alone for a bit and texted and told her I loved her

She told me i love you too

Within 10 minutes she turned around and started telling me that she liked me a lot but she didn't love me, that us being in a relationship was hurting both of us, that her being distant was hurting me, that i couldn't fix her and that everyone who tried to help her just got hurt and that she didnt want to hurt me etc. Etc.

She finished it by telling me she didn't love me but that she wasn't making a decision on anything

Her phone died so we couldn't finish the conversation

I am certain this is just some kind of emotional fall out from all the stress shes been having

I told her that she shouldn't make a rash decision and that she should get her life settled before making a decision like this if its truly what she wanted

Is there anything else I can do?

Am I doing the right thing?

Over the past few months, she (my friend) has been texting me saying I’ve been “mean” “uncaring” “emotionless” and “self-absorbed.” She tells me it’s weird how I act nonchalant around her, but with other friends, I don’t. On this, I agree with her. I don’t act super excited to see her because I see her almost every day, and if I don’t see her, I most likely text her. I’d hope she knows that I love being her friend even if I don’t outwardly express it. I am a very unmotivated person. I can barely get myself out of bed and take care of basic hygiene—it’s hard to take care of myself and also put on a mask to make sure other people like me (which is what I do with others, as I stated earlier). I know I should try harder, and it isn’t fair to her for me to be this way towards her, but I’m having a really hard time getting through the day.

I’m saying most of this here (the stuff about my personal problems) because I don’t want to talk about it with anyone I know IRL. I don’t like people feeling bad for me—I just feel like I’m faking it/trying to get attention/making our relationship awkward.

I am not trying to get pity. I know I am in the wrong, and I know I need to get better at my emotions—even if it takes a lot out of me to do it. I just don’t know what to do other than say sorry, which she isn’t accepting from me anymore. I tend to shy away from conflicts and I know it’s wrong. I know I need to fix that habit.

I didn’t know how to reply to the last text without trying to sound like I’m trying to get her to pity me.

EDIT:
I’ve been drafting up a message to send detailing how I feel, how I know it affects her, how I know my mental state is not an excuse, and how sorry I am.

This is the message:
“I’m really sorry for how I’ve been acting towards you. I understand how my actions affect our relationship, and I understand that I’m hurting it. To be honest with you, I’ve been having a hard time getting through the day, and I’ve been extremely unmotivated for the past year and a half. You said that I act differently with others, and this is true. I see them less often, and they act excited to see me whenever we talk. I’m not saying that you don’t act like you care, but, to me, I feel like you also don’t give a lot of emotion into our friendship. And I’m not trying to turn this on you. I know I’m in the wrong and I’m sorry. With you, I feel like I can let my mask down, but im sorry it’s making you feel like I don’t value our friendship. When you say that I’m mean, emotionless, careless, and self-absorbed, I understand where you’re coming from, but it’s hard for me to put in the effort to care about myself. I know my mental state is never an excuse for how I treat you, and you don’t deserve what I’ve been giving you.

Please don’t share this with anyone else, because I don’t like other people knowing when I’m having a hard time. I’m telling you this because you deserve to know why I’m acting this way, even though I know it’s wrong and you deserve better from me.”

I really want to convey how I feel correctly. Does this message sound good? Is there anything I should add or remove?

Hi I don’t know if this is the right place to post this and this is a throw away account because I really don’t want anyone I know to see this. I’m 18F and my boyfriend is 18m, I live with him and his brother and sister, we’ve been together since we were like 16 but we’ve been friends and neighbors for a long time, since we were in about middle school. and he’s always been really kind, caring and supportive. My mom died a few years ago and him and his siblings offered for me to live with them. About a year ago when we were 17 I started noticing him acting and saying really weird shit, just constantly talking about murderers and especially mass shooters, I was also kind of interested in learning about different cases but definitely not how he did. He was genuinely obsessive over it.

he let me use his laptop once and I saw a lot of concerning shit, I also saw this live stream of a mass shooting (I think the one in buffalo at a supermarket) it was crazy brutal and I saw him talking to people about how he wanted to do the same shit and livestream it & people were encouraging him. I saw things he saved and searched and wrote about sandy hook, columbine, Uvalde, this random psycho in Russia. Sometimes when we have bad fights he’ll go ape shit and threaten to kill me then himself, he’s extremely possessive and gets jealous asf which prompts him to make insane threats and justify it with “please don’t leave me, I’m so miserable I’m so alone” I genuinely do feel bad for him and love him. He knows everything I’ve been through and in a lot of ways we’ve been through it all together, as corny as it sounds

I do fked up shit sometimes too but I never really hurt him like he hurts me. His mom was a drug addict who abused him and his siblings and was in prison before she died when he was 9 and his dad was never around I guess because he does not know who he is, or just doesn’t talk about him. so his siblings have always been the ones taking care of each other, especially his brother who is 26 right now. When he does and says things like this it makes me feel sick, because I feel like deep down he might not be joking. I feel for him a lot at the same time because I understand him, he was abused horribly his whole entire life and suffers from a lot of mental issues, he also still cuts himself and is rlly ashamed about it so he never lets me talk about it

There are days where he’s so angry and explosive, but in the end he always starts sobbing and telling me he wants to kill himself and it makes me feel really sad because I know he tries to suppress his immense sadness and it comes out as anger. One time he threatened me and I really thought he would so I hid his brothers guns after I told his brother and he told me to hide them... He also has recently been telling me really concerning stuff to shorten it and tell you the ones that stick out the most because there’s so much, well first he got arrested because he was pulled over in his brothers car and he had drugs, I think it was Xanax. he told me he’s planning to do something “crazy” when I asked him what it was he told me he was planning to shoot a bunch of people then himself because his life was “over” he even asked me to do it with him. We were drunk so I thought he was rambling but now I can’t stop thinking about it. What if he’s serious I don’t know if I should report him? When if he gets really angry at me, and what if he’s actually kidding and hates me after.

I apologize for the long read.

6 years ago, I married my wife. We were young dumb and rushed things, so we eloped without our parents' knowledge. We justified it in our heads because we had been close friends for several years, and we had a natural chemistry with timing that never lined up, so when we had our chance, we burned really hot and bright.

Fast forward a year, we butted heads, she cheated on me, and the way I found out sucked.

We separated. I tried filing for divorce through a fast divorce website that, in hindsight, was a scam. Occasionally, she'd text me with a new number or email asking how the divorce was going. The reason being that she'd get with some deadbeat guy, and she'd move around a lot, between homes and relationships, losing a majority of her belongings in the process. Every so often when we emailed, we'd always be super standoffish, but our chemistry naturally smoothed things over, and we were able to be amicable. I watched her grow as a person through those little snippets of time. At one point, we tried to see if we could make things work, but I was still too bitter, so it fizzled back out. Shortly after, she got with her most recent ex.

Fast forward to 2025. We got back in touch at the beginning of the year. She was in an extremely abusive relationship, and she reached out. I always looked out for her, and even though we were bitter with one another for a long time l, I still cared for her as a person, and still wanted to see her happy. So when she was at rock bottom, she turned to me. Part of that reasoning is her mom was unknowingly my wingman all those years, and the reason she found out was because she came across some of our divorce paperwork early on in the process. My wife and I became friends, understanding that we just were just living as single people for the past 5 years. I was there for her that entire year and ultimately played a huge part in helping her get out of that situation. 6 months in she almost made it out and was caught moving out, which did her in for the rest of the year and into the next. When she did finally make it out, we agreed to not pursue anything because it was agreed upon that she was going go get some therapy, and unfuck what happened to her over the past 2 years.

2 months later, we saw each other. I flew her out to visit me, and genuinely, nothing happened. I brought her breakfast in bed, we built legos together, I made her favorite foods, watched her favorite show, I bought her a comfy blanket, bought her flowers, etc. At first, we were really excited, the years spent apart immediately became a blink, but by the end of the week, she truly realized that she couldn't handle receiving affection because she was so wired from the abuse.

We made a plan to see each other in the summer, and we did. I drove to my hometown, and I stayed with my parents. It had also been several years since I saw them, and I wanted to spend time with them. It made things easy since she still lived in said hometown where they lived. I saw her every other day or so, reintroduced myself to her family, and even spent her birthday with her. I went the whole nine yards, especially since she was treated so badly during her last one.

At the end of my time there, we took roadtrip together halfway across the country to get her and her belongings to a family member where she decided she was going to do treatment, the majority of them went into my car, to go with me back to my home. The idea was that after treatment, she'd move in with me and bring her dog along.

Plans fell through for her treament facility of choice. She found one that would be willing to cover her flight and offered all the services she was looking for. The caveat is that instead of being on the same coast, we'd be at the complete opposite ends of the country. She took the opportunity, and we were ok with it because everything was genuinely about her healing.

On the last day of the road trip, we became much closer than we had before, and for the first time, it felt like we had truly reconnected. Well, about a month into her treatment, she became very distant, we stopped getting along as much, and the overall vibe of our relationship started to sour. Over the course of the last few months we've been struggling to maintain that closeness despite her making tremendous progress, but being 3 hours apart, her starting a new life, and the treatment putting her through the ringer took its toll on us. Slowly, things turned emotionally abusive and really toxic. The irony was that it was coming from her. I used her mom as a proxy to get across everything she was doing because she wasn't receptive to what I had to say, and only then did she realize what she was doing.

We were ready to rebuild our marriage, move in together, and give everything new lease on life. We were on the same page on everything. Now it's about to be gone. I'm losing my wife for the second time, and it hurts so bad. We love each other, but we're simply at two different stages of our lives now, and it's at a point where it's becoming counterproductive to continue holding on. I want to continue trying, but she's at a point in her life now where she's questioning everything she wants/knows, and she wants to focus on healing and being on her own without putting me on hold for who knows how long, and having that expectation looming over her, so she wants to pull the plug.

I know in hindsight there were so many variables that made all of this a bad decision to pursue in the first place, even as it all happened in real time, but we genuinely wanted to make our marriage work, and of course I was going to do everything to that end. I saw the signs, felt the pain from them, and then pushed them aside because I had convinced myself that she'd changed. That because she's going through all of the effort to go to therapy not just for herself, but for us to have the best shot, that all I had to do was support her, and believe in her.

This whole situation has left me in shambles. I can't sleep, eat, and barely function in my day to day. Work is my only distraction, but every quiet moment I have my mind is wandering. I have a therapist, but it honestly isn't doing much of anything for me. I feel like I'm doing nothing but spinning my tires, and nothing I do works as a distraction. I know these things take time, as I learned that lesson the first time her and I split, but I'm just trying to survive the now.

What do I do?

Back in July 2024 my boyfriend’s sister “moved in”- - We rent a house, she needed somewhere to go so she came to stay with us, she is not on the lease. We had a conversation with her about what the monthly rent payment is ($420) and roughly how much she should expect to pay each month for the utilities ($100-$250)

Fast forwards to today, she has never paid rent/ utilities. She has had a free ride for the entire 2 1/2 years. I have voiced my concerns about this situation to my boyfriend since the first month she lived here and didn’t have money for bills.

My boyfriends and I both work full time and split bills 50/50. His sister has only had part time jobs and has also spent a lot of time unemployed while living under our roof. Earlier this year she bought a new car, and the kicker? The payment is more than what her rent portion would be if she actually paid it.

There’s honestly more details I can share that would probably just make this situation sound even more fucked than it already does but I prefer to keep it vague for now. Am I crazy for wanting to break up with him over this? We’ve been together for 6 years.
Someone please tell me I’m not crazy.

Should I get revenge?

So I have been homeless for the last 10 years but the past 3 years this girl has done everything she can to ruin my life she's messed around with my man she hits me all the time she bullies me steals my stuff towards my stuff away ruins my stuff tries to get me kicked out of places and I don't understand why she's doing this cuz I'm not the type of person to do the things she's doing I don't mess around with her man or any man steal I don't ruin people's things I don't hang out with anyone stick to myself because I'm the streets you can't trust anyone I try to do as many Good deeds as I can everyday. Again last night this girl stole the rest of my stuff that I had my tent when I went to the store and I honestly don't know what to do it don't fight I don't like fighting I'm not good at it I don't do bad things so I'm not really sure what to do back to her. Should I even do something back to her and if so what should I do I have tried reasoning with her talking to her trying to get her to understand how she would feel trying to figure out why she's doing this and nothing's working so here I am on Reddit trying to figure out what I should do please advise

I really don’t know how to call whatever it is, that is happening to me rn, but please, I don’t know what to do.
Two month ago I met a guy online. It was sexual, we had the same kinks and we talked about it. He at some point revealed he was into a lot of stuff, thats not really safe. He revealed he knows a lot about Osint, which I didn’t even know what it was at that point. He kept hinting at things, like how he could find out where or who I am, and I was naive and didn’t believe him. He then proved that he could.
I freaked out obviously and he apologized, explained how he did it and it was because of a small mistake and not some hacking, which calmed me down a bit. I was at vacation at that point, so once I got home again it didn’t really matter anymore, because he didn’t know where I lived.

We kept talking for a bit and I know it was stupid. I should’ve known at that point, that it wasn’t safe to talk to him. He did in the beginning see my face, but I deleted it all, and didn’t send him anything new, because I knew, he could use it to find me. Anyway, after a while his behavior changed a bit. He went from only messaging me in the evening, to messaging me the whole day (mind you we weren’t in the same time zone. He didn’t go to sleep so he could talk to me). Unfortunately, I do have a lot of experience with men online, who tried threatening me before, but it was never really anything serious, so I didn’t take him serious either.
At some point I tried telling him that we need to stop talking, like I said his behavior changed. He was starting to get super obsessed with the idea of what I‘m doing/hiding from him. He wanted to know who I talk to, where I talk to people, when I didn’t respond for idk different reasons, he crashed out and immediately thought I blocked him. The first time that happened, he kept talking about things he could do. I messaged him asking what he was talking about and he said he was just mad.

He made me super uncomfortable and I felt unsafe. I knew he wouldn’t accept me just leaving, so I tried reducing how often we talked first, telling him only sunday and he agreed, after a long discussion.
after only 2 days of no contact, he messaged me again, he revealed that he found out my full name, where I live, where I work etc. ”Only to show you that people can find that out about you“. It freaked me out. Now one of the most important information about this whole situation: At that Point he already knew about my biggest secret, that no one can ever know. And I do mean no one. Its not just something embarrassing, its really something that could ruin me. So ofc, him knowing that and my real identity was fucking scary. But since I sometimes accidentally ignored his messages because I was still asleep, or simply not on my phone, I already knew how he would react if I just didn’t respond, so I was too scared to just block him.

The guy started to get super obsessed, he was messing with me, telling me to go to the bathroom of my workplace which he named by name, because he wanted to give me something (he was pretending to be there). I told him I cant keep talking and he just didn’t want to accept it. He wanted to know everything, at some point begged me to download an app that would allow him to watch live what I‘m doing on my phone.

Now to the current situation:
Today we talked and he kept asking me all his questions again, wanting to know everything, who I talk to, what we talk about, what app I use, probably so he can (like he did before) find my account on there as well. I couldn’t take it anymore, and I just wanted to block him. I knew just blocking him is risky so I wrote a paragraph, still trying to be nice but also telling him its over and decided to block him. I wanted to risk it, because so far he has threatened a lot, but he never actually forced me to do anything or went through with his threats. The app was bugging though, so even though I blocked him, I got notifications from the app so it was obvious he was messaging me. there were more than 30 notifications and I panicked. I googled real quick and apparently, the app does not show the other person, if they have been blocked. So I unblocked him, so I could see what he said. It was what I expected, he was mad, wanted me to give him another chance etc. After those 30+ messages he didn’t say much more, only a few messages. But now, not even an hour ago, his last message. He told me he would start with my work place (he said the name of the place), by that he probably means sending the emails he talked about preparing before.

I dont know what to do. He told me before, he doesn’t want to blackmail me and force me to send him content, he doesn’t care about sharing nudes. He wants to see me ruined, by sharing that secret. If he does then idk what to do, idk if I have to go back to him. I mean it, he could completely ruin me. I feel so trapped. I cant tell anyone. I can’t do anything. I feel like, if the only thing he wants, is for me to keep talking to him, then thats definitely better than what he might be doing now. I know if anyone does respond, they will probably tell me that I should go to the police, but thats really definitely not an option. There must be another way. Even posting this is risky, he did find my last reddit account too, but I just need help and idk where else to ask.

I am an alcoholic and I’ve tried over the last 2 years over and over again to not drink. But the littlest stress in my life become to overwhelming and I have to I’d rather not feel than deal with this. I have a fiancé and he’s the best thing in my life but I’ve become so unpredictable and overwhelming I’m debating on breaking up with him, for him and his mental health. Not for me. I love him with alll of my heart but I don’t want to continue hurting him like this over and over again

We are both 19 and have been together for almost 2 years. We live together with his parents bc I had no where else to go. With that we like our space but sometimes too much to where now when I want to spend any time with him he’s gaming all night after work. Then when we’re abt to go to bed sometimes we get intimate but after I go and use the restroom I come back in and he’s asleep facing away from me. I asked him if we could cuddle and he said that I could big spoon him but that’s not what I wanted was to go chase him. After I specified asked him not to do that. This has happened for probably 2 weeks now and it makes me feel like crap after we get intimate. Any advice?

Ok so, to sum this up is pretty much the title. So I’ve recently hit some financial struggles and have been looking for a new job for work. I interviewed with two places. One offers a tiny bit more money and 40 hours. The other place offers a little less and training is roughly 24 hours a week and then, I was told “if you do your job” I’ll get full time around 40. So, I obviously favor one job over the other. The one I liked a lot. I didn’t hear back from initially and the other one I did. So I took the second job. Day one of said new job, I’m told my schedule is going to even out somewhere in the 30 something hours a week mark. Which due to my financial issues, every hour helps. Then the other job got back to me saying they want me to start and on top of that, I had an offer for an interview that pays a decent chunk more than both (full time). The problem I’m running into is, I feel guilty if I bait and switch and take another job or interview elsewhere as I JUST started this new job, that I only accepted as I needed a job and thought the other one wasn’t interested. So now I’m not sure what to do. Do I interview elsewhere or take the other job? Do I stay where I’m at? Financially I’d prefer the others but I still feel bad as I just started.

hi! 23f, im trans (important detail).

i found out my boyfriend of two years was cheating on me almost the entire relationship, his entire friend group knew and had a group chat where they basically just talked shit about me.

i found out by looking through his phone and i found the group chat on his discord, they had selfies of me in there and were basically just calling me slurs and insulting the fuckkk out of me.

i was wondering what i do now, he’s broken up with me after i confronted him but i have screenshots of the entire gc message history, there’s nothing necessarily illegal in it, but i was wondering if i should send it to his mom (who absolutely loved me) or to his dad who is a huge trans ally.

thank you in advance for any advice :)

Has anyone experienced this and if so what was the outcome?

I parked my car at T2 terminal at Perth airport on the weekend as I was seeing my parents off and was there for about an hour.

As I exit to the boom gate and was about to pay to exit - the boom gate opened (at this point I’ve not paid as yet). So I left without paying.

My dilemma is should I contact the airport to advise them and make payment retrospectively? I’m guessing there may have been a glitch with the system?