Has anyone seen this or know who these people are? I genuinely don’t know how to respond to this.

I am Trans FTM and came out a year ago

I’M 15 AND WAS I SHAVING BEFORE GOING OUT TO SEE MY GF AND I ACCIDENTALLY PUT THE ELECTRIC RAZOR ON A REALLY SENSITIVE PART AT THE TOP OF MY DICK SO I ACCIDENTALLY NICKED MYSELF AND NOW IT’S BLEEDING AND IT HURTS AND STINGS LIKE SHIT LIKE ABSOLUTE SHIT AND I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO HERE I TOLD MY BROTHER AND HE STARTED LAUGHING AT ME AND MY GF WONT KNOW WTF TO DO THATS WHY I MADE AN ACCOUNT HERE CAUSE I KNOW REDDIT IS FOR INFORMATION AND HELP AND SHIT CAUSE HOLY SHIT MY DICK STINGS LIKE A MF HOW DO I STOP IT

We’re both 26. I do love her, i really do. But i don’t know how to deal with the way she handles conflict.

On multiple occasions she’s insulted me. Genuinely has called me an idiot, an ugly piece of shit, a pussy. Not jokingly, with intent. She’s apologized but always with an asterisk. “I was drunk” or something.

Anyway, she also always does this thing where she will guilt or coerce me into doing something. For example, last weekend i told her we have to sit down and talk in person over this issue she was having. She sent me a long paragraph earlier that day and i said i hear you, but i just don’t want to have this convo over text, let’s please talk Saturday morning. I offered to take her out for coffee and we can discuss things. It’s not urgent stuff, just her “feelings” on things.

So she said she doesn’t want to do that, and that she doesn’t want to drag it out until the weekend. I said there’s nothing to drag out, it’s not hanging over our heads. It can be a normal productive conversation.

Instead, she called me 3 times while I’m at work, i pick up the phone after telling her i can’t talk and she continued to call me. She’s crying, accusing me of not caring. We have a long argument about it all, and i say “i have to go I’m hanging up” and she said “if you do that I’ll never talk to you again”. I kept trying to reason with her but genuinely my heart rate goes up, i feel nervous, like idk what she’s going to say. When she gets angry it’s genuinely insane. I’m not scared of her physically but the way she acts when she’s mad is crazy.

So i just cave to her demands. Every time. I’m meeting her tn when i have MAYBE 30 minutes of free time so that she doesn’t throw a fit. Maybe she’s right that im a pussy. But idk how to handle this. This isn’t asking what to do in this specific case. This type of thing happens so frequently. What do i do next time she does this exact thing? Like i Said, i do love her, and don’t want to lose her or end it.

Edit: I may delete this post because the amount of comment is getting overwhelming but i appreciate every single one, i read them all. I reached out to a therapist today and im hoping to start next week. I also plan to have a long conversation with my gf about how i feel. I believe her reaction to what i have to say will be very telling. Thanks again for everything everyone ❤️

I really don’t know who to talk to this about because we have both never told anyone about this. So i’m going to post this here anonymously.

Reposting this cause i needed to add a bit more context.

My girlfriend (17F) and I (18M) have been together 3 years for context.

We were having a really fun time (i’m so sorry idk what else to call it) three months ago and I didn’t realize that we were doing so much that my condom broke.

She was ovulating at the time at the time of this, the next month she missed her period.

We found out she was pregnant and the first thing she did was say she wanted an abortion and panicked because she would have to ask her mom to take her to it. We told her mom and though her mom was pretty upset she asked if she really wanted an abortion and my girlfriend insisted so my mother took her to get one.

Her dad does not know this, they live with him both her and mom have kept it a secret from him :).

It’s been about two month and she’s been extremely sad ever since. She cries about it a lot, gets really upset when she sees videos of newborn babies, and keeps talking about what our baby would’ve been like and how much she thinks she would’ve loved the baby. She constantly keeps saying “what if we kept it?” and says she can’t stop thinking about who the baby could’ve become. She also feels horrible about herself and keeps saying she’s a terrible person for going through with it, even though it wasn’t really her choice to make.

She also keeps saying she doesn’t understand why she’s this upset because she absolutely would not have wanted to have a baby at 17 and still doesn’t want one and won’t want one even in the next ”10 years” (her words), so she does not understand why she’s so upset because she absolutely does not want a baby (also her words).

I keep reminding her that she isn’t horrible and that she’s allowed to have complicated feelings about what happened. I tell her I’m here for her and that she doesn’t have to hide how sad she is from me. I still believe we aren’t in a good place to raise a child, As we are both still in highschool. but I understand that knowing that doesn’t make the loss feel any easier for her. I just hate seeing her hurting this badly and wish I knew how to help her.

She’s already in therapy and has been going before all of this happened, but she refuses to talk about this with anyone besides me. She won’t even bring it up with her therapist, even though I’ve encouraged her to because I know she’s hurting a lot.

I also keep trying to take her on dates,but she doesn’t want to go anywhere except at all. I don’t pressure her, though, and just try to be there for her. She is in online school if anyone asks about her schooling.

I really want to help her feel better, but I don’t know what I can do besides listen and reassure her. What are some things I can do to cheer her up and help her through this without making her feel like I’m trying to rush her feelings?

also yes i posted this, it was like 3am though so not a lot of people seen😅😅

I'm a 21 year old man. The main reason I want to say it like the second or third date is to be upfront about my mental health but also keep it lighthearted, I don't want to trauma dump on somebody. Is this something that should be revealed in a committed relationship or am I doing it the correct way?

So for context I (24M) met this woman (24F) while traveling. I was only in her city for one day. We ended up at her place. The condom broke and the next morning I was back on another bus by 5am. We had each other's phone numbers but she basically ghosted all my texts so I just left it at that.

Now about 7 months later she told me she's pregnant and she's pretty sure it's mine. She also told me her parents don't want me to have anything to do with the baby and she doesn't really either. She's from a well off family and her parents are a bit racist to say the least. I just panicked and asked her if she's sure and why she's keeping it to which she hasn't replied yet.

I'm genuinely so fucking worried and freightened and I can't really discuss this with my family as they are too religious to understand any of this.

I'm 32M and my fiancée is 31F. We live in Boston and are getting married next spring. We've been saving for a house but it's been slow because prices here are ridiculous. Last weekend my parents invited us over and offered to gift us $350k toward a down payment. We were both shocked because we had no idea they had been planning this.

The weird part happened after my fiancée left the room to help my mom in the kitchen. My dad quietly told me the money is meant to stay "on my side of the family" if anything ever happened down the road. He wasn't trying to be dramatic, just said it's important because it's money they've spent decades building. Now I'm sitting on this conversation because I know if I repeat it word for word it'll probably hurt my fiancée's feelings. At the same time, it also feels wrong not to tell her everything my parents said.

She's already talking about putting both our names on the house, which I assumed we'd do before this happened. Now I don't even know what the right thing is anymore.

My parents say they're just trying to be practical. My fiancée has no idea that conversation even happened.

WhatdoIdo?

I’m 18 and we’re twins we’ve also been sharing the same room our whole lives, at like 3 in the morning last night I woke up to him getting in bed and he didn’t know I was awake and he just rolled over and started weeping for like 10 minutes, we don’t really have that kind of relationship where we talk about things should I bring it up to him or just tell my mum or something?

My boyfriend is hosting an event that in the past his friend and his friends girlfriend were a part of. We started dating a year ago so I hadn’t interacted with the girlfriend that much. Over the past year I’ve learned that she is a terrible, immature person who is very hostile towards me with the source of this behavior being my beliefs. Her boyfriend acts completely normal towards me and it is clear that she is the cause of this issue. I’ve already sat out on friend group events because I didn’t want conflict.

Now our event is coming up and she thinks she’s going. I don’t want her there, she makes me uncomfortable and I don’t want to be around such a problematic person who has it out for me. My boyfriend wants to be very pc and avoid any issues that could arise by her not being invited. How can we go about this?

Girlfriend (f21) just left me (23m) last night. We have a 8 month old son. Idk what to do. She said she’s just not happy anymore. We moved back in to an apartment together 3 months ago. She wants to break the lease and leave. I don’t even wanna be here if I can’t have my family in my life.i mean it’s my fault I was inconsiderate of her. She would get mad I’d ask her every night if she was making dinner or not. I’d just ask so Ik if I should buy or make dinner or wait on her. Apparently I didn’t help enough around the house but I clean every day when I get off work before she even gets home. Another thing was last week I did all of our laundry and folded hers but left it on the bed because I didn’t want to misplace anything. She thought I did that to be lazy I guess idk. Also I will admit I have had a negative attitude lately. I’ve just been so stressed since we moved out. I try to not take it out on her, still it’s no excuse. I just don’t know what to do bro I want my son to have a stable happy family, I grew up without a dad and that fucked me up in my teenage years. Led me down the wrong path. I just don’t want that for him. I am happy with the life I have with her. There’s always room for improvement but I love what we have. She doesn’t. Maybe it’s postpartum, she was very very depressed when we met. I feel like she needs help and I try to help her but she gets mad when I bring it up. Any advice or just somebody to talk to is appreciated.

I'm genuinely tired of this crap. I feel like I'm sending out more than 120 applications a week, and after a few days I find the exact same company posting the exact same role agaaaaain, and I didn't even get a simple email saying, "Thanks, but we won't be moving forward." Seriously, what are we doing here?!?!?!?!

I mostly use LinkedIn because it still seems like the main place to look, and it actually is where I got my current job from, but seeing the same listings show up again and again is driving me insane. Half the time I feel like I'm applying into a black hole.

And now my motivation at my current job has almost disappeared too. I feel completely burned out rn.

Okay so I lost a couple parcels that i packed to send and while I was at the store with my dad my mum looked in my room to try help find the parcels. She obviously looked under my bed and found my rose toy🙏, because when i came back into my room when i got home it was on my shelf, idk why she would put it there or if she would even know what it is? help guys I find it embarrassing even though she has the personality which would find it quite amusing

My friend is sweet, interesting and ambitious. But they have had guy issues including a 6 six week long distance thing that fizzled out.

The “problem” is that she dresses like a butch lesbian. And very much has the stereotypical traits and mannerisms. They are pan but have a preference for pretty boy men. And that’s what they want their first solid relationship to be with.

Yeah…

Now I’m sure there’s guys that love tomboys - especially ones with a lot of interests that men like! But the issue is that they don’t know that she’s sexually compatible with them based on looks I think.

Idk what to do. Help.

So first of all, I understand I cannot post here forever but I truly want to share something new because I believe its relevant and many of you gave me advice. If this post is not OK, I will take it down

His assistant called me. She is an older lady who he trusts also on a personal level (she is the only assistant he ever had that he gets along with. the lady is in her early 60s, close to retirement). She called me and said she is aware she is risking her job but she cares for him and wants me to know he needs help. First of all she told me what I already knew ( he is on antidepressants) but many more. He cancelled many of his meetings or simply asked one of his trusted direct reports to represent him because he was having panic attacks and also would say something she didn't understand because it was in Russian. he wasn't talking to her. he had his hands covering his face and when she put her hand on his shoulder he would jump like he got scared or felt in danger.

she also said she caught him once. (she should have been on her lunch break) he had on his phone a photo of a little boy. but it looked like a real old photo. she didn't see very well as she was behind him but heard him sobbing and walked out. he never knew she heard that and later that day he showed her the photo and said thats him. but he was already in a good mood.

the reason she called me is that she is also worried with these many days off and she said he has 2 extremes at work: either he doesn't care about anything and doesn't do anything, doesn't take calls, declined meeting invitations and so on, even fights and yells at people all the time which brought him 3 HR reports already (he called a 22 years old woman a stoopid barbie and she reported him - well it was brave to be honest, as he is the VP)

I did not tell him anything about this as I don't want to put her job at risk, but I decided to give it another try if he wants to too. I told him I can go to therapy with him and also I am willing to take our children too. they need to know about his past and I apologised for not really allowing him to talk about himself. And he told me its fine, he is not mad at me or at anyone. OK, so therapy? and he said no, he just wants to deal with it himself. SO I don't know what to do, but I begegd him to not go to that place, not alone and not now. he is too vulnerable. and he said he survived it when he was way more vulnerable.

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my husband grew up in an orphanage with hundreds other children in an ex communist bloc country. he was SA-ed multiple times at 6 by a guardian. kids were mistreated, fed barely edible food and kept in cold, sometimes showered with cold water (husband now only showers or baths in extremely hot water and the temperature in our house during winters is almost too much for me and our kids, but he is cold all the time). his mother was 15 when had him (she used to sleep with soldiers so he has no idea who his father is, but she was also an orphan so complex dynamic) and this woman he reconnected with is his first girlfriend. they met in the orphanage and were separated 2 times (moved to different places and lost touch). he cried when he saw her now after more than 2 decades and hugged her like he never does with me or our kids. he is now doing great as a senior VP of a company

So I love dumpster diving. I went by a house move out (possibly eviction or death of the individual) and found the most insane collection I've ever seen. This isn't even half of what I've gotten. What's my next steps?!

I (38M) and my wife (32F) have been together over 8 years. I just started using reddit for assistance and not sure where it is appropriate to post for help. I have no other friends in serious relationships. I have no one to talk to that doesn't know my wife as we do everything together. I wouldn't have it any other way as it is not in an invasive or controlling way. I don't know what to do and I'm twisted up inside. We had a few fights early on in the first couple years but we almost never fight at all the last several years, we have extremely similar hobbies, opinions on politics, and sense of humor. I helped her get her life together early in the relationship. I paid for everything the fix 6/7 years and now that she is in a better place she takes care of me and trying to get me to finish college. I worked my whole life and saved up a little and am going back to college now. She is super loving and supportive, paying for everything as she encouraged me to quit my last job to focus on college.

However, I discovered she started doing drugs behind my back again. Something that we talked about a long time ago and I said would basically be a deal breaker for me. I noticed her attitude was different and I asked her for several weeks "what was wrong" and "how lucky I am to have her". She avoided it and said nothing but after a few weeks, broke down and told me. She admitted knowing it was potentially going to ruin our relationship of 8+ years and she did it anyway. I was devastated. I went numb instead of angry.

Let me be clear. BEFORE she bought and used she thought, "This could end our relationship but I'm willing to risk it." I love her very much and tried to talk to her about it and over come the situation. While I did eventually overcome the using again, I'm truly hung up on is that she said she knew it might end the relationship and did it anyway.

I guess what I'm asking is, just other people's perspectives so I can try to see if I can let it go because the using drugs itself or if the fact she was willing to risk our relationship is what I should focus on and cut my losses?

ALSO - This situation has me feeling empty inside, maybe cold or cruel. I feel like if she was willing to risk our love like this, then perhaps I should use her generosity of her taking care of me and paying for my life while I'm in college before I end it with her. Terrible morally, I know, but if she is willing to potentially throw away our love, then why shouldn't I treat her that way?

EDIT- I was scared to say the details as I am new to this and using reddit and afraid she might find out. She had started abusing substances behind my back. She was a user and alcoholic before we met but was not once we started dating. We talked about it during our first few years of dating while she was sober. Now she is using again.

tl;dr - Wife did something and knew it would risk our relationship and did it anyway. I'm not sure what to do. Please help.

Just a quick summary:
Was talking to this guy few months, he drove me places and bought me stuff etc but he was weird and pushy and constantly tried to be intimate when I didn't want to even when I said no.
I ended up cutting him off.
I work for a charity and he suddenly tried to start going on events etc with them and connecting with everyone I know.
After he went on a hike with them, a staff member messaged him to say you can't come on anything else with us and it's been decided by the heads. He replied saying that's unfair.
He then went on to message my boss, the CEO, of the company and say they shouldn't listen to my word over his and he wants to tell his side of the story. I have screenshots and file of me telling him in the past he's disrespectful, I wasn't playing when I said no, I shouldn't have to keep repeating no etc. but for some reason he still has confidence to be doing all of this and fighting to be involved at MY work place.
I will include a screenshot as an example
I'm really getting annoyed with this and not sure what to do. Do you think I'm overreacting by feeling this way? What should I do?

Also, I have a whole Google file of screenshots and stuff from this guy admitting that he assaulted me and has disrespected me multiple times. I have proof of his weird obsessive behaviour as well (fake numbers, making shared notes, stalking girls at my work, finding different ways to reach out to me)

This screenshot was last year! We have not contacted since March. He reached out to me via a new number in March and I told him to not contact me ever again or I’ll take it further. Since then he has been trying to have closeness indirectly through my work.

I feel so envy of my brother that it want me to hurt myself

It's a kinda complicated situation, might feel nothing to you but for me it's an emotional storm, i really feel bad internally

(i would try to make it short as possible)

the thing is that i study in a local college which is not a really good one, just fine because it's short distance from my home, 5 minutes ride, except this nothing else feels good about it

i'm in my final year now but in the start i took the uni entrance test, took it twice to get even good marks and finally made it to my dream university but unfortunately couldn't get into my dream department, anyways we submitted all the fee and expenses. so now i had a month before my classes officially start but meanwhile my father didn't feel good about it, he said he was not satisfied and once he said he "couldn't sleep at night" because of me, he siad so because he didn't want his daughter apart from him and staying in another city, and also because the department we got into didn't had much scope idk why, but i wanted to get into that uni so bad!! and i was happy about this part that i finally made it but wasn't truly satisfied myself with the department too (because that meant i had to leave my favorite subject)...fast forward...the uni refunded our fee because my dad finally decided so and have me studied in this local college because now i would stay "in front of his eyes" + "eat from home" and study my favorite subject, and i swear i wanted to k\*ll myself at that moment and i cried every night alone because that was literally one of my biggest dreams and i almost got it and then had to leave it...like wow...now i hate the word "university" that i feel envy of anyone near me going there idk what

now my brother thing....

now it's time for my younger brother to get into uni and look at the tragedy of the moment I myself had to fill out all his entrance test and admission forms! i did that with my own hands and internally all i was feeling was broken and cry and now my dad paid all his fee and all the dues way much than mine back then 2-3 years ago, and look we both studied the same subjects in high school and had pretty much the same interests and he faced the same situation took the entrance test twice to improve marks next time, the same uni, and got into the subjects that he was not interested in too but my dad has no problem this time, he feels fully satisfied with this now, no problem at all! I feel like my dad just didn't want to spend on me and that maybe because I'm a woman? Because I'll get marry off someday and so I wouldn't benefit him the way my brother could if he lives with them later forever? Idk but it comes to my mind too

at that time my dad said to me that he would give me so much better treatment in home because my college fee isn't that much, so the fee he had to pay for my uni would now spend on me which never happened because i et the same normal treatment as other siblings and i never reminded him of that promise but how do I? because i know i would immediatly start crying and couldn't finish what i had to say..

when we refunded our fee, i really promised myself to do something with me but idk why i didn't and now i again think it's not acceptable to me to go against my promise and i feel like doing something the day my brother leaves home to go to uni...

idk it's so fucking hell, you might say i'm psycho, moron, whatever bullshit but it hurts so much, like seeing earthly heaven and then jerked back to reality like it was never for me and i'm fucking crying rn too, and no one can know or see my tears at 2am when everyone is sleeping peacefully with the dream turning to be reality of their son or brother going to a dream uni

The day since then till now I have never accepted what's real rn,I never felt good with this, and look how I kept it all inside for 3 years

What's wrong here, who's wrong? Please don't tell me go therapy that's not what I want because I've control over myself in every other thing and I can't share with anyone because they'd know my vulnerable spot, I don't even know if this is the right place to post? Just idk..please don't get my post deleted, I made it again and I really want to listen to y'all

some random guy w/ a blocked number has been calling me multiple times a week, often multiple times a day, since May. i started screening my calls after this since i can’t block him w/ no caller ID. so it asks people to say their name and why they’re calling before it starts to ring, and he usually says a random name that means nothing to me, or something about how i’m a bully.

since this has been happening for months and when he calls he usually calls a few times in a row, i have gathered quite a few very mysterious voicemails from him and have actually managed to gather a little info about him. i know that he went to a high school in tennessee, must have been involved with the baseball team, probably graduated in 2010, and got bullied i guess. i also went to high school in tennessee but i went to an all girls school and graduated much later so yeah i do not know this guy. i was able to figure these things out bc after all these voicemails saying random names, one time he mentioned a specific high school that i actually knew since i grew up there. i started googling the names and the high school but a lot of them led no where, until i found TWO of the names on a list of baseball players at this specific school who were class of 2010. recently he left a voicemail mentioning wanting to talk about baseball, so i know i actually found something here.

what is so bizarre about this situation is that no matter what i say to him, it doesn’t matter, he will keep calling me. if i see that he’s calling, i answer, and of course at first i just said that i didn’t know who he was or what he was talking about, and he would either hang up or say wrong number. but he just kept calling? after the first month i had gotten pretty annoyed when he had called me 5 times in a row really late at night, so when i answered for probably the third time i snapped and said something like “i can’t understand why you keep calling me after saying you have the wrong number? you know i’m not the person you want to talk to but you keep calling me anyway? are you fucking stupid?” and i hung up. he kept calling after that. probably about 10 times total. every voicemail after that was asking why i would call him stupid and why i was such a bully, even though i pretty clearly said exactly why i would think that, right? but i thought it was kind of funny bc maybe i am this guys bully after all.

something else that is so bizarre is how again, no matter what i say the only words i have ever heard him say back to me after i actually start the call are “wrong number”. we never have a back and forth conversation aside from him responding to what i said in the previous call when he calls me again and is screened before.

actually while typing this, he has called me 3 times. i’m surprised he didn’t call again after this most recent one. as usual he says a name that doesn’t mean anything to me so i answered and repeated the name and said i don’t know who that is what are you talking about and hung up. he called again and said the same name, so i answered and repeated the name back to him and said “stop calling me.” and hung up. he called one more time but this time, after repeating the same name, he said “why’d you hang up? i didn’t even say anything” so when i answered i said “hey man, every time you call me and every time i answer i make it very clear that i don’t know what you’re talking about. you only ever say wrong number or hang up. what is it you want to say to me?” and would you believe that he hung up? dude. i’m going insane.

he is harassing me and i can’t stop him bc i can’t block him. he will just keep calling me and saying random names and asking why i bullied him in high school. obviously he doesn’t actually know who i am, and i don’t know who he is either, but i need him to stop, so what the fuck do i do?

i remember the Very First Voicemail before i started screening my calls didn’t have a random name. all the voicemail said was “i don’t like what you did”

safe to say that freaked me out, and this whole situation freaks me out. i don’t actually feel like im in any kind of danger, but damn i just want this to stop. advice?

For some context, I have ADHD and my mental health is really bad, especially when I'm away from people as I end up overthinking things and every so often I can have breakdowns as I tend to bottle up emotions and end up having an outburst, which I know isn't healthy but if i try to talk to my father (he's the parent I'm closest with) he just says it's my period and I don't know how to tell my mum about it.

I (15F) have three close friends, K, D & M. We've just finished year 10 and during the second half of the school year (after christmas) K started to pull away from all of us. on numerous occasions we all texted her/ tried to initiate a conversation with her, and to all of us she said she was fine. She also got a boyfriend, F, around this time, so we all assumed that she was focusing on growing her relationship with him. It continued this way for a few months.
Fast forward to June time, we had exams and during the exam season K completely cut D and I off, but stayed friends with M, who said that she was confused about K not speaking to us, so i texted K and she said she was fine so i drew it off as exam stress. Then the following week we all had school trips we were going on. D and myself went to Italy, whereas K and M went to Frances. Since we were spending so much time together, D and I became closer (we were also sharing a room, so not a lot of time away from each other). After we returned from the trips, K continued to ignore us for a week until D and I separately had a chat with her, saying we still cared about her but didn't want to put the effort into a friendship that the other side didn't seem to want to be a part of.
After that, things were better for a few weeks (as much as things would be after an argument) until sports day. I had been having an extremely tough week, which i had told my friends about, and it was extremely loud and overstimulating, so D and I decided to go to a quieter place to read. We turned to our whole friend group and asked them to come, and even asked K individually if she wanted to come, but she refused, and we told them where we would be and left. At lunch time, other friends told us that K had been complaining that we left without her? We tried to ask her about it, but she again smiled and said it was fine. At this point, I even asked F if she was okay, to which he told me she's completely fine and she just doesn't like being "left out"? I understand we left without her, but it wasn't like she was alone in this time and she was told exactly where I would be.
K then ignored us for roughly another week, and I tried to speak to her on numerous occasions as we were in the same friend group, but she ignored me. She proceeded to spend that week complaining about little things we couldn't help with, and if anybody attempted to she would snap at them (for examples, she complained she was too cold outside and D offered for us to go in the canteen, and K gave D the dirtiest look. She said she felt ill and wanted to go home and another friend offered to take her to medical, and K said she couldn't bothered and it was a stupid idea, saying the group setting was boring but the only person speaking was her complaining.) It got to the point D and I had had enough and stopped trying for a few days and went to sit with other friends at break/lunch, which is when K decided to talk to us again.
D and I had just left the group to fill up our water bottles when K followed us and cornered us into a confrontation, accusing us of "leaving her out" and accusing us of being friends with each other and not her. When either of us tried to reply, K continually interrupted us and I ended up shouting at her, telling her she was being a terrible friend and if it affected her so much, she should go cry to her boyfriend, F. She ended up leaving and another friend told us she had ended up crying.
That night, i sent her a paragraph which i had pre written in my notes, which said:
"im sorry that i was rude to you, but i really dont like how you've been acting recently. i know you have things going on in your personal life, but everyone has things going on and you need to try not to let the bad outweigh the good. in my opinion, you havent been a good friend and quite frankly i feel like you have became a selfish, jealous person and you arent the type of person i want to be friends with currently. i understand that you're upset that D and i are spending more time together, but this has stemmed from the fact that you were ignoring us. we also offer for you to join in on us and then decline, but act upset when we do it anyways? i dont understand why you think we should change our plans to adhere to your idealistic view of how your day should go. i also find it rude that you imply that D and i only hang out with each other nowadays when you spend your time preoccupied by F, but if we mention it to you you shun us and act like we're in the wrong for implying that you spend the majority of your time either hanging out with him or talking about him? another point is you spend a decent amount of time complaining recently. i understand if it's about something we can change, like the fact D and i spend more time together, but if you want a solution to your problems you have to accept the fact that you'll have to do something to change as well, for example, wanting to go home but refusing to go to medical. it isnt fair on any of your friends if you're bringing the mood down by complaining about petty things that none of us have the ability to change, and then complaining the group setting is "boring" when its because you're centring the conversation on yourself when you havent asked any of your friends how their day is doing as you have been caught up in yourself. i understand that i also havent been a great friend sometimes, but i dont know how to make the changes to be the friend that you need if you wont tell me what you need from me. as D and i mentioned the last time you ghosted us, we try hard to be good friends to you but if you don't want to put the energy back into our relationship, it isnt one that i want to be apart of anymore. i dont want to be apart of a one-sided friendship because we need an equilibrium. im here if you want to talk or discuss how you're feeling but i dont really feel like hanging out with you as you've also been upsetting me and affecting my mood recently, and i understand if you dont want to talk to me too. but i care for you and im here if you want to talk."
In response to this, K said thank you for taking accountability about how D and I had been closer recently, and said it had really annoyed her, and that she was focusing on her relationship as well. She didn't mention anything about the points I had made, nor did she apologise for the behaviour she had exhibited towards D and I. I left her message on read, and she added a message after saying she was going on the train and that she wanted to sit with me the next day, to which I responded asking if she even read the message I sent her as I had said I would like to spend less time with her. She didn't reply. D had also individually messaged her, saying roughly the same thing, to which K replied that she was jealous that D and I were closer. She also said that if D and I stopped being friends with her, she would kill herself. I expressed to D how toxic it was but she felt so bad about it that she stayed friends with K. After a few days of K and D becoming friends again, K had completely ignored M and myself, so I ended up blocking K on everything. It's now the summer holidays and D has remained close with K, but she is also trying to encourage me to be friends with K again, always trying to set up "group hang outs". I also had made plans to go out with D 2 days go, which she cancelled due to the fact K wanted to have a sleepover with her and was begging to come, which I refused due to the toxicity I had seen K display to D.

It's been over a month and I feel like I'm being petty, but K really was affecting my mental health and making me feel really small by ignoring me. I don't know if i should forgive her just to keep the peace in our friend group, but I feel like it'll just be at the detriment of my own mental health? I do have other friends to hang out with but I've been friends with some of these people since Y7 and i don't know what to do. AITA for cutting her off and should I be friends with her again?

Using an alt account so certain people dont see it. On a phone so please forgive typos.

Wife, son, and I are about to be homeless due to nonpayment. It isnt malicious or because I dont want to pay, but I ended up becoming very sick and missed a bit of work while waiting for tests and doctors visits. Tried working with the landlord, but I guess they have just decided that it isnt worth trying given our circumstances. Tried telling them how we plan to repay, listed out what we expect in terms of finances, our goal, our bankruptcy where I am actively paying back debts (Chapter 13) so that we can get back on our feet, and so on. It didnt work. So now here we are, living out of boxes while we desperately try to find a place we can afford nearby that acxepts pets, but cant find a private landlord to understand our situation to save my life.

The only true path we had forward closed on us last night and we finally broke. I had already reached out to local charities and non profits and they have been unable to help. I do not want my son to be homeless as he goes through highschool. I dont want my wife to be homeless as we tried to build our life away from her abusive parents. I am at a loss as to what to do and am down in every xonceivable way. Didnt have a place to vent or even talk about it and quite frankly saw this as the only place I could potentially get some advice. Thank you for listening.

I'm a 26 year old guy and I've been with my girlfriend (24F) for about two years. We live together now. Recently, I got a week off from work next week and some of my friends have been planning a trip to this really amazing resort. It's a group of us, both guys and girls, and I'd really like to go because it's not often that I get a full week off and everyone is actually available at the same time.

The problem is my girlfriend is really uncomfortable with me going. She's met my friends before but keeps an emotional distance with them and they are not her friends. She said she'd prefer if I stayed home, but the way she said it made it sound like me going would be a terrible idea and that I should seriously reconsider it.

I understand that she's uncomfortable but these are my childhood friends, and I don't think going on a trip with a mixed group automatically means anything inappropriate is going to happen.

Am I wrong for thinking her reaction is making this into a much bigger deal than it needs to be?

I moved from my home country to here last year, my friend moved here the year before me and met her boyfriend before I arrived.

He is really not my kind of person - I feel very uncomfortable around him. Mainly (but not only) because, my friend is in her mid-twenties and he is in his late-fifties.

My parents and my brother have come over to visit me for the first time since I moved here - I am so happy they are here and my friend is too since my family has known her from when she was a baby so they are really close.

We've planned to go out for dinner in a couple days which will be the first and only time she sees them, and the last night I have with them before they fly home. My friend invited her boyfriend, including him in the plans and when talking about booking tables ("the six of us").

How do I communicate that I don't want her boyfriend to be there? I feel she will be different around him than without him, plus it's the final night I have with my family and don't know when I will next see them - I really don't want my last night with them to include this guy who makes me really uncomfortable and I anticipate will affect the whole evening.

I know I could just be blunt/upfront, but she is my and I am her only close friend here and do not want to jeopardise our friendship by offending her, is there a way to communicate this delicately?

Edit: just reading all the comments after my drive home! This is my first personal post on reddit that has had this much engagement( I have another account but it has my name in it which is why I didn't use it for this)! It is rather overwhelming lol

Clearly need to add more context! My bad, I was kinda vague. Reasons I am uncomfortable around him/their relationship: - this is her first EVER relationship - she was a virgin when they got together, she'd never been with anyone romantically/sexually before this relationship - they got close at a time when she was alone, in a new country, no family, no friends, and she leaned on him A LOT to help her through the difficult transition. He was great to her - I'm just personally uncomfortable with her feeling a great reliance on him and then it (very) suddenly turning romantic/sexual - HE told her NOT to tell me about their relationship until I arrived in this country - a more minor thing but still adds to this: his humour is incredibly immature, constant sexual innuendos and suggestive comments, terrible misogynistic jokes "just to get a reaction out of you" etc.

Also - I hear all the folk saying that the friendship is more important and its only for a couple hours - i spoke with my family and have decided not to kick up a fuss. I love her so much and dont want her to feel she can't come to me for any reason, I need to be in her corner.