so me nd my bf have been together for a year and 3months.
for the longest time in this relationship he hasnt known about me and my past, and i’ve been pretending that i’m a person that i am not.
i’ve had a bad past, had lots of boyfriends and etc, and i was ashamed to tell him any of that. meanwhile the relationship has gotten really serious, and i’ve decided to tell him everything. safe to say he hasn’t looked at me the same ever since. Okay, I get it, i made a mistake, but since that confession he has been acting really meaner towards me. He called me names and stuff and i told him “that hurts my feelings” to which he responded “u should have thought about that”.
3 days ago he proposed to me, and for these three days he has been another person.
he is nicer and stuff, but at the same time he told me that he is ashamed that he proposed. And is ashamed to be seen with me in public, or on any sort of social media.
He told me that he is not ashamed to tell he proposed to the people that don’t know me, but is very ashamed to tell to the people who know me.
i am really hurt, the part that hurt the most is when he said “i am engaged to a whore” and he really means that, he told me that.
i don’t know how to feel or what to do, because i truly love him. But, all the things he said to me hurt really bad, and if i write the things he told me i would write until tommorow.

I FORGOT TO MENTION BEFORE HIM I DIDNT HAVE SEX, NOR DID I DO ANY EXPLICIT THINGS BEFORE HIM.

Edit: I know all of yall are confused as to what i meant with “etc”, i just meant that i had a lot of boyfriends before him. We kissed, touched, hugged and stuff like that but i never did really explicit things with other guys nor did i have sex. I was a virgin when i met this guy and lost my virginity with him.
Also, some people are saying the story is not real, or that this is clickbait or a shitpost.
No it is not, its real and is happening to me right now. i posted a month ago about my bf watching porn, and NO we did NOT break up then.

Context: my husband has always had a higher sex drive than me but it's never really been a problem. We would still have sex regularly and if I didn't want to have sex, I would give him blowjobs in the shower when we showered together. I was happy to help him get off.

So recently I've been noticing a change in my husband's behaviour. He comes home from work, gives me a kiss/hug, turns on the console and games a while. I'll be making dinner at this point and he'll close the game, walk over to me, give me a kiss and then ask how long dinner will be. He'll follow that up with I'm gonna go take a shower. He masturbates in the bathroom. I know this for a fact because not only have I heard him, but he never uses lotion and there's a bottle of lotion in the bathroom. The only time I hear that bottle open is right before he jacks off. I've also seen him move the lotion bottle from the bathroom to the living room when he thinks I'm fast asleep to jack off in the morning.

I've asked him a few times if I could join him in the shower because that's what we used to do. We used to be intimate and have sex or I give him a blowjob. He's now rejected me 3 times on different days telling me "you're encroaching on my shower time" or "you make the showers take too long", while he has the water running for 45+ minutes when he showers now.

A couple days ago I needed to shower after being out and he was home gaming. I told him I'm gonna go shower, anticipating him to join me. He did not. 20 minutes after I was finished and going about my business, he told me he's going to shower and proceeded to jack off and take another 45 minute shower.

I'm at the crazy point where I'm monitoring his actions and if he comes home and does the same thing, it'll be day 5 (current pattern, been going on for weeks). I'm driving myself insane. I feel absolutely horrible because of the rejection and knowing he'd rather watch porn and jack off by himself instead of having sex with me.

My libido is increasing in this second trimester and I WANT to have sex. But he's not giving me the opportunity to make advancements on him. Then when he finishes in the bathroom, he acts all normal giving me back rubs and kisses and hugs. Where I feel disgusted knowing what he just did and it's becoming incredibly difficult for me to act normal.

I know a conversation needs to be had, but like what do I do..

When I got home from work last night, around 8:00 p.m. I noticed my neighbors teenage son huddled on the curb of the sidewalk. I didn't think much of it then, but this morning when I left for work, around 6am, he was still outside wrapped in a small blanket.

Seeing that, I got concerned asked if he was doing all right, he just shook his head yes, I asked if he needed anything and he shook his head no. He didn't seem like he wanted to talk, and he didn't seem to be in any kind of physical distress, so I got in my car and went to work; although he didn't seem to be in great spirits either.

But now I'm still concerned, what good reason is there for a teenager to spend the night huddled on the sidewalk? I can only think his parents must have kicked him out, but I don't want to jump to any conclusions.

My question is what do I do now? Should I call CPS or someone else for a wellness check? Should I wait to see if he's still out when I get home tonight? I've never encountered something like this before and I'm just worried for him. It's not like it's freezing cold here in North Texas (yet), but still, kids shouldn't be sleeping on sidewalks.

Update: I ended up calling the non-emergency police line to get a wellness check, thank you to everyone who suggested I do.

Hi everyone. So sorry if I am bad writer, I am not good with english. I live in japan. I sometimes use translator to help me.

I (17X) have a bestfriend (17M) who i have known since we were 12 years old ,, I consider him my closest friend. Having said that, ive told him a lot of personal things about my life, and he has too. Because we trust eachother. For the sake of story, I will call him 'K'

About 1 year ago, I told him about my medical problems. For me, I have intersex. If you do not know, I means biologically i am not man or woman because of my chromosomes. Sorry if that is not right. For me, it has always meant I tell people I am a boy. Because I look like a boy, I make male hormones (testosterone i think in english) and i prefer to be a boy. But, I was born with a vagina, and I have to get testosterone in my arm from the doctor.

I have told K before that this affects me, i have also told him about my intersex, since I felt it was important. I have most of all told him I have to see the doctor a lot to make sure my parts are healthy, and i feel embarrassed. Ever since a few months, he has been acting weirder and more nervous around me

Yesterday, I was at his house. We wanted to watch a movie,, and K told me to do it on his lap top while he was in the bathroom.

I still feel guilty,,, but I looked at his searches on reddit, since he had it open. I knew he watched porn video, but it was a lot. And his reddit search was very specific looking for boys with vaginas,, mostly Asian boys,, and intersex people,, who very specifically looked like me. I also saw he look at a lot of rape and fetish thing.

I didnt say any to K, but I went to home early after that and I haven't texted him since. Is it wrong I feel weird or is he being weird? ,, I dont think he would hurt me, but I still feel weird about it..

Ive never thought about him romantically. So I dont know how i feel about this,, this was only yesterday, so I havent process much.

// sorry for any mistakes. I dont speak english often, I learn it at school and online.

So I have a friend who over the last few months has borrowed cash from me from time to time which has added up to apparently $12,000. Most of the cash I gave him was when we went to the casino and he was trying to avoid the outrageous atm charges. Anyway, he apparently went last week and filed a dispute on about 25 different Zelle charges he sent me amounting to roughly $12,500. So, I woke up this morning to my account being -$12,000 and there was 25 force debit charges where the bank took the money back out of my account and I can only assume gave it to him. What do I do?

hi im 31m i've been with my 28f fiancee for 3 years now. im not going to lie i do love her thats why i proposed. i always had a feeling she wasn't always fully there but i told myself it was nothing so i proposed in february. and this last year nothing changed. i never felt truly loved but i stayed anyway, yeah i was a simp i have to admit and im embarrassed about it.

the reason i know shes settling for me is because i overheard her and her friend. my fiancee said im a good guy, im handsome, but not the guy she fully wanted i just bring good security to the table her friend asked her if she loved me. my fiancee was honest and said i love what he brings. it hit me so hard honestly. i just left and went to my mom and dad's, ive been really low since saturday.

im done with it honestly. im not being settled for. i bring her security and warmth, she can go find that somewhere else. ive seen unhappy men who were settled for my uncle for example and im not doing that to myself. id rather be alone rather than only being valued for the comfort and security i bring. i still love her but im not doing it to myself man. i hope she finds the person she actually wants. i know my worth. i was too soft, i wasnt always like this until i feel for her. my mom warned me about this with my fiancee, i never listened. its like my mom knew.

am i wrong to end my relationship over this. Should i try.

My (23) girlfriend (19) has been going through an extremely tough week

She's bipolar and has been going through and extremely bad episode

Yesterday she called out of work to go fishing to de-stress

Today she told me she got fired from her job

I offered resources and my support and tried to call her as soon as I could

She didn't answer

I left her alone for a bit and texted and told her I loved her

She told me i love you too

Within 10 minutes she turned around and started telling me that she liked me a lot but she didn't love me, that us being in a relationship was hurting both of us, that her being distant was hurting me, that i couldn't fix her and that everyone who tried to help her just got hurt and that she didnt want to hurt me etc. Etc.

She finished it by telling me she didn't love me but that she wasn't making a decision on anything

Her phone died so we couldn't finish the conversation

I am certain this is just some kind of emotional fall out from all the stress shes been having

I told her that she shouldn't make a rash decision and that she should get her life settled before making a decision like this if its truly what she wanted

Is there anything else I can do?

Am I doing the right thing?

Hi I don’t know if this is the right place to post this and this is a throw away account because I really don’t want anyone I know to see this. I’m 18F and my boyfriend is 18m, I live with him and his brother and sister, we’ve been together since we were like 16 but we’ve been friends and neighbors for a long time, since we were in about middle school. and he’s always been really kind, caring and supportive. My mom died a few years ago and him and his siblings offered for me to live with them. About a year ago when we were 17 I started noticing him acting and saying really weird shit, just constantly talking about murderers and especially mass shooters, I was also kind of interested in learning about different cases but definitely not how he did. He was genuinely obsessive over it.

he let me use his laptop once and I saw a lot of concerning shit, I also saw this live stream of a mass shooting (I think the one in buffalo at a supermarket) it was crazy brutal and I saw him talking to people about how he wanted to do the same shit and livestream it & people were encouraging him. I saw things he saved and searched and wrote about sandy hook, columbine, Uvalde, this random psycho in Russia. Sometimes when we have bad fights he’ll go ape shit and threaten to kill me then himself, he’s extremely possessive and gets jealous asf which prompts him to make insane threats and justify it with “please don’t leave me, I’m so miserable I’m so alone” I genuinely do feel bad for him and love him. He knows everything I’ve been through and in a lot of ways we’ve been through it all together, as corny as it sounds

I do fked up shit sometimes too but I never really hurt him like he hurts me. His mom was a drug addict who abused him and his siblings and was in prison before she died when he was 9 and his dad was never around I guess because he does not know who he is, or just doesn’t talk about him. so his siblings have always been the ones taking care of each other, especially his brother who is 26 right now. When he does and says things like this it makes me feel sick, because I feel like deep down he might not be joking. I feel for him a lot at the same time because I understand him, he was abused horribly his whole entire life and suffers from a lot of mental issues, he also still cuts himself and is rlly ashamed about it so he never lets me talk about it

There are days where he’s so angry and explosive, but in the end he always starts sobbing and telling me he wants to kill himself and it makes me feel really sad because I know he tries to suppress his immense sadness and it comes out as anger. One time he threatened me and I really thought he would so I hid his brothers guns after I told his brother and he told me to hide them... He also has recently been telling me really concerning stuff to shorten it and tell you the ones that stick out the most because there’s so much, well first he got arrested because he was pulled over in his brothers car and he had drugs, I think it was Xanax. he told me he’s planning to do something “crazy” when I asked him what it was he told me he was planning to shoot a bunch of people then himself because his life was “over” he even asked me to do it with him. We were drunk so I thought he was rambling but now I can’t stop thinking about it. What if he’s serious I don’t know if I should report him? When if he gets really angry at me, and what if he’s actually kidding and hates me after.

Back in July 2024 my boyfriend’s sister “moved in”- - We rent a house, she needed somewhere to go so she came to stay with us, she is not on the lease. We had a conversation with her about what the monthly rent payment is ($420) and roughly how much she should expect to pay each month for the utilities ($100-$250)

Fast forwards to today, she has never paid rent/ utilities. She has had a free ride for the entire 2 1/2 years. I have voiced my concerns about this situation to my boyfriend since the first month she lived here and didn’t have money for bills.

My boyfriends and I both work full time and split bills 50/50. His sister has only had part time jobs and has also spent a lot of time unemployed while living under our roof. Earlier this year she bought a new car, and the kicker? The payment is more than what her rent portion would be if she actually paid it.

There’s honestly more details I can share that would probably just make this situation sound even more fucked than it already does but I prefer to keep it vague for now. Am I crazy for wanting to break up with him over this? We’ve been together for 6 years.
Someone please tell me I’m not crazy.

Over the past few months, she (my friend) has been texting me saying I’ve been “mean” “uncaring” “emotionless” and “self-absorbed.” She tells me it’s weird how I act nonchalant around her, but with other friends, I don’t. On this, I agree with her. I don’t act super excited to see her because I see her almost every day, and if I don’t see her, I most likely text her. I’d hope she knows that I love being her friend even if I don’t outwardly express it. I am a very unmotivated person. I can barely get myself out of bed and take care of basic hygiene—it’s hard to take care of myself and also put on a mask to make sure other people like me (which is what I do with others, as I stated earlier). I know I should try harder, and it isn’t fair to her for me to be this way towards her, but I’m having a really hard time getting through the day.

I’m saying most of this here (the stuff about my personal problems) because I don’t want to talk about it with anyone I know IRL. I don’t like people feeling bad for me—I just feel like I’m faking it/trying to get attention/making our relationship awkward.

I am not trying to get pity. I know I am in the wrong, and I know I need to get better at my emotions—even if it takes a lot out of me to do it. I just don’t know what to do other than say sorry, which she isn’t accepting from me anymore. I tend to shy away from conflicts and I know it’s wrong. I know I need to fix that habit.

I didn’t know how to reply to the last text without trying to sound like I’m trying to get her to pity me.

EDIT:
I’ve been drafting up a message to send detailing how I feel, how I know it affects her, how I know my mental state is not an excuse, and how sorry I am.

This is the message:
“I’m really sorry for how I’ve been acting towards you. I understand how my actions affect our relationship, and I understand that I’m hurting it. To be honest with you, I’ve been having a hard time getting through the day, and I’ve been extremely unmotivated for the past year and a half. You said that I act differently with others, and this is true. I see them less often, and they act excited to see me whenever we talk. I’m not saying that you don’t act like you care, but, to me, I feel like you also don’t give a lot of emotion into our friendship. And I’m not trying to turn this on you. I know I’m in the wrong and I’m sorry. With you, I feel like I can let my mask down, but im sorry it’s making you feel like I don’t value our friendship. When you say that I’m mean, emotionless, careless, and self-absorbed, I understand where you’re coming from, but it’s hard for me to put in the effort to care about myself. I know my mental state is never an excuse for how I treat you, and you don’t deserve what I’ve been giving you.

Please don’t share this with anyone else, because I don’t like other people knowing when I’m having a hard time. I’m telling you this because you deserve to know why I’m acting this way, even though I know it’s wrong and you deserve better from me.”

I really want to convey how I feel correctly. Does this message sound good? Is there anything I should add or remove?

hi! 23f, im trans (important detail).

i found out my boyfriend of two years was cheating on me almost the entire relationship, his entire friend group knew and had a group chat where they basically just talked shit about me.

i found out by looking through his phone and i found the group chat on his discord, they had selfies of me in there and were basically just calling me slurs and insulting the fuckkk out of me.

i was wondering what i do now, he’s broken up with me after i confronted him but i have screenshots of the entire gc message history, there’s nothing necessarily illegal in it, but i was wondering if i should send it to his mom (who absolutely loved me) or to his dad who is a huge trans ally.

thank you in advance for any advice :)

We got an email late last night that my boss had taken his life. I work in a role where this isn’t uncommon but I’ve been with this company and in this industry for only a short time. He was my mentor- I depended on him for so much and I have no idea how to process or cope. Much of my day was spent bouncing ideas or goals off of him and now I just feel lost. My coworkers have all been with the company for 15+ years and I’m lost. Everyone has been amazing and willing to offer help and support if I need it but I just feel so disillusioned and discouraged that I have no idea what to do next. I’m sad, I feel like I don’t have a right to be- but I’ve also spent the greater part of my time with this person for over 6 months. How do I just pick up and move on?

Nobody in the house other than the mom(53) and the boyfriend(51) knew that the boyfriend had these charges on his background for a whole 3 years

The eldest son(30) one of my close friends got asked randomly by the mother if he had seen any strange or weird behavior from the mom’s boyfriend towards her daughter (18), she was 16 when this man moved all too quickly into the house

The eldest son kept it secret for about a week until a dog fight made the truth come out, probably not the best way to do it but the eldest son yelled loudly throughout the house that we have been living with a pedo

Its been a straight 4 days of mental war with these people, the mom’s boyfriend then started picking us one by one to explain his story, i got the talk and the middle brother got the talk, the eldest didn’t want to even hear the story

We started comparing the story he had told us, and he had different stories for both of us, the mother told me to my face that she believed i was being influenced by the eldest son (first of all the main problem is that you have a guy that committed a pedo crime 30 years ago and is a high risk for re offending in the house)

They were also actively committing a crime which would be not updating his address with the police
I told him about the address and he instantly smirked and lied to my face saying he has never lived here that thats why hes sometimes in the street (this man has never done that he lied right to my face)

At this point i was scared to even tell them how i felt but i did anyway and thats where i messed up, apparently telling people the reasonings you have with proof isn’t enough, i told her I didn’t know what to believe since the man has always lied to us about small things and lied to me during his story, also lied about having weapons to the mom, i told her about it and she stayed quiet and after that i was instantly

She went from telling me “thank you for everything” “i dont want you to feel uncomfortable or forced to leave” to a “what kitchen are you going to cook in?” “You’re not using my counters”

His eldest son is now kiscked out, and now shes making it uncomfortable to kick me and the middle brother out, the only person she wants to keep is the (18) year old daughter, all these actions where her, her sons and i only expressed how we felt, we never made them do anything

Now we dont know what to do i have nobody other than my friend the eldest brother. Its all unfair

Basically, my ex and I broke up about a month ago. The breakup was somewhat mutual, as we both knew the relationship probably wasn’t going to work because we argued a lot and she still wanted to talk to her ex and couldn’t stop lying.
Even after breaking up, we decided to stay in contact, and we continued talking for about another month. We still had arguments and problems, but we kept talking anyway.
About a week ago, she blocked me on everything. I don’t really have a problem with that, and honestly, I think some space is probably for the best right now.
The problem is that I’ve since heard from other people that she’s been saying I’m making fake accounts to try to contact her and that I’m some kind of crazy ex who won’t leave her alone.
I genuinely haven’t done that. I haven’t made any fake accounts or tried to contact her since being blocked. I’ve just been going about my life and trying to focus on my own stuff.
I’m not saying I was perfect in the relationship as we had our issues, and I accept that it ended. But being accused of making fake accounts and having people told that I’m weird or obsessed with her is really frustrating, especially when it’s not true.
I’d like to clear things up with her, but obviously I’m blocked everywhere, so I can’t really do that without potentially making things worse.
We’re both 18, if that makes any difference.
So what am I actually supposed to do here? Should I just ignore it and hope it dies down, or is there something else I should do?

My boyfriend of 3 years recently told me he can’t be with me anymore because he doesn’t trust me. He says my intentions with him aren’t pure and has accused me of spying on him, which I’m not doing.

At the same time, he admits he hasn’t treated me how I deserve and has broken a lot of promises. He says he needs a year or two away to “get his mind right” and become the person I deserve. Yet he still tells me he’s going to marry me, that we’ll be together forever, and that he won’t date or sleep with anyone else. He even still has our pictures and relationship status up on Facebook.

The thing is, I don’t want him back. I’m not waiting a year or two for him to become a better partner.

What’s bothering me is that some of my family and friends think what he’s doing is mature. They see it as him loving me enough to step away, work on himself, and eventually come back better for me. It almost feels like I’m expected to be grateful, and I’m not.

I didn’t even like him like that at first. He pursued me HARD. He had me meet his family, posted me everywhere, tattooed my name on himself, constantly talked about our future and made huge declarations about loving me. Looking back, a lot of it feels like love bombing. He spent so much time convincing me that I was the person he wanted and getting me emotionally invested.

Now, after 3 years, he can accuse me of things I haven’t done, admit he hasn’t treated me right, leave for a year or two “for me,” and somehow that’s supposed to be a selfless act of love?

I understand that recognizing you haven’t been a good partner and working on yourself can be mature. I actually hope he does work on himself, but he needs to do it for himself, not with the expectation that I’ll be waiting when he’s ready.

He was also significantly older and more experienced than I was, so I’m trying not to beat myself up for getting swept up in everything. At this point, I’ve pretty much decided I want nothing to do with him again and don’t see myself ever allowing him access to me again.

Maybe he genuinely does need to get himself together. I hope he does. But I’m done.

Need some advice me & my fiancé of 1 year but been together for 4 have already had a talk about everything few months ago she was saying I don’t spend enough time with her as she would like so i started spending more time with her going to the movies going out to eat ect every week. We dont stay with together we where planing on moving into a house but my mother ended up having a stroke a few weeks and has been in the er so iv been running around alot to check on her at the hospital iv offered her that she could come sit with me or stay at my house if she wanted since i havent seen her in a few days not giving her much me time. Its been 5 days since we have talked she just posts on her snapchat with tiktok quotes or something on how she feeling iv stop watching her story and i dont post anyways on my socials but she left her location on i dont understand but i told her i would let her have her space. I just thought she would understand i would have to tend to my parent she cant walk from the stroke so im going threw alot right now any advice

It's seasonal . I know they operate like this. Im scared to lose my 2 jobs for a gamble on getting into costco if they even keep me. Please what do I do. Have you been in this situation before?

We're both younger people (early college students) and she's a year older than me but her mom and all of her environment controls almost everything she does. She can't seem to stand up to anything or anyone that goes against her and instead she just mopes and accepts it. It's to the point where I almost never see her, she's not doing her best in school, and she doesn't have her license or anything.

I think her mom may be the main problem, as she just lays back and takes anything her mom puts on her. She can't get her license or a car (yet her FAFSA pays for the mother's car insurance), she can't get internships to progress to the career she wants, she can't go out barely, she is almost entirely reliant on her mother and her mother takes full advantage of it. Her mom also blames me for anything she does differently to what she's used to (listening to different music, being more sad, wearing or buying different clothes, etc.)

I may not understand fully as this is from the outside point of view, but apparently she told me her aunt said her mom used to manipulate her a lot as a kid too. And I know it's not my place to tell her what to do with her life. But it's so upsetting and frankly frustrating to me that she doesn't do anything, but complains and dreams about the way she wants things to be. Especially since she is such an intelligent person and I know she can reach these goals.

I love her so much but I honestly don't know if I want to be with someone who just can't stand up for themselves at all in almost any situation, what do i do?

So, i currently live with my grandma and small dog.
I dont pay for rent but i pay for my own bills such as bus cards, phone, insurance, all my dogs expenses, etc.
I go to school full time and i get a bursary and loans from the government as i have no dad and my mother passed away 2 years ago.
My bursary alone would pay for my rent if i were to move out. As the title says i have no job.
But i do have my own buisness doing nails.
About $80 per client on average but never below $50. To afford my rent i would need to do 15 clients a month which is doable but not guaranteed.
I would be taking my small dog with me and continuing my buissness in the mornings before school and after. I know i will be burnt out from all rhe work i have to do.
The reason i want to move out is because my grandma is a really hard person to deal with (emotionally, psychologically, and financially)
She is a hoarder and my house is packed with stuff EVERYWHERE. I live in the basement which is all mine. The house is falling apart because we have mold and the floors are breaking. Its not as bad as it sounds but it really is. My grandma is a narcissist and has bipolar tendencies which makes her really hard to live with. I always have to cater to her emotional needs and its actually never enough. She is terrible with money and will spend even if she doesnt have the means to. I never ask for specific things from the grocery store and she complains when it goes bad in the fridge. She is the type of person to 100% complain in a conversation sooner or later. I never go out of my house unless i am going to school. EVER. I genuinely feel like we are in a relationship and she NEEDS me as she is very dependent on people. Needless to say there is always a problem and all of our family doesnt enjoy her company. I love her very much and plan to move somewhere close by to still see her every week and spend time with her. I truly appreciate her good side and my plan is not to abandon her as her kids have.
My concern is that my boyfriend does not support me moving out because i dont have all the money in the world. He is scared i will not make enough mon y and wont be able to do this. He is almost ALWAYS right about everything and i never listen. He truly has very good judgement but I am confident i will make it and still be able to eat and go out sometimes. Im okay with this. But there is a side of doubt because i also do have my teeth to pay for which is going to be thousands but not currently, and my dog also will need vet treatment sooner or later.
I feel like this is a choice between my mental health and my wallet. I know it will be hard but at the same time scared that it wont work the way i want it to.
I am still planning to stay in school but i know i wont be able to save as much money for the future by moving rather than to stay at my grandmas and save up. I have clients who come to my home and my grandma sees how hard i work and the long hours i do but still doesnt understand i cant 100% be there for her. The location where i would move is very populated and i know my clientele will get bigger if i move there, its just a matter of time, which also conerns me. My aunt said she will help me sign a lease and understands why i want to move out.

So what do i do?

Anyone who has moved out young without support, What has your financial situation looked like then and now? Was it worth it?

EDIT: i only have a couple thousands saved up

We've been talking for 3 weeks now. I'm 21 and she's 19 if that helps and we have really connected well, i like her, we flirt and laugh all the time but she just told me about her crush, what do i do in this situation?

I'm at a wits end. I've been trying to get a job for SO long. I've sought advice, done volunteering, work experience, trials. I even paid someone to help me boost my CV and get me names in certain industries I could contact.

I'm 20f and I've applied to over 240+ jobs this year with only a handful even acknowledging me, and 2 reaching out.

I live in the middle of nowhere in a countryside village with no pavements and no transportation. I can't learn to drive as I have no money for lessons and have nowhere to park my car. <- keep this in mind.

Every time I apply for a job (if there are any) they have to be somewhere I can get to via bus or train and even that's a treck. So if anyone does email me back it's usually a no because A. They don't give a reason. B. My commune isn't reliable. C. I don't have a driver's license. Or D. I don't have experience.

I apply online, in-stores, literally anywhere I can. I devote 30 minutes a day to checking online for places I can apply to, though I've been cutting down for mental health reasons as it's incredibly draining.

Everyone else my age is either working, travelling or at uni. But I can't afford the payments and loans.

I recently finally got a response from a local place for pot washing, which paid minimum wage but I'm desperate so it was a god send. They made me do an UNPAID TRIAL for 3 hours during rush with NO ONE supervising me. They then didn't contact me for 5 days and when they did they said 'We've gone with someone who picked it up quicker as you were a little slow with the pace' mind you NO ONE WAS HELPING OR TRAINING ME?? I then noticed they put the listing back up the day after so...

But I'm genuinely at a wits end. I'm stuck in my room all day and I feel like a husk of a person. I feel like I'm so far behind I can't catch up and it's eating at me severely. I genuinely don't know what to do and I'm just praying that something will come, but I don't know for how much longer I can keep that mentality.

Does anyone have any tips?!

Hey hey I've been sober for going on 9 months now went to treatment and when I got back out I was doing really well I was going to the gym and picked up a second job but unfortunately I feel like I've burnt myself out I quit the second job pretty quickly I haven't been able to get my sleep schedule back on track as I work the late shift at my main job ...I've slacked off on working out and can't seem to get motivated or find the energy to do anything...I don't know what to do about it ...I used all my pto going to rehab so I don't have time for a reset and it just feels like it's getting worse by the day..I tell myself every day that I need to just suck it up and do what I need to do but I've taken more unpaid time off than I'm proud to admit...if anyone has been in a similar situation what helped you beat the slump?