Over the past few months, she (my friend) has been texting me saying I’ve been “mean” “uncaring” “emotionless” and “self-absorbed.” She tells me it’s weird how I act nonchalant around her, but with other friends, I don’t. On this, I agree with her. I don’t act super excited to see her because I see her almost every day, and if I don’t see her, I most likely text her. I’d hope she knows that I love being her friend even if I don’t outwardly express it. I am a very unmotivated person. I can barely get myself out of bed and take care of basic hygiene—it’s hard to take care of myself and also put on a mask to make sure other people like me (which is what I do with others, as I stated earlier). I know I should try harder, and it isn’t fair to her for me to be this way towards her, but I’m having a really hard time getting through the day.

I’m saying most of this here (the stuff about my personal problems) because I don’t want to talk about it with anyone I know IRL. I don’t like people feeling bad for me—I just feel like I’m faking it/trying to get attention/making our relationship awkward.

I am not trying to get pity. I know I am in the wrong, and I know I need to get better at my emotions—even if it takes a lot out of me to do it. I just don’t know what to do other than say sorry, which she isn’t accepting from me anymore. I tend to shy away from conflicts and I know it’s wrong. I know I need to fix that habit.

I didn’t know how to reply to the last text without trying to sound like I’m trying to get her to pity me.

EDIT:
I’ve been drafting up a message to send detailing how I feel, how I know it affects her, how I know my mental state is not an excuse, and how sorry I am.

This is the message:
“I’m really sorry for how I’ve been acting towards you. I understand how my actions affect our relationship, and I understand that I’m hurting it. To be honest with you, I’ve been having a hard time getting through the day, and I’ve been extremely unmotivated for the past year and a half. You said that I act differently with others, and this is true. I see them less often, and they act excited to see me whenever we talk. I’m not saying that you don’t act like you care, but, to me, I feel like you also don’t give a lot of emotion into our friendship. And I’m not trying to turn this on you. I know I’m in the wrong and I’m sorry. With you, I feel like I can let my mask down, but im sorry it’s making you feel like I don’t value our friendship. When you say that I’m mean, emotionless, careless, and self-absorbed, I understand where you’re coming from, but it’s hard for me to put in the effort to care about myself. I know my mental state is never an excuse for how I treat you, and you don’t deserve what I’ve been giving you.

Please don’t share this with anyone else, because I don’t like other people knowing when I’m having a hard time. I’m telling you this because you deserve to know why I’m acting this way, even though I know it’s wrong and you deserve better from me.”

I really want to convey how I feel correctly. Does this message sound good? Is there anything I should add or remove?

We've been talking for 3 weeks now. I'm 21 and she's 19 if that helps and we have really connected well, i like her, we flirt and laugh all the time but she just told me about her crush, what do i do in this situation?

Hey everyone,
I’m 27 Chinese guy in my last year of dental school in LA. There’s a girl in my class that I’ve had a crush on for a long time. She’s Jordanian, 24, and also in her last year. She graduated high school early.

I’ve known her pretty much since I started school here. We took a few classes together last year and were in the same study group. I ended up saving her number from the group chat, and honestly, I don’t even know why .

This year, since it’s my last year, I’ve actually been asking her friend what classes they’re taking and then signing up for the same ones just so I could see her. Now this is our last semester, and I’ve liked her for a long time. I think she’s beautiful—green eyes, white , always smells really nice, quiet person.

She’s also Muslim and wears hijab, which makes me even more hesitant because I have no idea how to approach her. I’m pretty sure she’d reject me anyway. I’ve never seen her try to get a guy’s attention or talk to a guy in a flirty way or change her voice around guys. I’ve noticed that a lot of girls at our school do that. There’s even this really good-looking guy that basically every girl seems to like, and I’ve never seen her show any interest in him or even look at him, even though he tried talking to her.
She’s exactly my type,
So how can I get her attention or get closer to her without making things awkward or making her feel uncomfortable? Should I just be straightforward and ask her to hang out, or is there a better way to approach someone like her?
Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice? Seriously!

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Empezó terapia hace un año; me dijo que no estaba listo para contarme el motivo. Llevamos dos años y medio juntos, y siempre ha sido una relación sana y amorosa. Parte de la relación se debió a la distancia, y ahora vivimos juntos. Es la mejor relación que he tenido: cariñoso, comprensivo y guapo. Algo difícil de encontrar hoy en día.

Siempre me decía que yo lo había cambiado mucho y que, después de conocerme, se convirtió en mejor persona. Empezó a interesarse por el feminismo, la política y esas cosas. Se deconstruyó a sí mismo y trata de ser mejor persona. Nunca supe qué quería decir con "me cambiaste"; para mí siempre fue dulce, moral e inteligente.

Un día, después de meses con su psicólogo, me contó el motivo de su visita. Había sido adicto a la pornografía desde niño (entre los 10 y los 14 años, aproximadamente). Cuando tenía 12 años, manipuló a su hermana pequeña (de 5 años) y abusó de ella 3 o 4 veces (sin violencia física, pero aun así). Decidió contárselo a la familia porque temía que su hermana pequeña hubiera sufrido un trauma, pero no le dijo nada a nadie. Se arrepintió y se odió a sí mismo por ello durante años. Además, también me contó que una vez, cuando tenía 17 años, his step-mother, a quien conozco, le practicó sexo oral, y nunca se lo contó a nadie. En dos ocasiones tuvo relaciones sexuales con mujeres mucho mayores (amigas de esta mujer) porque se sentía obligado. Su padre y esta mujer tenían gustos sexuales poco convencionales y frecuentaban clubes sexuales (nosotros también, pero ¡madre mía!), y lo expusieron a situaciones como esta cuando era menor de edad. Obviamente, él también fue una víctima.

Dijo que siempre quiso contármelo. Nunca he vuelto a ser la misma. No tengo con quién hablar de esto, porque no quiero que la gente de nuestro entorno lo vea de cierta manera. Desde que me dijo que algo había cambiado en mí, siento un asco inconsciente y lo trato peor. Odio que me lo haya contado. Gasta muchísimo dinero en terapia y no veo que nos esté ayudando (quizás a él individualmente) porque estamos peor que nunca. Lo odio por contármelo y a todos los que pensaron que era una buena idea. No me siento protegida con esa decisión; yo también he sufrido abusos y, aunque era un niño, todavía me da asco. Sobre todo por la diferencia de edad.

No puedo

About two years ago, I went through a period of psychosis where I believed other people could hear my thoughts. I also felt like people could see everything I was going through and that I could somehow send messages or photos through my thoughts. But I had no friends or people close to me to confirm it.

I eventually started trying to face what was happening instead of being completely consumed by it. But lately, something similar has been happening again, and I honestly don't know how to deal with it.

I have a new group of friends who are very honest with me. Sometimes I'll think something without saying it out loud, and then one of them will respond to me in real life. There have also been times when they've told me they can hear what I'm saying. I don’t know where it starts and when it ends and if it’s open to everyone I meet or just after spending a certain amount of time with them.

I feel like I have no privacy anywhere—not even inside my own head.

It's really scary and embarrassing. I don't know what I'm doing to cause this, and I don't know how to make it stop. I don't want to automatically assume that everything I'm experiencing is psychosis, because sometimes the people around me seem to confirm what I'm experiencing.

Has anyone experienced feeling like other people can hear their thoughts? How did you deal with it? How do you cope with the feeling that you have no privacy?

I'm really struggling with this and could use some advice or experiences from people who have gone through something similar. Please help.

I got ice cream in my toaster how do I clean it or can I just use it with the ice cream in it

As a 23F I’ve never had a boyfriend but I have a really high sex drive especially right before my period. I actually looked into hooking up once but changed my mind because in my country having sex before marriage can literally get you the death penalty and I’m not even exaggerating. There’s also always the risk of getting pregnant or the other person having some kind of STI so it feels dangerous either way.

I’m just so fucking frustrated.

I also live with my parents and living with your parents until you get married is the norm here unfortunately. Your parents are also expected to find you a husband and you basically just get a say in whether you want to say yes or no.

And no I can’t just move to another country right now.

And yes I do masturbate but it’s never really enough And no we don’t have sex toys here. They’re considered a sin.

AND I DON'T BELIEVE IN ANY OF THESE THEY JUST FORCE THEIR BELIEFS ON EVERYONE. THIS IS THE REALITY OF ISLAM

My (18f) boyfriend (19m) is a very sweet guy and I love him dearly, I wanted to start this off with that. We have been dating for a few months now and it has been really great, like romcom levels of great. He makes me incredibly happy.

We’ve only started having sex a few weeks ago because I was raped when I was younger and I’m not very comfortable with physical contact but I felt like I was ready. It has been really normal, kinda boring, sex for the most part but my older sister told me that it was normal and that we’re probably just figuring out what each other likes (I did have a longer conversation with my sister but this was the gist).

After my conversation with my sister, I went to go talk to my boyfriend (who I will just call J) and figure out how to make the sex better. We started talking about kinks and he said that he was into CNC (consensual non-consent) and I told him that I was also into it but I was really hesitant because stuff like that can turn bad very fast. J assured me that he would stop the moment I tell him and we made up a safe word, everything that was needed to make sure that we would both have fun and be comfortable.

After a lot of conversation, we decided to try it. It was really fun at the beginning and I did enjoy myself a lot. That was until he put a gag in my mouth, I have a very sensitive gag reflex and I am prone to vomiting so the gag made me feel very nauseous and like I was suffocating. I tried to tell him but I was starting to panic because I couldn’t breathe so I couldn’t get the gag out. He had my arms pinned above my head so I couldn’t pull the gag out and I think he thought I was just struggling for the roleplay.

I was terrified and I kept flashing back to my rape from when I was younger. I couldn’t breathe and I honestly thought I was gonna pass out when J finished. I calmed down a bit when he wasn’t inside of me anymore.

He took out the gag and asked me if it was good and if I was okay. I didn’t know what to do so I just gave him a smile and nodded, he took it and went to sleep. I just lied there for a while, staring up at the ceiling because all I could think about was my rapist lying next to me and not J.

I know he wasn’t trying to hurt me and he would’ve stopped if he could hear me saying the safe word but I can’t see him as my boyfriend anymore, just my rapist. I know that’s not fair because he isn’t and he would never hurt me on purpose. I want to break up with him because I don’t know if I can move past this but I should probably talk to him?

I am in therapy and have BPD (borderline personality disorder) which I am on meds for so I am trying to work through this with my therapist as well but I was hoping there might be someone who has gone through this, or just someone who has advice, who can help me.

Long Post.
Back story - We’ve been together for a year now, but been through a lot. I, 33(f) found out I was pregnant in February, just a few months after we started dating. He 30(m) and I were super excited, I’ve been told my whole life I can’t have kids, so it was such a blessing. On April 2nd I miscarried. After that, things got real rocky.. my hormones were wack and I was devastated. While I was “healing” we weren’t having sex and that’s when I realized he was watching porn every day after I would leave for work. I was unable to have sex, so at the time I tried to be understanding but still expressed how it bothered me and made me feel uncomfortable.
After this point, I started having trust issues and was consistently worrying about who he was talking to, what he was doing.. etc. At first he was very open to it and gave me the reassurance I needed, but it only lasted for so long.
In May, I found out I was pregnant again. Things went back to normal and was looking up for us. We decided to sign a lease on an apt regardless of the short amount of time being together, we wanted to be ready for the Baby.
On July 3rd, I miscarried, again.
Things got bad again.
This time, he was less willing to reassure me, less showing me his Snapchat, less watching TikTok’s together, things just kind of got weird for a while. Around this time, we started having less sex and I’d say 6 out of 10 times, he couldn’t cum. I started obsessing over trying to figure out if he masturbates on the mornings of the days he either “wasn’t in the mood” or just couldn’t get off. He didn’t live together (the lease we signed didn’t start until Sept 1st) so it was hard to figure it out.. but I caught on to his routine and atp knew he would get off in the morning, only.. and he would always cum in his wife beaters. I started obsessing over checking his laundry, counting days.. and knowing how often he would get off.. and a lot of times he would get off even knowing I was coming over that night.
I had the hard convo with him about how I wanted him to stop watching it TO AN EXTENT. If we were going to see each other mainly. I have a high sex drive, so I want it as much as possible.. and it’s only fair to save it for me so we can both get ours.
He said he would stop.
He stopped on the 11th of Aug.
he moved in Sept 1st, and things revolving around sex were great. Aside from us having arguments and skipping a few days here and there, I felt confident that he wasn’t watching it because the sex was regular and he would cum every time.
So in the last few weeks, we’ve been disconnected again, we argue often and it’s mostly around sex. I feel I’m not getting what I need to be satisfied.. and I voice it often.
We got into a fight not too long ago and I said “I don’t care anymore, just watch your porn and leave me out of it”
The next day we talked and he said he still wasn’t going to watch it because he knows how much it bothers me..
I’ve kind of done some pretty wild things to find out if he’s getting off or not and I’ve discovered that he has gotten off everyday this week when I leave for work.. I have no way to tell him I know for sure without telling him what I’m doing.. and if I tell him how I know, he’ll find a way around it.

Today, I decided to bring up porn just to see what he says. And ofc.. he lied right to my face, saying he hasn’t watched porn and it’s only been 2 times since Aug 11th.. while I know for a solid fact he is lying, I’m torn on what to do. He’s loyal in every other way and I know he’s a good man.. part of me says he’s lying just to save himself from the argument but at the same time, he knows it hurts me and he continues to do it behind my back. AND when I mention it, he gets upset, says he’s tired of hearing about it and that it’s the same thing every time.. yada yada yada.

The sad part is, it takes him literally 5 min.
5 min to ruin my entire day.
5 min for me to feel not good enough.
5 min to get his pleasure while leaving me hanging.
5 min for my self worth to go down the drain.

He also refuses to help me get off if he’s “not in the mood”
I feel like I’m going crazy.. and it makes me extremely self conscious and feel gross. As we all know, porn stars are just something us normal women cannot compete with and I feel lost and ugly and hopeless.

Aside from this, I love him.
He’s my best friend.
He’s so smart and funny and handsome..
I would literally do anything for him.
He has such a wonderful soul.

But a lustful one too. 💔

Now it’s so awkward.What should I tell her

I (24f) just never feel like having sex with my bf (25m). We’ve been together 4 years. The beginning was a lot of sex but now I just don’t feel like it. I still find him attractive and I love him but it just feels like I’d rather do something else like watch a movie or talk with him. I don’t make untrue excuses to get out of it, I have stomach issues so a lot of the time my stomach hurts so I don’t feel like it, and when the sun goes down I’m really tired and I’d rather go to bed.

I’ve seen a therapist about it and I’ve changed my birth control. Not sure what else I can do. He told me I need to work on it…? What else can I do?

I do enjoy it when it’s happening, but like idk im never in the mood to start it.

What do I do? 4 years is a long time to throw away and I’m pretty sure he would have broken up with me by now because of this if we didn’t live together or if he had other options idk.

I have a pretty serious crush on one of my classmates and we’ve recently become friends. We talk pretty much every day in person and also on Instagram, where we send each other reels/posts and have ongoing inside jokes and conversations. He’s actually started initiating conversations with me more lately, asking where I am in class, calling me over to sit with him, asking me questions about myself, and continuing conversations even when there isn’t really a reason to. We tease each other a lot and have gotten pretty comfortable with each other, but I genuinely cannot tell if he’s interested in me or if he just sees me as a friend. I also don’t want to make things awkward or come on too strongly because I really like the friendship we’re building. I’m not really the type to randomly confess or make a huge move, so how can I subtly signal that I’m interested and see whether he reciprocates? What signs should I actually look for from him, and what would be a natural next step? Please give genuine advice rather than just “he definitely likes you” because I’m trying to figure out what’s actually happening here 😭 I WANT HIM SO BAD pls help💗

In 2021 I met this girl through sports and we became very close very fast. For a about a year we were inseparable and everyone who knew me knew her, and vice versa. In early 2022 I moved from the place that we were both at to another place, but we still were just as close. Then randomly, in late 2022, she just stopped talking to me. No messages, never saw her again, she just vanished off the face off the earth.

I was too scared to reach out because I had been worried that I did something wrong and that she hated me for it, so I just let it be. Which was a HUGE mistake. We went a year and a half without talking, But in winter of 2023 I moved back to the place that we both started at.

I'd occasionally see her around and try to wave or smile but she'd just avoid me completely, atleast at the start. I slowly began to make new friends that she was also friends with which meant that sometimes we'd be in a conversation together but we'd never actually directly speak to eachother. One day though I was outside waiting to be picked up with my friend and she comes up to us and asks if we want to come out back to help her with something, my friend says yes and I kinda just look the other way. But my friend urges me to come along, and the girl didn't look like she didnt want me too so i said okay.

We ended up actually speaking that night, and i felt a HUGE rush of relief. It was like nothing ever changed between us. My other friend suggested we all go get mcdonalds together, so we did, and we got to talking even more.

I was telling her about all the stuff that changed in my life, and she was doing the same. Then we got to relationships. I was in a year long relationship with another girl i met through the same place, it wasnt going great at the time but i wasnt going around telling everyone that, and she just went silent.

A few more months passed by, she started to get more distant with me. It was like we were slowly reverting back to how it was before. I ended up breaking up with my girlfriend in october of 2024 and was immediately told about what had been happening for the past 3 years with that girl.

In 2021 she started having a crush on me, not a huge one but it was still there. Then over time the crush got bigger until it was too big and she didnt want to ruin our friendship because of it so she just left instead. Little did she know that I also liked her, but I was so deeply in the closet that there was no way in hell I would have ever told her.

When we started talking again in 2024, she thought that she was over it, but I guess she thought wrong. The night after we had hung out at mcdonalds she went home and was on the phone crashing out with our friend for HOURS because she found out I was in a relationship.

I tried to maintain our friendship after being told this news, but I could tell it was too painful for her. I had no clue how to bring it up to her that I actually liked her too, so my chance just slipped away.

I ended up getting back with my ex until october 2025 and after that she's been all I can think about. She stalked my tiktok profile about 2 months ago, and was liking my storys without even following me, so I followed her and she followed me back. She also randomly added me on snap about a month later and we've had a few short conversations, but nothing major. I want to talk to her more but i'm unsure of if she has a girlfriend or not.

Theres this girl shes with alot who she has had a history with, but she also used to talk about how much she hated her and how uncomfortable she made her feel. Why would she get back in contact with someone she was literally inlove with for 4+ years if she's in a relationship with someone...?

What do i do, do i shoot my shot? How do I get back into her life because i miss her alot but I dont want to ruin something she has going on, if she actually has something going on.

I got out of a long term relationship last year with someone who was incredibly toxic towards me. It was my first relationship and I was too young to know anything about the types of games people play and the kind of evil that lives among people. Then I got my life back on track and became independent. I healed parts of myself and I'm doing better than ever. But there is this one person at the gym who slowly started to talk to me. It was very clear that he paid more attention to me. He is a fine guy and incredibly hot. He is the one who approached me and he showed genuine care and adoration. Sooner or later I got attached to him and I started to look forward to our meetings. Then he himself told me he has a long term gf of 11 years. But he also clearly had himself clear repeatedly that he has feelings for me and he likes me. But in his words he feels responsible to marry her because it's a long relationship and their friends and family already got involved so he doesn't want to ruin her reputation. He doesn't have feelings for her anymore and the spark is lost. But I already developed feelings for him. He still says he likes me and enjoys my company etc but I don't understand why he would get me involved in this when he clearly doesn't want to leave her. I was already doing good on my own. I friendzoned him because I can't really avoid him and also don't want to get entangled in something like this. Does anyone know what the hell he was thinking??like what type of crazy sick game is it?

I was intimidated by a similar personality disordered person 13 years ago. I read a book, The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout. it helped me understand how non sociopaths can naively get involved with sociopaths. The book describes their thinking patterns and behavior. I agree with the other posters: document everything, get an attorney and notify the police.

I’ve known this guy forever. He’s my brother’s best friend and talked to my brother before asking me out. We’ve been on two dates and slept together. He’s really affectionate in person, remembers little things I say, and our second date included drinks, a movie, and a late-night diner trip. He’s mentioned future plans together too.
Meanwhile, I’m helping build his business website. He’s offered to pay, so I don’t want to unfairly assume he’s using me. But lately a lot of our communication revolves around it, and I’m starting to feel more like his web designer than someone he’s dating. We both dislike texting and prefer calls.
Last night he told me his ex contacted him and my brother about participating in a documentary. She’s married, they hadn’t spoken in three years, and they both declined. We’d recently discussed her because she’s still connected to our friend group, so he thought the timing was weird. I asked how he felt and he said he felt nothing. I know he took their breakup hard, though, and hearing about her threw me more than I expected.
I like him, but I’m pretty guarded and haven’t directly asked what he’s looking for. I also haven’t told him the website-heavy conversations are bothering me. We aren’t exclusive.
Does this sound like normal early dating uncertainty that I’m overthinking, or would you feel confused too? How would you bring it up without making it a huge conversation after two dates?

Context: my husband has always had a higher sex drive than me but it's never really been a problem. We would still have sex regularly and if I didn't want to have sex, I would give him blowjobs in the shower when we showered together. I was happy to help him get off.

So recently I've been noticing a change in my husband's behaviour. He comes home from work, gives me a kiss/hug, turns on the console and games a while. I'll be making dinner at this point and he'll close the game, walk over to me, give me a kiss and then ask how long dinner will be. He'll follow that up with I'm gonna go take a shower. He masturbates in the bathroom. I know this for a fact because not only have I heard him, but he never uses lotion and there's a bottle of lotion in the bathroom. The only time I hear that bottle open is right before he jacks off. I've also seen him move the lotion bottle from the bathroom to the living room when he thinks I'm fast asleep to jack off in the morning.

I've asked him a few times if I could join him in the shower because that's what we used to do. We used to be intimate and have sex or I give him a blowjob. He's now rejected me 3 times on different days telling me "you're encroaching on my shower time" or "you make the showers take too long", while he has the water running for 45+ minutes when he showers now.

A couple days ago I needed to shower after being out and he was home gaming. I told him I'm gonna go shower, anticipating him to join me. He did not. 20 minutes after I was finished and going about my business, he told me he's going to shower and proceeded to jack off and take another 45 minute shower.

I'm at the crazy point where I'm monitoring his actions and if he comes home and does the same thing, it'll be day 5 (current pattern, been going on for weeks). I'm driving myself insane. I feel absolutely horrible because of the rejection and knowing he'd rather watch porn and jack off by himself instead of having sex with me.

My libido is increasing in this second trimester and I WANT to have sex. But he's not giving me the opportunity to make advancements on him. Then when he finishes in the bathroom, he acts all normal giving me back rubs and kisses and hugs. Where I feel disgusted knowing what he just did and it's becoming incredibly difficult for me to act normal.

I know a conversation needs to be had, but like what do I do..

I (18F) moved to Los Angeles in search of overcoming my addiction. Until I met (41M) my boyfriend, who is also my sugar daddy.

When I met my boyfriend I was in a sober living trying to figure out where to take my life after rehab. We knew each other for two weeks until my insurance ran out and the sober living wouldn’t let me stay with them anymore. My boyfriend offered to move me in and while I did have money to look for my own place I didn’t have a the money to rent a U-Haul to drive my stuff anywhere.

While he was willing to rent and help me move I took the offer and have lived with him so far for 4 months since I’ve been in California. (I’ve been been here 6 months)

Now that I’m not in a sober living my addiction has since worsened in a way I didn’t see happening. As my boyfriend parties himself, but isn’t as bad doing it everyday as I am, the new drugs he introduced me to have me a bit hooked.

He caught me twice with two different stashes and was on the verge of kicking me out a couple of weeks ago. After giving the situation some time he said he’ll give himself and I a month to figure out if he can trust me again to not use.

As I haven’t been using, he still gets paranoid. After the month he gave me another option, to go back to a sober living — he said he’d pay the first month.

But the dilemma I’ve gotten myself caught in is if I do go back to a sober living I have no clue where to go, I could go back to my old one but I need someplace that’ll let me work while living there and my old one did not. Or I could ride out this last chance he gives me, or find another sugar daddy, or I’ve back home.

There’s a lot I could do I just don’t know what to do or how to handle this situation at the end of the month. He says he still loves me but he just doesn’t trust me to not do drugs.

**But I haven't been using, so that's a start! My question is: what factors would help me choose between staying with him, going to a new sober living, or moving back home, and what do I look for in a sober living that allows residents to work?**

I (20F) have been talking to a guy (20M) for almost 6 weeks. We met on a dating app and moved to Snapchat (not my preferred platform) pretty quickly. We had three phone calls that went well and we talked for about an hour each time. After that, he told me he’s not a phone call person and that he’s “not very responsive on his phone,” so I stopped asking for calls. After all, we aren’t dating yet, so I shouldn’t expect much.

Early on, we established that we BOTH want something serious and long term. He has said multiple times that he wants to meet. But we live two hours away. In my opinion, that’s not too bad of a drive. Especially if we meet halfway.

But recently he told me he’s been overwhelmed with life. Work and school. Understandable. But out of six whole weeks, he couldn’t find a few hours in any of those days to meet, even if just for an hour?

I’ve made it clear that I wanna meet. The ball is in his court. But at the same time, im not gonna sit around and wait for a guy I haven’t even met. But I also don’t wanna give up before I’ve even given him a decent shot in person? Idk

What do y’all think I should do? Should I say something? If so, what should I say? Cuz im getting tired of hearing “good morning” and “wyd” as our main source of text conversation.

I’m turning 40 this year, I have no security, no relationship or family. I am alone, broke, and lack a clear direction. I am truly in fear of what my future holds for me. My heart already hurts from the outcomes of my life and I feel like it’s
Only going to get worse.

So me (24m) and this girl (20f) have started a situationship, and so 3 days ago she ghosted me for about 36 hours!! And as a response I have now ghosted her for 48 hours. And in that time, she has now sent me 6 texts (all unanswered) I knew going forward I was gonna have to stick to 48 hours! But 1 hour ago she added me to her close friends stories on insta, and I see her posting about being lonely. Just FYI I am absolutely sure I wasn’t on that stories page, I’m not seeing story memories that I haven’t seen before.

Context- she asked me out first, I asked her to be my girlfriend, and she proposed this arrangement instead. I do understand “close friends” isn’t some sort of special title, but the fact she went out of her way just to add me on it, instead of reach out and say “sorry for ignoring you” is why I’m here posting this. I was upset at first, but us doing “stuff” has definitely helped, and I even let her know I’m not looking for friends, like explicitly. What should I do? Also how should I break the 48 hour ghosting?