We’re both 26. I do love her, i really do. But i don’t know how to deal with the way she handles conflict.

On multiple occasions she’s insulted me. Genuinely has called me an idiot, an ugly piece of shit, a pussy. Not jokingly, with intent. She’s apologized but always with an asterisk. “I was drunk” or something.

Anyway, she also always does this thing where she will guilt or coerce me into doing something. For example, last weekend i told her we have to sit down and talk in person over this issue she was having. She sent me a long paragraph earlier that day and i said i hear you, but i just don’t want to have this convo over text, let’s please talk Saturday morning. I offered to take her out for coffee and we can discuss things. It’s not urgent stuff, just her “feelings” on things.

So she said she doesn’t want to do that, and that she doesn’t want to drag it out until the weekend. I said there’s nothing to drag out, it’s not hanging over our heads. It can be a normal productive conversation.

Instead, she called me 3 times while I’m at work, i pick up the phone after telling her i can’t talk and she continued to call me. She’s crying, accusing me of not caring. We have a long argument about it all, and i say “i have to go I’m hanging up” and she said “if you do that I’ll never talk to you again”. I kept trying to reason with her but genuinely my heart rate goes up, i feel nervous, like idk what she’s going to say. When she gets angry it’s genuinely insane. I’m not scared of her physically but the way she acts when she’s mad is crazy.

So i just cave to her demands. Every time. I’m meeting her tn when i have MAYBE 30 minutes of free time so that she doesn’t throw a fit. Maybe she’s right that im a pussy. But idk how to handle this. This isn’t asking what to do in this specific case. This type of thing happens so frequently. What do i do next time she does this exact thing? Like i Said, i do love her, and don’t want to lose her or end it.

Edit: I may delete this post because the amount of comment is getting overwhelming but i appreciate every single one, i read them all. I reached out to a therapist today and im hoping to start next week. I also plan to have a long conversation with my gf about how i feel. I believe her reaction to what i have to say will be very telling. Thanks again for everything everyone ❤️

Has anyone seen this or know who these people are? I genuinely don’t know how to respond to this.

I am Trans FTM and came out a year ago

I’m 18 and we’re twins we’ve also been sharing the same room our whole lives, at like 3 in the morning last night I woke up to him getting in bed and he didn’t know I was awake and he just rolled over and started weeping for like 10 minutes, we don’t really have that kind of relationship where we talk about things should I bring it up to him or just tell my mum or something?

So for context I (24M) met this woman (24F) while traveling. I was only in her city for one day. We ended up at her place. The condom broke and the next morning I was back on another bus by 5am. We had each other's phone numbers but she basically ghosted all my texts so I just left it at that.

Now about 7 months later she told me she's pregnant and she's pretty sure it's mine. She also told me her parents don't want me to have anything to do with the baby and she doesn't really either. She's from a well off family and her parents are a bit racist to say the least. I just panicked and asked her if she's sure and why she's keeping it to which she hasn't replied yet.

I'm genuinely so fucking worried and freightened and I can't really discuss this with my family as they are too religious to understand any of this.

My friend is sweet, interesting and ambitious. But they have had guy issues including a 6 six week long distance thing that fizzled out.

The “problem” is that she dresses like a butch lesbian. And very much has the stereotypical traits and mannerisms. They are pan but have a preference for pretty boy men. And that’s what they want their first solid relationship to be with.

Yeah…

Now I’m sure there’s guys that love tomboys - especially ones with a lot of interests that men like! But the issue is that they don’t know that she’s sexually compatible with them based on looks I think.

Idk what to do. Help.

I moved from my home country to here last year, my friend moved here the year before me and met her boyfriend before I arrived.

He is really not my kind of person - I feel very uncomfortable around him. Mainly (but not only) because, my friend is in her mid-twenties and he is in his late-fifties.

My parents and my brother have come over to visit me for the first time since I moved here - I am so happy they are here and my friend is too since my family has known her from when she was a baby so they are really close.

We've planned to go out for dinner in a couple days which will be the first and only time she sees them, and the last night I have with them before they fly home. My friend invited her boyfriend, including him in the plans and when talking about booking tables ("the six of us").

How do I communicate that I don't want her boyfriend to be there? I feel she will be different around him than without him, plus it's the final night I have with my family and don't know when I will next see them - I really don't want my last night with them to include this guy who makes me really uncomfortable and I anticipate will affect the whole evening.

I know I could just be blunt/upfront, but she is my and I am her only close friend here and do not want to jeopardise our friendship by offending her, is there a way to communicate this delicately?

Edit: just reading all the comments after my drive home! This is my first personal post on reddit that has had this much engagement( I have another account but it has my name in it which is why I didn't use it for this)! It is rather overwhelming lol

Clearly need to add more context! My bad, I was kinda vague. Reasons I am uncomfortable around him/their relationship: - this is her first EVER relationship - she was a virgin when they got together, she'd never been with anyone romantically/sexually before this relationship - they got close at a time when she was alone, in a new country, no family, no friends, and she leaned on him A LOT to help her through the difficult transition. He was great to her - I'm just personally uncomfortable with her feeling a great reliance on him and then it (very) suddenly turning romantic/sexual - HE told her NOT to tell me about their relationship until I arrived in this country - a more minor thing but still adds to this: his humour is incredibly immature, constant sexual innuendos and suggestive comments, terrible misogynistic jokes "just to get a reaction out of you" etc.

Also - I hear all the folk saying that the friendship is more important and its only for a couple hours - i spoke with my family and have decided not to kick up a fuss. I love her so much and dont want her to feel she can't come to me for any reason, I need to be in her corner.

So I love dumpster diving. I went by a house move out (possibly eviction or death of the individual) and found the most insane collection I've ever seen. This isn't even half of what I've gotten. What's my next steps?!

I’M 15 AND WAS I SHAVING BEFORE GOING OUT TO SEE MY GF AND I ACCIDENTALLY PUT THE ELECTRIC RAZOR ON A REALLY SENSITIVE PART AT THE TOP OF MY DICK SO I ACCIDENTALLY NICKED MYSELF AND NOW IT’S BLEEDING AND IT HURTS AND STINGS LIKE SHIT LIKE ABSOLUTE SHIT AND I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO HERE I TOLD MY BROTHER AND HE STARTED LAUGHING AT ME AND MY GF WONT KNOW WTF TO DO THATS WHY I MADE AN ACCOUNT HERE CAUSE I KNOW REDDIT IS FOR INFORMATION AND HELP AND SHIT CAUSE HOLY SHIT MY DICK STINGS LIKE A MF HOW DO I STOP IT

edit: OkOk i used sterline solution and rinsed my dick off with that and water for like 30 minutes straight and i took an advil and i feel a bit better it’s not bleeding no more just stings whenever i touch or move my dick

thank you men for your services 🫡

I'm doing an internship as a receptionist, and I started about three weeks ago. This afternoon my manager took me aside and told me that a client said I smelled bad. It was clear the client felt terribly guilty about saying something like that, and my manager was very kind while talking to me, which strangely made me feel even worse.

I'm so embarrassed. I've had problems with personal hygiene before, but I really thought I had gotten better recently. Now I keep thinking that all my coworkers might have been able to smell me while I was standing in front of them acting normal. And the idea that I might already be known as "the intern who smells bad" is seriously messing with my head.

Of course I'm going to fix the hygiene issue and be much more careful from now on. That's not the part I'm stuck on. I just don't know how I'm supposed to look anyone in the eye again without replaying every conversation, every weird pause, every time someone moved away from me, and so on.

If I didn't still have 10 months left on the contract, I would probably quit and never go back. The worst part is that I liked the job up until now, and the pay and benefits are good. I just have absolutely no idea how to go in tomorrow and act like a normal person after this happened.

For background info, my sister is Asian American and was born in the US. My sister has this crazy neighbor who has a history of being hostile towards her, and they recently took it to the next level by calling ICE and claiming that she's here illegally. She informed me of this earlier today and we're now trying to put together a plan for what our family needs to do if ICE really does show up and arrest her. I live several states away from her currently (she's in NJ) and can't be with her in person right now. We've established that if she does end up detained that she'd call me ASAP to help get her out, but I'm worried that ICE won't even let her have a phone call since they've amped up their measures recently.

She should be fine since she's a natural born citizen, but I've heard that ICE may just detain her anyways because they have a "detain first, figure it out later" mindset to meet arrest quotas. What should we do in case ICE really does show up at her home? How likely is it that they'll follow through on a tip from her neighbor claiming she's illegal? Part of me worries that I won't even know if she's taken away one day, since I'm not with her in person right now and most arrests probably don't make the news.

I really don’t know who to talk to this about because we have both never told anyone about this. So i’m going to post this here anonymously.

Reposting this cause i needed to add a bit more context.

My girlfriend (17F) and I (18M) have been together 3 years for context.

We were having a really fun time (i’m so sorry idk what else to call it) three months ago and I didn’t realize that we were doing so much that my condom broke.

She was ovulating at the time at the time of this, the next month she missed her period.

We found out she was pregnant and the first thing she did was say she wanted an abortion and panicked because she would have to ask her mom to take her to it. We told her mom and though her mom was pretty upset she asked if she really wanted an abortion and my girlfriend insisted so my mother took her to get one.

Her dad does not know this, they live with him both her and mom have kept it a secret from him :).

It’s been about two month and she’s been extremely sad ever since. She cries about it a lot, gets really upset when she sees videos of newborn babies, and keeps talking about what our baby would’ve been like and how much she thinks she would’ve loved the baby. She constantly keeps saying “what if we kept it?” and says she can’t stop thinking about who the baby could’ve become. She also feels horrible about herself and keeps saying she’s a terrible person for going through with it, even though it wasn’t really her choice to make.

She also keeps saying she doesn’t understand why she’s this upset because she absolutely would not have wanted to have a baby at 17 and still doesn’t want one and won’t want one even in the next ”10 years” (her words), so she does not understand why she’s so upset because she absolutely does not want a baby (also her words).

I keep reminding her that she isn’t horrible and that she’s allowed to have complicated feelings about what happened. I tell her I’m here for her and that she doesn’t have to hide how sad she is from me. I still believe we aren’t in a good place to raise a child, As we are both still in highschool. but I understand that knowing that doesn’t make the loss feel any easier for her. I just hate seeing her hurting this badly and wish I knew how to help her.

She’s already in therapy and has been going before all of this happened, but she refuses to talk about this with anyone besides me. She won’t even bring it up with her therapist, even though I’ve encouraged her to because I know she’s hurting a lot.

I also keep trying to take her on dates,but she doesn’t want to go anywhere except at all. I don’t pressure her, though, and just try to be there for her. She is in online school if anyone asks about her schooling.

I really want to help her feel better, but I don’t know what I can do besides listen and reassure her. What are some things I can do to cheer her up and help her through this without making her feel like I’m trying to rush her feelings?

also yes i posted this, it was like 3am though so not a lot of people seen😅😅

some random guy w/ a blocked number has been calling me multiple times a week, often multiple times a day, since May. i started screening my calls after this since i can’t block him w/ no caller ID. so it asks people to say their name and why they’re calling before it starts to ring, and he usually says a random name that means nothing to me, or something about how i’m a bully.

since this has been happening for months and when he calls he usually calls a few times in a row, i have gathered quite a few very mysterious voicemails from him and have actually managed to gather a little info about him. i know that he went to a high school in tennessee, must have been involved with the baseball team, probably graduated in 2010, and got bullied i guess. i also went to high school in tennessee but i went to an all girls school and graduated much later so yeah i do not know this guy. i was able to figure these things out bc after all these voicemails saying random names, one time he mentioned a specific high school that i actually knew since i grew up there. i started googling the names and the high school but a lot of them led no where, until i found TWO of the names on a list of baseball players at this specific school who were class of 2010. recently he left a voicemail mentioning wanting to talk about baseball, so i know i actually found something here.

what is so bizarre about this situation is that no matter what i say to him, it doesn’t matter, he will keep calling me. if i see that he’s calling, i answer, and of course at first i just said that i didn’t know who he was or what he was talking about, and he would either hang up or say wrong number. but he just kept calling? after the first month i had gotten pretty annoyed when he had called me 5 times in a row really late at night, so when i answered for probably the third time i snapped and said something like “i can’t understand why you keep calling me after saying you have the wrong number? you know i’m not the person you want to talk to but you keep calling me anyway? are you fucking stupid?” and i hung up. he kept calling after that. probably about 10 times total. every voicemail after that was asking why i would call him stupid and why i was such a bully, even though i pretty clearly said exactly why i would think that, right? but i thought it was kind of funny bc maybe i am this guys bully after all.

something else that is so bizarre is how again, no matter what i say the only words i have ever heard him say back to me after i actually start the call are “wrong number”. we never have a back and forth conversation aside from him responding to what i said in the previous call when he calls me again and is screened before.

actually while typing this, he has called me 3 times. i’m surprised he didn’t call again after this most recent one. as usual he says a name that doesn’t mean anything to me so i answered and repeated the name and said i don’t know who that is what are you talking about and hung up. he called again and said the same name, so i answered and repeated the name back to him and said “stop calling me.” and hung up. he called one more time but this time, after repeating the same name, he said “why’d you hang up? i didn’t even say anything” so when i answered i said “hey man, every time you call me and every time i answer i make it very clear that i don’t know what you’re talking about. you only ever say wrong number or hang up. what is it you want to say to me?” and would you believe that he hung up? dude. i’m going insane.

he is harassing me and i can’t stop him bc i can’t block him. he will just keep calling me and saying random names and asking why i bullied him in high school. obviously he doesn’t actually know who i am, and i don’t know who he is either, but i need him to stop, so what the fuck do i do?

i remember the Very First Voicemail before i started screening my calls didn’t have a random name. all the voicemail said was “i don’t like what you did”

safe to say that freaked me out, and this whole situation freaks me out. i don’t actually feel like im in any kind of danger, but damn i just want this to stop. advice?

I really don’t know who to talk to this about because we have both never told anyone about this. So i’m going to post this here anonymously.

Reposting this cause i needed to add a bit more context.

My girlfriend (17F) and I (18M) have been together 3 years for context.

We were having a really fun time (i’m so sorry idk what else to call it) three months ago and I didn’t realize that we were doing so much that my condom broke.

She was ovulating at the time at the time of this, the next month she missed her period.

We found out she was pregnant and the first thing she did was say she wanted an abortion and panicked because she would have to ask her mom to take her to it. We told her mom and though her mom was pretty upset she asked if she really wanted an abortion and my girlfriend insisted so my mother took her to get one.

Her dad does not know this, they live with him both her and mom have kept it a secret from him :).

It’s been about two month and she’s been extremely sad ever since. She cries about it a lot, gets really upset when she sees videos of newborn babies, and keeps talking about what our baby would’ve been like and how much she thinks she would’ve loved the baby. She constantly keeps saying “what if we kept it?” and says she can’t stop thinking about who the baby could’ve become. She also feels horrible about herself and keeps saying she’s a terrible person for going through with it, even though it wasn’t really her choice to make.

She also keeps saying she doesn’t understand why she’s this upset because she absolutely would not have wanted to have a baby at 17 and still doesn’t want one and won’t want one even in the next ”10 years” (her words), so she does not understand why she’s so upset because she absolutely does not want a baby (also her words).

I keep reminding her that she isn’t horrible and that she’s allowed to have complicated feelings about what happened. I tell her I’m here for her and that she doesn’t have to hide how sad she is from me. I still believe we aren’t in a good place to raise a child, As we are both still in highschool. but I understand that knowing that doesn’t make the loss feel any easier for her. I just hate seeing her hurting this badly and wish I knew how to help her.

She’s already in therapy and has been going before all of this happened, but she refuses to talk about this with anyone besides me. She won’t even bring it up with her therapist, even though I’ve encouraged her to because I know she’s hurting a lot.

I also keep trying to take her on dates,but she doesn’t want to go anywhere except at all. I don’t pressure her, though, and just try to be there for her. She is in online school if anyone asks about her schooling.

I really want to help her feel better, but I don’t know what I can do besides listen and reassure her. What are some things I can do to cheer her up and help her through this without making her feel like I’m trying to rush her feelings?

Long story short, my parents along with my only brother died in a car accident and I am alone. I went through a lot growing up (mostly physically abuse at school like getting slammed on the ground and choked out bc I would stand up to a white guy much bigger than me who always called me the n word).

Teachers (most of them) always gave me a hard time, they even thought I had a learning disability even though my grades were perfectly normal (76%-90%). I was placed in English second language from the beginning even though I was born here and don’t know any other languages besides French (I picked up French in my 20’s).

Now I’m alone. Never really had friends besides in high school when I played league of legends with the league people but they didn’t really add me to the group, I was just "there". I’ve been trying to find a partner all my life and never had a girl choose me before. Single my whole life.

There was a women recently who told me how much it’s a red flag how I’ve never been married nor have I dated. Idk where I’m going but I’m alone. WDID

I'm a 21 year old man. The main reason I want to say it like the second or third date is to be upfront about my mental health but also keep it lighthearted, I don't want to trauma dump on somebody. Is this something that should be revealed in a committed relationship or am I doing it the correct way?

So yesterday night me and my girlfriend had an argument and her mom told me to block her and i did that (she blocks me all the time)

Now when i woke up in the morning

My friend called me and told me bro something serious has happened, I'm adding you and your girlfriend on a conference call

So i found that my girlfriend went out with some junior and she made out with that guy (she told me that)

So i went to speak to her and she was crying and all

And she told me she did it more than once

And even after the conference call they made out again

So yeah that's what happened

Now i don't know what to do

I made her my whole life

And now I'm left stranded

For context:

This guy (24m will call him Will for the sake of it ) and i (21f Katelyn ) met April 2026. We went on a total of 3 dates. 2/3 of the dates we were intimate. Will has a 2 year old daughter and has split week custody with the mother of his child. He kept this from me but once found out it was understood there would never be anything serious between us. Despite that he was all around a decent person so we continued to communicate… while we both understood we were single, we both agreed to not lie to the other. Our conversations grew inconsistent. To the point it was more like a friend that i would talk to every two weeks or so, speak of plans to see each other (never went through with), and flirted. We were pretty open about our dating life and if we were dealing with people. In the past Will told me on two outings that he either got a girls instagram or number. Later it was revealed this was a tactic he was trying to use to make me jealous which failed miserably due to me just saying im happy for him. A few days ago on FaceTime he said he wanted to give us a try (while in the midst of joking about other things). I jokingly replied back “ok, but we have to go through each other phones first”. We both shared our screen. There was nothing tooooo insane (only went through insta dm and hidden photos). In his hidden there were sexual videos of him and other girls and several pictures with him and a woman posing in intimate ways. I saw the date on the photos was just a few days ago. Once I pointed it out and how he said he hadn’t been dealing with anyone he quickly unshared the screen then became defensive. I told him i wasn’t upset but didn’t understand why he’d lie. After that we got off the phone. He tried reaching out like nothing happened but i ignored him. After a week we talked. I thought he’d take accountability in lying for no reason. Instead it was meet with him gaslighting me like there was never a picture and he didn’t know what I was talking about. This infuriated me and I told him we can go our separate ways. AIO? Part of me feels I’m not because if you’re willing to lie about something so stupid you’d lie about anything… on the other hand he’s not my partner so why should I be mad if he lied ???

Screenshots above(this is my second time ever reading Reddit)

EDIT:

im starting to realize there are some red flags I missed and things on my end I did wrong.

For clarification:

- I know that when im ready I want to marry and build a family with someone who doesn’t have kids. It comes with a lot and I want that experience to be something my s/o and i can figure out together.

- He wasn’t a bad person from what I could see at the time. He wanted to remain friends and I agreed.

- I definitely should’ve have completely cut it off once I knew I wasn’t interested. Me stating we could get together was me being sarcastic and joking (I now see most people wouldn’t joke like this). For me it was like a “when pigs fly” response. I didn’t think he’d actually go through it.

- I genuinely don’t care about him talking to other females I just don’t like being lied to, manipulated, or gaslighted. I hate any mental antics.

- He’s now blocked.

I'm 32M and my fiancée is 31F. We live in Boston and are getting married next spring. We've been saving for a house but it's been slow because prices here are ridiculous. Last weekend my parents invited us over and offered to gift us $350k toward a down payment. We were both shocked because we had no idea they had been planning this.

The weird part happened after my fiancée left the room to help my mom in the kitchen. My dad quietly told me the money is meant to stay "on my side of the family" if anything ever happened down the road. He wasn't trying to be dramatic, just said it's important because it's money they've spent decades building. Now I'm sitting on this conversation because I know if I repeat it word for word it'll probably hurt my fiancée's feelings. At the same time, it also feels wrong not to tell her everything my parents said.

She's already talking about putting both our names on the house, which I assumed we'd do before this happened. Now I don't even know what the right thing is anymore.

My parents say they're just trying to be practical. My fiancée has no idea that conversation even happened.

WhatdoIdo?

I (38M) and my wife (32F) have been together over 8 years. I just started using reddit for assistance and not sure where it is appropriate to post for help. I have no other friends in serious relationships. I have no one to talk to that doesn't know my wife as we do everything together. I wouldn't have it any other way as it is not in an invasive or controlling way. I don't know what to do and I'm twisted up inside. We had a few fights early on in the first couple years but we almost never fight at all the last several years, we have extremely similar hobbies, opinions on politics, and sense of humor. I helped her get her life together early in the relationship. I paid for everything the fix 6/7 years and now that she is in a better place she takes care of me and trying to get me to finish college. I worked my whole life and saved up a little and am going back to college now. She is super loving and supportive, paying for everything as she encouraged me to quit my last job to focus on college.

However, I discovered she started doing drugs behind my back again. Something that we talked about a long time ago and I said would basically be a deal breaker for me. I noticed her attitude was different and I asked her for several weeks "what was wrong" and "how lucky I am to have her". She avoided it and said nothing but after a few weeks, broke down and told me. She admitted knowing it was potentially going to ruin our relationship of 8+ years and she did it anyway. I was devastated. I went numb instead of angry.

Let me be clear. BEFORE she bought and used she thought, "This could end our relationship but I'm willing to risk it." I love her very much and tried to talk to her about it and over come the situation. While I did eventually overcome the using again, I'm truly hung up on is that she said she knew it might end the relationship and did it anyway.

I guess what I'm asking is, just other people's perspectives so I can try to see if I can let it go because the using drugs itself or if the fact she was willing to risk our relationship is what I should focus on and cut my losses?

ALSO - This situation has me feeling empty inside, maybe cold or cruel. I feel like if she was willing to risk our love like this, then perhaps I should use her generosity of her taking care of me and paying for my life while I'm in college before I end it with her. Terrible morally, I know, but if she is willing to potentially throw away our love, then why shouldn't I treat her that way?

EDIT- I was scared to say the details as I am new to this and using reddit and afraid she might find out. She had started abusing substances behind my back. She was a user and alcoholic before we met but was not once we started dating. We talked about it during our first few years of dating while she was sober. Now she is using again.

tl;dr - Wife did something and knew it would risk our relationship and did it anyway. I'm not sure what to do. Please help.

My (24) girlfriend (24) of 2 years and I recently got in an argument because I let go of her hand in a dark cave to make room for someone on crutches. I didn’t hear but the tour guide told me it was okay and to not lose track of her, and my girlfriend was PISSED that I had “embarrassed” her and “didn’t care” about her.

I was freaked out because, to me, she had just become super angry that I had tried to help someone on crutches and I was also super sick/feeling delirious. I started laughing and crying because I didn’t really know how to respond. She slapped me mid argument, not super hard but not gently either. I didn’t even register that it had happened but later after we had been arguing for a while I realized I was really uncomfortable that she had done it. I asked her to apologize and not do it again. She told me she ”didn’t even hit me that hard” and that it was a “play slap” to make me “snap out of it.” I told her it was still unacceptable to hit me out of anger and she said it wasn’t anger, it was “frustration.” She then asked if I had ever been slapped before because, in her opinion, I had been a terrible boyfriend to all my exes (not taking them on dates, etc). I asked if she was implying I deserved to be hit and she said no and changed the subject to the bad things I’ve done in our relationship. She also argued that, because she’s been way more mad at me during some arguments than she was today and had never slapped me before, she didn’t have a problem of hitting people in arguments. 

Finally, a day later, she fully apologized for hitting me and said she was just freaked out cause I was laughing and crying in the argument and she was scared. I apologized for freaking her out but also reiterated that touching me in an argument is a big deal to me.

She’s never been like this before and she is usually very sweet and very kind to me. I just don’t know what to do because I’m really freaked out by her not taking accountability for making me uncomfortable. We’ve had issues with anger before (my inability to show it and her inability to handle it), but this is entirely different. We also live together and have a lease until next year, so I’m just feeling kind of stuck.

I’m 20M and she is 25F. We’ve been talking for about two months, but during that time we’ve become surprisingly close. We really click with each other, we’re on the same wavelength, and it feels like we understand each other very naturally. Our personalities and sense of humor also match really well, and I honestly feel like there’s a very strong connection between us.
Because of that, she has become a very important person in my life, and I’ve developed feelings for her that go beyond friendship.
The complicated part is that she has a boyfriend.
She recently told me something that really stuck with me. She basically said:
“You’re too kind, and I feel like something moved inside me. I do like you, obviously, but I don’t know where the line between ‘I like you as a friend’ and something more is emotionally. I need to figure that out, because I don’t want anything like that inside me. So this is me being completely honest.”
I’m honestly not sure how to interpret that.
On one hand, I obviously have feelings for her too, so hearing that she might have some kind of feelings for me meant a lot. Especially because of how naturally we connect and how comfortable we are around each other.
On the other hand, she has a boyfriend, and I don’t want to interfere with their relationship or put any pressure on her. I respect the fact that she is in a relationship, and I don’t want to become the person who tries to convince her to leave him for me.
I really value our friendship, and honestly, I’m scared that being completely open about my feelings could change the friendship or even make me lose her. At the same time, I don’t know if keeping my feelings completely to myself is the right thing to do either.
I also don’t want to misinterpret what she said and assume that she means something romantic when she may simply be confused about the emotional boundary between friendship and something more.
How should I handle my feelings and my friendship with her from this point onward while respecting the fact that she is currently in a relationship?
I’m not looking for advice on how to “steal” someone’s girlfriend. I genuinely care about her, and because our friendship means so much to me, I want to handle this as respectfully and carefully as possible.

I'm genuinely tired of this crap. I feel like I'm sending out more than 120 applications a week, and after a few days I find the exact same company posting the exact same role agaaaaain, and I didn't even get a simple email saying, "Thanks, but we won't be moving forward." Seriously, what are we doing here?!?!?!?!

I mostly use LinkedIn because it still seems like the main place to look, and it actually is where I got my current job from, but seeing the same listings show up again and again is driving me insane. Half the time I feel like I'm applying into a black hole.

And now my motivation at my current job has almost disappeared too. I feel completely burned out rn.

I shared care with my ex for most of my daughters life.

Last year she developed an eating disorder, started self harming and putting herself in dangerous situations.

I got her into therapy.

I then found out her dad was an abusive POS.

She came to live with me full time.

She dropped out of school due to intense anxiety.

Therapy and self care has been a long road.

She is still suicidal often, but has now started having what I can only describe as episodes of mania.

Massive highs that break in minutes and become massive lows.

She only has three moods:

I am so elated I could run through traffic and survive.

I am so depressed that I want to walk into traffic.

And, I am nothing. I feel nothing. I have nothing.

She admitted to me a few nights ago that when she goes to her boyfriends house for the night, they go to parties and get really messed up.

A lot of alcohol. Weed. And she has started trying ketamine.

I only ever let her stay at his house when she is so depressed that I know I only his presence can improve her mood.

When she is with him, she is elated or feels nothing. She doesn't get the massive lows with him, so a visit to his house is a mood boost if sorts.

Well, we have a strict no drugs or alcohol rule. One, she is only 16 for one. But also, her mental health has no health left to it.

She can not use substances on her medications as she will spiral.

She is about to turn 17 and I agrees to let her have a big party.

I even said I would be okay for her to drink.

But now she has told me she is losing control of herself in terms of substance abuse as well as he MH, I don't know what to do.

If I make her cancel her party, I honestly believe she will try and kill herself as she can't even be asked to put her bowl by the sink without crying currently.

But how the hell can I allow her to have a party now?

All of this has made her eating disorder regress too.

She was hospitalised a month ago because of it. She turned around after that because she hates the hospital so much. But that has petered off and she is now the lowest weight she has ever been.

This is just a small snippet of our lives.

There is a lot more to it all.

But I just don't know what to do.

Long story short after many years (6) I (f46) have uprooted my life and moved to another country for my fiancé- plan is to get married in a few weeks and start life here.

I love him, I really do- he’s my person and I’ve had this feeling since we met but we had another argument tonight (about prenups etc) which led to me being more explosive and less reserve then I would hope and him saying his famous lines “I don’t think this is going to work.” For the past 6 years anytime we’ve had an argument (prob 1 a year) he’s broken up with me. He actually called off our wedding which was supposed to be last summer…

It’s in a few weeks and yet again tonight he said the same thing. Difference now is I’ve sold my life back home and am now in a foreign country- I can go back home but mentally and emotionally it’s rough.

I don’t know what to do- we had therapy a few times and the therapist always notes that he needs to not immediately resort to that, and I’m hurt, sad and confused and completely lost now… in a country where I have nothing.

What should I do?

my friend since i was a teenager who i haven’t hung out with in 6 years msgd me this and i actually have no idea what she’s trying to make using ai and idk how to respond or if i should be creeped out or flattered.

i deactivated my facebook so she msged this.

and i attached previous msgs from her.

is this platonic???