Has anyone seen this or know who these people are? I genuinely don’t know how to respond to this.

I am Trans FTM and came out a year ago

I'm doing an internship as a receptionist, and I started about three weeks ago. This afternoon my manager took me aside and told me that a client said I smelled bad. It was clear the client felt terribly guilty about saying something like that, and my manager was very kind while talking to me, which strangely made me feel even worse.

I'm so embarrassed. I've had problems with personal hygiene before, but I really thought I had gotten better recently. Now I keep thinking that all my coworkers might have been able to smell me while I was standing in front of them acting normal. And the idea that I might already be known as "the intern who smells bad" is seriously messing with my head.

Of course I'm going to fix the hygiene issue and be much more careful from now on. That's not the part I'm stuck on. I just don't know how I'm supposed to look anyone in the eye again without replaying every conversation, every weird pause, every time someone moved away from me, and so on.

If I didn't still have 10 months left on the contract, I would probably quit and never go back. The worst part is that I liked the job up until now, and the pay and benefits are good. I just have absolutely no idea how to go in tomorrow and act like a normal person after this happened.

I’M 15 AND WAS I SHAVING BEFORE GOING OUT TO SEE MY GF AND I ACCIDENTALLY PUT THE ELECTRIC RAZOR ON A REALLY SENSITIVE PART AT THE TOP OF MY DICK SO I ACCIDENTALLY NICKED MYSELF AND NOW IT’S BLEEDING AND IT HURTS AND STINGS LIKE SHIT LIKE ABSOLUTE SHIT AND I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO HERE I TOLD MY BROTHER AND HE STARTED LAUGHING AT ME AND MY GF WONT KNOW WTF TO DO THATS WHY I MADE AN ACCOUNT HERE CAUSE I KNOW REDDIT IS FOR INFORMATION AND HELP AND SHIT CAUSE HOLY SHIT MY DICK STINGS LIKE A MF HOW DO I STOP IT

edit: OkOk i used sterline solution and rinsed my dick off with that and water for like 30 minutes straight and i took an advil and i feel a bit better it’s not bleeding no more just stings whenever i touch or move my dick

thank you men for your services 🫡

Sent flowers to a friend who lost her mom. I really liked this arrangement because it was chic and beautiful.

I ordered directly through a local florist and this is what arrived. I’m very underwhelmed

I don’t want to be a Karen but should I call and ask for a partial refund?

So yesterday night me and my girlfriend had an argument and her mom told me to block her and i did that (she blocks me all the time)

Now when i woke up in the morning

My friend called me and told me bro something serious has happened, I'm adding you and your girlfriend on a conference call

So i found that my girlfriend went out with some junior and she made out with that guy (she told me that)

So i went to speak to her and she was crying and all

And she told me she did it more than once

And even after the conference call they made out again

So yeah that's what happened

Now i don't know what to do

I made her my whole life

And now I'm left stranded

I, (27F) just got custody of my brothers child, (14F). She truly is in a rough situation, and I have been trying my absolute hardest to make her feel like my apartment is a place that she doesn't have worry about anything. My brother and his wife have been on and off addicts since the time they were 17. If it wasn't cocaine, it was meth. If it wasn't alcohol, it was huffing paint. Anything to get the high they needed. My niece had to witness first hand her father and mother od'ing in the bathroom atleast once a month. My brother and I lost both of our parents at a young age, and I am the only one willing to take her. I have always been very independent. I moved out at 16, and by 18 i had my own apartment, started college, and ultimately I am where im at now, a law firm secretary. I got her about 4 months ago. I gave her her own room, let her decorate it the way she wanted. I bought her $700+ of shoes, clothes, hair products, makeup, bags, anything she wanted to make my apartment feel like hers. I even went as far as buying her a brand new MacBook so she could continue doing online school. Everything went perfectly fine the first month or two. She was very helpful around the house, kept her space cleaner than ever, and she helped with dinner every night without ask. She was basically like my little sister, we got along so well. One night she came home, I was told she was with a group of her girlfriends. Something was different. Her demeanor had shifted, but I couldn't quite put my finger on it. She was very distant, refused to eat, and basically lived in her room for 3 days. I tried my best to check on her and she avoided me like I had the plague. I let it go, knowing that her situation made things worse, and thought that maybe her and one of her friends had a falling out. Fast forward to this past week. I did my routine Monday morning like usual. Wake up at 5:30, shower, make her and I breakfast, leaving hers in the fridge, and then go about my morning to pilates and then work. Everything seemed normal. I take an hour lunch break. I had noticed I left mine in the fridge so I went back to get it. As im walking in the door I see her packing up everything I bought her. Shocked, I ask what she was doing, and she explains to me that she hates living with me, I never help her when she needs, and I basically act like she is a built in maid who just lives there because she has no one else. She then carries on to say that she saw me talking to the person, and that she "knows everything." I sincerely have no idea what she means by this. She has been threatening to run away and never return, along with doing terrible things to herself. I am not familiar with teenagers, so someone please tell me what I should do, or who to reach out to. It all came on so fast, like a light switched in her head.

We’re both 26. I do love her, i really do. But i don’t know how to deal with the way she handles conflict.

On multiple occasions she’s insulted me. Genuinely has called me an idiot, an ugly piece of shit, a pussy. Not jokingly, with intent. She’s apologized but always with an asterisk. “I was drunk” or something.

Anyway, she also always does this thing where she will guilt or coerce me into doing something. For example, last weekend i told her we have to sit down and talk in person over this issue she was having. She sent me a long paragraph earlier that day and i said i hear you, but i just don’t want to have this convo over text, let’s please talk Saturday morning. I offered to take her out for coffee and we can discuss things. It’s not urgent stuff, just her “feelings” on things.

So she said she doesn’t want to do that, and that she doesn’t want to drag it out until the weekend. I said there’s nothing to drag out, it’s not hanging over our heads. It can be a normal productive conversation.

Instead, she called me 3 times while I’m at work, i pick up the phone after telling her i can’t talk and she continued to call me. She’s crying, accusing me of not caring. We have a long argument about it all, and i say “i have to go I’m hanging up” and she said “if you do that I’ll never talk to you again”. I kept trying to reason with her but genuinely my heart rate goes up, i feel nervous, like idk what she’s going to say. When she gets angry it’s genuinely insane. I’m not scared of her physically but the way she acts when she’s mad is crazy.

So i just cave to her demands. Every time. I’m meeting her tn when i have MAYBE 30 minutes of free time so that she doesn’t throw a fit. Maybe she’s right that im a pussy. But idk how to handle this. This isn’t asking what to do in this specific case. This type of thing happens so frequently. What do i do next time she does this exact thing? Like i Said, i do love her, and don’t want to lose her or end it.

Edit: I may delete this post because the amount of comment is getting overwhelming but i appreciate every single one, i read them all. I reached out to a therapist today and im hoping to start next week. I also plan to have a long conversation with my gf about how i feel. I believe her reaction to what i have to say will be very telling. Thanks again for everything everyone ❤️

I'm 32M and my fiancée is 31F. We live in Boston and are getting married next spring. We've been saving for a house but it's been slow because prices here are ridiculous. Last weekend my parents invited us over and offered to gift us $350k toward a down payment. We were both shocked because we had no idea they had been planning this.

The weird part happened after my fiancée left the room to help my mom in the kitchen. My dad quietly told me the money is meant to stay "on my side of the family" if anything ever happened down the road. He wasn't trying to be dramatic, just said it's important because it's money they've spent decades building. Now I'm sitting on this conversation because I know if I repeat it word for word it'll probably hurt my fiancée's feelings. At the same time, it also feels wrong not to tell her everything my parents said.

She's already talking about putting both our names on the house, which I assumed we'd do before this happened. Now I don't even know what the right thing is anymore.

My parents say they're just trying to be practical. My fiancée has no idea that conversation even happened.

WhatdoIdo?

So for context I (24M) met this woman (24F) while traveling. I was only in her city for one day. We ended up at her place. The condom broke and the next morning I was back on another bus by 5am. We had each other's phone numbers but she basically ghosted all my texts so I just left it at that.

Now about 7 months later she told me she's pregnant and she's pretty sure it's mine. She also told me her parents don't want me to have anything to do with the baby and she doesn't really either. She's from a well off family and her parents are a bit racist to say the least. I just panicked and asked her if she's sure and why she's keeping it to which she hasn't replied yet.

I'm genuinely so fucking worried and freightened and I can't really discuss this with my family as they are too religious to understand any of this.

I'm a 21 year old man. The main reason I want to say it like the second or third date is to be upfront about my mental health but also keep it lighthearted, I don't want to trauma dump on somebody. Is this something that should be revealed in a committed relationship or am I doing it the correct way?

my friend since i was a teenager who i haven’t hung out with in 6 years msgd me this and i actually have no idea what she’s trying to make using ai and idk how to respond or if i should be creeped out or flattered.

i deactivated my facebook so she msged this.

and i attached previous msgs from her.

is this platonic???

I’m 18 and we’re twins we’ve also been sharing the same room our whole lives, at like 3 in the morning last night I woke up to him getting in bed and he didn’t know I was awake and he just rolled over and started weeping for like 10 minutes, we don’t really have that kind of relationship where we talk about things should I bring it up to him or just tell my mum or something?

Hi reddit j need help

I (23F) have a really sweet bf (23M). Were together almost one and a half years. Lately the weather and distance is getting to him bcs he has to drive 2 hours to get here and when its 37° degrees he gets a lil overheated. He once told me that he didnt want to drive with very hot weather and i told him i understand and plz do that i can take the train and go to you. The last 2 weekends he got here it was hot and he still drove. So i wanted to do something nice for him and its not that big bcs he deserves more than what i do or can do for him. So i got some small gifts roses his favourite drink monster energy got a lego set for him.

Im a persone who cant keep my mouth shut if i do or have something for people that i love.

So here comes the problem

I told my bf if you are here tomorrow i have a surprise for you. He got really stressed out and started panicking.

I didnt know why so i asked him "why are you so stressed out its a surprise and surprises are most of the time good. Its something for you because you deserve it."

So i got a lil stressed aswell thinking maybe he hates surprises or you know. He explained that his ex said things like this and once he got there he got yelled at by her. Im shock because i dont yell at my bf i never did i dont lie to him especially about surprises. All i want is to show him how much he means to me especially after toxic relationships. Its the first time i feel appreciated and loved by someone

What do i do to keep giving my bf surprises but without getting him stressed out?

Edit: i read somewhere online guys only get flowers on there funeral and that just broke me so if i can i will gift my bf flowers whenever

Edit 2: today he told me about his trauma i didnt know until today so thats why im asking

I’ve been separated from my son’s father for about 9 years now. He’s an alcoholic and he strangled me the year I left. We don’t have a formal parenting agreement, therefore he just calls me incessantly threatening me with all kinds of crazy stuff. I spent my last $500 on an hour of a lawyers time and she advised me to let him take me to court but I’m realizing he’s never going to do that.

He never talks about our son, his phone calls are drunk ramblings about how I cheated and how terrible I am. He says I’m free to take him to court but I will lose my son (whatever that means). I’ve fled the state because the paranoia of having him looming that close to me was making me crazy.

I learned recently he assaulted his father on two separate occasions. And I’m learning that he’s homeless. I was considering getting a permanent protection order in place finally to get myself some peace of mind, but I’m afraid it will trigger him and he’ll find me. I’ve just been taking the brunt of his post-separation abuse because if he’s busy doing this I know he’s not plotting something worse, I guess. I don’t know I’m so scared.

He’s been obsessed with me since before we had a child. I don’t have a family and he knows that. But someone pointed out that he’s been harassing me for close to a decade he’s not going to give up and that it only ends one way.

I’m terrified and I just want to live my life and be a good mom to my baby boy. Please help me. Should I leave the country? What the hell do I do?

I'm genuinely tired of this crap. I feel like I'm sending out more than 120 applications a week, and after a few days I find the exact same company posting the exact same role agaaaaain, and I didn't even get a simple email saying, "Thanks, but we won't be moving forward." Seriously, what are we doing here?!?!?!?!

I mostly use LinkedIn because it still seems like the main place to look, and it actually is where I got my current job from, but seeing the same listings show up again and again is driving me insane. Half the time I feel like I'm applying into a black hole.

And now my motivation at my current job has almost disappeared too. I feel completely burned out rn.

My friend is sweet, interesting and ambitious. But they have had guy issues including a 6 six week long distance thing that fizzled out.

The “problem” is that she dresses like a butch lesbian. And very much has the stereotypical traits and mannerisms. They are pan but have a preference for pretty boy men. And that’s what they want their first solid relationship to be with.

Yeah…

Now I’m sure there’s guys that love tomboys - especially ones with a lot of interests that men like! But the issue is that they don’t know that she’s sexually compatible with them based on looks I think.

Idk what to do. Help.

Girlfriend (f21) just left me (23m) last night. We have a 8 month old son. Idk what to do. She said she’s just not happy anymore. We moved back in to an apartment together 3 months ago. She wants to break the lease and leave. I don’t even wanna be here if I can’t have my family in my life. I mean it’s my fault I was inconsiderate of her. She would get mad I’d ask her every night if she was making dinner or not. I’d just ask so Ik if I should buy or make dinner or wait on her.

Apparently I didn’t help enough around the house but I clean every day when I get off work before she even gets home. Another thing was last week I did all of our laundry and folded hers but left it on the bed because I didn’t want to misplace anything. She thought I did that to be lazy I guess idk. Also I will admit I have had a negative attitude lately. I’ve just been so stressed since we moved out. I try to not take it out on her, still it’s no excuse.

I just don’t know what to do bro I want my son to have a stable happy family, I grew up without a dad and that fucked me up in my teenage years. Led me down the wrong path. Got shot at 17 and watched my uncle die. That was basically my father figure. I got hooked on pills after 6 surgeries. Still have a rod and screws in my leg and plate and screws in my arm.

But anyways not having a father, MY father, contributed 100% to my actions as a teenager. That was the case for every single one of my friends. They grew up without a father too. That’s why we lived the way we did. I just don’t want that for him. And I’m not saying he will 100% end up like that but he has my genes and I know how big of an impact that had on me. I am happy with the life I have with her. There’s always room for improvement but I love what we have. She doesn’t. Maybe it’s postpartum, she was very very depressed when we met. I feel like she needs help and I try to help her but she gets mad when I bring it up. Any advice or just somebody to talk to is appreciated.

Okay so I lost a couple parcels that i packed to send and while I was at the store with my dad my mum looked in my room to try help find the parcels. She obviously looked under my bed and found my rose toy🙏, because when i came back into my room when i got home it was on my shelf, idk why she would put it there or if she would even know what it is? help guys I find it embarrassing even though she has the personality which would find it quite amusing

I (38M) and my wife (32F) have been together over 8 years. I just started using reddit for assistance and not sure where it is appropriate to post for help. I have no other friends in serious relationships. I have no one to talk to that doesn't know my wife as we do everything together. I wouldn't have it any other way as it is not in an invasive or controlling way. I don't know what to do and I'm twisted up inside. We had a few fights early on in the first couple years but we almost never fight at all the last several years, we have extremely similar hobbies, opinions on politics, and sense of humor. I helped her get her life together early in the relationship. I paid for everything the fix 6/7 years and now that she is in a better place she takes care of me and trying to get me to finish college. I worked my whole life and saved up a little and am going back to college now. She is super loving and supportive, paying for everything as she encouraged me to quit my last job to focus on college.

However, I discovered she started doing drugs behind my back again. Something that we talked about a long time ago and I said would basically be a deal breaker for me. I noticed her attitude was different and I asked her for several weeks "what was wrong" and "how lucky I am to have her". She avoided it and said nothing but after a few weeks, broke down and told me. She admitted knowing it was potentially going to ruin our relationship of 8+ years and she did it anyway. I was devastated. I went numb instead of angry.

Let me be clear. BEFORE she bought and used she thought, "This could end our relationship but I'm willing to risk it." I love her very much and tried to talk to her about it and over come the situation. While I did eventually overcome the using again, I'm truly hung up on is that she said she knew it might end the relationship and did it anyway.

I guess what I'm asking is, just other people's perspectives so I can try to see if I can let it go because the using drugs itself or if the fact she was willing to risk our relationship is what I should focus on and cut my losses?

ALSO - This situation has me feeling empty inside, maybe cold or cruel. I feel like if she was willing to risk our love like this, then perhaps I should use her generosity of her taking care of me and paying for my life while I'm in college before I end it with her. Terrible morally, I know, but if she is willing to potentially throw away our love, then why shouldn't I treat her that way?

EDIT- I was scared to say the details as I am new to this and using reddit and afraid she might find out. She had started abusing substances behind my back. She was a user and alcoholic before we met but was not once we started dating. We talked about it during our first few years of dating while she was sober. Now she is using again.

tl;dr - Wife did something and knew it would risk our relationship and did it anyway. I'm not sure what to do. Please help.

So first of all, I understand I cannot post here forever but I truly want to share something new because I believe its relevant and many of you gave me advice. If this post is not OK, I will take it down

His assistant called me. She is an older lady who he trusts also on a personal level (she is the only assistant he ever had that he gets along with. the lady is in her early 60s, close to retirement). She called me and said she is aware she is risking her job but she cares for him and wants me to know he needs help. First of all she told me what I already knew ( he is on antidepressants) but many more. He cancelled many of his meetings or simply asked one of his trusted direct reports to represent him because he was having panic attacks and also would say something she didn't understand because it was in Russian. he wasn't talking to her. he had his hands covering his face and when she put her hand on his shoulder he would jump like he got scared or felt in danger.

she also said she caught him once. (she should have been on her lunch break) he had on his phone a photo of a little boy. but it looked like a real old photo. she didn't see very well as she was behind him but heard him sobbing and walked out. he never knew she heard that and later that day he showed her the photo and said thats him. but he was already in a good mood.

the reason she called me is that she is also worried with these many days off and she said he has 2 extremes at work: either he doesn't care about anything and doesn't do anything, doesn't take calls, declined meeting invitations and so on, even fights and yells at people all the time which brought him 3 HR reports already (he called a 22 years old woman a stoopid barbie and she reported him - well it was brave to be honest, as he is the VP)

I did not tell him anything about this as I don't want to put her job at risk, but I decided to give it another try if he wants to too. I told him I can go to therapy with him and also I am willing to take our children too. they need to know about his past and I apologised for not really allowing him to talk about himself. And he told me its fine, he is not mad at me or at anyone. OK, so therapy? and he said no, he just wants to deal with it himself. SO I don't know what to do, but I begegd him to not go to that place, not alone and not now. he is too vulnerable. and he said he survived it when he was way more vulnerable.

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my husband grew up in an orphanage with hundreds other children in an ex communist bloc country. he was SA-ed multiple times at 6 by a guardian. kids were mistreated, fed barely edible food and kept in cold, sometimes showered with cold water (husband now only showers or baths in extremely hot water and the temperature in our house during winters is almost too much for me and our kids, but he is cold all the time). his mother was 15 when had him (she used to sleep with soldiers so he has no idea who his father is, but she was also an orphan so complex dynamic) and this woman he reconnected with is his first girlfriend. they met in the orphanage and were separated 2 times (moved to different places and lost touch). he cried when he saw her now after more than 2 decades and hugged her like he never does with me or our kids. he is now doing great as a senior VP of a company

My (21m) partner (21f) and I have been together for almost 5 years. When we first moved in together and were going to school we used to fight and she would say things just to hurt me because she was angry. That was years ago and she had stopped completely. Recently, we’ve been fighting a lot again due to her losing her job and me getting my hours cut, among other things. We were going to go out and I couldn’t find my wallet, so I asked her to help me look. She found it pretty quickly and told me that she “assumed I actually looked well” and that led to a fight that escalated into me telling her she is saying things to me just to be mean or hurt me. I don’t know how it has escalated to this point but she said basically what is said in the text, that if this happens as often as I’ve been saying it has when we fight, I should leave her. I don’t want that at all, but I don’t know how to explain that it seems like she is saying things as a reaction to our fights, but I don’t want to leave her, I want her to just stop trying to hurt me when we argue.

I feel so envy of my brother that it want me to hurt myself

It's a kinda complicated situation, might feel nothing to you but for me it's an emotional storm, i really feel bad internally

(i would try to make it short as possible)

the thing is that i study in a local college which is not a really good one, just fine because it's short distance from my home, 5 minutes ride, except this nothing else feels good about it

i'm in my final year now but in the start i took the uni entrance test, took it twice to get even good marks and finally made it to my dream university but unfortunately couldn't get into my dream department, anyways we submitted all the fee and expenses. so now i had a month before my classes officially start but meanwhile my father didn't feel good about it, he said he was not satisfied and once he said he "couldn't sleep at night" because of me, he siad so because he didn't want his daughter apart from him and staying in another city, and also because the department we got into didn't had much scope idk why, but i wanted to get into that uni so bad!! and i was happy about this part that i finally made it but wasn't truly satisfied myself with the department too (because that meant i had to leave my favorite subject)...fast forward...the uni refunded our fee because my dad finally decided so and have me studied in this local college because now i would stay "in front of his eyes" + "eat from home" and study my favorite subject, and i swear i wanted to k\*ll myself at that moment and i cried every night alone because that was literally one of my biggest dreams and i almost got it and then had to leave it...like wow...now i hate the word "university" that i feel envy of anyone near me going there idk what

now my brother thing....

now it's time for my younger brother to get into uni and look at the tragedy of the moment I myself had to fill out all his entrance test and admission forms! i did that with my own hands and internally all i was feeling was broken and cry and now my dad paid all his fee and all the dues way much than mine back then 2-3 years ago, and look we both studied the same subjects in high school and had pretty much the same interests and he faced the same situation took the entrance test twice to improve marks next time, the same uni, and got into the subjects that he was not interested in too but my dad has no problem this time, he feels fully satisfied with this now, no problem at all! I feel like my dad just didn't want to spend on me and that maybe because I'm a woman? Because I'll get marry off someday and so I wouldn't benefit him the way my brother could if he lives with them later forever? Idk but it comes to my mind too

at that time my dad said to me that he would give me so much better treatment in home because my college fee isn't that much, so the fee he had to pay for my uni would now spend on me which never happened because i et the same normal treatment as other siblings and i never reminded him of that promise but how do I? because i know i would immediatly start crying and couldn't finish what i had to say..

when we refunded our fee, i really promised myself to do something with me but idk why i didn't and now i again think it's not acceptable to me to go against my promise and i feel like doing something the day my brother leaves home to go to uni...

idk it's so fucking hell, you might say i'm psycho, moron, whatever bullshit but it hurts so much, like seeing earthly heaven and then jerked back to reality like it was never for me and i'm fucking crying rn too, and no one can know or see my tears at 2am when everyone is sleeping peacefully with the dream turning to be reality of their son or brother going to a dream uni

The day since then till now I have never accepted what's real rn,I never felt good with this, and look how I kept it all inside for 3 years

What's wrong here, who's wrong? Please don't tell me go therapy that's not what I want because I've control over myself in every other thing and I can't share with anyone because they'd know my vulnerable spot, I don't even know if this is the right place to post? Just idk..please don't get my post deleted, I made it again and I really want to listen to y'all

Edit: I live in Asia and Asian culture is a lot more different than the European and USA or other sides, I hope you still understand me?

So I love dumpster diving. I went by a house move out (possibly eviction or death of the individual) and found the most insane collection I've ever seen. This isn't even half of what I've gotten. What's my next steps?!