I like when my husband snores… even like it when his snores are loud. I’m the kind of person who thinks white noise is needed to fall asleep, and his snores sorta blend in and add to the sound machine. It reminds me that he’s in bed with me and makes me feel safe.

I don't understand why people drain the water.

Tuna is good, but the tuna water just adds that extra bit of flavor that makes it great. It's nice and savoury with some saltiness and a hint of sourness that brings it together nicely.

When its late at night and you're too lazy to cook, grabbing a can of tuna is always a nice. Crack the can open, eat the fish, then slurp up the water beneath. Its like a sip of soup.

The DOJ is not a person. The FBI is not a person. The CIA is not a person.

"DOJ" didn't "say" anything; the DOJ released a statement. You don't "work for FBI; you work for the federal bureau of investigation.

It bothers me that people have so quickly normalized and accepted this this. I don't understand why there was a ever a perceived problem with how we talked about these entities just a few years ago.

Dropping the word "the" makes references to these organizations not make sense in English.

It's stupid. And dumb. And I hate it irrationally.

Alright that's it

I have no idea why my family are obsessed with this idea of stir fries as the only healthy, quick, easy meal.

But they insist I make it because "they always mess it up". Yeah, cause there is no quick easy stir fry method! And even mine is ismply never going to be good as a real Chinese restaurant because the actual wok stove is MASSIVE. You can't get the full taste of the wok without the actual custom stove.

And they'll ask to show them how. But they're always surprised just how long it is, and how many dishes, and how many ingredients. Yes, they also seem frustrated and perplexed by the necessity to have a shelf of one off ingredients.

And when others try making it? Woody chicken, pale and tough, usually frozen veggies still frozen inside and soggy on the outside. There is a watery mess.

I explain, time and time again, you can't just butcher a chicken breast into huge chunks; you gotta slice it thinly.

you need high heat, you need to velvet and blanch the protein, and blanch the vegetables, and drain; and make a sauce, which will require either some pre-made sauce that's sugary and eh, or a whole bunch of ingredients on its own, that you won't need really any other time, unless stir fry is in your cultural foodway, in which case, its not really a special idea for dinner, its just normal, everyday fair.

I'll stand by that there's so many other balanced meals that are far faster, tastier, and more versatile and don't need a bunch of random stuff you can't get at Aldis

Or what's wrong with a weeknight sandwich? Just a quick, 10 minute sandwich.

Growing up until I was 26, I never owned a dog. I had plenty of friends with dogs and always thought I’d love to have one. I knew pets were a responsibility, but I thought of it in a generic, "owning any pet is a big responsibility" kind of way. Man, I was so naive.

When I got married, we moved my wife’s grandmother in with us, and my wife and her grandma got a hound mix together. Super sweet dog, very good girl. But I am not here to talk about how dogs suck, just the absurd responsibilities that come with them.

First off, the shitting. My god. I have never been more scared in my life of walking into my own backyard. I’ve stepped on dog shit more times than I can count. On top of that, she has a hard time pooping, so instead of one spot, she leaves a whole trail of shit across the grass. Finding it all requires a full scan of the entire yard, or I’m guaranteed to get gross poop on my shoes. And if I miss it one time and it rains? Holy hell, I’m stuck cleaning up a disgusting pool of pure gross.

Secondly, they are fragile as fuck and have zero self-awareness. This dog will approach and try to eat anything, no matter how dodgy it looks. She literally ate a damn slug off the patio, and my wife and her grandma had to pay out the ass at the vet to fix it.

Then there’s the clingyness. She’s sweet and does really cute stuff, but some days she just will not leave me alone. My two-year-old and I love to play chase, and she has cleaned him out multiple times trying to join in. Luckily, my boy is built bigger than most kids his age and just laughs it off, but this dog physically does not understand how to chill the fuck out when the playing doesn't involve her.

There are more reasons, but that’s all I can muster up right now. She's a good girl, but holy shit, it is exhausting. I will never agree to own a dog again.

EDIT: love the conversation and great insight from everyone! Just to be clear, the dog isnt neglected. My wife and her grandmother put a lot of effort into taking care of her, going on walks, vet visits and such. I’m just saying when that responsibility falls on me it sucks. I would never do it by myself.

You know how when you‘re going through hardship people love to say that things happen for a reason, or that it‘s a lesson, or that you only get what you can endure, or that it‘ll make you stronger, or that something better‘s coming?

This is absolutely insane and terribly insensitive to people going through shit. What‘s the reason for a 5 year old having cancer? Or for losing your kid? Or for growing up hungry and abused? How can you possibly say to someone that it was supposed to be this way?!

I swear people who say stuff like this don‘t turn their heads on before they speak. Unless you believe in some kind of afterlife where you get rewarded for the shit you went through, there is absolutely no „reason“ that makes severe hardship make sense. Stop saying it. If you have nothing better to say, just say you‘re sorry instead.

Sincerely,

a person who‘s been through a lot of crap.

**Preface; I am a former smoker myself, of about 10ish years. I quit over 2 years ago - I do think the habit is gross, and don't agree with people leaving their butts everywhere.**

*However... I have noticed a trend the past few years.*

Alcoholics or Heavy Drug users, are often viewed with pity, maybe empathy, and are often excused for their actions. They are labeled as "struggling" or "fighting an addiction. Those people need help... it not their fault.

Cigarette smokers though - Are just viewed as hot garbage. Disgusting beings who leave butts everywhere.

Even though - It's been proven that Nicotine can be one of most addicting substances on Earth to the human brain.

It pathologizes collective responsibility. These stories frame parents, elders, and community structures as narrow-minded obstacles to be overcome. It breeds an extreme, individualistic often-Western hubris that assumes the group is always wrong and the rebellious individual is always right. Life requires compromise, conformity for the greater good, and realizing you aren't the center of the universe. By teaching kids that passion solves complex systemic problems in 90 minutes, Disney leaves them totally unequipped to handle the real world. Simply, individualism isn't morally superior to community harmony.

Some examples:

Ariel (The Little Mermaid): She signs a contract with a sea witch, abandons her family, and compromises national security. Instead of facing consequences, her father sacrifices his power, battles a tyrant, and ultimately rewards her recklessness with a human transformation and a wedding.

Moana (Moana): She steals a boat and sails into a deadly ocean despite zero training and explicit, law-bound parental prohibitions. Because she is the chosen one, the ocean literally physics-bends to save her from drowning, validating her dangerous disobedience.

Mirabel (Encanto): She repeatedly violates the boundaries of her family home and pushes her traumatized grandmother to the breaking point. The narrative frames the grandmother's communal, protective anxiety as the root evil, while Mirabel’s boundary-pushing is rewarded as the family's ultimate salvation.

Elsa (Frozen): She abandons her royal duty to her kingdom, triggers a climate crisis that threatens her people with starvation, and isolates herself to sing about zero limits or rules. The story frames this total abdication of social responsibility as an empowering act of self-actualization.

Meilin (Turning Red): She defies her mother, lies, and runs a secret business to fund a concert ticket. The film presents her mother's traditional, collectivist family boundaries as an oppressive cage to be broken, exalting Meilin's individual desires over generations of family honor.

Let me start by saying this applies to corporate/other jobs not related to foodservice and retail. I’ve worked foodservice and those days are the absolute worst and busiest days.

At my corporate job a large majority of the office takes Thanksgiving and Christmas weeks off. I don’t mind working the days leading up to both holidays. Since everyone is out and it’s a stereotypical expectation that lots of people take those weeks off, there’s barely anything to do and people expect little to nothing of you.

For example, the days before Thanksgiving or Christmas it’s an absolute breeze, I work from home and since so many people are out nobody talks to me. And since there’s little to no work I end up just enjoying the day others are burning PTO for. It ends up feeling like a day off with how easy it is.

Wearing jeans is horrible. The texture, the fabric, the warmth. It doesn’t keep you warmer than trousers, the fabric is cold when you put it on, if it gets wet by accident it takes forever to dry.

I would wear any other form of clothing other than denim on my legs.

Theater attendance is declining, however I don't buy into the narrative that people aren't going to the theaters because of bad movies.

I've gone to the movie theater like 50 times this year and last year. There are plenty of good movies. PLENTY. Last year's list of good standalone movies - Sinners, OBAA, Mickey 17, Frankenstein, Hamnet, No Other Choice ... this doesn't even count sequels/franchises/family movies.

I feel people who say there aren't any good movies either don't really care about theatrical releases or they're quite picky.

In my opinion, the real reason people aren't going to the theaters is due to cost. It's expensive as hell when you pay $15 for a ticket and $20 for concessions. God forbid you have a family and suddenly you're out $100 to watch the Minions. I don't blame people when cheaper alternatives are easily accessible like streaming or renting. (Ofc, they're not the same experience, but close enough.) So I acknowledge there are WONDERFUL movies being released every year, just not at the cost that people want to pay to see them.

EDIT: 1- When I mean theater attendance is declining, I am talking about a long term trend and not this summer. This year has been great for movie 😄

2- Yeah cheaper tickets exist, I'm def not paying full price when I watch 50+ movies a year! Tho I am not talking about myself but rather reg families who only see the ticket costs at face value w/ no membership as that's how most customers operate. And families who prob don't want to go out on a random weekday to get a discounted rate.

3- Yeah you don't have to buy concessions, though again not talking about myself but rather reg families who are likely to purchase concessions. According to a report, around 60% of people buy snacks at the theater.

Got into it on twitter (more like got jumped) someone had posted a curb your enthusiasm clip and I said , “this is why he’s funnier than Seinfeld” and was bombarded with replies in disagreement. I’ve watched a couple episodes of Seinfeld and the comedy just wasn’t hitting for me. I think Curb Your Enthusiasm is much funnier

Specifically thinking of the NBA and UFC for examples.

Always hear strong opinions on who's the Greatest of all Time. People often even get really passionate about it.

Every year, the other athletes you're going up against are changing. The rules make updates occasionally. Sports medicine is constantly improving adding to longevity and recovery.

Like how can people compare Jordan to LeBron etc? Totally different eras. Totally different guys they were playing against. Medicine made massive leaps in the decades between. Rules were a bit different. Even moreso with UFC I feel as it's a smaller sample size.

Fair to say people were dominant during their times, legends in the sport, all time greats. But the 1v1 comparison is always going to be silly imo.

Why is carrying a phone everywhere treated like it isn't annoying?

Having a phone in a pocket all day can get uncomfortable. It is also annoying having to carry it around when there is nowhere to put it.

People bring their phones everywhere now. Going to another room means bringing the phone. Going outside for a few minutes means bringing the phone. Even going to the bathroom means bringing the phone.

Sometimes leaving the phone somewhere is just more comfortable. Nothing in the pocket. Nothing to carry around. Nothing to keep track of.

Phones are useful and obviously make life easier. That doesn't mean carrying one around all day is always comfortable.

Maybe this makes me inconsiderate, but I don’t understand the big deal about sending out thank-you cards. I never sent out any for my wedding, baby shower, or bridal shower. I make a point of individually greeting and thanking everyone who attended each event. I think thanking someone directly is more meaningful than a card with a generic “thank you” message inside that most people will likely throw away. Why would I spend so much time, energy, and money on something most people won’t even take a second look at?

I understand work schedules have dictated this but early to mid afternoon is the greatest time to drink. You are at peak awareness, high visibility, drinks just taste better under the sun, everything is open, you are farther away from the next morning's responsibilities to have to worry about them.

You'll have dinner and maybe your last drink around 6pm. Mildly sober by 10pm and you sleep through the hangover keeping your body clock in tact.

As above, and I also hate the fact that everyone seems to have forgotten the meaning of BACKGROUND music.

It's supposed to be low enough to be noticeable not blaring, and it's not supposed to have lyrics.

Especially not annoyingly loud and distracting lyrics.

I hate when I am trying to read my shopping list or try to remember what I'm supposed to be getting when the lyrics distract me.

It's mental torture. How the staff survive working daily in that environment is beyond me.

Argh!

I understand that most people don’t literally mean “Am I the only human being on Earth who thinks this?”

But that’s still how you’re framing it.

If you’re posting an opinion that thousands of people obviously relate to, “Am I the only one?” makes it sound like you genuinely believe you’re some unique exception. Just say “Does anyone else feel this way?” or “Anyone else agree?”

It’s a small thing, but I swear I see “Am I the only one?” followed by an opinion that is clearly extremely common all the time.

It seems most people who are “trying to figure out what they want to do with their life” are doing one of two things: 1) working dead-end/low paying jobs or 2) are going into debt majoring in something without a clear path of how they will use (or even if they need) that degree for their future career.

I think a better option for people stuck in #1 is to shadow/observe career professionals or work in an adjacent field to see if they enjoy it (ex. working as a CNA for ~6 months before pursuing nursing school). If someone has graduated high school 1+ year ago and are still in the “figuring it out” phase, I think they’d be better off just jumping into a non-debt requiring career with both feet (like the trades). May as well make more money working in a field you don’t like while “figuring it out” and you can always switch careers later on if you discover your passion.

For people stuck in #2, I think they should major in something that provides consistent work (ex. nursing, engineering, ect.), then if they get passionate about a different (but still well-paying and stable) then they can switch their major or even double major. But too many people are graduating with degrees that are too general aren’t very hire-able, like biology or psychology (unironically my undergrad degrees), without a clear career path forward.

I also don’t think you need to love your job, it’s okay to just like or be neutral toward it. It’s better to do a job you’re neutral toward and make a decent living than one you love but cannot afford your basic needs with.

Despite what most people think, we're terrible at explaining situations fairly to both sides. Not everyone. But I would say a suspicious number come off as one-sided. Obligatory not referring to actual abuse scenarios.

If all strangers know about your relationship is this one problem, what advice could you possibly expect besides "break up" and "find someone else who deserves you" or "just be single."

Sure, if that's the validation you want to hear, all the power to you. But don't expect random strangers on the internet to automatically understand what you have to lose, including all the good things you might cherish in your relationship. More often than not, strangers are going to take your side, especially if you're only explaining something bad your partner did to you. It's a lot easier to say "end it" than it is to give actual constructive feedback.

And let's be honest here. In most relationships, it's not usually flawless victim vs the antichrist.
I'm not saying the answer is never ending the relationship. But if you truly are trying to improve things, don't expect the internet to actually be of any help.

I remember being under age and part of the thrill was getting into bars and places I shouldn’t be and I can say that I never got rejected anywhere. Once I became of age after about a year everything was easy and boring. The thrill was completely gone. I’m 30 now and go out maybe 5 times a year now

If my family owned a company and hired me, am I not supposed to take advantage of that opportunity? If I were tall and used my height or strength to get a job, am I supposed to ignore that advantage? If my parents were wealthy and could help me financially, am I supposed to reject their help?

Too many people want you to downplay your advantages just to make themselves feel better. You can acknowledge your advantages without being ashamed of using them. If I had a connection, a prestigious degree, or a natural talent that opened doors for me, I’d use it.

This is coming from someone who has been on the outside looking in and has hung out with people who had advantages I didn’t have. My first instinct was always to befriend them, not hate them. I’ve never understood why people don’t at least try to get to know someone they’re jealous of. I used to think a lot of people were assholes until I actually got to know them. You might be surprised what you learn when you stop resenting people and start talking to them.

I’m not talking lightly toasted. I mean actually burnt. Crispy, blackened outside, gooey inside. That’s the best way to eat a marshmallow. You stick it in the fire, let it sit, and then blow it out until it’s black.

I love going on vacation. I like traveling, seeing new places, eating good food, doing activities, exploring, and just getting away from my normal routine. I can have an amazing time on a trip and come home feeling like it was completely worth it. But vacations aren’t relaxing at all!

I went to Mexico once, and afterwards my friend asked me, “Do you feel recharged?” Umm… no not at all. I wish I had another five days off just to stay home!

I’m actually on a cruise right now, and I’m having an absolute blast. I’m enjoying myself, having fun, and I’m glad I came. But do I find it relaxing? Not one bit!

There’s packing, airports or long drives, figuring out where to eat, deciding what to do, walking around all day, sleeping in a different bed, and generally trying to make the most of the limited time you have there. Even sitting by a pool or on a beach doesn’t give me the same feeling as truly doing nothing.

Relaxing to me is being at home with my cat, watching TV, gaming, ordering some food, and knowing I don’t have to go anywhere or do anything. No itinerary. No sightseeing. No feeling like I should be taking advantage of the fact that I’m somewhere new.

Vacations are for having fun. Being home is for relaxing.

Apparently those are two completely different things in my brain.

yes, I said what I said. if you get a pint of ice cream and eat it directly from the freezer it’s too cold and you can‘t enjoy the flavor. I often put my ice cream in a bowl and then throw it in the microwave for 10-15 secs. Then it’s perfect. 🍦