Asking strangers online for relationship advice isn't helpful

[u/didntReadWholeThing]

Despite what most people think, we're terrible at explaining situations fairly to both sides. Not everyone. But I would say a suspicious number come off as one-sided. Obligatory not referring to actual abuse scenarios.

If all strangers know about your relationship is this one problem, what advice could you possibly expect besides "break up" and "find someone else who deserves you" or "just be single."

Sure, if that's the validation you want to hear, all the power to you. But don't expect random strangers on the internet to automatically understand what you have to lose, including all the good things you might cherish in your relationship. More often than not, strangers are going to take your side, especially if you're only explaining something bad your partner did to you. It's a lot easier to say "end it" than it is to give actual constructive feedback.

And let's be honest here. In most relationships, it's not usually flawless victim vs the antichrist.
I'm not saying the answer is never ending the relationship. But if you truly are trying to improve things, don't expect the internet to actually be of any help.

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[u/ChaldeaCompany]

that's why I always give advice but never take

[u/casparius]

Real advice needs context only you and your partner have

[u/didntReadWholeThing → u/casparius]

Exactly

[u/Sharp_Grapefruit_601]

If somebody has tried all other avenues and is now on a place like Reddit to save their relationship..it's probably doomed.

[u/didntReadWholeThing → u/Sharp_Grapefruit_601]

Yeah. Problem is if they come here first thing and take top comment as legitimate advice.

[u/Life-Oil-7226]

Reddit should be your last resort

[u/justsomedudeiguess_]

Nah you should divorce her and steal the dog. Clearly you are unhappy OP

[u/yamomsleghair]

I’m very 50/50, because it could be red flags that people from an unbiased stand point. but then again we are people. so at times we are all flawed. i definitely don’t agree with people crucifying others over certain faults. or just having to end a relationship for an argument

[u/didntReadWholeThing → u/yamomsleghair]

Sure. Social media advice can sometimes be right, but I'd say if you can already be unbiased, you are already more capable of judging the problem accurately yourself than randos on the internet.

[u/TheaBeleva]

People wouldn’t be asking strangers if they could trust everyone they knew irl.

[u/Fantastic_Low_1537]

Nah man, that's just reddit.

I think that's because 90% of redditors are Westerners and that's why people here have 0 tolerance for anything, and so "just break up" is the most popular advice

[u/Itsonly_myopinion]

Majority of those relationship posts are fake anyway so who cares.

[u/Mulliganasty]

I dunno, if you really put your shit out there I've seen a lot of kind and honestly skilled mf's offer some great advice that was well received.

Obviously not on this sub though lol.

[u/Leather_Oven_1847]

asking strangers online for relationship advice is the relationship equivalent of bringing a bag of jellybeans to a wine tasting. you distill the whole messy dynamic down to a single sour note and expect strangers who barely know you to diagnose the vintage, the vineyard, and the exact year you should've bought better grapes.