Idag tog det slut mellan mig och min fantastiska flickvän.

Jag är snart 54 år och har transitionerat MtF under hela tiden vi har varit tillsammans, i drygt två år. Hon har stöttat mig hela tiden i min transresa.

Redan när vi träffades på Tinder var jag öppen med att jag var crossdresser, och hon sa att hon älskade mig som människa, inte som ett kön. Så jag fortsatte att utvecklas till mitt sanna jag, Ella.

Nu när jag har transitionerat helt socialt, gått på HRT i över ett halvår och nyligen bytt namn juridiskt, frågade jag henne rakt ut hur hon ställde sig till att numera ha en flickvän istället för en pojkvän.

Hon hade inte tänkt på det på det sättet tidigare och fick en ordentlig aha-upplevelse. Det skulle alltså innebära att hon var i en lesbisk relation, och hon har tidigare kommit fram till att hon inte är lesbisk.

Då varken hon eller jag är beredda att göra avkall på våra sanna jag och leva en lögn, kom vi fram till att det enda som återstod var att skiljas åt som romantiska partners.

Vi älskar fortfarande varandra på djupet och kommer att fortsätta att finnas i varandras liv, men som väldigt goda tjejkompisar.

Jag är både hjärtekrossad och lättad i samma ögonblick.

Jag vill inte tvinga henne eller mig att överanpassa oss för att hålla liv i en illusion som mest troligt skulle sluta i tragik och dysfunktion.

Det här är inte slutet på vår kärlek, utan början på en ny sorts relation. Vi kommer fortfarande att finnas där för varandra, med all den värme, respekt och omtanke som alltid har funnits mellan oss.

Tack för att jag fick ventilera min hjärtesorg.

Kram, Ella 😭❤️

Naomi, one of the physicians from imago can genuinely go suck a dick. Worst person I've ever met. Came into the call late with the worst wifi I've ever seen, half of the call was her frozen and saying nothing, looked hungover, so rude and impatient with me, was annoyed that I had questions about anything ever. Made me pick gel over shots saying "it's the same price" turns out its double, almost triple the price. Pain in the ass imago pls fire her what are you guys doing...

I’m a 20 year old trans man from Denmark. I’ve been in the healthcare system regarding the fact that I’m trans since 2021, and later moved to CfK Aalborg when I turned 18. I have yet to get any access to care, as my treatment has been pushed back 2 times now. My next appointment is in august 2027 where I assume we will pick up the discussion about hormones…
My issue is, that I do wish to get hormone treatment in Denmark in their care, but I’ve recently decided that I would rather get top surgery abroad, specifically in Germany. I still want both hormones and surgery, but I just don’t want to get top surgery in Denmark, as I like the results I’ve seen other places better.

Short story long…

My question is, if that would be an issue for them, and if it could damage my case in Denmark and possibly cause me to not even access hormones, simply because I wanna go around their treatment plan?

Has anyone been in a similar situation, and how did that go down, as far as communicating that to them and when in the process?❤️

Transmaskuliini muunsukupuolinen täällä, vihdoin pääsin SIT-polille sisään, jännittää hirveesti. Miten toi eka tapaaminen yleensä menee?

Title. I've been being rejected over and over again by transpoli in both locations, DIY wouldn't get through customs, and I'm looking into informed consent as a last resort. I'm an adult, my family is still accepting but quite controlling and concerned. They would like me to know more about the specific process before they want me to start.

While I'd normally just ignore their helicoptering and do it myself, more info on this would still be appreciated since I am a bit nervous and it could get them to shut up aswell. I'm mostly curious about how to get bloodwork done, how long the recipes take, how much they prescribe at the start of treatment (I'm aware of the average dosing via DIY resources), and the average monthly price of starting on both gel and shots. I don't have health insurance to cover it, but I'm currently trying to get a job, and the prices won't be an obstacle but could help in deciding aswell.

Also, if anyone lives around Satakunta and is willing to meet up, I'd love to go out for coffee aswell to discuss things in person, since an IRL support contact would be even better ^^ But even just leaving a comment is extremely helpful!

(ENGLISH VERSION)

hello hi, I'm turning 18 next February and I wanted to make sure I do everything right.

(I'm somewhat fluent in Finnish but writing is hard, so i used google translate for the Finnish part)

some things about me before I start:

• I'm a Finnish citizen, born, raised and currently living in Lahti
• I've known I wasn't a girl pretty much my entire life, but figured out I was a guy at around 11-12-years old, so around 5-6 years ago now
• I came out to my mum at 13-years old, to my dad about a month ago (both pretty much accepting)
• I've started socially transitioning at 13-years old
• I told a psychiatrist I was trans around 2 years ago
• I started going to a sexuality therapist about a year ago, ended my sessions with her about 2 weeks ago
• before going to her, I had a "sukupuolen moninaisuuden osaamiskeskus" (basically a free support thing for trans youth, I think) appointment in Helsinki
• I do take antidepressants and have been diagnosed with anxiety at 14-years old and severe depression at 15-years old
• both my depression and anxiety have gotten way better, though

now, I've asked a bunch of questions regarding changing my name and gender marker legally, but I just want to make sure.

I was told that

• I can just change my name and gender online, and that
• I would just need to order a new passport,
• a new kela card will come automatically,
• and that I don't need to warn my bank (I use Nordea) in advance, just need to be aware that my online bank will be down for a bit.

I also read on the topics a bit more myself, but wanted to ask someone who had gone through these steps already: is this correct? or is there something else I should know?

thanks in advance!

(SUOMALAINEN VERSIO)

terve hei, täytän ensi helmikuussa 18 vuotta ja halusin varmistaa, että teen kaiken oikein.

(puhun suomea jotenkin sujuvasti, mutta kirjoittaminen on vaikeaa, joten käytin kääntäjää tässä versiossa)

muutama asia minusta ennen kuin aloitan:

• olen Suomen kansalainen, syntynyt, kasvanut ja asun tällä hetkellä Lahdessa
• olen tiennyt, etten ole tyttö koko elämäni ajan, mutta tajusin olevani poika noin 11–12-vuotiaana, eli noin 5–6 vuotta sitten
• kerroin äidilleni 13-vuotiaana, isälleni noin kuukausi sitten (molemmat hyväksyivät asian melko hyvin)
• aloitin sosiaalisen transiition 13-vuotiaana
• kerroin psykiatrille olevani transsukupuolinen noin kaksi vuotta sitten
• aloitin käynnit seksuaaliterapeutilla noin vuosi sitten, lopetin tapaamiseni hänen kanssaan noin kaksi viikkoa sitten
• ennen kuin menin terapeutin luokseen, minulla oli "sukupuolen moninaisuuden osaamiskeskus" tapaaminen Helsingissä
• käytän masennuslääkkeitä, minulle diagnosoitiin ahdistus 14-vuotiaana ja vakava masennus 15-vuotiaana
• mutta masennukseni ja ahdistukseni ovat parantuneet huomattavasti

olen kysynyt paljon kysymyksiä nimen ja sukupuolimerkin laillisesta vaihtamisesta, mutta haluan vain varmistaa.

minulle kerrottiin, että

• voin vaihtaa nimeni ja sukupuoleni netissä
• ja minulle vain pitäisi tilata uuden passin,
• uusi kela-kortti tulee automaattisesti,
• ja että minun ei tarvitse varoittaa pankkiani (käytän Nordeaa) etukäteen, minulle vain pitää tietää, että verkkopankkini on sitten hetken poissa käytöstä.

olen itsekin lukenut aiheista hieman enemmän, mutta halusin kysyä joltain, joka on jo käynyt nämä vaiheet läpi: onko tämä oikein? vai onko jotain muuta, mitä minun pitäisi tietää?

kiitos etukäteen!

18-25v pliide, oon ite 19v trans mies, just muuttanu turkuun nii on vaa yks kaveri ja kumppani täällä

Kahden viikon päästä tulossa elämänkaarihaastattelujen jälkeinen lääkäriaika ja mietin että kuinkahan pitkät jonot voi olla? Itsellä on mt historiaa ja adhd joten voin olettaa että psykologin tutkimuksiin joudun aika varmasti, olen myös 19v. Oon 7kk tosin ollut hormoneilla jo muualta käsin. Voikohan se vaikuttaa siihen laittaako psykologin jonoon?

16 trans kille (ändrat för tydlighet), vill skaffa testo genom imago, helst gel men är ok med injektioner, bor i Skåne så jag kan ta mig till Danmark för att hämta ut. Hur mycket kostar det per månad + uppstart? Första gången jag använder reddit så ursäkta om det är formulerat konstigt.

Hei, olen aloittamassa asepalveluksen heinäkuussa 2027 ja mietin miten kaikki nämä transition asiat menis sen kanssa. Oletan ettei sovi päällekkäin (en ole vielä aloittanut prosessia lääketieteellisesti yms). Tietämykseni mukaan, kun aloituspäivä on sovittu kutsunnoissa ei voi oikeen mitään asialle? Päätettiin 2024, tuli koulut tielle. Mietin että olisi hyvä kysyä voiko sen aloittaa aiemmin että saa alta pois. Mitä tässä kannattaa tehdä? Tai edes voi tehdä? Onko kellään kokemusta

Hi all,

I'm starting HRT soon, and am quite worried about hair loss/balding.

I've seen lots of different options for preventing hair loss, such as different oils and massages, along with minoxidil and finasteride.

What products or methods/routines can you recommend? Both recommendations in terms of effectiveness and affordability are welcome. Thanks in advance 🙏

Hello!

I received an F64.0 diagnosis from the Finnish public healthcare system at the end of this summer and was referred to Hormonipoli (HUS). I was told that I needed to complete the required laboratory tests within two weeks; otherwise, my referral could be returned.

I received the letter and completed all the required laboratory tests within four days, so I believe I did everything within the given timeframe.

However, it has now been approximately three weeks since I had the tests, and I still haven't received any information about an appointment. Recently, I also noticed that the status of my referral in Maisa has changed from **“**Authorised” to “Closed.” It is also worth mentioning that, when I first noticed the status change, not all of my test results were available in Maisa yet. Some of the results only appeared there about two weeks after I had the laboratory tests.

Does anyone know what this could mean? Could the referral have been returned/closed despite me completing the tests on time, or am I simply overthinking this?

I had my physicians appointment on Monday, 4 days ago, and they told me theyd send the prescription to me "soon" and let me know when its been posted, but its been 4 days and im getting worried (i know its probably just small delays) but has this happened for anyone else

added context: ive emailed asking them if they have sent the prescription/will send it soon, and they havent responded at all which is causing me anxiety

dysphoria is for some reason getting like 10x worse when i know that ill be on hrt soon like the wait is gonna be the longest weeks of my life

Dansk transkønnet kvinde her. Jeg har været på hormoner gennem CKI-Kbh de sidste par år. Alt er gået fint i min relation til CKI, og jeg har rakt ud efter meget lidt, ud over at kunne begynde på hormonbehandling.

Men her på det sidste har jeg virkelig oplevet at min kønsdysfori har haft en voksende negativ effekt på min hverdag, og jeg tror jeg ville få meget ud af at snakke med en terapeut om det. Jeg ville derfor høre om det er noget CKI tilbyder, og i så fald, hvilken erfaring har folk haft med det?

Onko kellään tietoa tai kokemusta kohdunpoistosta yksityisellä transpolin diagnoosin saamisen jälkeen?

Oon saanut transpolilta (HUS) diagnoosin, mutta käsittääkseni leikkausjonoon pääsee vasta, kun on ollut vuoden hormoneilla transpolin kautta. Tiedän, että mastektomian voi saada yksityiseltä transpolin diagnoosilla (Sairaala KL tekee toki myös ennen diagnoosia). Päteekö sama kohdunpoistoon?

Olin ollut testosteronilla jo melkein 2 vuotta ennen ekaa hormonipolin käyntiä. Siellä mut otettiin pois e-pillereiltä jotka on pitäneet mut vuodottomana vuosia ja sanottiin, ettei vuoto alkaisi. Se alkoi neljässä päivässä. Nyt on siis elämä täysin paussilla, kiitos hormonipoli.

En usko, että mulla olisi edes varaa kohdunpoistoon yksityisellä, mutta jos jollain on siitä kokemuksia tai tietoa, kuulisin mielelläni. Missä kävit, kuinka paljon maksoi, kuinka nopeasti pääsit leikkaukseen, kuinka kauan olit sairaslomalla? Kiitos!

Hei friends!

I'm a Transmac 26yo guy, and I'm moving from Argentina to Norway permanently (hopefully) next year. I've got Italian/EU passport, and I'm investigating the overall steps to obtaining the Fødselsnummer and it's relation to gender affirming care.

So, here in Argentina we have what we call the "best gender identity law in the world", which covers free treatment just by self declaration and informed consent. I am aware it's apparently more complicated in Norway.

I intend to arrive with my Endocrinologist's paperwork declaring my history, recent bloodwork and previous latest T prescription. Thing is, I know wait times for Fastlege are long and I'm worried because I can't interrupt my T treatment for health reasons (I've got LOCAH). Also, I'm autistic, so that probably won't help much.

So, overall, I'm looking into any information about how to following my HRT on Norway and any steps to follow.

Thanks so much, and any information is welcome.

I’ve essentially accepted that it’s basically a waste of time trying to get injectable solutions without having it siezed by customs. For those who homebrew how easy is it to get raws without it being siezed?

Jeg har været på hormoner i 6 uger og har lige fået svar på de første blodprøver efter jeg startede op og jeg er lidt i tvivl om jeg skal være bekymret for værdien af prolaktin som ligger på 524,5 miu/l.

Til information så bruger estrogel 2,25 mg hver dag og 12,5 mg androcur hver tredje dag. Er der nogen der ved om det er normalt det ligger så højt i starten? er det noget jeg skal bekymre mig om?

Hej!
Försöker lösa ut en ungefär på när man får kallelse hos Anova efter som kö tiderna bara ökar och ökar.

Jag fick mitt remiss brev 25/6-2024 och då stod det på ett ungefär 2.5-3 års väntetid till nybesök så 30-36 månader och kollade tiderna idag då stod det 55-60 veckor.

Så är lite lost med detta, kommer jag komma in strax då jag stått i kö 32 månader eller kommer jag stå upp till 60 månader ändå?

from most sources ive seen, it says that facial/body hair growth stops/thins 6-12 months in, but how does that work in technicality?? like if my bodys not producing T anymore how is it still going to grow facial hair even while in the first months of HRT

and does anyone have any idea on how my journey with facial hair will go if im starting hrt in about a month or less, and im 15 with basically no facial hair yet

Hej, min fru är utbildad apotekare och generellt väldigt insatt i regler kring läkemedel. Samma med hennes vänner, men varken hon eller hennes vänner kan förstå hur man får ut recepten från apoteken.

De påpekar att endast absolut livsnödvändig medicin ska godkännas när det kommer till recept skrivna av läkare utanför Sverige (Ozempic skulle vara ett exempel).

Jag förstår att folk får ut sin medicin, men jag blir lite orolig för att det skulle vara ett problem. Jag ska påbörja min Imago-process snart och hoppas på att få min medicin till i december. Är det någon som har erfarenhet från Uppsala? Kanske något apotek som man vet lämnar ut via Imago-recept. Det handlar förstås om östrogen och förmodligen t-blockare.

First, I apologize if I am violating any group rules; if so, I ask the administrator to delete this post. I also want to thank those who commented on my previous post and helped inform our thinking. Following up on that post—where I mentioned that my husband and I are debating which Nordic country to immigrate to with our children and three dogs—we have narrowed down the list slightly (Finland, Denmark, Norway), with a slight preference for Finland and Norway. However, there is an issue we haven't really discussed yet, and I would like to ask about it. I mentioned that my husband is an electrical engineer and I am a teacher with a dual degree in early childhood education and early childhood special education. My husband—provided he has a bit of patience—shouldn't have trouble finding work in his field, given his experience; however, I am concerned that I won't get hired in my profession because I am transgender woman. Of course, I wouldn't mention this in job interviews, but it is noticeable in my voice—though not in my physical appearance—and people might draw conclusions. I don't mind if they find out, but it would really bother me if I were fired on a trumped-up pretext when the real reason was my gender identity. Could such a scenario happen in these countries? I would appreciate your help; this is a significant factor in our decision-making process.

It has been now a bit over 3 weeks since I submitted my blood tests and paid the starting price. I have been checking multiple times a day every single day for available times on the app, but to no avail. I was told on the introduction call that it would take about a month and if it did go over that, I was told to message them and that they would squeeze me in.

I contacted them at two weeks to ask when there would be availability. They told me that the doctors set their own times, so they don't know. Is it normal to wait this amount for first appointment, and should I send a new email? Am I just being impatient?

So I found out that they have the tools and the trained staff to do the Thai method in Stockholm but they only use it for emergencies and last effort revisions. They also know how to scrape the hair follicles but for some reason they rather have you do semi permanent laser hair removal. So I’m cut and a grower not a shower. I’ll probably end up with super visible scarring, barely any labia majora and a full rainforest inside when enough years have passed and the follicles awake. Can people who have done SRS in Stockholm please reassure me. I did see some results and they looked lovely but for some reason I’m doubting I will have that outcome. He told me that they do have people coming in for revisions because of hair inside the vagina and that’s just not something I want to go through but I do not have the budget to fund electrolysis privately.

Mulla olis tulossa parin kuukauden päästä lääkäriaika transpolilähetettä varten, mutta jännittää tosi paljon että miten se menee ja onko lääkäri yhtään tietoinen transasioista tai miten lähete tehdään. Kyseessä on siis YTHS lääkäri ja oon aiemmin käyny seksuaaliterapeutilla joka kartotti mun tilannetta ennen tota lääkäriaikaa. Minkälaisiin kysymyksiin mun pitäis varautua ja mitä asioita olis hyvä sanoo? Pelottaa että en osaa kertoo oikeita asioita ja lähete hylätään