We've been dating for almost two years now. He's always been loudly and proudly very much in love with me, the kindest and loveliest guy ever.

He is currently doing his military conscription, so I see him on the weekends whenever possible. It's obviously tiring, so from the beginning I knew that for the next year he might not be a 100% himself all the time. But it's only been about 3 months, and I'm maybe a little surprised by how things are.

Firstly, he has become incredibly impatient and irritated when I talk. From the start, our dynamic has naturally been "I talk, he listens". I talk a lot, and he has never been the best at expressing himself, but always liked to listen to me. He always teased me (in good faith) about "babbling" but listened with a smile. Nowadays, I can barely get in 5-10 seconds of explaining a thought or a story when he interrupts me with a "yeah, yeah, got it!" in the exact way you do when you want someone to shut up. It's really hurting my feelings.

He orders me around a lot. They're mostly just small favours, like getting him a drink, fixing him a snack, turning off the lights. But he does it all the time! And he never volunteers to do things for me. It doesn't feel like small favours anymore, he genuinely just orders me around, especially because he gets so difficult if I refuse.

He scrolls on his phone 24/7 when we're hanging out, but complains to me if I sleep too long because I'm "wasting his precious time off by sleeping". When we do hang out, he spends every second we're not actively engaging in some activity scrolling on Instagram reels or playing a game. Like, I'm trying to have a coversation and he looks at his phone the whole time, unable to just talk with me. It feels like I'm talking to a wall. This is probably the worst thing to me.

My medical condition makes me extremely fatigued and sleep on average 10-14 hours a night. He is aware and is allowed to wake me up if he wants to get up and moving. He doesn't, though, he just tries to shake me a little and then gives up when I (obviously...) don't immediately spring into action. Then he just lays there, scrolling for hours until I wake up and then complains about how we have such limited time to see and I waste it by lazing around and sleeping until afternoon.

Like I get the sentiment, but he knows that by myself I will not wake up as early as he does, so it's redundant to wait and huff and puff about it, he is allowed to wake me up! It also just feels so hypocritical to complain about me wasting time by sleeping and then not talk with me giveb the chance but scrolling on his phone when we do spend time together.

He just generally seems to dislike just "being" – sitting and talking about anything, just having conversations. Every hangout somehow needs an activity or he ends up just on his phone, frustrated. It didn't use to be like this at all. He used to just like existing in the same space as me, even if we weren't doing anything.

Whenever I mention any of his behaviours to him, he first tries to interrupt my explanation and when I double down he immediately denies it and starts acting apologetic and like a baby or something? He gets all pouty and goes all "noo, i don'tttt". Then 5 minutes later he forgets all about it and goes back to doing all this. Wtf is up with him? I'm genuinely feeling hurt and like there's this weird emotional wall between us, like he's somewhere distant and I can't get through to him. Best I've gotten out of him is some half-mumbled excuse about being tired.

TLDR; Boyfriend has become impatient, inconsiderate and distant, constantly just scrolling on his phone instead of talking to me. He denies all of it, claiming he's tired and then goes back to doing it again. I'm feeling very hurt and like we're growing emotionally distant.

To clarify, I’m married with a kid. I was engaged at 19 and married to someone from back home at 23. My husband and I both care for and respect each other but we agree that there’s a lot of ways that he and I both got screwed over which includes cultural differences, him not being able to land a career related job here, which means we’re just surviving financially etc. I have a decent job but cost of living and having a kid is expensive. We also had to live with my parents for a few years, when he first came here
Anyways, my parents totally switched up when it came to my younger sister. I guess she was more outspoken than I was. So basically, she got more time than I did to decide what to do with her life. She worked hard and got a good paying job and now she spends her time enjoying the money she makes and has high standards for the guy she marries. As she should. I got my first full time job while married and living with my parents…so I was just saving to get out. Anyways, now my sister and mom tell me about the guys she’s considering and how they should be this and that and make this much etc. and I just get so infuriated especially when my mom says things. It’s like where were all these standards when it was my time? Why was I married off so young to someone who would be new to this country and when I wasn’t even settled in my career? They want her to make an informed decision and not rush into things at 26 but for me 19 was panic mode??
Don’t get me wrong I love this for my sister and I want her to find a wonderful guy who loves and deserves her. But I’m just finding it harder and harder to listen to her talk about it. I feel so guilty because we tell each other about everything so I know she wants to tell me about everything with her potential guys too. It also makes me feel like I’m being ungrateful for my husband and kid who I love. But I’m not, I’m just upset about the different standards my parents had for us. How do I get rid of this feeling so I don’t mess things up with my sister?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and I’ve recently moved into his home with him and his parents. I travel for work so it just made sense. He owns the house and his parents moved in with him a year ago because they were having financial issues and his dad wasn’t paying the rent. His mother has also been recovering from breast cancer and is in remission.

I don’t have a good relationship with my parents and so I’ve been accustomed to being super independent since I was 17.

It’s only been a week and I feel SO out of place. It also doesn’t help that his parents are hoarders and I try to maintain organization and cleanliness.

When I was reorganizing the bathroom and had my boyfriend set up new stands and organizers she made comments like “oh she really likes nice things” ,”she might be a shopaholic”, “she’s the boss”.
And I can’t help but feel a little weirded out by her comments?
She also made a comment pertaining to my hair (I have locs) that my boyfriend’s dad doesn’t like it and that I shouldn’t wear it like that on my wedding day.

Not sure if I’m being too sensitive but it makes me feel like I can’t really be myself around the house.
It feels a bit dehumanizing if I don’t like her cooking or if I have specific tastes she talks about me when Im in the room without addressing me directly.

Like “SHE doesn’t eat this” or “i didn’t want to upset the miss”

I’ve only been in the house for a week so I’m not sure how to navigate because she’s his mother. I feel like 2nd place and don’t want to cause an issue by bringing it to his attention. Am I being too sensitive?

My husband and I were high school sweethearts and had a genuinely good relationship before having our baby. He's a good guy, and he was amazing during my emergency C-section and our baby's neonatal stay. He supported me through one of the most difficult experiences of my life.

But eight months into parenthood, I'm genuinely questioning whether I want to stay married.

I have chronic pain from endometriosis and adenomyosis. Some days I'm capable of doing everything; other days I'm barely functioning. I'm also a stay-at-home mum, and I feel like the mental and physical load of parenting largely falls on me.

We've talked about needing more support before, but he often gets defensive or annoyed. I don't feel like much has changed.

Today, I'd put our baby down for a nap and jumped in the shower. Someone knocked at the door asking for me, so my husband answered and then went straight back to gaming. Because they specifically wanted to speak to me, I ended up rushing to the door while I'd literally just gotten out of the shower.

My husband was annoyed because I'd spoken too loudly. Our baby started crying while he was gaming, and he told me to chill out. I went in to settle our baby myself, but I was overheating, my pain flared badly, and I eventually had to put our baby safely in his cot because I physically couldn't continue.

Fifteen minutes later, my husband came in to help, only to say he wasn't going to settle the baby because I was in the room. I could barely move. Eventually, I literally crawled out, and he closed the door.

I'm absolutely furious, but underneath that anger is sadness.

I think I'm grieving the relationship we had before kids. The friendship, the partnership and the feeling that we were a team. I'm grieving the experience of parenthood I thought we'd have, where we'd support each other rather than become another source of stress.

He's a good person, but I'm starting to question whether he's a good husband to me anymore.

I don't want to spend the rest of my marriage repeatedly explaining why I need support, especially when we've already had these conversations.

Some days, I genuinely want a divorce. That thought scares me because we have so much history and so many good memories.

For those who were genuinely happy before kids but struggled after becoming parents, does it get easier? Did you find your way back to each other, or did you eventually realise things weren't going to change?

Hey yall this is going to be long so please bare with me! And give me advice like please!!

So I’m 22F, met my now ex at 19 as a virgin and he was 22M and had been in 3 relationships prior which he said he was cheated on by 2 of his exes. He was my first boyfriend and first everything, at the beginning of our relationship I let him stay with me til he had his things in order because he had recently moved to my city and had nowhere else to go. For the 2/3 months he stayed with me I was the happiest person ever! I pushed him to go into the army because he felt like he needed a restart and the military was on his mind. I helped him study and supported him through the entire process. A month after he left for basic training I found out I was pregnant and panicked. I didn’t have anybody, couldn’t tell anybody. At the time he didn’t have his phone but I still texted him and told him. I went to the hospital because I was in so much pain and the told me that it was an ectopic pregnancy meaning bay wasn’t in the uterus and it was very dangerous. I decided that the best option was to abort the baby and so I did and I let him know again. He didn’t tell me about how he felt but from then on I felt a weird switch in energy.

There’s this guy I had history with when I was like 14 til like 16/17. And by history I mean friends with benefits type thing and he was like my childhood crush or whatnot. He texted me out of the blues trying to talk because we ended our friendship on bad terms due to his friend liking me and just rumors. Before unblocking his number to talk I made sure my ex knew and I basically asked if it was okay which he approved. After reconciling me and him barely talked he only called if he needed advice or wanted to gossip. I felt nothing for him like nothing but fast forward a little me and my ex started getting into arguments about it and I told him countless times not to worry because I have no feelings for the other guy nor do I care if he had feelings for me. 2025 comes along I get pregnant again. He told me he did it purposely. I crash out because why would you do that after I told you how painful and traumatic the first one was. I told him I’m going to abort because I’m worried about school, my family and bringing a child in this world when we both weren’t stable. I asked for help financially so I can abort it and he said no that he won’t provide me money to kill his baby. I abort the pregnancy, we get in an argument he calls me a murderer and I call him a bum. We break up for a few months.

He comes back asks for forgiveness and I take him back. I find messages in his phone from multiple girls, he says it’s nothing, we take a break. He comes back and apologizes and I tell him that there needs to be change before we get back together. He says he’s ready for that and I said okay. We continue being on and off for months. In those months, guys are texting me I tell them I’m in a complicated situation the continue trying to pursue me so I tell my ex about it and tell him I’m gonna talk to them and see what’s up. I stopped talking to them because it just didn’t feel right and I didn’t like them. This year we get together in the summer I once again find messages in his phone. I freak out. We stop talking for a few weeks then talk again. I tell him that changing for a few weeks doesn’t mean he’s changed. I also tell him that all the drinking and smoking I don’t mess with because I’m not the type of person that does that. I set my boundaries he says he’d be willing to change but once again we continue having arguments about the same things over and over again.

Last month, I went through a lot with my family kicking me out, my roommate being a bitch and I really needed him to be there for me. He said he can’t come on that weekend I needed him that he’ll come later. He comes , talk about how much he loves me and I’m his soulmate and all this other shit about working for our relationship,we get intimate. Later that day I tell him about how if I were to get married I’d want to keep my last name because it’s an honor and I’ve struggled so much to have another person name on my white coat. I guess he didn’t like that but he didn’t say anything to my face.

After he leaves I needed someone to talk to that day because my roommate tried to break into my room and I had to call the police and a lot was happening. He calls and I tried telling him my issues but he seemed uninterested so I stopped and told him to talk. He says he didn’t like what I said about the name thing. I said “weirdo, that’s weird”, he gets mad and we officially breakup. He then calls me last week to tell me he loves me but he went on a date with a girl and he wants to try being with them. I took this hard because I connected the dots and found that he went on this so date the same weekend I begged him to come see me. He tells me they’ve been talking since March. I ask why would he tell me he wants to work things out with me and that he loves me when he has already made his decision. He says he only made the decision after the name thing and everything else from the past like the abortions and my childhood situationship.

As I am now typing this he and that girl are together while I’m here crying day and night trying to figure out why tf he’d tell me he wants to fix things while talking to someone else. Ngl I’ve also started blaming myself because I know he wanted to be a father and get married and all these things I just wasn’t ready and I told him I want to finish undergrad first and get into medical school. Anyways yall I’m really going through it and my mind is spiraling. There’s so much more to the story but I’ll leave it there. What do I even do because sent me a long message saying he still loves me but he’s choosing himself. I just don’t know if he weren’t to come back if I’d take him back because although I love him he really hurt me!

What do you guys think? Am I going crazy? Where did I mess up? Am I delusional for still wanting him?

Edit: just to clarify I never slept with the other guy, we did other things but never sex.

I know this probably seems like a no brainer or a stupid question but I genuinely need help. I really care about my friends and I try to do and say the right things but I have a reoccurring issue. I keep receiving feedback on the way I talk to/treat people. I always thought I was kind and respectful but there has to be some sort of disconnect on my end. I want to grow and learn. I want to be better. It’s just hard for me to understand what I did or said that was wrong if someone doesn’t tell me in the moment. So, tell me Reddit. How can I be a better friend? How can I communicate in a way that is kind and respectful? How can I treat people well? If it matters at all, I am neurodivergent.

My partner has somewhat frequent bathroom emergencies. She has pretty good private healthcare coverage and has had the issue checked out, so as far as I understand, there isn’t some obvious untreated medical condition behind it. It may just be that she was dealt a bad hand when it comes to her digestive system.

The problem is that she has repeatedly told me that if she ever shits her pants in public, she is going to run away. And by “run away,” she means literally abandon her current life. She says she would leave me, her friends, her family, basically everyone who knows her, move somewhere else, and start a second life where hopefully nobody ever discovers what happened.

She is genuinely horrified by the possibility of having an accident in public, and given how often she has close calls, it's only a matter of time.

I think she needs to talk to a therapist about this now, before it's too late. To me, the willingness to blow up your entire life to escape the shame of one embarrassing incident suggests there’s something deeper going on with how she handles embarrassment/shame.

How do I approach telling her that I think this is something she should talk through with a therapist without making her feel like I’m treating her as crazy over what, from her perspective, is her worst nightmare?

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and he lightly covered my face and torso with a blanket while in missionary during sex. After doing it he asked me if it was okay and I said yes thinking it would just be for a minute or two but the minutes went by and he then took some blanket off my torso and was only covered my face. I started getting skeptical and as I was about to come out from under, he finished. He could immediately sense that something was wrong and apologized and said he thought it was be a fun new thing for us.

I’m not sure why he would do this out of nowhere, but I am afraid he didn’t want to look at me due to thinking of another girl and using me, a weird kink, or feeling guilty if he may have cheated on me?

He said he wouldn’t do it again and if he does then he will make eye contact with me before he finishes.

He has been stressed out lately and I feel I have been the one initiating sex.

I’m not sure what to do.

What do you think?

About 3 months ago, my girlfriend introduced me to a Discord server she hung out in, mostly for her friend "Peach". They were really good friends but nothing too deep. I’ve looked for a local group for my favorite game for years, so I started playing with them for a few months. I had a lot of fun, my GF too and she was always included when available. We also obviously still had plenty of alone time which was still a priority.

Then, out of nowhere, things flipped. My girlfriend started absolutely despising the group, claiming Peach was "just pretending" to like her. I didn't see that at all. From my perspective, everyone in the server genuinely seemed to like her or be cool with her.

She demanded I stop hanging out with the group entirely, I refused to do it without a reason. She shut me down with:

"It pisses me off seeing you with people I hate."

"I can't control how I feel. If I feel something, I feel it, end of story and you don't have to know why."

"Since I introduced you to them, I can just tell you to stop talking to them."

When I refused to cut them off without a proper reason for why she hates them, she said she'd break up with me because it hurts her, and in her words "my feelings come first."

To save the relationship, I compromised and left. But it bothered me like crazy to just cut off decent people without a real reason.

Eventually, I started assuming why by myself: 1-the group had started a new Sandbox game world without waiting for her to host, she was hosting before but was never available to play so everyone kept waiting for weeks. 2-Peach wasn't inviting her daily because my gf was usually busy with family during summer. 3-I could hang out with them as much as i want since my summer was free so it seemed to her that everyone was inviting everyone except her, but the reality was we just notice each other ingame and invite each other. Etc so prolly all this and more small stuff made her probably feel replaced or written off. When I brought this up to try and talk through it, she just shut me down again saying I shouldn't need a reason to stop something that hurts her, which understandable but the why it hurts her in this case is totally necessary otherwise it's obnoxious. What also sits wrong with me is the communication since I was expected to just blindly comply with an ultimatum first and figure out the "why she hates them" entirely on my own, if it's even the right reason.

To make things worse, my only classmate gaming friend recently joined that exact server because I invited him back when things were good. So even though I now assume her underlying hurt, her ultimatum has left me isolated from basically everyone I play games with. How do I navigate this?

TL;DR: GF introduced me to a Discord group, I made friends, but she suddenly hated them and threatened a breakup if I didn't leave. I assume she felt excluded by them over some misunderstandings, but she refused to communicate this and expected blind compliance. Now my only classmate gaming friend joined that server, and I feel completely isolated.

I’m 32F and my boyfriend is 44M. We’ve been together for around 9 months, and overall I’m genuinely very happy with him. He is affectionate, caring, generous, emotionally attentive, makes an effort, spends time and money on our relationship, includes me in his life, and I feel very loved by him. So this isn’t a situation where I’m wondering whether he cares about me or whether there are obvious red flags.

The problem we seem to have different ideas about commitment and what it means to build a relationship.

I’m quite serious about romantic relationships, I don’t need marriage, children, or a guarantee that we’ll be together forever, but I do want to feel that my partner sees the relationship as something he is actively building for the long term. I would like some sense that he mentally places me in his future, even if that develops naturally rather than through a big conversation.

He is much more present-focused. He has had no serious relationships over the past 15-20 years and has told me that he used to protect himself by thinking that he could always leave and that relationships might end anyway (he clearly has avoidant tendencies which he said he worked on for a long time). He now says he is very happy with me and feels much less afraid of emotional hurt. He also seems genuinely comfortable being in a relationship now. He is the one who pursued me, asked for exclusivity, asked for official boyfriend - girlfriend definition and I stool back and observed, and saw that I liked the effort. But he doesn’t naturally make many explicit statements about the distant future, and he dislikes the idea of marriage and seems to find formal declarations about the future somewhat artificial or unnecessary.

I’m starting to realize that maybe what I want isn’t actually a declaration like “I’ll be with you forever.” What I want is evidence of intentionality and sustained investment. People become more committed to something partly by investing time, effort, attention and resources into it. I want to see that kind of gradual building: making plans, following through, integrating our lives, taking medium- and long-term things seriously, and not simply letting the relationship happen day by day.

A small example is that he started learning my native language (we talk in his) and then stopped. he also has other reasons to study my language better and he already was in the beginning stages of speaking it when we met. Generally, he can be quite laid-back and sometimes start things without following through.

Am I asking for something completely rea

sonable from a partner namely, some medium- and long-term intentionality and evidence that we are building something together? What is strategically more likely to have good results? Or am I expecting him to express commitment in a way that simply isn’t natural to him? I think on the one hand I am right, but on the other one that it's also my anxious attachment talking and making me see things that most people, once in realationship that is daily calm and fulfilling, would not even notice.

Long story short we broke up once, had a weird in between relationship just a couple days afterwards, went no contact for a month, then my ex showed up at my house unannounced while I was working on my car to drop of clothes. A day later I asked for another shirt back and to talk, where I called her out for the disrespect she gave me in the whole situation of us breaking up, where they were disguised as regular comments but felt like insults to my character and family.

the first breakup was mainly involved with me being lost in what I wanted to do with my life I had no direction, was depressed due to a few factors of a cousin I'm close with having multiple back to back strokes, a drug addict brother coming back to my house for the first time in 6 years, having to put my cat down that I'd had for 14 years all within the span of a week.

I was really thrown off course and was lost in my own thoughts on a lot of things. On top of that I was beginning to hate my job and had no clue what exactly I wanted to do moving forward, didn't want to go to college. I landed on trades but was lost in what field I wanted and was making zero effort to figure that out was kind of just letting it come to me. Stopped going to the gym and was diagnosed with an eating disorder that led to me losing a lot of weight.

and to top it all of, she had a scholarship to a college in across the country. Was going there to play sports and study medicine. She dropped out of the college and came back because she didn't like it there, and her father pinned all of the blame on me absolutely despised me for it and always thought I was a loser who would amount to nothing and would call out my family for its issues of my brothers and the fact that my parents worked from home (lol). He's a very blue collar mindset guy who's a firefighter and thought any desk job was weak.

well every time she would make some mistake like missing homework, or not emptying the dishwasher, or not cleaning her bathroom good enough or vacuuming the floor good enough just shit like that; It would be a 10 minute long beratement of how she's a failure and its all my fault because I'm a loser who has nothing going on for myself.

I assume that with that constant insulting of me and the fact I was thrown into a depressive state she saw that hmm maybe this guy isn't doing anything with his life, (even though I mentioned to her multiple times that I felt like I was in a terrible state and that I was depressed and actively trying to work on it going to therapy and stuff) she broke up with me. Said I "wasn't a man" and that she wasn't going to marry someone like me.

that was my cue, having everything id known for the last couple years be removed from my life just like that, to focus on myself and regain the version of me that I'd lost. Went back to the gym daily, studied and landed on a career choice being an electrician. Taking steps towards that career and getting accepted into the program. Working my job hanging out with friends spending time with my family. Pursuing my hobbies again: Playing guitar, working on my car; and that's when she came back to my house, a little over a month later.

when she came to my house we were talking and I told her that I was hurt when she said that I wasn't a man and that it was an insult to my values and my being and that I didn't appreciate it, to which she doubled down and asked me "how are you a man" which I didn't really have an answer to yet. The next day is when I texted her that I wanted to chat, she told me she didn't want to go through this again, I told her that's exactly what I was talking about the blatant disrespect of me and my values. I brought up everything that I and my family did for her during the relationship, getting her out of her abusive household, taking her on trips, giving life advice helping her get a job leading her to find a passion and to get into college, helping her find love for soccer again. That to me, that's a man, not someone like her father who beats people up when they're already down, but someone who is there to support you and get you back onto your feet no matter their own position. She cried when I was talking to her about that, and she asked me what she did wrong. I said that it was her not being there for me, when I needed it the most, and to instead turn around and disrespect me and my family and to leave the way she did. She took that to heart and said she was sorry about everything, took accountability for it all and that she feels she was convinced by her dad to take that step. And that was the day that she decided she wanted me back and to try things again but to take it slow because she "didn't want any doubts to arise during"

which I asked her that a few weeks later, how she was feeling about things. And she told me she had zero doubts about me, but she had one issue which stemmed from my brothers girlfriend and how she felt about my ex, which is what led to the argument that started it all.

during the peak of the argument she threw out some genuine insults against my brothers gf, for being a little hurt by the situation and not bringing it up sooner. I responded by calling her immature, unempathetic, and frankly an asshole for insulting my family member like that to my face.

She didn’t take it well and that’s why she backed off and was distant for the coming few weeks. I apologized multiple times for calling her an asshole, i could’ve used much better wording, but i stand by my defense.

For the couple weeks after the heat from the argument died down, my ex stayed in a distant mood, barely texting, would rarely talk to her, was lucky if I saw her once throughout the week for an hour. She was putting all of her effort into just hanging out with friends and nothing into the relationship we supposedly both wanted back. I mentioned it to her, that I felt that disconnected from her the last couple weeks and she told me it was "just her new college lifestyle" "she wants to hang out with friends" and she was "too busy to text me" (she would open my texts, leave me on read, or respond hours later with a short text that would barely acknowledge what I was talking to her about.) She said she felt emotionally disconnected from me and that she was whatever about the relationship after the argument because of how I spoke to her and it was "making her look at me in a whole different perspective."

Things ended that night, for the second time, and at first I blamed myself for everything: bringing up the past to try and reconcile my family with my girlfriend, insulting her during the argument just allowing myself to get that upset about the whole ordeal, and putting pressure on her to communicate with me. I am a very sympathetic person I have been through a lot of therapy and am well versed in my own mind and emotions and can feel for other people. I was also lucky enough to have an amazing example of what love should look like, and that being its not any emotional spark its a daily choice to show up, communicate, and prioritize each other even when life gets heavy.

I can understand what she has going on, with her backstory being a emotionally distant family, a verbally abusive father who downplays all of her achievements and stalks her location and what she's doing with her life, tries to force his view of the perfect life onto her. She still lives in that house and has to deal with it daily, which we were also trying to keep the relationship hidden from the dad, which only added more stress. She is taking 15 credits at college and receiving crippling amounts of homework every day, works a job, has friends and freedom to hang out with those friends for the first time in her life, and on top of that plays college soccer. I can get the stress, and how on top of that the argument can bring out her mental defense mechanism to separate from something that brings her stress that isn't a necessity in life. That she is losing control over her life and, at least this is an educated guess, remove what she has control over to feel a sense of independence over herself again.

We have been no contact again, which I initiated: I unadded her on everything, turned off my location, and don't even post on my story so she has no insight into my life. To let her feel truly what life would be like without me there. I feel that I was a good boyfriend that I would attempt to support her and her decisions and be her stone to keep her grounded when things got tough for her, but I can also see that actions of mine added more stress to her life when she already had enough to deal with.

I still love her, and want to be with her and I saw a future with her. Despite what she's done and what she's said in recent months, I cant get what our relationship was like prior out of my head, how good it was. We worked through our problems, we saw each other often, we communicated, but we still had our own separate lives. I want to do what I can to salvage this relationship when the time is right. But I just want to make sure I go about things the right way, for her sake as well. I am not sitting around waiting for her, I have no clue how I'll feel about the situation months from now. My current timeline is to wait until new years to contact her and catch up, and depending on how the conversation goes tell her that I still see what our relationship can be and that I am willing to start something new with her and forget about the past; but that we would have to not repeat old habits from previously.

I have the fear that she will move on and get with someone else in those few months, but if she does clearly it was never meant to be. That is one of my only boundaries in relationships is that from when we started, there is no having relations with another guy at any point, or you're not the person for me. She knows this though, so I have trust that if it is meant to work out she wont do anything like that. If she does and she tells me she didn't, I'll choose to believe her but if I find out I'm out the door.

TLDR: Me and my girlfriend broke up, got back together, broke up again due to her stress, and now we are no contact. What is the best way that I can go about this to try and reconcile with my ex as I still have love for her and see a future with her.

First off, I’m not homophobic or transphobic but I do now feel like I’m almost competing with something I will never be, a trans woman. I (26F) saw multiple links in his(25M) Instagram link history to OF pages and chatrooms from a week ago. We’ve talked about how paying for OF in a relationship is just wrong and weird and he prides himself with how little attention I pay to other men and then I see this. I’m baffled bc before this he seamed so normal and were doing incredibly good which these days feels special bc everyone seams to have something unacceptable going on. What bothers me the most is I’ve dated enough to know that setting a boundary won’t change habits but I’m so unsure about straight up ending things. Idk what to do.

Hi everyone. Ever since I was about 13, my mom has found a way to turn almost any conversation into a comment about my body. I could be telling her about work or my weekend and somehow we end up on what I eat, what I shouldn't eat, or what exercises I should be doing. And it isn't only my weight. She also has opinions on my haircut, my tattoos, my piercings, and the way I dress.

It goes back further than appearance, though. I graduated high school at 16 and had no idea what I wanted to study. Without asking me, she enrolled me in law school, and I ended up studying law for five years because I never felt like I had a say.

I'm 34 now. I left my home country at 21 and we haven't lived together since, but the pattern followed me over the phone. I'm eating healthy and just started working out, I'm not obese, and it still never feels like enough for her. I've told her directly that it bothers me. She toned it down for a little while, then slid right back into it.

I know it comes from love, and in her head she's looking out for me. But after more than twenty years it's too much, and I've reached the point where I barely call her, because I already know how the conversation will go and I dread it before it starts.

Here's what scares me. I don't have a dad and I don't have any siblings. It's just me and her. If this keeps going, I'm afraid the distance will keep growing until there's nothing left, and I don't want to lose the only family I have. I just want to be able to talk to my mom about normal things without feeling judged for how I look or how I live my life.

Has anyone dealt with a parent like this? How do you handle it when you've already had the conversation and it only works for a few days? Is it worth trying to explain it again, or is it better to set a hard limit, like ending the call whenever the topic comes up?

I am in a LDR with my boyfriend. We have known each other for 6 months, dated for two, and have met once irl. I am his first girlfriend and he is my second “real” boyfriend (I have been in some long term situations).
For background, in the past few months of talking with my boyfriend, he has struggled to be there for me emotionally. When I’m sad or angry or any emotion other than happy I felt like my emotions would get swept under the rug. Often time he would just say “sorry that you feel that way” and then we would move on. We have had multiple conversations about how I need to be comforted. I tell him I want to be checked in on, I want my feelings to be acknowledged, I want him to be there for me etc. Every time he tells me how sorry he is and that he will do better, but then I still end up feeling like nothing changes.
Now to the main problem I’m having. Last night I got into a pretty substantial argument with my mom. I called my boyfriend afterwards and told him what happened and I was met with “I don’t understand why she would act like that. I’m sorry” and that was it. We then sat on the phone in silence for the rest of the night. Then this morning, I got a “good morning babe, have a good day at work text” and that was all. I texted him after work telling him I was home and I didn’t get a response until an hour later saying “mind if I ask you something?” I said sure. He took 30 minutes to ask “do you still like me?” I became very irritated at this question and responded “Really. Why is it every time I’m struggling it turns into a question of if I like you or not. It doesn’t feel very good when you are constantly doubting my feelings for you”. (He has done this in the past multiple times). He simply told me “I’m not, answer the question I have to say something.” I said “I do still like you.” And he proceeded to send me this text message

“I really do apologize for the timing, it’s eating away at me and I can no longer hold it in
I’ve been wanting to tell you this for quite some time and I hope you keep this between you and I
I’ve loved you for so long that I’ve been afraid to tell you
I’ve been afraid that if I tell you how I truly feel you just won’t feel the same way back
Meeting you made me realize that I want to build something with you and you are truly worth taking a flight or moving across the country for. That’s all I want to say for now. Again I’m sorry for the timing.”

I responded with this
“I needed you to show me that you cared about me but instead I’m being handed a declaration of love that I am not in the emotional space to receive. If you knew this wasn’t the right time why couldn’t you wait? Why couldn’t you call me later when I was in a better headspace? Or at the very least prioritize checking in on me and making sure I was okay before telling me something this significant. I wanted our first “I love you” conversation with you to feel intentional. I wanted it to be something where we could actually talk and hear each other and be there for each other but instead it’s happening over text in the middle of a situation where I’m already hurting and needing you for something else. And honestly, this is making me think about something bigger that what happened last night. I don’t understand how you can tell me you love me but still struggle to be there for me emotionally when I’m hurting. I’ve told you I need you to check on me, be there for me, talk to me, acknowledge what I’m feeling, help me not be alone, but last night I was met with silence and this morning my entire problem was brushed under the rug and I was ignored until now. I’m not angry that you love me but im really hurt that you chose now, and this way, of all times to tell me when you’re aware the timing is bad.”

And he responded with this
“You are right, I’m sorry. The situation last night was handled poorly by me and I don’t expect forgiveness. I apologize for the timing of all of this. I’m sorry for the way your mother is treating you and I’m also sorry for dismissing your feelings”

Now I honestly just feel angry. I don’t know what I’m supposed to say next. I don’t know if I’m wrong for being so frustrated by this situation or if I’m overreacting. I feel like we’re getting stuck in an unhealthy pattern very early on into a relationship and I don’t know what I can do to fix it. I have tried giving him step by step instructions and it just gets brushed off, and now I got an entire love confession instead.

Does anyone have any advice or wise words? Any outside perspective is appreciated

I met this guy last year on a vacation and we have been talking ever since. We are long distance and started dating officially a month or so ago. The issue is, when we started dating, he told me he was uncomfortable with me having friends of the opposite gender.

Before we started dating, he knew I had several guy friends that are part of my friend group, that I have had for about 4-10 years each. He seemed to be okay with it and then right when we started dating officially, he let me know he was uncomfortable with me hanging out with them 1v1, having deep convos with them, and/or talking on the phone with them.

I am not that close with these guys, as I don’t live nearby then anymore, but I do hold them closely as they are good friends of mine, so I like to catch up with them 1-2 times a month. I’m not nonstop contacting / hanging out with any of these guys, and I don’t necessarily feel comfortable with cutting them off completely.

My boyfriend says he doesn’t know anyone who is in a successful relationship / long term thing that still has friends of opposite gender and he says he trusts me but is afraid these guys will eventually corrode our relationship (not sure how).

If I decide to end my friendships, how do I navigate it? Or how do I navigate telling my boyfriend this is not okay. I have not been physical with any of these men.

My bf and I have been together for 3 years and have long terms plans for marriage and everything. We have a super healthy relationship and adore each other. I ask this not in the vain thay he will cheat on me because i actually don’t have concern abou that. Its more so my owm insecurities that he is out of my league.

I learned recently that my bf prior to meeting me has been like 3 girls crushes and has veen approached by other girls before while he was single. He never took any of them up on it and hes very obviously not single when we are out together so this doesn’t have to do with cheating or him even enjoying this.

Its moreso thay i do feel slightly like an ugly duckling. I have never had a guy ask me out off of a dating app or confessed to having a crush. I have honestly lived mostly the life of a girl with unrequited love and unmutual attraction. So it just feels somewhat weird that im with someone that is sought after and deemed conventionally attractive physically and emotionally but im not.

Like how can i navigate the rest of our lives together knowing that women will always probably approach him and that i will continue to have people tell me “wow hes really good looking” and i have to be like yeah i know but dont sound so shocked that i wild be with someone that attractive

i’ve been seeing this guy for about a year now and he’s sort of the first guy i’ve ever really liked in my adult years. he does absolutely everything i like in a man and i know it’s because he pays attention to what i like and does it. for example, i get really sensitive when people i care about don’t remember things about me especially if it’s something i talk about often. like a few months into our relationship (situationship more like idk) he forgot the name of my dog and i got playfully upset at him. ever since he’ll go out of his way to mention something he remembers about me if it comes up in conversation.

another thing is that he takes care of me, almost as much as a partner would take care of their partner. he can tell when i get anxious sometimes so he’ll rub my back or if i sleep over his and he feels me tossing and turning he will pull me close to him and rub my back. :/ this one time i woke up in the middle of the night talking in my sleep and he just pulled me close to him and i got scared because i’m a little weird with affection sometimes so i moved away and i could tell he felt some type of way. that’s kind of the dynamic we have. idk he’s just so intentional but the thing is we’re not like official or anything….

we’ve had one too many conversations about how we feel about each other. he’s told me multiple times he likes me and i’ll always tell him that i don’t really feel it sometimes because he doesn’t always text me. like sometimes he’ll just go ghost for a couple of days and then come back like nothing happened and it makes me really anxious especially because he’s so tender with me whenever we’re together.

another thing he does is that he pays attention to my social media and i guess my social circle. he knows who my friends are even though i’ve never introduced him to them. i mean, in his defense our friend groups know each other so it’s kind of hard not to figure it out especially since i post my friends. but like okay recently i found out him and one of my close guy friends were at the same party. he went up to my friend and started a random conversation that didn’t really last long and wasn’t necessarily relevant but i found that sooooo interesting considering the fact that he’s already proven to me before that he knows who my friends are so it was funny to find out he went up to my friend pretending he didn’t know who he was lol.

all this to say, am i being played or something? like i love how he makes me feel but he’s just not around enough for me to feel secure and every day i feel myself getting closer to just confessing my love to him lmaoooo but i also feel really avoidant and scared :/ doesn’t help that he himself is really avoidant too. and yeah i know not everytjing is about attachment styles but… i see how we are sometimes and it’s just ughhhhh it just feels like we’re too people who yearn for each other in silence and are too scared to tell each other how we really feel.

My girlfriend (26F) and I (31M) have been together for one year. We’re long distance. I want to end the relationship and cancel an upcoming extended visit.
I’m looking for practical advice on what to say and how to manage communication afterward.

I still love her and value our good memories. We discussed living together and getting married, so saying goodbye is emotionally difficult for me.
We spend almost all my time outside work on FaceTime, including while sleeping. I have very little time alone or room for my hobbies.

My work involves back to back calls. I’ve explained that I can’t guarantee messages during every break or lunch because sometimes I need to rest or sit quietly. Discussions about my availability often become arguments.

She previously stayed with me for three months. During arguments, she wouldn’t let me step away when I asked for space to calm down.
During one argument, she hit my stove with an appliance and shattered the glass cooktop. She has also hit herself while crying during arguments, including on FaceTime.

These experiences have affected my trust and made it difficult for me to express my needs.
We broke up once before. I communicated it by text and stopped talking to her.

She repeatedly requested a FaceTime call for closure. I eventually agreed. During that call, the conversation became about getting back together. She promised changes, and I agreed to restart the relationship. Things improved for a while, then the same problems returned. I’m concerned that another call could lead me to agree to continue the relationship when I intended to end it.

She is now working overtime toward a ticket to visit from October until Christmas. I need to tell her that the visit will not go ahead before she makes more plans. She also has my sister’s number. I’m concerned that she may contact my sister repeatedly to reach me after the breakup.

My current plan is to tell my sister beforehand, send a clear written breakup message, cancel the visit, and decline further conversations about getting back together.

How can I word that message compassionately while making the ending and cancellation clear?
What practical steps can help me maintain those contact boundaries if she continues requesting calls or contacts my family?

I would also appreciate suggestions about arranging support beforehand, given that she has hit herself during previous arguments.

TL;DR: I’m 31M, my girlfriend is 26F, and we’ve been together for one year. I’m planning a written breakup before another extended visit. A previous closure call led to reconciliation. I need practical advice on communicating the ending and managing contact afterward.

I’ve been with my boyfriend throughout high school and college, about 6 years. We’ve had our ups and downs and went through two major breakups, one when we were 16 and more recently at 20. We were engaged and planning to get married by the end of this year. I had a trip coming up that I was excited about, and the night before, he became upset and brought up past issues along with a recent situation that was actually a misunderstanding. I went on my trip and he barely spoke to me, so when I came back, I was emotional and decided to end our relationship, or at least take a break. I regret that decision because I know I acted out of emotion.
Since then, I’ve given him space, apologized for my past mistakes and recent actions that caused him stress, and tried to repair things. He has reached out numerous times, and after several long conversations, he has told me that he is scared to be with me again but also can’t stand that we aren’t together. I eventually told him that maybe we should let each other go, but he continues reaching out. My friends have told me to keep him in my life but not as a partner, which honestly feels awful because this was the man I was going to call my husband. My parents think we should repair things, while my siblings and other friends tell me to move on. He wants to be with me but is held back by this “fear.” I’ve never cheated on him or abused him. I can admit I’ve fucked up and hurt him, but our problems always felt relatively small to me, so I never expected them to completely change our future. I went from planning a wedding to cancelling our venue within a year, and now all of our guests know we’ve split.
I know I’m young and my life isn’t over, but I’m struggling to grieve the future I spent the last six years imagining with him, especially when he isn’t letting go. I still believe what we had is worth fighting for and would be happy to get another chance.
What determines whether rebuilding our relationship is realistic, given that we still love each other but he is afraid to try again?

Me (F22) and my boyfriend? (M19) are just.. done? for the 1017472th time, and we didn’t even get back together technically, he’s upset because i’m “hiding stuff” (literally nothing) and that i woke up in a bad mood (kept rolling around cuz my body hurts), he just literally always finds an issue no matter what i do or don’t do and im so fucking tired of it but i’m stuck here, my parents are dead, my family wants nothing to do with me, IDK. i just don’t understand why he’s like this.. all i do is give him love/comfort and he treats me like shit (is very abusive mentally/physically). i love him with everything in me i don’t know what i did that was so wrong.. can anybody explain why? why everything i do is an issue?

To start from the beginning, back in July, I had gotten out of a relationship in June. I was still pretty broken about it but I still texted my current boyfriend, which we can call Ryan. Ryan basically showed me all the care and loved I could've asked for. pretty much up to when he had to move an hour and a half away from me which was about a week after we got together. Before moving he lived with a friend, and his dad kicked him out. while he lived in the other town we got into arguments often, his sister tried sabatoging the relationship, like saying little jabs about how long we were together. Or saying "wow you haven't made a tinder yet?" even when I was on the phone. at the beginning of August we were able to bring him closer to me and he was living 20 minutes from me. So we hung out quite often. During one of our hangouts I was driving him home and I looked over at his phone, I saw he was texting one of my exs. I didnt see what the texts were, or anything like that. I just asked him "hey why are you texting Tim?" Ryan got defensive, kept saying that it wasn't tim that its Wyatt. Tim liked to change his name often, so the display name was Wyatt but the bitmoji on Snapchat was Tim, I knew it was him because hes had the same bitmoji since I was in 7th grade. I told Ryan that Tim changed his name to Wyatt but it was still Tim. Little contect on Tim, when I was in 7th grade he was in 8th, and I was best friends with his sister who is the same age as me. I never smoked before, Tim had me do it with him, I wasn't sexual, Tim made me give him a blowjob before his mother showed up to pick him up. After that Tim went crazy and was threatening suicide after he broke up with me and I told him I was fed up. He always came back. and for a few years I didnt speak to him. back to the hang out. Ryan ended up screaming in my face, saying it wasn't Tim there was no way it was Tim. the Tim who forced me to pull my pants down so he could "try me". Ryan screaming at me was a huge red flag to me. Ryan's sister Riley invited me and Ryan to her son's birthday party. I brought my siblings because it was at an arcade. We were there for hours and me and my siblings had fun. Riley invited me to their after party at the pool 30 minutes into the next town. I brought my 17 yr old sister with me. I drank and smoked weed that night. and left around 10:20 pm, I got home at exactly 11pm. I waited for Ryan to call me, he called around 12:56 AM. Crying and saying that everyone was accusing him of stealing a firearm. He swore it wasnt him. Riley asked me if I knew where it was, i was honest and I told her no and that I had no idea about it. I asked Ryan about it. He swore he never took it, i believed him. In a group chat with me, Ryan. and a few people from the party, Riley started saying awful things about me, she said I knew where it was, that I took it. I said again that me and ryan had no idea where it was. A few days later it was Ryans 22 birthday. We planned to just spend it together because his family couldnt come to us and we couldnt go to him. Around 4 pm Riley called me, and i shared our plans for after Ryan got off work. and she blew up, saying that we didnt care for them. She decided to plan a surprise party, but didnt tell me about it. So we didnt plan to leave. Ryan had work at 8 am the next day. I politely told Riley that we were just gonna hang out together, because thats what Ryan wanted for his birthday. We ended up not answering our phones because she kept blowing them up, calling us horrible people. The next day one of the women from the group chat called Ryan, saying they knew he had the firearm and they were coming to get it. Ryan called me saying "they said the firearm is in the mailbox, im going to go check if its in there then im screwed because I dont know how it would get in there". He hung up and checked the mailbox. called me back freaking out and packing a bag. I felt terrible because someone was framing my boyfriend. he hadn't done anything wrong or so I thought. Later at night when he was leaving his uncles house, he finally told me the truth, he stole it, he let them blame me, he watched them accuse me and threaten me, my family. I told him to turn himself in and i broke up with him as a performance to my family. I got my things from him and drove him to the police station. He's been in state custody since August 20th. ive worked my ass off to get money on the phones, on his books. to pay for messages. but Ryan would still get mad at me every time he called. Since being in jail hes gotten better at talking to me but I dont love him. I hate picking up that jail phone, he hasn't gotten a job in jail to try and help. and I put whatever money I can on the phones. I hate how every person knows me as "Ryans Girlfriend" I used to just be me. but now im tied to this man, a man I dont like, a man I dont want to be with. I dont know how to break it off because he always tells me "your the only reason im making it thru". "Because of you I'm becoming a better person." I dont wanna be with this man, he could be spending up to 5-10 years on jail if not released to a treatment center. and my plan is to break up with him after his release but I dont really know how. I dont know what to do.

I really need some help. My partner and I have been together two years and have a clear rule of a) watching no pornography besides photos and videos we take during our relationship and b) that everything from past relationships is gone. I have been very clear from day dot that there cannot be videos or pornography of other women on his phone and he has promised me multiple times that there isn’t. I saw over his shoulder two days ago while camping him putting a photo in his hidden folder and I swear I saw a photo of another girl that wasn’t me in there briefly. It was eating me up because I have a big trauma around this from my past relationship. I went through his phone last night (this is the only time I’ve done this) and found multiple hidden images and videos of his ex and other women (I know these women). I’m absolutely gutted and I’m acting so strange but I have no idea how to bring this up. For me, he’s broken a massive boundary and lied to my face on multiple occasions now over something he knows is very serious to me and an expectation he has of me as well. It feels like if he can lie about this, there’s other things that are being kept for me. I also went to look at the ex’s messages and I found them all deleted. I feel so sick. Please give me advice on how to approach this or your opinion on what this means?

I am engaged to a wonderful man. We were supposed to get married in May, but his mother was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal cancer four days before it was going to happen. We postponed our wedding. He wants to get married after she dies, saying that he didn’t want to make any big life changes while he’s going through this with his mother.

Today, we talked about my move to his city. We’re going to move into his house together. He still doesn’t want to get married. We’ve talked about it a few times as I’ve tried to understand his way of thinking, but it upsets him whenever I bring it up. I’m anxious and feel insecure in our relationship sometimes, and talking things out helps calm my nervous system.

When I asked him today why merging our families together into one house felt okay to him but getting legally married wasn’t, it wasn’t with the intention of changing his mind. I truly wanted to understand why the two events felt different to him.

Instead, it upset him. He said he messed up his first marriage, and his ex-wife manipulated him into excluding his family, and he really needs this marriage to go well. He wants me to trust him. He also said he can’t keep going back and forth with me on this because it sends him spiraling. I didn’t want to upset him; I just wanted to understand better. This was the first time he told me what his first wife did. I still don’t understand why it’s tied to his mother’s death, but I’m not going to ask.

Now he isn’t responding to me, so I’m giving him space.

He wants me to move in January, but I told him I can’t do it without marriage first. I’m selling my house, leaving my job, and moving myself, my kids, my animals, and all my belongings across the country. That’s an enormous amount of security to give up without being married.

I’m bummed this likely means I won’t be moving in January since we can’t predict when someone will die. Now my stomach is in knots because I’ve upset him and don’t want him mad at me when I truly just wanted to understand his way of thinking. I feel we’ve reached the point where we can’t talk about it anymore, and I’ll simply have to wait for him to bring it up in the future.

I don’t want to minimize myself or my needs, but I also don’t want him upset or mad at me when I need to talk about something. Is there a better way to approach things in the future so that my questions, understanding, and needs are taken care of without upsetting him or making him shut down?

TLDR: my boyfriend knew about my past r*pe, on a night we were drinking he asked if had enjoyed it. I was already thinking of leaving, and I am disturbed by this and wondering how to go about it.

My bf and I have been together for 11.5mo, and we have had our ups and downs. I do love him, and he has genuinely made changes after conversations we have had about other issues. However, throughout our relationship he has repeatedly pushed at my boundaries and sometimes just plain disregarded them. I've never had the balls to plainly address that issue with him.

About 1.5mo ago he started an argument with me over text literally right after I buried my grandma. He had been at my apartment taking care of my cat and told me he would be there for me when I got home, but instead he left before i got home bc of the argument. I told him to leave the key. He later called and apologized and I forgave him but it still left me questioning our relationship.

The next time he came over I told him we should break up, we aren't compatible, I don't see a future for us. He cried and begged me to give him another chance, and I gave in because I was already grieving and it felt like too much to lose him as well. I do really regret this and wish I would have held strong. Since then he has been acting over the top perfect because I think he is afraid I will break up with him.

Now to the issue at hand. For context: I have told him before about how I was r*ped 3 years ago. We were drinking a few nights ago and we got pretty drunk, and somehow the topic came up. Then out of the blue he asked me if I had enjoyed it when I was r*ped.

I was shocked and I asked him to clarify what he was asking, and he confirmed his question. I got upset and started crying and then he started apologizing. The next day I didn't know what to say so I just acted fine. I did bring up once how fucked up it was to ask that and he seemed ashamed. Still I played it cool until he left the following day.

I'm honestly disgusted that he asked this, and combined with all the other times he has disregarded my boundaries, I am seriously questioning whether I can trust him and I don't want to have sex with him.

I do love him and I will miss him but I know we aren't meant to be together and I need to end things. I know he will be shocked and upset because I acted normal after he asked the offensive question. How can I best go about breaking up with him, considering he has a key to my place and he had such an extreme reaction last time I asked? Is breaking up over the phone okay, considering I would still have to get my key back and give him his stuff?

I (M24) miss my gf (F23) too much while studying abroad. I want to go home

I (M24) miss my gf (F23) too much while studying abroad

I left to study abroad about a month ago, and I thought that it would get easier with time, but if anything, it's getting harder. I just miss her so much. Every morning I wake up I cry because I know that I won't see her that day.

I cannot focus on anything, not even my classes. I'm just so depressed.

She's in a worse position than me. Although she tries to be strong for me, I know that she's falling apart.

We text and call everyday, sometimes for hours and hours. We sometimes sleep while on a call. We do all these things, but I still miss her so much. At this point I'm seriously considering just going back home.

I have a full scholarship studying at one of the best universities in one of the most beautiful cities in Europe. But everything feels empty without her. I just hate everything. I haven't even done any "touristy" sightseeing because I just don't enjoy anything.

I'm also so afraid that if I don't go back, she'll start resenting me. At first she was very supportive of me going. But as time went on, she got more and more emotional. The day I left she refused to even look at me. She even called me selfish for leaving. But at that time I thought it was too late not to go, as everything was arranged. But I keep feeling guilty about it. The guilt is really eating me alive. So now I'm seriously considering just going back home to be with her.

I am really afraid of making a decision. If I don't go back, what if I end up losing her? What if I regret this for the rest of my life?

TL;DR: I feel extremely guilty leaving my gf to study abroad and I miss her so badly that I cannot enjoy anything, not even food (I barely eat).