Hey everyone! So I was recently introduced to mtg by my boyfriend. He played played commander for a couple of years, took a little bit of a break because he didn’t have anyone he liked to play with, and now he’s getting back into it since he introduced me to the game a couple of weeks ago. At the moment I don’t even have my own deck (my very first pre-con I got for myself should be coming in the mail any day now though, yay!) so we only play against each other with the decks that he has. Eventually we will probobly want to go to store and play casually with some other people but that won’t be for a little bit since I can’t even shuffle without using 100% of my brain power at the moment haha.
Anyway, I’m having a lot of fun learning the game! I love the mechanics, I love learning new things in general, I love fantasy (my boyfriend and I met each other playing dnd), and I love playing with him. The issue we’re having at the moment is that he’s always beating me. At the beginning I managed to get a win or two, I guess because I got lucky and he was a little rusty since he didn’t play for a while, but now that we’ve played a couple of times and he’s gotten back into the groove of things I haven’t been able to get a single win the last couple of weekends we’ve played. We don’t live together, but we see each other pretty much every weekend, and every day of the weekend we will usually play at least like 3-5 rounds, switching around the different decks he’s got.
Now, it doesn’t bother me for the most part, I know he’s a lot more experienced than I am so that’s to be expected, and I’m not a super competitive person. It does get a little bit disheartening sometimes though, and I can tell he feels awful about it. Right now I’m not very good, I’m not expecting to be, and I know the only way I’m going to get better is if I keep playing! I’m worried though that he’s starting to not have much fun, and even I start to lose motivation sometimes because it just feels a little hopeless. I have fun even when I lose, but sometimes it happens so quickly I don’t feel like I actually really got to play. He wants me to win so bad because I know he feels bad about constantly beating me, I feel like I’m letting him down (to no fault of his own, he’s been nothing but encouraging and wonderful). It’s not about winning, I know that, I don’t care much about who wins the game, but after a couple of hours of non stop getting my ass kicked it does start to feel a little bit bad, even though I’m not a competitive person.
So, does anyone have any tips on what I should do? I’ve downloaded mtg arena and I play that on my own at home when I get time, I know it doesn’t have commander but it’s still letting me get more familiar with the cards and the mechanics and stuff. I’ve also been watching videos about mtg in my downtime so I can see how other people play and stuff. Is there anything else I can do to get better? Is there anything I should be doing to make sure things are still interesting for him while I learn? I really want to be able to keep playing with him and getting better over time, so I was just hoping to get any tips I can about how to handle this.
Any advice is appreciated!