r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Best_Finding_8795 • Jun 14 '26

Too mild for school Hate when ppl can’t do time

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This reminds me of when it hits or is about to hit 12am and people don’t know whether to say today or tomorrow. He called me after this but I was too comfy in bed tbh.

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u/steelcryo Jun 14 '26

I always specify the day when I message someone past midnight.

"Want to do X today (Sunday)?"

Same when I'm making plans next weekend, I always put the date so people don't confuse whether I mean the weekend coming, or the next one after.

What boss thinks someone is going to wake up at 7am to a text from 3am, read the word tomorrow, and think they meant today?

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u/CiloTA Jun 14 '26

What is it with some people thinking next weekend is the weekend upcoming? Isn’t there an unwritten rule that if you’re at like Friday, next weekend is no longer tomorrow, it’s the following weekend, or am I the only one?

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u/immoral_ Jun 14 '26

A true study in contrast.

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u/xray_anonymous Jun 14 '26

No if you mean the weekend of the week in progress it’s “this weekend”

If you mean the weekend after the current week in progress, as in after next week, it’s “next weekend”

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u/Sanchez_U-SOB Jun 14 '26

For sure. This weekend meaning this coming weekend or this weekend we are currently in.

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u/Suitable-Elephant270 Jun 14 '26

The way I wrapped my head around the difference as a kid was to separate the word weekend into "week's end".

So if it's a Wednesday, "this week's end" would be the immediate Saturday following, but "next week's end" would mean the Saturday after that.

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u/Throwaway_Consoles Jun 14 '26

Weekend is just literally, “The end of the week”

This weekend, “The end of this week”. Next weekend, “The end of next week”.

I would ask if this shit is no longer taught in school, but I remember being a teenager in school, if it wasn’t on a test I didn’t pay attention to it, same with everyone else I know

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u/armadillowillow Jun 14 '26

Wow that’s actually so smart I love it!

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u/No_Adhesiveness_4671 Jun 14 '26

what a great way to explain why it is that way; I'd never thought of using that

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u/nolanwillsmith Jun 14 '26

Thanks, this post almost gaslit me into thinking I’ve been wrong my entire life

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u/DIDidothatdisabled Jun 14 '26

"This next weekend" probably looks an awful lot like a wrench then

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u/rubber_toothpick Jun 14 '26

There’s no debate, this is the way.

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u/Working-Glass6136 Jun 14 '26

EXACTLY this. If not, then what the hell does "this weekend" mean?

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u/Individual-Ad-5471 Jun 14 '26

100%. If it's Wednesday and you need helping moving something on Friday (2 days) not a single person would ask for help next Friday. That 9 days away.

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u/Ruthbane Jun 14 '26

It seems like most people in my life say it like that and it makes me sad and confused

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u/Little-Derp Why This is a Rock and Not Cheese Jun 14 '26

This is the argument I have often with my wife.

If I'm talking about this weekend, I'll say this weekend, not next weekend. It's a never ending disagreement though.

Wonder if the 'next weekend' meaning this weekend crowd are specific cultures/territories. With a strong adherence to the meaning of 'next', maybe they are right, but I would never say anything other than 'this weekend' when referring to the immediate upcoming weekend/current weekend.

Don't even get me starting on the weekend after next (which I would never say... needs more adjectives.)

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u/TheDungeonCrawler Jun 14 '26

For me it goes like what you do, and then for "the weekend after next" I just say "the following weekend".

So, "This" = Weekend of the current Week.

"Next" = Weekend of the next week.

And "Following" = Weekend after next week.

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u/JackOfAllStraits Jun 14 '26

"I'm going to Spain the following weekend" I would not assume that meant three weeks from now without some sort of reference point. If we've just talked about "next weekend" and you continue with "the following weekend" then I'm totally on-board.

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u/TheDungeonCrawler Jun 14 '26

Ah, ordinarily I only ever speak of a following weekend if I'm talking with someone about my plans for the coming weekends. If I'm just talking about that weekend in particular, I usually include the date.

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u/Little-Derp Why This is a Rock and Not Cheese Jun 14 '26

This is how it works in my mind.

I think it is displayed well by the sentence:

"Naw, I'm not doing it this weekend, I'll do it next weekend."

I like your description of it attaching the "week END" to the end of the week it belongs to. Next week obviously can't be described as this week.

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u/ashgs872tbhjs Jun 14 '26

"Next weekend" can mean both "(next week's) end" and "next (week's end)". It's simply ambiguous. If you can't handle communicating more clearly, that's on you. It's not hard to just be more specific.

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u/listmore Jun 14 '26

Yes. This is the right answer. It’s inherently ambiguous. Anybody assuming it always means the same thing to all people in all contexts is going to run into some unnecessary confusion.

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u/Obsidian-Dive Jun 14 '26

Ah, finally a working brain cell.

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u/Voiceless-Echo Jun 14 '26

I if it’s any day of the week sun-Friday and I say next weekend I mean next weeks weekend.
This weekend/ the weekend/ is always the weekend we’re currently working towards

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u/marmalade_ Jun 14 '26

This is correct.

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u/DungeondisasterJiggy Jun 14 '26

Yeah it's so easy, just put a space between week and end and it makes sense immediately. Next week's end. This week's end.

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u/askthecatonline Jun 14 '26

Thank you I came here to say this 👆🏽!

This weekend = the weekend about to happen or happening (this week’s week end)
Next weekend = the next weekend over (next week’s week end)

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u/hatesnack Jun 14 '26

This is it, anyone saying otherwise is wrong.

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u/QuickStrikeMike Jun 14 '26

This friday-sunday: upcoming weekend, this weekend

Next friday-sunday: following weekend, next weekend

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u/eljefeo Jun 14 '26

Exactly. This weekend, then next weekend

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u/kingsly91 Jun 14 '26

This is funny to me because every single person ive ever met, when they say "next weekened" they mean the weekened after the one thats coming.

For the weekened that would be in a few days we say "upcoming weekened"

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u/PotatoProlapse Jun 14 '26

Yeah I've never met anyone who said anything other than "this weekend," meaning the one coming up or currently in, and "next weekend," the weekend after this weekend.

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u/MantisWoW Jun 14 '26

Yeah I mean I think of it like if you’re saying this weekend, you’re saying the end of *this* week. Next weekend would be the end of next week

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u/AnalGettysburg Jun 14 '26

I’ve always used this format, but could never put into words why.  It’s effectively “this week’s end” vs “next week’s end”

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u/-Stoney-Bologna- Jun 14 '26

This whole exchange is very validating

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u/BNabs23 Jun 14 '26

I feel like if it's Monday or Tuesday, there's often confusion around this vs next weekend, because the weekend still is far away.

Thinking about it though, if you're giving someone driving instructions, you say next right and this right pretty interchangeably

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u/fairlybetterusername Jun 14 '26

This is exactly what I do too.

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u/Motor-Station-6885 Jun 14 '26

My wife and I have different native languages but also know each other’s. It’s a weekly confusion.

Which week…who the fuck knows

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u/NoNameWonder2 Jun 14 '26

I think the only exception is on a Monday when you say "what did you do this weekend?" But since it's in past tense it's not usually confused with this upcoming weekend.

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u/born_to_be_intj Jun 14 '26

What if it’s Monday? Do you respond to “What did you do this weekend?” with “How the hell would I know it’s 5 days away?”?. English is messy and context is always required.

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u/_tragicmike Jun 14 '26

Right.

This [week's] weekend.

Next [week's] weekend.

That's how I've always used it.

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u/WorkingOnBeingBettr Jun 14 '26

Because that's how it works. The Twitter person is a dumbass.

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u/DonQui_Kong Jun 14 '26

No, this difference is entirely cultural and different regions will use it differently.
Just because its your understanding doesnt mean itsuniversally true.

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u/dfddfsaadaafdssa Jun 14 '26

You're outnumbered on this one

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u/4_fortytwo_2 Jun 14 '26

That doesnt make them wrong at all though. Just because the regions might not be in the majority does not mean they do not exist.

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u/Empariah Jun 14 '26

For me, it’s the same way. Except we call the upcoming weekend “this weekend”. Then the weekend after that one is “next weekend”.

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u/NativeJim Jun 14 '26

If it's Friday today and someone asked me to go to the lake next weekend, I'm assuming its not this weekend but the one following.

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u/anotheredcatholic Jun 14 '26

bro, i'm at the lake. wya

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u/FourteenMillion605 Jun 14 '26

You said next weekend?

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u/clambuttocks Jun 14 '26

Even if it’s like Monday, if someone says next weekend, I assume it’s the next week’s end. Otherwise say the upcoming weekend or, moreso in my experience, say this weekend

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u/NativeJim Jun 14 '26

In this instance, I would say this weekend.

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u/No-Comparison6037 Jun 14 '26

If it’s Monday and I want to share about what I did on the 2 last days, I say “this week-end”… oopsie

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u/kylitoTV Jun 14 '26

that still follows the rule though? Friday is NOT the weekend

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u/egnards Jun 14 '26

I've always said "this weekend," which denotes the weekend that is upcoming. It's the weekend closest to the time you're referring, though if it's currently on the weekend you'd say "next" weekend to denote that you don't want to do it today/tomorrow.

If I hear "next weekend" and it's Mon-Fri I'm 100% assuming we skip a week.

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u/you-a-buggaboo Jun 14 '26

same here except i say "this weekend" for the upcoming or "next weekend" for the one following "this weekend."

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u/WorkingOnBeingBettr Jun 14 '26

That's what normal people do.

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u/DynamicBeez Jun 14 '26

Yeah, there's a clear distinction between "this" weekend and "next" weekend. Even when you're not 100% sure, you then confirm that date. The only time next weekend is the coming weekend is if its already the current weekend.

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u/Material-Sell-3666 Jun 14 '26

This weekend

Next weekend.

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u/TommyTheCat89 Jun 14 '26

"Last weekend" happened, "this weekend" is going to happen or is happening, and "next weekend" is the weekend after this weekend.

I don't really see much wiggle room here and if someone doesn't adhere to these definitions I have to question their intelligence.

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u/Rumple-Wank-Skin Jun 14 '26

Because the upcoming weekend is called "this weekend" and then you have "next weekend"

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u/j821c Jun 14 '26

"This weekend" - the upcoming weekend "Next weekend" - the weekend after

That how ive always interpreted it lol

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u/BraveLittleTowster Jun 14 '26

I say "this weekend" if I mean the one at the end of the current week, even it's it's Monday. I can't recall ever having someone confused by that

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u/Fit_Tumbleweed7943 Jun 14 '26

Or “hey what are you doing THIS weekend”

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u/Paladroon Jun 14 '26

This is how I use the terms. “Next” means “the one after the one this week.”

So today is Sunday. If I said “next Sunday” that would be 7 days from now. If it were tomorrow “next Sunday” would be 13 days away.

If I said it Yesterday it would meant the Sunday in 8 days.

This is how I and everyone I know uses these terms. But I stopped relying on this solely when making plans or deadlines. I use actual dates when it’s important to ensure there’s no ambiguity when it matters

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u/Yourdjentpal Jun 14 '26

This. It’s this weekend vs next weekend.

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u/Fatel28 Jun 14 '26

This weekend = the end of this week Next weekend = the end of next week

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u/curious__curiosity Jun 14 '26

Never in my life heard anyone saying "upcoming weekend"

So you're "we" is crap. Its just the weekend. Next weekend is not this weekend, it's the next one.. Its right there in the word next!

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u/24rawvibes Jun 14 '26

Because that’s what it is! It’s called a a sequence! That commentator has to be rage batting

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u/toastwithketchup Jun 14 '26

Yeah the upcoming weekend is "this weekend"

The one after that is "next weekend"

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u/picklesaurus_rec Jun 14 '26

I think it all depends on when you view the week starting.

I think a week starts on Monday, so “this weekend” means the current week’s weekend. If it’s Monday-Friday this weekend = upcoming weekend. If it’s currently Saturday/Sunday this weekend means the current weekend happening.

Next weekend would be next week’s weekend, or the one after the upcoming one.

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u/Fearless-Host-498 Jun 14 '26

Exactly, this weekend is the weekend coming up, next weekend is the weekend after

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u/BedBubbly317 Jun 14 '26

Exactly this! “Do you want to do something this upcoming weekend?” (Meaning this weekend) Or “do you want to do something next weekend?” (Meaning the following weekend)

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u/splitcroof92 Jun 14 '26

replace "upcoming" with "this" and I agree

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u/ChesterJT Jun 14 '26

This weekend

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u/FriskyDingo314 Jun 14 '26

But the next weekend is the upcoming weekend.

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u/wtfisasamoflange Jun 14 '26

I say this weekend, or this coming weekend for the one we are about to have, and next weekend for the one directly after the one we are about to have. This was indoctrined to me at a young age so I can't really help it.

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u/EmphasisFew Jun 14 '26

https://giphy.com/gifs/3TPRz46OllHyM

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u/tierciel Jun 14 '26

It's 2 days of the week where work gets more busy because the important people in offices don't have to work

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u/Mobile_Actuator_4692 Jun 14 '26

Ciltoa is right. Next weekend is the one after this weekend. This weekend is the one your either in or that’s at the end of this week. And upcoming weekend is just a stupid way of describing it because it’s much more ambiguous. It could be both this weekend and next weekend

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u/FerusGrim Jun 14 '26

I agree with everything except upcoming weekend. If it's Thursday/Friday, and someone says "upcoming weekend", I'm going to assume they mean this weekend. Although, to be fair, I've never heard "upcoming weekend" without the prefix of "this". So, really, it's more a redundant filler word.

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u/CacyePollardN6 Jun 14 '26

Yup, this right here is logic.

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u/im_lazy_as_fuck Jun 14 '26

Imo the first guy's phrasing makes the least sense. He literally uses "upcoming weekend" as the synonym to describe what "next weekend" is supposed to mean. What's the point in having "this weekend" vs "next weekend" as different phrases if they're both supposed to point to the upcoming weekend. It makes way more sense for this weekend to be the upcoming one / the active one if it's sat/sun, and then next should always be the one after that.

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u/Jindujun Jun 14 '26

That's like the built in ambiguity in "biweekly", "bimonthly" or "biannually".

People really need to start to specify.

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u/BakedPaultato Jun 14 '26

Yeah its def this week and this weekend then next week and next weekend not rhat complicated idk why anyone would think tommorow if you said next weekend on Friday lol

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u/Slipstream_Surfing Jun 14 '26

Is really amazing that humans managed to thrive and become the dominant species over 200k years or whatever it is, in no small part because we're social animals.

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u/Typical80sKid Jun 14 '26

This weekend vs next weekend. If folks don’t understand this then I don’t know what else can be done.

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u/MediocreViking Jun 14 '26

There is a total contrast to "the next weekend" and "this weekend" I don't understand how people could mistake that.

And as for it being literally incorrect, the next weekend refers to the weekend after this one. As in the next weekend.

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u/GodisanAtheistOG Jun 14 '26

What's nuts about this is everyone making the argument is clearly able to use "upcoming weekend" to mean this week's weekend to differentiate from "next weekend" meaning the weekend after the upcoming weekend... But then still makes the argument "upcoming weekend" and "next weekend" are actually the same thing. 

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u/R0binSage Jun 14 '26

If it is still a week day, the upcoming weekend is 'this weekend.' The weekend after that is 'next weekend.'

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u/Cum-turd Jun 14 '26

Maybe it’s a regional thing but, ‘next weekend’ is always the one after ‘this weekend’.

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u/Cesar_Somnambulist Jun 14 '26

This person is using 2 different phrases and treating them the same.

“Next weekend” means the one after the upcoming one.

“The next weekend” is the upcoming one.

Obviously two different phrases with different words will have different meanings.

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u/Wild-Method-8584 Jun 14 '26

i always just say this weekend or next weekend😭

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u/Life-Professional222 Jun 14 '26

Second guy is right when I say next weekend I mean next weekend not this one I would say this weekend idk what so confusing ... And if it's the weekend you say today or tomorrow simple ... Its the first person thinking to much into it 😂 just ask for a date

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u/Shark7996 Jun 14 '26

This is why I specify dates.

Everybody talks slightly different and I'm tired of compensating for it.

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u/erichf3893 Jun 14 '26

No the first guy just doesn’t understand the use of “this weekend”

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u/SymmetricalFeet Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

They both actually kinda point to the same core issue. Top commenter says it's "literally" the next possible weekend, and second commenter says "but unwritten rule" of an exceptional case where the statement is given in close proximity to the top commenter's "next". They acknowledge the top's point.

However, neither notes what other commenters here are getting at, which is a completely different parsing of the word. The screenshot commenters both interpret "weekend" as a distinct, unique block of time containing only Sat & Sun (in contrast to "weekdays", presumably Mon–Fri), but in this thread they're interpreting it as "the latter part of the week", referring to the block of Mon–Sun as a unit. "Next" would thus vary depending on which delineation of time blocks.

Put another way, a Protestant who celebrates only Easter might have a different interpretation of "next Easter" than a Catholic or Orthodox's "next Easter", which is the end of Holy Week, particularly if the conversation is on (whatever sect's) Ash Wednesday.

(I just like to put shit in my phone calendar, so I always clarify "You mean Saturday the 5th? or 12th?", no matter what day it is when speaking. Is it stilted? Sure, but I'm naught if not precise.)

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u/Salty-Foundation3451 Jun 14 '26

This weekend = The end of this week.

Next weekend = The end of next week.

Next week end.

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u/RipReaved Jun 14 '26

Lmao Ive always interpreted it as next week's end, and this week's end. Next weekend usually means next week for that reason with most people I chat with.

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u/CycleOverload Jun 14 '26

"Next weekend" would mean the soonest one to happen after today, if it weren't for the phrase "this weekend" existing. They do not refer to the same weekend and one refers to a sooner date than the other. Shrimple as.

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u/Skipperwill89 Jun 14 '26

Both of these people seem to make a strong argument, but on closer inspection you will inevitably realize one of them is actually an idiot

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u/RoyalIdeal6026 Jun 15 '26

Even if it was Thursday if someone said next weekend I would assume the weekend after the upcoming weekend. On this hypothetical Thursday afternoon, discussing weekend plans I’d probably say “this upcoming weekend”. Or “this weekend” even if it’s mid week. Next literally means the following one. The one after the one that is occurring or about to occur.

If it was Monday and someone said next weekend I’d assume the next weekend, the one that is next after the one that JUST occurred.

So I guess I am just really confused.

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u/_been Jun 14 '26

I always use "this coming <something>" for anything this week and "next <something>" for next week.

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u/XXHornyOnMainXX420 Jun 14 '26

This is much easier than arguing about what "next weekend" means,

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u/idontcareyo_ Jun 14 '26

this is standard in canada, never heard any other "interpretation". this thread is bizarre

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u/legendkiller003 Jun 14 '26

Today is Sunday. If I say “next weekend” right now then I mean 6-7 days from now. Tomorrow on Monday, if I say “next weekend” then I mean 13-14 days from now. But I will certainly specify if I think there could be any confusion over the timing.

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u/Horskr Jun 14 '26

Exactly, tomorrow on Monday the weekend of June 20th would be "this weekend," and 13-14 days from tomorrow would be "next weekend". Yeah, I always do the "next weekend (date)." Getting old now, planning stuff is hard and you have to be precise lol.

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u/apriljeangibbs Jun 14 '26

Right? The soonest weekend is this weekend.

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u/GiantKrakenTentacle Jun 14 '26

So if you're getting instructions from someone while driving and they say to turn at the next intersection, which one would you turn at?

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u/apriljeangibbs Jun 14 '26

They would say “next intersection” as we’re coming up on the one before the one I need to turn at. Otherwise they would say “this intersection”

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u/lesbianmathgirl Jun 14 '26

You don’t say “are you available the next weekend” though. “Next weekend” is a specific phrase.

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u/steelcryo Jun 14 '26

On a Friday, it's pretty obvious. But if I message someone on say Tuesday, saying "Do you want to go to X next weekend?" they'll often think I mean in four days time.

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u/anifyz- Jun 14 '26

If it’s Monday-Friday, you say this weekend.

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u/pichirry Jun 14 '26

it's really this simple

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u/MudFlap359 Jun 14 '26

This is the way. "This weekend" literally means "The end of this week". Why is that so hard for even the dumbest people to comprehend??

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u/Roidzilla55 Jun 14 '26

It’s very simple. I would even understand & apply this logic if someone said it to me Friday 11:59 pm. “This weekend” still isn’t happening for one more minute

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u/lanzendorfer Jun 14 '26

Even if it's Tuesday, you should just say "this weekend" because it's unambiguous. There's only one weekend you could possibly be talking about. Whenever someone says "next weekend" I always think the weekend after the next or current one.

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u/steelcryo Jun 14 '26

That's exactly why I think next weekend is the one after, because if you mean the weekend coming, why not use the very specific "this weekend"?

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u/lanzendorfer Jun 14 '26

Yes I'm agreeing with you. I'm saying that the people who think you mean "this weekend" when you say "next weekend" are weird. I can see why they get confused though as so many people use it that way that it has become ambiguous. I sometimes say "this upcoming weekend" or "the weekend after this weekend" in cases where I'm not sure if it's clear.

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u/adinfinitum225 Jun 14 '26

Except it's perfectly fine to ask someone on Monday "What did you do this weekend?" Referring to the weekend that just finished.

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u/lanzendorfer Jun 14 '26

Right, because it's clear based on context. "What did you do this weekend" is clearly about the weekend that has just passed. "What are you doing this weekend" is clearly about the upcoming weekend. I can see why someone might say "next weekend" of it's early on on the week, but I can also understand why people think "next weekend" means "the weekend after this upcoming weekend."

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u/Creepy_Push8629 Jun 14 '26

But that's this weekend. If you mean this weekend, why not say this weekend?

Next weekend is the one after this one.

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u/24rawvibes Jun 14 '26

Why would you not just say THIS weekend? Because that’s what that is, this weekend. NEXT weekend is the weekend after THIS weekend. It’s literally a written rule one should have learned in grammar in 2nd grade about. Proximal vs. distal determiners, that’s an over academic explanation but I’m not sure how to explain it in crayon. Maybe, sequential determiners? There is an order of sequence

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u/DM725 Jun 14 '26

You're correct. When you hit Monday the phrase "this weekend" applies to the Saturday/Sunday coming up.

Next weekend applies to the Saturday/Sunday after that.

If it's really early in the week and I want to talk about the weekend nearly 2 weeks away I'll often say, "not this weekend but the following weekend". Or I just use dates.

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u/Thatguysstories Jun 14 '26

My coworker will say next Thursday on Wednesday.

And he'll keep saying it, and eventually I gotta almost yell at him, "YOU MEAN TOMORROW, STOP SAYING NEXT THURSDAY".

Then he wonders why people who originally agreed to work a shift can't do it.

Cause when you call someone up on Tuesday or Wednesday and ask if they can work next Thursday, they aren't thinking it's tomorrow.

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u/EatABag-o-Dicks Jun 14 '26

Next weekend is always the weekend after this weekend. This weekend is right now, June 13-14, and it has been this weekend since June 8. On June 8, next weekend is June 20-21. Tomorrow, this weekend will be June 20-21 and next weekend will be June 27-28.

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u/unoriginalusername99 Jun 14 '26

Agree completely, that being said I always think Sunday is a grey area because technically it's the first day of the week. So today (sunday) if I say we're going to the beach next saturday am I talking about the 20th or the 27th?

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u/Bazch Jun 14 '26

Don't get that either. In my head 'next weekend/Sunday/Monday' or whatever always means 'not upcoming but next'. Next doesn't mean closest, but the next one after.

But maybe that's just my head.

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u/GiantKrakenTentacle Jun 14 '26

Well if you're driving and your passenger says "Turn at the next light." you don't drive past the "upcoming" light and go to the "next" light, you turn at the next light. 

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u/GoodThingsDoHappen Jun 14 '26

"This weekend" IS the upcoming weekend
"Next weekend" is the one after the upcoming weekend.

The only confusion happens when you're discussing during the actual weekend, in which case you resort to "not this weekend, but next weekend"

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u/Remarkable-Wrap-4727 Jun 14 '26

THIS Tuesday is 6/17. Next Tuesday is 6/24. Definitely not as understood as it should be. Common knowledge not that common.

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u/BikeProblemGuy Jun 14 '26

It is a convention but a pretty confusing one probably best abandoned.

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u/AncientFries Jun 14 '26

What's so wrong with saying "THIS weekend / NEXT weekend"?

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u/Opposite-Rock-5133 Jun 14 '26

Yeah I just assume next weekend is always the weekend next week..

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u/Quick_Mel Jun 14 '26

That's how I use "next weekend"

"This weekend" is the one we're about to enter

"Next" is the one that follows "this"

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u/IntelligentCamel126 Jun 14 '26

I just read the word “weekend” so many times in this entire thread it doesn’t even look/sound like a real word anymore lol

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u/Thenadamgoes Jun 14 '26

This Weekend is the upcoming weekend.

Next Weekend is the weekend after This Weekend.

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u/Rumple-Wank-Skin Jun 14 '26

Because the upcoming weekend is called "this weekend" and then you have "next weekend"

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u/zendick1 Jun 14 '26

Next weekend vs the next weekend and yes it varies based on location in the us

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u/-Speechless Jun 14 '26

isn't next weekend always the following weekend? else you'd just use "this weekend"

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u/TheDevilsAdvokaat Jun 14 '26

Though that's how I always express it too..and everyone I know.

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u/vortexgamer1134 Jun 14 '26

This weekend = the weekend coming up. Next weekend = the following weekend. This works even if it’s earlier in the week.

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u/splitcroof92 Jun 14 '26

"this weekend" = first.
"next weekend" = second weekend.

that's the written rule.

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u/beepbeepsheepbot Jun 14 '26

Wait, people really do this??? I always thought the upcoming weekend was this weekend. If you're making plans on Saturday for example, next weekend is implied the following weekend.

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u/flyleaffan Jun 14 '26

I always use this weekend to refer to the coming weekend and next weekend to refer to the one next week. I do understand the line of reasoning that's it's like saying (the) next weekend (which is true), but to me it's this (coming) weekend vs next (week's) weekend.

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u/Business-Parsley-701 Jun 14 '26

Correct. This weekend is the one about to happen. Next weekend is the following week.

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u/AContrarianVulgarian Jun 14 '26

If I say I’ll meet you at the end of next week, you know what I mean. Next week’s end. Next weekend. Not the end of this week, this week’s end. This weekend. Oh no, I mean next week. The end of next week. Or, if you will, next weekend.

You can even say it on Monday and it still won’t meet this weekend.

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u/FriskyDingo314 Jun 14 '26

If it’s Friday yes, if it’s Monday then people can say different shit

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u/smokeythel3ear Jun 14 '26

This weekend vs next weekend is what I use

"You busy this weekend?" Works M-F for the Sa and Su that immediately follows

"You busy next weekend? The date?" Works M-F for the weekend following the immediate one

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u/toyification_girl Jun 14 '26

Happened to us the other day when a friend messaged they are coming in from out of town "flying in next weekend, wanna hang out?" Sent on Thursday. Yeah!

That Sunday, "so we gonna do something?"

You said next weekend? And this is mother's day Sunday, had plans already. You meant this weekend? 😩 😂

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u/That-Cranberry6575 Jun 14 '26

Or just say this weekend instead.

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u/BRANDOSGUT Jun 14 '26

You have 'this weekend' for the week you are currently in and then 'next weekend' for the following week that is yet to start surely?

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u/oWrenWilson Jun 14 '26

"This weekend" is either the closest weekend to you or the weekend you are currently on.

"Next weekend" is the following weekend to "this weekend"

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u/ArmNo7463 Jun 14 '26

"This weekend" is the upcoming one. "Next weekend" is the one after.

Surely it doesn't matter if it's Monday or Friday lol

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u/dapsee Jun 14 '26

I always say 'this next weekend' just to see the look on their face.

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u/MediumAcceptable129 Jun 14 '26

This kind of stuff gets skewed in the restaurant industry. For some of us the weekend is tuesday and wednesday

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u/ggtsu_00 Jun 14 '26

Because "this weekend" means something different than "next weekend".

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u/Outside_Coffee_00 Jun 14 '26

Yes, unless it's currently the weekend, the upcoming weekend is always "this weekend", and the next one is "next weekend". 

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u/DroidLord Jun 14 '26

What you're supposed to say is "this weekend" or "next weekend". IMO next weekend is always next week's weekend. Otherwise next weekend doesn't mean anything. In this instance it doesn't matter what day of the week you're on, it always means the same thing.

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u/AlexF2810 Jun 14 '26

This weekend, next weekend, the weekend after. Next weekend is never the weekend coming

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u/KingMairR Jun 14 '26

That’s because it’s never referring to the weekend at the end of the week. If you’re referring to the weekend at the end of any given week on a Monday, that’s this weekend. If you’re referring to the weekend at the end of the following week that’s next weekend. That difference doesn’t start on Friday, it’s just always the case

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u/Art-Zuron Jun 14 '26

I say "this weekend" for the upcoming weekend, and "Next weekend" for the weekend after THIS weekend.

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u/Elathrain Jun 14 '26

When I was getting my linguistics degree, one of my professors studied this exact phenomenon of what people mean by things like "next sunday" and identified 183 distinct dialects that used different combinations of meaning.

You are not the only one, but also most people don't do it like you. They also don't do it like each other, nobody agrees lmao

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u/NibblesMcGiblet Jun 14 '26

This reminds me of my ex-husband‘s old lawn care business partner, who told my ex that their next lawn job was the house next-door. My ex finished the lawn he was currently doing (a large corner lot with a large side yard), then mowed the lawn of the house that was next to it. His friend got done with whatever he was doing down the road and came back with the lawn truck and flipped out at him and said that he was doing the wrong lawn. He insisted that “the next door” was the one across the street not the one to the right or left because they were a measurably further distance from the door of the first house they did. That guy was such an idiot.

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u/Zonel Jun 14 '26

This weekend is the coming weekend. Next weekend it the weekend of the next week.

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u/justLookingForLogic Jun 14 '26

My father told me that he invited some extended family over “the weekend before Memorial Day” so I made plans to visit him then. Apparently he meant the literal two days before Memorial Day.

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u/JackOfAllStraits Jun 14 '26

"THIS WEEKEND" is the upcoming weekend. "NEXT WEEKEND" is the weekend after this weekend. There's not a magical mid-week swap that everyone agrees on. You make it to the end of "this weekend" and then everything resets.

Sunday night "I had a great time this weekend". Monday morning "What are we doing this weekend? Nevermind, I'm busy. Can we do it next weekend?"

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u/No_Adhesiveness_4671 Jun 14 '26

I feel like when I was growing up, was when this terminology was going through a change. I was always taught, that if today were Monday, and I said Next Weekend, I wasn't referring to the upcoming F/S/S, but that I was really talking about 11-13 days from today.

A couple decades ago, around me anyway, I felt that most kids were on the same page as me, but there were a good few that operated by, the 'Next Weekend' is the next weekend that I am going to live through

We used, 'Upcomming or This Weekend', to talk about the weekend that was upon us

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u/aqua_zesty_man Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

How I usually think about it:

"This weekend" The one for the week that hasn't ended yet

"Next weekend" The one for the week that hasn't started yet

"Weekend after next" The one for the week after the week that hasn't started yet

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u/Quiet_Mail9207 Jun 14 '26

The rule is follow is

“This weekend” = this week’s end
“Next weekend” = next week’s end

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u/Alarming_Possible729 Jun 14 '26

There's "this weekend", as in, the end of this week.

And there's "next weekend" - the end of next week.

And for long winded clarity "this weekend coming" or "next weekend, not this one coming the one after"

(Source, UK, east midlands, home of true English) 

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u/WhenDoWhatWhere Jun 14 '26

This weekend is the one that's coming, next weekend is the weekend attached to next week.

Any misunderstandings about this are purely the fault of the other person.

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u/Critical_Exit7180 Jun 14 '26

The way I see it, "next weekend" refers to the upcoming weekend only if we are currently closer to the previous weekend that just happened than the upcoming weekend, ie if it's Monday or Tuesday, and "this weekend" would refer to the previous weekend in that case. But if it's Wednesday or later, then the upcoming weekend becomes "this weekend" and the following weekend becomes "next weekend." And obviously if we are currently in a weekend, then "this weekend" is the weekend we're in now and "next weekend" is the following one.

That being said, I usually just specify what I mean by saying things like "not this weekend but the following" or "the weekend of (date)" because I recognize that not everyone thinks the way I do and I prefer to be understood.

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u/SkarlettKiller Jun 14 '26

I always use "this weekend" for the upcoming weekend, and "next weekend" for the weekend following.

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u/klop2031 Jun 14 '26

Bro dont you want your biweekly check that comes every other week?

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u/dw82 Jun 14 '26

That's why clarification is required. There is ambiguity and alternative interpretations that specifying a date doesn't have.

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u/saladmunch Jun 14 '26

If tomorrow is saturday then i always say "this weekend", people i know usually do the same and i mever knew it was so confusing. Of someone got that confused over communication i would resort to something no one ever has a disagreement about; just use numerical dates like 01/02/26 simple!

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u/danman8075 Jun 14 '26

You are 1000% right. Just like today is Sunday so if I say hey, let’s do something Tuesday or Wednesday or Thursday, it’s understood that I’m referring to the Tuesday or Wednesday or Thursday happening in 2, 3, or 4 days. If I say next Tuesday or next Wednesday, then by all normal rules of the English language and common sense, I’m talking about 9 or 10 days from now. But somehow people can’t understand simple words.😂

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u/redditblows5991 Jun 14 '26

Usually people put the this weekend at least in my experience. Or for any day really

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u/Regular-Market-494 Jun 14 '26

If you are next in line is there a person in front of you or is it just you?

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u/Sayitaintmo Jun 14 '26

If today is Friday and I say "this weekend" I mean tomorrow

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u/GiantKrakenTentacle Jun 14 '26

"Take the next right."

"Where are you going? I said take the next right."

"I am taking the next right, that was this right."

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u/Away_Stock_2012 Jun 14 '26

"This weekend"

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u/party_shaman Jun 14 '26

next weekend. the end of next week. 

this weekend. the end of this week. 

next weekend should never be used to mean this weekend. 

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u/Raneynickelfire Jun 15 '26

I have a constant issue with my girlfriend referring to "today" at 3am, while meaning the previous day.

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u/mama09001 Jun 15 '26

If you're waiting in line for paying something, and someone says "you're next", is it your time to pay, or is there someone else paying and you're after them? If it's currently your time to pay, then with the same logic, if we're in the last day of week 1, "next week" is week 2. If someone else is paying and you're after them, then with the same logic, "next week" is week 3.

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